7 Things Men Do That Make Them Less Attractive (According To Science)
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Hi Courtney! Enjoy your channel. What happened to your channel with your husband? I haven’t seen any new fragrance reviews.
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1. To late. I can not change myself, i am what i am.
2. Ok, i am relativey clean but i can be beeter in that sence.
3. I am what i am.
4. i am not lazzy
5. My dressing describes me as a person. I do not want change anything.
6. Too late. i do not sleep during night, my face looks tired alredy by default, i can not fix it, only surgeon.
7. Your body language is part of your personality, you can not be what you not are. I will continue to be what i am. I like to cross hands, i often use body position described by your Courtney.
8. I can not laugh when i want, i am not good in laughing at all.
BY YOU, not BY YOUR COURTNEY, sorry, my english is awful.
💓Amanda Tracey Jimmy Michael Trevor Frank & Lamar Luv You Guys!💞 Make It FUN!! OR THE MEMORIES WONT BE!!! 🙋♂️
My wife says men who belittle other men to get a woman's attention are disgusting to her. If you have no charisma making fun of others is not a substitute.
Taller men making fun of my short height has always helped them even more with women and hampered my (already limited) chances your wife might be an exception but plenty of women quite like men who take advantage of other men however they can.
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 Taller men making fun of you is more to undermine your confidence than to make themselves attractive to women. Nobody likes bullies. The skillful bullies keep their bullying behind the scene.
You got a good wife
She’s correct. It makes them look bad
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 They don't mind it when it really comes from a place of superiority. They just dislike when it sounds like a desperate attempt to bring em down.
For point 3, build up strong male friendships that you can be real with. It’s not good to bottle everything up forever, and this way you have a healthy outlet that won’t dump you over weakness
I know this but how does one do this? It’s challenging to make male friends in your 30s
I started trying to make friends in my thirties, 46 and so far none.
@@francisngo Do you have a passion? Something you like to do and/or talk about? If not then it might be a good time to find something you can dwell into.
Once that is taken care of then expose yourself to people. Get out of the house, get around, talk to people. Don't worry about being awkward because that is what you will focus on, turning it into a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can make mistakes, and take Courtney's advice and learn to laugh at yourself. It is liberating.
If you are not comfortable physically going to places then you can start online. Find chatrooms, forums, anything about the topic of interest, and get into the conversation. Just remeber: Be Nice! No one respects an asshole so don't be one. Even if someone else is like that towards you, you don't have to be. People don't like to be put down so find ways to approach things from a positive perspective.
I'll add a reference to another CZcams channel here: In addition to Courtney's videos check out Charisma University. Those guys make very good points on how to build your charisma.
In order to maintain friendships remember not to get clingy. This is very important! People have their own lives, too.
@@astraghost774 Well, one thing you could do right now, for starters, is to replace that profile picture of yours..? Using a deformed melting screaming face as your picture is rather repulsive if you ask me. In general, that is also something Courtney puts a lot of mind share into: General hygiene and grooming habits. I strongly recommend listening to her on this topic.
Definitely work in the personal appearance if you haven't already. Look and smell well put together - All. The. Time. Put on well fitting clothes, be well groomed, and god damn it if you can put on a well fitting decent quality suit. People WILL treat you differently in a positive way if you just look sharp and well put together. Then for the super hack? Hit the gym. Work on your fitness even if it's at home. Slim down, and bulk up your upper body. Just doing those few things will attract people towards you in a positive way, because you will just radiate that confidence and sense of fulfillment that people just can't resist not being attracted to.
For women:
1. Eliminate use of fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake hair, and fake lips. And keep makeup use light
2. Take care of your body. Don’t overeat and exercise at least a couple times a week if you don’t have an active lifestyle
3. Talk normally. Don’t talk in a high pitched/ squeaky voice to try and sound cute, stop using “literally” and “like” all the time, and don’t talk in a sassy/bossy tone
4. Limit social media use and stop posting thirst trap pictures on them for attention
5. Have some sort of passion or hobby that doesn’t include screen time.
6. Show you have interest in a guy by holding eye contact, smiling, or flirting to signal that you want him to ask you out. A woman doesn’t need much “game,” but many avoid these things and simply hope a man will just approach without any signal that you’re interested
7. Be caring, nurturing, kind and have some sort of ability in a woman’s traditional role. It’s not that men want a woman to be his mother; he wants a woman with motherly qualities for future children.
Perfectly stated!
Yup they only want all the traditional attributes of a dude but never bring the same effort to the table lmao.
Damn, these normal standards modern women are not able to meet I'm afraid, it's impossible.
Well I wouldn’t say eliminate the use of fake nails. There are a few acrylic nails that actually look good… as for the other stuff, yeah.
This is equally useful. Youre right women don't have to do anythnig to get guys but there are certain 'types' and 'quality' of women that some men distinguish and yeh, good comments. Also add please don't be misandrist. So many women are nowadays and its really offputting.
