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Somebody else said the excellent point that “this is a direct representation of a man using children to try to hinder his wife’s success.”
Lmao sad but true some guys be doing the most.
daddy is an idiot, kids, but he loves you.
This.
This is what I took from it, too. 😢
He is lucky those kids didnt get hurt. But it does look like he was trying to sabotage her. He could of been behind the tape to meet her with the kids after she won, why before the tape???
I can bet you that he probably didn't even take it seriously enough, he was probably in his mind like “Yeah whatever, who cares about her winning, kids come first anyway for her, not for me though cuz I'll just send them in without any second thought”
My bet is that he really didn't expect her to win, and in his mind it didn't matter because once someone else won than everyone would, idk, be ok with stopping???
Right he could’ve been in a different spot. At the very least he could’ve had the kids and himself run the end with her
Next yr when training season starts he will start bitching till it’s too hard for her to
@@maem7462or just give her a moment for her
Dude was like, "Are you done yet??? I'm sick of having to watch the kids while you run! You've been running for MILES!"
So let me get this straight, he is dumbfounded that his wife would wanna finish a race SHE PARTICIPATED IN? Why would he even just send those kids in like that like they could literally get hurt?
Right!? The first thing i noticed was him "sending" the kids out, almost using them against her 🤦🤦 What a dolt
Thank you. That's what I was worried about. Kids can get seriously hurt if an adult running at full speed, runs into them.
Absolutely they could have. I’m going to assume the absolute _best_ of this man for a moment, say he really wanted to celebrate that win with his wife and kids; he went about this in the _worst_ way possible. Sending the kids out right before the finish line, while everyone is running as hard and as fast as they can with a motorcycle following alongside them; some of the runners may not have been paying the most attention to anything that wasn’t the finish line. Those kids could have very easily been mowed over by anyone trying to finish the race; hell, he could have hurt his wife or another runner along with his kids, especially if he’d lost his grip on them and they ran onto the track and in front of someone. This is one of the dumbest things he could have possibly done in this moment, and that’s barring the fact that all he had to do was walk about 20 feet over toward the finish line so as to not disrupt the race.
Not only that, he put both his wife and his kids in a terrible situation, where his wife had to pick between finishing the race and not hurting her kids feelings in that moment. Again, this is assuming the absolute best of him and that he wasn’t intentionally trying to sabotage her. This was still absolutely dumbfounding behavior on his part.
@@beeziebubs2756 congrats, you are the only person on the internet assuming positive intent, and you are right! Revista Marie Claire dot Globo interviewed her. They planned it together with no idea she'd do well enough to win.
Not just participating but WINNING!
IT WOULD HAVE BEEN SO EASY TO TAKE THE KIDS TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FINISH LINE 😭😭😭
"Missed it, by that much."😂 Dude was soo close to a nice idea. I genuinely hope they are able to laugh about it together.
Husband preferred to sabotage her win. What an idiot.
WHY DO SO MANY MEN HATE THEIR WIVES!?
I really don't know how many really do. But I remember all kinds of "women suck" "getting married is the end of fun" growing up. Is it really surprising that so many men internalized that bad message? Also so many men are taught to be "protectors" in the bad sense. They then feel inferior when their partners succeed. Sorry I can't word it better.
Exactly!!!
I think the defensive "What?!!" face is because someone already told him off for putting the kids in harm's way like he did.
I saw some guy commenting some bs about how “she clearly didn’t want to celebrate her success with her husband and kids”
I just said “Ahh yes, my favourite part of every football match is how as soon as the final whistle blows the winning team drop instantly what they’re doing and go hug their wives and kids” 🙄
A more accurate analogy is, "The team that's ahead stops playing IN THE MIDDLE of the final, game-deciding play in order to go hug their families."
How about the spouses tossing the kids onto the field in the last 10 seconds?
All those times a receiver's wife runs out to see her husband and block him from getting into the endzone to catch the game-winning touchdown....
Ah ah ah, but it oozes masculinity to hate your wife and kids so that's perfectly acceptable behavior you are describing!
/s just in case people take this literally, because I know there are enough misogynists and incels who would unironically peddle this line of thinking.
Right? And like... how about letting her succeed, before asking her to celebrate her success?
Can we consider the fact that it is difficult to slow your momentum and running downhill towards a child could cause injuries?
He didn't think of the kids or her. He was just done being responsible for his children and tired of waiting on her. She was taking forever to run those miles. Smfh.
I mean. HE clearly didn't. 😬
Oh that is SUCH a sore spot with me. So many married men hate when their serf escapes the house and has interests that don't center around making HIS life easier, and they do crap like this.
I vividly remember two separate incidences in my younger years. 1) I was preparing to take a small 3-day road trip with a married friend. We'd anticipated this for months. She'd prepared dinners in the freezer (so Hubby and Teen Boy wouldn't starve over the weekend). Two HOURS before the trip, she cancels, because Hubby started pouting and whining that he couldn't find something and didn't know how the microwave worked and he had laundry that needed doing and and and... 2) Another married friend sharing a hotel room with me at a sci-fi convention ditched me halfway through because Hubby called and demanded she come home at once because I dunno, he couldn't find the kitchen, or one of the kids asked him a question.
...And then they wonder why women see and experience stories like this and resolve never to let a man have that kind of hold over her.
I remember being at the grocery store and met my sister's MIL. We were in line at the checkout when she yelled "It's 12 o'clock?!??!?!!!!!!. I have to go make sure Chris has his lunch!". She left her full cart right there and took off running.
Chris was her 34 year old son.
So many men are telling us they should be in charge because they are just better in everything and women are just to stupid or "emotional" to make good desitions. But exactly these men cant figure out how to use a microwave or a washing machine? they should pick one of their fantasy stories because they contradict each other.
@b.w.6535 wow, hell no. 😮😡
My family are all neural divergent introverts, and we have a system to deal with social anxiety or uncomfortable situations... If one of us needs an out we text the other a particular emoji, and the other will play the bad guy to extricate the person from the situation. Your second one sounds like it might be a case like that. If not a situation like that, then yeah, that is messed up.
The first one, sounds like a spoiled man child.
