Feeling Lost in Your 20s
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Are you feeling lost and uncertain about your path in life?
You're not alone.
I know how challenging this time can be, as I'm going through it myself.
It feels like everyone around you has it all figured out, while you're stuck in a rut without a clear purpose, waiting for days to go by.
In this video, I share my personal journey of general confusion in this period of life, trying to understand the reasons behind it and seeking ways to overcome the overwhelming sensations.
But this isn't just about my journey - it's about yours too.
Whether you're feeling lost in your career, relationships, or just life in general - here are some ideas to shift your mindset for a more hopeful tomorrow.
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Hey everyone! :)
First of all, a huge thank you for taking the time off your day to watch this video, it truly means a lot!
I turned 21 last month and I am feeling exactly like you explained in the video, more tough times and/or feeling lost than good times. Your video gave me a little more courage to face life head on and I hope the impression will last a long while (otherwise I'll rewatch the video when necessary). Thank you for the motivation ! I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart, let's all stay strong together and try to unravel this big mystery called life !
You are never alone I Feel You Fr❤️🩹…The first 52 seconds is the funny sad story of my life. The truth hurts but I’m glad that Isolation leads to Transformation
At my lowest all I had was GOD,
I still got GOD and sum money I really have no job, no car and i still live with my parents. but i guess it’s for the best still i need to move out🥲 i kinda hate it here. Tbh i feel like my time here is almost up i just gotta break bad habits and become a better person or else i might have to lock in with a therapist from better help….
Rest your mind GOD GOT YOU. I respect the tremendous growth on your first video keep going !!
Btw I’m subscribed now: ) but man do i can’t wait till i get more subscribers i wanna blow up too, i also just wanna see everybody win
thank you for making this video. this video came to me at a time where I resonate with most of your points. there's a lot of people that feel lost or alone in the world. its videos like this give me hope for the future
I found your video comforting given the fact that I am turning 23 this year (just like you) and finishing law school, but feeling like I don't belong anywhere at all, lost almost all my connections, hoping someday something will make sense....and not trusting myself, living in fear... trying to be brave... maybe it will be alright! Thank you for your video!
Turning 23, It seems people born in the year 2000-2003 are feeling the same way. We are the first children of the internet, The people that built this current society and now in our 20's we are being the active builders. Let's not get lost my sweet internet generation. We will find ourselves in this sea of opportunity.
this is amazing saying im 2003 and i agree with you
@@aw-g +1
@@aw-g 2002 here
2003 and donno what im doing to my life. Still havent found "my thing"
I'd say 90s kids were the Internet gen having grown up with msn/bebo etc. And 80s kids would be the ones who built this current society - think of all major social media founders ages.
I think no one talks enough about how good the cinematic is in this video, every scene felt like I was watching a movie.
why that so true
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Yeah definitely 💯💓
It got that Asteroid City color scheme, love it
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thank you! your story inspires hope
Congrats
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
Frugal living, saving, investing
As a 31 yo dude, I'd like to say that the 23yo confusing phase is a classic from my experience and my surrounding's experience. The arrival to the adult routine world can be a real agression. And the confusion does not get better. Though, you learn to make peace with yourself with time, and you learn how to live with your confusion, until it takes less and less space in your mind. So I agree with the fact that the 20s is probably the most difficult phase of life, but it gets better after, I promise. You know better who you are, who you want to be, and you're still confused about a lot of things, but it's ok, and you understand it's ok. Besides, you realize that no one is perfect whatever the age. So you're not worst than the others. Anxiety disappears when you understand you are exactly where you're supposed to be. Even if it's not perfect, it's your own path of life, and it's building you. So you are always exactly where you're supposed to be. You just have to follow life, and make decisions and changes when it feels like the right moment.
My humble advice would be : "Don't overthink life too much and try to keep focus on the present moment. Don't stay stuck in the past cause it does not exist anymore, don't fear the future cause it does not exist yet. Feel what you have to feel, enjoy your time with the people that matter to you, and learn how to listen to your own opportunities. Have the courage to change what feels wrong, accept what can't be changed, and look forward tomorrow, cause every day is a new opportunity to rest, or to make a change in your life, or to enjoy a precious moment".
Just turned 23 and have been having crisis’ every other day. Thank you for this. 🙏🏽
Thanks for this
Thank you, I really need this.
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dude your humble advice is like a wake up call for me thats really hit the feels, Thank You..
"20s will be the best time of your life" is such an 80s or 70s terminology that doesn't apply anymore. I spent most of my 20s broke living paycheck to paycheck trying not to be homeless while studying. I dont know why these expectations are thrusted upon us when we're not ready, but its such a bs saying that doesn't apply anymore in the modern times
the cost of living rises making it even harder
That wasn't true in the 70's or 80's either. Live is a struggle. Always was.
@@ericsierra-franco7802 probably always will be.
thats a you problem.
@@aleksandrsbelijs344 that's what I'm going to say.
"No one really has everything figured out, no matter the age, we learn as we grow " .
The calmness and satisfiction this line gave me is inexpressible.
For real, the calmness i got from this is nice
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
You will die one day stop wasting time thinking like that
Some people do so that's false
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I’m 28. Nearly at the end of my 20s. I’ve made a lot of progress, but I’ve failed hard and I’ve failed a lot, and I live in constant fear that I wasted my time at the crossroads of life.
But there’s another part of me that says “maybe I didn’t”, and I’m trying to listen to that.
keep it up 👍
@@sqratattack8717 Thanks, I will.
treat the failures like character development, man. what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
I just turned 24 and I feel you bro loosing my mind
i´m 25 and i fell exactly like you. I´m afraid to look back and think "yes, i wasted my time and that´s doesn´t going back". I´m fucking lost.
Sorry for my english, i´m from Brazil.
I’m 22 and feeling lost myself, been out of university for a year and haven’t been able to find a job, still living with my parents. Life feels very stagnant currently. I do have a plan though, I’m going to be going back to college again to try getting into engineering in September. Hopefully things will be more exciting after that
Hey, i'm 22 too, I've been out of university since February 2023 , just a diploma and not a degree yet. I didn't find a job because I was scared and a coward. I'm still staying with my parents. I applied for university applications again for local universities, I found out today 7th of September 2023 (11:00AM), that I didn't get into any of the universities. I was devastated and still sad as we speak, it's a couple of hours since i found out and i'm trying to appeal.
Whether I get in or not, I'm not sure if i want to. I'm scared. I don't know what to do , I'm lost, but i'm also scared to try.
