HELPING YOURSELF IF ANXIOUS
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
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2 strategies to help if you are feeling anxious or stressed. Give them a try - you can either choose to ignore the anxiety or use diversion tactics which also mean that there is no room for your mind to focus on anything but the task in hand.
#anxiety #anxietyreliever #stress #stressrelief
You have made me smile so much on this Monday morning, Dee. Thank you! Your poems are wondeful! I have spent years with song lyrics and lines from films and poems floating around in my head. I am going to channel this into helping my anxiety. Thank you so so much. ❤
I imagine yours will be much 'better' than mine.But, it really doesn't matter as it's actually the doing that helps - though the chuckles help too. By the way - I feel that you could have chosen a better word than 'wonderful' for my efforts - sticking with the w - how about woeful??? You are FAR too kind. D
@Cheshirelass Ahhh you've made me smile again and feel very far from woeful. :-) 😀
Dee's garden is a haven
Of flowers and bees and birds
She helps us every day
With her wise and cheerful words
So far from being woeful
They're a cool refreshing breeze
She's hearing sounds and counting all the different things she sees
A helpful plane has just flown by
A very distant sound
Thank you Dee your words and smile
Help us all feel ground (ed)
Got slightly desperate at the end there ha ha!
@@EmmaPeacock-cc9fl Chortling now - especially with the ending -like one of mine!!! D
@@Cheshirelass Love it. Thank you ❤️
Distraction
Finding peace distracting the senses
Have a hot shower and wash hair then moisturise your dry skin .
Have a cup of ? Miso , tea, coffee, ?
Feel your heart beating and staying with you continuously.
Hear your breathing coming naturally to keep you alive while you're anxious
Remember that this is keeping you alive not in a mindset .😊
Thank you for your wise words Dee and your lovely garden.
You’re an angel and such a blessing to me. You have given me so much with your kindness and wisdom. Love you ❤
Thank you for your kind words D
Dee, you give such kind insight with your beautiful Spirit and energy!! Thank you for sharing...Much love and light to you! 🌻🌷🕊️❣️
Thank you so much! D
To direct your thinking around something you can control. Instead of ruminating on something you cannot.
Exactly. D
Pulled this video up while having a panic attack. I feel so much better. Thank you and much love, Dee. ❤
I have panic attacks everyday, I know how you feel. Sending a big hug ❤
I'm going to have a cup of tea and I'll go have a chat with Dee!
Thank you for this! Even just thinking about words that rhyme is a good distraction!
Love your rhyme!! D
These are good techniques and I have not heard of these before. Thank you
Glad you like them! D
Thanks to the supreme Court ruling earlier, I really am having a low grade panic attack, so thank you for this.
"I'm going to go and get off my chair,
Go inside and brush my hair,
Then I'll have a cup of tea,
Then I'm going to have... a cookie!"
Lol. As always, thank you for your kindness and wisdom!
That's cheating - it doesn't rhyme! Thanks for a chuckle. D
@Cheshirelass wait, tea and cookie don't ryhme??? They both end in the "ee" sound. Maybe I need to go back to school and work on my nursery rhymes! Lol
@@Masque1262 Chuckling again - and if being REALLY picky, I am English and call such things biscuits!! I have been in bed all day - thanks for the written banter and (croaky) laughs. Dee
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Thank you for this advice, Dee! One thing I also learned to help me with my anxiety is popping a candy (usually sour) in my mouth. It's a good distraction that snaps me out of my anxiety spiral. I hope you have a wonderful day :)
Thanks for that. D
Just listening to you with your sweet, soft words helps my anxiety. Thank you
So sweet and true
Thank you dear Dee for the lovely chat. ❤
Life has a way of working out at the right moments. Sometimes, when you try to distract yourself with things, you end up finding exactly what you need. I love this. Thank you for reminding to live life to the fullest every single day. Much love for Dee! ❤
Absolutely! D
Oh my gosh Dee. Always looking so lovely, calm surrounded by a beautiful garden. I can’t believe you are telling us to do something…and I am very ‘ditzy’, and I do it…dear Dee. Was a quiet weekend. Just me and my cats. A few chores and reading. But I knew my grandson was coming back. Oh dear. I walk around singing and making up songs when he’s not here. I do. I know a bit about the senses and helping to ‘ground’ oneself. I think I’m a highly sensitive person. Born this way. Noise, loud yelling, chaos, bright lights, too many people talking at once….I seem to have always felt that I just ‘don’t fit in’. And yet…my life’s path..coping with so much trauma …has been overwhelming and a bit of a huge challenge for me.
