The Feeling That Nothing Is Fun Anymore
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In this video, we reflect on the feeling of feeling less. Throughout points of life, and perhaps all of life after a point, we may find ourselves feeling like we will no longer experience joy or have fun again. But like the seasons, this can pass, and we can still harbor strength and life through and in spite of this coldness.
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"I'm not living, I'm just wasting time." That's how I've felt over the past decade or so.
I believe most people feel like they are just surviving, especially now with all the doom profiting on the internet, especially social media makes people very anxious.
I would argue society has depression, with self destructive ideation, we keep telling ourselves how evil we are and we deserve to be punished for it.
@jackbotman some of us see that it is other aspects of "people" that are engineering the world to be so. Some of us are not asking for that, but to be free of the manipulation.
@@shentsaceve5642 choice or otherwise, I see a self hating, self destructive spiecie
Nothing is wasted , it is just the way it is.
@@LordFluffingtons You're very wrong. If someone is making serious money, they are by definition not wasting time.
For younger people who feel this way, just take note that I unexpectedly had the happiest year of my life when I was 46. Cheers.
Would love to hear about it :)
How so?
good for you sir , hope and creation are biggest curses in world
Hey Anthony, please share how so? I wanna know
Feeling this way and being 44... Reading your comment is healing ☺️ thank you for sharing 🙏
I’m 65 and have watched the decline of society, (so accelerated in the last 5 years). The loss of joy in people, the indifference and disrespect all around me, the addiction to tech, the end of communication between people and the loneliness that happened once social media took over. The world has changed and become very dark. I don’t recognize it anymore. It used to feel so magical. I miss feeling alive. I decided to go to my neighborhood park recently. At night. Left my cell phone at home. They have an old fashioned swing set, put there in the 1940’s. I started swinging like I did when I was a kid. Going higher and higher and leaning back to look at the sky like I did when I was a kid. I was not alone. There were others there swinging. A few old and a few young. We were all just reaching for life again. It was beautiful.
I'm 31 and the world is a cold and lonely place now. Growing up everything felt more vibrant. Knew everyone in the street, regular parties, riding bikes and exploring the bush with the neighbourhood kids. No one does that anymore. Everyone lives insular lives and so much time is spent at work/thinking about work/recovering from work and you never really see people, maybe a quick wave as they drive out in their car. Life has become so lonely and unsatisfying..
I tried that and a couple of 'karens' with kids told me to go away, the swings and stuff were for kids.
@@Thenogomogo-zo3un😢🥺.. no issues buddy.. stay headstrong.
This made me cry. Thank you for sharing that moment. My heart aches for where our society has landed. 💔
@@Thenogomogo-zo3un Next time them fuckoff
Gosh… this is too accurate. Nothing makes it worth it anymore. Im not depressed or suicidal. Nothing just seems to spark life within me again.
I understand how you feel
Same
Have you tried cocaine?
ditto
Yep
One thing I have to do is take breaks from social media and the news. Humans were not meant to carry all the weight of the bad news in the world.
100% true.
Absolutely and something Ive been telling myself of late is that we cannot control those things that are outside our power .We have to let go and just be
This is also affecting me. For some odd reason i keep in touch with the harsh reality that we live in, the ugly truths and misery, and altough i am a prodictive, full of joy and life person publicly, i identified myself 100% with this video.
You can’t carry all the weight.
This is absolute truth and something that needs to be repeated and taught and reinforced in everyone. We neglect our mental health even more than we neglect our physical health. It's become and still becoming a crises worldwide yet is often ignored.
For me, what made me be generally happier is realizing: "I don't need to be someone important, I don't need to be rich or popular, I need to live my life for me, I need to enjoy myself". There's no one in this planet you can be forced to please all the time except for yourself
I found d there is a difference between enjoying life and chasing novelty. The latter leads you down a very dull and cynical path.
So true 👍
I think there is an even greater sense of fulfillment lurking in the world where you no longer live life for just yourself, but to contribute something great. Perhaps even make considerable, painful sacrifices. It may not be enjoyable but the line gets blurry between that deep sense of joy in the midst of pain and suffering where it's hard to define real happiness. But it seems like, for most people who went through it say that living a meaningful life was worth the sacrifice. When you help others, you become closer to the image of good. It's not a leap everyone can make immediately, but it seems like real fulfillment after you have handled what you need for yourself.
You needing to realize it means were all fucked up. Some shit happens then you go back to what you just said, and just fucking scream. You believe in what you realize until you dont lmao.
@ErenYeagerOfYmir Giving to others can get you to this bad place too, though. As a parent, teacher, and coach who has sacrificed and given every ounce and minute to others, I can tell you that it will burn you up. Very few people are grateful or appreciative- most don't notice and many along the way will complain and attack you for not doing it the way they want. It's becoming thankless, meaningless, excruciating work.
There needs to be a balance. Balance between material wealth, spiritual and emotional wealth, personal striving and giving to others. As a society, we are very unbalanced because we no longer balance each other out like back before cable news and internet we just validate and magnify our own silo of belief, and we become less balanced. The decrease of religion and virtue, and increase of entertainment and vice has also gotten us here.
We are sick, from top to bottom, more every day.
I feel like something changed in 2012-2014.
Its not just me but a paradigm shift in everyone I know. They all feel the same.
i have that feeling these days, nothing is fun, nothing is interesting, nothing is new, i have no interest what people talk about, because what others talk about is dumb, i wake up, i go to work, i do my job, i come home, i keep to myself, i never go out anymore, going out depresses me, i try to talk to people, but people don't understand the things i talk about, or they delittle me for having different views, so i remain silent, while remaining calm,
Can you watch tv? I can't. I dont care about anything anymore. Whats the solution.
For me the TV is on but I'm not really watching anything! 😐
Having that disconnect with people and conversations really in the nail in the coffin. People talking over me or thinking their opinion is superior all the time it just gets so damn old you stop wanting to talk to people ever again. At least you have work mate; I can't even find a job right now it's made things even more painful.
@@anthonysantellan9577 i think you midjudge people, no one talks over anyone except you, you're the only opinion you agree with in the room m8te, and you're the one that thinks your opinion is superior to others, but that what happens when you don't live in the real world, you get fed fake facts without knowing real facts
@@anthonysantellan9577 narcism doesn't get you far in life, it makes you blind and hard to talk to, like barying your head in the sand
The accuracy of the title actually scared the crap out of me. It's always funny how we think we find ourselves in some unique situations only to realize many others are going through the exact same thing...
edited: @videos-for-friends pointed out that the original name of the video(and the one that I'm referring to) is “So you’ve learned to stop caring, now you don’t feel anything.”
