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  • čas přidán 7. 11. 2022
  • Youth leader Shreya Joshi diagnoses a key source of political polarization in the US and shows why having "uncomfortable conversations" with people you disagree with is crucial to bridging the divide. "When we are able to recognize what unites us, it becomes so much easier to have conversations about what divides us," she says.
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Komentáře • 110

  • @nprpodcasts
    @nprpodcasts Před rokem +2

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  • @aperson2730
    @aperson2730 Před rokem +93

    Incredible confidence speaking in front of such a large audience at such a young age

  • @moolis
    @moolis Před rokem +163

    Moral of the story…or speech here: rather than listen to respond, listen to understand

    • @AmyWinehouse.914
      @AmyWinehouse.914 Před rokem +2

      Moo Lis...then tell them how wrong they are.

    • @EmceePinks
      @EmceePinks Před rokem +4

      Thank you so much for this comment. I just learn the necessary info easier when said bluntly.

    • @enriquitamarzo3538
      @enriquitamarzo3538 Před rokem

      H and

    • @Jezeus11
      @Jezeus11 Před rokem +1

      Saved me 10 mins there

    • @victorspony7702
      @victorspony7702 Před rokem +3

      I don't think that was the point...
      For me it's not the question of responding or listening to the other, but more how we perceive the people that think differently.
      The morale for me would be :
      1. instead of avoiding the people that think differently from you, try to interract with them and understand their stories and why they believe in what they beleive.
      2. This exchange, done live and not with internet that block empathy must be seen as a great activity to do to enrich yourself

  • @nataliatoledo2100
    @nataliatoledo2100 Před rokem +22

    I wish I could speak in front of a big audience like this and I am double of Shreya’s age. The topic that she brought up speaks to me directly. Being a Russian living abroad I just can’t understand people who still support Russian actual government but what really helps in this situation is your community that shares your vision, that’s what the speaker mentioned and I can confirm from my experience. Affinity groups can be really helpful when you feel like you are losing the ground under your feet.

    • @ThanasisZantrimas0310
      @ThanasisZantrimas0310 Před rokem

      Yeah, a whole talk was really necessary to state the obvious? What do you mean you can't understand the people who support the Russian actual government? There are opposing narratives.

  • @Jayf723
    @Jayf723 Před rokem +24

    If others disagree with themselves, I think the best way is that life will always meet the most beautiful scenery in the deepest despair. Just be yourself. There is an old saying in China, "A wise man seems foolish."❤❤Agree with the praise message.

    • @deutschmitpurple2918
      @deutschmitpurple2918 Před rokem

      I totally agree with you. Thank you for sharing 🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤

  • @biking-viking-claus-andersen

    Very wise words from such a young woman. Personally I have actually always been looking for people who looked different from myself. In first grade I was the little skinny kid who made friends with the fat kid in the class. And when I got older and started dating, I was always going with dark skinned girls, even if I had blond hair and blue eyes. Still to this day, I always try to seek the stranger in any room that I walk in to. And that is almost always very rewarding. But like the wise young lady says: Remember not just to talk to them. Remember to listen to them too.

    • @mariawesley7583
      @mariawesley7583 Před rokem +6

      I'm the same way. Growing up in the house that my grandparents bought decades earlier I always gravitated towards people who had moved around a lot, especially people from other countries. I wanted to learn a few words from their language, hear what school was like in their country, etc. It has served me well in language learning and it opens relationships with people when you know a little about their country. I do need to be more open to people who have politics that are different from mine and build bridges instead of walls.

    • @david_oliveira71
      @david_oliveira71 Před rokem

      @@mariawesley7583 Jiddu Krishnamurti once said:
      "When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence."

    • @hazel1267
      @hazel1267 Před rokem +2

      It's the same situation for me. After spending my whole secondary education in schools with 98% majority of people of same race of mine, I decided to study in the university where I was the minority, less than 3%. It was such an eye-opening experience and very rewarding at the same time. My whole life just changed after that and I became better at conversation and also more understanding, and it affected my career positively after that.

