We Lost Our Baby | Pregnancy & Miscarriage Story

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  • čas přidán 28. 07. 2024
  • In this video, we explain why we took a break from posting videos. We found out we were pregnant and had some complications which led to miscarriage. Everything is still really raw and fresh but we wanted to speak on this now and hope that it can serve as some guidance, support, catharsis and maybe even comfort for anyone else who has gone through or is going through anything similar.
    TIMESTAMPS:
    00:00 - Intro
    1:54 - Deciding when to try for a baby
    3:40 - Waiting to find out if I was pregnant. I fainted and had symptoms
    7:05 - Finding out I was pregnant
    11:00 - Getting a transvaginal scan at 6 weeks - sac was empty
    14:25 - Second transvaginal scan and seeing my baby’s heartbeat for the first time
    15:44 - The start of my miscarriage. Bleeding after transvaginal scan
    18:28 - I started getting miscarriage cramps and stopped feeling pregnant
    22:04 - I miscarried my baby. I passed the pregnancy sac in the bathroom. Seeing the miscarried baby
    25:30 - Struggling with mental health after miscarriage. Blaming myself and feeling guilt
    27:49 - What I did to cope with miscarriage. Things that helped and finding comfort
    30:43 - Feeling lonely. I didn’t want to stop bleeding because that meant my pregnancy was over
    32:35 - Struggling with faith after miscarriage. Feeling like I wasn’t worthy of blessings
    36:25 - How miscarriage affected my husband. A male perspective
    40:03 - Burying my baby. I regret my decisions
    42:50 - The wisdom behind miscarriage and other tests
    44:26 - A message to any women who have struggled with miscarriage
    CONTACT US:
    email - sufyanxamara@gmail.com
    insta - thexs.official
    - amaratheninja
    - whoissufyanx
    #MiscarriageStory #TheXs #MuslimCouple

Komentáře • 629

  • @AkAk-os3ol
    @AkAk-os3ol Před 2 lety +36

    Going through a Miscarriage is never easy. I had a Miscarriage at 6 weeks, my friend has had 16 Miscarriages and 1 still birth and last year she was blessed with a baby girl 2 days after ramadan. May Allah bless you with good health and iman and may all your dua's come true.xx

    • @piqueny8872
      @piqueny8872 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Cousins baby died 8 months full formed in belly, heart sudden stoped few months before they had a gender reveal party for the baby boy next they were planning a funeral

  • @biancaleon3532
    @biancaleon3532 Před 2 lety +30

    25 years ago I had a miscarriage and never spoke of it. Later in group therapy I spoke of the shame I felt that it was somehow my fault. It is important to talk about this.

  • @pandapanda-tn3zt
    @pandapanda-tn3zt Před 2 lety +33

    Your story resonates so much with my first pregnancy. I ended up flushing what I passed too and initially regret played in my mind but time heals. And I saw my husband cry for the first time when loss was confirmed. MashA you’ve supported each other well at a traumatic time. Just remember Almighty tests those he loves and that baby will be there for you in heaven. I named my baby a male and female name and still mention him/her to my children. And yes, there is hope. Your body has been pregnant before so it will be ready for it again InshA. May Almighty bless you both and reward your sabr. X

  • @niqueybingham3489
    @niqueybingham3489 Před 2 lety +116

    I missed you guys so much and I am sorry to hear about your lost. Thank you so much for being open and sharing this part of the journey with us. I can only imagine what you guys are going through but ik you're gonna be okay. Sending you both lot of light, healing and positive juju ❤

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +5

      Thank you so much, Niquey. 💕🌸

    • @omaramcfarlanewilliams2368
      @omaramcfarlanewilliams2368 Před 2 lety +3

      I am happy that you had your husband's support. That is a big blessing.

    • @allisonhinds8384
      @allisonhinds8384 Před 2 lety +2

      It was beautiful for you guys to share. I just love you guys.