Same😔
Yes. I got the notification and it hit so hard. I've been struggling with this feeling for a while, and to see a video come up describing it exactly, makes me feel a lot better about my experience.
Individuality is a myth, almost everyone goes through the same exact things
@@kelechi_77definitely. It's really crazy how similar we all are - and I mean that in an ancestral and evolutionary context. But in terms of how we're different from one another, I think it is just a matter of how we choose to experience certain things, and how we value ourselves and our surroundings. Upbringing is a prominent factor as well.
So damn true.
I went out to a Japanese style karaoke bar last week for a friend's birthday. I was limitless and unashamed for the first time in god knows how long, singing with and in front of complete strangers. It wasn't until the ride home I realized I used to feel like this all the time.
That moment is poof nothing has changed at all. You can drop it anytime you like.
@@deadinside8781drop what?
I felt that way, too, when I was much younger. Then people, like my parents and older brother and sister, shamed me for acting the way I did. My (late) parents used to give me lengthy lectures on how bad I acted and how I should be ashamed of myself. And there were times when I got punished. So perhaps that's where the "limiting" comes from.
I can barely remember the last time I had real, honest to god, shameless fun. I feel like I’ve stepped into a reality where it just doesn’t exist anymore.
Try disc golf, and you will feel that way every single time you play!
I still remember the day I graduated from high school over 40 years ago now. I had my whole life ahead of me and I felt like I could take on the world. I was also so naive and innocent about the world. being a police officer for many years made me bitter and cynical and my experiences changed me as a person. I don't want to know the things I know. I want to be naive and innocent again.
Police work will break the best kind of men. I loved the job but it's thankless from every aspect of it. I was medically retired and 5 years later, I'm finally seeing what life can be like without violence 24/7. So many friends have killed themselves or just start doing stupid stuff because if you seek mental health help, you risk losing everything.
You have my respect and thanks.
I retired last year after 30 years in Law Enforcement, 3 years with Immigration and 27 years as a DEA agent. I did not see as much as patrol officers or homicide detectives but I saw enough, and I saw some different things about the system that have made me think a lot of things are a complete joke. I watched the world slowly crumble year after year, and the efforts of those to maintain some semblance of order and prosperity get pushed aside, by the public, politicians, and businesses in an ever more mad dash by too many people make money and gain power at any cost, even as it destroys them and everything they touch. I was happy to retire, it was time, but I think it was a career well spent, lots of good memories and lots of good friends. This year was rough, it seemed life waited to dump a bunch of things on my just as I was retiring which made my life chaos. I still feel like I haven't retired because I am always having to fix thing and deal with issues, but I am slowly getting things worked out. It helps I keep in contact with my friends from work, many who have retired, and work out, exercise, and eat better. I too would love to go back to being more innocent and naive. So I keep moving forward. I worked my whole life for something, making plenty of sacrifices along the way, I'm not giving up now. I still find so many things interesting and learn so much every day. I have realized that I need to break old habits, I don't need to the follow routines of old, I can do what I want to a much greater degree now. I try not to dwell on things I can't change and try to enjoy the time I have on this earth that is left to me regardless of the things I know and have seen. I know what is the worst thing that can happen, we all do, but in knowing that its easy to forget all the good things, big and small, that are there are still left. A good meal, family and friends, a good show, a good laugh, a beautiful day, and so many other things still left to enjoy in life. Raise your head up high, take a deep breath, you did good. That part of life is in the past now, don't forget about the life that is still in front of you, the one you worked all those years to enjoy now.
I’m an ER doctor. I’m in the same boat as you.
Then take up disc golf! You will be so glad you did. I promise you.
It does not matter how old you are, either!
Nothing hurts me anymore, but nothing also excites me anymore. I feel like a blown out candle. Being a living dead, who was forgotten to be buried...
As children, the mind is opened by wonder but with age it’s closed by belief. We don’t see what is really there, we see what we expect
well put.
hmm, well said
I'm the only one here that's too dumb to understand lol, very good what you said but what does it mean?
@@NateDoesYTim guessing it's about how when we were all children, we were curious, full of wonder with a sense of hopefulness, innocent. we did not have pessimistic views or expectations. but as we age, we learn, but mold and harden from all of the experiences we go through in life. and some of these experiences may leave us on the wrong footnote, a sour taste in our mouth, and it can impact your outlook on life and outlook on certain situations. so when a certain situation comes, we will use our previous experience as a point of reference. but this can blind us from the reality of the situation, which really is not as bad as we expect, but really, we are just using what we learned from what has happened to us before.
@@vangattan Damn...
Thanks for the explanation!
Now I understand it now.
“We often build a castle, when we only need a shield” beautiful omg😭 this really resonates
I had to pause the video to process that🫠
Same!
I have rarely resonated more with a statement than I do with this one...good work
Is the building of the castle a way to give life some meaning (“I’m building something!”) / kill time?
@@farmersmith7057 I think he meant that we build a castle to protect ourselves, which is why we become isolated
For me, it's the constant struggle of adulthood fighting against the bills and tough things: it wears you down
and addictions
Especially in this screwed up world we live in today. I feel sorry for kids now.
One day I turned my emotions off to cope and they never turned back on
I did the same, only mine came flooding back, they were too extreme so I turned them off again.
I am not alone
I did the exact same thing a few years back and they never came back again.
Same here and now i just feel empty, it's ironic since I'm an empath too but once i turned that off i have become a shell of my former self..
I have also done that, but in my experience neglected emotions come back even stronger than when I shut them off. It is only recently that I learnt that recognizing and acknowledging the emotions is what make them pass. It is so important to not judge oneself for what you are is feeling, but accept and respond to the emotion with kindness. Therapy in a Nutshell has amazing videos on how to process emotions.
It's shocking how instantaneously this effect takes place.
You wake up one day and realize that you can't remember what feelings felt like.
Then you're expecting to feel terror or at least surprise but there's nothing.
You just look at it.
