Rising Up Out of Debt and Poverty is PART of Your Healing From Trauma
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A poverty mindset is often part of Childhood PTSD. Whether you inherited the mindset from your parents' poverty, or their addictions and disordered behaviors drove the family into poverty, you may have struggled to get the education, social skills and connections to earn a middle class income and support yourself and your dependents. You CAN overcome poverty, and healing this part of life is PART of your trauma healing. In this video I respond to a letter from a young woman who is desperate to get out of debt, get an education, and find work that pays decently so she can live a happier, more functional life and NOT the way she was raised. I give practical tips and share my own story of overcoming poverty, and the poverty mindset.
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This cycle is super exhausting, wanting more but subconsciously believing I don't deserve it. Then sabotaging the efforts I make to have more.
Princesscee you’ve summed up something that a lot of people go through and I can really relate.
I‘ve recently managed to stop the cycle at times by interrupting the self-sabotage…. Like celebrating every little win and not beating myself up has really helped me keep momentum and not sabotage.
I noticed that I freak out and get anxious for not being productive enough or taking massive action (i currently don’t have an income and am working on solutions but it is overwhelming).
When I start to panic and judge myself for where I am in life, I list all the things I’ve achieved already today:
I got up at a reasonable hour, I cleaned my teeth, worked out, had a nutritious breakfast, did some house work, answered email, did some job research etc.
Even eating one less cookie, or taking a smarter route in traffic….All of those are small wins and when I acknowledge those achievements I realise they’re not insignificant.
Each small step does support me, and if I continue, I will make progress and that must mean I’m not such a screw up after all.
Celebrating every small smart choice I make has really helped me make more smarter choices so just wanted to share in case others might find it helps too x
@@transmutethyself414 yes I am working on this daily, practicing mindfulness. Being more nurturing with my inner voice. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💗
Yup.
Is it imposter syndrome? Like I Don’t deserve more?
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I leave jobs when I outgrow them or they impact my health. At first I felt shame and guilt. But now I realize that it was the subconscious childhood trauma that was triggering those feelings. I was overqualified and basically exploited, and underpaid. I'm glad I left. And you can too.
It's great you were able to recognize that those feelings were the result of trauma, that's not an easy thing to do! Thanks for sharing these words of encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you, Team Crappy Childhood Fairy. This Channel is a great and affordable outlet for people to heal and shed light on the dark.
This happened to me too. They would exploit me and take advantage of my naivety and determination. Onced I felt used, I would respectfully quit. Afterwards getting a reference was a challenge.
Same here. I still feel guilt about it but perhaps I am on the path to healing
Thanks for your words! That’s amazing
Learned helplessness indeed. I was very capable but mom made me feel like a failure.
Thank you for this! One common denominator for those damaged by CPTSD is we don't learn the basics of so many things, and then we go out into the world with just the need to earn a paycheck. Managing money took a long time to master because I knew NOTHING! I didn't even know how to fill out a check to pay for things (thankfully a nonjudgmental friend showed me how). The best book I read about money basics is Raising Financially Fit Kids by Jolene Godfrey. It's all the stuff my parents would have taught me if they knew (we were a paycheck-to-paycheck household).
Yes exactly! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
MOST people are paycheck-to-paycheck because that's the reality of things
my whole life i’ve only ever worked in the food service industry. 3 months ago i got laid off from my last food service job and realized i needed to step away from the industry and find something with stability and room for growth. today i got offered a job as a city employee in a clerical position. it is intimidating to try to break into another field of work, but you can do it! it really is about putting your mind to it and believing you can.
Good luck to you! You've got this, I'm praying for ya!
Good for you! ❤
Overcoming the poverty mindset is really challenging. In my childhood, I always heard how money is the root of all evil. My mother was never able to hold down a job for more than a few months. There was no money for hobbies or anything new. I persevered in school without glasses because the glasses were too expensive. So I was practically blind through middle school. Now as an adult, I have worked for years to succeed in freeing myself from the mindset of poverty and survival. It's not easy, but I know my hard work will pay off in the end. I will not let my limiting beliefs define my future. Prosperity is the birthright of all of us.
