Where I stand on My Sister Ruby and My genuine thoughts.

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  • @rosierennie5867
    @rosierennie5867 Před měsícem +1587

    My Dad says "Every hour you fish adds a precious hour to your life"
    Keep fishing, Bonnie. All my love you sweet lady xx

    • @annafleuriot2766
      @annafleuriot2766 Před měsícem +12

      My Dad used to say the same.

    • @kimberlybuman6497
      @kimberlybuman6497 Před měsícem +5

      Love that!! ❤

    • @janetdamboise6225
      @janetdamboise6225 Před měsícem +10

      Oh Bonnie Bonnie Bonnie! How I wish that I could be there and give you the biggest and longest hugs ever! I'm here in New Hampshire crying right along with you!! I can't image what you and your family and all of the Franke kids are going through! When does your mother come home or is she already home? I feel soooo bad for her and your dad also! Please give them my love when you talk to them. I love your videos and my husband and I also loves watching Joel's videos as well. He's an HVAC technician and knows how to repair appliances and you name it he can fix them. I'm sure they would get along very well 😊. Well I love you Bonnie and to hell with all the haters and rude people out there! Give hugs to your family from me and take care!!❤❤❤

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 Před měsícem +5

      If it gives you and your family peace keep on fishing, fishing really can be a calming, peaceful activity and just to be out in the nature, your family need that.

    • @afewin
      @afewin Před měsícem +2

      I love that!! 🎣💕

  • @smrichardson
    @smrichardson Před měsícem +2143

    The pain is so palpable in your voice. I can’t understand how anyone can’t see it. There is such a vast difference between not agreeing with this or that in parenting styles, and dealing with true abuse. What Ruby did was horrific. But her sins are NOT yours. I pray every day for the hearts of those babies…but also for yours. You deserve all the grace right now.

    • @lesleyannthecarnivore
      @lesleyannthecarnivore Před měsícem +36

      ❤ BEAUTIFULLY SAID! ❤

    • @Linda-qw2oe
      @Linda-qw2oe Před měsícem +6

      ❤️

    • @dawndrysdale5648
      @dawndrysdale5648 Před měsícem +8

      beautifully said ❤

    • @carmellaraffa6932
      @carmellaraffa6932 Před měsícem +25

      Hi sweet Bonnie, my heart breaks for you and your entire family! Thank you for sharing your feelings, I know it was not easy! Just know that I am praying for you all to find peace and comfort during this difficult time!❤️❤️

    • @sarahofsix
      @sarahofsix Před měsícem +11

      Beautifully said! Totally agree! ❤

  • @Farahmiyy
    @Farahmiyy Před měsícem +49

    as a Muslim I really appreciate and respect you , thanks for teaching your kids about other cultures, you are such a kind respectful person, with love from 🇸🇦🌷

  • @flowerstar0196
    @flowerstar0196 Před měsícem +208

    Siblings are not responsible for their siblings crimes or life choices.
    Sad Ruby’s family has to feel “guilty” for something they didn’t do.

    •  Před měsícem +7

      So the kids (her Nices and nephews) of the parents who don’t take responsibility are just very unfortunate? In my world we don’t undo us from our social responsibility and take a bit of responsibility for each other or the less fortunate. (Abused children.)

    • @thesweetlife9621
      @thesweetlife9621 Před měsícem +5

      Some of her siblings and her own parents have shown up in court to support her. That’s baffling.

    •  Před měsícem

      @@thesweetlife9621 this kind of upbringing is inter-generational. There’s an anonymous interview at law and crime about a direct family member who was also was raised with cuffs and food restrictions. Ruby wasn’t brain washed, Jodi just gave her permission to go that extra mile. The sisters are the flying monkeys of their parents.

    •  Před měsícem +5

      @@thesweetlife9621 they will (unconsciously) do everything to keep the family system
      In order.

  • @kathleengraham6723
    @kathleengraham6723 Před měsícem +815

    I’ve watched your whole family for over TEN years! I ACTUALLY care how you’re all doing. Wishing speedy healing for all.

    • @whitec1981
      @whitec1981 Před měsícem +6

      Me too.

    • @jordancotter4102
      @jordancotter4102 Před měsícem +4

      Same! I feel for you and see you. I’m so sorry! Praying for you often! ❤

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 Před měsícem +6

      I have occasionally followed them too, not Ruby though because I never liked her, it's such a shock something like this could happen, really hard to take in, those babies could have died, just heartbreaking . I can't imagine what the family must be going through.

    • @bronwynsuddes
      @bronwynsuddes Před měsícem +2

      Same I started watching when I was a teenager

    • @Saraa89764
      @Saraa89764 Před měsícem +1

      Same

  • @sarahlynhill9125
    @sarahlynhill9125 Před měsícem +233

    Bonnie, I have watched every one of your siblings vlogs since I was in high school. Ten years later and I still gravitate towards you and the family that you have built. You were the family, stability, and love that I never had. How you love and prioritize the people you care about shines in every video you post. This has been a life altering and devastating event, but I know that you will survive and become an even better person because of it. You have nothing to be ashamed about. NOTHING. Just know that there are people everywhere that silently love and support you.

    • @LuckyInnis
      @LuckyInnis Před měsícem +3

      Love this comment. I also started watching in high school years and years ago. Agree with everything you said in your comment ❤

    • @StRuMzNdRuMz
      @StRuMzNdRuMz Před měsícem +5

      Thankyou for saying this. I agree with you 100%. ❤

  • @MC-du7qb
    @MC-du7qb Před měsícem +152

    News flash: Nobody has to watch any fishing, or anything else they don’t want to. They are choosing to watch. This is your vlog, so carry on recording the memories you want for your family.

  • @katechandler1138
    @katechandler1138 Před měsícem +89

    People need to stop thinking they’re entitled to information from people. This is an emotional time for your family and you don’t owe anyone anything! Keep your head up!