Women I dated in the past would compare me to ex-boyfriends and usually how they did things better. So irritating. Also, if something is wrong, please tell me. Don't just say "fine" while the behaviour says I did something wrong.
Lol, women communicate? They don't have to, they can just throw away their boyfriend and get a new one.
@@jameslebeau7078 thankfully, my wife isn’t like this. She will tell me if something is wrong and help me when I need it. I am blessed.
Women have compared you negatively to their exes? Jeez, i’ve dated some... interesting girls and i don’t think a single one of them did that once.
@@williamlanger9229 Hi, William X. I think that is sarcasm. But it is not clear. Sadly, text is very bad at conveying sarcasm. If this is sarcasm, you need to make it more clear. On the off chance this is NOT sarcasm, I direct you to the concept of the "alpha widow." If you have not encountered and alpha widow, you are a lottery winner. Seriously, they are everywhere. But I *think* you are being sarcastic.
If someone shows some form of resistance to your behaviour, that does not automatically translate to "you did something wrong". Their views and evaluation might also be wrong.
For example, they could be dysfunctional, overly critical or perfectionistic, traumatized, or just prefer something different.
Guys, we need to stop jumping from "this person is showing resistance to my behaviour" to "i'm bad".
Love yourself first and start by being suspicious of the person giving negative feedback.
This will lead to a much healthier and more confident mindset.
As a man, one of the most attractive things any one can do is having a strong sense of individuality. Truly being yourself as a person, rather than going along with the crowd as a people pleaser, shows other people that you are genuine. You are who, and what, you say you are. Sadly education and social media promote so much of a sense of collectivism, which shames individuality. Just be yourself, and be proud of who, and what, you are as an individual person. Always be the best version of yourself though. People love strength through individual conviction.
That was great.
Good advice!
Corection. Be the best version of yourself. Don't settle to be yourself if that makes you toxic. Instead, respect your values and improve what you are doing wrong.
@@bogdanchiric241 However, do not use feminist "measures" to assess whether you are behaving in an appropriate way for a male.
Absolutely best comment on here
I'm one of those guys who doesn't care whether girls find them attractive or not! I believe we are born to live our lives in accordance with what we want to do and achieve, and not to be concerning ourselves whether other people find us attractive or not.
Some girls just aren't that funny, especially the Millennials and Gen Z.
True, We shouldn't force ourselves to be what women want to see. I think I am a pretty good catch and I am pretty happy with myself but I am not super ambitious or outgoing or assertive and women don't like me for it but I would be much more miserable forcing myself to be something I'm not for love than to live life without finding love even though falling in love was always my biggest dream in life.
@@Justsomenerd69 yeah I make minimum wage I have a car a PS4 and happy as anyone can be. Don't live your life for other people's opinions or expectations of you because it really doesn't matter what they think. It only matters what you think.
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I wholeheartedly agree. I don't care to change myself to accommodate anyone.
Being passive is an important life skill when it comes to things that don't matter to you and saves energy for being active on things that are important. It's not possible to exclude all things that don't matter from your life, so some passiveness is actually vital to navigate modern life without losing focus of the bigger picture.
Laziness is not good, but relaxation is. Relaxed, controlled energy is the most productive one.
I'm a passive guy and get plenty of attention from women. I am assertive, but the problem is: no one responds to assertiveness. People don't even notice assertiveness, but they do respond to aggression. If a woman wants an aggressive guy, that's her issue, not mine.
I agree. I think a better way to phrase it from Courtney would have been you have to show passion, about somethings, sometimes. If it was a binary choice between being passive or assertive by default, I'd choose passive. Makes for a much easier to navigate existence, and you're not irritating people half of the time either. But the problem can be you're also not interesting them either. So you're right, just throttle up the energy when it's necessary. The rest of the time, you can kick back
@@PaperRaines I think in order to be interesting you have to be interested in others.
@@wagenna I think if it were that easy, videos like this wouldn't be as needed. To be interesting you have to be interesting, and that's not easy for everyone. Some more than others. But one of the points I was making is you can be uninteresting as a byproduct of being passive too often. Energy behind your thoughts and actions really lends itself to interest from others
Of course I'm making generalities, everything will come down to the person and the situation
Indolence between two consenting adults who love each other can be a beautiful thing.
Mrs Courtney giving advice for us men and we still don’t plan on dating 😂 I save so much more money
exactly,at least not in the states for that matter
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I don't think she is married yet.
guys will still loose half their shit after divorce , guys stay single
@@MikeyP109 she is
Omg Courtney, thank you for this checklist, the timing of it is crazy in terms of how literally everything you mentioned here is so relevant to me especially today! I could get into describing just how relevant but this would be way too long😆
Grateful for you sharing: not only cause it's informative and useful, but also cause being in touch with your mindset admires me, remembering who are those people i want to live and work for everyday. I know a hundred people like that, but they're not millions. It has a great value for me, so thank you again for being you and sharing.