Those stories are horrible and I do feel bad but honestly nobody forced them to get married to manchildren. They picked those "men" out themselves. If you don't want to end up in the same boat then don't marry a manchild like wtf.
Okay nobody's talking about this, but as someone who used to do long distance running in school. First of all this could have fucked up her Personal Record due to a loss of seconds. Second of all it obviously could have cost her the race. Third of all by the end of the race there's usually a mix of coasting and dropping all the energy you have left, so putting a kid in front of a runner at the last leg is like putting a kid in front of a moving train. They're running on momentum and all their remaining energy, she really got lucky she didn't injure her kids, same with the other runners.
I agree. That last leg is when you push with everything you have and then some. It's amazing no one got hurt.
100% on the mark. If you threw a kid in front of me during the last 5 seconds of a race that kid is getting destroyed. There's absolutely no way I could change course or slow myself in time. Hell when the covid restrictions were a thing I barely managed to change course towards the alternate chute (passed someone and then had to go to the chute on the left isntead of right because the right had been used last) and I knew the system existed ahead of time PLUS had about a 10 second warning on the change (when I passed her).
As terrible as that husband is being, I feel so bad for the kids! He basically shoved them into the pathway of the race. Thats dangerous!!!
I try not to ascribe evil intentions when stupidity can justify things. But at some point, stupidity stops being blameless and becomes evil in itself. If you're too dumb to understand how your actions are undermining your loved one's goals, in such an obviously clear way, then your stupidity is morally reprehensible.
I could see him thinking, "the kids will join her, and cross the finish line together... It will be cute. What could go wrong?". When he should have thought, "gee, this is such a nice spot to watch the race... Why is no one else over here? There must be a reason, and it might involve safety of the runners or the safety of those watching... Maybe I shouldn't stand here with the kids. Also, if I send the kids out into the race if adult runners they might get trampled... So let's not do that. Also, she is the lead, so let's see her win, and then greet her after she crosses the finish line."
Yeah, I think it's stupidity and not malice, but either way his actions are wrong.
The problem with this is that weaponized incompetence is evil dressed up as stupidity. How can you tell what the motive of the supposed "stupidity" is? We must make educated estimates about what a reasonable person's stupidity would look like, and anything beyond that level must be weaponized.
Stopping some just shy of the finish line is beyond normal stupid. He weaponized that sh*t.
It was intentional, malicious, and I would argue, planned.
@@AG-iu9lv Based on what? The 15 seconds of video you have of the event?
Well put!
He just straight up didn't care about her goals. The finish line is clearly there. If he thought that point was good enough to end on, he didn't care.
why haven't you deleted the comment after the full story has been out for a month?
@@purplewine7362 first off, one person deleting their comment on a viral video that's been out for awhile with hundreds of thousands of comments, isn't going to make some kind of difference.
Second, I never saw any full story posted later. Not like I'm going to look up every single story that I see, down the road, just in case.
Third, even if I saw it, I'm not wasting my time searching for an old video I commented on weeks ago to try to find and delete a comment that makes zero difference in anyone's life.
@@Mamda07 all you subhumans are exactly the same. dogpile on an innocent dad without knowing the full story and then never retract your false statements.
He ruined her moment. She couldn’t even experience the rush of a well earned win for a few SECONDS without having some extra mom guilt heaped on her.
And now becoming an Internet sensation for her husband being rude instead of a local success of her win. He totally ruined her moment. And still is by doing that.
No, he was doing exactly what she wanted, the woman literally said that herself on TikTok, but nobody can bother searching for ten seconds to find context.
@@alexwolfeboy I don’t have TikTok but thanks for the info
That’s so real
@@hldo00 No, it really isn't, she literally asked for them to be there.
Just wait on the OTHER side of the tape, man. Wait 3 seconds and your wife will be excited to see you and her kids.
Instead, you're also standing in the way of other runners... interfering with the race.
Putting his children in harm's way to keep his wife from winning. You can see him coaching them!
Those kids could have gotten plowed over by runners going full speed downhill
My only guess is that he was thinking she'd take the kids across the finish line with her, as a cute little moment. But it shows a total lack of consideration: for her accomplishment, for the kids' safety, and courtesy for the other runners.
Yeah that's what I thought too. And I'm no apologist for terrible male behaviour. If she wasn't about to WIN it might have been a cute idea, like let's run across the finish line with mummy! But no.
And if that's the idea, he should have at least gotten the kids to start running ahead and beside her, not shoving them in front of her. Still not sure it would have been a great idea, but it would have been the better option. At best, it just shows a complete disregard for race etiquette. It's annoying both for her and other racers, and could potentially get the kids hurt if someone wasn't paying attention.
right? like god forbid she has just ONE moment for herself, her accomplishment, her life. if she doesn't have her kids crawling all over her for it then I guess she's just such a bad mom.
@@squee599 Yeah, my parents have both done this with me when I was a little kid, but only because there wer no other runners around since neither of them are fast enough to be fighting for first. They only did it once I was old enough to be careful and faced me the correct direction then told me when to start running, instead of having me run towards the runners. It was also only done on flat finishes. We got some really cute photos and my parents really liked it. The situation can be really cute if done in a very specific circumstance but this one just is not the right circumstance for so many reasons.
Is it even legal to have non competitors on the field before the event is over? Even if well intentioned, his little stunt could have cost her winning the day.
That dad is so wrong. Letting those kids run into a race, letting them run in front of a motorcycle. Seems like actual incompetence driven by intentional irresponsibility and ignorance. Seems like he just couldn't find a babysitter
He was the "babysitter" and resented it
I bet he's going to try to cover it up with, "Why didn't you take then across with you so you guys could share the moment?!" and the dadcels will be like, "Women are so clueless and disrespectful it's disgusting" and find some reason that her running through marathon set her up for this to begin with.
It’s not incompetence, irresponsibility or ignorance. This was 💯 intentional. And the intended result is for her to not win. To come in 2nd or 3rd.
Cause the husband is sabotaging his supposed ‘love of his life’ out of insecurity & jealousy or messed up belief that she is wrong to do anything for herself outside serve him & the kids in her roles as wife & mother.