  • @WildOrsonNatureAdventures
    @WildOrsonNatureAdventures Před měsícem +318

    You can't stop living just because this happened. You still taking this RV trip was what needed to happen. It is your family's therapy, Bonnie. Don't apologize and don't feel bad. You literally can do nothing, but love on your kids and pray for your nieces and nephews. ❤❤❤❤

    • @harper_anne2089
      @harper_anne2089 Před měsícem +2

      Agreed. You can see how much the kids are enjoying this adventure. Bonnie and Joel too. I feel it was exactly what they needed, and I hate to see it end to be honest. Bonnie has so much compassion for others. I cry when she cries. I feel her pain. Praying for Bonnie's nieces and nephews is the best advice I've seen thus far in this comment section. The Lord hears our prayers. Prayers for peace, comfort and strength for this family and the Franke children ✝

    • @IxeNixe
      @IxeNixe Před měsícem +1

      Omg what a SHOW

    • @HopeHoop08
      @HopeHoop08 Před měsícem

      Amen to that, sister.

  • @kristyneal5330
    @kristyneal5330 Před měsícem +274

    I’ve watched your family for years!!! I think we all saw this coming with Ruby. I’m so proud of you and Joel. How y’all took your children out of the stress and have spent so much time together in Florida. You have always been my favorite! Don’t let the Morons get to you. Love y’all!!

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 Před měsícem +13

      I was concerned how she sometimes seemed to treat her children but I was still absolutely shocked when I saw the pictures and that she had done things like let the children stand in the sun for hours, I could never have imagined she would do something that evil and actually torture her kids, that she would be capable of almost killing her kids. I don't know if something has happened or snapped with her mentally, before they are least used to look clean and healthy.

    • @suzannec8400
      @suzannec8400 Před měsícem +4

      I have to agree with both comments I noticed in 2019 more so but that being said what can Aunts and Uncles do other then report I think Ruby should be evaluated in my opinion because judging by earlier video she wasn’t like that ,like others have stated Bonnie and Joel “ Mark” are not responsible.

    • @briannasassone
      @briannasassone Před měsícem +3

      @@suzannec8400 I Completely agree with you. I was watching videos of Ruby before 2019, and I noticed she wasn't like that. I also noticed a change in 2019 not only with Ruby but with the whole family. The family is not responsible for any of Ruby's actions.

    • @suzannec8400
      @suzannec8400 Před měsícem +3

      @@briannasassone I think back and thought the children seemed more relaxed or something like that . Also I remember Shari saying in a podcast that Jodi or connectors whatever was around since she was in grade 10.

  • @haleyg711
    @haleyg711 Před měsícem +294

    Bonnie, you fish, fish, fish all day long! You’re not hiding, you’re not guilty. You’re healing, you’re grieving, you are human! We all love you Bonnie. We all support you and your family! ❤

    • @mintytruffle69
      @mintytruffle69 Před měsícem +1

      @@antarctifymusic🙄

    • @Maeve2001
      @Maeve2001 Před měsícem +3

      This just proves how naive you are……😳

    • @HopeHoop08
      @HopeHoop08 Před měsícem +7

      @@antarctifymusic Fishing isn’t cruel. And also give Bonnie a break. Her and her family are going through so much that you don’t know of. Fishing is how people feed their family’s. Fishing is relaxing and a fun activity to do with family. Maybe you should try it sometime.

    • @mikaelpersaud5094
      @mikaelpersaud5094 Před měsícem +3

      Who says she's guilty? She's not ruby.

    • @HopeHoop08
      @HopeHoop08 Před měsícem +1

      You live your life and worry about yourself not others. They can fish all they want, we all can fish when we want. You don’t have a say in ANYONES lives.

  • @emmaliedorr3085
    @emmaliedorr3085 Před měsícem +45

    Bonnie, I cannot even imagine what one minute in your day even feels like. All I can say, is the light you have shown through your fishing trips, time spent with friends and family, and your new church family, have entirely lit up your smile! I am so proud of you for continuing to wake up each day and taking it on strong willed! Thank you for continuing to show your rawness and strength! ❤

  • @jillianmcclay6621
    @jillianmcclay6621 Před měsícem +125

    I’m a silent follower and don’t ever comment but Bonnie seeing & hearing the pain you have is heavy. Praying for you & your family during this tough time. Keep fishing & enjoy every moment of it! I hope your family has a blessed Easter🤍

    • @tanyacobain8794
      @tanyacobain8794 Před měsícem +3

      Bonnie I’ve been watching your family for a long time. I’m hearing the pain in your voice sweetie. Praying for you and your whole family❤❤

    • @1751Kate
      @1751Kate Před měsícem

      Sending you a huge hug! I have always appreciated your honesty and vulnerability Bonnie hang in there, authenticity always pays off! ❤❤❤

  • @urhvearts
    @urhvearts Před měsícem +321

    Here’s a poem💛 “As dawn breaks with a gentle glow,
    Whispers soft, “It will be so.”
    The night’s despair, now washed away,
    With the promise of a new day.
    Fear not the dark, nor shadows’ sway,
    For in the light, all will be okay.”

  • @alysakaplan907
    @alysakaplan907 Před měsícem +31

    There are so many of us who actually care. Be strong for your kids. You’re doing amazing, Mama.

  • @dabne10
    @dabne10 Před měsícem +4

    I have followed you and your family since Lincoln was a baby. You are such a genuine person and the BEST mom. I know I don’t know you personally, but I do know you love and care about your family and are providing the best life for them. You are NOTHING like Ruby. You are so strong and you have so many people out there who support you! We love you!❤

  • @Smurf2309
    @Smurf2309 Před měsícem +512

    We do not learn as a society. Chadwick Bosman, Kate Middleton, Caroline Flack... these are just a few who have suffered at the hands of people who feel it is ok to target and bully others.
    No family is perfect, and no family member is a reflection of the one who did wrong. It's awful watching the rest of the family suffer because of Ruby's decisions.
    This poor family has been driven away from their home to find rest and are still being violated.
    Kindness goes a long way! If something serious happened to Bonnie, those same people would be the first to say how sad it is.
    Shameful behaviour 😔
    Keep going Bonnie. ❤

    • @Anika-cu8lw
      @Anika-cu8lw Před měsícem +11

      You put it so beautifully, while we all realize this and know this, I was going to put a comment asking Bonnie for "answers " But reading this just made me realize the mistake I was about to make.
      It's very easy to cloud yourself by the opinions of thr "conspiracy theorists"
      Kindness, compassion, empathy doesn't come easy, it's hard work
      But we all can try ❤❤
      So thank you ❤

    • @kahlaschmidt505
      @kahlaschmidt505 Před měsícem +23

      People are doing the same to Chad Franke. How terrible! The child has been through enough without more hurtful behavior from the public.

