I am glad you made this video. I was biased towards ladies for some past experience. I wrongly generalized them all. However, the reality has changed today from the expectations I had, by observing my mother/aunt and Hindi Films of 90s. Women today want to live as comfortably as men. I cook two times a day now for myself, and I can understand the pain and boredom I feel sometimes. I have realised we can't expect women to do things that we don't enjoy doing ourselves. Good video.
Respect brother❤ Actually for women, problem is not cooking or doing household work. Main problem arises from lack of appreciation and respect for these things. And if a woman is working like i am, there is a limitation to do household works. This thing men fail to understand and do not adjust at all. But i also agree that not all men are same. I am blessed with a really good husband. He helps me in household work, whatever is not done by maid. Sometimes when we both have tired day at work, we adjust either by ordering from outside or cooking something quick. Its all about understanding each other.
Even if she filed a wrong case the thing is you saw just one woman doing that but not seeing crores of innocent women sufferring in marriages and not doing anything against husband/in laws..how can you generalise..
Excellent video sir but u just missed one point about 498A law and that is it's not gender neutral. Women have been the biggest sufferer historically but everyone should be equal infront of law but this law is actually too much protective of women if u read it . Women basically can make the men suffer as they have the upper hand in it.
Aise "mardo" ko koi bhi aakar samjha de unki samajh me nhi aayega. 😂 He said na, most of the men are idiots. Chorro inko, they will continue with their beliefs. They are not flexible. In that sense they are like 70 yr olds. Very rigid. Also, some have very low IQs. They think they can make better laws than lawmakers, who have studied these things and are practicing it, just because they want to make laws which suit their needs.
Wow highly educated men. If a women file the case 498a there will be an investigation team .....husband will not be put behind bars just after case. Women has to provide proof to the court in her favour .......if she fails no court can sentence against husband. Even a latest case in which women got jail for lodging false case. Jaake theek se padhai Karo 😂😂.....ohhh sorry school college Mai padhne ki jagah ladkibazi porn dekhna se fursat mile toh buddhi Mei vriddhi ki jayegi na. Jitni bhi shadiya hoti h usmei se 95 percent Mei dahej li jati h aur keval 1 percent shadi divorce Mei jati h ......usmei bhi purush Prajati roti h ki alimony Dena pada. Log kehte h na ladkiya bohot roti h woh toh dikh hi rha h kaun roo rha h. Teri age kya h woh toh mujhe Pata nhi 😂😂😂 par zara jaake thik se padhai Kar aur research Kar phir aakar comment Kar warna sabko Pata chal jayega teri buddhi Kam h
Don't suffer in toxic relation ship whether men or women .Respect individual .As sir said always women should be financially independent so no one ever try to haress women .
Well said , but people feel scared to speak up with fear of social isolation so more and more people should move out at the right time from bad abusive relationship irrespective -emotional, verbal and physical . Be strong , protect yourself from such toxic person(male/female).
Yes women are doing false cases against men. I am NRI, not even breaking traffic rules. My wife with Nambinarayan (ex-isro scientist of rocketry movie) are trying to declare me as mentally unsound and thereby smoothly confiscate my property.
It means you are not transparent in spending. That's why your wife don't trust you that you can secure her childs future. You might be giving money to your parents without her consent
@AmitSangwanji it's funny 😁 how people research, find reviews, friends references to even eat out at chinese restaurant or to go on vacation but mindlessly marry without asking crirical questions about their future lives. IN TODAYS WORLD PREMARITAL COUNSELING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN KUNDALI MATCHING. It's shocking to know people look at shadi as market
@@madhurbajpai9965only if world was an ideal place. The ones who have intent to make it divine can do so despite prenups but in worst case scenario one doesn't end up with loosing money and marriage both or living with a philandring/ controlling spouse. This is applicable to both genders.If nit pre cups absolute clarity on how different aspects before marriage
@@_13456 haa bass ek ye word seekh liya hai patriarchy. Indian judiciary ne ladko ki maar rakhi hai, but harr cheez mai ladkiyo ki hi problem dikhti hai.
System of marriage needs to be changed. Let us think of some other way of arranged marriage. Why only girl are going to boys place? There should not be any difference between boy and girl. Let the couple decide. If there is a problem in this type of system, break cast, religion, place restrictions. Let us make a beautiful society
Our ancestors have tried everything , so they try and tested and came to the conclusion that ITS BETTER TO SENT YOU GIRL CHILD TO HUSBAND . THERE ARE MANY REASON LIKE . POWER STRUGGLE , BASIC HUMAN MANLE TENDENCY , BASIC ANCESTORAL WISDOM .
@@ankitamishra0405 hahaahhaa , I am sure are 3 rd wave feminist . Ok your choice do it now what are you waiting for . When you will marry apply these things , There is a saying in SANTAN DHARM , SON IN LAW AND FATHER LAW SHOULD NOT BE LIVING IN SAME HOUSE FOR LONG , OTHERWISE THERE WILL CRISIS IN DOMINACIAL INSTINCT SETA JI WHEN MARRIED TO RAM JI , SHE LEFT HER HOME , SO YEAH I THINK YOUR BRAIN IS CORRUPTED BY WOKEISM , FEMINISM AND ALL
@@shaangaming350 Patriarchy jas failed miserably. It did no good to the world ever. War, Genocide, massacres, Rapes, Loot, Dacoity, Molestation, Trafickking of women n children, all evil is result of Patriarchy, Uncontrolled and unquestioned Patriarchy. Men couldn't handle the power graciously. It should be changed now.
Sir I respect your opinion truly but here are some counters. You discussed that boys are only scared because they might have some fault, but what about girls who have ego issues, who make it a point to destroy other person's life, saidst personalities etc. These exist in both genders and marrying a girl with these issues which are usually very layered and not visible in first few meetings(mostly arranged marriage context). If you visit some MRA [Men's Right Activist] like Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj and some more you will surely see the other side and how easy it is to frame a guy and his whole family in such cases even if they are false. If you follow their feed there are literally everyday 4-5 cases they post and aware people about it. In conclusion there are bad people in both genders and people in general who look good can have darker personalities due to insecurities and self esteem issues and mainly ego issues, so please try to think on this perspective as well. Thnak you for this video and comment section to give space for at least an open discussion on this topic.