Yes! Poverty = Trauma.
I liken growing up with CPTSD to someone stomping on your foot since birth. Then when you they die or you finally break free, decades have passed and you’re left in a world lost without any skills or direction because you were so fixated on your foot being in pain all that time. Feeling good is a foreign concept.
Don’t be hard on yourself for feeling like a lost kid in this world when you’re a fully developed adult. So many wonderful people such as Anna and others who have been through it too.
That’s a great analogy
Haven't watched the video yet, but oh my god my finances are unrecognisable compared to last year! I actually have savings and my debts are tiny! It makes me feel so secure. I actually love the feeling of having the money to pay my bills. The ability to make a problem completely dissappear by paying a sum of money is just a fantastic and that's how I look at it now..😊
This comment is my new affirmation and goal ♥️
@Graceful River Creator Awh that's great😊😁
Me too! For the first time in my 55 years, I have $everal K's in savings. 2 days ago my car broke down. After a few minutes of panic, I was able to pay for a tow to a mechanic and the cost of repairs. And STILL have over $1000 . Not much but not NOTHING! 😉❤️
Wow, when you said “you have a job you’re dealing with your problems” made me cry. Bless you. Thanks for this video
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
So many folks, me and my 2 boys included, have found our passions in what we gravitated to, as children. Many authors have written about this theme. My son drummed on my kitchen pots non stop and came a drummer, I played school with the younger kids in my neighbourhood and became a teacher. I could go on...but you get the idea. Our true selves is most evident as kids, until the distortions of rigid personalities get so set.
That's a great point! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Tyfs your testimony! It is beautiful
Yes. I try so hard to go back to what I was when very young but there is 50 years of 'training' to be someone else. You are lucky to have done something you wanted to do/be.
Single mom of 2 (widowed); you aren't kidding about that being the main driver of poverty. It's so hard to find work that works with a childcare schedule and trying to afford childcare...plus I tapped out my student loans my junior year of college and couldn't finish. I'm $80k in student loan debt, no degree, and years waiting tables because it's all I could do. Plus CPTSD from childhood. I have been struggling with abject poverty my entire adult life. It's a hard hole to climb out of.
I really hope things turn around for you soon, sending you good vibes and positivity.
Oh girl that's alot. *Hugs*
I believe in you. You’ll be out of that rut soon
So I am a high school dropout. Sound terrible, right? It is not because of the lack of capacity, I have ASD, ADHD (and probably CPTSD) as I found later in life. But even with only the most basic education I didn't stop to learn new things and I had a lot of jobs that would normally require much higher education than I got from school. I worked for a press agency for two years, I was an editor in the newspaper for seven years, I was a beauty shop manager for four years. I began a new career in IT two years ago at the age of 42 and I quite prosper - I am on my way to become an excellent Systems Analyst.
I am saying all this to empower people who lack education and feel powerless without it. It is okay! You can do things! It will not be as easy but education doesn't make a good worker, an attitude and willingness to learn does. There are ways to get where you want to go. Good luck! 🍀😄
Your encouragement is much appreciated :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
I have skills AND education and can't find work. Stuck in this third-world hellhole and can't even move. I made poor decisions in college (idealistic but unemployable major, not applying myself outside of tests), and my awful childhood haunted me throughout.Oh, well. Blown that shot and stuck with debt I can't pay
my main difficulty that is holding me back from building a life of my own and not have my loved ones worried that i'll need to rely on them is inability to put myself out there.
it feels insurpassable sometimes, like it only gets worse...
its very frustrating because i'm a fast and eager learner, i have good people skills, i become passionate and devoted to whatever i'm doing easily, so when the one thing i cant do which is making and seizing opportunities i flush all my good qualities down the whirpool of self-criticism and shame, my depression escalates to debilitating and i'm back to square one :/
its not a hopeless situation, i'm working through some exposure therapy but its a slow process and i can only power through with blind faith
This is a very real thing for me, having a weird money thing going on bc of how my family thinks about money. They were obsessive savers, but at a detriment to what really mattered. Even though I have a good income now, I still wear my socks with holes in them and my high school tee shirts even though I have the power to change that. My parents put me in a position to struggle much harder than they needed to, and it lead to damaging decisions on my part. As an example, I think about in college not making sure I had a safe Uber home and walking through unsafe areas by myself at night to save a few bucks. For my future children I often wonder about the balance between the giving them the right amount of struggle and the right amount of support to face the challenges that shape us into who we are. I loved what you said about internships. So spot on. Thanks for sharing Anna.