@@vyruss9348 I feel you; You just gotta trust your intuition. Make a list of jobs you would like (or can at least handle). Find numbers for the companies and call them to ask if they are hiring. When I did this, I called probably 25-30+ companies.
11 of them said they are, so I had to go there in person and put myself out there. I ended up having two interview offers, and eventually got a job a few weeks later.
You will feel very vulnerable especially because this is all new to you. The only way out is in my friend. I'm a year younger than you and I hope this advice reaches you. I quit my job a month ago and I've been dealing with a lot of emotions and helplessness, but I also know what goes up must come down, and what goes down must come up.
Believe in yourself. You're not scared, you're excited. You can do this.
(btw even if you go to college, you'll have to get a job eventually. So it's best to start sooner than later. Speaking from experience. Like this video said, the hardest part is starting.
@@vyruss9348almost same situation bro haha
I’m 21 and of course I felt behind but It’s gonna be all right man
How much time / workload does college take? Looking for a change..
@@vyruss9348how are you doing?
To anyone who reads this, I see you and I know you'll make it. Don't give up. So many people are rooting for you :)
Thanks man
Bullsh*t
Ye thanks mate!
Cheers mate
Thank you :). Today I heard since a long time that someone finds I’m cool :)
I lost my mom at 23, you wanna talk about feeling lost? I was the embodiment of lost, but because of that loss it opened up my heart. Now here I am at 26, about to finally move out of my dad’s house and in with my amazing girlfriend. While I’m also going back to school so keep your head up. Walk tall and love yourself.
Thank you for this video. Im 20, currently sitting in my room in the middle of the night, thinking a lot and getting really anxious about my future because right now, I have completly nothing going for me. My social skills suck and meeting new people is super hard, but at the same time I feel extremely lonely. I have barely any money, no job (working on it though), still living with my parents and feeling like a nuisance (even though they probably dont think of me like that). Im really skinny and dont like my body, but at the same time too lazy to work on it. Hell, I dont even have a drivers license. After finishing highschool I started having a feeling of urgency - if I wont figure everything out quickly, I'll end up as a total fuckup. I know its not necessarily true, but the feeling is there and I can't do anything about it.
In a month and a half I'll become a freshman, Im hoping that I'll be able to start working on some of the things from the list,, and begin getting my life together.
5 minutes of this video made me a little bit less anxious, and a little bit more optimistic about the future, which is probably the biggest positive change in the last 4 months.
Im truly thankful for that.
My friend you just described me in perfect terms.
I know how you feel man im 21 and I just broke my arm about 2 weeks ago at work and it hurts havent really had the motivation to do anything sense barely eating or sleeping I just started my classes back up and let me tell you it isnt fun hard as hell to pay attention with this damn arm but ill get threw it you dont know what you take for granted until you cant use a part of your body. I see it as this you either let life pass you by or you get out there and achieve what you want to do having a goal is real important.
How are you now?
I have the same situation like your life and each coming day feels like a survival game 😢. I hope someday something is written for me need to have the patience
Yoooooo same damn thing here
I’m 23, just graduated college a week ago. My grades and Resume would say I should have a brilliant future but I have never ever felt more lost. Everything you said in this video is pure truth. I’m a guy who rarely ever cries, but this made me tear up. Depression has kidnapped the meaning and motivation from my life and it’s time I spring up and try living life better. Thank you for this amazing video! ❤
Lol depression is SUPPOSED to hit whenever you finish a milestone. Depression is your bodies way of telling you and pressuring you that you need start WORKING on your new milestone. If you were happy and content after having achieved that milestone you'd be fucked lol.
I feel the same. Graduated, passing resume to target companies and sometimes I feel exhausted. We're the same age and my dream career changed also than my degree that I finished. 😢
I hope one day, I overcome this insecurity and gaslighting myself. Let's keep going in our hardships in life until we succeed.
In the EXACT same situation
Brate ja sam tol'ko u depresiji da razmišljam da napustim fakultet u trećoj godini posto više ne mogu da učim i znam da mi fakultet nista doneti neće, tako da svaka ti čast što si uopšte uspeo da završiš fakultet. Čestitam!
You need Jesus my friend. He is the only reason worth living for in this fallen rotten world.
Being 24 and losing my sense of identity was the biggest challenge I faced a couple years back.
26 now, still finding out more about myself than I knew then and this video hits right where it needed to.
Life's about the journey, we'll figure it out.
Wow, 97 fella too here!
I'm at the same age and life journey as yours, almost 26 soon and since 24, I've been trying hard to figure out what I wanna do with my life and it's safe to say I still couldn't see where all of this is going.
Seeing your comment makes me feel not alone, and agreed; life's about the journey, we'll figure it out (no matter what the pace is!)
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
lemme joining the 97's squad, lost myself too since 24, but still really in the confusing state even now in my 26 T.T
I had to go through being 12 to 18 losing all my social skills and personality due to a rough upbringing. It took me so long to realise. It turned my schooling into a nightmare and having such a hard time going through relationships due to my medical issues. I’m 24 now and it feels like I’ve just started my life genuinely
@omarioransyah I thought you was 97 years old
This really hits hard for me. I'm almost 23 too. I have a career plan in place, but it was never what I wanted to really do. I still don't know what I want my life goal to be. My parents are seriously putting the pressure on me now to find a career, despite it not being as easy as they think. I'm glad to hear I'm not alone with this.
You're not alone..have finished studying a course I didn't like and now I don't know what to do with my life
Same here dude .. We gonna make it
you are definitely not alone homie, just turned 23, no goals, no money, no job, 0 idea about what should i do with my career, i just wanna pursue that one thing, but dont seem any near of it
I am 23 and starting post graduation now and my friends have finished and started working. I now feel depressed that i am very behind in my career and can't make it through.
22 here. I can relate to you. I do feel empty sometimes. Like everything is moving and I'm still stuck at this station with feet planted
I try taking steps but they don't lead anywhere.
I feel jealous and it hurts me so much that others know exactly what they want to do in life.
I pray that all of us will find something we love or atleast puts food on our table.
I try to remind myself that there are other important things as well that should be counted for eg. Being a good human.
We will see the light. Amen.
I just turned 20 and this video was exactly what i needed to hear. I appreciate the message bud, thank you.