101% agree & You always see the other side of the COIN where the majority do not see or are unwilling to see. This analysis made your new approach IMMORTAL in history (इस वीडियो ने आपको इतिहास में अमर कर दिया) keep it up sir and we are with you "GO AHEAD" Thankyou🙏😊
@@pallabiran4266 woman are just possibilities of femenity, love, care and motherhood never guarantee. Are all women manifesting these qualities. Are women not involved in harmfull, antisocial, antinational activities. Are all the criminal are males only. Thus gender is never important our activities and responsible attitude is most important. Those who choose to respect and care others are treated as Devi Maa in our sanatan philosophy.
@@ninanani4085 only in Hinduism women are considered mother , sisters and Devi . In polygamous relationship it's not possible to respect any type of relationship permanently forever .
@@anikettripathi7991 Thats Why no man is respected because they were ever into polygamy, ruining other women's lives. Even they created polygamous gods even to sanction their own lechery. And those lechers became Self claimed pati parmeshwars, subjugating weak women.
How can you justify maintenance law in India. My friend wife is b tech cse pass Still she get maintenance Where As my friend is on 12 th pass and run a contractor business
@@JackReacher-rt9ng saas aur Bahu ko ek saath rehna hi nahi chahiye ek ghar me. Kyuki saas sauteli maa jaise hoti hai wo bas apne baccho se pyar karti hai dusro se nahi. Ye human nature hai isliye humesha saas hi galat hoti hai har case me. Solution - shadi ke baad saas sasur ko saath nahi rehna chahiye
बहुत सच्चाई है सर...आपके विचारो मे ..मैने अपनी life मे बहुत पडी लिखी महिलाओ को पुरूष के हाथो प्रताड़ित होते देखा है।वे बहुत ही सहन कर रही है।अच्छी बात यह है कि जो कुछ उन्होंने सहा..उनकी बेटी ना सहे..इस काबिल बना रही है।🙏
The root cause of All problems are Unfulfilled Expectations from others while not fulfilling theirs by overvaluing ourselves when something is expected from us. Reality driven thought process from Amitji.
More Reformed Law should be created and need to be implemented properly and it will take another 5 to 10 years, Jese Jese cases aayege law reform hoge for both gender
It takes a lot for women and her family to stand up and go for a case.... when things were going bad in the house that time no one notices her pain... they are simply ignored
Sir has not considered the manipulation through family politics and many girls have anxiety in first few years of marriage. So after initially married there is a high risk of 498A. Man is afraid of jail and loss of money, income, respect.
Omg sooo scarrryyyyy......😢.....this means 😂you are the someone who will do domestic violence on your wife or else why are you scared. 498a case hone ke baad tumko jail nhi dalenge pehle investigate karenge .....tumhari wife ko evidence provide krna hoga and if she fails.....no court can sentence against you. Abhi recently ek case Mei ladki ko jail dala h false case ke liye 😮😮😮.......Kam se Kam theek se research aur padhai toh Kar lete
@@ankitamishra0405498A is most misused law even courts have said that this law is grossly misused against men and their family just to settle personal scores. As far as investigation is concerned we know that how much our police officers are honest ok. still people are immediately arrested in 498A ok. India is the only country where criminal cases are lodged if marriage is not working due to some issues for ex civil issues. Lastly why you presume women as satisavitri and innocent by birth we have seen taraka and sanupnakas as well.
Sorry to say ,may be in north India women are sufferers but in Bengal especially Kolkata Bengali girls of today's generation toucher their husbands and inlaws. After marriage they never stay with inlaws and don't want to stay with husbands. They went back to their parents house and become ghar jamai because they can't do anything , can't take any responsibility. If the husbands don't agree then they come to divorce and ask hefty alomoni. Women's are very much dominating, physically tourcher their inlaws and husbands. This is the real truth. Women are abusing the laws. ITS TRUTH.
In the right circumstances, my experience has been that women are the most loyal, the most supportive and the most fun to be with. The key is to create the right circumstances. I have had the privilege of having some of the most lovely women friends who would go to any lengths to make you happy. There has never been a secret i told my women friends that's been revealed or made fun of. Most of my male friends have turned against me out of sheer envy after succcess found me and i have been shocked by how cruel they can be. I have never had a woman envy me ever. Not sure why im writing this but im filled with gratitude
Same n fully my case... I still don't have any proof and so, failed for court case... Their mental torture, abusiveness, money desires everything!!!! Sirf bolte the.. ab mai nhi jaa rahi waha
Very nice video, As I am planning to get married having same kind of doubt. I am just a simple n calm person believing in pillars of equality, respect, Love n caring in a relation. But I fear its hard to get from the opposite person as well, experienced in my previous relationship, we mutually agreed to broke up due to our own individual reasons. I love her but looking at the things n her passive aggressive behaviour I am afraid to going back to her. Now worried about what if same happens in the arrange marriage but pre marriage counseling is good option to overcome this issue I guess.
This is v true. I have come across so many males who keep cribbing about the good old days. And so beautifully u have described why the old days were good for them. I wish and pray that they learn their lesson soon 😀
Social atmosphere in India is such as if women are slave of men, why girls are being sent to boys place, why only girl will work in kitchen and look after all guests etc, this mind set has to be changed. I usually see in society that only girls are suffering of all sort of crimes, discrimination, social attrocities, blamed for small 2 issues. In her new home with in laws, she alone has to fight all problems and becomes helpless human being. We are not used to of girls asking their rights. Let us support every action which advocate for equality for men and women
When men can't learn to serve their parents look after their own households where they have lived with their own family since childhood, why another newcomer women are supposed to do that. If men are so inefficient, they should move to girls house after marriage, and take her surname. Its not a big deal. Women have been doing it effortlessly. Men can also do it. At least daughters dont have serving her own parents.
I have seen an old psyco lady in my neighborhood beating her husband. In many households, women dominate in decision making. Recently, in Pepoye's channel, a school child was accused of sexual harassment by a girl in his school. The school never listened to the side of the boy and straightway rusticated him. Later due to support from social media, people got to know that the boy was falsely accused. Trust me, unless we get gender neutral laws on domestic violence and sexual harassment, such insecurities will prevail.