Sure Orman also talks about childhood trauma that marks our money beliefs negatively. She gives an exercise something similar to reflecting on your poignant money memories from childhood in order to re-write them so we can be consciously free of the excessive emotional reactions that we have about financial decisions today. I remember being 6 yrs. old when my family was dirt poor, my mom gave me money for an overdue library book. I lost it on the way but the librarian said I didn't have to pay anything. But there was an intense fear for me because I felt guilt and shame over losing what could have been used for groceries and then faced with a possibility of some school retribution for not having any money to pay the fine. Strange - seems like a small experience but it taught me to be TERRIFIED of financial decisions. I do Ok- but a low grade terror lingers.
I agree
My childhood pushed me the other way- I was super smart and managed to go through education and get a great job. I do well for myself and obsessively save/ invest. I always knew education was my way out- away from my family and away from the crappy mindset of those around me as a kid. Money gives you options and lifts so much of the stress of life
I hope this person from the letter realizes how far they've come on their own at such a young age. I'm 46 and only beginning to make headway in these areas now
This couldn’t have come at a better time Ana. There are so many parallels between my story and yours and it gives me courage to get out of my current situation. Thank you for sharing.
Wow, I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you for taking the time to comment, I'm sure Anna will want to read this. -Calista@TeamFairy
Oh my gosh, Anna - this is such a great topic! Thank you. I've made my way out of poverty as well, but now I feel a little stuck. I have a great and great paying job but I only landed here by accident and I know I could make more if I changed jobs. Changing jobs seems SO scary, especially because I have little to no interest in pursuing the same type of work I'm in now. It's so hard to know the right path.
Thank you for saying that once you move up with jobs, you almost NEVER have to go backwards. The trauma will make mess with your sense of worth and ramp up the imposter syndrome so much. You are the person who got you where you are and you 1000% can go where you want and need to be without ever having to go backwards. 👏🏻
I was in exactly the same situation. I went to college late and loved every minute of the four years. They were as transformative as I hoped they would be. I recommend you do it! It will not be as hard as all the jobs you've already survived.
Can i ask you a couple of questions? Perhaps they're not relatable to you as a person, your field or situation. How did you fair with the question about your age and explain once it was discovered? Was it an issue in job search when competing with younger candidates or people with more relavant experience?
That's so on point! I can relate so much to "crazy lifestyle made us poor", everyone else in the family had money but not my parents, even though they grew up in middle class and were well-educated. I've had an already stable financial situation but then a toxic relationship, a child with special needs, lonely motherhood, death in family, dysregulation, and now facing poverty. It's frustrating because I can see now what I've done wrong, bun when all of it was happening I was blind to it.. taking bad advices, investments, wrong decisions. But I can see hope and solutions now after 8 years of being in this weird state. At least we have our own flat to live in and some stable income.
There is one thing I love about the daily practice, it gives clarity on what's good in life, when I shed off the worst things. Like, having my own flat, some income, some money put aside, some friends around. Being regulated, even for a moment, feels amazing!
I lived in survival mode for years aswell. My parents got divorced and one of the constant feelings was that there were never enough money even thou it wasn't as bad as my mother believed herself and made me be also believe. That explains why I got so angry at a time when I was try to implement tools to cut off the unnecessary and still she made it feel money were never enough!
I deprived myself of a lot of things even eating at time but the most painful deprivation is that of a feeling of a safe environment.
The author of the letter is 25--what would you advise someone who is 50, like me?
Yaaaasss Girlfriend. Needed something like this today.
I'm old poor. Being below the poverty line is rough. Can't get out of it.
I mean. So many people tell me 'you think about money too much'.
I have less than 75 a month that I need to buy groceries and everything to live on.