    • @brendyjones4883
      @brendyjones4883 Před 2 lety

      Sorry for your loss I feel pain I have been through that four times and the last one was twins and I finally have a boy who is 5 years old now. Hugs

  • @peterchase5198
    @peterchase5198 Před 2 lety +56

    Hi Amara, my name is Bernice and I live in Barbados! 🇧🇧 Thanks for sharing your experience with us! I think you and your husband are so brave to share that most intimate of experiences. My husband and I lost two babies that came to full term and those days were very hard but God has gifted us with a son and a happy grandson. I pray that in due course you will have your fill of babies. Amara, you are a mother and you will be the very best mom. Your children shall call you blessed. The Almighty's timing Is good timing and it shall happen soon, give thanks. Bless you, both💐💐
    My brother you and Amara are beautiful people and you will come out of this just fine. When Bernice and I lost the kids I was nowhere as mature or grounded in faith as you are. You are an inspirational man. Your willingness to share your experience will help others. I am sorry for the pain you have had to endure, grow roots deep in your love and your faith. Peace and love to you both.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +11

      Hi Bernice ❤️ I can't imagine the pain that comes with losing a child at full term let alone two. 😔 The strength you must have had to grow to move through that ...I can only imagine. Your story inspires me to have strength through my little test. I truly believe that God only tests you with what you can handle or will give you the strength to get through. No one's timing is better than The Almighty's and I'm so excited for whenever that right time is. I'm so sorry for all the pain you had to go through and my love is with you. Thank you so much for messaging us. Lots of love to you both. 💖 - Amara
      Thank you, my brother. Your words are very comforting. I am sorry for everything you had to go through and also filled with joy to hear that about your son and grandchild. I always look out for your comments, so thank you again. My prayers and blessings to your family. - Suf

    • @allisonhinds8384
      @allisonhinds8384 Před 2 lety

      Hi Xs I am so so sorry .. but all will be well.

  • @rebeccafishburne2641
    @rebeccafishburne2641 Před 2 lety +81

    So sorry to hear about your lost. Sending love, hugs and prayers

  • @shelisshepp-nduom3803
    @shelisshepp-nduom3803 Před 2 lety +13

    I’m so heartbroken for you guys. I’m so glad you had the support of your husband during this and he has yours because men grieve miscarriages also.

  • @shelisshepp-nduom3803
    @shelisshepp-nduom3803 Před 2 lety +14

    I hit like not because I liked what happened but because of the courage and love I see in you both for each other.

  • @sugabaybee22
    @sugabaybee22 Před 2 lety +3

    I’m in a interracial marriage and we recently went through this together. Very similar story, except I was the one who wanted to check the pregnancy sac. He turned his head and told me not to but I couldn’t bear to flush it without knowing. The doctor said it was so small so I wouldn’t see anything but he lied. I saw the sac and I saw the baby. I flipped it over and saw the eye and saw the umbilical cord. My husband said the best thing would be to flush it so he closed the toilet, we said a prayer for the baby and I flushed it. I was hurt and sad and went through the emotions of what if we put it in a bag and threw it in the trash versus flushing it. But I know we did the best thing. I’m writing this as I’m still going through the entire process. Yesterday was the day it happened.

  • @kimdean9085
    @kimdean9085 Před 2 lety +12

    You helped more people than you think or know. I pray the Creator blesses you and your womb. Much blessings to the two of you!

  • @dee_1989
    @dee_1989 Před 2 lety +4

    So sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story, now I have a better understanding of what people go through when they miscarriage. ❤️

  • @rose-mariecelestine8147
    @rose-mariecelestine8147 Před 2 lety +4

    So sorry for your lost. I pray you find comfort in knowing that there’s nothing you could have done differently. You did nothing wrong, Take your time to heal and it is not weak for you to cry,

  • @Abijoho
    @Abijoho Před 2 lety +3

    Aw guys :( I’m so so sad to hear you have been through this, but your attitude and support for each other is amazing and a blessing. I will keep you in my duaas and inshallah you will have all your duaas answered soon💕

  • @pamelabryan9046
    @pamelabryan9046 Před 2 lety +3

    So sorry for your loss! Thanks for sharing. Everything will work out. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @VeryUniqueIndividual
    @VeryUniqueIndividual Před 2 lety +7

    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, I can only pray you are blessed with a healthy pregnancy and baby inshallah. I also really admire both of your strength. To open up about pregnancy loss isn't easy but the reminders you gave are just what I (and I'm sure many others) needed to hear so thank you! Sending you lots of love!
    I thought I'd just give ectopic pregnancies a mention too because many women don't know about them but they are pregnancies that if not removed early enough, put the mothers life in danger. Symptoms can be very similar to miscarriage so it's really important for all women to know about. I don't have a platform with a huge following where I can raise awareness of this issue but hopefully some people will cast an eye on this and become aware of it.