I’m not going to go on and on about my grandson ‘s issues….but he’s been with me for over 6 months now. He’s working…but he’s certainly not the little first grandchild I practically raised (in between full time working…and dealing with some dysfunctional adults in my life, including my ex, my mom and my grandmother). I was so happy to become a grandmother (daughter had some issues, genetic I believe…from my ex.. and became pregnant when she turned 17 yrs old), and there were many ‘talks’ between my daughters and I about intimate things..I wanted them to come to me with any issues/questions (it was much different with my mom who considered some topics ‘taboo’ so she’d not respond to me)…but it happened anyway. I knew I’d love that child..so I accepted this information…even tho my mom was going berserk when she found out…because I knew, simply put, I’d love that innocent child and loved my daughter and the ‘boyfriend’ was 2 yrs older and, and after meeting his parents…we became close. Sorry..a ramble.
So this grandchild moved to another state when he was 11 (with his dad) and he gradually changed. As we do as we age. But…he did not become more mature, empathetic and loving. After high school he got involved with the wrong type of people and we didn’t see him regularly. I’m not sure it’s because of genetics (my ex) or being introduced to booze and drugs (I guess his dad wasn’t concerned). My daughter married a narcissist….and had 4 more children within 14 yrs. Oh yes….I’m trying to get to the point, Dee. Sorry.
Anyway, that grandson, 33 yrs old now, who is staying with me in my tiny home has messed up a lot. This is the 3rd time I’ve taken him in. His dad threw him out. Dawn (my daughter) passed 13 yrs ago..heart issues. So he winds up with me. And I helped to raise all the other grandkids also. Not easy. All grown up, relocated and they seem to be doing ok. Except for the eldest. Who can’t seem to figure out ‘life’. I’m not a professional and he’s been to a few therapists …who haven’t helped.
So it’s been very chaotic for my mind and body to ‘go with the flow’ since he’s been back. I’ve always had anxiety…but humming or softly singing and rhyming words must be my ‘go to’ for when I’m upset, anxious, overwhelmed. Alone..in my home. Weekend was restful. But he’s back. Complaining about the heat. Hasn’t given me any money (he’s got too many unpaid bills)…and he’s annoying me lately. I’m not up for this challenge. I can’t explain it…but I think he thinks that ‘life’ revolves around him. He’s important. Others are not. So his immature, dysfunctional attitude caused the anxiety and annoyance to arise within me. He just wanted to sleep..’cause he’s tired’.
So…I began humming and singing as I got ready for bed myself…making up rhyming words as I merrily tried to sing my way out of the annoyance and anxiety. Not loud…I do it a lot since he’s been here. And I find it does help me calm down somewhat. Amazing. I’ve been doing it for so many years. Maybe even as a child…I can’t remember…but life wasn’t all that peachy with my mom and grandmother. I do recall humming tunes. Petting my dogs, my cat, talking to my parakeet a lot (he talked back to me…smart beautiful blue Petie boy), singing softly in my head rhyming words.
Dee…I’m not sure what I’ve written. It’s a long ramble of me actually trying to explain that I do almost the same thing you do…..I’m great at it..been doing it for so long. I have always felt very overstimulated and afraid of chaos and yelling…always. I finally accept it’s part of who I am. I apologize again for rambling. I just feel like I’m explaining how I’m feeling to you…and I get carried away. This prob makes no sense…and you may think ‘this old woman needs professional help’, but I really do feel better now. I’ve calmed down for now…but..he’ll be here tomorrow, probably after work (Mondays are his 5 hour days unfortunately). I must sound like a terrible grandmother, but I do love him. I love all my grandchildren and my surviving daughter. I’m very tired, that’s all. Just exhausted.