Negativity is a huge one for me. Both for myself and those I hang around. If you have time for negativity you have time to windup and knock whatever it is out of the park. It'll likely be less exhausting than being negative anyway.
For me I think being funny is the hardest thing. It middles with personality and how I am raised to be. It also contradicts "be yourself, show your authentic self", because if the authentic self is not a funny self you cant do both. I guess there is talent and there is effort. It's hard to have it all together.
Anything can be made funny. Just lighten up and don't take things so seriously and let go, I am not super attractive by any means, but my ability to make women laugh without even trying makes them gravitate towards me. Don't be afraid to make fun of your with light humor. But never make fun of others to the woman you like. Make up a funny story to a woman and eventually tell her you were joking!
@@mr.mayhem6755 thanks. Good advice. I never thought of "taking things lightly" would help being funnier in general.
Since I stepped away from any forms of dating or relationships around 7 years ago (and approaching 46 soon), I really don’t care what is unattractive to women anymore.
Hell yeah 🎉
And WTF are you watching this video??
Then, WHY you're here istening to Courtney's videos and making comment???
I agree with this and most of your videos. So, I don't have or ever had the issues you described. The main reason why I lose relationships is because I was born with only a partial working kidney. So, something I couldn't or have been able to get in control. There are amazing women and men out there who were born with things they can't necessarily fix. We get passed up for a guy with a perfect body, money, and success in life. So, I'm successful in the music industry, I'm a self-motivated person who became a musician, Audio Engineer, and Music Producer. Do I make a ton of money, no but I can do more than the average guy does, like survive, especially things I should have died from. I've learned compassion and kindness because of what challenges I was given and the way I was born. See them for who they are, not what the world wants. My wife and I are best friends and we provide for each other, as we are equal partners. Maybe do a video related to people who may necessarily have what the world has, but possess traits that extend beyond what is normal for a man to have, like feelings, emotions, life experiences, and not giving up in the face of adversity. I appreciate you and your insights, but I think adding a few more layers to your for or against me, might be helpful to those who were not necessarily given the life everyone has and has to deal with it and see it differently. I'm an advocate for people with disabilities and spend my free time giving back to those less unfortunate.
I do get lack of sleep during working week, most of time i stay up till 1am -1.30am watching tv series, sometime play my video games, but sometime I get tired at work but I wont let my negative moodiness take over, it wont work on me.... i just stay positive with good attitude and stay calm. it not that hard. I've watched few of your videos, nice one Courtney. keep it up.
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your videos are very helpful and informative. I took some advice, and they all made sense and worked perfectly! Thank you!
1 Don't be passive. Be decisive and purposeful.
2 Take a shower, put on deodorant, shave that scruff, floss and scrape your tongue before you brush your teeth. Stop looking like a slob!
3 Lose that pissy attitude. NO ONE will want to be around you!
4 Stop being lazy. Set goals, make a plan, and take the actions needed to accomplish those goals. Create the life YOU wish to live.
4.1 Stop dressing like you are going out to mow the lawn. Put effort in your appearance EVERY time you leave the house.
5 Take care of your heath. Get good sleep, hit the gym, be active.
6 Body language. Carry yourself well. Look people in the eye when you speak to them. If you wear sunglasses, take them off when you first talk to someone to show them you are open to them and show them your confidence.
7 Learn to laugh at yourself and make others laugh with good humor.
Last but not least: BE FEARLESS!
NO. Be single and be yourself.
God bless you, she rambles wayyyyy to fucking much!
I don't exist for the amusement of women. Second, even if I did all these things, what does it get me? Someone like you? Pass.
What a hero - "like" earned.
@@MindaugasSnegirevas Haram
Brethren, it's time to turn ourselves into a winning franchise! Courtney Ryan thanks for blessing men with the wisdom to be better versions of themselves. You are on the right path. I love the way you consider all points of view and still remain respectful to both party's! I believe you get to the root cause of the issues; compared to other streamers on relationship topics. 😊 Your gonna go far kid!
Thanks for the tips. I'm going to start doing all of these immediately!
Important things as well: 1:02 First thing - Being passive; 2:30 Second thing - Poor hygiene; 5:02 Third thing - Being negative / Bad attitude; 6:31 Fourth thing - Laziness; 7:32 Fifth thing - Lack of sleep; 9:02 Sixth thing - Contractive body language; 10:03 Seventh thing - Having no sense of humor; and 10:49 to summarize all the told here as well.
Well Courtney, just like you have told, some of these told things also goes not just for men, but it also goes for women, and I agree with you.
I might add few other things that I have found less attractive in either men, and women as well. I know that some of these things I have mentioned in one of your videos as well. And those are:
8. A lack of self-confidence (that goes for either men, and women), or pretending to have that fake self-confidence;
9. Showing an angry face when you want to meet a person (I remember long time ago one guy told me that I have to show an angry face when I want to meet a girl. And I was like thinking to myself this: What are you talking about? What's wrong with you? etc);
10. When you ask on the first date about the gift cards, or credit cards data's etc.
If you are asking me, I'm willing to hear as many parts of the videos as needed. Why? Because that's so true what do you say Courtney.