100% true. Most of the problem men facing is not actually about divorce its about clashing opinions and unrealistic expectations of women these days. Sometimes men think better to stay long hours at office rather than going home early :P
Man like you should get out off marriage market. This will make easy to choose good husband. There are really great men on this planet.....soo women don't want people like you. And mister Unrealistic expectations are of men not women ......they want slaves not wife soo better marry your mother ( for mama boys) or hire a personal maid agar aukaat ho toh 😂.....joki jydatar logo ki nhi hoti.
Sir discuss something on well earning wives n very less earning husband's, bitter environment for family n kids. How to face or tackle such situations.
I still remember when I went to cinema hall a man continued to smoke near me and my father said me to adjust and I fell seriously ill and since then I'm allergic to it and I can't stand but people don't obey the 200 rd fine concept
If a woman makes herself strong, good n wise, self confident she will attract the same boys, no compromise. She knows how to sustain marriage n live peacefully What u sow, so shall u reap.
Baat to sahi hai, mere dost ki behan ne hamari batey sun kar puch liya ki agar acchi wife mil gayi to dekhoge gender biased laws ko. We both look at each other then to her and said, well, to hell with the world, my world is my wife only The laughs after that 😁
Very good content sir. Can you pls make one more video on how to understand woman especially wife so that the marriage is a smooth sailing and win win foe both the couples
You are God sent Sangwan ji. Thank you for your video. Brought tears to my eyes because you are one of the men who understand women's issues and are trying to educate people.
Ladkiya ajkl zomato,ola walo ko mar rhi, fake rape,sexual harresment cases to extort money are the result of these biased laws. and check ncrb data for the numbers please cover these points and aspects also.
Living with parents is an issue. I partially agree with this. Because a wife may love her husband but it doesn't necessarily extend to his family. I understand that because they are complete strangers for her and most of the times do not love her as much as they would their own child. Partially, because a typical middle class man whose parents are dependent on him cannot afford two households at the same time. A lot of money could be rather saved for buying a property or for emergency. One of the reasons i do not wish to marry. Don't take me wrong. As an introvert i would like to have some alone bonding time with my wife if i were married. But it's not possible with my family around. To all those women who resent living with in-laws. I know it doesn't matter to you and i understand it. But it's not a privilege for men. It's a responsibility.
Love marriage sahi hai sir atleast we know partners but not arrange marriage as hard to know other partner. less chance of divorce. National crime record ke according maximum cases 498a ke cases mae Man and his family ko koi saja nhi hui. So majority cases are fake not minority.
@@vivek8580 criminal cases close hote hai because of lack of evidence otherwise sabko saja hoti hai. 498a cases mae settlement hota hai mtlb majorly female get some payment to take complaint back in murder cases you can't do settlement. Most of 498a cases close on settlement if some lady will be really tortured for dowary why she will settle the case without punishment. even 25%-40% rape cases are fake. use your head
@@vivek8580 bhai meri bala se tho shadi karna hi bekar hai. Kyuki chae ladka ho ya ladki dono mae hi intni akal nhi hoti ki apna partner sahi se chun sake ya jo chuna hai vo sahi hai ye pta ho. but Marriage se niklna itna legally complicated ki vo bane rhte hai. Russia mae divorce bahut easy hai and single women get money for child care from govt so divorce rate is high. baki badnami ladke ki bhi hoti hai so ye koi reason nhi hua. Agar ladki vala sach mae badnami ki sochega tho kabhi case file nhi karega case file last option hota hai mostly ya jab domestic violence bhi hojay. Isliye mae apki baat se puri tarah agree nhi hu ki 1% ladko ke sath bura hota hai. I am not saying ladkio ke sath bura nhi hota and law nhi ho par netural rhna hoga law ko apna perception change karna hoga. Otherwise jese Sir ne bola na ladko ko Indian ladkiya pasand aygi aur na ladkiyo ki indian ladka. Dono foriegn shadi karne laggege
@@vivek8580 Problem ye nhi hai. Problem hai ki marriage ko hamne bahut hype bnaya hua hai. kisiko ye nhi pta hota ki ye ladka/ladki mere liye sahi hai ya nhi. Even 80% school relationships ki shadi nhi hoti tho ye socho ki jo ladka ladki 1st time shadi kar rhe hai unme kese umar bhar sath rhege. Human being ki pasand change hoti rhti hai time and experience ke sath. Uppar se peso ka len den dowary ho ya divorce pe makes matter complicated. its better to be in live in atleast agar nhi jami tho chodna asan hai. Bacha bhi jabhi karna chahiye jab bilkul 100% sure ho ki marriage stable hai sath vala banda & family smj agyi pura nhi tho phr female foeticide aur ladke ke tane divorce na lena due to child responsibility ye alag janjat. Human need to have freedom to leave his/her partner without unnecessary pressure. Agar koi sach mae pyar karega tho ja hi nhi payga kahi otherwise dokha tho dega hi adultary karega chupke. Europe and russia mae it is relatively easy to get divorce and support for single mother/father so People don't hesitate they only stay together if they are in love. In America and canda also system are bad like India.
My God! I am in awe of you a sir!! The line that there is no way to prove passive aggressive behaviour is so true!! Nobody wants to enter into legal battles otherwise!
Sir, mere sath exactly ye hi ho rahi hai ...dahez, gharlu hinsa, meri pregnancy mai bhi usne mujhe mara hai, aur Mujhe mere gher bhej diya aaj tak June 26 se aaj ye din aa gya, kisi ka koi phone tak nhi aaya...ki kam se kam bacche ki to puch leta.
This biased mentality is the root cause of conflict..... why you want girls to be sanskari agar shaadi dono ne ki hai to dono ka sanskari hona zaroori hai.....both are responsible for every advantages and losses of marriage....
Men can not handle household chores of the house in which they live since childhood. They can not cook for and serve their own parents in their own comfort zone. How and why should a newcomer women be expected to handle such inefficient man and his house hold. Such inefficient Men should better move to wive's place after marriage and daughters can take care of the parents.
Sir padhe likhe to sabse bade wale bewakoof hai, itna padhne ke baad bhi Sab apne gotra mein partner dhoondtey hai. Agar ye thinking change nahi ho sakti to pehle wali soch boss log kaise chhod de.
We cannot ask happiness and companionship from men ...is what most educated wirking girls have realised. They are on a journey of self discovery guys. Its changing. It will vety fast. Its not all a western influence. In ancient India women were empowered.
