5 Things I Don't Do As A FEMININE Homemaker! // Let's be PRACTICAL...
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Hello classic crew! Today we're talking about 5 things I don't do as a feminine homemaker. I think there's so much pressure to look perfect and fit that aesthetic vibe as a stay-at-home mom, but the day-to-day is not always going to be picture perfect. Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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I’d love a video of you talking about how you and your husband practice Judaism. Mikvuh? Wigs? Does your husband work or study daily? Shabbat?
Judaism as in Christianity? I'm just curious.
@@sapphirecavernShe’s Jewish
@@sapphirecavernso confused Judaism is not Christianity.
This would be a great video, but if you’re interested many reform synagogues are open to new comers to experience Judaism
Abby, blink twice if he's holding you against your will.
Oh my god please shut up
The timing of this video is impeccable. I may not be a mom, but at my job that I started at the beginning of summer, I’ve had to learn to prioritize. Now things are going much smoother and I can carry this into my home life as well. I’ll be getting married soon and I’m sure my hubby will appreciate😊 that.
I wear dresses almost end day but not fancy ones. We are talking easy, t shirt material dresses with pockets I can wear my orthopedic mom shoes with 😆 I also use aprons a lot in the kitchen and those have pockets too! And yeah it’s just not the same after kids. I can’t keep our home clean like I used to. When the kids are older I am told it gets better. Until then I’m letting it go some.
I bring my baby to the gym with me because we are lucky to have childcare. Definitely don’t have a nanny lol. Also it’s included in my membership 😊
That's awesome!
I totally get number one. I see these "trad wives" imitating 50s housewives in their attire. I just laugh. Being a homemaker does not require a certain wardrobe. Be comfy, go about your day, wear what is practical. If dressing like a 50s housewife makes you comfy, OK, but it comes off way more of a trope and caricature than honest.
Right, I feel like they do it for the vintage aesthetic, it’s almost a niche hobby for them than the actual context of being a homemaker.
I love it! Being a mom has taught me that there simply isn't enough time in the day to do all the things you're "supposed" to be doing. Prioritizing is everything.
I feel saner just listening to you 🙏🏽
Some good points!
I LOVE your natural hair! I also love more natural looking make up, or no make up at all - on you and everyone! 🤍🤍🤍 you are beautiful!!!
You are glowing Abby! Praying for a safe and successful pregnancy! 🩷
Love your videos! Started watching as someone on the opposite side, and am now away from the left. Thanks for helping me on my journey! Stay classic 💅🏼
So encouraging ♥️
You are right!!! Focus on your son and home, the rest comes second❤
and god!!
Yes yes yes! I am also a mom of a little boy, almost 2, (one more baby on the way as of a few weeks ago…🎉) - and I have learned to not do the same things! Homes are for playing & living, and clothes definitely get dirty with little boys. I thrifted a few tops at the beginning on the summer knowing they would get dirty, and not caring a bit!
I work full time in a corporate role at home and watch my toddler and try to homemake as well. It is so hard. I feel like I’m always being pulled in different directions😢 I would love to stay at home but financially not in the card for us right now while we save for a downpayment for a home.
Also there is a big difference between a stay at home mom and a stay at home homeschool Mom! Obviously if all of your children are gone to school everyday almost 8hrs+ each day, the amount of time you have to clean, workout, and prepare yourself and your home for your husband and children is exponentially more than if all of your children are home 24/7 and you are busy teaching them school. Giving yourself grace and setting realistic priorities to make your home functional, tidy, and inviting while also making sure your families needs are taken care of is so so important. Thank you for your insight and shedding light on sorting your priorities based on what's good for your family versus what looks good and aesthetic online. ❤
Good advice
God bless you and your family Abby. Don’t let these crazy people take away your happiness and your shine.
You’re beautiful, and have nothing to be ashamed of with your personal life. That’s why it’s personal. It’s no one’s business.
Praying for you Abby. ❤
Practical video👍 thank you for being well-grounded. Ive been binge watching your videos today 😅
I really liked your comments on the different kinds of stay at home moms.