This has nothing to do with him finding a babysitter. The point is that there’s zero reason to not do the exact same thing on the other side of the finish line. Ten feet the other direction.
He might be a narcissist, ruining her special day the way narcissists do. And then making the day completely about himself like narcissists do.
@@whattomakeofit3436 Brilliant makes perfect sense- then he can also blame HER for not taking the kids . All about poor him and how she dissed them. Not about celebrating his amazing wife on THE OTHER SIDE OF THE TAPE.
Tell me you have zero respect for your wife’s accomplishments without telling me you have zero respect for your wife’s accomplishments, basically.
Yeah. Well, zero respect for his wife, period. Because he's not just disrespecting her win, he's disrespecting ber integrity, her drive, her stamina, her strength of will, basically everything about her. Incredibly selfish and sociopathic of him.
Tell me you blow everything out of proportion without telling me you blow everything out of proportion
@@beardoodle9835My god, THIS is the most unhinhed take so far. Maybe try not using psych terms you clearly don't understand
I have more respect for the accomplishments of a certain Austrian painter than this man has for his literal wife's.
@@mo.ka.9661 What's the positive spin here?
I would love for someone to track him down and ask him wtf he thought he was trying to do.
Give it some time. Dude's internet famous now.
Seriously. I quiring minds want to know. What's his social?!
@@amystarnes5977you right. You right. Can't wait to see the update here
He was trying to do what he and his wife planned together.....before she knew she'd do well enough to go for podium. Read the Marie Claire Globo interview with her from May 25.
@@jkardi9803Could you share a link?
It feels a bit like he was sabotaging her.
Yes, like he couldn't wait behind the finish line? I'm guessing he's gonna hear/has heard a bit about this from his wife.
Yes, either she loses the race or he throws her "neglect" in her face later. Either way, he wins.
I thought the same . . . he pushed them right in her way . . . he could have been standing behind the finish line waiting for her . . . what is this???
Ya think!!!?? Lol that’s exactly what he’s doing. And then has the gall to look confused when she doesn’t let him sabotage her. ❤️🤗🐝
He was totally sabotaging her.
Dad: Look kids!! Mama is about to win the race! Go break her pace
Mom: *Runs past kids*
Dad: AIN'T NO WAY SHE DID THAT!?!! HOW COULD SHE?!?
Just remember he could have very easily taken the kids 20 feet to his right to let them hug their mom _after_ she crossed the finish line, that way she’s not forced to pick between her kid’s immediate feelings and her own accomplishments. Even if this was done with the purest of intentions- if he just wanted to celebrate her accomplishments with the kids- he went about it in the worst way possible.
Husband was basically saying your family was more important than your personal desires or accomplishments. If he was reasonable, he'd have the kids run to her AFTER she crossed the finish line, not BE the finish line.
I still want to know how he was there with the kids with so many people not stopping him. People get in major trouble for interrupting races but no one saw a problem with them being on the wrong side of the tape. Even if they didn't predict him doing that why did they not worry the kids might try it out of excitement?
he probably told people they really couldn't see back where they were or they all thought he had more common sense than that
I wondered that too. There are usually a bunch of volunteers at the finish line to do crowd control, hand out medals, and herd finishers off to the post race snacks or medical tent. Every race I’ve ever run, spectators aren’t even allowed in front of the finish line. I’ve also been a finish line volunteer for several races, and we received specific instructions to keep people away from the home stretch.
The only exceptions I’ve seen are the historic races (1776, Marine historic half, and MCM) where service members will find runners like 100 yds out and run with them to the finish. But they only do it with the regular runners and not the elite groups.
Exactly!!!!
@@BeaverBeaver2003 Yeah I'm also baffled. I was always at races as a kid and my parents both had me finish with them once. Very very few races would allow it (for obvious reasons) even though I was older than that and thus much safer to have on the course. Normally there would always be fencing extending way beyond the chute to just out of sight because they don't want dumbasses getting ideas, and if they can't see the gap most seem to give up...
YEP.... my brother says he can't change my nieces diapers because "it's disgusting" and "makes him sick".... and i learned my dad did the same... what the fuck
I know love makes blind and trauma does, too. But I'm still always shocked such jerks got to procreate. I do not blame the women but their equally messed up jerks of peers who never sorted any of that out.
Yea sorry. If I was their wife, I would've said, welcome to having kids. If you're never helping with this, then this is it. No more. Go get snipped.
It is disgusting, and I bet it makes his wife sick too whenever baby has some diarrhea blow out 🤢 that's the joy of life. Taking the bad with the good. What's more disgusting is neglecting a baby and leaving it in a filthy diaper. Which I'm sure he wouldn't hesitate to blame her for doing if she ever didn't change the baby
I fail to see how this is relevant here.... This comment section has taught me that nobody actually cares about the woman or what she has to say about this matter (because there are MULTIPLE sources that have interviewed her including her very own Instagram video giving context and clarification).
@@dcouey88 I don't really see the relevance of that particular comment either. I'm not really sure how most people who saw this short clip would even know who this is to find any of the places where she's given context though so I'm not sure it's a lack of caring what she thinks so much as not knowing who she is in order to find out what she thinks. By all means please tell us who she is and/or what she says on the subject because I think most of us would love context and would love to hear what he was thinking and her opinion on it. The video was literally about what reason he could have had for sending those kids out during a race so if there is a source that directly speaks about that obviously people want to know.
Imagine how much passive aggressive grief he gave her while she was training leading up to this race.
Welp, Congrats to the winner. Glad she pushed through and accomplished that for herself💖
It's like he thought the finish line was her kids, instead of the FINISH LINE. Like, what other goal could a woman be running towards except her husband and children? Maybe he expected her to take the kids and cross the finish line with them, like share her victory as a family? Not an excuse, still unhinged, but that's the only (flawed) logic that I could find in this. What a tool 🙄
That's the logic. He dosen't think through how much harder it would be to cross the finish line holding the kids, or the fact that it would likely mean coming in 2nd or 3rd at the least. He's got a fantasy stuck in his head and dosen't recognise how unrealistic it is.