Men have to focus on earning money. The worth of men is dependent only on the ability to earn. Nowadays men are also supposed to contribute to household activities. They also need to drive cars and manage outside activities. Women have freedom to not do their jobs. Stay at home. Housewives spend more time talking more about work. Men have clear criteria in office, perform or perish. If housewives do not perform to the level, there is no exit criteria. If men are allowed to be house husbands they can spend hours articulating minor issues.
All the men in a the comment section saying marriage is evil.. Maat kar shadi, only ppl who care about your marriage are your own parents😂. Uchaal aise rahe ho jaise ladkiya line de ke khadi hai tere se shaadi karne ke liye aur tereko zabardasti shaadi kara rahi hai. Rah na single, kisko padi hai? 😂😂 losers
बात प्रैक्टिकल होने की है तो महिलाएं पुरषों के मुकाबले जल्दी मैच्योर होती हैं पुरषों की हर कमजोरी जानती हैं कानून एकतरफा और दोगले है कानून महिलाओं के लिए अलग पुरुषों के लिए अलग है अगर महिला सच्ची है तो केस जरूर जीतेगी आदमी गलत है तो सजा से बच नहीं सकता अगर महिला गलत भी है तो भी उसका कुछ नहीं होता है
महिलाएं जल्दी मेच्योर होती हैं तो पुरुष को पुरुष सत्ता छोड़ देनी चाहिए. वैसे भी Patriarchy ने बेवकूफ मर्दों के हाथ में सत्ता देकर समाज में रेप, हत्या, युद्ध, genocide, नरसंहार और घर घर में झगड़े ही कराएं हैं।
This is correct that less flats are coming w.r.t population. But again per capita income is not commensurate with property prices. With technical deflation (deflation due to technology like zoom and wfh) real estate is due for crash till 2026.
I left my home and staying on rent....I can't stand if anyone try to disrespect my wife.... Samajh ni aata kya kare.....log bhut toxic hote Jaa rhe hai.
I am glad you made this video. I was biased towards ladies for some past experience. I wrongly generalized them all. However, the reality has changed today from the expectations I had, by observing my mother/aunt and Hindi Films of 90s. Women today want to live as comfortably as men. I cook two times a day now for myself, and I can understand the pain and boredom I feel sometimes. I have realised we can't expect women to do things that we don't enjoy doing ourselves.
Good video.
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Respect brother❤
Actually for women, problem is not cooking or doing household work. Main problem arises from lack of appreciation and respect for these things. And if a woman is working like i am, there is a limitation to do household works. This thing men fail to understand and do not adjust at all. But i also agree that not all men are same. I am blessed with a really good husband. He helps me in household work, whatever is not done by maid. Sometimes when we both have tired day at work, we adjust either by ordering from outside or cooking something quick. Its all about understanding each other.
Passive aggressive behavior is such a real thing! It takes away respect from one who's victimized.
Sir i know a case personally where wife filled false cases just bcoz husband had caught her affairs with multiple men .
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Kalyug
Yeh prove hua ya phir sirf husband bol Raha tha? Ab case ho Gaya uspar toh kuch toh jhoot bolna hi parhega.
Even if she filed a wrong case the thing is you saw just one woman doing that but not seeing crores of innocent women sufferring in marriages and not doing anything against husband/in laws..how can you generalise..
@@afreenjamal4045 internet pe video leak hua tha
@@_13456more than 2 lakh married men commit suicide due to matrimonial dispute and misuse of laws according to ncrb data.
Excellent video sir but u just missed one point about 498A law and that is it's not gender neutral. Women have been the biggest sufferer historically but everyone should be equal infront of law but this law is actually too much protective of women if u read it . Women basically can make the men suffer as they have the upper hand in it.
@@gagansingh7026 how you know that??? are you his content writer...
@@vdglam5468 jis tarah ye 1980-1990 nahi he. ussi tarah laws bhi 2020's ke liye update hona chahite
Aise "mardo" ko koi bhi aakar samjha de unki samajh me nhi aayega. 😂 He said na, most of the men are idiots.
Chorro inko, they will continue with their beliefs. They are not flexible. In that sense they are like 70 yr olds. Very rigid.
Also, some have very low IQs. They think they can make better laws than lawmakers, who have studied these things and are practicing it, just because they want to make laws which suit their needs.
Wow highly educated men. If a women file the case 498a there will be an investigation team .....husband will not be put behind bars just after case. Women has to provide proof to the court in her favour .......if she fails no court can sentence against husband. Even a latest case in which women got jail for lodging false case.
Jaake theek se padhai Karo 😂😂.....ohhh sorry school college Mai padhne ki jagah ladkibazi porn dekhna se fursat mile toh buddhi Mei vriddhi ki jayegi na.
Jitni bhi shadiya hoti h usmei se 95 percent Mei dahej li jati h aur keval 1 percent shadi divorce Mei jati h ......usmei bhi purush Prajati roti h ki alimony Dena pada.
Log kehte h na ladkiya bohot roti h woh toh dikh hi rha h kaun roo rha h. Teri age kya h woh toh mujhe Pata nhi 😂😂😂 par zara jaake thik se padhai Kar aur research Kar phir aakar comment Kar warna sabko Pata chal jayega teri buddhi Kam h
Don't suffer in toxic relation ship whether men or women .Respect individual .As sir said always women should be financially independent so no one ever try to haress women .
Also all men should be financially independent so no one ever try to harras men.
Well said , but people feel scared to speak up with fear of social isolation so more and more people should move out at the right time from bad abusive relationship irrespective -emotional, verbal and physical . Be strong , protect yourself from such toxic person(male/female).
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Yes women are doing false cases against men. I am NRI, not even breaking traffic rules. My wife with Nambinarayan (ex-isro scientist of rocketry movie) are trying to declare me as mentally unsound and thereby smoothly confiscate my property.
plss explain what is happening with you
@@HarshSharma-jp4no definitely, please give me a few days time.
@@dhanamjayasNambi Narayanan?? The famous scientist?
Yes, the infamous scientist! Shame he is comparing with Abdul Kalam. Kalam is a diamond whereas Nambus is a blue metal used for roads!😂😜
Please wait , my wife has withdrawn her false case of domestic violence! I will post a video in Tamil, Hindi, English and Telugu.! Within a month!