  • @helpmereach45ksubswithoutvideo

    Fun fact: these videos makes our days better

  • @zaujahzaidee
    @zaujahzaidee Před rokem +13

    Listen and learn. Not to win or to agree
    Understanding n accepting others perspective

  • @lmhwellens
    @lmhwellens Před rokem +9

    So wise for someone so young.

  • @anushadwarkanath9573
    @anushadwarkanath9573 Před rokem +1

    Amazing! Feels much needed 😀

  • @mariabayraksan8704
    @mariabayraksan8704 Před rokem +9

    How valuable it is to realize the existence of different opinions at such a ypung ages. Often we can see people who are not young, lived a lot, but still think that their opinions are the right ones and do not give a different opinion even a single chance. I wish before arguing or condemning others we would first think, why these people acted like that or thought this way. Once I heard the phrase, that even the worst person actually has good intentions in his mind. First it was suprising, but then I realised that this might be actually the case indeed.

  • @aperson2730
    @aperson2730 Před rokem +6

    Great talk. I'm seeing future President material here.

  • @justcasuallycommenting2016

    very brave and insightful talk, especially coming from a soon-to-be highschool graduate. the more i grew up, the more it gets hard to sit down and listen to opposing voices.. as the polarization itself gets extremely extensive. i know that i'll be achieving my ideal self when i'm able to listen and learn, to actually absorb the others' ideas as new information instead of straightforwardly judging it out of my egoistic self.

  • @victornoagbodji
    @victornoagbodji Před rokem +8

    What a remarkable young lady! Kudos to her and what she is doing 😊To be frank, most people know what she is saying. But our platforms place engagement and profit above level-headed conversations. Because, if we were all silent and unengaged, these platforms would not make money. That's the task that this young lady and her peers will have to tackle.

  • @Its_Rain_On_Me
    @Its_Rain_On_Me Před rokem +3

    Thnku Joshi ji

  • @tommypain
    @tommypain Před rokem +4

    Outstanding, Shreya!

  • @Giftano
    @Giftano Před rokem +3

    Thank you @Ted for having such an informative time… I do believe that one day I will be on the stage and discussing my own topic, well done Shreya

  • @Moinkhan513
    @Moinkhan513 Před rokem +1

    Amazing

  • @richdarktones
    @richdarktones Před rokem +4

    Wow, this was absolutely incredible- and even more incredible that Shreya is so wise at this age! Tears in my eyes- I wish I had this compassion, courage and rootedness to connect with people who are different than me in high school - but I definitely carry this idea with me now. The future is bright for Shreya! Thank you for this wonderful video and best of luck to you onward.

  • @zawmin7558
    @zawmin7558 Před rokem

    I think that this is a very good ted talk. I think that it is useful for everyone to listen to understand and building an understanding about the difference. I really what this girls said "a conversation what we should listen not to win or not to agree, but to learn".

  • @dreamslive06
    @dreamslive06 Před rokem

    I will take note of this. Thank you!

  • @brett4264
    @brett4264 Před rokem +4

    Life and human interaction on Twitter is fake. Being online makes one lash out in a few sentences. If two people, that are arguing on Twitter, instead had their debate over coffee or a couple beers, they wouldn't use the words they use on Twitter. They may always disagree but a respect for other's opinions has a good chance at happening.
    This girl did a good job!

  • @focus__motors_
    @focus__motors_ Před rokem +2

    Outstanding Shreya 👍

  • @lauriabeatrizrodolf5394
    @lauriabeatrizrodolf5394 Před 7 měsíci

    Excelente mensagem. Que sabedoria desta adolescente! Parabéns! Continue com este propósito de vida! 🙂

  • @Schizonoise
    @Schizonoise Před rokem +3

    I don't like to argue. It's easier to step aside.