    • @kahlaschmidt505
      @kahlaschmidt505 Před měsícem

      The Religious beliefs did not cause this ! Mental health issues caused the abuse!

    • @bronwynsuddes
      @bronwynsuddes Před měsícem

      So true ❤

    • @Smurf2309
      @Smurf2309 Před měsícem +6

      @sonja.5035 firstly, do not come for me over the name. As a member of the UK I will refer to her as the name I see fit, feeling that Americans will remember this name over her formal title. Secondly, Bonnie is not a reflection of her sister. I do not believe that abuse should be aimed at her when she's not been labelled as the abuser. If you have a perfect family, by all means congratulations but for the rest of us average people, I do not believe the faults of our family members should be a measurement of the whole family.
      Your visceral personality is not wanted or needed. Are you a member of this family? Where you there for the phone calls and the conversations? Did you first hand witness anything or see Bonnie actively turn a blind eye? Then how do you know what did or did not happen based off of information you have received. This woman owes you nothing. The same way that if someone abused your children, I wouldn't ask where were you? What more could you have done to stop this from happening and then blame you for the actions of someone else. It's very easy to cast judgement until you're in the position.

  • @shanaalove
    @shanaalove Před měsícem +330

    Bonnie! You don’t owe us any explanation. Delete and block haters. Enjoy time with your family , this is out of your control. I personally love the fishing videos and vacation vlogs. Your true supporters know and love you.

  • @AlexandriaGandee
    @AlexandriaGandee Před měsícem +22

    EXACTLY we know only know a FRACTION! We see little bits and pieces of your life! I do not understand people who would do this to you. Stay strong Momma Bonnie! There are those of us who love you and stand behind you and your family no matter what.

  • @xzAllisonxz
    @xzAllisonxz Před měsícem +26

    You are not Ruby. The system failed those kids when the authorities were called multiple times. It's a system failure that failed those children. Yes ruby and Jodi did the unthinkable and they are where they should be right now. But when the system was called multiple times and nothing was done, that's so sad. Our system is so broken it needs such a huge overhaul change. Please stay well and keep fishing. You're not Ruby and you aren't responsible for what happened. You did what you could.

  • @angeladunick-xs1mu
    @angeladunick-xs1mu Před měsícem +156

    A recent trauma conference where I live had an amazing speaker who said the best way to recover from trauma is to stop replaying in your mind over and over and instead, accept it happened, put it in the past, and focus on the ‘now’ and the future which is what you are doing.
    Enjoy fishing and any activity that sparks joy. It’s difficult when this situation is in the media so much but the only people accountable are Ruby and Jody. They are responsible for their actions, no one else.

    • @lifeaccordingtotheo9643
      @lifeaccordingtotheo9643 Před měsícem +6

      Thats ridiculous because a main symptom of ptsd/ptsi is reoccuring thoughts/dreams regarding the trauma that you cant stop. I cant imagine how traumatizing it would be to tell someone to just simply stop what they cant. What a fluff conference, how much $ did you pay them to give unscientific advice?

    • @lifeaccordingtotheo9643
      @lifeaccordingtotheo9643 Před měsícem

      ​@user-lo4gm6vr2bExactly!

    • @freeandhappybumblebee
      @freeandhappybumblebee Před měsícem +2

      I am currently in training to help people recover from trauma. And you are correct. Reliving the trauma makes the body, mind and Spirit experience it over again like it is happening again and again and again. So for example, seeing your mother die in front of you is traumatic. She died only once. But if someone replays it over and over and over over a course of years, the mother died 1000s of times and the person with trauma has seen her die not once but 1000s of times.
      After the healing begins, a person can learn how to gently redirect thoughts and avoid or lessen trauma. Eventually, more positive thoughts will become the norm. The memories will still be there but the person has learned to reprocess them.

    • @angeladunick-xs1mu
      @angeladunick-xs1mu Před měsícem

      @@lifeaccordingtotheo9643 it wasn’t a fluff conference. My city has been through earthquakes which killed hundreds of people and a terrorist attack killing many. The advice of experts was needed and gave people hope. There were many speakers but the one I referred to wasn’t implying you simply stop thinking or replaying a particular event as of course it’s not that easy but he gave advice on strategies to help redirect thoughts and activities that help, it all takes time but learning how to help yourself and others was invaluable. I myself, recently lost my dad to cancer so while that is an entirely different situation it is easy to go down the hole of reliving six months of his slow decline, when I find myself beginning to do that I take control of my thoughts and try and begin to focus on something that’s positive and current, doing that has really helped.

