How to stop living for other people (the END to your codependent era)

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  • čas přidán 30. 05. 2024
  • the era of codependency is over. it's your time now
    message me @allygong on IG if you're going through this! you are supported ♡♡
    -ally

Komentáře • 14

  • @gileneusz
    @gileneusz Před měsícem +1

    Letting go of what others think of you is true freedom, allowing you to stop worrying and reclaim your life.

    • @allygong
      @allygong  Před měsícem

      freedom!! seek! freedom!

    • @gileneusz
      @gileneusz Před měsícem

      @@allygong Yep, but it's not that easy. From an evolutionary point of view, safety is more important than freedom. Safety comes from acceptance within the group, which means you need to worry about what others think of you to feel safe. Haha

    • @allygong
      @allygong  Před měsícem

      Yes! but we live in a world where survival is less dependent on a group (still dependent on groups in some contexts like the group you work for, etc. etc.) but we live in a world where we have more fundamental rights to survival. which is advancement of evolution and civilization!

    • @gileneusz
      @gileneusz Před měsícem

      @@allygong we live in the world that is different to the world that we evolved to live in, that's a challenge

  • @Chris-bw7eb
    @Chris-bw7eb Před měsícem +1

    Looking forward to watching this. Keep up the great work!

    • @allygong
      @allygong  Před měsícem +1

      hope you enjoy it :)

  • @anthonycook6213
    @anthonycook6213 Před měsícem

    Can you define your key terms: paricularly co-dependence and agency? Maybe I'm dense, but a few examples (real or hypothetical) might help solidify your points. Those you did include are very illuminating.🎇

    • @allygong
      @allygong  Před měsícem +1

      sureee good questions! agency is the capacity of an individual to act independently and make their own choices (being self-reliant and feeling empowered.)
      an example would be deciding to pursue a new career path because it aligns with your personal goals and values, despite external pressures to stay in your current job.
      codepency is a relational pattern where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, etc. It involves an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on another. an example would be staying in the same career field as your partner because they want to be in the same field as you and perceive anything else as a direct rejection or offense to them, even though you want to try something different or have outgrown that field. hope that makes sense!

    • @anthonycook6213
      @anthonycook6213 Před měsícem +1

      @@allygong Thank you, very clear.

  • @Gumby703
    @Gumby703 Před měsícem

    Does this mean you’re gay ?

    • @allygong
      @allygong  Před měsícem

      haha unfortunately not