Money Trauma: How To Heal Your Poverty Mindset I Wealth Psychology I Inner Work Library [111/500]
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- How To Heal Your Poverty Mindset & Money Trauma?
This episode of Inner Work Library Q&A explores the psychology of money: including how to make more money; how to heal a poverty mindset; how to become wealthy; and how to heal financial trauma - a wide ranging episode on money psychology.
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00:00 Financial Trauma & Money Issues
01:55 Family Stories & Shameful Habits
04:14 Hoarding vs Overspending
06:39 How To Identify Unconscious Trauma
08:10 Why You Need To Become Wealthy
10:55 You Can't Bypass Money
13:50 Money Stories & Money Mindset
18:44 How I Healed My Poverty Mindset
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Topics explored: inner work; Jordan Thornton; money mindset; financial therapy; personal finance; money trauma; how to heal money trauma; how to heal money wounds; money wounds; financial education; financial trauma; how to heal financial trauma; what is financial trauma; what is money trauma; money trauma healing; money healing; financial healing; wealth wounds; money mental health; poverty mindset; what is poverty mindset; poverty mindset psychology; money psychology; financial psychology; psychology of money; money mindset shift; money wounds; the psychology of money; psychology money;
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This video just changed my understanding of money issues at the cellular level. #breakthrough moment. PLEASE do another deeper video on this❤
This is powerful, I'll keep going and I released another video on this recently too.
Jordan, I just wanted to thank you for the inner work library...you didn't have to do this, and will likely not get financial recompense for your troubles, but there are people out there that gained substantially for said efforts. So thank you my friend
Thank you again for your kind words 🌲
Im in 2 minds about this one also, I feel the money trauma and needing to deal with it. But to develop an unhealthy attachment to it as a means to happiness or a false sense of security feels like replacing one delusion with another… It often feels that to make a lot of money, you genuinely have to sell your soul in one way or another and there is a price to be paid for that eventually…
I would use a different expression , rather than selling your souls , I would use selling your time and energy !!
I find it physically and emotionally exhausting to make a lot of money ! You lose sleep and mental balance chasing abundance.
I’d rather chill and relax and enjoy balanced and harmonic living, instead of using my time on intense energy exchange with other people.
Money requires a lot of efforts and that efforts feels like selling your “soul” because your soul is your sense of harmony and balance
@@zinasherif7791 Yeah we’re on similar pages I guess I see it from the creative route where I want to do art for the love of it, not ruin why I do it for enjoyment and produce something wouldn’t be proud of just to make money. I get the need for survival and having a comfortable life but I feel its a paradox and also feels like another trap and attachment that will lead to more lack, shame and unhappiness if you don’t achieve it / luck doesn’t go your way if it was never meant for you… That is not to say you don’t try but I wouldn’t bet your life on it.
@@zinasherif7791The belief that make a lot of money takes a lot of time and energy is that, a limited belief. If the ppl who makes the most effort was the richest one, reality it would be a lot different. Make money is easy if you know how to. When we have a wound, we don’t want to even look at it 😂
I would love a full series on this from you. For myself what would be most valuable -- I came from parents who didn't talk about money because we always had enough - my dad was a doctor. There were no budgets, nothing was extravagant, but there were never any money problems.
When I found out I was an artist and starting coming out of the closet on that, I got a lot of weird messages around money there. Essentially I was told the thing you most want to do, you cannot. You will be poor.
When it comes to money, I wasn't really shown how to make it or value it, because I was always around it, but the path I chose in life was opposed to that. A weird combination. I have been attempting to jailbreak myself from that cognitive dissonance.
Screenshotted, will make more before the end of the year on this. Thank you for sharing.
My narrative is much the same as yours - desiring to use land in a sacred way. I am so grateful to you for your honesty. I have heal enough to use money to take care of myself and pamper myself with self-care but it never goes beyond that because I still have deeper trauma to work out. And you gave me the soft kick in my ass that I needed to get past my stuck point! Nothing but gratitude, soul brother!
Soft arse kicking is my style, for sure. Happy to have helped and good luck!
I see the freedom that comes with money. I dream to have a humble bit of land to take care of and have for my own haven. I grew up a lot like you. Talks about how we can’t afford to do certain electives, asked not to ask for anything in the store, etc. I worry a lot about making enough money. I don’t save much but I try. Most financial language just goes over my head. I don’t have a degree because I didn’t want to go into debt for an art degree (that is my interest). I have zero debt and that is something that makes me feel a bit safer. I have many various skills and have worked a lot of odd jobs that fulfill my desire to learn and do creative things so I make do. But I do worry about money… but for some reason I have NO hustle or motivation to make it.
I believe much of money issues are genetically coded in our DNA from ancestors, culture and religion.
Some religions consider wealth as sin, like Christianity, while in Islam wealth is blessed and considered a desirable thing if combined with charity work.
It is also a question of temper and personality types. Some people just wanna chill and relax, preserving their physical and mental energy.
Money requires a lot of energy expenditure, and discipline. Not everyone can pass this hurdle of high energy exchange plus discipline!