    • @TheMeanArena
      @TheMeanArena Před rokem +1

      Except you can't do that with people that do want to argue. They won't let you step aside, they'll keep aggressing to continue the argument that they probably started in the first place.

    • @sonias9722
      @sonias9722 Před rokem +1

      Sometimes in life the matter is important and stepping aside is not an option. No point arguing for arguments sake, but you need to know how to stand up for yourself.

  • @CtiborLaky
    @CtiborLaky Před rokem +1

    Love the idea ❤

  • @deutschmitpurple2918
    @deutschmitpurple2918 Před rokem +1

    Your explanation is perfect. I have really loved it. It was a huge pleasure to listen to you 🥰🥰❤❤

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Před rokem

    Very helpful. Thanks

  • @sujithsnair4801
    @sujithsnair4801 Před rokem

    It's a great speech.....So useful for all...Thank you for sharing this here....

  • @Its_Rain_On_Me
    @Its_Rain_On_Me Před rokem +2

    Your words are so do real

  • @maddiesyoutube6023
    @maddiesyoutube6023 Před rokem

    So true. Listen to learn and understand

  • @marthaolubayo1502
    @marthaolubayo1502 Před rokem

    This is so beautifully articulated

  • @tharangakumarasinghe
    @tharangakumarasinghe Před rokem +2

  • @savannahdiego
    @savannahdiego Před rokem

    Smart presentation...

  • @user-sd9oc7ui5y
    @user-sd9oc7ui5y Před rokem +4

    Such important words from a young lady. Having uncomfortable conversations with people you disagree with is essential. It helps us to leave our comfort zone and listen to other opinions. It can lead us to different thoughts, change our minds and help to find the truth. Because the truth always lies somewhere in the middle 😉 At least it teaches us not only to hear, but to listen to.

  • @user-lu2lg8qg2k
    @user-lu2lg8qg2k Před rokem

    it changed my old thoughts. it helped me to think more differently. yup thank you for changing me more intelligent person. And you have really wise thoughts. I envy you that.❤

  • @maricelaarteta5025
    @maricelaarteta5025 Před rokem

    Thank you!❤

  • @HuanShen-oc8bo
    @HuanShen-oc8bo Před rokem

    oh,it's incridible that she is such a young lady. facing such a large audience, she expresses her views confidently and fluently

  • @anantha453
    @anantha453 Před rokem

    Inspiring speech 👏

  • @wayneuber2951
    @wayneuber2951 Před rokem +3

    All of the arguments presented to you by others against the death penalty are wrong headed (based on cherry picked information and talking points by stakeholders that include lawyers representing the accused) ….. but the premise of your Talk still holds water.
    Adult conversation doesn’t require agreement but it absolutely requires respect from both sides. Peace.

  • @Cat-hr9xp
    @Cat-hr9xp Před rokem +1

    It was incredible
    I hope this teen to transform into a great adult.

  • @user-rz5tw9es9m
    @user-rz5tw9es9m Před rokem

    The vast majority of the time, when we enter into a discussion, we first of all seek to convince the opponent. The speaker is right - instead of making out your case, any difficult conversation should start with a search for common grounds and issues. When two people realize that their goals converge, it is much easier for them to exchange views and hear each other.

  • @TheSugahmama
    @TheSugahmama Před rokem

    one of the best talks to date

  • @aminetazi7176
    @aminetazi7176 Před rokem

    great

  • @maase0411
    @maase0411 Před rokem

    Her English is very easy to listen.Thank you. from Japanese

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers Před rokem +1

    🙏🏻✨🙏🏻

  • @photodube
    @photodube Před rokem +1

    I'm trying in vain to understand why there are 9 people who dislike this TED talk (as of this writing). I can think of nothing that isn't objectively thoughful and factual about this person's presentation.