I don't see ppl getting married in next 25-30 years..
May be in next 20 years people are getting married to AI robots. 😀💗🤖
Dont get married
Let mil and fil sudhare
@@crypto_with_tushar once artificial womb comes into picture marriage will become outdated and useless imo
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Next 5 years samaj lo...
For earning women my income is mine and husband's income is mine with no responsibility and all obligations are husband's .
It means you are not transparent in spending. That's why your wife don't trust you that you can secure her childs future.
You might be giving money to your parents without her consent
@@Raythelightlife Because of simps and pimps in judiciary pros are using this logic!😂😜😜🤔👽
@AmitSangwanji it's funny 😁 how people research, find reviews, friends references to even eat out at chinese restaurant or to go on vacation but mindlessly marry without asking crirical questions about their future lives. IN TODAYS WORLD PREMARITAL COUNSELING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN KUNDALI MATCHING. It's shocking to know people look at shadi as market
Fully agree. Good point
Absolutely agree. Not only premarital counseling but also now theres a need of prenuptial contract also for marriages in India.
@@mallikasapre3662 Premarital Counselling is good idea. Marriage is a divine RELATIONSHIP, it's absolutely sacred. Contracts often fail/break.
@@madhurbajpai9965only if world was an ideal place. The ones who have intent to make it divine can do so despite prenups but in worst case scenario one doesn't end up with loosing money and marriage both or living with a philandring/ controlling spouse. This is applicable to both genders.If nit pre cups absolute clarity on how different aspects before marriage
To court ne ise legal terrorism kyon kaha? Marriages will be vanished soon.
Ek judge ke aisa comment krne se ye sach nhi ho jata..judges too have biased n patriarchal mindsets.
@@_13456 haa bass ek ye word seekh liya hai patriarchy. Indian judiciary ne ladko ki maar rakhi hai, but harr cheez mai ladkiyo ki hi problem dikhti hai.
System of marriage needs to be changed. Let us think of some other way of arranged marriage. Why only girl are going to boys place? There should not be any difference between boy and girl. Let the couple decide. If there is a problem in this type of system, break cast, religion, place restrictions. Let us make a beautiful society
Well there are society where husband stays at wife house . It's meghalaya culture
Our ancestors have tried everything , so they try and tested and came to the conclusion that ITS BETTER TO SENT YOU GIRL CHILD TO HUSBAND . THERE ARE MANY REASON LIKE . POWER STRUGGLE , BASIC HUMAN MANLE TENDENCY , BASIC ANCESTORAL WISDOM .
and it failed more tragically .....but no worries women now are anyway not going to tolerate so doesn't matter
@@ankitamishra0405 hahaahhaa , I am sure are 3 rd wave feminist .
Ok your choice do it now what are you waiting for . When you will marry apply these things ,
There is a saying in SANTAN DHARM , SON IN LAW AND FATHER LAW SHOULD NOT BE LIVING IN SAME HOUSE FOR LONG , OTHERWISE THERE WILL CRISIS IN DOMINACIAL INSTINCT
SETA JI WHEN MARRIED TO RAM JI , SHE LEFT HER HOME , SO YEAH I THINK
YOUR BRAIN IS CORRUPTED BY WOKEISM , FEMINISM AND ALL
@@shaangaming350 Patriarchy jas failed miserably. It did no good to the world ever.
War, Genocide, massacres, Rapes, Loot, Dacoity, Molestation, Trafickking of women n children, all evil is result of Patriarchy, Uncontrolled and unquestioned Patriarchy.
Men couldn't handle the power graciously.
It should be changed now.
Sir I respect your opinion truly but here are some counters.
You discussed that boys are only scared because they might have some fault, but what about girls who have ego issues, who make it a point to destroy other person's life, saidst personalities etc. These exist in both genders and marrying a girl with these issues which are usually very layered and not visible in first few meetings(mostly arranged marriage context). If you visit some MRA [Men's Right Activist] like Deepika Narayan Bharadwaj and some more you will surely see the other side and how easy it is to frame a guy and his whole family in such cases even if they are false. If you follow their feed there are literally everyday 4-5 cases they post and aware people about it. In conclusion there are bad people in both genders and people in general who look good can have darker personalities due to insecurities and self esteem issues and mainly ego issues, so please try to think on this perspective as well.
Thnak you for this video and comment section to give space for at least an open discussion on this topic.
101% agree & You always see the other side of the COIN where the majority do not see or are unwilling to see. This analysis made your new approach IMMORTAL in history (इस वीडियो ने आपको इतिहास में अमर कर दिया) keep it up sir and we are with you "GO AHEAD" Thankyou🙏😊
Unless there is adequate protection of law of male. Better to remain Single and Independent of taught and action for the rest of life. Thanks 🙏
All women can't be treated as Devi.
Devi won't tolerate chutiyapa.
Besides think them as human that would be enough.
@@pallabiran4266 woman are just possibilities of femenity, love, care and motherhood never guarantee. Are all women manifesting these qualities. Are women not involved in harmfull, antisocial, antinational activities. Are all the criminal are males only. Thus gender is never important our activities and responsible attitude is most important. Those who choose to respect and care others are treated as Devi Maa in our sanatan philosophy.
@@anikettripathi7991 राक्षसों को देवी मां क्या देवी मां ही लगेगी?
@@ninanani4085 only in Hinduism women are considered mother , sisters and Devi . In polygamous relationship it's not possible to respect any type of relationship permanently forever .
@@anikettripathi7991 Thats Why no man is respected because they were ever into polygamy, ruining other women's lives. Even they created polygamous gods even to sanction their own lechery.
And those lechers became Self claimed pati parmeshwars, subjugating weak women.
How can you justify maintenance law in India.
My friend wife is b tech cse pass
Still she get maintenance
Where
As my friend is on 12 th pass and run a contractor business
My experience is that it is not the wife who does it but the male members. Her Dad or her Mama
or brother
1) Make rape laws gender neutral.
2) Make domestic violence laws gender neutral.
Make Patriarchal laws gender neutral. Shun all bias towards men.
Women exhibit more of passive aggression, and it's very difficult to prove
Like mother-in-law
@@Raythelightlifehaa mother in law shaitan hai, bass daughter in law bohot acchi hai har case mai.