You entered NPC mode
I once wrote a song where there was a line I wrote that said the following, "Nothing seems to captivate me" that still rings true for me, at least most of the time. The thrill, the zest and eagerness to experience and live this life feels like it has faded, nothing excites me as it once did, I get bored of things so quickly, nothing really holds my attention anymore, I pick up a song and quickly drop it out of boredom, I give up on something so easily because it's too difficult and the chances of success so low. I guess in a way I have become the embodiment of nihilism, life has just been too difficult these past few years that it really has done a number on my psyche, radical shift in my thinking and views on life
Y is it u know so much about it ?
Oh I still feel terror, dread. Just not much else.
Nature is what we lost and destroyed 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🙏
I normally don't comment on videos I don't see the point, but man I'm honestly glad I'm not alone here
I have serious ennui about my entire effing LIFE at the age of 67. I could go anytime and that would be fine. And the worst part is that, as an intelligent and thoughtful man, I am surrounded by idiots making bad decisions that harm themselves and me too.
I've always known that most people are idiots to various degrees, it's just that when you're younger you have the energy to seek out people who aren't idiots. By the time we're in our fifties and sixties, if we've been disappointed by enough people we put our trust and faith in, we give up. Special and interesting people are rare, and unfortunately they often don't have the space or time for us in their lives, which is their loss as well as ours.
Nature is what we lost and destroyed 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🙏
I thought I had a park family. The only completely sober dude was the first to go. Then me next because I was sober most of the time. I concluded the dumbest people are just better at being louder. Because it isn't about the quality of thoughts; it's about being heard.
As a single 38yr old night shift security guard my life is work, commute, shops, home, chores, cat and bed. Repeat.
It goes on for months and years as debt payments keep me in this cycle of purgatory.
I have my short term and long term goals which are slowly happening month by month but life is ordinary at best and although I'm by no means suicidal I genuinely couldn't care if I live nor die.
The final boss level of indifference was reached long ago if you will.
When we are brave enough to accept the cold vastness of the universe doesn't care a shit about us it can be tough but it's better to face reality and be stoic than drop the blue pill and resort to religion or love from other humans as a source of warmth and purpose, the rug only gets pulled from beneath us sooner or later.
Stay strong realists, you're alone, but you're not alone in being alone! MB.x
I mean, what do you even do at this point? I find myself in a similar situation as you are except that I'm 20. I'm hoping that this will build for a better life that puts me in a position where I have more freedom as I get older, but it does feels as if its a cycle I can't nor want to escape despite the solitude and boredom it brings
@ericmendoza1818 Hey I do wanna point out that my position is still subjective even if others happen to share similar experiences in the comments, my point being that there is a better life out there for us but we do have to hold ourselves accountable and put in work to change our lives step by step. You still have forever and a day yet buddy, I wish I had your insight at your age when I lacked discipline and saw no path ahead, just took in life day by with nothing but hope for the future guiding me.
Take the opportunity to work on your career and set up for retirement in your 20's, that sense of having a safety net for the future will help with our types of struggles. Thanks for commenting.
Damn i felt this in my bones.
@@ericmendoza1818Everything is subjective.
True freedom is an illusion.
Simply put, seek what your subjective perspective deems worth the effort of trying your hardest.
And for that, with your mindset, you should be ready to diе for it as it essentially concerns the very reason you persist existing.
Even if you die while having failed, at least you lived a life where you pursued what you wanted till the end, no?
Better than nothing, really.
Besides, pursuing what you truly like brееds passion.
So the first step here is to engage in retrospective and dig deep down yourself until you find your true desires buried within your true self that you might not even know you had, as everyone tends to create a personality model that suits their environment rather than their true perspective and desires.
After you find it, you'll know what to do.
And.. If it's something unrealistic which, no matter how hard you think about it has no way to become reality, then, well, your last option is remodelling yourself.
We're malleable. Our environment and personal experience shape us like incandescent glass.
As such, you can remodel yourself by deconstructing and reconstructing yourself into a new personality model with more realistic desires.
It might feel like ending who you are but we're really no one, just who our personal experience determined.
In a way, such an act is actually becoming someone of your own design, truly yours.
There was a quote from a guy that as long as you feed your subconscious something and nourish it with repetition, it will become your reality.
That's all I have to say, you do you.
@itsarecession1 keep on keeping on, there's plenty of beauty out there too 😉
Reading the comments gave me more satisfaction and joy than watching the video itself.
same
another generic commentary with open source music added for dramatic flare
I wasn't impressed by the video (kinda lame, IMO), but I am impressed by the comments.
I started feeling this way, when both my parents passed at an early age. I used to be full of life, and happy. Now I'm trying to find ways to be happy with out them, and I'm struggling. Never imagined my life would be like this.
Never lose hope ❤
I hope you find your peace, and then some joy
losing a loved one is very difficult to come to terms with, but if we could speak with them, just one more time, they would tell us to be strong, that they want to see us happy, and if somehow we can meet again, they'll hope that we share the best moments of our lives and what we've achieved since they left.
That is so sad and I can't begin to imagine how hard that is for you to deal with and I wish people didn't have to experience it, especially as a child
I'm sorry for your loss ❤
Nice production and quite accurate. I am 62 and I remember how wonderful this Planet use to be, that is my problem. Very difficult to get motivated to do anything, let alone be Happy. Since the China plague, this World is not the same.
i believe we are quite literally in a great depression, money and mentally.
I think that’s was the intent.
That's what the media wants you to believe.
These are end times we are living in. The next to years and beyond are going to be terrifying for most. Buckle up, things are about to get real bad very quickly
@@steelearmstrong9616 People been saying that for 2k years.
@@R4NDLL They have but I wasn’t one of them. Unfortunately most and many individuals are not well mentally and will believe anything. Whatever warms your heart and helps you sleep better at night
Ever since my Mom passed away 2 years ago, this is exactly what I’ve been feeling - nothing is fun anymore. All the holidays have become ordinary days. This must be what depression is like. I’ve never felt this extreme sadness and loneliness in my life before.