Maybe I’m just not equipped to cope with adult humans. I feel more of a connection to non humans and little children. Always have. I will be adding the ‘5 senses’ part of your calming technique to my rhyming singing.😊
Thank you, Dee. Again sorry for the long long ramble. 😟🤦♀️💞💞💞
I've just read your words from all the way over here in England and they have touched me. Sending you a big hug from over the Atlantic. I have spent my fifty years on the planet feeling like I don't fit in and I much prefer animals to adults too. You are not alone. ❤
Stop with the apologising. We all need a good old ramble at times... just as we can only ever do the best job that we can with the resources we have. Take care. D
Emma - thank you for offering your words of support. D
@@EmmaPeacock-cc9fl Oh thank you Emma. Your kindness has touched me. I truly think I’ve felt kind of this way my whole life. Nice to meet you. And I’m sending you much peace, light and love…all the way from Jersey, USA. There’s probably others out there that might feel the same way as we do. Hugs to you…💫💫💫✌🏻💞💞💞
@@Cheshirelass Ok..but I’m still sorry. Thanks Dee. You’re my therapy before sleep. Every night since I’ve found your channel. Adore you and your beautiful words of wisdom and your magnificent garden. ❤️❤️❤️💫💫💫🌸🌹🥀🪻🪷🌺🌷💐🌱🪴🌿
I just love the way you live your life carefree. Being a doctor i always feel anxious about everything and i dont know if i am doing things right or wrong, but my brother always tells me that its better if you write the things on a paper and look on the brighter things. He always tries to enage me into writing poems. Love you Dee. Stay happy n healthy. You are such a great human being.❤
Thank you for your kind words. We can all ever only do our best. Have you ever tried guided relaxation using hypnotherapy? (I am a clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor) I have one of my pieces on my channel - D czcams.com/video/_n55YBfrOQM/video.html
@@Cheshirelassoh wow 😮 I didn’t know this! I’m on my way 😜
Thank you so much mam. I will surely use this.
I recently got fired and a lot of bad things were happening at the same time and I felt worthless and anxious so I needed this thank you D❤
I am glad that you said 'felt worthless' not feel!Good for you. Never forget that you matter. czcams.com/video/mKsfDtE40pk/video.html
Take care D
Thankyou so much dear grandma, i wanna tell you that there are so many youngters like me watching your videos so i want to wish you that nowadys we are taking tension of school and our matters with schoolmates please make a video about that it doesnt matter in school or its not permanent something like that coz its motivating because due to school or some activites in it we are not able to study properly and getting anxious
Take care. will do. D
Thanks Dee!!❤
Thanks for today video ❤
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I simply love your smile, your laugh, and your wisdom!! You lighten my heart, and I always have a genuine smile on my face after I watch your most recent post. Take care dear friend!❤
Wow, thank you! D
Thank you so much Dee!! I'm so glad l can hear you perfectly. I love to listen to you. You are like having a visit from a friend. I wish you and everyone a good day🌸💕
Thank you, Dee! I hope you have a wonderful week and month ahead!
Thank you! You too! D
I’m feeling so calm ☺️ thank you for your kindness 🖤 #soothing
Morning 🌞 you are so adorable and so genuine thank you x
thank you D
Looking at life with Dee,
Makes all the difference to me.
Sharing her tools to bring calm to our mind,
New serenity is what we find.
Big tick and gold star - you are very kind too! D
Thank you Dee, very appreciated.
I truly love your videos! It has become my every day routine to watch your videos and it brings me a lot of joy. You and your poems are such an inspiration for me, especially because I‘m a writer myself. I absolutely love them.
But not these silly ones I presume! Though they do serve a really useful purpose. What sort of things do you write? D
@@Cheshirelass There are no "silly“ poems when it comes to literature, in my opinion! Art is art and there is something very unique about the ability to express yourself freely without overthinking it. That is something I find very inspirational:) And I write mostly romance novels and poems!
Enjoy seeing the flowers.
What a wonderful technique. I will try this to calm the storm that sometimes brews within my soul or is it in the mind, I never can tell 🌸❤️🌸
Such a delight!
How sweet❤
Amxiety is a gift from God to make us grow.
Sadly, it can also be a killer so best to do things to alleviate it. D
@@Cheshirelass Best to do is not to ignore it. Anxiety would not go away so just be with it completely. Anxiety is not separate from you. You are the anxiety.
@@chardo24 I would much prefer not to be or be with the anxiety - when it is within my grasp to be in a much better place by getting rid of it. D
@@Cheshirelass I know, we don't want to fight anxiaty because the suffering is very painful. Unfortunately, there is no cure, nor there is escaping from it. So trying to get rid of it only increases the anxiety level.
god bless you. You are a ray of sunshine. I am greatful to have found your CZcams page.
I needed this today in particular, thank you
Ahh bless you Dee.😊🙏🏻❤️thank you xxx
Thank you Dee for these ideas.❤
Love you Dee, your BRILLIANT !!!
😂Thank you very much. Greetings from the Netherlands.