I’m 27 turning 28 soon and one thing I can say is that these periods of your life will come and go. I went through this fase about 4 years ago after a breakup. I lost myself completely and I thought the pain would never go away - but it did! Now, 4 years later i’m in the same position again. I met a new girl about 2 years ago who turned my world upside down. We traveled the world and made some beautiful and incredible memories together. I found the happiness in life that I thought I lost forever. However, life can take some unexpected turns at times and we broke up a couple months ago. Now i’m in the exact same position again, alone, feeling lost and broken, not having found my passion or goals in life.. Not knowing what to do, where to go.. And that’s okay! That’s the beautiful thing about life, when one door closes another one openes and even though it sucks I know from experience that these hard times makes us stronger than we’ve ever been and I know that everything will be okay in the end!
Also, I want to say that you really have a gift making videos Rolands. This is an amazing piece of art - keep it up.
Much love to everyone out there. Everything will be okay!❤
we just connect soo much with people that sometimes we forget what u are in ourselves and yes I am too connected with alot and when things fall apart the lost feeling i get it's really bad
I feel this. I'm 28, and separated from my ex fiance early last year. It was pretty crazy, going from having everything figured out, or so I thought at the time, to selling the home, and feeling like I moved backwards in life by years. But then I just started saying yes to opportunities, and going with whatever life threw at me. After selling the house I put all of my stuff in storage and bought a one way plane ticket to Chile. I learned Spanish there, stayed there for 3 months, and had an amazing time. Then I didn't feel ready to go home, so I went to Peru for another 3 months. My life has turned into something completely different and more beautiful, but man did I feel so lost and alone, and I really relate with this video and your comment
Feeling it so much. Beautifully said, thank you!
Thank you so much for that comment, I'm 18 right now and struggle with anxiety and mental health. I feel the same about thinking the pain won't go away like when my anxiety kicks in but there also good phases.
Just the fact your the same age as me made me feel better about the things you wrote.. 🤍
Your title is what drew me in, I stayed and listened because I can relate to this.
When I was 22 years old my mother had went to the hospital for her final time. She was terminally sick with cancer. She was fighting for over 16 years. I was out of town when she was rushed to the hospital, so when I heard she was sick I rushed the 80 miles back home as fast as possible. I was considered head of household at that point and faced a decision that still fucks with me to this day, ending my mothers dialysis and life support. She was unresponsive when I got there. I sat there next to her the whole time, as she slept for 3 days in hospice. At that point, I kept easing her that it was okay to let go and that I'll figure things out as I go. I sat there next to her in hospice when she opened her eyes and made eye contact with me as she took her last breath, something that I'll never forget.
Now, I'm just shy of turning 27, my twenties are blowing on by faster than I thought they'd go. Life hasn't been easy on me, I wish my mother was still around as she was my best friend. I visit my dad everyday as they were married 37 years and I hate to see him alone. I work 50+ hours a week and whenever I can get a lick of free time I like to escape into the woods to go camping, kayaking and hiking, as I feel the most stress and worry free during those activities. Its coming up on 4 years without my mother and I still struggle with her loss, recently I figured I'd call her to wish her a happy 4th of July, until I remembered I can't do that anymore... what a kick to the gonads that was...
If you've made it this far, please don't give up. There's people around who care about you and want to watch you grow & do good things for yourself. I have to keep reminding myself of that too at times.
thanks for sharing this message and your story, condolences for your mother. You're strong man, probably way more than you think you are. Keep your head up and let's just all keep pushing!
@@simonemazza3950 I appreciate that. I always treat people with kindness because my life has been hectic and you never know what the next person is going through or dealing with, sometimes we all need just a little help moving along. Thank you for that reminder.
Brother I can feel you so much 😢feeling really bad for you but trust me you will grow in your life surely because you are a good person 😊
This made me cry, thanks for sharing man I wish the best for you and your family
@@louisosullivan2114 I appreciate that very much. It's been a choppy road but im doing my best, taking it as it comes a day at a time.
same age, same identical situation. It's almost like my thoughts came out from my head and became a video I randomly found on my CZcams home. Thank you mate for this piece of art that is beautiful and makes me feel less alone!
I myself am 23. Ive graduated college last June and I can't find a job I got my degree for. This video has definitely resonated with me. Especially the part about falling into being comfortable. I've been having it rough when it came to motivation. Thank you for the kind words. It's honestly encouraging to hear what you've shared. It makes me want to climb out of the hole I've put myself in.
On the same boat, we will find our place eventually
I'm 23 and just graduated college this year 2023. Hoping to find a job and found my place in this world. Hope, We'll get better soon.
Exactly my situation only that am 22 ... feeling lost by the day
just turned 27 nd the best advice I can give is “keep going” pls dnt stop you worked hard in school to achieve your degree. My big brother told me if u don’t use it in two yes it becomes useless…tht scary but focus on what u want. PLEASE DO NOT take jobs to just get a check tou will hate and it will make you feel like a waste talent, make connections get experience. I’m an Aerospace Engineer and it took me 2yrs to get my job because “I lacked experience” I just kept going and one day someone gave me a break when I was at my lowest. YOUR TME will come you just have to be patient and as you get older you start to become okay waiting because “patience is a virtue” Yll got this keep moving and follow your dreads(insight/gut)
I graduated last June too, and made the decision to not pursue further education. My degree does not hold accountability in the job spectrum and neither do I. The pandemic has hit me abruptly, also Once, associating my life with academic excellence everything in life seems to fall apart now. It is difficult to get up, I am 22 and will be turning 23 soon.
Thanks... I'm 29 about to be 30 and Ive never felt more lost in my life. Procrastination is my biggest enemy by far. Hopefully will get out of this funk soon. Thanks for the video and the kind words.
yes you will break the loop of procrastination and it will become your weapon to optimize one day.
Same here but I’m 22 Life is tough but so are You! 🤦🏾♂️ Since high school I’ve been struggling with that procrastinating bs💔 but from today I think I’m done with it. Yeah especially because *one good prayer could change your life*.
And when God is in your life, your life will surely change.
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
I'm 22, and starting university in september after being a high school dropout/drug addict. I was so incredibly lost earlier and it took me a long time to heal and bounce back, I hope anyone reading this finds hope if they're lost/depressed. I now live with hope for my future, and I'm putting in the work to achieve my dreams, despite being "behind" my peers who have already graduated.
How did you find it within yourself to keep studying? What drives you?
@@mocha8908 Sorry for the late reply, but after pushing myself out of my comfort zone, meeting new people and gaining a new perspective on life, I finally realized what it was that I wanted to pursue. I had to move past my regrets, forgive myself and push forward with my goals. It wasn't overnight, or easy, but if you truly want to better yourself, it'll come.