sending hugs
I lost my Dad, too, about 2 years ago. He was my mentor in the trade I work in. I had to move away because we couldn't get along working together everyday. Once I moved 3 hours away, we had holidays and other great times for decades. He grew old and passed suddenly and we kids were left to sift through his belongings. We had never experienced a time when we couldn't reach him to ask him things. There was a huge void in our lives, which we try to fill for one another. I had never experienced the level of grief that I had after losing my Dad. I found that grief was weird and painful and inappropriate and very unpredictable. Things are getting a little easier as time passes. The amount of time between feeling the need to speak with him or see him or think about him gets a bit longer with each month. My Dad equipped us kids with the skills and confidence to carry on without him. Reading your comment here makes me wonder if your Mom equipped you with that confidence and necessary skills. I say that without judgement or criticism, only compassion. I have a very sweet hound dog named Bingo. He's peculiar in many ways. One of the most striking ways is that he can be in a room full of people, about 20 or so and be quite content. Let one person walk out the door, though, and he's pining at the door for hours. Fretting and worrying about the one person he saw leave and ignoring the 19 people who would enjoy his company if he turn his focus on the people who remain. He is a silly coon hound who spends a lot of energy worrying about something that he has no control over. The worry and stress rob him of the joy of the remaining company at hand. I'm sure that nobody can replace your Mom. Nobody. I do have a video of Bingo on my channel. Bingo is not a metaphor. He is real and he really does act that way. So, maybe when you have grieved all you're supposed to grieve for the loss of your Mom, you can start to look outside of your situation and find someone to help in some small way. Mow some grass for a neighbor. Volunteer at some charity. It doesn't have to be forever. You'll meet some new people. Some you'll want to spend time with, some you won't. They don't have to know why you're helping. I'll be lifting your situation to the Lord in the meantime.
My father passed away 10 years ago. I used to feel that way until I realized how much my dad lived... the way he lived his life inspired me to live mine. Now, I don't feel as happy as I was with him around, but that experience made me the strong person I am. I live a life with a new, fresh air of freedom, and that makes me feel joyful. I'm grateful about it... :)
Same
Same
When I was a child I knew less about things which gave me joys when doing things, but as I grew older and know more about things around me it took away all the fun and excitement. I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way.
Nature is what we lost and destroyed 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🙏
Our awareness of our eventual death can cast a shadow over our entire sense of life.
Forrest Gump's mumma told him on her death bed - "Dying is a part of life" for what that's worth to us.
I can relate to your comment for sure!
Yes, but it can be seen in many ways. “Memento mori” (remember death) was whispered to Roman emperors in order to ‘keep them human’ and for them to realize that they cannot continue forever. This can be seen as a defeating idea (as is by our society today). It’s best to see both ways:
You will die so don’t put too much pressure on yourself but you will die so do something that is meaningful to you
Nothing is fun because people suck. We can’t have anything nice anymore. We expect the worst from each other. There’s distrust and disrespect. We’re all on the defensive and anxious. The media confirms our fears, that the world has gone mad and we’re the only sane ones left, and only safe away from everyone else. Our little corner of the universe, our thoughts, bodies, friends, family, home, job, and health are all we have so we spend our time fretting over losing them. Then I remember: Brahma sayam, jagat mithya, jivo brahmaiva naparah.
What a beautiful, relevant and true comment. Thank you.
I think your cat finished your last sentence.
Thanks for the laugh, really.
I was thinking, dude had a stroke?
while I share your observations, it cannot be that everyone is ureliable, unfriendly etc, right? I mean you might have to seek for quite some time, but it is still possible to find good people, and with them being scarce, you might even appreciate it more when you find en befriend one.
I wouldn’t go as far as to say that ALL humans suck, there are some truly good people out there that are genuinely passionate about helping others, respecting the environment, and other (non-human) animals.
Unfortunately there are enough bad people on this planet in overwhelmingly large numbers who make our species seem terrible.
As self destructive as we are, I’m really quite surprised that we’ve lasted for as long as we have.
We feel like nothing is fun anymore because of overstimulation. The effects of the internet will be studied for decades to come, and the conclusions found will be abysmal. We have opened pandoras box, and not only do we not understand what's inside, we lie about it.
And, what is escaping from this Box?
@mikeoglen6848 The first step is realizing that there is a box in the first place, and then just start observing how that box functions. You will naturally start realizing that you don't need the things inside the box like you once thought.
Jack in the box
It's because people are using the internet wrong. You need to use the internet to enrich your existing life and hobbies, not mindlessly consume media.
@@protohass good place to eat
This how I feel after surviving cancer. Nothing is better, it's worse. I wish I hadn't gone through treatment.
I feel the same way and I feel guilty for it. Everyone says they feel grateful and see life thru new eyes. I feel old and battered
, tired and over everything.
I'm there too.
why do you say that?
❤@@jeremylyon3249
that is a crazy comment jesus christ
I'm 54, no job, no children, one sort of friend, tried to fit in society but can't do the meaningless small talk and the pretending, can't stand the selfishness in people, haven't had sex in at least 10 years, have no prospects. People sometimes find me a weirdo but for most of them I'm invisible. I don't live, I exist.
You really have to practice the "meaningless small talk and pretending". Try to look on the bright side. In a world where everyone is totally insane, chronically tense, full of rage, and somehow bland and boring at the same time, it gives anyone a chance to do the opposite and be quite appealing and desirable. Push out of your comfort zone. You make it sound like you're in a really small bubble. Pretend to be chronically fun for a while and see where it takes you!
your only weird to those who are unable or unwilling to understand or accept you for you. Always remember to be unique is a quality most dream of, embrace it. Sometimes our insecurities are our strongest tool. Have empathy for those who need others to validate who they are. I have 1 rule and that is not cause harm to others. Most of us become the solution to our own problem...?whatever you feel your missing do for others.
Hey brizzie, dont talk about me like that.
Damn mindreader
how the hell do u support yourself then??
Are you an INFJ type?
Surrender to all your passions and you'll harm others. Become numb to everything and you'll harm yourself. Change is fire, stagnation is ice, both are death. But balance is life.
Just switch things up once in a while. It doesn't have to be polar opposites either. Joy is in variety, but you can't appreciate it unless you're a little consistent.
Thanks that's a cool bit of insight. :)
I like this! So poetic 😊
Shut up
How accurate❤
If u need variety your a person that will never be pleased happy or content.
I used to think like this, when i deleted social media and stopped watching and reading the news I realised that life is still life and worth living. Life is and can be fun when you take away bad things we are addicted to such as our phones and most media.
More people need to see this one
Yes!
That's delusion we try to keep ourselves with. I didn't have any social media account yet still lonely and sad. Wish I could've one to connect with atleast some people
@@lakshmanbaraik8643 Try going to a gym or club, something you're interested in. At first it might seem awkward but if you don't try new things you will never meet new people, at least in my experience
This!! I deleted my Facebook years ago when it was still more popular and everyone kept asking what was wrong. I kept trying to tell them I felt better since deleting it but they just didn't get it.
