My 5 Biggest Regrets after 15 Years of Homeschooling
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- Today I’m sharing my 5 Biggest Homeschool Regrets over 15 years with you in the hopes that you can learn from me … and possibly not make the same homeschooling mistakes!
When you’ve been homeschooling as long as I have (15 years!) and have at least 5 more years of homeschooling to go, you become reflective.
I’ve learned a lot and I’ve found myself also rejoicing in our many successes! Certainly having my oldest go to college counts as one. :)
If you’re struggling with homeschooling or just getting started, hopefully you’ll find a few things to do right out of the gate to make things a little better.
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1. Simple really is better. The philosophy that “more is better” is not optimal. Break down ideas into their absolute fundamental parts.
2. Over-trusting the experts. Trust yourself, look at your child, and create a homeschool specifically for your own child. You are the expert on your child.
3. Got too involved, helped too much with the learning. As the kids got older, I was still too engaged. Transition kids slowly to the idea of independent learning. Become comfortable in the messiness of learning independence.
4. Not keeping consistent journals.
5. Worrying too much about the kids “turning out okay.” Learn to let go, and trust. This will give you peace.
Hope this blesses somebody!
Thank you so much for the summary ❤️❤️🌹🌹!!
thank you it did ❤
Thank you so Michael for your comment. I’m a brazilian mim starting HS With my 5 y old Child. O was lost lady month. Rachadas i gele better ‘cause i see i don’t need do The same as it is ON The book Susan Bauer write
Thank you very much for summarizing the main ideas of this video! Best of luck and many blessings on all your endeavors!
I used to work as a tutor, and what you are talking about around 4 mins in is called "learned helplessness". Its basically where students second guess themselves and don't trust their own thought process and thinking. It is very easily remedied by asking questions about their process rather than showing/teaching them how to do it, and encouraging them to explain how they came to a specific answer (primarily with math and sciences, and even with correct answers). I don't think I had a single student that I had tutored that didn't struggle with this mindset, so I love that you are addressing it. Having this type of confidence and independence is such an important skill for kids to develop.
Then what do I do? If I ask her process... and its wrong? You know what I mean.. then I show her how to do it?
Absolutely I had this issue as a kid too. It’s hard to break out of that and gain confidence however it can and will be done. The lord helps restore all confidence
This wad SO honest, thank you! If we ALL as parents, educators, guidance counselors, etc. were this honest with ourselves and with each other the world would be a far greater place. However, today the world is a little better because of your courage to share with us lessons learned and regrets. Thank you!
Well said!
Uh no. People have been honest throughout the ages, that's not special just to our time. The issue is the majority of people are not honest now because they are trying to help, they are honest because they don't fear any consequences as they feel they are in like company. I'm not talking about her. Some people are very honest, some are not, some are honest because they are looking for sympathy or have some other motivation. It is good to be honest and it can also be very scary depending on what you are being honest about. Not talking about this woman.
@@ASmith-jn7kf you live outside the U.S.?
I think the most difficult judgement a homeschool parent has to learn is to make judgements that are not parental but come from an educational point of view. Sometimes, there is, for example, good reason to worry. If their skills are not up to snuff. The main response then is to do something about it. Worry, yes, does not solve anything but don't discount it. It is an early warning sign of a need.
It's a fallacy that parents, coaches and educators are not one in the same. We've allowed for these titles/responsibilities to be stripped from us parent by people who directly benefit from parents loosing credibility and our children's trust. You can't Google experience. Generetional wealth comes in many forms however book smart is not one of them. Sometimes you just have sit back and watch while they try to eat a soup with a fork.
thank you. I'll apply that excellent advice
I am a beginner teacher in homeschooling my daughter starting with 1st grade.
a few years ago, I worked with elementary and high school in formal schools as a substitute teacher but now I'm on my own start from ZERO 🌺
This is spot on! We've homeschooled for 12 years, still have many years to go, and I second everything you've said here!
Awwwww ... thanks!