@@carlospatricio4246you are not "behind" others, everyone goes at their own pace so be kind with yourself. Good luck my dude
Power to you to start studying after such an experience. I wish you the best college life.
PS. Plz study for the sake of learning and never miss an opportunity just because your fellows didn't take it. You'll be thankful to me by the end of your college.
All the best to you mate!
I am 22 and struggling to find my path and purpose. I was just lost as you are. This video gave me a sense of hope and motivation through my endeavors. I am finally taking the next step of my life. Cheers to us. Hope we can all make it.
I turn 22 in two days, and very afraid of the unknown or atleast for 21 years of my life I was. I’m taking the leap try to meet new ppl go for new opportunities and just become spiritually and mentally free. I’m even planning on going to therapy for certain reason I think it can be good for me. I felt like a failure at 20 bc I was lost but I now understand that’s okay, I wanted outcome rather than journey. I realize we just have so much to explore about ourselves and the world. I wish you great things on your journey your comment helped me see I’m not alone. 😊😅
This really teared me up. Sometimes CZcams knows somehow exactly what you need to watch. These damn algorithms are too good!
Being 21 and almost 22 now, I've finished University, lived with my folks for a year and have just moved into a new flat. In the last week I have also been through a rollercoaster with a break-up, family beef, job security down the toilet, valentines day and it just feels like a lot. My first ever love, which hurt bad but I'm trying to remind myself it was for the best.
I have quite a lot of close people in my life including a great family and set of friends, who throughout this have consistently checked up on me, but sometimes I can't reply, even after I see it. I don't really understand why I feel the need to do this, but I do enjoy peace off devices sometimes and sometimes I don't want to explain what's been going on again for the 3rd time or whatever.
I related a lot to this video, the feeling of life in a slump and unsure what the next steps are. So much uncertainty can cause chaos in your head, but I'm trying to redirect myself to focus as much as possible in the present, and look to the other side, as you mentioned in your beautifully crafted video. This week has been super long already and it's only Wednesday night, but I am learning life as a new form. I am realizing now how much I missed talking to those which I am interacting with more as of late. Something about safety in numbers, and also having someone you trust to just hear you out, who let you explain your thoughts a bit more, to allow yourself understand your stance on it just a bit better.
Mental health is super important and I am glad a lot more people are aware of it than ever before, because we gotta look out for eachother. Our sense of connection is what grounds us, so do what you can to bring that back. I know it's helped me a lot.
Anyway, I'm sure it'll get better. Whatever is going on for the rest of you just hope for something better. I'm not religious but sometimes I feel as though my Oma (Dutch for Grandma) is watching over me as an angel, and has my sht sorted for me. My path is my path and she is here with me all the time. There are people that look out for us that are alive and around us, but we may just not realise it. You matter and WE matter and people always underestimate their impacts on people's lives.
Stay strong - I know I'm trying.
I'm 22 and I'm glad I found your video in the right time. I feel so lost since I was 20 and I'm still figuring out while my peers know what they doing with their life. But that's fine, it'll be alright. The last part video give me hope, there's always a light at the end of tunnel. Great video!
I'm 20 and it just feels like I'm an observer. That I'm not really living life, learning and growing while I see everybody else have the drive and interest to do something
Same
@@OReily08080 I feel that as well. But take it easy, things will be okay.
Same here, feeling lost, don't know what to do, and also fear of become a failure :(
@@hisanbae_ Same here I feel you honestly it’s a very common phase. sometimes you gotta lose yourself to finally find yourself.. don’t even trip you’re just going through a chapter in your story.
Remember forever is never. Nothing last forever not even torture soon your story will be legendary.. just try new things step out your comfort zone.. Day 1 or 1day? you choose but I’ll be real if you have GOD or a religion in your life sooner or later you’ll figure everything out …
Thanks a lot for sharing. I'm 26 and never felt so lost before. Some of my friends are getting married, start a business, talks about future while I'm going nowhere, just doing normal office things. Hopefully we can through this all.
Samee heeeeere! Just turn into 26. Step by step fellas and as Twenty one pilots says: No, I don't know which way I'm goin, but I can hear my war around. We are doin great
While me at 27 still have no proper job
17 going on 18 next year, it just feels unreal, like life is starting to feel short. I’ve spent most of my teenage years procrastinating without a girlfriend so far, and hopefully I get there one day. 2020 didn’t make things better either. Man, watching and writing CZcams comments just hits different at 1:00 am, and I’m just venting to a bunch of strangers online who will probably never read this. Reminds me of a Pink Floyd song, “every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time, plans that either come to naught, or half a page of scribbled lines […] the time is gone, the song is over, thought I’d something more to say.”
Edit: high school for me will be over in a few more weeks, just 4 more exams to go. I had graduation last week. I asked the girl that I liked out, plenty more fish in the sea. I failed two of the more important classes I needed to get into uni. Probably have to take a bridging course. Picked up something new though, photography. I got an old Canon AE-1 Program from a mate, that will at least keep me busy from the boredom that is surely to come. My friends and I haven’t talked since graduation, seems as though we are already becoming distant, even though I hope that isn’t the case. It does seem inevitable though. I don’t want that to happen. I would do anything for them, heaven and earth just if I could spend one more day with them. One more day.
Edit 2: a lot has happened. I started talking to a girl again that I hadn’t spoken with for like a year. Turns out she had a boyfriend. Fast forward about a couple months, she says to me that she’s lost feelings for him, fast forward another month and they have broken up. About a week later we are hanging out, and we go back to hers and we are getting drunk. She confesses to me that she has had feelings for me since near the end of that last relationship. Me, taken aback by this, because no girl has ever taken a romantic interest in my life, I’m astounded, and I feel the same way about her. A week later, we do the deed, but she feels mortified about this, says she’s not ready for a relationship, I ignored this because it was wishful thinking. Same day she says she doesn’t want to lead me on, but I say it certainly feels like it. This pisses her off, we go back to my car and sort it all out there. Later that week, she texts me saying she’s about to lose her shit. I head over and she’s cut her arm open. A week later everything seems as though it has been smoothed out. But I find out she’s had Tinder installed. A few days ago she’s matched with this guy and she’s considering dating him instead. I find this to be complete bullshit because I’ve known her for 4 years, she’s known this guy for 3 days. I’ve completely lost it, I’ve lost my shit myself, though I don’t want to tell her that and probably shouldn’t. I kinda want to kill myself I’m not going to lie. First woman on the planet who has confessed feelings for me, and she goes and does that. I’m gonna stop editing this comment, I’ve already over shared a enough on this shit as it is.