“If you weren’t always here, it’s likely you won’t always be” really hit me with a wave of revelation- that makes so much more sense of how I feel
Life goes on long after the thrill of living is gone
Oh yeah life goes on
Jack and Diane… couple of stoics for sure. 👍🏻
I wonder if she still has those Bobby Brooks slacks…
life goes on long after all thrill dies. that's just life, reality is cruel, but that's just reality.
You gotta find your own thrill, nobody will hand it to you. For example it's quite thrilling to go to Mexico in off beaten path for vacation. You never know if you will get abducted or not.
I learned to stop thinking about myself all the time (like, "am i looking ugly right now" "am i being too expressive") and it at least reduces my stress and i started to focus on my surroundings more
Jordan Peterson said, “There is no difference between thinking about yourself and being miserable.” It’s not easy to let go when all day every day you are with yourself, but in the actionable care for oneself, it’s what needs to be done. You only find it when you stop looking.
How?
Life becomes beautiful when we cease to care, only to embrace.
@chilldoc you just do. Try to experience things without thinking.
@@inuhundchien6041 : But, do we really have control over our thoughts?
For the past 10 years I thought that I was depressed. Then I saw this video. Now I know that I am only trying to protect myself. I live in a castle that I've built myself and now I cannot find a way out.
Have no idea how this video was suggested for me but it described me so perfectly when I listened to it that I almost felt like crying... Except I don't feel enough of anything to cry... Yet I'm not quite depressed, and I'm not suicidal. I still get up and do it, I still pursue goals.... All while feeling nothing from it. I was promoted to CFO this month. Possibly the greatest inflection point of my career, and at age 38. I barely cared to even tell anyone. NOTHING.
CONGRATULATIONS on becoming CFO!!! I am crying a lot more recently. Lost my job recently. I have taken to discord but found most of them are too young for me to talk to. All the best! Simon
Thats because none of this makes sense anymore , all the striving its meaningless.
You can tell me about it. I wanna hear
maybe you are Patrick Bateman 😮
@@MMK86 had to Google that but no I'm not Dexter I'm just not happy in this life's shoes.
I've found that pursuing very little in my mid 40's suits me well. I don't feel the urge to chase after goals like I did when I was younger. I have a steady, good job, pay the bills, but don't buy things or get into too many materialistic desires. I just live minimally and simple. That at least helps some.
What a skill you have, to touch terrifying parts of reality but to be so comforting. Complete and total art.
comforting? I found the validation of my feelings even more depressing
Yeah, this dude's a good writer.
Nature is what we lost and destroyed 👉The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 🙏
I went through excruciating heartbreak for the last half of 2023. That whole process of slow deterioration over time, a constant inner ache that only gets worse. And the feeling I’m left with now is what’s exactly described in this video.
I was never a depressive slump on the couch. I never distracted myself with external sensations. I cried through it and dealt with the pain in the best way I know how. But in the fallout now that it has passed, I am finding it difficult not to feel numb to life. I used to feel so connected, and now my best experience is looking at everything through a glass wall. I’m not sure in what way it will get better, or if it can/will - but time moves on and so must I.
Recently was able to retire from nurse mgt at 59 - I have begun to “reset” and found joy in nature, simple things like a clean home and cooking new meals - also seeing things thru my puppy German shepherd, Missy’s eyes
Came here attracted by the title……exactly how I feel. Always striving, never arriving and now I feel dead, flat and empty. Have chased a spiritual understanding all my life but now have merely arrived at emptiness and an overwhelming feeling of sadness, missing the mark and ‘So what…….’
Bro. Too good.
This quote is everything for mental resilience, "In the middle of winter I at last realized there was in me an invincible summer."
Could you elaborate in brief. I didn't get it.
@@Lickmacakein the midst of suffering you can find hope and happiness within you that exists no matter how bad things are
@@ripjaffurs But this is not applicable when one is depressed. Is it?
@@Lickmacake quite the opposite i'd say, it is indeed for us depressed ones. i have yet to fully discover it, i just know it's there. i just gotta find a way to it.
we gotta find a way to it.
I apologize in advance for my bad english, I'm from Italy. There's what I call "the 7 note's syndrome", which I've being experiencing since the start of the 2000's. So I was born in 1977 and the years that followed were a tremendous explosions of almost everything we know today: music, movies, computers and yes - Internet. As a young boy, everything was new. I've always been a sci-fi lover, and back then we had gread ideas, great stories to tell. I always listened to music, and we had great songs - and lyrics ofcourse. Then we... "saturated", as I use say. We always had only 7 notes to play. So we wrote songs, made great movies... told good stories. Then I started to experience that strange sensation where "I saw quite everything". Each new movie I was like "meh, already seen that", each new song I was like "ok, this is similar to..." or "that is just a remake of..." and we started to sink into boredom. It's like we almost ran out of ideas. Often I feel like "I can't enjoy anything more: is it just me or we are flatting out? Am I really that hard to please?"
Life hasn't been fun for a very long time... been through too much heartache and I've been stuck in life for a very long time.. can't get ahead.. can't find my way out of the repetitiveness of day to day life. Most of my family is dead and gone, most of my friends have dropped off one by one, and I don't get out much at all anymore. Most days I struggle to find meaning. I'm not suicidal, but I do feel like there is no point left of life.
This video expressed exactly how I have felt for decades, yet exactly what I need to hear right now. I cannot express enough how grateful I am to have found your content.
This resonated much too well, approaching 30 I’ve done so much reflection on myself and the world. Everything is just so automatic, I forget most my days, my hobbies just barely keep me getting by. Sometimes I don’t feel like doing them at all. I’m not unhappy, just blank.
I feel you. This is very likely the first signs of a generation that has been destroyed by social media. Nothing matters because nobody matters. There is no reason to keep this torch lit for the next runner. The track is under water and everyone is standing still on their phones while the water rises.
34 here, I totally agree. I get bored of things so quickly, nothing really excites me like it once did. I am not depressed, I do not feel unhappy or down I think that hardships in this life just radically changed my brain to not really allow me to enjoy things like I used to, for fear of it being taken away, or being to optimistic and because so much pain and suffering is all around us, so feeling indifferent, or nothing must a way of protecting myself for when something bad does come along but it's a double edged sword because it makes actually feeling things and enjoying life yield no pleasure or happiness
Yep spot on. Exactly on point. Its just indifferent to everything. Not depression or whatever just don’t give a crap about anything.