@@JackReacher-rt9ng saas aur Bahu ko ek saath rehna hi nahi chahiye ek ghar me. Kyuki saas sauteli maa jaise hoti hai wo bas apne baccho se pyar karti hai dusro se nahi. Ye human nature hai isliye humesha saas hi galat hoti hai har case me.
Solution - shadi ke baad saas sasur ko saath nahi rehna chahiye
बहुत सच्चाई है सर...आपके विचारो मे ..मैने अपनी life मे बहुत पडी लिखी महिलाओ को पुरूष के हाथो प्रताड़ित होते देखा है।वे बहुत ही सहन कर रही है।अच्छी बात यह है कि जो कुछ उन्होंने सहा..उनकी बेटी ना सहे..इस काबिल बना रही है।🙏
I am surprised to see your emotional intelligence. Aap bahut achche se samajh sakte hain.
The root cause of All problems are Unfulfilled Expectations from others while not fulfilling theirs by overvaluing ourselves when something is expected from us. Reality driven thought process from Amitji.
More Reformed Law should be created and need to be implemented properly and it will take another 5 to 10 years, Jese Jese cases aayege law reform hoge for both gender
@@rohanutep81 it will happen doesn't matter for this generation
It takes a lot for women and her family to stand up and go for a case.... when things were going bad in the house that time no one notices her pain... they are simply ignored
This is not 1950.
In 2023 , there is no difficulty in filling the case .
@@amitrajput6904😂in what delusion you live man, many people have mentalities of 1950, and pretend to be of 2023
@@ketkipatil8309 true
@@ketkipatil8309 kyu bete? What's so difficult about it?
As always, dropping knowledge bombs with such clarity and intelligence. Kudos to your courage for speaking about these issues.
Sir has not considered the manipulation through family politics and many girls have anxiety in first few years of marriage. So after initially married there is a high risk of 498A. Man is afraid of jail and loss of money, income, respect.
Omg sooo scarrryyyyy......😢.....this means 😂you are the someone who will do domestic violence on your wife or else why are you scared.
498a case hone ke baad tumko jail nhi dalenge pehle investigate karenge .....tumhari wife ko evidence provide krna hoga and if she fails.....no court can sentence against you. Abhi recently ek case Mei ladki ko jail dala h false case ke liye 😮😮😮.......Kam se Kam theek se research aur padhai toh Kar lete
@@ankitamishra0405498A is most misused law even courts have said that this law is grossly misused against men and their family just to settle personal scores. As far as investigation is concerned we know that how much our police officers are honest ok. still people are immediately arrested in 498A ok. India is the only country where criminal cases are lodged if marriage is not working due to some issues for ex civil issues. Lastly why you presume women as satisavitri and innocent by birth we have seen taraka and sanupnakas as well.
Sorry to say ,may be in north India women are sufferers but in Bengal especially Kolkata Bengali girls of today's generation toucher their husbands and inlaws. After marriage they never stay with inlaws and don't want to stay with husbands. They went back to their parents house and become ghar jamai because they can't do anything , can't take any responsibility. If the husbands don't agree then they come to divorce and ask hefty alomoni. Women's are very much dominating, physically tourcher their inlaws and husbands. This is the real truth. Women are abusing the laws. ITS TRUTH.
In the right circumstances, my experience has been that women are the most loyal, the most supportive and the most fun to be with. The key is to create the right circumstances. I have had the privilege of having some of the most lovely women friends who would go to any lengths to make you happy. There has never been a secret i told my women friends that's been revealed or made fun of. Most of my male friends have turned against me out of sheer envy after succcess found me and i have been shocked by how cruel they can be. I have never had a woman envy me ever. Not sure why im writing this but im filled with gratitude
passive toxic behave. Emotion kills to another level.
Agreed
Thanks by heart... For your logical, realistic thoughtful discussions
Same n fully my case... I still don't have any proof and so, failed for court case... Their mental torture, abusiveness, money desires everything!!!! Sirf bolte the.. ab mai nhi jaa rahi waha
Very nice video, As I am planning to get married having same kind of doubt. I am just a simple n calm person believing in pillars of equality, respect, Love n caring in a relation. But I fear its hard to get from the opposite person as well, experienced in my previous relationship, we mutually agreed to broke up due to our own individual reasons. I love her but looking at the things n her passive aggressive behaviour I am afraid to going back to her. Now worried about what if same happens in the arrange marriage but pre marriage counseling is good option to overcome this issue I guess.
Hats off sir ... Many times family hide groom disabilities and do violence to hide
Many families hide a woman's past relationships
This is v true. I have come across so many males who keep cribbing about the good old days. And so beautifully u have described why the old days were good for them. I wish and pray that they learn their lesson soon 😀
One of the best videos on a sensitive social issue by you ... Worth sharing.
Social atmosphere in India is such as if women are slave of men, why girls are being sent to boys place, why only girl will work in kitchen and look after all guests etc, this mind set has to be changed. I usually see in society that only girls are suffering of all sort of crimes, discrimination, social attrocities, blamed for small 2 issues. In her new home with in laws, she alone has to fight all problems and becomes helpless human being. We are not used to of girls asking their rights. Let us support every action which advocate for equality for men and women
Patriarchy is evil system to protect interests of character less males. It couldn't benefit society in any way.
When men can't learn to serve their parents look after their own households where they have lived with their own family since childhood, why another newcomer women are supposed to do that.
If men are so inefficient, they should move to girls house after marriage, and take her surname. Its not a big deal. Women have been doing it effortlessly. Men can also do it.
At least daughters dont have serving her own parents.
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I have seen an old psyco lady in my neighborhood beating her husband. In many households, women dominate in decision making.
Recently, in Pepoye's channel, a school child was accused of sexual harassment by a girl in his school. The school never listened to the side of the boy and straightway rusticated him. Later due to support from social media, people got to know that the boy was falsely accused.
Trust me, unless we get gender neutral laws on domestic violence and sexual harassment, such insecurities will prevail.
yes
Sad
100% true. Most of the problem men facing is not actually about divorce its about clashing opinions and unrealistic expectations of women these days. Sometimes men think better to stay long hours at office rather than going home early :P
Pata nhi kya samajh me aaya hai tumhe?
Man like you should get out off marriage market. This will make easy to choose good husband. There are really great men on this planet.....soo women don't want people like you.