Am I right? No, I'm left, and you are right (I'm joking of course) 😉😊😊😊😁😁😁😁😁🙃🙂.
Thank you very much Courtney.
You left out 990 other things.
How does #8 manifest in the real world?
@@warfossil Well, yes I have.
I can hear you as well.
Constructive criticism is always welcome.
@@marsjokes It manifest, cause some people can see who is behaving honest, and who is pretending to be the person that has lack of honesty as well (in that case lack of self-confidence).
Believe it or not, someone will eventually see it (no matter how good, or bad do you think is this).
Isn't #10 just describing the Nigerian Prince who has a lot of money for me, I just have to give him all that data?
All very good points. Thanks Courtney.
Hi Courtney, thank you for your video I think all your points are valid thank you for sharing and helping us guys
Maybe the most unattractive quality in both men AND women is obsessively talking about THEMSELVES and showing no interest whatsoever in anything YOU have to say. Some people are so bad that the INSTANT you start talking their attention shifts to their watch, their phone, their drink, etc. and don't react or ask questions about ANYTHING you're talking about. You can tell they're just waiting for you to finish talking so they can continue talking about THEIR OWN activities and problems.
Yes indeed!! No matter how attractive a woman may be, if she only wants to talk about herself it's a huge turn off.
Yeah, people are rude and then you got what i call ' overtalkers" they cut you off at end sentence and over talk you. Or when it's their time to talk they totally switch the convo onto another topic while you were just making a point about another topic.
@@jasonsanders8091 Goes for men or women
@@jackwalker1822 Agreed
YESSSSS!! And how beautiful it is when they actually remember what you told them after a while.
I want to thank you for this video because I tend to be the person that is negative pretty often, something that I definitely need to work on.
Learn gratitude. Genuine gratitude, not the self-effacing kind. Gratitude is the antidote to a perpetual bad attitude
Trust me..... _I_ would know
I absolutely love her eyes.... They seem so kind
I think men should start prioritizing health more than what is traditionally taught. Like don't be afraid to go to the doctor or hold in health concerns. I always recommend to any guy to get a check up once a year with a physician.
F that - doctors are EXPENSIVE. I only go when I'm unable to self-diagnose and treat my condition myself. The internet is extremely helpful with that.
I DO want to get a device for checking my own blood pressure, though and maybe checking my own prostate, since they could alert me to problems that aren't yet causing symptoms.
@@nathan2813 If you don't want to pay for health insurance and you travel, just do it overseas, the cost will be minimal
@@nathan2813 most definitely agree
@@nathan2813 that’s one of the most crazy comments I’ve ever seen. It may cost but it’s in the long term super cheap.
You forgot those dreams, when a woman starts to ignore you, because she make things up in her mind about you.
I have two things women do that make them less attractive to me. Firstly when i'm out and about in everyday life i see women and even though i have no interest in the majority when they see me and i look at them they TURN THEIR NOSES UP as if to say DON'T BOTHER LOOKING AT ME BECAUSE I'M WAY ABOVE YOU. Then you have the gorgeous looking women who are not above the age of about 26 and have 2 or 3 small kids round their arse given to them usually by some total womaniser who at the beginning they thought was a better bet than us normal good guys because of his looks. Most women should come down off their high platform that social media has led them to believe they have and look around for us great normal guys who would be ghreat for them... Can't see that happening anytime soon though.
Dude, get real: women only like nice guys when there's no other option around anymore (usually after a few pregnancies, used her best years for either Chad or a career and their looks have faded).
@@DonovanAenslaed Totally agree nice guys are always last in the pecking order.
Excessively abusive / aggresive behaviour and / attitude in general is another thing which not only frightens but also puts off any woman totally ...... Yes, another thing being unnecessarily secretive even regarding daily routine matters, lack of openness, lack of generosity in accepting the opposite person ..... Anyways, nice video Courtney Ryan ..... 🎉🎉🎉❤❤🎉🎉.
And yet "bad boys", "tough guys", emotionally distant "mysterious strangers", notorious players, and even actual thugs attract women like light does moths. So obviously such men aren't too off-putting.
@@iancavon7125 Depends man, tbh many do prefer that. But those types of women come with baggage and issues. Sure the sex is nice and the phsyical contact. But if you're a guy like me and your looking for something decent/serious its only gonna damage you.
Even the bad boys have issues with these women, most bad boys have days off, days where they fuck up or get weak guess what happens to sugar baby shortly after this happens.. YEAH they bail. I know first hand, dating mostly these women has made me jaded towards women. So do yourself a favor bro be happy they dont want good men.
Wrong! Women love dominant and assertive males. It's in their nature.