To me, it seems like you find it unbearable not being able to meet the standarfs you think you need to meet, do much that you have to throw shade at mothers that seemingly are able to meet said standards. They can't just be better than you at something, no, they "have their priorities mixed up". Maybe if you were not so judgemental towards other people, you would not judge yourself so harshly. Because I guess that is why you feel you need to explain to people why you usually act like and look like most other moms, exept they are usually working a full time job in addition to keeping a home and raising kids. 😊
You always seem to criticize other people’s choices and celebrate your own. Case in point: “I’m a practical mom and those who aren’t have their priorities all wrong.”
And don’t get me wrong, I agree that your clothes should fit your lifestyle.
However, I also think that practicing acceptance, acknowledging that people are different and that there are few things that are inherently wrong, is a good thing to do. This is something I learned when I moved abroad and was exposed to other ways of doing things.
Yes, this!! She constantly criticizes others and makes wild assumptions. How does she know the person that does their make up everyday has their priorities wrong. She just cannot live her life without talking shit about others.
True! You can wear practical clothes and still wear nice if you want. As long as you spend time and take care of your kids. That's all that matters.
@@annamolly2549when did she made that assumption though (about the makeup), did you even pay attention to the video, looks like you’re just trying to find something to criticize, she basically said that if one has the time to do it WITHOUT neglecting something more important then go for it, please learn to listen
Solid advice. Im sorry you get so much hate. The world needs more women to embrace their true femininity and God.
As a stay at home mom without a washing machine, if I can't wash them in the tub and hand rinse and hang them in my tiny apartment, it's a no for me! So true. My baby is a big drooler right now
It's just so esthetically pleasing to clean the bathroom. Wear your 1950s dress and heels.
I just wear an apron over my cloths :)
"I'm not like other moms"
Aprons!
Great vid, thanks.
The key quality of femininity - especially when the primary work is family - is empathy. Your video really made me smile. Keeping a clean house is important, but I have known women literally drive the household crazy with obsessive cleaning. The feminine empathy you show is honest, down-to-earth, and balanced.
I smile as well because I know the work is far harder than people who haven't done it realise, but I am an old lady now. I know that when you look back at the time spent with your children you will be so happy that you used your life and talents this way.
I promise.
Do you ever dress up as a pilgrim and do your house chores?
Thank you so much, such a lovely video🫶🥰
Now who is the one making everything about gender?
You sound like a very fun mom Abby 🥰 !
Abby your content exists to talk about how much other women annoy you
Your comment exists to say how much Abby annoys you. Yet here you are. LOL! Be gone, troll.
It sounds more like a you problem if you interpret someone's personal lifestyle as a personal attack.
@@lottavuorinen no, all of her content just exists to judge how she feels about what other women do compared to how she does it. like all of it
@@strawbabbie Abby never said that women that do thing x are trash etc., she either talks about her lifestyle or shares her opinions on a certain matter, and her opinions are obviously rooted in conservative values. She isn't forcing anyone to follow her. Also isn't it kind of weird to watch literally all her videos just because you don't like her?
@@lottavuorinen honestly i watch her videos because her views fascinate me and while i disagree with the way she lives to criticizes other peoples choices, i do like the motherhood aspect of her videos and hearing about her journey through it
Your videos inspire me to pursue a career!❤
Homemaking is a career.
@@Emily-fl4cp It's not a man's job, that's for sure.
@@danielarejgarwhat about single dads? What about dads who work from home and take care of their kids? It’s really sad that you view the world in such a black and white way. And if women want to pursue a career, then that’s awesome. If you want to sit at home then that’s good for you
@@Emily-fl4cp You don't sit at home, r.t.r.d. Men and women have different obligations and roles to fulfill.
That’s the kind of comment I would love to hear from my boys, I would love for them to pursue a career so they can afford to have their wives stay home and raise my grandchildren
What a relief to hear a young woman speak about the privilege of being a mother/homemaker instead of whining about the sacrifices she had to make. I admire your attitude and commitment to your child and husband. Thanks for sharing.
Ok advice. But I am astounded by your blindness to your own hypocrisy. Where are your traditional values when your as traditional woman run your own business that must take a significant amount of your time? That being said, women making their own choices in life does not make them wrong or unhappy by default.