  • @caylenehughes5199
    @caylenehughes5199 Před 2 lety +7

    Sorry 😔😔💔💔 don't give up. May you be blessed when the time is right, by god's grace.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +1

      Yes ❤️❤️❤️🤲 Thank you, Caylene. X

  • @varshniejagdeo2738
    @varshniejagdeo2738 Před 2 lety +17

    You guys are made for each other!
    So sorry for your lost🕊

  • @annasingankutti5832
    @annasingankutti5832 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you so much for making this video 💚🥰 I’m so sorry you had to go through this but you are definitely getting through it and this video has taught me a lot. Blessings to you guys. May you have many beautiful babies in the future. Lots of love from the Netherlands xx

  • @marisolmartinez2603
    @marisolmartinez2603 Před 2 lety +4

    So sorry for your loss! You guys are a beautiful couple. All the best to you both.

  • @pameladavisgod
    @pameladavisgod Před 2 lety

    This is so heartbreaking 💔. I’m sincerely sorry for your loss. Pls keep the faith 🙏🏾

  • @deewebb2506
    @deewebb2506 Před 2 lety +8

    I’m so so sorry! Your honesty and bravery will help others, for sure! Bless you and yours. xo

  • @jessicaking5298
    @jessicaking5298 Před 2 lety +2

    Wow thank you so much for sharing so openly. Its so important to talk about miscarriage, especially all the graphic details because its the reality and so important for women not to feel alone, and also for the partners too.
    Thank you again, sending you both so much love xxx

  • @donnaneckles2588
    @donnaneckles2588 Před 2 lety +2

    Sending hugs of condolences! Trusting in God for healing. You both will be blessed beyond measure...in his perfect timing!

  • @gloriajoseph8221
    @gloriajoseph8221 Před 2 lety +10

    I am so sorry you guys had to go through this...hugs and more hugs. Yes, I know this video will help many who are going through this or will be going it.🙏🏾🙏🏾 🤗🤗💞💞

  • @amnahrasheed4870
    @amnahrasheed4870 Před 2 lety

    Sorry for the loss,you're so brave and open to share your story ,may God bless you with cute and amazing children🙏

  • @safiyassacredspace
    @safiyassacredspace Před 2 lety +5

    I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing! Be gentle w/ yourselves through this journey of healing, and may the ancestors welcome your first born w/ warmth and tenderness. I have faith that the Most High has great things in store for you both... 🙏

  • @iqra1297
    @iqra1297 Před 2 lety +48

    Take all the time you need to heal. Keeping you both in my prayers❤️

  • @ammarsajid7284
    @ammarsajid7284 Před 2 lety +3

    I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that one day soon IA you grow your family ❤️

  • @claudettegill8400
    @claudettegill8400 Před 2 lety +6

    Tears flowed for both of you. I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing something so personal. Never been through it, but I have learned so much from you all. I love your belief about life. I am a grandmother but I am still learning so much from both of you. May you be blessed always, and I may you soon be given the beautiful joy of that baby which your hearts desire. You are not alone. Love that both of you are so very supportive with each other. You both were meant to be. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🕊🕊💐❤️

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +2

      Awwww, Ms Claudette. ❤️ Thank you for listening and sending us so much love, always. There's something extra comforting and warm knowing that you are a grandmother. There's extra wisdom within you and your words just hit our hearts so deeply. Ameen to your beautiful prayers for us, may God protect you always and keep you and your family blessed in abundance. So much love to you 💖🌸

  • @nicolegordon129
    @nicolegordon129 Před 2 lety +8

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage as well. I was three months at the time. My husband and I were devastated. We called our friends who had experienced a miscarriage to get some guidance. We went to the hospital and we had in fact miscarried. We had two children at the time. Three to five months after our miscarriage, we got pregnant with our baby girl. God is faithful and able. It’s so true about prayer and support from my husband helped me. For me it was the Bible, and it’s word gave me such peace. It does take time to work through the emotions and the grief. Take the time you need to heal and grieve. God bless you guys.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss, Nicole, and so happy for your blessings!!! 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️ God bless you x

    • @nicolegordon129
      @nicolegordon129 Před 2 lety +1

      @@TheXs.Official Thank you guys. I appreciate it.