My father and his brother had the same upbringing/ programming when it comes to money. They both became doctors, but my dad was a mediocre doctor while his brother became a wealthy and successful doctor who enjoys abundance.
My father was spiritually inclined , while his brother was more worldly and materialistic.
I strongly believe it’s what genes we inherit.
From what I’ve experienced personally and professionally, sustainable wealth accumulation, resourcing, and self worth are interdependent. You have to be tapped into your intrinsic worth in order to secure the people, places, and things needed to achieve your finanical goals. I’m a networking superstar, but have struggled in the past to properly valuate what I bring to the table, because what is most valuable to others often feels effortless to me.
Speaking to the hoarding you mentioned, working in private equity taught me the immense value of recognising sunk-cost bias in all things (time, money, energy), how to cut losses and pivot asap.
You must have so much to teach on these topics, can only begin to imagine based on your experiences 🧠
You are totally correct with all those.
As I was thinking about writing my major trauma about money which is ar the age of five I accidentally swallowed a coin. I almost died and they had to remove it at the hospital with a magnet. I noticed my self for years never touching coins around the house that wasn't mine and thought it was about not touching others people staff but it wasnt that. It was fear of the money. I ve connected death with money.
And by the time I was thinking about it while watching your video another ten negative beliefs about money came into my mind . And all that is making me realise that I need at least a year of therapy specifically on my money story.
Thanks for this video .
I see this message on the week where I'm considering adding an entire module on 'Money Trauma' into my next course, thanks for the confirmation of how important this work is. I'm glad to have helped here, and have more money videos on the way for 2024. I hope they help, and thanks for sharing.
Your videos have had a PROFOUND affect on my healing journey. “Thank you” feels too small. My heart thanks you. ♥️🍃🕊
It's no problem at all. Thanks for putting in the effort and I'll keep sharing!
Thanks!
I’m happy to have landed, and appreciate your generosity here - timely video for this, thank you!
Thank you so much for your videos! It is actually the first time I have come across this particular topic and I feel it is a very important one. The connection between self worth, power and love tied to money within family dynamics could make a really interesting series! Would love to watch it! :)
Great timing to find me - I just released another video on money trauma. Check it out!
need to watch this a few more times.. great content.
Thank you - wishing you the best with your money work!
I've been educated on charity. Today, I'm a solo teacher running an institute ( both online and offline) and struggle to collect fees from students. I deeply believe that I don't deserve to be paid for my work. 😢
I understand, it’s a tough moment. Your work is valuable and you deserve to be paid well.
Boundaries and finances feel completely intertwined. A future video about boundaries would be very much appreciated; how one can establish healthy boundaries around finances (or what they would even be like, especially when it comes to family dynamics etc), as an extension of attachment wounds?
Boundary video coming out on Sunday, funnily enough - but the financial aspect isn't mentioned, unfortunately. Nonetheless hope it helps!
@@jordanthornton Perfect! And brilliant timing - I look forward to it :)
The algorithm is doing a good job! I really hope you that the work you do on and off camera bring you much abundance and prosperity. You are a wise man indeed! Blessings.❤
Thank you so much! Happy to have connected - for the first time? 🤔
Thank you for bringing up this important topic. I’ve never been comfortable neither with money nor the physical nature of our world and the physical needs that arise from that. But ultimately, we live in a physical world and I can’t change it - so I might as well accept it. Body-based practices help me a lot.
This video came right on time! My therapist suggested that we move on to working on my money mindset in relation with my trauma healing. There is a deep connection to wealth and self-worth for me. I feel like I don’t “deserve” a lot of money (working as an educator this belief is deeply ingrained) and when I do get money I tend to feel guilty for it because I know there are a lot of people out there who need it more than I do. Thank you for speaking on this, I’m very curious to learn more and how to work on this mindset in relation to my creative work that I want to put out in the world eventually. ❤️
Happy to be here helping on this, thank you for sharing and will absolutely make more!
Thank you, Jordan!
Always happy to help
Thank you Jordan! 🌻
Notification squad - thank you! Enjoy.
Hi, I've recently discovered your channel and have just finished reading Donald Kalsched's Trauma and the Soul based on your recommendation. It was an extraordinary reading experience and I'm grateful for your guidance.
Do you have recommendations for books related to business, finance, or simply changing one's mindset about money?
Yes, got many questions on this and will try to make a focused money book video as soon as I can!
Oh wow, needed to hear this especially I’ve been a frugal saver. I’m transitioning from a tragic hostile divorce w/o access to cmty funds as a single mother to 5 kids. Hyper vigilant and in scarcity mindset in an endeavor of entrepreneurship roller coaster ride in the valley of despair in most moments.
Thank you for this video. It would be great if you can go deeper within this topic. 🙏🙏💖💖
Great suggestion - I'll keep going.
What an amazing video man. Well done. Great content, keep going !
Thank you brother, one of those important topics that most people can relate to - thanks for dropping in to comment!
This is interesting! I've always had a very laissez-faire attitude towards money (Sagittarius 2nd house?) but until now had not considered possibly an anxious/avoidant relationship with it. I also have my North node in my 2nd house and although I grew up in a very chaotic environment, including periods in a homeless shelter as a small child, I've always known that I would be wealthy one day. As I now approach that reality more closely, I can notice how my thoughts and attitudes are being shifted to align with this "destiny"/inner knowing I've always had. Thanks!!