And mister Unrealistic expectations are of men not women ......they want slaves not wife soo better marry your mother ( for mama boys) or hire a personal maid agar aukaat ho toh 😂.....joki jydatar logo ki nhi hoti.
@@afreenjamal4045are behen usne apne purush buddhi laga ke suna h 😂video. Self claim intellectual community or rapist community.
@@ankitamishra0405😂 Rapist community 🙄🤣
@@ankitamishra0405 now let's see women's achievements and inventions 😌
Let's see intellect 😊
Sir, it is difficult to be a successful man (who can attract women).
😟
Sir discuss something on well earning wives n very less earning husband's, bitter environment for family n kids. How to face or tackle such situations.
Lower your ego low earning wife stays with high earning husband yet no issues.....vice versa issue this means male ego
very good point. thanks for sharing. the misconception and fear is very much addressed well.
Each and every man should listen to this video. Well made
Even every woman too.
@@Vijay-cz7pe😂😂we will as it exposes your community 😂😂
I still remember when I went to cinema hall a man continued to smoke near me and my father said me to adjust and I fell seriously ill and since then I'm allergic to it and I can't stand but people don't obey the 200 rd fine concept
@@arpanmadrecha3013 wearing mask is also not that comforting
If a woman makes herself strong, good n wise, self confident she will attract the same boys, no compromise. She knows how to sustain marriage n live peacefully
What u sow, so shall u reap.
Baat to sahi hai, mere dost ki behan ne hamari batey sun kar puch liya ki agar acchi wife mil gayi to dekhoge gender biased laws ko. We both look at each other then to her and said, well, to hell with the world, my world is my wife only
The laughs after that 😁
Very good content sir.
Can you pls make one more video on how to understand woman especially wife so that the marriage is a smooth sailing and win win foe both the couples
You are God sent Sangwan ji. Thank you for your video. Brought tears to my eyes because you are one of the men who understand women's issues and are trying to educate people.
Avoid marriage
Ladkiya ajkl zomato,ola walo ko mar rhi, fake rape,sexual harresment cases to extort money are the result of these biased laws. and check ncrb data for the numbers please cover these points and aspects also.
He won't because there is a reason why he is a marriage counselor
Sir aap jaise samjhate ho.....bahut hee alag aur clarity deta hai.....thank you for doing this....
Living with parents is an issue. I partially agree with this. Because a wife may love her husband but it doesn't necessarily extend to his family. I understand that because they are complete strangers for her and most of the times do not love her as much as they would their own child. Partially, because a typical middle class man whose parents are dependent on him cannot afford two households at the same time. A lot of money could be rather saved for buying a property or for emergency. One of the reasons i do not wish to marry. Don't take me wrong. As an introvert i would like to have some alone bonding time with my wife if i were married. But it's not possible with my family around. To all those women who resent living with in-laws. I know it doesn't matter to you and i understand it. But it's not a privilege for men. It's a responsibility.
Subject is covered very sensibly and sensitively. Everything is analysed and explained very well 👍👍
Plz make video on understanding girls
Love marriage sahi hai sir atleast we know partners but not arrange marriage as hard to know other partner. less chance of divorce.
National crime record ke according maximum cases 498a ke cases mae Man and his family ko koi saja nhi hui. So majority cases are fake not minority.
@@vivek8580 criminal cases close hote hai because of lack of evidence otherwise sabko saja hoti hai. 498a cases mae settlement hota hai mtlb majorly female get some payment to take complaint back in murder cases you can't do settlement. Most of 498a cases close on settlement if some lady will be really tortured for dowary why she will settle the case without punishment. even 25%-40% rape cases are fake. use your head
@@vivek8580 bhai meri bala se tho shadi karna hi bekar hai. Kyuki chae ladka ho ya ladki dono mae hi intni akal nhi hoti ki apna partner sahi se chun sake ya jo chuna hai vo sahi hai ye pta ho. but Marriage se niklna itna legally complicated ki vo bane rhte hai. Russia mae divorce bahut easy hai and single women get money for child care from govt so divorce rate is high. baki badnami ladke ki bhi hoti hai so ye koi reason nhi hua. Agar ladki vala sach mae badnami ki sochega tho kabhi case file nhi karega case file last option hota hai mostly ya jab domestic violence bhi hojay. Isliye mae apki baat se puri tarah agree nhi hu ki 1% ladko ke sath bura hota hai. I am not saying ladkio ke sath bura nhi hota and law nhi ho par netural rhna hoga law ko apna perception change karna hoga. Otherwise jese Sir ne bola na ladko ko Indian ladkiya pasand aygi aur na ladkiyo ki indian ladka. Dono foriegn shadi karne laggege
@@vivek8580 Problem ye nhi hai. Problem hai ki marriage ko hamne bahut hype bnaya hua hai. kisiko ye nhi pta hota ki ye ladka/ladki mere liye sahi hai ya nhi. Even 80% school relationships ki shadi nhi hoti tho ye socho ki jo ladka ladki 1st time shadi kar rhe hai unme kese umar bhar sath rhege. Human being ki pasand change hoti rhti hai time and experience ke sath. Uppar se peso ka len den dowary ho ya divorce pe makes matter complicated. its better to be in live in atleast agar nhi jami tho chodna asan hai. Bacha bhi jabhi karna chahiye jab bilkul 100% sure ho ki marriage stable hai sath vala banda & family smj agyi pura nhi tho phr female foeticide aur ladke ke tane divorce na lena due to child responsibility ye alag janjat. Human need to have freedom to leave his/her partner without unnecessary pressure. Agar koi sach mae pyar karega tho ja hi nhi payga kahi otherwise dokha tho dega hi adultary karega chupke. Europe and russia mae it is relatively easy to get divorce and support for single mother/father so People don't hesitate they only stay together if they are in love. In America and canda also system are bad like India.
360 Degree approach.
Lovely
Thanks Sir for ur outstanding study and analysis.
My God! I am in awe of you a sir!! The line that there is no way to prove passive aggressive behaviour is so true!! Nobody wants to enter into legal battles otherwise!
I agree
Sir, mere sath exactly ye hi ho rahi hai ...dahez, gharlu hinsa, meri pregnancy mai bhi usne mujhe mara hai, aur Mujhe mere gher bhej diya aaj tak June 26 se aaj ye din aa gya, kisi ka koi phone tak nhi aaya...ki kam se kam bacche ki to puch leta.