  • @butterfly-kb4cn
    @butterfly-kb4cn Před 2 lety +4

    This breaks my heart for you both! I’m so sorry for your loss and may God heal your pain and loss. I pray you and God bless you in your journey. 💕

  • @bbutler7158
    @bbutler7158 Před 2 lety +5

    Blessings to both of you🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️. Your healthy family is in progress ☺️❤️❤️❤️. Prayers for your continued strength and the beautiful life you both live❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @fatxisaid9942
    @fatxisaid9942 Před 2 lety +3

    Am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story with us

  • @Coachnicolab
    @Coachnicolab Před 2 lety +6

    My deepest sympathies. Thank you for sharing your incredible insights and journey.

  • @donnap3234
    @donnap3234 Před 2 lety +1

    I am a parent of one child and I feel the pain of your loss. You said it best. See this as a space for a more bountiful blessings. Thank you for being so open and raw and I am sure this will help others who are faced with miscarriage to know they are not alone facing this. Stay blessed

  • @amnabrown1810
    @amnabrown1810 Před 2 lety +22

    I’m so sorry :( love you both x

  • @killdread4097
    @killdread4097 Před 2 lety

    I'm very sorry you experienced such an unfortunate loss I hope that you're healing togather through it and that you don't get discouraged from trying again.

  • @nimosaid5151
    @nimosaid5151 Před 2 lety +1

    I'm super sorry my dear sister.I lost my twins 9 months ago.They were 26 weeks.I know the feeling.May Allah(sw) give you patience.

  • @lamemogolo
    @lamemogolo Před 2 lety +1

    Sending you guys love and light. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your lives! May the Lord guide you through this part of your journey.

  • @Iam_MJ876
    @Iam_MJ876 Před 2 lety +2

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you both hugs. It was so lovely to hear Sufiyan spoke so lovingly to about how he loves and will always be supportive and you to him. I wish you both good health and to your future babies. I'm happy to hear Sufiyan expressed how he was affected, men don't really get the chance to express their feelings during this difficult time. God bless your family. 💐❤🇯🇲

  • @brittanykimber
    @brittanykimber Před 2 lety +22

    I'm only at 11 minutes, and I have cried sad tears and happy tears. Our stories are similar, and I immediately had that sick gut feeling reading the title. You two are such a beautiful couple. Thank you for always being so transparent. There is knowledge to be gained through your laughter and now your heartache. I know that there will be many blessings to come for you both!
    Amara, like always, I'll send you a message on IG. 🥰

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +2

      So many of us have been through such similar traumas with this; so horrible, but at least we are not alone. Thank you for always recognising the transparency and seeing our hearts, friend. ❤️

  • @yvonnebacchas5435
    @yvonnebacchas5435 Před 2 lety +5

    Im so sorry for your lost. I can see the hurt in her eyes. God be with you both.

  • @eyeheartmusic6683
    @eyeheartmusic6683 Před 2 lety

    This is the first time seeing any videos on your channel and I want to say thank you for posting this. My beliefs are different from yours but so much of what you felt and experienced resonated with me. I had two miscarriages in 2019 within a 3 month time period. I too struggle with feelings of guilt because I know I flushed my babies down the toilet, although at the time I didn’t realize it. And like you Amara, even though it’s been 3 yrs I still yearn to grow a baby inside me. I pray you find comfort and peace and don’t give up on growing your family.