Aren't you not allowed to cross the finish line while touching other people? I read that somewhere, about marathons and other long-distance races, that if you are touching anyone else (like being carried/assisted across the finish line, or holding onto somebody else's sleeve to slow them down, or smth) that you could be disqualified...
I know the rules are different everywhere, but still...
If so...and he SOMEHOW expected her to pick up one or both kids and run with them across the line...he would have basically been telling her to forfeit the race, right as she was about to win...😬
@@rosethorne9155 Yeah it depends a lot on the race but usually you aren't supposed to touch anyone at any point technically because you aren't allowed to accept anything from outside the race (someone once got disqualified for taking a slice of pizza haha) but usually they allow crowd high fives and hugs from the people who won't win anyway because who cares. People who are going to get close to winning definitely have to be careful with this rule!
My husband was an athlete and now a coach. And I honestly can't understand the mentality of #1 pushing your kids into oncoming runners potentially hurting them and/or someone else.
#2 why you'd want to possibly cause your wife to loose the race because she got 2 kids around her legs.
#3 why you want to upset your kids by saying "oh look its mummy, go give her a big hug, she'll be so happy to see you" for them them to basically get pushed aside.
He absolutely must know the time, effort and hard work that goes into nit just running a race like that but winning one. Yet for some reason at that final few steps to winning he wants to destroy her chances of winning somehow. She's not in the mindset to entertain kids, her mind is solely focused on the finish line. He needed to respect that.
And if he can't take the waiting at the side lines, the kids get bored, feels inadequate only being able to watch go do something else. My husband raced like super long races and no way with my ADHD can I just wait around. So I'd stay home, or take our kids to do something else. Then be back in time for the finish.
It's spite. A lot of men love to humble the women in their lives and he was being hella passive-aggressive.
@@beardpapa12 that a lie we all know it
its because of the time and effort needed to win a race like this that he did this. she was putting all this effort and hard work into preparing for this race when she could have put that same effort and hard work into caring for him and the kids. its most likely that he is resentful of the fact that she's not 100% 24/7 all about being a wife and mom. as for the kids and the danger he put them in? i don't think he really cares. he has them right there in the road to begin with and then he pushes them into the road. that isn't a sign of a careful parent, but of a careless parent.
as for why he does this? well, if he resents his wife doing this the whole thing is a win-win situation for him. either she stops and hugs the kids and thus destroys her accomplishments and invalidates all the sacrifice she did to get this far or she ignores her kids and wins, thus giving him ammunition to call her a bad mom and hurt her and the kids. because again, he doesn't care for either her or their children, its all about him and his feelings.
plus, its possible that he is jealous that his wife can do this when its likely that he can not.
@@beardpapa12I think you nailed it most succinctly.
Looks like chubbytumm is an incel.
The incompetence towards not only his wife's accomplishments but also putting his very young children in front of the finish line is very dangerous.
Not to mention it looks like she and the other runners were going down hill. Imagine going full sprint over that hill only to see two little kids be right in front of the finish line, I guarantee not everyone would be able to stop or deviate in time.
Usually as far as I know, races will have some sort of ribbon or fence on the side to keep people from doing this. They have that for a reason. This is why. I ran cross country in high school, did a half marathon once, and I found it annoying enough when someone was using a noisemaker like a horn or cowbell right next to the race path. I can’t imagine what would have happened if someone ran in front of me like that.
He was totally trying to sabotage her!
Look how he pushes the kids towards her, making sure he gets the timing right.
Pos.
I would bet 8 to 3 that he's so self-centered that A, he can't see why his pushing the kids out would be a problem and B, if she had done that to him in some hypothetical neighborhood league basketball game, he would have been spitting blood in fury.
True @@somercet1
I see you still have your stupid comment up even after the mom has come forward defending her husband from you people's deranged accusation.
The kids weren’t a problem he needed to get rid of either. They were fine. They were patiently waiting on the sidelines cheering for their mom until he pushed them forward. He did that because he couldn’t stand being around his own kids for 2 more seconds. And if she’s a decent runner, she could probably complete a mile in 5 minutes, so really this dude couldn’t be bothered to be left for ONE HOUR to care for kids who all around seemed pretty well behaved based on this clip
I will never understand people who have children and then REFUSE TO BE AROUND THEM. Like bro, if you hate kids that much, there were so many preventatives and outs you could’ve taken before they were born!
lot of assumptions to be made from a 10 second clip. but I guess this is what this guy's audience all is.
I feel like if the situation were reversed this guy would have turned around after finishing the race and went back to admonish his wife for doing that. I feel like it will long be the day before a woman's identity will be her own after she has a husband and children. You're somebody's mom and somebody's wife but so much of you gets lost.
💙💙💙
God forbid mothers and wives have thoughts for themselves
As a woman, don't go ascribing that bs to all families. Not everyone is like this.
100% I can't even imagine a wife being able to pull that off without being dragged by the public. If it were a sports game and the husband is about to score the winning goal and the wife and kids come on the field to prevent that at the last second, they would probably get shit thrown at them or maybe even death threats by fans of that team. Sports fans be crazy.
Facts
An appropriate version of events would be to be waiting AFTER the finish line for hugs and celebrations
He's racing for a divorce, but this video won't be getting him full custody.
"I'm going to push my kids into a crowd of running people just to spite my wife! That'll show her!"
Underrated comment over here!
Yeah it's cool she has that on video now
why would he push for divorce when he was just following her plan of finishing the race with her daughters?
@@purplewine7362 Not him, his wife. She can show the court this video of him endangering their children too.
@@strawberrysangria1474 again why would she do that when it was her idea all along? I know googling is hard for people with your mental capacity but if you knew how to do it, you would find out the full story.
I never really understood what weaponized incompetence meant until i started working as a cashier in a grocery store...
The amount of men that all of a sudden seem to forget how to bag groceries is astounding really.
Like, my brother in Christ, did you really just put the bread at the bottom of the bag?
One minute they're pounding their chests and bragging about building society and inventing everything; then the next they're standing there with a confused look on their face with an unfolded towel in their hands.
The "leaders of society".... brought down by a piece of fabric.