Same it's my 17 birthday today and there's a lot of things running in my mind I've celebrate my birthday alone I was not happy I can't help but cry in this as getting older I have a lot of responsibilities I am so tired.....
@@zyleixx364 Happy Birthday! Keep your head up we are all on the same path, oh and make sure to smile a bit more each day :)
You too are very young, it is a good thing that youve notices what you're lacking so you can start managing the things that would like to be/ or do, believe me when I say it
I read your comment from Germany Bro. Dont be sad , Girl will come ❤
I’m 18 and I feel the same way as you ☺️🫂
This Summer, I'm turning 24 and it feels like everyone who inspires me or even my friends alone seems to be making it in life while I struggle to figure out who I am and what I want to do. I stumbled upon this video at such a good time. Procrastination is my worst enemy! Avoiding something new to stay comfortable is so real. Thank you for sticking it through, making this video, and putting it out there. This video is not only inspirational but also so well created.
It's okay to feel lost in your 20's. Explore, keep an open mind and you'll find your way.
I’m 25 and everything you just said is true. You pretty much summed up all of my 20s up until now, except I’ve never had a girlfriend yet.
I’m still trying to figure my career goals and aspirations, trying to find a wife and deciding on my future education. On top of being broke and still living with my parents as well.
One of the things I’ve learned is that everything will just come at the right time, and you have to take your time and not rush things in life and just live it in the present.
It’s hard, but everything will work out.
So many people have reached out to me, saying they have or are going through something similar.
It's very surprising to me, yet comforting to know that this is a common feeling and phase in life.
Good to know that we are all in this together and, with time, everything will fall into place. I truly believe that.
Let's accept, embrace it and move forward, day by day! :)
there are no guarantees for less-than-royalty in life. that's just a coping mechanism. nothing falls into your lap, you have to leap out of the frying pan and into the fire, and hope you don't get burnt. your health can be taken away at any moment, through no fault of your own. likewise financial crisis, disasters and wars happen. too much luck involved to say everything will work out.
Embrace whatever you have man, don't feel bad about things you don't have at the moment. Feeling you!
There's beauty in the struggle, retrospectively, ofc :)
25 same story man
Turning 20… never felt so lonely and lost in my life before. It’s frightening because I have no idea what I should do with my life… Life’s hard right now.
It's been a year. I keep coming back again and again to watch this video. Love your work. Little update, after years of feeling lost in the daily grind I've found a domain I'm passionate about and am now pursuing it full time. It has become easier, you just have to do it every day.
It's crazy how much damage comparison can do. Just being present and enjoying the moment is what being young should be all about. Not about having everything figured out and having a massively successful life.
It might seem like a hypocritical thing to say for people who know me and my life currently, but I still strongly believe that 20s should be wild and, well, uncertain. Uncertain is fun.
Thanks a lot for this video essay. Aesthetically beautiful, and tells a good story! :))
I think the quote ''Comparison is the thief of joy.'' says it all.
Definitely agree with you. Would be quite wasteful to not just go all out and try different things in your 20s, take risks and enjoy life.
Thank you for the comment, my good man! :)
Same age, almost 23; same period, a bit lost, and overwhelmed from everything. Isolation becoming stronger, and still not giving up. Just searching a reason to live this world in myself.
Every word of you is a rock and a wing the same moment.
Thank you.
Don’t stop to make videos like that, to expose yourself. U brave
ahhh I’m almost 23 too and i have NEVER felt more lost and confused. thank you for putting all these feelings into words🥺
Just turned 23 today. This made my day better, a bit less lonely, a bit more hopeful. Really appreciate this :)
I‘m 19 and strangely I can totally relate to the video.
Sometimes I feel pretty empty and lonely and overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions that I think I’m somehow depressed. I used to have much confidence but suddenly since 1-2 years it has vanished away. But on the other side I know that I can rake responsibility for my thoughts and my life but it‘s hard to sustain that „energy“. But I think I get better and better at it. Strangely I think that all other people around me are able to cope with it more „pleasantly“ and don‘t have these „exestential“ „worries“ 😂. But probably that‘s only a superficial impression.
Hope you have a great time and remember: love and compassion is the key ❤
What helps is talking to you like you would to your best friend. Become your own best friend and don‘t believe everything what your mind „says“ to you. Sometimes it is true rubbish and only hindering you from continuing!
Exactly the same 2004 here
Man, this is really deep, and it made me want to cry. It's exactly how I've felt since I turned 20, which was in the middle of the year. I feel like I'm late, stagnant, procrastinating and being nothing in my life, I see millionaires my age, traveling the world, entering college, finishing or being someone.. I still haven't joined because of an accident I had when I turned 18, and last year was an intense recovery that I couldn't study and when I finally manage to study, which is this year, it seems that nothing makes sense...
I even see my girlfriend who finished college and did an exchange program in another country and I'm nothing here, that's very sad
I'm passing through almost the same. But reading all these comments and yours makes me feel like I'm not alone in this. We're not alone. As long as we keep moving forward we are not stagnant.
@@hydragd3682 Yes brother, I feel that we will overcome all this and one day we will remember everything we suffered to get where we dreamed
Im 26, feeling so lost, and like I am falling behind my peers now that I am working towards switching career paths. Procrastination, self-doubt, and dealing with emotions and trauma that I pushed deep inside by smoking weed constantly the past 5 years have been my biggest enemies. I feel myself coming to the other side now though. I've realized and accepted that life will be a constant cycle of ups and downs, losing people you love to break-ups, death, and even just drifting apart. Maybe that sounds sad, but knowing things are constantly changing actually gives me hope. There can always be a brighter future ahead. And make sure to really FEEL and ENJOY your joyous moments.