Yet all i see is bad boys, thugs and convicts getting all the women around me. Women will always love the bad boys don't listen to their words see their actions
I can see why andrew tate said that women are like property... Men have to make her laugh, have money, make her feel safe, make the decisions and lead her, have confidence so that she also feels confident. All of these things will make her feel good. And they want all these things usually because they don't have them themselves. Basically men have to work and toil and do all the dirty work while women wait at the finish line
Women were the first domesticated animal
This is a good list. I would add two other things: 1) a man who is only living for himself, and 2) a man who cannot take constructive criticism - even on the internet
2:31 Jesus Courtney, you are a treasure... I'm going to take a shower... these weeks go by so fast.
Haven't seen the classic green cardigan for a while. Throwback!
Thanks for the video Courtney! You mentioned at the very end for the guys commission any qualities that we might not like in women. One thing that came to my mind recently this week what is the difference between sassy humor and sassy personalities. I think sassy personalities are a huge turn off but I don’t mind if a girl is sassy from time to time just as a personal quirk or something like that. What do you think about that?
Yep, I do admit that I'm not immune to the Lazy Bug. (shivers) But that's a process for me to be passive about something and etc.
Great Advice Courtney Ryan is simply the best ❤️🥰
Great video, Courtney. I really stress that everybody stays original. Adding all these fake implants and additions don't make anybody attractive for a life's companion or spouse.
Hi Courtney I’ve followed your content it’s helped me out a ton I was wondering have you any tips for someone who is a combat sport athlete trying to increase online conversation skills as I am training all the time. This would be appreciated thanks
Would love to see a video or dating for non-conventional looking/mainstream men. For example does the style tips apply to a black guy with twists or someone that doesn’t work in an office?
saying women are looking for someone successful is a HUGE understatement.. women are looking for someone better than then, not just successful, BETTER.. and men are waking up. Do not date down men, they will suck everything out of your successful, amazing life. That's why they want you, to take what you have.
I really wish I didn't have to be so serious or complainy, but I can't help it, okay? That's just how I am sometimes.
Sometimes, being positive all the time is never that easy.
I wish I can have a sense of humor, but I really suck at making jokes and I can be quite sensitive at times.
Don't complain to people if you do it too much you'll be annoying. Write it down
These are all things you must work on bro. No excuses, only action
@@JorgeBone86 that is horrible advice 😭
You sound dull and un-fun to be around. Lighten up and enjoy the fleeting pleasure of life.
It shouldn't be hard at all to find a woman just like you. You don't have to be positive "all the time". But you must avoid being negative all the time.
There is nothing in your comment that you cannot improve. The first 2 are just states of mind. Make up your mind to change them. Stop being too serious or complainy, FOCUS on being more positive. Determined effort.
Humor may take longer. Using humor as a novice can be risky (spending your 1st date explaining your jokes that fall flat not helpful at all). Pointing out irony is one of the easiest kinds of humor. Spontaneous is better than telling "jokes". Telling jokes is the most difficult type of humor. Telling jokes requires appropriate animation, inflection, timing. But if you learn some short ones, they are easier than long jokes, particularly if you have to use "voices". Irony, riddles, very short jokes for a novice, but the "be positive thing" is job one.
I think insecurity is a factor most guys act like someone they are not to make a good impression but there is so much competition these days we compare ourselves to others especially if a guy’s lifestyle isn’t up to expectations so judgement and thoughts of there are better men out there come to mind
Love the green 💚
> Being negative/Bad attitude
Welp, ima pack it in.
Oh lack of sleep too. Nice. One day I sleep too little and the next I’ll sleep 12-14 hours.
I recommend you read the book; Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. Very good book that goes into detail around anything sleep. You will not look at sleep the same again. Good video Courtney I enjoyed
Now we need the reverse. What makes women unattractive to men. Women with no self respect, carving up their bodies with tattoos and piercings, obesity, weird unnatural hair colors, and lack of hygiene. And that’s before you get to personality disorders which are rampant. But I agree with the positive attitude thing.
No women would watch it, they don't care about what we think. They are perfect the way they are remember that!
No real hobbies, on social media / phone most of the time. Not having an opinion on alot of things, gossip etc...
I mean most of the stuff she listed applies to women as well.
The difference for a woman with all those negative qualities is she will still have a lot of options if she chooses to exercise them.
Her fan base consists of about five women.
Be clean, masculine, and don't be weird (chill) is really all you need to be honestly it'll put you in the top tier.
My white 6'2 friend was homeless smelly but he had a good face and muscles. Pulled girls into his tent all the time.
@@familyengineering5591 that happens all the time. It's all about how you make her feel more than anything.
@@MailmanNick yes I’m sure they were enraptured with his work-shy personality and fun stories about fighting raccoons for food nothing to do with his physical features.
@ Family Engineering source “trust me bro” whatever you do don’t trust the hot happily married female in this video smh
Why would i ask fish how to catch fish? I want to ask the fisherman
These are all excellent points for both men and women. One turn off for me is whining. This trait seems to be more common in women, but men can do it too, and it’s like nails on a chalkboard to my ears. If you whine, STOP 🛑 just stop ✋🏻 PLEASE.