I've lost count of the baggers (men and women) I've told that if I wanted crushed tomatoes, I'd have bought them in a can.
He reminds me of my ex. Weapons were incompetence and our children. 😖
@@carriebryan1211 I used to work in Target (terrible company to work for btw) and as a cashier, I also had to bag items. I've bagged groceries with my parents since childhood so I knew the proper order. At the same time, Target does time you, so if your parents bagged all your groceries during your childhood, I can see why being rushed by the company would cause baggers to make mistakes like that. Keep in mind that Target specifically doesn't train their employees at all. Their idea of "training" is showing an anti-union video and showing you how to use the register for half an hour and then you're considered immediately ready to work. I can only speak for my experience at Target, but if other grocery stores are similar, that's most likely why you've experienced baggers like that. Honestly, I would blame the parents for not teaching their kids basic life skills and the corporations for not providing proper training to their employees. But stores are pushing self-serve now, so now everyone has to learn eventually.
Right?
The guy wants to make it about him, not her. 'Aren't I great for bringing your kids to just before the finish line?'
There are people whose stupidity just astounds. It is fairly impossible to put yourself in the shoes of someone who is not only putting children at risk, but actively sabotaging someone else efforts.
That's not normal stupidity. That is purposeful weaponized incompetence.
He's not stupid. This was deliberate and planned with malice.
He had to "babysit" HIS children while his wife spent time training and he was salty about it. Hopefully, she ripped him a new one when they got home. Also, congratulations to her for winning a half. That's quite an accomplishment.
Why do you hope for discord instead of a polite conversation?
@@mo.ka.9661 Because he failed at politeness first and if his EQ is this low then chances are that he has failed to understand the 1000 polite warnings he surely must have gotten to that point.
Why would you shame a woman for justified expression of anger and why do you frame him as incapable of giving space for justified anger to work that off and then to stand up with accountability for the mess he's created.
I remind you, that his reaction was not "Oh no, I messed up", but he displayed frustration with her over his wasted "effort" after he made a damn blunder.
If I had acted this stupidly towards anyone, I'd not be dumb enough to project my mess on them and then go as far as expecting ppl to suppress their upset for the sake of my idiot arse.
@@KxNOxUTA
He failed at one thing. You dont know anything about this man's EQ. You also don't know anything about the wife's.
That's the thing. This woman isn't angry. People like you are angry on her behalf.
He displayed confusion. That's it. It's not that deep.
@@mo.ka.9661 Someone who literally puts children in a dangerous situation doesn't deserve a polite conversation. I am so grateful every day that I married a mature man and not some man-child.
@@mo.ka.9661 However, you have clearly made your levels of E.Q - or, the lack of it, to be precise - by this comment in public. A Grown Adult Man who puts Children right in front of the Finish Line in a Marathon, where Runners are running at full momentum, do Not deserve Polite Conversation. Discord or Rage is what a Person with a normal, functioning brain will feel towards such a Manchild.
If for one moment, people could not make other people's moments (spouse or not) all about them. The woman was running a race, so she is in a zone, not to be interrupted. Cheer from the side and let her finish! My goodness! A little maturity goes a long way.
except he was not. he was doing exactly what his wife told him to do.
What gets me the most is that it looks like he is literally pushing the kids toward her, and his reaction afterwards has me assuming he might've even been verbally encouraging the kids to go do that. Not only does that feel like sabotaging but is putting the kids in danger! its a safety issues!
It absolutely looks like he was trying to take this win away from his wife and also make her look bad for not acknowledging her kids. The only excuse I can think of is that he thought he was on the other side of the finish line, but that would just make him plain stupid.. so idk which is worse. I feel bad for her, that had to really hurt her feelings.
That's what I was thinking 🤔
All he had to do was have the kids on THE OTHER SIDE of the finish line, and he could have been seen as helpful.
why would he do that when his wife wanted to finish the race with her daughters?
@purplewine7362 She didn't want to finish the face with her daughters, she wanted to _win_ the race. As she did.
@@BethDiane she did want to finish the race with her daughters, though. google is free. and it takes 20 seconds. for someone with your mental capacity it might take 200 seconds.
Would not be surprised if he's scared of her winning this, or anything that would allow her to feel powerful
I remember my mom used to do triathlons when I was younger. Just as a hobby for a while, because she had finishing a triathlon as a goal she wanted to accomplish. My stepfather was in charge of babysitting me while we watched the races. What did he do? Find a good spot for us to cheer her on safely behind the lines, and then carry her bike for her after she was done. I know taking care of the kids you’re in charge of isn’t always easy, but he made it look easy by supporting his partner and not complaining about anything he was given responsibility for. It pains me to think of all the women who weren’t given that treatment before, during, and after their races. It’s already so draining to run a race, but then having your partner think “oh she’s done, she can take care of the kids again now” as something reasonable is beyond awful.
What if the kids got trampled by other ppl?!?!?
As long as he ruins her victory, I am sure he wouldn't be bothered too much by the small children being trampled.
You know that would somehow be her fault.
Oh let me get the kids right in front of her as she tries to finish the fricking race. Dude. Bad move. Think of her and get over yourself homie.
@speechprof: Half- and Full- marathon runner here.
Can confirm, you don't just "get up one day" and decide to run a half. I'm an old duffer in this game (been distance running since the mid-80's), but I know this is true, even for young people.
Even as an experienced 10 k runner, I trained a good four months before my first Half in 2019. Young people may be able to ramp up faster, because they have better recovery times, but still, some hard training is required. What this guy did was incomprehensibly dense - how could he not know how hard she'd worked to get to that point? Was he just "phoning in" his side of their marriage?
No, he was trying to ruin it for her, so that she'd be upset enough to quit and he'd get his wife/appliance back full time.
you really are a duffer. because you could bother do to a quick google search about the whole story
Probably he is thinking, "I gave her the opportunity to participate and now she is putting me aside", because for him, it's everything about him and him only.
This reminds me of that other viral video about a mother not watching her little kid just run STRAIGHT into the racing track to - surprise surprise - get run over by one of the contestants.
At least that was "failed to watch" and not "active sabotage" But yeah it's freaking dangerous.