I am going to have a cup of tea and watch another video of miss Dee! ❤️🌸🌼🌷🌷🦋
what a serene and joyful soul you have! warmed my heart and made me smile after an anxious day
Glad to have been able to help. D
Sending you love from 🇧🇷
Thank you, helped as always :)))
Excellent tips, Dee, thank you! ♥️
Thank you Dee: it is nice listening to you 👍greetings from the Netherlands🌹🌻
Greetings back to you too. D
Thank you Dee for giving me the giggles again! I think im gonna have to try that! God bless you 🙏🙏🙏🌷
Great tips Dee.
Thank you. I needed this, this morning x
Thank you Dee…you made me smile…I certainly will give it a go 🙏🙏👏
Hi dear Dee❤
Your voice is angelic i swear !!!
I started my second job today I had couple of anxiety attacks but i am here healing my brain with you❤
I hope that the job goes well. D
Thank you so much, i needed this!
Was feeling really anxious all weekend, just came into work not feeling great. Your video popped up and it made me chuckle doing my own poems. It really does help. Thank you so much.
You got this! We could be setting a trend here! Taken me 76 years, but -
would be great to be a trend setter
But my rhymes would need to get better
Lot of work is needed there
But better than worry and care - D
I'll shut up now
omygod i found my new fave channel😭💌
Thank you so much Dee for your ever bountiful wisdom. I used to rhyme with my children and now I find myself doing this distraction method with my grandchildren and it works a treat! Thank you for the giggles 😃 too. Bless you. 🩷
My pleasure. D
Oh Dee your videos are so wonderful ❤️ I hope you don’t mind me leaving this comment… I am extremely anxious at the minute about my marriage. I’m 29 and I have 2 kids. I think my husband is a narcissist. I feel like I walk on eggshells a lot of the time and I am very controlled. I am slowly beginning to realise that I deserve to live as well. A lot of my friends tell me I need to leave him but there is one massive thing standing in my way. I am so scared of disappointing my family for example my mum and my dad. I feel I have brought them enough shame when I was younger in how I acted and having a child before marriage. My mum occasionally sends me clippings from newspapers about how divorce is so detrimental for children and it makes me feel so guilty.
I have started recording my husband in any arguments we have in order to ‘ collect evidence’ as to how vile he can be towards me Incase I ever need to let my family hear it. Oh I don’t know what to do 😢
Hi - remember that you are not responsible for how your parents feel - hopefully they want what is best for you and your children. The children and yourself need to be your main priority. It is better for children to have parents who are happy rather than live with a negative atmosphere with 2 parents together. Being controlled and walking on egg shells is not a healthy way to be. Take care. D
@@Cheshirelass thank you so much
@@allthingsluxury5690forgive me for intruding but I left a marriage of over 30 years, my reasons for staying were similar to yours. I don’t allow myself to ruminate on what could have been but I hope you will take Dee’s advice and do what is best for you as soon as possible. Sending you my best wishes.
Thank you for this, Dee. I’m going to try these techniques. I stumbled upon your channel earlier this week, and I’m enjoying your videos so much. I now watch every day while I have my tea.
Welcome! Thank you for joining my channel and I hope you continue to enjoy. D
Morning Dee that was usefull thank you 🥰
Lovely listening to you, I sing to myself when I'm anxious. Music always lifts my moid x
Same here! D
What a lovely person you are , I do mean it, and I'm already making a poem in my head😂❤❤ Rose 🌹
Just go with the flow - don't overthink it! D
As always Dee. Great advice. I love your flowers . You look very pretty in pink! Cup of tea helps me every time ❤❤❤
Me too!! Nothing like a good cuppa that hits the spot! D
Yes, so many people distract themselves with phones to avoid feelings.Im not sure this is good.Prefer your ideas. thanks you :-)
Thank you - I have visions of lots of people wandering around with silly rhymes going through their heads - so much better than anxious thoughts! D
Breathing "correctly" can also be very helpful. Breathe out twice as long as breathing in.
Yes - these were just a couple of other techniques. It is that longer out breath that is the important bit. D
My favorite lines from "Princess Bride"
"No more rhymes. I mean it!"
"Anybody want a peanut?"
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Morning Dee i have never heard of either of those before and I will definitely be using them and so timeous as I have a few things this month that are and will make me anxious 😊 I use the yoga nidra guided meditation/relaxation technique before sleeping and practice the breathing but it's very encouraging to have another 2 tequniques to use! Your advice is nothing short of heaven sent today! Big love from Scotland as always❤
Good morning! D
I watched all the way till the end! You are a hoot!