May almighty God protect you 🙏🙏
Leave him
Very nice video sir,my daughter is also going through this problem, thanks ur video give me lots of eyes opening reality
Thank you so so so much sir for bringing this topic up ....thank you
Sir, Ladaki ka sanskar is most important. She knows her rights but not her duty towards family.
Mil ke sanskaar zaroori hai
Fil ke sanskaar zaroori hai
Atyachaar kyon karte hai
I had to face domestic violence, what u say
This biased mentality is the root cause of conflict..... why you want girls to be sanskari agar shaadi dono ne ki hai to dono ka sanskari hona zaroori hai.....both are responsible for every advantages and losses of marriage....
Men can not handle household chores of the house in which they live since childhood. They can not cook for and serve their own parents in their own comfort zone. How and why should a newcomer women be expected to handle such inefficient man and his house hold.
Such inefficient Men should better move to wive's place after marriage and daughters can take care of the parents.
Yes, it will be very interesting topic on how to understand men
Same for a man to understand woman
Ladies ko cribbing krne ki jarurat nahi hai bcoz there are strong legal remedies for all problems that they face .
Thank you Amit ji. U explain core facts in such a hilarious manner. These explanations are based on real situations...indeed!
Kuch ladkiyo ko toh maike mein he itna torture mil chuka hota hai ki shadi k baad k harrassment ka ya divorce ka darr he khatam ho jata hai
True
Very true
Deepika Narayan bharadwaj ka video dekh lijiye sir
Sir padhe likhe to sabse bade wale bewakoof hai, itna padhne ke baad bhi Sab apne gotra mein partner dhoondtey hai. Agar ye thinking change nahi ho sakti to pehle wali soch boss log kaise chhod de.
Correct sir. A few exceptions do not make the rule
❤ In my life
I have never met male with this perspective 🙏
सर कुछ लड़कियां लड़ाई झगड़ा बहुत करती है घर का महोल खराब करती है परिवार का जीना हराम कर देती है उनके बारे मे कुछ बताइये
Really aap boht ache insan ho jo sachai bolte hai..ek aadmi kbhi aadmiyo ki sachai itna nhi batata aadmi kbhi abbi galti nhi mante..u r great..ek acha insN banna chahiye sabko..aadmi orat se pehle🙏
We cannot ask happiness and companionship from men ...is what most educated wirking girls have realised. They are on a journey of self discovery guys. Its changing. It will vety fast. Its not all a western influence. In ancient India women were empowered.
True👍
Prenuptial agreement must be legalized to avoid false cases
Very interesting perspective, I had very limited understanding in this aspect.
Sir sach me how to understand women par ho jaye video .bahut si jindagiyan bigadne se bach jayengi.
More stricter punishment should come ...misuse only .01
Video on women understanding
Thank you so much for this eye opening topic ! Much needed in this current scenario 👏
Men have to focus on earning money. The worth of men is dependent only on the ability to earn. Nowadays men are also supposed to contribute to household activities. They also need to drive cars and manage outside activities. Women have freedom to not do their jobs. Stay at home. Housewives spend more time talking more about work. Men have clear criteria in office, perform or perish. If housewives do not perform to the level, there is no exit criteria. If men are allowed to be house husbands they can spend hours articulating minor issues.
U r very nice sir . I am a victim of domestic violence and totally relate with ur words
Why aren't you taking stand
Thank you so much. 🙏🙏🙏
Cleared my perspective, thanks for bringing clearer perspective in life
All the men in a the comment section saying marriage is evil.. Maat kar shadi, only ppl who care about your marriage are your own parents😂. Uchaal aise rahe ho jaise ladkiya line de ke khadi hai tere se shaadi karne ke liye aur tereko zabardasti shaadi kara rahi hai. Rah na single, kisko padi hai? 😂😂 losers
There is no life after death and not much life before it either.
Sir, you explained relevant points.I totally agree your whole thought process .....
App jyasha koi har lardki ke jindegi main aye to baat ban jaye 😂😂
Sense of humour is awesome. Bate sari sach h sir ji.
Sir ji
Thanks for a great video
बात प्रैक्टिकल होने की है तो महिलाएं पुरषों के मुकाबले जल्दी मैच्योर होती हैं पुरषों की हर कमजोरी जानती हैं कानून एकतरफा और दोगले है कानून महिलाओं के लिए अलग पुरुषों के लिए अलग है अगर महिला सच्ची है तो केस जरूर जीतेगी आदमी गलत है तो सजा से बच नहीं सकता अगर महिला गलत भी है तो भी उसका कुछ नहीं होता है
महिलाएं जल्दी मेच्योर होती हैं तो पुरुष को पुरुष सत्ता छोड़ देनी चाहिए. वैसे भी Patriarchy ने बेवकूफ मर्दों के हाथ में सत्ता देकर समाज में रेप, हत्या, युद्ध, genocide, नरसंहार और घर घर में झगड़े ही कराएं हैं।
Sir aap itna galat kyu bolte h .
Aapko ground reality pta hi nhi h and aap logo ko gumrah kr rhe ho .
Make a video on women understanding ☺️☺️
Trust me not getting married will prove to be the best decision in a mens life...but set some goal in your life if you decide not to marry
Neither women nor men are interested in marriage if they are working
This is correct that less flats are coming w.r.t population. But again per capita income is not commensurate with property prices. With technical deflation (deflation due to technology like zoom and wfh) real estate is due for crash till 2026.
Simply Excellent!!!
Amazing video sir❤
Sir make a video on understanding thought process of women
Niyat saaf walo pr hi jyda cases hote h sir
Kis duniya m jee rahe h aap.
Galat logo se log panga nhi leta koi.
Sadar Naman.
Looking so handsome uncle ji in blazer suit.
Even today some guys abuse their wife to please their mom and sis
Not some , most of the boys
I left my home and staying on rent....I can't stand if anyone try to disrespect my wife....
Samajh ni aata kya kare.....log bhut toxic hote Jaa rhe hai.
@@GeneralInfoSystem Happy wife Happy Life,
@@rokhard5607 You must take action as soon as possible. Exactly the same way when the wife is tortured by her husband
@@rokhard5607 True.
Very well said sir.