  • @swastikgrover3414
    @swastikgrover3414 Před rokem

    100%, I before had quite a polarizing political view but after hearing the other side I definitely agree with many of their points

  • @xoxo_sushi
    @xoxo_sushi Před rokem

    true...

  • @Bergstromoliver
    @Bergstromoliver Před rokem

    Me Too

  • @monishakanthan3215
    @monishakanthan3215 Před rokem +1

    👏👏👏👏

  • @incognito3620
    @incognito3620 Před rokem +1

    This is a problem with many of us. We pass on thoughts and ideas and beliefs inherited from our parents and our peers. There is little education on self, critical thinking. Our future rests in the hands of teens like this speaker. Adults and older people are in need of a paradigm shift.

    • @King.Mark.
      @King.Mark. Před rokem

      some people just don't know any better ,self thinking is not for everyone 🙅

  • @minaung7193
    @minaung7193 Před rokem +1

    One of the first thing is we have to listen then talking.

  • @user-uo1of9gg2o
    @user-uo1of9gg2o Před rokem

    nice

  • @GirlSmotheredToDeath
    @GirlSmotheredToDeath Před rokem +7

    I'm intolerant of the other side because all they do is attack my character and not my arguments. EX: I told anti-gun people that I had to use my gun to save my life during a robbery which had 5 people with knives, and the anti-gun folks told me I could be a mass shooter because I'm simply a gun owner. They even told me that the very thing I used to save my life is used for mass shootings in schools. I was even told that as harsh as it may sound, that under the utilitarian model, I should've died that day because there should be no guns in the first place so I may have been stabbed, but in return, many children would've been saved in a gun free world. I was furious at that point and asked them if they would like to be sacrificed for the greater good, but no one said yes. What a bunch of hypocrites. This is why people in America can't get along! To be frank, I don't seek fake harmony anymore. I'm standing firm to my beliefs. I'd rather have honest conflict over dishonest harmony any day.

    • @hungrymusicwolf
      @hungrymusicwolf Před rokem +1

      "asked them if they would like to be sacrificed for the greater good, but no one said yes." - rules for thee but not for me. This is why we made everyone equal under the law, so you don't get to escape the consequences of your own selfishness.

  • @cryptotonic567
    @cryptotonic567 Před rokem

    Very deep sincere conversation..
    I personally don t believe in death penalty as i believe in the prevention and rehabilitation..
    Imagine being able to see when someone Is manifesting some clear "dangerous" signal that can lead to some extreme beahviours like taking someone's else life.. It s not easy and it s not something can change overnight , but i believe the tech can help a lot..
    What s your opinion?

  • @EldhoseJoseph
    @EldhoseJoseph Před rokem +1

    Civil discourse, listening assumes other parties too are interested in same. Often they r not. Having comprehensive perspectives is crucial, but one should not based ones position based on convincing others, for some, are so biased, that they are convinced on their own point.
    If someone says sun is blue, its up to you to show proof of otherwise, irrespective of them getting convinced or not.

  • @Bergstromoliver
    @Bergstromoliver Před rokem

    Learn To Listen

  • @celestialcircledance
    @celestialcircledance Před rokem +2

    In answer to her last question the conversation would have never gotten off the ground and I would have experienced bullying and harassment if I had gone out of my legue . High school is brutal man and I was on the lowest rung of the social hierarchy . In adulthood I am interested listening to opposing viewpoints both in people I've befriended and seeking out podcasts and channels .

  • @prasannajothi9070
    @prasannajothi9070 Před rokem +1

    Good speech..Made to think like a politician 😅

  • @yukiyakohey01
    @yukiyakohey01 Před rokem

    we shouldn be afraid of changing ideas by facing new facts, information, perspectives.

  • @bluedot..
    @bluedot.. Před rokem

    Thats why I always prefer Discussions to Debate.