    • @tabortoothtiger7580
      @tabortoothtiger7580 Před měsícem +1

      @@lifeaccordingtotheo9643 That's not what the OP meant. Yes, you're going to have those thoughts. It's learning to cope with them and moving forward and not dwelling on them that's the therapy part. You don't just stop thinking thoughts. That's unrealistic, and nobody is saying to try to do that. OP, and I agree with them, is saying to find other outlets and to not dwell on the trauma constantly to the point you're driving yourself insane, as other commenters have said. Did Angela say to JUST STOP. No. But to stop agonizing over your trauma constantly and to stop putting yourself in the space where it's a constant thought. That's not going to help you. Moving forward, finding coping skills, and being able to recognize the trauma and find an outlet is what's going to help you. It's not easy. It's hard as fuck to do. As someone with OCD who has had to learn to tune out intrusive thoughts and feelings for years and has had to work through her own share of trauma in life, and will have to do so for the rest of my life, I know you can't just STOP those things. But you can find other outlets and distractions and coping mechanisms and learning to live around and get through that trauma instead of reliving it over and over again. You don't just have to sit there and relive your trauma over and over and over again. That's been shown to not desensitize someone from their trauma, but causes it to become work and can send people into a mental breakdown. Nobody is saying completely stop your thoughts on your trauma, or trauma responses. They're saying find a healthy way to compartmentalize and get through said trauma. Fishing, in Bonnie's case, and getting away from their town, is giving her a break from constantly thinking about the traumatic bull going on around her. Clearly, you don't know much about the science either, so why even open your mouth and get so defensive over something that was NEVER said? You put words into Angela's post and took it completely wrong.

  • @ediereay7507
    @ediereay7507 Před měsícem +30

    Bonnie, my dad went to Florida to heal when my mom died. We visited him there and had some sweet times. My sisters and I went to Florida to grieve my dad. I have watched your vlogs with a smile on my face thinking your family was finding some of the peace we found there. I get it. Even those rainy Florida days bring a cozy feeling. Be strong but keep your heart soft.❤❤❤❤

  • @LaurenSummer
    @LaurenSummer Před měsícem +3

    The profound impact of your sister's actions reverberates through you, your family, and your community, leaving an indelible mark that's difficult for anyone to fully comprehend. My heart aches not only for the children who endured unimaginable suffering but also for you and your own family. I can only begin to imagine the immense challenges the older children are facing, grappling with fear, shame, and sadness in the wake of their cousins' torment. Your courage in sharing your raw and heartfelt account of this tragedy is truly commendable and deeply moving. The depth of pain you're experiencing is palpable, but please know that you are not walking this journey alone. Sending an outpouring of love and healing energy to you and all those affected by this profound and distressing situation.

  • @Zebralovergirl0919
    @Zebralovergirl0919 Před měsícem +1

    I have watched all of your families channels for many years. I know your hearts are made of pure gold and cannot imagine the pain this whole situation has caused for EVERYONE involved. You are entitled to protecting yours and your families peace and however you go about that is nobody else’s business. I pray for your entire family Bonnie❤️

  • @carmendavidson8603
    @carmendavidson8603 Před měsícem +108

    I am usually a quiet viewer. But, Bonnie you have all rights to feel how you are feeling. You are human at the end of day! Don’t stop being you! Don’t stop fishing! 🎣 take the time with your family. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. ❤

  • @anya876
    @anya876 Před měsícem +127

    Bonnie, I grew up seeing you “cry on the internet” and I know for certain it taught me so much about processing my own emotions, there is nothing wrong about it. I cannot find the words to express how sorry I am that it happened to them, and I am so sorry it happened to you too

  • @courtneycox8297
    @courtneycox8297 Před měsícem +7

    It is NOT pathetic to cry. You are honoring us with your presence in the face of unspeakable grief. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @brookejustesen8925
    @brookejustesen8925 Před měsícem +13

    You are not selfish in the slightest. I’m so sorry so many people have told you that. You are so clearly genuine, empathetic, and caring. People do not understand how helpless it feels when you know your nieces and nephews are being mistreated by someone you had loved your entire life. I have been there on a wayyyyy smaller scale and it broke me. I can’t imagine how you are feeling. I’m praying for your entire family. 🥺

  • @andreamcdaniel5507
    @andreamcdaniel5507 Před měsícem +18

    Every single Florida vlog has been a joy to me! It’s plain to see how therapeutic it has been for your family! I love you guys and you ALL are still in my prayers❤️

  • @erinzavarello5611
    @erinzavarello5611 Před měsícem +64

    I am so sorry Bonnie. I even think about it during the night as a stranger! I can’t imagine the trauma in your family but I feel your and your family’s pain even if it’s just a fraction. We are always praying for you and your entire extended family. We know it feels unbearable at times. ❤

  • @Elmogirl737
    @Elmogirl737 Před měsícem +2

    I’ve followed you and Ellie for YEARS and years, and I know without a shadow of a doubt you love your nieces and nephews. I am so sorry that you have been put in this position, that your family is having to go through this tragic series of events. And mostly, that the world seems to have no empathy these days. Stay strong, love on those kiddos. Your family is in my heart and on my mind often. ❤

  • @sofiafarr22
    @sofiafarr22 Před měsícem +1

    bonnie i hope you see this with my whole heart.
    you were my absolute childhood and have gotten me through so many hard times. anyone who knows you truely knows that you are the kindest, most caring, beautiful person ever, you are such a fantastic mother and you need to know that it isnt your fault in the slightest. only god knows how hard this time must be for you, im wishing you the most eternal strength to manage to get through this. the fact your're crying over this just shows how compashionate and caring you really are, letting us in on your emotions on the whole situation must've taken a whole lotta guts and its so admirable to see. continue to protect and spend time with those who really make your heart happy and offer you comfort. always remember that you have a huge army behind you tat will defend you eternally. wishing you all the best during these impossible times❤❤❤

  • @ashleylancaster3378
    @ashleylancaster3378 Před měsícem +12

    My heart is shattered for every single one of you who has been affected by this tragedy. As a mom myself, a sister, and an aunt, I know this must feel like a wound that is raw, horrific, and constant. My prayer for you is that you will be wrapped in the support of those who are praying for all of you and know that we hold this grief with you gently and respectfully. You are all loved.❤️‍🩹

  • @sarahholt1740
    @sarahholt1740 Před měsícem +213

    Don’t stop fishing!❤️🎣

    • @yvonnemccormack1043
      @yvonnemccormack1043 Před měsícem +14

      I’m in the Florida fishing support group… it’s great they are on holidays!!

    • @kcnurse19
      @kcnurse19 Před měsícem +5

      Fishing is therapeutic. Focusing on a task that is different and gives the kids so much joy is just perfect!