These are great tips. I use an online school and I don't go for over 2hrs. My son is 5 now and it works for us. People in my family thought I was being too hard letting him do stuff himself but now he builds all kinds of wonderful things by himself and he tells me when things are wrong. I feel confident by the time we reach the older years he can and will choose his own path and accomplish whatever he wants to.
Thank you. Just thank you. Such great reminders especially about the worry. I found your video while doing my own worrying.
Thanks from a French homeschool mum.
This is seriously so helpful! I have never heard a more honest video on homeschooling. Thank you for sharing the things that you regret, you have blessed me with wanting to stay away from these things when I start homeschooling or to incorporate these things. I appreciate you for making this video to help others in their journey especially myself ☺
Thanks for sharing these!
Love this thank you for sharing! I needed to hear this as we are new to homeschooling.
Love this! Thank you for creating this video. It is so helpful. ❤
Thank you! I really really appreciate this input from you long term homeschooling mama 😊
Thank you for sharing! I am on my second year of homeschooling and all these points hit home for me thank you!!
Thank you very much for creating this sweet video on sharing your experiences on homeschooling. Truly helpful!
Thank you for your wisdom, honesty and time 😌 I will be homeschooling our 2 year old and I cannot wait!
I appreciate your transparency.
I have so many of the same regrets! Particularly allowing my older kids to take the reins more. As they graduated, it was a bit of a rough transition for them to suddenly not have me hovering anymore!
Thank you! I was stressed out today and this is just what I wanted to hear. God bless.
What a wonderful video! Thank you! We just started homeschooling less than a month ago and I am already regretting not starting a journal. I am now going to! Thank you so much!
I am feeling this one. I have all the same exact regrets after 8 years of homeschooling so far! Sigh. May God help us and give us wisdom and peace moving forward.
Lots of fantastic tips here! Thank you.
Great video. I am diving into home schooling. And my gut is saying I'm making the right decision. My child has anxiety with being back since schools were closed with the pandemic. Returning to school this 2021 has left us both filled with high anxiety. I am in Chicago and the public school system is a mess. They are not following social distance practices. The schools are also dirty and they don't even let the children use the cleaning supplies that we parents have purchased for the children to have in school. My child is in 6th grade this year. She refuses to use the schools restrooms all day. She says she doesn't feel comfortable at school and is afraid of getting covid 19 bc its so crowded. Praying for guidance and I know my child will have a way more positive experience with home school. She is in a gifted program at CPS. Scores high across the board on every subject, even when we had to go remote last year. Im sure she will do great at home school. Again thank you for this video. It truly set my anxious mind at ease 😌
Thank you so much!!! This was such helpful information. I'm preparing to homeschool my 3 children after this school year. This will be a huge change for our family!!
UK has gone into another full lockdown and our kids are back to remote learning. This video is amazing, I’m going to take your lessons and apply this to our home learning time at home. God bless you and your family xx
Love this. I am on year 22 and have developed most of those same regrets.
Thanks! I'll check out your blog. This is my 7th year as a homeschool mom.
I do appreciate your honesty. I have been overwhelmed with so many curriculums. I am a new homeschool mom, still trying to pick a “perfect” curriculum.
Thank you for this video. God bless you.
Your videos are so incredibly helpful! I am trying to raise four kind, smart, and well rounded children. The current curriculum choices and videos are overwhelming to say the least. I am great full to have stubbled upon your channel.
I’ve been homeschooling for 9 years, and this is the best homeschool video I have ever seen, and I’ve watched a lot! I’ve bought about every curriculum there is, and none is “the best”. You are 110% right on every single thing!!! Amen, amen, amen!!!
so honest and sincere. Love your videos.
Hello from Florida. Because of this virus, we decided to homeschool will virus calm down. I worry a lot, a lot! This video helped me to calm down a little and decided to do more relaxed approach. Thank you for nice tips.
This was incredibly helpful. Thank you 👍
Thank you for sharing, really interesting.
I never homeschool my children but for the past 3 years I been really thinking about it. 😩
Don’t do it
@@sabrinasmith1182 why?