Things got slightly better for me recently and I wanted to make sure I don’t go back to the same unsustainable methods “solutions” I’ve used in the past. I generally adapt well to changes in life but I noticed I don’t when it comes to finances. So I decided Ima start with looking into the psychology behind & my past before I make any big financial decisions. That’s how I came across your video, thank you for making it!
This is an excellent comment for me to read tonight, thanks for making the shifts and I’m wishing you the best of luck! This channel has plenty of deep psychology to support you in the process too - hope they help!
Im just now seeing this. I'm so glad and thank you. And yes I plan on watching more and taking notes!@@jordanthornton
Would love to hear a video on the "poor little rich girl" type trauma. Most of the people I grew up with ended up having this unique and very weird set of personality traits and world views - where everything and everyone is easy to replace and actions have never had consequences. From the outside looking in, it's rage fuel - but the people living that life are in hell and they don't know why
Screenshotted, will see what I can do!
Hey Jordan,
Would you ever do an episode on cleaning trauma. From a young age I was gaslit on what on what cleaning expectations were. Instead of being shown how to clean, I was yelled at for not doing it properly then my mother would take over. Then when we, as children, were told that because we didnt keep up with the cleaning she wouldn't do it anymore leading to living in a very untidy home. It'd led to me developing poor habits that has meant a lot anxiety around cleaning and bad experiences with roommates.
Cheers mate.
I remember your question from the summer, and I'm sorry I didn't get back to you. I screenshotted your question but I don't think it will be an entire video in the foreseeable future - nonetheless screenshotted this one and will see if I can return to this but there is a massive waitlist right now!
Nonetheless wishing you the best, and it seems like Inner Child Work overall will significantly help you (even though it's not the symptom itself)
@@jordanthornton thanks jordo! Keep up the good work
This is a huge topic that is not spoke about enough due to money situations being kept so private I guess people feel ashamed to open up about their financial situations. I'm absolutely terrible with money I grew up in a council estate in England, we never spoke of money and it was kind of ignored now I'm in my 30s and make 40-60k a year and I still live week by week I'm not even spending it on nice things it's just life and over spending I can't keep it now its affecting me mentally 😢 great video I've downloaded this one and am looking forward to the next one!
Thanks for sharing some of your story here, and will likewise do my best to keep sharing more on this topic!
Hey Jordan! Great video. What books can you recommend to heal money trauma and build a wealthy narrative?
Inner child work books especially, homecoming by john bradshaw and healing the child within by charles whitfield - they're not directly money books, but it will help you to untangle old family stories. Good luck.
Appreciate this Jordan. One question though what you recommend changing internally or how do you recommend changing the mindset of “I can just spend this cause I will make it back anyway” mentality? honestly think it’s a comfort zone thing and a fear of managing or having an abundance of money. Thanks again
Screenshotted, will see if I can make a video on your comment soon. Good luck in the meantime!
Great video. Any suggested reading? I just finished The Mindful Millionaire by Leisa Peterson and that was a great breakdown from a spiritual perspective. Worth checking out.
Planning on doing a big video on this next month, watch out for it!
@@jordanthornton looking forward to it!
Thank you so much for this one. I've recognized that if I'm not aware of myself, I can go and spend a lot, but I mean really a lot of money within days. With "small stuff". It takes a really hard and tight control to avoid this. Any recomendation? Or book that could help with this?
Thank you in advance and for sharing another great video, Jordan.
Overall, it’s going to take you a dozen or so good business books to get educated and start to change things - you’ll have to go there yourself because it depends on your profession! I’m wishing you the best still, and glad this helped
Do people restrict their spending as a form of punishment the same way as anorexics restrict food as punishment? Or is that something different
That’s a great observation, I can imagine some people might do this as you’d described - yes.
Excellent comparison !
I used to restrict food , but not sure whether it’s because I’m punishing myself ! I might do this unconsciously and I’m not aware of it. Regarding money I do restrict spending money to the absolute minimum, but that’s because I’m scared of poverty , and not having enough.
@@zinasherif7791 I don't have a good understanding of poverty trauma, and self-punishing behaviours are just something I understand a bit better. So the question came from me grasping at straws to help me understand better - rather from a place of deep insight. But I imagine that a history of both these things intermingling together makes for a challenging (and beautiful) healing journey. Lots of strings to untangle. I genuinely wish you well on your journey 💗
Money has always been my enemy, but I think I can learn to love my enemy. 😂
No need for adversarial relationships to wealth anymore!
“Money without brains is always dangerous “ Napoleon Hill
“An educated man is not, necessarily, one who has an abundance of general or specialized knowledge. An educated man is one who has so developed the faculties of his mind that he may acquire anything he wants, or its equivalent, without violating the rights of others.”
Napoleon Hill
Nicely quoted!
+1
Always appreciate the support!
Thanks!
Very generous, thank you sir! Took a look at your channel and wishing you the absolute best with your own path ahead.