    • @KatelynRuff1529
      @KatelynRuff1529 Před měsícem +3

      I like seeing you guys fighting 🎣❤.

    • @jberryinn
      @jberryinn Před měsícem +2

      So the Karen's of the world want you to quit your income, ignore your children and destroy your marriage because of your sister? Ok if Child Protective Services were not able to intervene, what do people want you to do?
      Keep fishing Bonnie!

    • @BellabooItaly22
      @BellabooItaly22 Před měsícem +3

      You are loved.....
      Lean into God, and know we are praying for you 🙏

  • @karenricci8885
    @karenricci8885 Před měsícem +3

    Bonnie, I can’t imagine how you are and your entire family are feeling. I am Praying for all of you, especially your nieces and nephews.

  • @alxblan2o10
    @alxblan2o10 Před měsícem +1

    Sweet Bonnie, i just want to give you a hug. I am so so very sorry that this is a part of your life's story. Praying for so much peace, clarity, direction and healing for you and your family ❤️❤️❤️

  • @nicolepalachicky8033
    @nicolepalachicky8033 Před měsícem +369

    You shouldn't hide Bonnie. you're a good person and a good mum. You are not responsible for Ruby's deeds. I hope that your mum will post again someday. 💙🇦🇺

    • @annagh2351
      @annagh2351 Před měsícem +33

      Yes I watched grandma & grandpa Griffith's channel religiously!! It infuriates me when people say Ruby acted and did the things she did because it's how she was raised or she was put through the same things. Chad and Jennifer are two of the sweetest people and it shows through Bonnie, Beau, Ellie and Julie. I hope eventually they'll be ready to come back to CZcams. ❤️

    • @LittleBitOfLife
      @LittleBitOfLife Před měsícem +28

      @@samg873Grandma & Grandpa Griffith wrote a letter of support for Ruby to the courts. It was made public.
      This runs very deep and families are complicated, and I’m sure it is very painful for Bonnie to not agree with Ruby’s crimes while it has been made public that her parents and some siblings have sided with Ruby.
      💔

    • @MultiCinderella23
      @MultiCinderella23 Před měsícem +9

      Bonnie, you are not responsible for Ruby’s actions. Prayers for your mom and dad. Miss their vlogs! You have a beautiful family! I am praying for Ruby’s kids.

    • @LittleBitOfLife
      @LittleBitOfLife Před měsícem +7

      The letter was written recently. The children were rescued in August. Bonnie has said they were aware of what happened. And yes, other siblings have shown ways of support to Ruby since… very sad either way.

    • @ECook13
      @ECook13 Před měsícem +3

      Bonnie you keep doing what you are doing. So much love and prayers going to each and every one of you. ❤❤❤

  • @hawaiingirl14
    @hawaiingirl14 Před měsícem +30

    There is no user manual for this Bonnie. All of your complicated and layered feelings are so valid. The real people know without you having to even explain. Keep going one day, one hour at a time, and take your time ❤️

    • @IxeNixe
      @IxeNixe Před měsícem

      What is she crying about? Only HERSELF, not the Kids 😢

  • @michellehosein2130
    @michellehosein2130 Před měsícem +1

    I just pray that you always feel the love from us supporters that have been here from the beginning. I truly love and support your family. And I'm so amazed with your strength. ❤

  • @erynpicard4816
    @erynpicard4816 Před měsícem +4

    Bonnie, your kids need and deserve for you to keep living and trying your best to keep them protected from all this craziness. You’re doing a good job, you’re human, and I pray that things get better, just a little bit each day.

  • @jenniferlavery7226
    @jenniferlavery7226 Před měsícem +76

    You owe no one an explanation Bonnie but am sure all your loyal watchers appreciate you sharing your thoughts it speaks volumes ❤ sending love xxxx

  • @JessicaAnsell
    @JessicaAnsell Před měsícem +71

    I love you and your family Bonnie. I cried with you watching this video. I have followed along with your family for years and years and those that have are the ones that know who you truly are, the others don’t matter. I’m glad you’re deleting their comments. You’re a beautiful human, a wonderful mother and wife, and someone who gives her everything to everyone. I will never stop watching and supporting you. Sending lots of love and prayers 🩷🩷🩷 Keep enjoying that fishing! I love those videos! I use to love fishing with my family when I was younger. Fishing as a family are some of my most cherished memories. Once I caught a fish on a Redvine, maybe it can be a new challenge for the kids 😊

  • @elizabethadollard2657
    @elizabethadollard2657 Před měsícem +4

    Bonnie, you continue to amaze me. You are so strong. You are going through something that is unfathomable. Nothing about this is pathetic. You have been affected and impacted by something so incredibly huge. Heal in whatever way you need. You are strong. What a strong example you are for your kids. I continue to be amazed by your strength and grace.

  • @barbhawkinson659
    @barbhawkinson659 Před měsícem +6

    Bonnie I can see behind the smile...the eyes always show how the heart is really feeling and your eyes have shown a shattered heart since this nightmare began. How do I know? Because everyday I live trying to make people believe im ok when im not. My first thought when all of this new evidence hit the media was I hope you guys stay longer in Fl. I hope you do more fishing, see more sunsets, ride your bikes, play in the rain, eat ice cream, paint, search for shells and glass bottles, search for sharks and just be together in a beautiful place in the sunshine under the palm trees. Please keep filming even if its more fishing and even if you say nothing. It gives me chance to see that you are ok. You are always in my thoughts and in my prayers. I wish i could drive to the keys and give you a gentle hug ..you are so loved. I see you and i hear your silence loud and clear ❤🕊

  • @AmyRenneberg
    @AmyRenneberg Před měsícem +11

    Bonnie I have never commented on a single video on CZcams in my life. I’ve watched you for a long time and just want you to know how precious you are. Not a single person would know how to navigate this situation.
    Your heartache is so warranted. Keep doing you!
    Praying for you and your family from all the way up in a tiny town in Canada!