Omggg I needed to here this today!!! Thank you ❤
Excellent video! Thank you so much
I don't have the benefit of being a hoarder because I don't have the funds for all things new and exciting. I didn't change curriculum much so I remember what we did. However, taking lots and lots of photos helped me. Our kids keep primary journals, which is a wonderful keepsake. Thank you for your transparency. My oldest is in 7th grade, and we've always homeschooled. This experience coming after 12 years of teaching in private and public schools. That has helped me not question my homeschooling choices. (I knew what was on the other side).
Your a teacher so that is a good skill set for your children
Thanks I’m a new homeschooler. One kinder. One two pre k. 😍 thank you for your output. I’ll be subscribing for sure
Thank you SO very much for this video. It was very helpful! ♥️♥️♥️
This was so helpful!
God bless you!
You are very well spoken and personable. Well done 👍😉
Lovely! Thanks for sharing!
I used to worry about how to educate best, until one year a scholarly type gave me three books to read. Each one was secular. Each written by a prominent educator. And EACH had different 'facts', styles, priorities and opinions.
Reading those books was the best thing that happened to me, because if those professional educators couldn't get it 'right', then I could be free from all the regular, lower-level, educating nay-sayers.
Can you supply me names of these works..
Suzu
The book names please?
@Suzu, we are in year two of homeschooling and could really use the advice. Would you please share the books recommended to you? 🤗
this is fantastic! and relatable .. and extremely Helpful.
This was very helpful, thank you!
Thanks for sharing， just planing homeschooling my kid
Thank you so much for sharing this. It was very valuable information and much appreciated! Thank you again!
You're very welcome!
nobody really worried about whether I would turn out ok, and I did!! The Lord Jesus Christ had plans for my life and I'm so glad He worked it all out!
Thank you for this! I’m just about to start and I am “worried” too 🙈 I really want to do an excellent job with my baby
Great advice! Thank you!
Can you talk more about regret number 3, getting your kids to do learning more independently?
Thanks, your perspective is helpful.
yaasssss!!! Thank you! I am about to transition my child to homeschool. This is so much help for me!! This is truly expert advice!
Thanks for doing this video! I did get a lot out of it.
Loved your video. It helps alot. Thank you
" You are the expert on your own child." Yes!
Such honest experience...thank you so much
very nice . thank you for sharing!
Thanks for share I’m thinking about homeschooling my toddlers and I’m just gathering info this is very helpful!!!
“Simple is better”! Totally agree
I appreciate the video. It helped me greatly.
Thank you for sharing. I learned a lot. Will be watching your chanel from now. Thanks for all your advice.
Wow. The best I have seen. Thank you
Excellent video!
Very cool video. We are not as far along in our journey and so it is awesome to hear a more seasoned mom's opinions. My oldest is about to be 10 and my youngest is 1 month so we have many more years ahead. -Tanya
You can do it! Good luck Mamma.
As a mom who is starting her 16th year of homeschooling, I agree with ToriAnn on all 5 counts!
Going on 4 years. Pulled my girls out when my oldest was halfway through 6th grade & youngest in 3rd. ALL THE ABOVE!
I agree with so much that you have said. I have to say my experience doesn’t confirm “it is always easier to teach something sooner rather than later.” My advice is actually not to sweat the gaps, because they will come. Gaps are inevitable and happen in regular school as well. I am finding it is quite easy to push pause and fill in gaps that have come up. In fact I feel like there is some kind of home school magic - maybe it is because we are so focused on the paths of just a few kids, maybe it is divine intervention- but we seem to take on subjects at just the right time, even when I had been wanting to start much earlier. Home school planning is like editing a story. Sometimes we get in the midst of it and realize that we need to tweak somethings, but if we end up with a cohesive story at the end of the year, I declare success. :)
I love what you said about "push pause and fill in the gaps when they come." I have found that to be true again and again as well. It's not a "missed chance" thing. It's more about "second chance."
True..I understand fractions now as an adult through cooking and homeschooling my own children than I did from like, 3rd grade on!