I've been assesed CPTSD and I'm hoping to get on Disability. So I guess I am doubling my income. Still in poverty though. You're such an inspiration. You really are a Fairy.
CPTSD and poverty was my upbringing to, parents with their own trauma and mental illness and alcoholism. I'm 62 and facing homelessness after working all my life and living on a tight budget, never using credit, etc. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get back on track after almost 2 years of illness.
I want to thank you so much for this video ❤
I'm 38.. soon to be 39 and feel stuck ! I grew up poor 😢 and to a degree now, still is !
I've always worked a job, have some college but I put all my hopes n dreams into a relationship that didn't work out.
My 2 children from that relationship are young adults now and their father left me after 16 years together. That devastated me and I feel like I loss direction of my life 😪 because sadly, I never thought past working and being his wife 😔.
Now, I have a 4 year old with special needs and my life revolve around her, I'm in debt and feel like I ruined my life. I know it isn't over, I just don't know what to do 😭.. I'm not looking for pity.. just direction !
Oh love ! You are strong and you don’t have to blame yourself for believing in partnership and family. You are more than enough and are doing so much to take care of your children. I admire that and you have to be proud of yourself. There will be a new path in your life, you are already making your first steps. Wishing you strength, peace and courage.
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@@nanasabia THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND WORDS ❤
@@lauraelizabet178 💕❤💕
Have you considered cleaning houses or offices? I'm not sure what your daughter's special needs are, but it's possible you could bring her to work with you. Startup costs are fairly low and if you live in/near a larger city you can easily make $40-50 per hour. Wishing you the best
This was awesome ~ I’ve gone through a lot of spiritual practices and self help info and I always seemed to hit a brick wall when it came to materializing my dreams... When I started intentionally educating my self on personal finance, things stared to come together ~ Thanks again Fairy!!!!!
Yay! It's so great to hear success stories like this! -Calista@TeamFairy
How did you start? I’m realizing the same! If you have books or channels you know of please do share !
I would like to add trade and vocational schools can be relatively cheap, quick, and lead to a decent hourly wage. For example, nursing, massage therapy, radiologic technicians, engineers, …. STEM jobs are a great way to get out of poverty and stable financially. Once out of poverty you can begin to invest in yourself with further education and/or starting your own company.
Thanks for sharing this! -Calista@TeamFairy
The old bitter me used to say that those who are rich enough to afford therapy shouldn’t need it. Seriously tho this video spoke to my SOUL 😮 thank you!
This one is mostly about you, Anna, rather than the writer. You explain a great deal about how you got out of poverty mindset, but I didn't discern a real plan for Estee. I like that you offer the idea that college might not be the thing yet -- that was right on, because if she doesn't know where she wants to get to, she may spin wheels acquiring college loan debt. Also, having a hippy/anti-capitalist mindset isn't the only way one gets poor-identity. I was raised with lots of entitlement modelling and middle class aspiration, but still in chaos around money and stable choices (2 bankruptcies, constant survival fears). When kids get no help beyond which fork to use, it's crippling because the world thinks you're crying wolf when you ask for help (you're fine, your shoes match your skirt). But then, maybe I'm just talking about me, here. ;-)
I teach from experience, so you'll always hear my experience in my videos. If you want a playbook, I recommended Dave Ramsey's work, and summarized it briefly. If you like other sources, use them! I know quite well that everyone doesn't have the same background or same needs. I don't try to fix that. I'm not you! I share my experience and encouragement for those who want to hear it.
Connections and work experience are way more valuable than a college degree. Best wishes to the writer of this letter ❤️
How do you get experience though? A chance. Us CPTSD have trouble networking, social graces, competing with "normies" to hat are younger and more qualified
"The only debt you should have is the debt of love".
Harder done then said, I know.
"The debtor is the slave of the creditor".