  • @xyliu6742
    @xyliu6742 Před rokem

    Suda ,here. ❤

  • @raaniya5750
    @raaniya5750 Před rokem

    Outstanding Sherya
    Edit: Sorry if I spelt your name wrong

  • @incognito3620
    @incognito3620 Před rokem

    Applause to this young woman. My spirits are raised… a bit.

  • @NomzamoNthabiseng
    @NomzamoNthabiseng Před rokem +1

    I stan gen Z❤

  • @victoriacastro564
    @victoriacastro564 Před rokem

    TED Talks give the best dating advice 🤩

  • @King.Mark.
    @King.Mark. Před rokem

    I'd vote for her 👍

  • @reginalanco7941
    @reginalanco7941 Před rokem

    🤝👏👏👏

  • @joyyyy777
    @joyyyy777 Před rokem +1

    A Smart Teenager

  • @bnbigvcgjbifc
    @bnbigvcgjbifc Před rokem

    what means"reminded you of you",i don' understand

  • @deannalopez6998
    @deannalopez6998 Před rokem +1

    I hope someone reads this today:
    You have heard it said:
    “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth” (Ex.21:24) BUT I tell you “DO NOT RESIST THE ONE THAT IS EVIL. If ANYONE slaps you on the right cheek, turn and give the other also.” (Matt. Chp.5) -JESUS

  • @sgaddu
    @sgaddu Před rokem +1

    Oh wow what presentation: see other side

  • @mek5438
    @mek5438 Před rokem

    For everything you observe the suggestion you make,
    Your point of view depends on the position you take.

  • @ericschneider9346
    @ericschneider9346 Před rokem +1

    I would have preferred she committed herself to make compelling case for both sides, reflecting she really understood both the positions. She basically told the story of being convinced by someone else, as if this by itself is a victory. Nonetheless, thumbs up for the effort as a 17 year-old and wish her well as she continues to develop her skills.

  • @cl2791
    @cl2791 Před rokem

    I'm in my condo committee and there's one member who steamrolls, schemes, manipulates her way through meetings, agendas etc. I don't really see how one can learn anything from a person like that except the worst.

    • @yizh3020
      @yizh3020 Před rokem +1

      maybe manipulation skills...

  • @MrAskhab
    @MrAskhab Před rokem

    Cruel dolphin 54

  • @qasimmuhammad8999
    @qasimmuhammad8999 Před rokem

    What is the refrence of countries where their is less death penlty crime rate is less i guess it is otherwise.

  • @homewall744
    @homewall744 Před rokem

    Would you prefer someone call you evil or bad, or have that someone force you to obey that person's preferences? Differences are fine; division is fine; unity is trouble (group-think, monoculture, monopoly, one-party rule, etc.) when liberty isn't the first ideal.

  • @timothymowers6867
    @timothymowers6867 Před rokem +1

    You say man wizard magic sos star okay country horses

  • @jodystephenson6306
    @jodystephenson6306 Před rokem

    I remember being too intimidated to talk to you...

  • @LilBigHuge
    @LilBigHuge Před rokem

    This is the whole point of freedom of speech. This is what Elon is trying to protect.

  • @user-ui6iy7im1t
    @user-ui6iy7im1t Před rokem

    I totally don't agree because our tine is limited. So short life time. Why do we waste our time getting stress with unagreable people?

  • @efrenUtube
    @efrenUtube Před rokem +4

    This is why Elon buying Twitter is a good thing

  • @michaelpuckett6612
    @michaelpuckett6612 Před 7 měsíci

    If there woke nothing 😅

  • @ashishmatthew4308
    @ashishmatthew4308 Před rokem

    Yeah.. Try telling that to LGBTs and baby killers..

  • @user-tm6qh6mh3g
    @user-tm6qh6mh3g Před 3 měsíci +1

    Ironic considering she couldn’t handle Jerry Seinfeld’s Duke graduation speech 😂😭

  • @pecintamie02
    @pecintamie02 Před rokem