Lol!! You are never off Instagram. You absolutely live your life for the gram. Constantly posting reels, including one recently how you were struggling to find fulfillment as a stay at home mom. You are constantly contradicting yourself.
And the thing about how she dresses? It’s like uhhh you are often dressed nicely and mostly in dresses. Every time I see her go for a walk with her baby on Instagram she’s wearing a dress and sandals! Idk about you, but I’d be wearing tennis shoes going on a walk.
How would you know? Imagine following someone on whatever platform when you don't even like them. What a pathetic life that must be. Thanks for the comedy!
@@carlygilbert2794yes! She has talked down about women who wear sweatpants, but now talks down about the women who wear nice clothes. She just sounds deeply unhappy.
@annamolly2549 I think only time will tell. She talks about raising kids when her one kid is only like a year old. Until she has experienced her kids in other stages of life take it with a grain of salt. I really hope she has some girls too later because that mother daughter push and pull relationship is what I really want to see her go through.
@@annamolly2549 she would hate how I dress around the house. Although I like the idea of dressing nice, I wear a t shirt and boxers every day at home! Hahaha
real advice. I agree with all this.
Some of these work for working women as well.
You do a lot of traditionally "feminine" things but your energy comes off as more masculine.
And I guess you couldn’t keep that to yourself 🙄
Not at all! She’s living her own life and sharing that and she has right to do that!
It's amusing to read the comments by people who don't like what you say. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but these people seem to get a high off of picking a fight with you.
And yet they keep coming back. That's what I don't understand. Why do people waste their time watching videos they hate? It's like they WANT to be miserable. LOL!
They take it way too personal, it’s weird
@@Yesica1993 being exposed to things you disagree with makes you a more well rounded human. the ability to understand where others come from is KEY. that is why people watch, read, and listen to things they don't like. if you don't or cant do that, that is how you end up in the extremely polarized part of content. additionally, I think it makes you a better person. also, just because someone doesn't agree, doesn't mean they hate the video or the person.
If you're learning from it, sure. I do that all the time. But when you see they're just complaining and even being nasty about it and on and on, that's a different situation.
@@poisonkatz
ABBY: "Be a stay at home mom"
*see's a SAHM doing things differently than Abby*
ABBY: "No, not like that....."
ALSO ABBY: "Moms with tidy homes are bad moms."
Cool Abby, your worldview sounds awesome. Definitely not judgy or spiteful at all.
She's talking about things that are not practical for herself as a stay at home mom. I'm not a stay at home mom and I don't plan on becoming one, but isn't it helpful for SAHM's to understand that it's okay to not be the idealistic version of a home maker? I can understand there might be pressure to fit into this: aesthetically, feminine and always organized picture for woman in that space.
I don't think she ever said Moms with tidy homes are "bad" Moms. It's often not realistic either, at least not for a long time. Kids can be like a tornado running through the house. Housework piles up within a few hours.
A lot of what you see on Instagram and CZcams is for the camera only. Go in to a home with 1 or more kids running around. It won't be perfect. It's usually lived in and at least a LITTLE messy.
Yeesh. Chillax.
Hers isn’t, yours seems to be, judgy and spiteful… and uninformed. Maybe take the time to actually watch her videos and understand _her worldview_ before writing a comment hating on the imaginary concept you have of her 🤷♀️
To all who replied - I'm a mom, a wife and have a toddler. There are plenty of people out there giving great, real, mom advice. I don't count Abby among them. Her advice is surface level, and dripping with judgment and condemnation of other people. If you can't see it, then I don't know how to help you.
I love traditional women.Think its great!!!Femanism destroyed the modern day woman
You should read about what feminism really means, because you clearly have no clue.
*feminism. you might not even be able to watch youtube or have a moment to yourself if feminism didn't come a long and give you the right to vote, be an individual, disagree with men, and give women *such as abby* the right of passage to make money and have an income. if you want all women to be stay at home mommys, kiss your skincare products, for women by women content and products, art, fashion, recipes, and more GOODBYE. without feminism, our society wouldn't be as colorful, beautiful, and creative as it has become since "trad" times.
Your face is not feminine
Go clean the kitchen instead of talking so much
Ew misogynist...
Telling women not to speak sounds totally humane!