  • @xemma1983x1
    @xemma1983x1 Před 2 lety +11

    Firstly, I’m so very sorry for your loss. What astounded me throughout this video was the pure and utter love and devotion you have for each other as a couple, mashallah! May your faith carry you through this difficult time and inshallah you will be blessed again 🤲

  • @alleitaamoako1181
    @alleitaamoako1181 Před 2 lety +5

    Sorry for your lost. May God bless you with healthy kids in the future🙏🏽

  • @Sona77.
    @Sona77. Před 2 lety +3

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of love and strength ❤️

  • @Keishabrath
    @Keishabrath Před 2 lety +9

    This video was super emotional to watch because I felt as though I was going through everything with you guys by just listening/watching 😣☹️
    I’ve never been through a miscarriage but I can only imagine how you guys felt hugs 🤗
    I even felt guilty liking the video because it seem like doing something mean
    I prayer you guys gel even tighter than you already are, very soon a blessing will come, I am pretty sure you will make amazing parents at the right time ❤️❤️❤️🤗🙏🏿
    Continue to be patient and have faith 🙏🏿
    Just remember nothing happens before it’s time 🤗
    I absolutely love you guys
    Love coming all the way from Barbados 🇧🇧

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +2

      Hey Keisha ❤️ you've been with us a while so it's sweet that you felt that way. 🤗 You're right, nothing happens before it's time, and God's timing is the best. 🤲💖 Thank you for the love and prayers 😘 lots of love back to you xxx

  • @yayafl1986
    @yayafl1986 Před 2 lety

    The most wholesome people in the time of tribulation keeping your faith and your integrity. I’m sorry for your loss and I pray you receive a blessing of being parents soon.

  • @homesteadfromseed1996
    @homesteadfromseed1996 Před 2 lety +3

    Our stories are sooo similar. My first pregnancy I lost at 7.5 weeks and I lost it in this lonely bathroom in the hospital on my way to get bloodwork to see if I was miscarrying cause I had been bleeding for about a week and it was getting heavier. I saw my tiny little sac and baby in the toilet but had nothing to get it and didnt know what to do with it either especially being alone and just genuinely not knowing what to do. It doesnt sit well with me to this very day. I know Allah is the most merciful and knows our intentions but still in my mind it hurts knowing the outcome.
    I am now a mother to three beautiful children on this Earth and alhamdullilah one tiny little baby in Jannah and I pray that Allah swt blesses you with the most pious and beautiful children and with more blessings than you know what to do with. I will keep you in my prayers inshaAllah.
    Mu’adh ibn Jabal reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “By the One in whose hand is my soul, the miscarried fetus will carry his mother by his umbilical cord into Paradise, if she was seeking its reward.”
    Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1609
    Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

  • @OfficialMNIB
    @OfficialMNIB Před 2 lety +15

    - I can only imagine what you're both going through - May Allah be pleased - 🤲🏼

  • @angellove4557
    @angellove4557 Před 2 lety +2

    I am really so sorry to hear. I do pray all will go well in the future.

  • @melissapimentel8033
    @melissapimentel8033 Před 2 lety +21

    I’m so sorry 😞, I lost 7 pregnancies and I totally understand. I had my rainbow baby in 2019 so although I know it hard to hear, you will have your rainbow baby 🧡
    Edit to add: the part you mention self guilt and that maybe u are being punished i know it to well and I know all that go thru a miscarriage experience it so u aren’t alone, what pulled me out of it was prayers, and I had an epiphany, god was merciful with me because although my miscarriages broke me I felt loved one day because I rather lose the pregnancy early than lose the baby in the middle of the pregnancy and give birth or give birth to a stillborn or have my baby born with problems and suffer or die of Sids. Because god knew i couldn’t handle that. I really admire a woman that has gone thru that horrible experience and find strength in it all.
    I have a friend with pcos that lost 3 and the first was at 17 a week before her gender reveal and after her first round of fertility meds she finally pregnant again after 3 yrs after losing her last pregnancy. I’ve been there thru it all with her and support is valuable. You aren’t alone and you have a wonderful husband and family and friends and this community as well 🧡🧡

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +9

      Hey sweet Melissa ❤️ I can't comprehend the struggle of going through 7 when this 1 has felt so painful. The strength and faith you must have built within yourself to still speak so positively ❤️ I admire that so much. & Yes, I feel like it was a mercy that if it had to be, that it was early. It's another level of a test when the baby is so much further along let alone SIDS. 😔 God tests us with what He knows we can handle / gives us the strength to be able to handle it. It's made me feel even closer to other women. So many of us have gone through the same trauma. Love to you ❤️

  • @donnadavis6875
    @donnadavis6875 Před 2 lety +1

    I'm so so sorry for loss. I was crying watching your video. I pray 🙏 you guys have many many kids. Peace and love throughout your journey. Blessing s always 🇯🇲.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      Love and blessings to you too, sweet Donna. Thank you 💖

  • @vickipriegan3867
    @vickipriegan3867 Před 2 lety

    So sorry to hear of the loss of your child, May God heal your pain and bless you both with healthy children, and will keep you and the family in my prayers.