Thank you very much for sharing! This year will be our first year of homeschool and I am excited and feeling optimistic thanks to your video! I have a soon to be 5 year old so I’m grateful that we get to bond together in this way as my daughter and I both learn how to do homeschooling. I’m also excited to include my 3 year old son in it. I can’t wait.
P.S. I love your hair, what style haircut is it?
How was it?
Love This! thank you
This is great. I am struggling right now with starting the transition with my oldest being more independent. I have just started thinking this and you just solidified it in my mind, thank you for sharing these.
Also, love your hair and glasses.
You're welcome! (And thank you!)
This was so helpful
I had a great teacher who was like this
On the journaling…if that seems too much to add to an already full plate, a short cut that is not as good , but may still provide a lot of information on any given year is to make a yearly list from your calendar or planner.
Before I threw away my wall calendar full of the past year’s events, camps, classes, church programs, sports events, vacations etc, I would make a list from that calendar of all we did that year or milestone that took place. So on one page, I had a quick view into what we did that year and I put that one page into a plastic sheet protector and store in a notebook. ( of course digitally would be less clutter :) It’s amazing to look back on and recall all that transpired and all the memories. Just another idea if the journaling doesn’t work out ;)
We are heading into our 7th year of homeschooling and all I can say is yes, yes, yes. All 5 are legit lol. Thanks for the dose of perspective! ❤️
Yes this is great i would also like to have one solid consecutive record keeping system just need to figure out what it will be because i have never kept a record or maintained records in any way for anything lol i am hopeful though the way you reassured us that keeping it simple is going to help us overall.
Good work!
Loved it! 👏👏👍👍
You know yr children and life the best u r the expert for your family
Thank you.
Fantastic video
Dont worry about the past. You did accomplish a lot. Look at your kids! Are they thriving? Are they inquisitive? Are they kind? Suppose you had a fire or something you would have lost your journal would that take away from what you did together? Nope. But if it means a lot start now. ;) God bless!
What a perfect video 👏🏼
thank you from Australia 😄
The Robinson curriculum method would help with a lot of these regrets- it's a self -teaching method , and boils it all down to reading, writing and math. ... Another way to solve the worry problem, is to submit to the husband/father as the decision -maker in the homeschool... God meant submission to be a blessing and lift burdens off our shoulders! !
God bless you in your motherhood and effort. Where women like you grow? Asking for my sons, it's too late for me
Hi wonderful video it is❤️ Just would like to know how did you do the transition to a independent learner. (on the 3rd point) Thank You So Much.
I’m new and trying to build a homeschool that works for me and my kids. I have an 8yo, 4yo, 2yo, and a 1yo, and I’m pregnant.
¡Muchas gracias! Thank you very much!
You are very welcome. Thanks for watching.
I love it. TURN TO THE LORD for worrying less. The LORD gives us the PEACE we SEEK. Thank you so much for your video. Actually, the Holy Spirit has been the one prompting me to home school. There are many reasons He has revealed to me. Thank you Lord. May you all and your families be blessed xx
so lovely
Thanks a lot
I am very experienced..teacher. the big lesson ...you gotta kinda hunt in packs. It's kinda like Huskies. Some pull amazingly hard. That's what homeschooling might miss. The comparisons give the learner depth. Good luck.
Thank you for your video. In hind-site, at what age do you wish you would have encouraged your kids to self-start/take some responsibility for their own lessons to build independence?
とても参考になりました！ありがとうございました。
Keeping this in mind might help. On the TV news channels when it's time for the weather report you will always hear someone say and now the weather from our expert meteorologist. And the meteorologist says the weather today will be this or it will be that and how many times have you said to yourself they sure get the weather report wrong a lot. Well if they get the weather wrong a lot just exactly how expert are they. The truth is people may be very knowledgeable about certain things but nobody is an expert.
@ToriAnn Perkey Which country are you from ? - I'm very interested in homeschooling
Overtrusting the experts. YES. Thank you.
Thanks this is interesting. If you were to go back in time would you ever consider totally unschooling?