I winced with "hard pull to swallow" fear when I went to click on this vid, but you were so intentionally empathetic and real, I listened so willingly thank you : )
Can relate to this story 120%. I very strongly reccomend to anyone wishing to heal from CPTSD to try with some tapping (EFT) videos, they can make such a difference in dissolving unconscious beliefs. ⚘️
Temping agencies are a good way to get paid while building new experience for your resume. Also, construction trades apprenticeships (carpenters, electricians, elevator installers, etc.) get you into union pay with regular, significant raises. I am a carpenter & have firsthand knowledge of this.
Good for you. Did you have trouble/fears getting working in a male dominant field? Or are they things more advanced culturally where you live?
Happy to have found you. So helpful to me. Great validation of the toxic relationships I've left. Picked myself up and recovered financially and validated for leaving toxic jobs! Thank you!
That must have been hard for you. Getting away from Toxicity is a challenge. But we are sending you encouragement. Jack@TeamFairy
Suck a great topic Anna. Your parent's mindset is SO important re money issues, even more so than the actual amount of money they have. I was lower middle class, but weighed down by my parent's fighting and complaining, always about money (they're long divorced now), and I'm certain that if they only stopped arguing in front of the kids about money, my mindset around money (and therefore my whole life) would be very different now.
Also, you're one of the very VERY few youtube /podcast ppl that openly admits that spending money on self-development or therapy, esp, money you don't have, is actually the WRONG thing to do. Everyone else says that, but then proceeds to subtly shame or openly intimidate the viewer into opening their wallet for that podcaster's very own program or course that's GUARANTEED to work - "Oh yes, therapy and courses are expensive, so don't waste money on any other program but mine, b/c mine is NEVER a waste." THANK YOU for your refreshingly honest position on this.
Great work Anna, and thanks again. 😁
Wow, we're all so different. It's a story of challenges and overcoming them.
Poverty with dysfunctional parents affect everything, including their ability to be a parent. Even if they kept you safe and fed, they may have not spent time with you, walking with you to school, taking you to the park, going to "free to community" activities like libraries, museums, or community fairs. This lack of quality time is a form of neglect.
You also don't get to see what maintaining a steady career over time looks like. I have some financial anxiety now around job security, and I'm actually in a high-skilled career now. I keep thinking that I'm going to lose everything because as I grew up, financial stability was temporary, and something always fell through. I see now it's because my parents didn't have the patience and perseverance to stick to anything.
Don't forget paid apprentiships and working for a company that pays for training. The healthcare company I work for is currently reimbursing college costs to the tune of about 5000 dollars per year currently.
I just cried my eyes out listening to this video. I sooooo relate to u Anna and the writer of the story. It gives me hope that I can make it work somehow 🙏
I did too! Gut punch... 😭
it's so hard to have the faith in myself not to screw up, and courage to get out of this painful place I've been stuck so long.
Praying for you Alek, I hope you find your path up and out. I believe in you! ❤️
25 is not old. I say this as a 39 year old. I have the same issue with pursuing a PhD even though I am an academic. I couldn't afford it but have been able to establish a stable career at a top school in Asia. You can apply for scholarships in Europe or Asia etc. You don't have to be stuck in one place. Just grab whatever you can get.
Thank you for sharing your encouragement for the letter-writer!
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy you're very welcome. I just want to add that the letter writer should focus on her passion and aim for excellence. Even if you do not have money your expertise will eventually speak for itself. I don't have money for a PhD, and it hasn't been a simple road, but God has been incredibly gracious by giving me a career I enjoy regardless of my personal challenges. I listen to podcasts on my research topics alot and I also attended conferences nearby when I could for free. I hope I have helped her. Best wishes!
Well this has been one of my favourites so far!!! I love your work Anna. I dunno if I've commented before but whatever I just wanna say a very warm and loving HELLO to everyone, my name is Zsuzsa, I grew up in conservative Catholic family with devastating childhood neglect, gaslighting, parents with CPTSD who continue to exhibit significant narcissistic behaviours, physical violence (mostly from my deranged and super manipulative older brother), my sister had cancer at age 5 and I was 10 at the time and since then I was getting progressively worse and worse with depression, anxiety, physical pains (fibromyalgia, chronic itching, digestive issues, hair loss) UNTIL recently really. I'm still coming out of the darkness but I'm so so grateful to have found this community and the daily practice and I appreciate so much everyone's stories and letters. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with the world. I really really feel for so many of us, your letters stay with me. I just want to let you all know that I support you in your healing and I am healing and it feels amazing. Anna, your work has been a fundamental part of my understanding of what happened to me and and what I need to do to move forward! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your story! We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You have the best laugh and smile. Thank you so much for sharing all of this. You are a treasure.🥰
I love that you mentioned Dave Ramsay’s system…. Financial Peace and Total Money Makeover. They changed my life and yes…. Gave me peace.