  • @hannanabdurahman1368
    @hannanabdurahman1368 Před 2 lety +14

    You two are truly inspirational, I wish y’all the best and may Allah grant you lots of righteous babies and may your love also grow. Sending love from Ethiopia♥️

  • @vthomas372
    @vthomas372 Před 2 lety +1

    So sorry for your loss. So glad that your love for each other is helping you both get through this trying time. God bless you both. Blessings for all the children you both will bring forth in future.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😍😍😍

  • @buggybill2003
    @buggybill2003 Před 2 lety +6

    Oh I`m so sorry. Bless you both.

  • @pranetachand1970
    @pranetachand1970 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your loss. Sending you lots of love and wishing you many babies .

  • @aelet17
    @aelet17 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m so sorry guys! May God surround you in strength and comfort💗💗💗

  • @fuchsiarose3913
    @fuchsiarose3913 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing your story. Wishing you both peace. May you be blessed in the future. 🤗

  • @Ubahamina
    @Ubahamina Před 2 lety

    So sorry to hear about your loss. This was very emotional. I felt the pain from you telling us your story. I love how transparent/ truthful you guys are in your videos. Making dua for you both to have a healthy family inshallah. You guys are going to be amazing parents one day! Currently the month of Ramadan and will be making dua for you both. All the best, you guys are brave for discussing this. Much respect 🙏

  • @danl5961
    @danl5961 Před 2 lety

    This was sooo helpful guys, thank you so much. Although I’m not Muslim I 100% relate. I was told I had a illness at 22 and instantly cried too as it would mean complications in terms of a future pregnancy. Then I miscarried at 28. Hoping we have our babies soon 💕✨💕

  • @lildanddi
    @lildanddi Před 2 lety

    So sorry for your loss. You're both brave to share this private and intimate experience which it will be a help to others. And don't give up 💜

  • @nickashamaragh5875
    @nickashamaragh5875 Před 2 lety +5

    My sweet, sweet Amirah, I wish I could give you a hug. As an OB RN of 14 years I have held many female hands in a similar situation. I applaud the X’s for sharing. Cry if you must. It’s healthy to grieve. I’m happy that your husband is, and has been extremely supportive, as usual🙂. Yes, abortions especially missed abortion is very common. Yes, God is in control. Our body is beautifully, and wonderfully made, it has a way to rid pregnancies that possibly would have been abnormal. I’m happy you have a ultrasound showing the heart beat of the embryo 😌..memories for life! Yes guys blessing in three folds, so much sooner than your maybe expecting!Triplets??
    BLESS guys🇯🇲🇪🇹

    • @ghurabaa114xx
      @ghurabaa114xx Před 2 lety

      It needs to be more common knowledge that early scanning increases chances of miscarriage. . .6 weeks scans should be scrapped all together they do more harm than good

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      I'm cyber hugging you right now 🤗❤️ thank you for your touching message. & Triplets 🙈🙈😂❤️❤️❤️

  • @anak5183
    @anak5183 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. That took a lot of courage. You are such a beautiful couple...💗 May Almight God bless you with another child soon! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @zoesummer3646
    @zoesummer3646 Před 2 lety

    Ohhh I am so sorry for you guys. Your love for each other will give you strength. You will have lots to come.

  • @_aade_
    @_aade_ Před 2 lety

    I pray you find all the comfort you need. Sending you lots of love.

  • @melindarivera9013
    @melindarivera9013 Před 2 lety +1

    I was wondering what Happened to you both.. I’m sorry for your loss .. I can’t even imagine what that would feel like , you are a beautiful couple and I’m praying for your peace and praying that you can have all the children your heart desires 🙏 ❤️

  • @shirleybanks6582
    @shirleybanks6582 Před 2 lety +5

    So sorry to hear about your miscarriage 🙏🏽❤️❤️ I pray for you to be blessed with future pregnancies Insha Allah! Missed you both !!