That could so easily have happened in this situation. It’s so dangerous.
@@KxNOxUTA this wasn't a sabotage either if you had the mental capacity to do a 10 second google search.
He’s just lucky his kids didn’t get trampled on!! Imagine that kind of backlash
I’m smelling a divorce in the works
The winning runner's name is Luciana Grandi Lourenção.
Thank you!
The CBC has a good article about what happened (she had _asked_ him to meet her with the kids before the finish line).
Thank you
@JaniceLHz Meet with the kids or propel the kids into the path of the oncoming runners? Because if it's the second, and they both had the same intention, then they are both very stupid. There was absolutely no reason why the husband and kids could not wait beyond the finish line, and out of the way of the people still in the race.
@GeeEee75
Apparently some runners want to have their kids cross the finish line with them.
I agree that is potentially dangerous if there are multiple runners crossing, and selfish if it messes up anything for the other runners. Enough people want to do it that some races have had to make rules specifically prohibiting it.
I feel so bad for the kids they looked so confused 😭 He could have done that a couple meters before and everything would have been dandy but now it’s probably gonna be a long argument :(
There is no good reason for this... He either didn't think or he doesn't care
I'm so sick of all the people giving him the benefit of the doubt. We live in a world where women are barely treated as not property and there is a very high chance that we are going to go back to those days and everyone will be giving the men who take our rights away the benfit of the doubt.
Women didn't get to do sports or run races or do much of anything except serve men just a few short decades ago.
I'm so sick of people projecting their own trauma onto strangers they don't know anything about. So is the runner, personal trainer Luciana Grandi Lourenção, who is sickened by how the internet is judging, shaming, and sending death threats to her husband for something they planned, TOGETHER.
@@jkardi9803If this was planned, then it was planned poorly. No one should be sending anyone death threats, that’s worse. The runner and her husband and trainer, however, did a sh*t job here. One, the kids are extremely young, too young to be able to follow instructions in the midst of an intense situation like that. Two, was there no contingency discussed? Like, “if mom is tired or hyper-focused” both of which she was at that moment, “then it probably won’t happen.” But I think what does it for most people is the look he has on his face. Partners have been seeing that look on men’s faces probably since the dawn of time. It’s a trigger at this point and not a happy one.
@@AlloftheGoodNamesAreTaken and throwing his hands on the air.
@jkardi9803 yeah lots of women protect their abuser in public. Safer that way.
@@jkardi9803I’m pretty sick of people thinking everyone else is stupid enough to believe that anyone, ever, should greet a runner *just before the finish line* instead of *after.* At the very least it was stupidly unsafe for the kids.
Her husband may be appeased by her attempt to protect him (and thus herself and kids), but whole entire world isn’t gaslit by this explanation.
He is not taking her serious, his arm going up, “what the fuck is this”. Standing in the wrong place, sending his very little kids to their mother “there is mummie” as if he’s the only person in the world, neglecting that other runners could run over the kids.. I can’t even imagine what behind this.. there is no nuance in “what a total heartless moron” I really want to know how his wife is reacting.
I’ve never been to any type of race before, but I was surprised that he and his kids were allowed to stand before the finish line. Maybe it depends on what kind of race it is, but I thought there were people that would have stopped him?
You can stand there, but there is an expectation that anyone along the race course knows NOT to get onto the running path. Some races have barriers set up along the "finish chute" to prevent this from happening.
@@TheresaTV1 That makes sense. Thank you for clarifying! 😊
The worst thing about this is the dad's probably going to convince the kids this means their mom doesn't love them, when it's literally just that you don't take away someone you love's accomplishment to try to force them to prove that they love you. If you make someone choose between "proving they love you" and their ambition, that is so manipulative and not okay. I hope that the mom managed to explain it well enough that the kids realize why that was mean of their dad
The worst thing is people like you coming up with the most insane takes
@spitt3640
The worst thing is people like you creating a victim where there is none. This is not a teachable moment, this is a laugh it off and move on moment. Me calling out dumb behavior is not "preying"
I repeat, there is no evidence of abuse in THIS relationship, and all of the conspiratorial leaps in logic won't change that. There is no profesional worth their salt that is on your side
No, it's not weird at all for unstable people to collectivize and amplify their craziness. Quite frequent in the age of social media actually, and not specific to either gender. The same applies to hurt men in the manosphere coming together to agree that their girl is defintitely cheating on them of her phone os turned off for more than 5 minutes.
This woman is not being emotional or claiming abuse, so none of what you're saying even applies.
IM not the one making assumptions here. YOU are. You even wrongfully assumed that im a man.
It really does sound like you need to get off the internet while.
@@catxtrallways This woman is not claiming that she is a survivor
You're standing up for yourself when no one is attacking you. Sit down and go drink some water girl
@spitt3640
Me calling out irrational takes is not
"preying"
I repeat, there is no evidence of abuse in THIS relationship.
IM not the one making assumptions here. You are. You even wrongfully assumed that I'm a man.
@spitt3640 You're "standing up for yourself" when no one is attacking you. Trauma dumping and then playing the victim.
It is actual evidence that determines wether someone is a victim
You have no idea with how you are embodying the dunning-kruger effect
This SPECIFIC woman has not spoken out about being abused
He wanted to steal her win.
It’s not incompetence, irresponsibility or ignorance. This was 💯 intentional. And the intended result is for her to not win. To come in 2nd or 3rd.
Cause the husband is sabotaging his supposed ‘love of his life’ out of insecurity & jealousy or messed up belief that she is wrong to do anything for herself outside serve him & the kids in her roles as wife & mother.
This has nothing to do with him finding a babysitter. The point is that there’s zero reason to not do the exact same thing on the other side of the finish line. Ten feet the other direction.
You can read the runner's own views in Marie Claire or on the CBC website or on the People website.
Luciana Grandi Lourenção says she had _asked_ her husband to bring the kids to meet her _before_ the finish line. She changed her mind when she realized she was the leader and could win.
Apparently people do this.
Did he bet on the person coming in second?