  • @yvonnemccormack1043
    @yvonnemccormack1043 Před měsícem +60

    It’s affected me so I can’t imagine how it’s affecting you. Your kids cousins your parents grandchildren your siblings nieces and nephews… there are so many victims and affected people. My heart bleeds for you all… I’m gutted this happened and it’s inspiring to see you live and keep your family in a place of safety and well-being.
    Keep fishing and letting your kids be kids.

  • @leahrubin7752
    @leahrubin7752 Před měsícem +2

    There is no way that anyone outside of you will fully understand what you are going through, but we are here for you. This is your platform, and you have the right to post your feelings and thoughts without being bashed. So for as long as you need it, we are here for you❤️

  • @shelby9109
    @shelby9109 Před měsícem +7

    As an aunt myself and a mother... I could never ever imagine seeing my booboos(what I call my nieces and nephews) in the condition that you had to see your niece and nephew in.. I would die inside and my whole world would be in shambles.
    Stay strong Bonnie🥺🥺

  • @katiesatterfield2361
    @katiesatterfield2361 Před měsícem +158

    Praying so hard for you, Bonnie. You are not your sister's mistakes. You are a wonderful mother and friend, and anyone who has followed you for a while knows it too.

  • @user-gt5ld2pj2w
    @user-gt5ld2pj2w Před měsícem +173

    Bonnie, you are NOT Ruby. You are amazing. You're an amazing mom. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Take care of yourself and your family!

  • @katee8758
    @katee8758 Před měsícem +2

    im 19 and i grew up watching all of you. you were all huge parts of my childhood along with other families. and i hear you bonnie. please NEVER feel guilty or selfish about how you’re feeling. and keep fishing it’s so therapeutic!!! real people who love you get it and we hear you. i hope your kids are okay too and even ellie and her kids.

  • @sandragroters2270
    @sandragroters2270 Před měsícem

    Bonnie, i’ve had you and your parents and entire family in my thoughts and prayers. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but know we support YOU and please please remember that i’ve received so much guidance regarding how to parent from your videos. LOVE YOU!

  • @ScarlettKay494
    @ScarlettKay494 Před měsícem +92

    If all of us strangers are so deeply affected by this, I can’t even imagine how extremely difficult this has been for you. I can’t believe people are bashing you in any way regarding this.

    • @bronwynsuddes
      @bronwynsuddes Před měsícem +1

      So true I know where she is coming from I was a child of abuse it’s the hardest thing anyone can go through

  • @OurExtraGift
    @OurExtraGift Před měsícem +40

    Can't even describe the love I have for you and your family. ❤️ Praying daily for strength and that your hearts can still experience joy through all the heartache. You are such a wonderful person Bonnie - sending all my love and the biggest hug. 🤍

  • @leahhope1040
    @leahhope1040 Před měsícem +3

    Siblings are NOT responsible for their siblings actions! Everyone makes their own choices and just because you’re related by blood does not mean you’re the same. 💗

  • @BrendaSchrock
    @BrendaSchrock Před měsícem

    Bonnie, I am praying for you, and all those affected in this very traumatic situation. You do whatever you need to do to heal,no matter what others may say. Take all the time you need.❤

  • @karmelsterry6673
    @karmelsterry6673 Před měsícem +19

    I have been thinking about you all week, my heart hurts for you. I am sending lots of love and prayers to you and your family. You are a good and beautiful woman Bonnie inside and out xxx

  • @fullthrottletvtwo
    @fullthrottletvtwo Před měsícem +27

    U don’t owe anyone an apology,,, hugs miss and lots of support from Canada 🙏🏻❤️

  • @CaramelMami88
    @CaramelMami88 Před měsícem +3

    Bonnie,
    For one, I Love You and Your Family! Secondly, I’m sorry that you feel the need to address this because you all have gone through soooo much! Third, you all are strong and most definitely, stronger together! Continue to lean on your Faith and the Love you all for each other! I’ve watched y’all for years. You guys have gotten me through depression, grief and so many other things. I have celebrated, cried and prayed with you! Just know that y’all are doing your best and I fully believe that without a doubt, your Faith, Love and Deepest Prayers will get your Family and all the kids through this tough time! You guys are in my Prayers and Thank You so much for being you!
    Love from NC! (Sending hugs and positive vibes)❤

  • @micahmedlin9019
    @micahmedlin9019 Před měsícem +4

    Bonnie, i have watched you for many many years. I have prayed for you and will continue to do so in the days to come. You are beautiful, everything you touch has intention behind it. Your children and husband love you, that’s very obvious. Keep fishing, Bonnie. ❤️

  • @ashleelee4526
    @ashleelee4526 Před měsícem +14

    I hope those babies are wrapped in nothing but love during this. I cannot imagine having to be a part of this struggle so publicly and having to “keep it together”. I have been following a lot of your family for many many years and my heart is broken for you

  • @kaariangell6350
    @kaariangell6350 Před měsícem +9

    I so desperately want to reach through the screen and give you a hug! Your whole family has been through trauma and it will take time to heal. Your pain and trauma is real! It deserves respect and understanding! Please know that that you are supported! ❤

  • @laurensnyder6536
    @laurensnyder6536 Před měsícem +1

    Oh Bonnie, my heart breaks for you. I’m sorry that you’re hurting so much. Sending so much love and big hugs! I’ve been watching since before I had kids and you’ve been such a role model for me. I want to be a mom like you! Thanks for sharing so much of your heart.

  • @Katliott
    @Katliott Před měsícem +3

    My heart sunk listening to you talk about your sister and nieces and nephew and I commend you standing your ground… I’ve read between the lines… thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings ❤ 3:46

  • @Katie-ib8jr
    @Katie-ib8jr Před měsícem +16

    whenever bad things happen its so quick to feel like its the end. like theres no light. and for a long time there may be no light, your life might be consumed by the darkness. however, with time, patience, and love you will see the light again! let the emotions be felt but don't let the bad thoughts consume you. continue to love yourself and if theres moments where you can't bring yourself to love yourself, it's okay to seek love from friends and family. ❤thinking and praying for your family ❤

  • @paigehaslam2038
    @paigehaslam2038 Před měsícem +13

    You are one of the bravest people I have ever witnessed putting yourself out there regardless of what happened. She is your sister, but YOU are NOT your sister. Going to Florida was much needed for you. I applaud Joel for making your mental health a top priority. That is true love. As far as comments go, you have every right to delete what ever comment you want. It’s your channel. We love you and your family Bonnie! I’m always praying for you guys.