Since that fine specimen isn’t present, figured I’d step up to the plate and save you all time.
1. Being Passive: you’re a yes man and don’t have a backbone.
2. Poor Hygiene: develop a skincare routine and as simple as it sounds, take care of yourself. It goes a long way.
3. Being negative, poor attitude: demonstrates lack of optimism and has a poor figure upon solution making and more.
4. Laziness: lack of motivation, drive, and so forth. Puts no effort into their personal lives/goals.
5. Lack of sleep: makes skin appear dull, develop dark circles under eyes, etc - will impact how you look over the long run.
6. Contract Ive body language: hunching your shoulders, hands in pocket, and so forth. Displays lack of confidence. Be open.
7. Humor: linked to emotional intelligence, be able to make fun of yourself, and have fun; laugh constantly and don’t take things so serious.
Hope this helps. I love you all!
You always seem to attack games. I met my wife playing online games. We are going on 11 years married. We still stay up to 3 on the weekends gaming.
Yeah I'm honestly sick of listening to women moan about video games. I mostly use them as a way to relax and not spend tons of cash while I'm exhausted from work/working out at the gym, the alternative would probably be getting trashed at a bar with my coworkers but yeah let's keep talking trash about video games.
How about women with their damn 1000 hand bags, shoes, or knickknacks they clearly don't use, why do I never hear anyone call that crap out? O right because when women waste time or money on stuff it's fine, only a problem when guys play videogames because then you aren't spending time with women. Also if it's the weekend and I got nothing to do, bet your ass I'm probably playing until 2am, still cheaper than going to the club or something ridiculous women would do!
She is very judgmental when it comes to people who are gamers. Other things as well.
@@MikeyP109 Many people are. I still have respect for her for trying to help single men. In fact I watch her and some others to try to help my own son.
Dam you are lucky i still have yet to find me a nerdy girl. Maybe it's just the way i look maybe because im not over 6ft tall
I appreciate your videos. No better great advice, than a Woman being straight forward. That's what we need is honesty. Thank you.
I would add, as you've said in the past: dress like an adult. It's remarkable what a difference it makes with regard to people's attitudes toward you. I notice it just at the grocery store or wherever, when every other guy around me is wearing gym shorts and a stained t-shirt. It takes such little effort to stand out.
I mean to be honest although, If they aren't specifically tying to attract someone at that time... It doesn't seem relevant.
@@WawrzyniecTheIII Isn't that the point? You never know when you will attract someone, where they will be. Why not try to look good 90% of the time? No one is claiming you must always go to the grocery store looking like a 10.
you don't even need to dress in anything more advanced than jeans, t-shirt a pair of okay shoes i like my sneakers and go to a barber regularly so your hair don't look like shit. and also always say thank you! be polite stand tall and proud with a straight back and have a smile and be positive.
@@WawrzyniecTheIII Understandable. But, sophisticated/smart clothing is not only for special occasions - The Men that wear them regularly are often responded to more respectfully, by women and other men.
Haha, ok Mr Peacock 🦚. While you are putting on your slacks to go pick up groceries and put gas in your car, the rest of us will just shop in comfort and not try to impress strangers.
Finding love and starting a family are not worth the pain, suffering, and trauma associated with it. Staying single and celibate = staying happy. Get a dog or a cat instead.
Dogs are great.
For me, my negativity has been the most damaging issue. I’ve lost contact with quite a few girls because of it. I’m quite severely mentally ill but of course that doesn’t change anything. Gotta somehow learn to be positive despite feeling like killing myself every other day.
just be your self wimen always judge men on what they do dont change done chase wimen you do what you want to do and wimen will always follow all the time most wimen dont like to lead its a mans job to decide what to do wimen like that in a man ive learnt that with my gf she always asks me what i want to do dosnt this show much she respects me and loves me and i think that is you show you want to do stuff she will follow and the most nicest thing is to be kind and treat your girl as long as she respects you
*women.
For men:
I'd say it's a fine line between self-deprecating humor and lack of confidence. If your whole humor and a big chunk of your personality revolve around putting yourself down, that's not attractive.
For women:
Never initiating. Like ever. Men can take the lead. Men can initiate. However, if it's 100% of the time then I find that so unattractive. It's always Monday Morning Quarterbacking and never taking risks. Women want men who take risks for them. I'm in agreement with that sentiment. Well...I kinda like that on occasional display from women too. Surprise me by asking me for my phone number. Or picking the restaurant one Friday. Or telling me outright what you want instead of "well, you should know if you've been paying attention". Stop spotlighting us for everything. That's a lot of pressure all the time.
With regard to a good nights sleep, what do you suggest for someone who has extreme insomnia?
A visit to a doctor.