Just to give a bit more context, his wife came out and gave an interview defending him because he was getting hate over what he did. She even mentions that he was "confused as to why she didn't take the kids". Apparently they always wait on the finish line and this is common for them. I have to wonder, though... maybe wait AFTER the finish line? Just an idea.
I'm sorry but I call BS on that. No legit athlete would encourage their kids to storm the field and possibly get hurt and no way the other participant would be happy about someone else's family potentially getting in their path. If that's true then she shouldn't be competing.
Kind of wish I could see the interview because this still doesn't make any sense. Like she purposely avoided them which makes me think it couldn't be that common. Also, it's just straight up dangerous. Why would either parent think its okay to just shove their children out in the middle of a race!?!? Either she's covering for him or they're both not the brightest parents.
"confused as to why she didn't _take_ the kids".
The woman just finished a race ffs, she can't even get a minute to catch her breath before he hoists the kids off on her?
Even in a best case scenario he is still an inconsiderate a-hole.
Yeah she's trying to not get abused more at home with that defense.
Would love to see a source on this one.
He was on the wrong side of the finish line. I see what he was trying to do, but he should have been on the FINISHED side of the FINISH LINE!!! 🤨
What you're missing is that some people just don't think that much, which is to say any amount at all.
Exactly this. My father, love him to death does stuff like this a lot. Being an asshole on accident still makes you an asshole though, almost double for being oblivious to hurting everyone around you and expecting a pass for it becuase "it wasn't on purpose" my guy..it still counts.
There is no way this guy doesn't understand how a finish line works. This is the textbook definition of weaponized incompetence.
@@mackenzieperkins8427 I'd wait another decade and analyze that again. My dad did stuff like that too, and after a lot of therapy (and seeing his further behaviour) I now understand it was on purpose, just like the guy in this vid.
@roninboxers oh I know why he does it. He doesn't, and still considers it accidental. I already divorced my version of it lol
@@amystarnes5977 We are too quick to ascribe to malice that which can be explained by incompetence or ignorance.
I've seen far too many people who seem incapable of thinking through even the simplest of problems, or predicting or noticing even the most obvious of consequences of their actions. There is often seemingly little to no benefit to themselves in failing to do that (so malice wouldn't seem to make sense).
I'm also autistic and (related or not) I used to be oblivious to way too much of what's happening around me in my youth. Although I see the world much more clearly and analytically now (even if I still miss many things other people would consider painfully obvious).
Incompetence isn't much of an excuse, and one can criticise someone for that all the same, but it would be counterproductive to assume malice if it isn't.
In any case, how did you even get to the conclusion of malice? "It would be painfully obvious to me, with how my brain works, therefore it was painfully obvious to them, therefore they knew that they were doing"? Can you see the problem there? Other people's brains simply don't work the same as yours. This is something too many people fail to understand, but this is something that is painfully obvious to me, on account of me being socially neurodivergent, so that's something I notice practically every day.
The guy literally just had to put himself ON THE OTHER SIDE of the finish line and he would've had exactly what he wanted 💀
except it was the mom's wish to finish the race with her daughters
@@purplewine7362 I did not have access to this information. Would you mind sharing your source ?
@@alpaga4820 just search for Brazilian marathon mom. you'll find plenty of articles. One of them is titled 'We got it all wrong about marathon mom.'
This article, though it makes 100 excuses for judging the dad without all the facts, it still concedes that it was wrong.
@@alpaga4820 just search for marathon mom and you'll find plenty of articles with the updates story
@@alpaga4820 google 'Brazilian marathon mom' and you'll find plenty of articles with the updated story. One of them is titled 'We got it all wrong about marathon mom'. This article, although it makes a hundred excuses for judging the dad without knowing anything, does concede the wrongdoing.
Oblivious. There was no thinking involved. It's simply not important to him.
She has already come out on TikTok. She didn’t think she would win and her plan was to finish with the girls. She is better than expected and decided to go for it. They are all fine.
So the whole story is that she and her husband had discussed beforehand that if she was going to win that she would carry the kids over the finish line, and it would be a family thing. However, her competitor was right behind her. They had been trading places the whole race, so she didn't want to stop because she would have lost. They plan on doing the family finish in a future race.
why hasn't this guy posted a clarifying video? is he afraid that the audience he's cultivated won't like the truth?
This happened in Brazil, and the woman actually explained what happened in interviews: she planned crossing the finishing line with her children, but during the race she realized she had the potential to actually win the thing. At that moment, another competitor was just behind her, so thats why she couldnt stop like she planned.
So, yeah, the video looks bad, but you should always research the context to actually understand whats happening. Many people jumped to conclusions on this one.
@@ingredi8409 This comment should be pinned
Or she's covering up for her awful spouse like the majority of women in toxic relationships do.
@@SENSEFexactly.
Hes a runner too. He knew what he was doing. And his dramatic gesture at the end,...
Read about the couple. They are brazilian. You are mistaken, he was just confused because they had an agreement to do exactly that (finish the race with the kids). She just changed her mind when she saw she could win 1st place and the next competitor was too close. They were both ok after the race. No villains in this history.
It is not like what people think. They planned (badly) this. The mother didn't think she had a chance to win and didn't consider how the kids would be in the way. The father didn't think that he should adapt to the different circumstances.
it's amazing how you people still find a way to blame the dad for doing something he was asked to do.
Jack The Ripper : Family edition
He assumed she wouldn't win, that she'd be back in a crowd of unsuccessful runners and it wouldn't matter if she didn't reach the finish line.
He saw her close to the finish line, so mo
She should divorce him and keep her kids away from him. He's putting the kids at risk.
why would she divorce him because of something that was her idea? i know google is hard for someone of your brain capacity but it literally takes 10 seconds
I read the husband and wife's comments about the incident online. She says that SHE PLANNED with her husband to have the girls join her across the finish line. She did not expect to win, and when she realized she was going to, she felt free to dodge around the girls to keep her spot. He helped her register after registration was over, he happily parented the girls on weekend to support her training.
There is always nuance and something we could be missing. Don't judge until you know.
Dude thank you. I’m reading these comments saying that he probably beats her or that they should divorce and it’s like what the fuck you guys barely know these people. I could believe it’s POSSIBLE he’s an asshat, but I don’t know them either, so who am I to say?