Good luck to everyone in this comment section
I feel you
Procrastination is truly our biggest enemy, at 20 years I relate to this so much, losing people and gaining new ones. Going through all these transitions while on the self discovery journey.. it's just a lot . But we have you to calm us down and remind us to keep on going.. thank you for this❤❤❤
As the first video, this is beyond impressive. Keep it up 🔥
Coming from the masters themselves, thank you so much! :)
I'm 22, i left my house at 18, i spend holidays alone, stories thru stories, some of they are good, the others all the opposite, sometimes life feels so so hard... but through every experience, i think that we discover a new part of ourselves, something that we couldn't have been able to see it, without that problem... i hope that the future will be bright
I turn 20 in seven months and there’s so much expectation to have my life together- to know what I want to do. But I don’t. College is draining me because I have no real motivation towards a career path, and I don’t know what I want to do with myself. This was a reassuring video
I'm 24 and terrified. I have a rough idea of what I want to do with my life, but without the confidence that comes from experience, I sometimes struggle to believe in myself. This is a part of life we all go through in one way or another, and if anything, I'm glad us young folks can take solace in knowing that we're not alone. Your 20s are for growing, learning, making mistakes, falling down and picking yourself back up. That's how we grow stronger and wiser. Try new things, try everything, try learning something new every day. Set goals for yourself, it's okay if they change over time. Go forward with gratitude and patience. We must learn to enjoy the ride of life, which although turbulent at times can also be a beautiful experience. You all have my support! 💛
Damn - "without the confidence that comes from experience" sums up my anxiety perfectly.
Somehow seeing all these comments and acknowledge that I am not the only one going through this made me feel better. We all gonna make it.
That hu tao tho
Interesting
I'll leave this comment so I'll read this again in some years. I'm totally sure that we can make it. Believe in your strengths.
Good thing I won't be lost in my 20s soon anymore.
I'm turning 30 next year, so I'll be lost in my 30s from then on.
You know, I'm 25 and I still feel the same. I grew, I learned and I became something close to an adult, but I still feel like I don't fit in or that I'm not made for it. So, I relate a lot with your video and what you said.
most important thing I learned in my twenties, it doesn't ever get any easier, you just get better at handling it.
Thank you!! I'm 27 now and I think its good to be reminded that your are not the main character in everyones life and that everyone has their own struggles to deal with. Makes it easier to see that we are all humans and that no one is alone with that
Very brave of you to open up and share some of the thoughts a lot of us might relate to, but don’t talk about.
Being recommended this video at 5am after a night without being able to sleep due to the heat really felt like a godsend. Even though im not in my 20s yet, i am almost 19, just graduated highschool, and now im feeling lost. I have no motivation to work on myself and would rather play games all day and watch youtube. Although i havent reached the point where responsibilities will start to overwhelm me, i am scared of imminent moment, having no experience taking full care of myself and relying on my caring parents. All i want to achieve in life at this very moment is repaying my parents for all of the love and patience they've given me and prove to them that their efforts have not been wasted on a nerd who only leeches off of them. I might be going too hard on myself, but i dont know any other way to actually get me to do something with my life. Sometimes i wonder how my friends' lives are going, if they're also in the same boat secretly, if they're also thinking what my life could be behind the scenes. As much as i love my close friends, there are some things i dont want to burden them with. I dont even know why im making this comment in the first place, maybe it's because this may be a safe place for me to vent my uncertainties away, maybe Im just looking for help, or someone that might say "You're not alone". If someone reached the end of this comment, i hope you'll have a beautiful day and know that you're strong, keep it going buddy
I found this video at a very vulnerable stage of my life. I’m 19 years old and I am going into my 20s this July. I am currently going through a breakup. My boyfriend left me yesterday very suddenly, and I feel very devastated. I feel very lost right now yet I feel a sense of relief. I know that wasn’t the life that I wanted anymore and I know that there’s much more in store for me. This video put a lot into perspective for me and I truly want to fall in love with myself and with life again before ever trying to love someone else. It’s very true that people come in and out of our lives because they have their own stories to write. I’ve never seen it in that perspective. Thank you.
Bro, I am close to 23 years old, quite close to your age, going to a great grad school and yet I felt each and every word spoken in this video. You just explained something so inexplicable in such lucid terms, it just made my day a little better. Thanks for this amazing vid.
Right!!!!!! Same, this video touches your soul... like it's so nice knowing other people get it
this video resonate with me so much, I've never seen someone with exactly the same struggles, the same thoughts that I think daily and all of that put in a cinematic masterpiece. I'm 29 and I'm still lost, but loosing yourself is the first step to actually find your true self
Be mindful of the future, but not at the expense of the moment. Keep your concentration here and now where it belongs. The only certainty we have in this world is uncertainty. Don’t stress so much about what comes next. Focus on what comes now, and you’ll be a lot freer for it. And remember to be kind to yourself. And although I don’t know you, dear reader, I’m proud of you for making it this far. Wherever you’re at in the journey, take a break if you need to, but keep moving, and never give up. You’ve got this.
I turned 20 in 2003 and was utterly lost until 29 when I finally found my way. For sure my 20s were a scary time full of uncertainty and no direction. I didn't have many friends and was just extremely unsure of myself. Things were quite different back then, and I can imagine things are even more confusing now with so much negativity in the world, social media and the economic downturn. Keep your chins up, it will work out in the end.
Stuff tends to get better. I realized I don't have to feel lost, because there is no path set out for me. If there is no path, there is no way to feel lost. It's just a constant doing whatever feels right.
I would say there is a path.... your own path. We all walk our own paths in life.
I'm 29 and still as lost as ever. But I know myself now. And I've learned to just join the dance. There's a lot I would have changed but I do not regret the trial and error of finding out who I am. Just know that this lost "searching" isn't a problem to be solved, but a process everyone experiences.
thank you man thank you. turning 20 in a couple months. just stressed as hell and this definitely made me sit back and realize that it’s okay to feel like nothing is going your way. cause it won’t a lot. life is life and you enjoy it by what you make of it. appreciate this video, youtube must know we all lost right now too.
The closest friends too strangers part felt way too real
Dude... this video is a lot. I've been like that since my 23, I'm 26 now... I've learned a lot these years, and still doing it. Just embrace the processes... I'm through some things again but wiser, I guess... your video helped me a lot clear my foggy day and remember those things. Thanks, man, greetings from Argentina.
Thank you 🙏🏼. I’m 26, and even if everything looks good on the paper from the outside, I’m terribly lost inside. This video helped me to see I am not alone ✨🥺
Honestly this video, the camerawork, the script, just everything about it is just so calming and inspirational. It’s a real reminder to us young adults that whatever happens we will always found our path.
This video resonates so much with my thoughts.
I'm 20, I'll be 21 soon, but I've never felt more lost. I have friends, studies, projects and work, from the outside everything looks incredibly successful. But inside I can't feel 100% pleasure from all this, relationships are constantly not close enough, work does not attract, projects come and go.
But most importantly, recently I realized how many people are around and how few of those whose thinking fully responds to me. I'm constantly trying new things and clinging to new relationships with people. And your video gave me such a sense of acceptance and understanding.