Between working extra hours to keep my 6 figure salary, meal prep and time in the gym to stay healthy, projects around the house, and spending time outdoors, I have no time for skin care or sleep. Earn your weathered and scarred skin! Sleep when you’re dead!
What's the point of going to the gym if you're not getting enough sleep? You realize muscle growth occurs when you're asleep, right?
@@MayTheSchwartzBeWithYou, 😂 Good one. Said that, skin care is for women. I would avoid that.
Congratulations! Now when you get in a relationship she'll complain you don't spend enough time with her.
Awful advice.
@@Anotherguy1st yeah or worse she will cheat behind your back and because she lived with you for 3 months now you need to pay her alimony and give her half your shit.
You forgot: 1. Only paying for your own food and drinks 2. Not making six figures and not having tons of free time at the same time 3. Having opinions about anything in the house.
Maybe they were forgotten for a reason?!
4 - thinking a woman at any point in her life, mad a bad decsion.
NEVER WEAR SUNSCREEN
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5. Expectations of accountability on her end, that is reserved only for you!
Less than 6 figures alone already brings out her inner Disgust
Thumbs up 👍 Courtney Ryan love your videos very helpful
Setting aside various aspects of a man "attractiveness", I personally believe the most important thing to consider when a guy interacts with a woman is How do you make her feel; if it's not pleasant, or rewarding when she's with you, it won't go far-
Thank you Courtney for the presentation!
What if you’re only passive part of the time? Is that okay?
Should I just fake it when a girl asks me a question and I don’t immediately know the answer?
Thanks for sharing Courtney - As a single guy, navigating the dating scene after being in a relationship, I find these videos quite helpful. I'm looking forward to learning more!
I do have sense of humour but the problem is that, I cannot make someone laugh when I want it. it happens on it's own. it has it's own consciousness. let's say if my girl is sad and crying, I can't make her laugh to divert her mood. it just doesn't come to me naturally.
P.S. re item 5 I would qualify that as always being late for no real good reason other then just being late out of habit.
To be honest, summarizing some of these points it sounds like as soon as Men stumble into a hard life time with problems and maybe also mental health problems, we'll loose all our prior attractiveness and will be left
How to be attractive: Go to Asia and find a wife there.
Trying anything with a Western woman will either end up in divorce or false accusation. I had a couple of girlfriends, they always end the relationship, and they nearly always try to destroy you afterwards. I had one defame me to nearly the whole college once, while I didn't say one bad thing about her. Men are always the bad guys in America. I had to hurt myself a few times until I finally learned the lesson. Some guys learn late in the game, like Steven Crowder.
I 100% agree with you, woman in America suck. I should take a flight too Japan.
Let’s not bring Steven crowder into this. He’s a horrible person. And the whole “passport bro” thing doesn’t work nowadays as well, many women who live in Asia or even rural parts of Europe have the feminist “need no man” kind of thinking.
But I work until 7am...no you're right imma tell my boss Courtney says i need to be asleep by two so the last 5-6 hours of work I'll be sleeping 😂
Tiege Hanley will not slow down your skin aging, no lotion or cream can do that. It can just make your skin look somewhat more moisturized for a short while, thus wrinkles are temporarily a little less visible. Many low priced face creams from the drugstore do the job just as well. If you want to reduce skin aging a bit make sure you get enough sleep, use sun lotion and pay attention to healthy nutrition.
lack of sleep for me since i work 10hr shift from 6:30am-5pm after work straight to the gym
Males have dumped males including their old and year-long friends to be around females. Simping is all time high. I have personally lost many male friends who are now after girls after girls or into complete relationship with a girl and have forgotten or disregarded or abandoned their male friends.
Great content thank you.
Wash your clothes regularly. If your clothes smell, it doesn’t matter how much you shower.
Washing the washing machine helps too, because if it's dirty it doesn't matter how much you wash your clothes.
Never thought I'd see the day adults have to be told to wash their clothes.
@@MikeyP109 You actually don't. Rinsing is enough. Did you guys forget that for the vast majority of history and beyond, humans never used washing powder/liquid. That didn't mean people smelled bad either. Smelling natural with pheromones flowing freely is different from not rinsing at all and being covered in odour-causing bacteria. People these days don't seem to know there's a difference. If you wouldn't drink it, why put it on your skin? It still gets absorbed into the body. The skin is the body's largest organ. Furthermore, if your pheromones can flow freely, you can attract the naturally correct mate for you. No chemicals required. Folks really have lost touch with themselves and most of all nature.
Lol i remember back in my college days there were jocks and chads who smelled like feet, sweat and ass and still were getting all the ladies! You were saying?...
Thanks for sharing
You are,so often,spot on.
Courtney’s top sweater button is holding on for dear life.😂
Can we just talk for a moment about the complete randomness about how women feel from second to second that affects how they perceive men? It's completely bipolar and flips every one of these examples to the point of making her attraction to you a roll of the dice. If she tells you no, try again in ten minutes.
Who cares? They can do it all themselves- they’re strong and independent 👍 Never going back to the plantation.