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      Thank you, Shirley. Always sending us the love 🤗💖❤️

  • @judsCaribbean
    @judsCaribbean Před 2 lety

    Sorry to hear of your loss, I knw how hard it is mentally. Dnt give up retry 6 weeks . I have been there more than once and was successful, I have two sons. God is good, he will see you through.

  • @loyalty2398
    @loyalty2398 Před 2 lety +3

    Im so sorry :( stay strong!

  • @kemdafne5633
    @kemdafne5633 Před 2 lety +1

    😢 I’m so saddened and 💔. I have no words…I’m so sorry.

  • @SD-fc1nu
    @SD-fc1nu Před 2 lety

    Thankyou guys for sharing you are both lucky to have each other this could really help someone going through the same I will keep you in my prayers especially in Ramadan may Allah bless you one day with a baby

  • @brendatheobalds1033
    @brendatheobalds1033 Před 2 lety +1

    I thank God you are okay I too have had two ectopic pregnancy, Its was devastating! Never taught I will ever be able to have a baby, I pray long and faithfully I stay constantly on my knees. Glory to God he bless me with an amazing son. You will never forget this experience , you will get pregnant again. He knows best. Love you guys and I turly missed you.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      Congratulations on your son, Brenda! ❤️❤️❤️ So happy for you 🤗 lots of love to you x

  • @Callmehildaglosh
    @Callmehildaglosh Před 2 lety

    Sad to hear about your loss! May you heal soon❤

  • @winona43xp
    @winona43xp Před 2 lety

    Very sorry for your loss. Praying for your strength.

  • @fawziasarwar3836
    @fawziasarwar3836 Před 2 lety

    This made me so sad to watch at the beginning, Amara your face I seen all the pain you have been going through and wanted to hug you through the screen.
    Thanks you for sharing this raw experience with us all, inshAllah it will help other women or men who are going through this.
    I also appreciate hearing sufyans point of view as men never talk about this as much and I know from experience how mentally scarring it can be for the husband.
    I hope this video helps you both to process this huge loss and also show yous both all the love people have for yous.
    And I pray inshAllah you will have a baby to nurture in the future.
    we love you x

  • @anumahmed1244
    @anumahmed1244 Před 2 lety +38

    Thank you for sharing this with us, this must have been a difficult process for the both of you, May Allah make it easier and bless you both with offspring's that cool your eyes and bring nothing but Allah's rehmat, mercy & happiness. Ameen ❤️❤️❤️
    Hope you guys know we are always here to support you

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety +1

      Ameen to your beautiful duas for us. 🤲❤️ Thank you so much, Anum.

  • @Amina-ws7ly
    @Amina-ws7ly Před 2 lety +3

    Assalamu Alaikum, I'm so sorry to hear about your lost.May Allah taa'ala bless you with a children soon. ❤

  • @tessg4799
    @tessg4799 Před 2 lety +1

    You guys are so sweet! Thanks for sharing ❤

  • @rosalindvaondjozanguvauva2193

    Thank you guys for sharing, I really like how you two care for each other. God is faithful and merciful. He knows what is best for His children and yes start afresh. Love from Africa!💖

  • @veniadolph7375
    @veniadolph7375 Před 2 lety

    Came back to this video now. The doctor said there’s no heartbeat and I started bleeding when I got home. Can’t believe I’m going through this too💔 Thank you for this video, I feel less alone.

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      I'm so sorry sweet angel.😞💔 It's going to be a really difficult rollercoaster of a test, but I promise you have the strength to get through, even if you feel shattered into pieces. Let yourself crumble and feel whatever you feel. It's a heartbreaking, traumatic experience and it deserves mourning. I promise you, in time, the pain and trauma of it gets easier to bear. Just let yourself feel, surround yourself with comfort and grieve for now. It's a huge thing happening. 😞 Just remember, God is only ever 'for' you, even if it feels like punishment. Don't be tricked while you're hurting into thinking He's not protecting you . There will be peace and joy again after this storm as hard as it is to imagine. 🤲❤️ You will be a bit changed. For now, just feel what you feel.
      Message me on insta if you want to talk x