Thank you. D
Hello Dee,
My name is Lee..
Thinking You’re so sweet
As I tap my feet..
Love your videos sweet lady, I look forward to them. Lots of love from Australia xx 🇦🇺
🤗 D
Thanks for the great advice I’ll definitely be trying this 😊
Good for you. D
Love you Nana :)))
I am so scared Aussie gland I found you god bless and thank you 🙏 ❤❤❤
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Thanks Dee. That was very helpful! ❤
You are welcome! D
I loved this! I’ve always counted my steps inside my head, for some reason if I’m feeling anxious or uncomfortable. It is always just to eight. Weird. I must have started this habit when I was very young, LOL! ❤
I'm a counter too when striding out! D
Hi Dee, I love the poetry idea, what a great idea to focus, concentrate and divert attention. Definitely going to try this! 💚🌿🌸
Please do. It helps me a lot- don't think I will ever hit the big time as poet though!! D
@@Cheshirelass me neither, though I do like to pretend I’m a slam poet! 😂
@@janinecobb Thanks for educating me - had to Google that as hadn't heard ut before. D
That was hilarious!!! I write poetry and have always been good with words! I often talk through worries if I’m out walking xx
Thanks - I always end up backing myself into a corner - a corner that is filled with either a very rude word or a silly made up one. I am sure that the rhythm of our steps helps us to focus - so good to focus on positive solutions to those worries. Take care and keep on writing your poetry. D
Thank you, the poetry really works especially when you vocalise it😊
Glad you think so! I have been in bed ?covid for 3 days - you should have heard my piece telling myself that I can get up and make some toast!! D
@@Cheshirelass get well soon, take care of yourself 🥰
Hi Dee. Thank you for this. ❤❤❤ A good reminder of the 5 to 1, I’ve seen this in another of your fab videos. But the poetry idea is another good one. It will raise a chuckle.
One I made up myself when I was at the dentist once was to go through the alphabet thinking of girls names, and then boys names. That took my mind of the dire dental situation! Take care xxx
Good idea. D
I’ve done this too!! Great minds think alike
Just doing this might be cheering you up plenty, the way it cheers us. I hope it does. Carry on 😃 !
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Giggles are indeed good ☺️
That's made me 😁
11.30 UK Time 💐Hi Dee 🙋♀️,
Gosh I have never thought of doing any of those things.
I have saved this video to watch again 👍. Hopefully the tips will be retrieved from my mind if ever I need them.
Thankyou Dee, you were very entertaining too 😊
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I have been known to have my moments - D
Awww you made me chuckle. How is it that you pop up and say just the right thing at the right time? Don’t think I didn’t catch your naughty rhyming word for the animal that quacks! 🤣🤣🤣 Lovely to see you laughing and appreciating us, it feels so personal, thank you xx
So glad! That is how I want it to be. D
It worked!
great D
Thank you! I wish we lived close by. We could go for a walk and make a rhyme. 😊
That would be fun - alternate lines maybe?? D
Good morning Dee
Hello Dee, Perfect timing, I will be walking in a parade today, I will be using your 5 to 1 today ,should I feel Anxious, Thank- you for this Excellent Advice ♥♥Have a wonderful Day, Lynda
Good luck with the parade Lynda. D
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Love from France 🤍
greetings,
thank you, my eyes hurts and i feel pretty much lost. i have no idea what i am doing and if i am going to get hurt again
take care too
If you give yourself that message ... you could well do. D
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Dear ma'am, you know we were talking about my relationship, she is not coming to the duty , she don't want to see me, why she is not coming
That is a question only she can answer. D
@@Cheshirelass ma'am we were talking and a call sister one day because I was feeling that she feels uncomfortable to talk to me to make her comfortable I call her sister one day because I want to feel her safe to talk to me, that is why she told me to make relationship professional, I m not her brother, I want to be her best friend, I now she blocked me she upset because of me ,she was going to join our department but now she has lost the trust because of me , she was very happy, please what should i do now.
@@animation_views5027 You cannot force someone to like you because you like them. We have to let them do as they choose - and you need to move on.
@@Cheshirelass yes ma'am I understand but at least last time I want to apologise
That was my fault and I lost her ,
Eat more butter, learn how to eat liver. Works every single time
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