  • @meaninginthemundane9227
    @meaninginthemundane9227 Před měsícem

    Bonnie, I have followed you for years and genuinely care about how you and your family are doing. I am heartbroken for you all and I am so sorry you felt like you had to make this video. I am so, so sorry for what your family has faced. Thank you for sharing your heart, and for taking us along your Florida adventures - fishing and all! Your Florida videos have been so lighthearted and joyful to watch and I pray that this time has brought a little bit of healing to your aching hearts.

  • @destinyharris6579
    @destinyharris6579 Před měsícem

    I genuinely LOVE you and your sweet family Bonnie! I admire so much the strength that you don’t even realize you have! I know that you are all going through the unimaginable right now and the pain in your voice alone speaks volumes but in all honesty you don’t owe anyone an explanation! You’re going through more than enough without the added stress from total strangers whose only mission in life is to tear others down. I want you to know that you are all in my prayers daily and I know that you all will pull through this ❤

  • @rach_elle
    @rach_elle Před měsícem +43

    I wrote a big long comment … but basically ….. just sending love strength and prayers for you all. And I’ll watch as many fishing videos as u put out if it means that’s one way I can support you guys.. xx

  • @legohuman0778
    @legohuman0778 Před měsícem +9

    We love you. It maybe hard for some of us but your pain is real and more raw than anyone’s. We hear you all ❤️

  • @caitlynjones3034
    @caitlynjones3034 Před měsícem +1

    My heart is breaking seeing and hearing your pain. Your feelings are so valid, Bonnie. Praying for you all. I truly am and I truly have been

  • @cloroxbleach6588
    @cloroxbleach6588 Před měsícem +3

    Hi Bonnie, I’m new to your channel and though I don’t know anything about you, I can tell that you are very genuine and affected by this situation deeply. You don’t owe any of those people an explanation and you deserve to take the time you need to be able to process. I wish you the best.

  • @sofiamaria194
    @sofiamaria194 Před měsícem +10

    We love you Bonnie❤️Your heart is in the right place . Prayers to your family and all the Franke kids

  • @missparkchimmy95
    @missparkchimmy95 Před měsícem +99

    You DONT need to say sorry to ANYBODY. I pray for you 🙏 and send my love an thoughts your way Bonnie. 🙏

    • @missparkchimmy95
      @missparkchimmy95 Před měsícem

      @samg873 I agree, Bonnie & her family don't deserve to be crucified for another family members wrong doings. Outsiders really have NO right treating them this way.

  • @briellevlogs8847
    @briellevlogs8847 Před měsícem

    Bonnie, you are amazing and there’s a lot of us that care so much about you and your family and we see you| I know that this is going to be a long road of healing. You are so brave to come on here and you have a whole bunch of us that love you guys!

  • @makenziebramblett6232
    @makenziebramblett6232 Před měsícem

    We hear you, and every feeling you have is so valid. Thank you, for choosing to be vulnerable and share with us. We love you all. Sending you SO, so much love ❤️❤️❤️

  • @HeyyBrey
    @HeyyBrey Před měsícem +46

    Bonnie, I think at the end of the day these terrible comments come from people who have no emotional control or maturity. They grew up in households where their caregivers/parents didn’t teach them compassion, critical thinking or tact. Being accusatory, demanding, or judgmental, leaves them feeling like they have control or the moral high ground.
    You on the other hand, Bonnie, were raised learning compassion, kindness and understanding. which I’m sure makes the whole situation with Ruby more painful. She was raised in the same house, in the same religion, and she still made terrible and cruel and evil decisions… but she’s still your sister. It takes someone with a lot of emotional and logical maturity to understand that your feelings around this situation are complex, and to have compassion for you.
    Please continue to delete comments that bring you more pain. (I know I’m just a random comment but you have my approval at least.) And continue to seek and invite those who have understanding hearts, and can support you during this difficult time. ❤

  • @ADSheets1723
    @ADSheets1723 Před měsícem +4

    Bonnie I’m really sorry for everything that has happened and you are in my prayers! But I just wanted to let you know that you are an amazing person and family! Your videos no matter what it’s about always makes my day! Your videos are something I look forward to watch every chance I get! Also, I watch you guys because you are religious and you guys are a good example for me, that will lead me down the narrow path! Thank you again for these videos it means a lot to me, they help me more than you know! ❤

  • @kimmiemiller978
    @kimmiemiller978 Před měsícem +1

    Praying for you Bonnie. I can’t even imagine what your family is going through! Praying for comfort and peace through this difficult time.

  • @greenviewpuppiesPA
    @greenviewpuppiesPA Před měsícem

    Those of us that have been here and “know” you can see how much your hurting and grieving BECAUSE you care and it OF COURSE affects you. I’m sorry you all are going through this, my heart goes out to you and to those kids. Give yourself Grace because grief looks different for everybody. You have to walk it and feel it. You will be OK but it will take time. I so wish I could go through my phone and hug you. May you find moments of peace and joy, in the midst of all the heart ache.