  • @glossyshine1
    @glossyshine1 Před 2 lety +7

    The way Amara said her name just made me so sad. You guys were so positive while talking it was so beautiful to hear. I pray Allah makes it easier for you both and at least you know you can get pregnant. Insha’Allah it does happen for you both when you are both ready. Just know Amara you haven’t let anyone down. Some things happen for a reason and just know when it’s suppose to happen it will💕. You are both in my duas. X

    • @TheXs.Official
      @TheXs.Official  Před 2 lety

      Yes, alhamdulilah that we were at least able to get pregnant, as that was a worry in itself. I'm glad that even though it was a sad topic, that you found it positively done. That makes me really happy xx

  • @user-pt1ki9qt5f
    @user-pt1ki9qt5f Před 2 lety +1

    So sorry to hear what you've gone through. 3atham Allah ajrkom, MAY Allah make your ajar great for this trial you've had to face. May he swt grant you as many children as you want, children with the best of akhlaaq and an asset to humanity. And this baby you've lost is waiting to hold your hands and take you into Jannah after a long beautiful life in shaa allah ❤️

  • @ronaldcuieii4775
    @ronaldcuieii4775 Před 2 lety +3

    Stay strong guys. Bless your hearts🤗🤗❤.

  • @gloriajoseph8221
    @gloriajoseph8221 Před 2 lety +2

    I am still watching the video...hugs to you both🤗🙏🏾💞

  • @michellebaboolal1954
    @michellebaboolal1954 Před 2 lety

    I luv you guys. So sorry for you loss. Keep hope you will be parents soooooon. That baby is going to be sooo beautiful because you are both so good looking. Looking forward to your next video.

  • @fathimah4572
    @fathimah4572 Před 2 lety +4

    i loved you guys since your weddings videos and i just want to say you are so brave for not only getting through this but also sharing this and i’m so sorry for your loss. may Allah sbt grant you with happiness always ameen.

  • @ruthwright6247
    @ruthwright6247 Před 2 lety

    My sincere condolences....so sorry for your lost.
    Thank you for sharing

  • @afshakhizar1875
    @afshakhizar1875 Před 2 lety +1

    I totally feel your pain, I have had two miscarriges, it is the hardest and emotionalist time to break. I started to write a preganancy journey diary for my baby to read when it was older which had all the special moments like the best feeling in becoming a mother, to check my stomach to see if the baby bump was growing yet, putting weight on, planning all sorts for the baby further into trimesters feeling a stronger connextion with the baby, shopping, planning and the beautiful life to live after the birth of the baby to feeling empty and lost for words feeling and emotions. No doubt Allah is the best of planner, and plans the best for his people. I make Dua, Allah fills your laps with joy, happiness and blessings of a little Sufiyan or Amara. Ameen & In'Sha'Allah. Sending you lots of love and hugs. In'Sha'Allah Allah will reward you again for all your sabr xx

  • @earlygrey7983
    @earlygrey7983 Před 2 lety +4

    This is painful. Remember this is a test and Allah will reward you with many beautiful children Ameen.

  • @jodieblake7398
    @jodieblake7398 Před 2 lety +1

    Sorry to hear about your lost, sending lots of love to you both God will make everything ok!!

  • @zaweddenorah9363
    @zaweddenorah9363 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for sharing your story. It’s such a blessing. I pray that God will fill that gap with so much more. That your cup will overflow with joy.

  • @lollibabe101
    @lollibabe101 Před 2 lety

    I’m so sorry for your loss I will keep you in my prayers

  • @jovanharris3565
    @jovanharris3565 Před 2 lety +6

    The Most High is Good, and always in control. Bless up✊🏽 stay firm.

  • @jeansouffrant551
    @jeansouffrant551 Před 2 lety

    Welcome back bro sorry about your loss.

  • @abdelahabdelah785
    @abdelahabdelah785 Před 2 lety +1

    very sorry to hear that friend , wish you good luck more time ❤️💖❤️💖

  • @mawalbrahim4139
    @mawalbrahim4139 Před 2 lety +4

    I'm sorry for your loss 🥺

  • @Kessieraw
    @Kessieraw Před 2 lety

    Really missed you guys. So sorry for the lost 😞 💔

  • @childrenofalovingheavenlyf4433

    Sending a lot of love and hugs your way ❤️ I pray that you're strengthened at this time. Even in this difficult time, God is still God and will forever remain faithful. We will forever sing his praises. All my love 💗