Whatever happens to us, we will not be alone
I'm in my late teens, but I've already been starting to feel this kind of fear for my 20s. Growing up in this digital world can often make the world feel so small and narrow, and so these types of videos definitely help with coping with that . I hope you turn out to make more videos in the future :)
Turning 19 a few weeks. Don't know how I'm going to manage to pull through my 20s
@@h..s6972 You got this, one day at a time.
I really needed this, ive worked part time as a watch/clockmaker since i was about 14, im almost 22 now. a lesson that i only just learned a week ago is that time waits for no one, the world is un-wavering in its "carelessness" and the clock will keep ticking in the same way it always has no matter how much you break down in front of it, it will always stare at you with its numbered face just the same. im writing this now because i just broke down thinking how my parents are gonna pass away at some point and they are so important to me in so many ways, and no matter what i do i cant stop my parents from going away at some point, nor can i stop myself from aging.
I just wanna sit in my moms swaying lap as i cry and my dad giving me big hugs, and you know what? even tho im almost 22 i will do that, because when the clock ticks its last tock for my parents, i would have wished i did it, like i have with quite a few things in my childhood that i regret not doing. ive made mistakes and its really hurt me but its also tought me how to not get hurt again, at least in those ways.
its very clique but if you know when an anime character breaks down and just wants to fight their way too being ok? thats how i feel with aging, beating on my wall or desk or crying into my stuffed animals, theres no way out. but in the end all i can really do is make the most of the time that i have with my parents, and my friends and my youth. live it now, so that when i look back on it later, ill feel that at least i did something im proud of, and not wishing i did something in the past.
you can turn back the hands on a clock physically(you even do for certain things in clock repair), but you can never turn back the universes clock, so make every tick count, live or go for a life that you want and are proud of, not what other people tell you, but what you want. if you dont know what you want, try things and find something you want or like, because its better than doing nothing.
the universes clock will tick with its ambiguous face, it doesnt care weather you do nothing or do something you want, it looks at you the same and accepts it all in the end. im in a very hard position with many things in my life going wrong, but im super thankful that i still have people around me to support me and care for me, but at some point they will go away and im not ready for that. even when i was really young, like 8-9-10, i always hated getting older, i still do very much so, getting older has only given me great pain with some crumbs of joy. but i just have to accept thats the way the universes clock works, just the same as i know how man made clocks work.
i could rant for 10 phd essays, but ill say this as my last point. I use to do nothing but lay in bed and sleep a lot of the week, i decided to limit that and for one specific reason. your time is limited on this earth, and if what happens after death is you just go to dreamless sleep forever(nothing is proven cuz we dont know for sure, but if it happens to be this), ill have plenty of time to sleep in my bed, that time being "forever". while im temporarily here on this earth, id like to actually live it. and if something does come after life? well thats a nice surprise and a new adventure.
i wish the best for people who are going thru a harder time than me, because i know im lucky to have certain things in my life even tho ive been hurt. thanks for reading
Currently in my 20s and just graduated a firefighting academy that was incredibly challenging and helped me grow mentally and physically as a person. However, I am now on the other side certified as a firefighter/EMT starting a job soon, and feeling more lost and alone than ever. I thought once I had completed my goals I would be content and I'm just lost again.
"Let go of all the expectations that you have and just live life, day by day." damn, that hits so hard :"))
24 and couldn't relate more. Thanks for overcoming the obstacles to create and share this. Much love homie
You have no idea how much this video helped everyone!
This video made me feel better and don't feel bad for wanting to seek self improvement, we are all lost so we can find the light in our future!
Stay strong everyone! 💪
Definitely feel this as a 23 year old. All these thoughts about where I want to take my career, how I need to learn to stand up for myself, and just not really having friends or meeting anyone new, amongst all the other stuff, it gets heavy sometimes. I see people going out and being social and having time for all these different things, and then I wonder where I went wrong, and what are they doing that I'm not. Makes me think my best days are behind me, when I had a good number of friends and was more social. I wonder how I'm ever going to be in a relationship, get married and settle down if I don't get the chance to meet new people.
I felt the same struggles as you all here in my 20's, isolation, confusion, disorientation, loneliness. Sitting alone in a student apartment taking drugs and staring at the laptop screen. even if someone reached out for me, I was so indisposed that I never took the chance connecting with so many people especially women. But from constant pain you can always learn and make it better. As for all of you I can say now in my 30s there's so much hope and brightness in life, that I can enjoy finally. I hope you get all trough the struggles and find happiness and a fulfilled life
Thanks man. That is real love what you are speaking. We need it nowadays more than ever before I guess!
Every single word you said in this video is just so relatable to me.. I'm 24 now, the last year was the worst year for me (yes my 23) I was so lost, depressed and just don't have the power to move on, actually I lost a person who was so important to me, the person who has raised me up and taught me everything at the same year of my graduation, actually at the same month... It was so hard to keep moving on, I was telling myself that I can handle it but I couldn't, not just because of my lost but everything was going the wrong way, there was some days I just want to go to sleep and keep crying under my blanket till the morning and I wouldn't talk to anyone one, I just want to be alone that time but also I wishеd if I got some help from anyone.. By the time I get better, I've been planning for the next year and I want to do more for myself and just live peacefully.. I still feel lost till this day, and sometimes don't feel that I want to keep what I'm doing, but it's okay cuz I know I'm a human being, if myself want a rest then it's okay, but I don't lose hope.. I'll just keep going and I'm so thankful to where I'm now and to what I've achieved.
You did great, don't worry darling.
@@formyvibes3084
Thank you 🤍
Whoever reading this comment, I really hope you find peace and strength to live through the day. Whatever going through right now, I promise it'll be okay 😍🤗
Thank you so much for these amazing words. I've also just gone through the toughest breakup from whom I believed for years would remain the constant sunshine, love and best friend in my life for always; only for it to come crashing down out of nowhere, for no particular reason other than 'change'. These have been the darkest few months of my life, but I'm lucky to have the best family. I keep going not only for them, but for myself too, because as you said; new doors have opened up to infinite possibilities, and there are so many of us in the same situation. And like many others watching this video, I'm very grateful for how incredibly positive, meaningful and effective it is. Made me smile a lot. Thanks again man ❤
Since everyone is opening up I'll do it as well: I'm 25, studied electronics and IT and doing a PhD in computer science in Prague (but I'm originally from France). The last months were just horrible. I find out I don't want to do this with my life, I gave a lot to my studies and to have my degree and now I realise this work is just absurd, alienating, senseless.. added to that the complete loneliness of moving to another country. I can't help but feeling like a complete failure with this huge amount of time spent on this. I'm thinking about quitting. I'm just tired of this vertigo which freaks me out, I'm always anxious and find it impossible to imagine my future me, it feels like a black wall. So I'm writing songs at the same time.. but man... If I ever sort it out, I'll just punch every man who tells me that the 20s are the best years of your life. Fack them all, seriously.