I wish you still did e-learning videos, Anna! I do voice over for those corporate and health care e-learning projects. It would have been a joy to work with you and connect sooner!
Our local nursing school is forgoing some entry requirements. and if you are at a hospital affiliated school you can often sign a contract with the hospital to work X amount of years and have your school loans forgiven (at least in my area). Nursing is a tough profession but I’m just putting it out there for people to consider.
I just want to caution people who are considering this. I’m a former nurse and nursing is going downhill fast. It used to be 1 nurse for 5 patients max. Now it’s 8 or 10. Nursing home it’s even worse. Up to 60 patients. I really think our healthcare system is beginning to collapse.
Thanks for this . 🌻
Anna , your work is so , so , so helpful . Telling some of your own story in a healthy way with good boundaries around what you share offers mirroring of experience that I never got . You are such a good role model . I'm almost in tears right now .
Your hair is so pretty.
I was nearly evicted from my apartment, just before Christmas, and needed family to bail me out. THAT has been a major wake up call to have this kinda of trauma happen.....but it sucks knowing that I caused it. I'm also feeling the shame and guilt for feeling like I broke my family's trust, although they know that I am taking this situation very seriously and am working on improving my situation. Yet, there's also the though of a career change (I'm currently a Teaching Assistant at a local preschool, and have been toying with the idea of working at our local performing arts center--I have a Bachelor's degree in Music), although I've been life choices (although my brother has said that music is my "thing.") It also sucks as I now feel like I have to work 24/7.....working full time, picked up one side job, and just picked up a weekend job.......and putting things I enjoy, like ice skating and running in races on hold. I've been considering cutting out gymnastics, but my coach has toldme to not worry about the fees for the time being, as I "need" to be in gymnastics for my mental and physical health.
I will say that I'm also on the wait-list again for therapy, and I'm tired of therapists leaving. I'm trying to be understanding and such, but I think if whomever I end up with (hopefully soon), I will probably will stop being a client at the agency, and try someplace else.
As a side note, I also have PTSD, due to trauma that happened back in 2020 (not COVID related), and my brother nearly died from a staph infection that got into his heart last summer. Me not having a steady income during that summer, and just sucky money management skills (or none), caused a downfall.....and having to ask for help was really, really, hard. This is a bunch of stuff that I need to process through in therapy.
At 63, after decades on the street, prison, 5 years after that, discovering CPTSD, that fits me. AF vet, on disability (10%). Is it too late. No life, job, wife. Future? Have a good church (a life saver) and this channel. Have my own one bdrm apartment (HUDVASH). Honesty and transparency are part of my new foundation. Mama crushed the first one. and she had help. ?
Wow, your story is similar to mine career-wise, a creative who ended up in the corporate world. I relate to your life experience so much. Your videos are incredibly helpful, thank you 🙏🏼
I'm so glad! Thank you for taking the time to comment, we appreciate the support :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy you’re welcome! 😊
Thank you so much. Your work is gold.
This conversation and and storytelling is sooo helpful. I have been so much more blessed in terms of support but I still have floundered sooo much and I see myself in you very encouraging and not encouraging in a good way! Thank you. Im definitely getting the message that one must find a way
this is inspirational. i love you
This was so helpful, thank you
Thank you for making this video! This is me and my mother too.
We are learning so much about you here. We are almost knowing your entire life- story. Its something that your parents were hippies and anti- capitalist. I am sorry they didnt pull it togerher. I feel so excited as you speak bcz you identify how we folk need to go inside a cocoon and how we feel if we take too much responsibility we will shatter. Yes. CZcams is a great gift. I would never have been able to figure out whats wrong with me without it.