What is the solution
The solution is to stop asking for solution from chronically online people like us. The happy people are outside living their grand life, you can't find any solution here. We don't know anything.
_Having always lived in fear of being surprised by the worst, I have tried in every circumstance to get a head start, flinging myself into misfortune long before it occurred._
Holy shit that resonates with me on a level I didn't think was possible.
I’m 46 in August and take great happiness in the simple things..I enjoy running and love the feeling of being outside in the fresh air..I feel completely alive and am lucky to live right by beautiful beaches & scenery.
Social media & the internet have destroyed the wonder & magic of everything..that feeling of living in the moment..ditch your phone when you go out or when you meet up with someone ✌🏾
I did. Only because I had to. If I kept caring I would've only been more hurt. I shut myself off from the world. Walled myself in. No one gets in...
About 3 years ago I started feeling this way. I told someone I didn’t find things fun anymore. These are things that I’ve always enjoyed and I just stopped enjoying them for no apparent reason. They told me that’s depression. I was completely shocked because I didn’t feel depressed. I don’t feel depressed. This is how I felt. I changed my routine and I found new hobbies that I do enjoy now. It took work but I am in a much better place now. People say life is short but it’s also long. You have to learn to adapt to the changes.
I spent my 20s and 30s breaking off relationships because i wasnt financially successful and afraid for the ups and downs and wanting my career to get going. Now, at 42, my home is paid off, i have an awesome car, and money for vacations but no one to do things with. I let fear keep me from being open with my heart. Im dating and trying to make up for lost time but am constantly reminded of the mistakes i made by not letting love take hold due to fear.
What car do you have?
I'm almost a senior citizen, and I haven't had a friendship that was strong enough to contribute to my happiness since my early twenties. I tried group therapy to see if I could figure out why all my relationships, romantic and platonic, seemed so shallow and unsatisfying. As I talked to the other people, many of them married, I discovered that this feeling is almost universal. Most of the married people said they and fallen out of love with their spouses long ago, and were simply surviving through their lives out of inertia.
Theres absolutely no need to call me out like this
You felt it too huh
Aye!
This is exactly how I feel now. I don't know if I would ever get back the sense of care anymore.
Im in this feeling. Been in this feeling for about 6 years. around 37 things changed. I make about 100k a year, almost paid off a mortgage, 3/4 a million saved and invested. have a gf and dog who I come home too and are happy to see me. I just feel narrow. miss my parents. Wonder whats the point of going on if nothing seems worth it. The more money I make the more worried I am about losing it. I wish sometimes I was more excited about the future. I just wake up and do my job and try not to let the worlds chaos weight me down. Money and success dont mean anything if internally its cloudy. I feel cloudy
Perhaps you could give your money away to good causes?
Money pays your bills, bit it doesnt pay you
Learn to live by your standards not some false idea of what others expect from you. The cloud from my experience was from what I thought others or society expected of me. As long as your not causing harm to others......live your life for you for it is yours
If you think money isn't happiness, then give it all away and see just how miserable you are. You're forgetting, that's all.
What do you do for a living? I’m 38 survived a brain tumor I’m physically disabled I want to make 100k a year and take care of my mother in her old age
I was briefly submerged in this feeling of ennui until I started beliving, started actualising the fact that my life can end at any moment, any day can be last.
This started after my first near death experience. Since then, I try to aim to live a life where assuming I were to die tomorrorw I wouldn't feel regrets. This realisation of our fleeting mortality has been extremely motivational.
I watch a lot of old school comedy, so I'm usually in a pretty good mood. Even when my stomach acid was really low and I could barely eat anything.
I've felt like this for the past 15 years. I don't want my kids to grow up. They lose that innocence and laughter that come with being a child. The title is totally valid for all of us.
Yet you decided to bring them in on the inevitable misery that awaits them. Good job breeder
@@ihatelife486Antinatalist weirdo...
@@ihatelife486😂
Life isn't fun anymore, but is it because we live the same mundane existence and have the same routine?
@@PcGamerify no its due to being an adult. not a hard concept to grasp.
“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger - something better, pushing right back.”
― Albert Camus
The Stranger by Albert Camus is one of my favourite books, which I read years ago. Do you know where this quote mentioned came from?
@@candicebowden4123 "Within Me" - a poem by Albert Camus. x
@@dragonflyparade8143 Thank you so much for that info.❤
Also, cause we’re living in dystopia. The internet turned inside out and what’s bad is called good and what’s good is called bad. Predicted and written down 2000 years ago.
The whole world has been dystopian since the 1850s but there is nothing we can do...
Can you elaborate on what good is called bad nowadays ??
@@Absurdi5tprobably referring to the norms of old. The new norms are twisted & rotten
@@Absurdi5tliar
@@ContaConta-fc9kc lol why would I lie
What's good is bad, what's bad is good, you'll find out when you reach the top, You're on the bottom.
Thank you for this video. I’ve suffered from Anhedonia (the inability to experience joy or pleasure) for some time now. It really manifested itself when my Mom passed. Still fighting it. The activities that used make me happy no longer do. I try to remember that quote from Winston Churchill “When in Hell, keep going, don’t stop” I hope others suffering from this affliction find their way out as I hope I do someday.
As someone who's fast approaching the middle age, this is exactly how I have been feeling in the last couple of years. I spent a lot of time these days digging through the beautiful memory of my childhood, cherishing every marvelous and precious moment when I was a kid. But looking at my present life, nothing excites me anymore. Looking forward, there seems to be nothing to look forward to either. You're right, I am not depressed, my work involves a lot of consultation, explaining realistic expectation and adaptation to clients. But me myself constantly feels lost and meaningless.
I’m turning 44 in a month, and having similar aspects to my professional work, what you wrote is exactly how I feel. Until I saw this video, I thought I was losing my mind and the only person that felt this way, when I guess all this time that perhaps it’s an unavoidable step in our journey. Here is to the both of us trying to regain that whimsical wonder to feeling like we can experience what means to feel/be alive again.
Life is a series of ups and downs, we need to learn to enjoy the ups whilst preparing for the downs, and endure the downs while looking forward to the ups.
Trying to remember the up moments because they are significantly less. Hell, did they even happen?
Mate, you have a dire, yet very welcomed narrative on the truth. I feel difficulty dislodging from your explanations. Because you are the definition of rationality and emotionality. As much as a viewer might understand of that. Thank you!