If he really was genuine, the husband would have positioned the family after the finishing line.
Let her complete the race and keep the kids safe....
She was averaging 7:38/mile or 4:42/Km.... that is really hard!!!
Did you even read the woman’s response? She said she WANTED her kids there, she wasn’t expecting to win. If she wasn’t in first, she WANTED to stop to see her kids there so they could cross the finish line TOGETHER, but since she was in first, she kept going.
But please keep getting offended on her behalf, in a situation you so clearly understand better than the woman herself.
Is it very dark of me to think he’d probably beat her within an inch of her life? He could have stood on the other side of the finish line but, no. He clearly assumed she would stop what she’s doing because “kids.” I hope she has others supporting her because if she’s paying attention, this is the beginning of the end of that relationship.
I slowed this down, thinking maybe he's trying to stop his excited kids running out, but he appeared to be encouraging them!
Also, note something. MOST mothers would turn around AFTER they win to go hug the kids to not upset them.
But she doesn't do that.
Considering his reaction, I would hazard a guess that it's not her but it's because she knows as soon as she goes over there celebrating is over. He doesn't let her enjoy success, ever.
What do you know about most mothers who just run 13 miles? Jesus! even you don't believe what you just wrote,
I haven't seen the podcast yet, but my initial assumptions were he wants to keep the kids good and not actually parent them, he was like "Oh hey kids, if you behave, you can go hug mommy and finish the race with her!" or even a "hey let's surprise mommy here before the finish line! it would make her day" because so often a parent will pull these tactics on another because watching their kids any length of time is TOO MUCH for them.
She's going to be divorced from that guy soon, I hope.
The only reasonable explanation is, he’s partially sighted
😂😂😂
She talked about this later. They thought it would be fun for her to cross the finish with her kids but at that time she didn't expect to be in a position to win. Once that happened, she went for the win. The dad probably could have had better situational awareness.
I wonder if he expected the kids to start running with her. but, like, he did it all wrong. encourage them to start going before she arrives, you run as well, and make sure you're not ON the track if you're not IN the race.
or bypass that complicated scenario and wait at the actual finish line so the family can celebrate together, maybe have the kids give mom a bottle of water.
he did exactly expect that. because it was actually her idea. googling is not hard, man
Actually, the couple has spoken out about that! They explained that there was an agreement to bring the daughters to cross the finish line with the mother.That's why the dad stayed with the children at a section before the finish line. But the situation did not go as planned. When he saw the woman approaching, the man went towards her with the daughters. However, she veered away from the girls and headed towards the finish line. She explains that she changed the initial idea because she did not expect to be leading the women's race. And when she saw that she was in front, she wanted to maintain her position. They are from Brazil
isn't it kinda strange that this pick me guy hasn't posted a clarifying video?
If he used the children to attempt to make her not win the race, what/how else does he use the children against her? I feel for the children.
So this woman, who is named Luciana Grandi, was interviewed about this incident and she explained what happened in an article. She actually said that her and her husband had PLANNED BEFOREHAND for the husband to send the kids to finish the race with her. However, she was unexpectedly in first place and decided at the last minute to forfeit THEIR plan for her to finish the race with their daughters so she could focus on winning.
With that said, I still think it should’ve been common sense for the husband to know not to send in the kids once he realized that she was winning the race and that it was a close match. I mean, it’s kinda obvious what the outcome would be. “Oh, she’s in front! She’s winning and probably wants to stay that way! I should just let her win instead of getting in her way”.
I also don’t think he had a right to get mad (if he did actually get mad. It’s hard to tell).
I still feel bad that he’s being called horrible names and being accused of horrible things cuz people want to make assumptions.
He's a narcissist and wins either way. His wife stops to hug them and doesn't finish first? He receives attention from all the people around as if he also participated, actually he receives even more attention than she. Plus he will tell her that she's a loser since didn't win the race.
She ignores him and wins the race? How could she? The audacity to ignore me and our kids in front of hundreds of people? You're such a bad mom and I'm the good father. People, look! Do you see how hard is it for me to live with her? I take care of kids and the only important thing for her is winning this stupid competition. Again, he receives all the attention.
In any case he will have the reason to sting her (and trust me, he will use this opportunity multiple times) to make himself look better and to show people how difficult it is for "good" him to live with such a "bad" wife
I've been repeatedly sabotaged like that. It takes years to realize that yes, it is 100% deliberate, it's planned, it's intentional, it's abusive.
He's definitely reaching for an excuse to be able to accuse his wife of being a bad mother.
They always choose something that in any other circumstance would make you look bad.
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but he does specifically push the kids farther out as she approaches. It would have been a heartwarming moment if only it happened 30 ft away, on the other side of the finish line.
It’s not HIS race, he doesn’t care, he wants to trip her up and is willing to put his kids in danger - crazy
It could have been an oversight on the husband's part. "Hey kids let's greet your mum at the finish line, she'll love it!", but somehow missed where the finish line was. I hope it was a mistake, but going by his reaction, I can almost hear the argument afterwards. She was in her zone, reaching that finish line. It was completely thoughtless on his part. A few extra feet was all that was needed.
Oh sure, he missed the arch and the ribbon and all the people.
No, he knew exactly what he was doing. That finish line is not subtle, he couldn't miss that.
Some men (2 ex’s of mine included) simply cannot stand that their female partner might actually be successful in something, marathons, a career, and consciously or not will sabotage their partner. It is as if their partner’s success somehow makes them look bad or diminishes their own image of success. I see it a lot but can’t understand why.
He's a hater. Sometimes it's just that simple.
Why would you be married to someone you hate?
@mo.ka.9661 obviously because you can manipulate them into doing whatever you want: the chores around the house, making food, having sex, caring for and raising the consequences of that sex, etc. men have done it before in the past. i’m not saying this particular man hates his wife, i don’t have enough information on the two of them, i’m just generalizing to answer your question.
@@goodgollymissmolly7624 Do women have agency yes or no?
This is the kind of situation which illustrates the old saying that "You just can't fix stupid" perfectly.