Saving this video….
My abusive family set me up for poverty; my father wanted me fully dependent on him, like a mini wife. Denied me the right to be independent. I have been homeless twice. I rather be homeless and in poverty than living with him while being sexually abused and everyone claiming something is wrong with me, because they can’t accept a religious man and cop would abuse his own child. He claimed I had autism and shit. Now I’m trying to heal after being re-traumatized. Didn’t get autonomy till 28, and I’m 31, got my first job at 30. The way folks have treated me for trying to level up and blaming me is disgusting. I hate feeling like a loser /thinking “maybe something I’d wrong with me” because of my age, status, etc, and how I shouldn’t have been a coward who “let myself been abused.” How I should’ve learned this on my own.
It’s hard to accept where I’m at, I’m working hard and having to have had help from folks who abused me, after moving out.
My poverty comes from being traumatized and put on disability, having no family support and having to escape and put protective orders in place to get away from my family of origin. They don’t care about me and deny the abuse, and now I’m left not knowing how to live independently, being abused by those I’ve asked to help and having to rent with narcissistic roommates. I’m trying so hard. Having to wait for support to help me apply for aid and classes so I can get an education. It’s so hard relying on social workers
Awesome, thank you!
You’re amazing! Thanks for sharing your story!
Fiona Hill 's "There is Nothing for You Here" . She discusses the networking needed to get an internship and how important the internship experience was in gaining a good position.
Perfect timing for this one 👌
Same.
Soooooo 100% relatable! Whoo…glad to hear someone talk about these things
Debt for sure 100% locked me down, for ages, which is a super frustrating state to be in when you wanna grow or try something else or go back to school or whatever…all those doors were closed, just when I needed them most
Appreciate what yer doing!
Great talk. Very inspirational.
What an amazing video. I have to echo your comment that CZcams is the greatest resource in human history. I only discovered it about three years ago, and not only is the scope and diversity of information incredible (and free, unless you choose to pay for more), but the WONDERFUL souls and personalities that present the ideas have been captured for as long as the internet lasts. When current events left me feeling SO disappointed, betrayed, and depressed by the words and actions of certain persons who took over our society and government, what I encountered on CZcams was such a comforting counter-balance. Accomplishment, knowledge, and expertise delivered with kindness and humor, and responsible wishes for the viewer to both learn and be entertained-- what could be better. Thank you for a VERY interesting talk about a subject that so many young (and older) people need honest and open communication about.
AGAIN - this is the content I needed!!! Ugh, literally been thinking about this today, pondering how I can end this cycle.
Fantastic video & extremely relevant to me. Watched it twice.
Anna, this video is incredibly inspiring thank you SOOOOOOO much
You are most welcome! So glad it was helpful. -Calista@TeamFairy
I grew up in the poor area of town in Calgary, AB, Canada and my Mom couldn't work much because of chronic pain.
Wow, Anna, thank you for this video! You are so amazing and inspiring. Thank you for all you do! So grateful to have found your channel here. God Bless you-- 💞🙏
Great job!
I didn't like the part you said if you want to be poor have kids without a partner, I think this leaves so many women hopeless. I think if you overcome CPTSD you can do it with or without children. I normally agree with everything you say, but not this time, I know it because of myself.
I know a lot of people that never went to College and still make a solid living....
Thank you Anna! So many inspiring points in this video for me, and once again, at the perfect time! ❤🙏
You are most welcome! So glad you enjoyed. -Calista@TeamFairy
Every month it comes by grace Anna. Someone's kindness. I dont know how it happened
I really look forward to the day when I made my last repayment :)!
this is such a positive video 🔥
Yes, I totally relate to thinking of boss as a parent and job as a family! Thank you for that insightful observation!
Glad to hear it. Thank you for commenting. Jack@TeamFairy
Totally loved this one Fairy! Feeling energized in the end, Thank You. I'm also 25, living in a South America country and sometimes hope is not around (most of the time). Feeling more aware about the things I know how to do thanks to my nerdiness and maybe it''s fiiiiiinally time to give it a try and maybe monetize it. Desperate to move on from my current job.This one was on time!