  • @annatinsley5366
    @annatinsley5366 Před měsícem +13

    Sending hugs and love from the uk. You're an amazing mom and wife ❤️. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers 🙏 ❤️ 💖 ♥️

  • @jessesgrl09
    @jessesgrl09 Před měsícem +61

    To the crusty people who decide to just be rude and opinionated on something you know nothing about, have the day you deserve. She’s LIVING this situation you’re only hearing what the media tells you. The heartbreak and raw emotion that’s overflowing in this video is so hard to watch but it’s her reality. There’s no need to make this harder for her. This is her outlet and she doesn’t owe you ANYTHING.
    Bonnie your strength is nothing short of admirable. Those little breaks in the clouds when your smile comes back and even the curls come back in your hair is beautiful to see. Your feelings are 100% valid. And the people who are just negative and try to make you feel like you owe them something, can go take a long walk off a short pier. We love you and are praying for you ❤️

  • @oliviadavey5128
    @oliviadavey5128 Před měsícem

    You are so strong Bonnie. All of your family is so strong for going through this. I can’t even imagine how hard this is for all of you ❤ sending love and prayers🙏🏻

  • @tvinson39
    @tvinson39 Před měsícem

    Thank you for this update ❤ Those of us who have followed you and your family's stories for much longer than this current tragedy, we do genuinely worry about how you all are doing. Our hearts break for you all too; we watched all these families grow up together and we are sick thinking about what her children went through 😔 Praying for healing and strength for everyone affected 🙏❤

  • @shelldanielle1
    @shelldanielle1 Před měsícem +52

    Love you Bonnie! Proud of you for sticking up for yourself. You have done nothing wrong ❤

  • @caitlinloyd8270
    @caitlinloyd8270 Před měsícem +89

    Bonnie I wish I could protect you and your precious family from negative people! I’m constantly praying for you and your family! God knows what kind of people you are and there is no question about it! We love you!

    • @MrCullensGirl17
      @MrCullensGirl17 Před měsícem

      I wish youtube had mods like tik tok does so we could help her weed out all the negative comments. So her channel can bloom and grow with just love and support.

    • @ceceliaaustin9009
      @ceceliaaustin9009 Před měsícem

      I feel the same way!! It’s so abusive and I hope Bonnie realizes she is experiencing real trauma too…she is getting hit at all ends, while experiencing real grief!!!
      We’ll continue to pray together💕

  • @stickbug7728
    @stickbug7728 Před měsícem +3

    Bonnie, I understand. many prayers for you and your family.

  • @skibreaker334
    @skibreaker334 Před měsícem +2

    Your feelings are important and validated. Never apologize for them! Sending love and prayers for you and your family. 🙏🏻💕

  • @Emjh56
    @Emjh56 Před měsícem +4

    Praying for everyone in your family Bonnie. 💙This is an unimaginable tragedy that no one knows how to handle. This is your channel, your content, your escape. You are not selfish, you are a wonderful mother with a beautiful heart! I’ve watched you for years and will continue to watch your content. People want someone to blame and to make sense of things but there is no one to blame but R and no way to make sense of this. Keep pushing through Bonnie. The ones that are here for you will always be here! You got this!

  • @sandrasnow3569
    @sandrasnow3569 Před měsícem +7

    I'm glad my most challenging family moments haven't been for the viewing pleasure of the world. I can only imagine what the commentary from outsiders would have felt like.
    I'm wishing you and your family the best, Bonnie.

  • @lea24457
    @lea24457 Před měsícem +19

    You can’t be held responsible for your sisters actions, anyone who is judging you for that don’t deserve your time or energy. Ignore them please for you and your family, I hope you heal from all of this and live a healthy and happy life with your family . Takecare of yourself

    • @LoriWest-qm7hs
      @LoriWest-qm7hs Před měsícem

      However it's been months..her parents, siblings, kids, aren't caring about what she volunteers to feel public..look at the Holocaust...thencry

  • @deborahjones8175
    @deborahjones8175 Před měsícem +1

    Thank you for speaking out. This is a horrific situation for EVERYONE in the family. You aren't responsible for your sister's evil actions. I can't imagine the pain your parents are going through. Prayers for Ruby's kids and the entire family and everyone victimized by Ruby and Jody Hildebrandt. Thanks for your words.

  • @rebeccaturner5993
    @rebeccaturner5993 Před měsícem +11

    I am here for you and your family Bonnie, I can't even put into words on how you're feeling, heartbroken. Probably worse than that. I'm so sorry. I wish I could hug you.

  • @jordynsanders3318
    @jordynsanders3318 Před měsícem +44

    Bonnie, you're an amazing mother! You can tell in your kid's eyes the love they have for you. I'm always praying for you and your family, thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your view on this situation. 🩷💐

  • @nicoleweise6720
    @nicoleweise6720 Před měsícem

    Bonnie! I am so sorry that you have to make this video! I know this must have taken a lot of strength and those of us who can feel your pain are sending you love and strength ❤

  • @kksons82
    @kksons82 Před měsícem

    I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. I can’t imagine the pain the whole family is going through. Family is messy, I think people forget that. Prayers for your family, especially Ruby and her kids. Even though Ruby did horrific things to her kids she still needs our prayers.

  • @abbyhood9722
    @abbyhood9722 Před měsícem +47

    My heart hurts for your broken heart. So much love and prayers for your family.💓

  • @LauraSnead
    @LauraSnead Před měsícem +8

    Someone gave this to me recently as I am going through some struggles. “It is your divine right to heal as messily and as inconsistently and loudly as possible.” Cry, heal, and gain strength from your loved ones. And gain strength from your viewers that possess human compassion. Let those be the voices in your head. Disregard the rest.

  • @annamarieyoung8528
    @annamarieyoung8528 Před měsícem

    Bonnie, I've loved watching you and your family over the years. Seeing your cute, happy, bubbly personality. Your laughter in times I needed it and seeing your love for your family. I see your natural beauty and pure kind heart. That is what I've always seen. You are beautiful inside and out. I've always come to your channel for light heartedness, joy, and fun. I've always left feeling the love you have for your family and the joy you bring. I'm sorry for what has happened to your family as a whole and the hurt it has caused everyone affected by it all. It pains me to see you hurting. I hope you can find the joy again and be your cute bubbly self, even if it's just with your family. We need more people in this world like you that when someone smiles and laughs, we all feel it. I wish we could all take your pain away. Just know we support you and know who you are.

  • @taylortekulve02
    @taylortekulve02 Před měsícem +2

    you’re processing too. feel your feelings just how you need to, & don’t hold back❤️