If all these things apply whether one plans to stay single or date then what are the benefits of being single? I thought one of the benefits of being single is that it is not that imperative to work on self improvement.
These items you mention for men projecting to attract often become the norm for women's behavior afterward, when it is too late.
This video made me realize I’m not unattractive. Thanks!
Hi Courtney, Thank you for your great video as always and important advice ☺👍💐😀😂😁
Excellent very helpful
I'll add something to the topic of personal hygiene. Trim your nails! That includes your toenails, too. Women notice hands, and so many have told me that long or unkempt nails are one of their biggest turnoffs. While we're on the subject, women, please, ditch the inches-long acrylic claws. A good manicure and pedicure with classic reds, pinks, or pastels is all you need to win most of us over.
It's basically a perpetual job interview. 😂
Men: Don't be obese and be nice.
Women: Be rich. Over 6 feet, hung, no kids, great career but also home all the time and plenty of time to travel, perfect credit, own a home, handy, motivated, funny, strong, sensitive, manly but in touch with your feminine side, Not lazy but also stay in bed and cuddle alot, etc... Oh... she will probably leave you and take half of everything you have built your entire life. Including your retirement and 401k.
MEN..... don't listen to this shit. Get a passport and go overseas. get away from these modern feminist western women. The women are set up to fail and the court system is designed to rob you.
Hygiene is my biggest thing for women. I've learned that if women have bad teeth, it definitely reflects on their overall health. If their teeth are bad, they don't wash properly. Being clean and smelling good is huge for both sides in a relationship.
Looks like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life because I have 6 of the 7 sucks to be me
Am empty wallet is what makes men unattractive to women... Plus empty credit cards...
This entire list applies to both sexes. It should be called “Things people do that are unattractive.”
Uhmm, men only need one thing......
@@johannesswillery7855 Money?
I found saying “yes” to women is the best way to find peace in my life. I found out that most women can’t handle disagreement well. Thus, I just go with whatever she says as long as she gives me peace.
Seems like a bad way to go long term. Just always giving in
Bro stop being a yes man
Choose your battles isn't something young folks understand. There are a lot of pups here who will learn that eventually, I hope.
Someone asked Emily Blunt how she got together with her husband. She said he just walked up to their table (I think they were in a restaurant) and she said he just stood there and made her laugh. I thought, boy that is pretty simple. And all this advice on how to get a girl can really get complicated. Some of these points can be challenging but it is a good list of things to work on.
So John Krasinski literally pulled a Jim Halpert? That's it?
Be like Jim Halpert is what I'm getting from this.
But what would've happened if he was a 5"4 indian janitor or a 5"5 jose the plumber. Would Emily Blunt accept those Men if they were funny too
@@andradeb2695let’s be honest she wouldn’t. I’m pretty sure she would’ve said no if he was an asian guy or a short asian guy and wasn’t rich/famous/attractive and white and tall. Asian men are the least responded men from all women according to an old ok Cupid study about a decade ago. The same study said that black women are the least responded from all women categories. Although that is an old study, I feel like it still holds true today.
Just had this conversation with a buddy of mine the other day. I mentioned that cursing too much or unnecessarily is extremely unattractive to others. It makes you sound like you are unable to convey your position without cursing. Replace curse words with meaningful and respectable words or phrases, that will help you in other areas as well.
I don’t believe that crossing your arms or legs is a sign of weakness or insecurity. In fact, when accompanied with a smile or smirk, crossed arms can be a sign of confidence.
I personally like Lumin skin care over buddies 'skin care' products
Listen this lady.
So all the shit a man can do to seem more attractive, has absolutely nothing to do with him as a person, showing that once and for all, women do NOT give a damn about the man at all, they only care about the boxes he checks for their life. Women don't love the man their with, the man their with simply is able to maintain their desired lifestyle. To any guy in a relationship, I dare you to ask your gf or wife "What do you love about me?" And really listen to their answer. See if they say a single thing that is about YOU. "Makes me laugh" is a cop out and deflection answer, a comedian makes people laugh, she ain't dating them. Would love to hear people's answers, I would love to be proven wrong on this. Sadly I doubt I will be. Things like "you make me feel safe" is nothing, any answer that is "you make me feel" is nullified. We aren't talking about her feelings here, it's a simple question, what do you love about ME. If they can't give an answer, you got your answer, she doesn't love you, never did.
the man their with simply is able to maintain their desired lifestyle. You are a really wise person. i don't want to put on a persona for a women and women won't understand that it's not about confidence or personality or being yourself. this makes me think of this black mirror episode.
Out of all the NPC's im glad you were able to decipher the BS lol. My advice is be yourself wheter you're the quiet guy or some hard head. Im not saying be some lazy slouch but don't do too much for them. If she dont like it kick her TF out. Women complain that Men view them as "sex objects" but the majority of Women view Men as disposable Tools, Meat Potraits and ATM machines. Lol this "game" is so funny to me