This really resonates. I love to go camping to a beautiful place in the countryside every summer, but last summer when I was sitting by the campfire with the stars twinkling overhead, I almost wanted to hurry up and go to bed. Becoming present in he moment is something I dearly hope I get back! 🙏
That's why Jesus told us to "be like children". To keep that kindness in our hearts and a sense of wonder while being thankful
I was so detached at one point that I walked whole kilometer without realizing it, when I came back to my senses I honestly did not know when I walked all the way over there, automatic responses is also cery relatable... This thing is hitting too close to home
That's dissociation
@@chickadee317 close enough...
@Nikoloz-Filishvili Well I hope today has been peaceful and grounding for you, all the best ✌️
Since my 18 year old daugter died three years ago nothing will ever be the same. I am an empty shell going through the motions. The fun in life disappeared and everything seems so pointless. She was my joy.
"Sometimes I get to feeling
I was back in the old days, long ago
When we were kids, when we were young
Thing seemed so perfect, you know
The days were endless, we were crazy, we were young
The Sun was always shining, we just lived for fun
Sometimes it seems like lately I just don't know
The rest of my life's been just a show"
"These are the days of our lives" - Queen
Your life is kind of like the Truman show?
Good lyrics
I was never that young
This is my life for far too long.
Yeah I play Minecraft on days off when my adult responsibilities are taken care of but deep down nothing is truly fun anymore it’s getting so tiresome, exhausting even. I hope life gets less mundane but ultimately I feel it’ll only get worse we march closer to the dystopian future.
I love this channel, these videos inspire me.
Nice to find someone who understands what’s coming, yet 😢 because it’s not looking good.
So, you obviously still have the capacity to be inspired.
You gotta do it yourself for a non mundane life. Your life is boring because you are a boring person.
@inuhundchien6041 a little harsh, but it’s true. Most people are pretty bored/boring. Do something fun for you (even if it’s playing Minecraft)
We don't waste time, we just live
We don’t live. We just waste time.
We waste life.
Life is just a series of distractions until we die.
"I'm not living, I'm just killing time" - True Love Waits, Radiohead
Too many of us are just killing time. Meanwhile we continue to age, until we eventually shuffle off the stage. Life should be so much more than this.
I'm 68...going on 78...life has passed me by...I yearn for the country I used to be a part of...not so much anymore. I have always thought I was born a hundred years too late.
Look at it this way, at least we got to experience our country at the height of its potential. Once the younger generations realize they've been brainwashed by communism it will be too late, and they'll be stuck living in the "utopia" they've created for themselves.
I wonder how much I’m doing things wrong because I cry every time I watch these. Staring at the middle of 40……it’s like a million different ways everything tells you you’re about done, from society on down to the very mirror.
This is a big one for me, psychedelics have shattered my world a few times and shown me how much im missing in the world. But to do so is to be flung into duality and you cannot become more sensitive to pleasure without becoming more sensitive to pain. It feels like a web from which there is no escape…
This...I think I was mentally not well years ago but I was too young to realize, it was just school and having fun. Then came in the psychedelics, I felt, seen, heard, and thought so much that I'd never thought I would of ever thunk.....now trying to live on this "reality" feels mundane and weird. I don't know if I ever knew who I was but I'm in constant struggle of trying to find who I am...who I was. But I feel like I'm slowly getting there, it's just all confusing and terrifying at times.
I died the day that i first took lsd and now, pebble by pebble, trying to put together what I think is me...what I think this thing we call life is...maybe I will never get there but I realize that trying is the best thing I can do.
I hope you and everyone is well and I hope that you all will one day find that peace that we're looking for.
@@pooptyschmoopty I feel you, once that door is open and you step outside your little identity and shatter everything… it has big implications… I feel like I experienced enlightenment for a time on psychedelics where there is just such peace and beauty in everything but then you have to come back and deal with the consequences of the experience. I never knew music could do such things to me and reach into my soul… ❤️🙏
@electricsnut dude! It really does feel good knowing that a complete stranger on a random video went through/ is going through the same thing, I mean not good but as in the saying, "you are not alone" type of way. And my whole life revolves around music now, the only thing that I can relate so much to without saying one word.
Thank you though, thank you for taking the time to comment and respond back with your experience and what you are going through, hell we even might be on the same wave length of emotions when listening to music so we might have met eachother already haha but I wish you well man. I will remember this when I'm in total crisis mode again and remember that I am really "not alone". Take care and safe journey's.
@@pooptyschmoopty You're never alone and I think the fact people can have similar experiences through psychedelics and spiritual practices gives them validity. Be sure to check out Alan Watts and Ram Dass when you need some wisdom in these spaces :) Yes music means much more to me these days now I know what it is capable of!
@electricsnut big facts! And man, I've watched and listened to so many things, Mr. Watts included, my biggest problem is when everything is fine and dandy, not a care in the world and then it's the drop section of the roller coaster and I just start stuffing myself with those kinds of videos and I get overwhelmed with information and then the cycle starts over. I know bi-polar and depression is a thing with me and I've come a long way without medication but therapy has been on my mind for awhile. But hey, one day at a time right?
And I bet your playlist is anything and everything that just puts you in the right vibe? What is your current jam...or jams? Lol
You know, I never truly leave this channel. I’m not subscribed anymore, but never in the past few years have I not had one of your videos on watch later list, and every few months I check in to see what’s new. I think that’s nice.
One amazing recipe is rescuing a dog from a desperate condition, and bringing her or him back to life with love and care. This animal willl then, through eternal gratitude and devotional love, teach us everyrhing there to know about getting over our own issues, it rarely fails. In the end, I like to think - "who saves whom"?
This video really hit the nail on the head: "Somewhere in between or outside of apathy and depression from a life lived with enough years to have reflection." Profound.
Turned 21 this year and decided to sober up for the first time in 8 years. I lost myself and all joy for life in the process. Now I walk around this world a zombie trying to scratch an unreachable itch. Please don’t do drugs, and don’t encourage your child to do drugs.
Not just drigs all addictions
This is a good video. I am myself in an emotional stuper and i dont know why.
My hobbies are just chores to me now and no longer bring joy.
Social media has positives & negatives. But information like this is of great help to many who suffer in silence. Thank you
As Oliver Anthony said, "You weren't born to just pay bills and die" i know it sounds simple but really think about it because it helped open my eyes
Your mom and dad should've taught you that.