Anna; you know what. I think this is a good opportunity for your lovely program to host this girl in an online episode and have her answer questions directly with your presence. This girl is an example of the self built standing on their feet legends.
Thank you for this video. Good intel. 💵
I'm so happy to hear that! -Calista@TeamFairy
This is huge for me.
Such a current topic on my thoughts lately. I want more, I'm prepared to work for it but it's just not knowing what it is exactly I want to do. I've found myself in a job that's okay but not very satisfying and on min wage. I keep searching my soul for ideas and im coming up blank
Thanks you so much
Dear writer, I sooooo relate
Great topic, thanks for sharing some of your personal life experiences. Can definitely relate to in part your paying off debt actions. It's a long road and hard work, fully focused I looked for every opportunity to spend less and earn more I finally paid off everything I owed.
I'm so happy for you that you turned your life around! Thanks for sharing your lovely life story.
Thank you so much for this video. It just came to me and this is so helpful to hear.
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
So glad you took up this subject. Love to listen to you.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Oh Anna, I love your videos so so much! You have no idea how much they've helped me in my healing journey. Your channel is truly amazing, thank you for helping so many people!
Please let me know if you'd like to add Spanish subtitles to your content, that way more people can get to know you and find comfort, relief and an honest and empathetic explanation for the things that sometimes are hard to describe, to explain and to feel. It'd be an absolute dream come true to do Spanish subtitles for your content! If that's something you'd be interested in, please consider me. Lots of love from Argentina 🤗
There’s also nothing wrong with trade school. My friend is an LPN which took her a year to get the degree in. She makes three times a year what I do in insurance claims! And I originally went to school for a four year teaching degree in English.
What a wonderful, inspiring video - full of great info. Thank you.
I'm In awe of what you were able to do in your circumstances and then become a light to others suffering similar circumstances.Definately admirable. I spent most of my life like that old 60's song just hoping and wishing and dreaming of healing, now that I'm finally learning how to actually go about it I just want to go all the way to ananda (state of bliss).Too far? to ambitious? I prided myself on containing my trauma like a good little citizen when young but without any healing happening the trauma eventually become uncontainable suffered major reverses in life to. can accept now I probably wouldn't be very good person to be around, I just wished there was a fraction of interest/commitment in healing as there is in contaning/isolating the hurt.
Este figured it out 25 years earlier than me.
Anne Runkle you are a blessing to the world as I said to you face to face. Have a great day. Don't forget what I said when you get down. A true blessing. Thank you bunch😃🏝🌄⛵️✈️⛱️🌈🌞
Anna thanks so much for this video, it was very informative and inspiring. I have struggled my whole life with debt and trying to figure out what I want to do. My father left when I was 9 years old and my mother went on to have two more children from another relationship, there is a 12 & 15 gap between myself and my sisters, so I have had little to no support from my parents and I left school at 16, no college or University, just get out in the world and make some money to support myself. For me the way forward was to do apprenticeships, learning on the job. I still have sabotaged myself along the way, if only I knew back them what I know now.
I wish I were in SD situation hihihi I'm 48, and I was diagnosed with CPTSD in 2016. All I have to eat until coming Tuesday is 3 pieces of bread and peanut butter. I have coffee as well. I started 5 times university and I had to drop out for lack of money. I can't hold a job because of CPtSD. In the US being poor is to ride the bus, so this video was the one that made me see that I can't find help here. I have zero friends, zero family, and nobody to help me selfishly, as you do here in your videos. However struggle for me, is to have CPTSS, access to all the meds, to therapy, and medical care and yet not being able to work, to talk to a friend. In all success cases I've read so far there's at least ONE loved one giving a hand and as I have zero of that, I don't see how to move out of this well.
I'm sorry there are so many struggles right now. You have some important needs and I hope you find resources to help with food. For healing work, you could start meeting new and supportive people at a 12 step meeting. Adult Children of Alcoholics or Dysfunctional Families can be a very warm starting point.
-Cara@TeamFairy
oh! thats a very interesting approach.
Sooo true.. dont get emotionally attached to a job.