@@RexJacobus-bb1vwIt was their choice. Choice is always subjective. The person commented above shared his opinion (it could/not be his choice unless he made one)
@@RexJacobus-bb1vw I don't know about you, but my parents taught me that nothing gets your further in life than hard work and commitment. I was taught that as a man your duty is to take care of your family no matter how much that means you have to work. So I was never told that, in fact I was basically told the opposite.
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Fundamentally an organism comes into existence in order to survive and reproduce. But, no one said you have to participate in that, or anything at all.. you can literally lay on the ground until you starve to death, or conversely bust your ass trying to get rich, or take a balanced approach to life, not too much, not too little. Have kids, don't have kids, be a jack ass, don't be a jack ass, be good, be bad none of it matters in the end. We have no cosmic entity to answer to, but we do have consequences and people to answer to in modern day society yet still, you are free to do as you like
Albert Camut’s statement has lived with me for many years, and it was so moving to hear it again in your video after so long. You receive many comments so this may not sift through the filter, but thank you for continuing to grace the world with your creations.
It’s like after you listen to a song that you love a million times and kind of get sick of it. Or at the very least it loses that feeling that made you love it. That’s kind of what growing up is like
The purpose and meaning of your life will be revealed to you. Not through material achievements or emotional ‘life milestones’ but through the letting go of worldly desires that brings a new, painful wisdom through the slow and gradual aging process
I’m not sure another comment will have an effect, but your channel and content is my favorite on the internet. Thank you.
It's celebrating that confuses me now. I used to party all the time, dance all night, make friends and be in relationships but why? I used to look forward to holidays but I also wonder why. There are so many of them, just perpetual holidays. I just don't have the energy or the will to celebrate anything anymore.
I buried my 18 year-old cat today on New Year's Eve. It is cold and gray and damp outside and it isn't much different on the inside. Pain and suffering are as much a part of life as happiness and good feelings. We need to find a way to reconcile that. The bible has gone a long way in helping me understand it, but I still struggle to cope with it.
I love my fur babies. It is agony to lose them. Hugs.
What has happen to the modern human being is that we have secured most of our basic physical needs but our psychological needs have been compromised through work and entertainment pursues, instead of gratitude and patience in life. We've become wage slaves pacified by bread and circuses,and life has lost it meaning for us because we can't come to terms with fact that We're dying and don't want to think about it. So, ignoring it becomes the only option.However , no matter how much work we drown ourselves in or entertainment we engage ourselves in, when we laugh death laughs too.
People are mean and crazy. I stay inside. I'm happy.
You'll probably regret it when you grow older
@baseddepartment1645 Nothing really matters anyway. Outside is made up of illusions, lies and facades.
@@Trisof88 Revolt against the absurd.
@@Trisof88wassup
@@Trisof88”All the world’s a stage”. I think people are starting to figure out what that really means.
i have been watching your videos for a long time now i just want to thank you for teaching me things nobody taught me ,
Thank yourself for being open to receive wisdom.
Yes. The person above me said it brilliantly,
It takes a bit of honesty that you messed up, a sort of "resonance" or "Déjà vu" combined with being true to yourself,Thinking about quotes from philosophers (as in the video) and how you can apply it (or at least modify it to adapt to the modern world), being willing to completely shake or at least partially change your view of the world ; what you think about other people,actions,idea and reacting to the feeling or being *completely* or at least partially in the wrong.
Future people who might reply to this reply of this comment might think I am overacting or some might think what I am saying is fully accurate and they would
*both* *be* *right*
I don’t feel like I’m living as much as I’m just existing.
The wonderment experienced by my grandchildren is the most fun I have anymore. I'm okay with that. God bless the children.
100% relatable 😶. Life is shit, yet we try to be hopeful.💔
There may be some purpose in looking on the Bright Side of Life?
@@mikeoglen6848 You're right. We can look on the bright side and get a purpose, that's the way to live. But, not everyone gets to meet the right people at the right time in life and those are the ones who end up living a dark life.
on the contrary, life is beautiful, you are just doing it wrong. the good news is there is still time for you
I used to love playing guitar. I'm quite good too. I couldn't wait to get home and practise and learn new songs and upload them to CZcams (still there by the way, check it out). I was highly praised by many about how good I was, and how talented, but, I never went anywhere with it. I'm in my mid 30s now, and I hardly pick it up anymore. When I do pick it up, I get bored after 2 mins and put it down. Feels like a wasted talent. But with the guitar, and most things in my life lately, I'm just not interested and unimpressed with most things. Every holiday, night on the town, concert. None of it brings me excitement of pleasure. I'd like to get it back somehow, that drive, and excitement, that motivation, but I don't know if I can. It's like the best is over. I've done and seen all the good things I'll ever do, and will never have anything new in my life again.
Can anyone related to this, and how did you get your motivation back?
@@jacquelinehorne6485 mega buggar. Nothing sadder than wasted talent
I relate and at this point I find myself wishing for an end to the numbing meaninglessness. I can't handle the small talk and don't seem to find joy in anything. I think I am depressed, but the thing is I just see reality and that's why I feel as I do
@@makeitcount2985I also loved to play an instrument, the piano.
But like you, I feel bored quickly. Maybe joining a band could help?
singer here for profession and originally for fun but struggling to keep the joy
@@andrea-mj9cewhere are you located? i’d like to start a band..
I used to try to get out when I could. I would get excited about the idea of hanging out with friends. But once I got out there, I would just be ready to go home. Even rode my bike 6 hours to hang out at a rally to meet up with a few old Army buddies. Got there and just didn't enjoy myself. Instead of spending the night I just rode 6 hours back. All I did the rest of the weekend was look at their social media and seen how much fun they were having. They invited me out again the following year, and I didn't even bother going.....
So true, im 35 still skating, mostly alone. Its the one thing that makes me feel alive. I dont find much fun, but noone does anything fun anyway. They just go for dinner. Some "friends" just complain and wear you out. Its much better to spend time alone most the time. You make your own fun instead of trying to please other people all the time.
I used to care about how people perceived me. I would always put a smile on, and put others first. But now a switch flipped, and I've put up walls. It's always me first, and I don't care if it bothers you. I'm no longer here to please others.
Same dude, it's freeing though when you remove that weight off your psyche.
I feel like that's a valid stage to be at. Maybe while there you can manage to find yourself and what you really value.
Cool, you’re about halfway there. Don’t rush it. Cheers anon1694.
Selfishness is somewhat necessary, but too much can be toxic. Do people need people to survive?
love ur profile pic