Thanks for sharing with us, I totally get it what you’re feeling because in a different area, physics, i felt the very same feeling. Being a physicist was my dream job and all i wanted to do is work on this field. But after first year of my college I thought I can’t continue to study. It gradually became less interesting and appealing to me. I changed my field and already one year passed. Still, i’m not really sure what i want to do about my life but I’m trying to understand what is it best for me. I also wanted to share with everyone, sorry for that it took a bit long
@@uuns6594 Yeah I think this feeling comes and go in life and we shouldn't feel guilty about it. The only thing I can say from experience and that of others is that a diploma open doors to a lot of things, way beyond your specific domain. It shows that you can be selfless for 5 years and testifies your work capacity, which can be appreciated in other domains. I have friends who got a Master's degree in IT and now they're working in renewable energies, without coding at all..
What a great video! I could not help but relate with everything that you mentioned. I just turned 27 and after feeling lost for most of my early 20s, I can say that you nailed everything. People come and go, but they bring lessons that we can all learn from. My life turned around for the better at 25 and I can honestly say that having a supportive group of friends and family have led me to find peace even when life gets rough.
you don't know how much i needed to watch something like this, thank you
My good god, this is one of the BEST videos I've ever watched on CZcams.
So soothing, so genuine and just so warm.
The entire video most of all was SUPER relatable. I'm 21 and goin through an identity crisis, just unable to get it together.
Thanks for this again, it was truly comforting and inspiring.
Plus, I loved the how this gave me like 80s/90s vibes, idk if I'm the only one but this looked so vintage and hence, so real and lovable. Kudos to you.
I'm 22 years old and I'm moving city to pursue my dream, I've found it all so overwhelming but this video has helped me so much. Thank you!
I never comment on CZcams but man, as a 22 year old who’s going through a similar situation and feeling the same emotions: thank you. It’s comforting knowing that there are people (whether you know them or not) going through similar journeys.
I recently started making videos again on a new channel after taking a lot of time off and essentially deleting my old channel. I thought that part of me as a kid died as I started getting older, but videos like yours are an inspiration. Definitely subscribing, keep it up. Amazing work.
This video describes literally everything I am going through right now, thank you. It’s good to be reminded that this isn’t a situation unique to myself and that everyone has their own struggles that can I can relate to.
i love the simple warmth that video has inside
i cried for 15 minutes
thanks, dude.
This video is perfect. I’m 20, going into my final year at university, and I feel quite lost. I’m trying to prepare to go into the real world finally whilst also still trying to figure out who I am. I procrastinate a lot and I hate it, I want to be better, but like you said, it’s more comfortable to just not do the important things. I want to be the person I want to be, but my oh my is all of this overwhelming. Sometimes it gets too much and I cave in, but I know I’ll get through this and figure things out.
I hope that you, everyone in the comments, and anyone who may read this get things figured out too! Videos like these help us feel less alone, they’re more important than I think the creator realises. Thank you so much
I'm in my 20s and I almost cried watching this ,thanks for making the video.
For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. You see, we all have sinned, and have broken God’s law (The Ten Commandments). Wrong doing deserves justice and must be punished (just like how a criminal has to pay for the crime they have committed) but God saved us from the eternal punishment of our sins by sending His Son Jesus Christ, fullness of God in flesh, to pay the penalty for us by dying on the cross and resurrecting, so that we may have everlasting life. Now for you to accept the free gift of grace, you must repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ and Bible says that His Blood will cover all of your sins, you will be forgiven, saved from eternal punishment, and be given everlasting life. By faith you will receive the Holy Spirit, become born again and He will transform your heart and clean you from the inside out. Turn away from sin, read the Bible, pray for the Holy Spirit to fill you and change you, obey the Word. Much love and God bless you!
@@jesusisking3814 why did you pick my comment to post all that stuff ?
@@internet-gangsta2162 Jesus is calling you today, pick up and seek Him
I read many success stories of people here in the comments section.... Let me be the odd one out. I'm 24 now and has lost so much in a short time. I pursued a degree in whim of my mind and without any vision and which led to me getting fired after getting employed by some big companies. Sumptous uncertainties, Addictions, No contact, or very frequent, with my family, No Friends and no contact with the ones I had, moving from one job, one city to another, having fights with literally everyone. All this has finally led me to become a monk and living in a temple but alas my Ego has followed me here too, like it has everywhere, and the story continues and thus I'm uncertain about this too. If anyone sees this after a few years ask me if any of it has changed. Good day!
I’m 22 set to be 23 in January. I feel derealization and panic attacks that are just exhausting to keep up with while going to college and working is so difficult to balance. My brain is eating my personality and soul. I have not been the same since 18. Feels like you spend all of your 20s being depressed. I have depressing thoughts I never experienced as a teen when as a teen I thought I was depressed but I really wasn’t and could control my emotions back then. My brain feels high jacked. I have been having health issues since I had Lyme disease and PCOS and it’s shit. How do people find the will to actually live through going to work everyday? It’s just awful that I had an easier time controlling my emotions as a child rather than as an adult. It makes no sense.
The same. If you want to talk I'm ready, sending my love and warm hugs from the Caucasus, you're not the only one who goes through it
U ok?
I love everything about this video: The calmness, the truths and probably most of all the cinematography. You are able to show your viewer wonderfull scenes that take our breaths away. I love you as a fellow human and feel every word you said. Take care man. ❤
I’m 29 and the difference between my younger 20s and now is huge in terms of how I see myself and how I approach the world 😂 😢. I think it makes sense that in a period where you’re experiencing the world yourself for the first time, you’re exploring and figuring things out but also getting burned and hurt. And that hurt contributes to an incredible amount of growth. One of the biggest periods of growth in our lives I think.
But I’m still lost as hell 😢. Glad to know there are others who relate to the strong feelings of confusion.
I think personality typing can also explain why some of us struggle more. Eg. INFPs care more about self-actualization and they can see every personal goal in an existential “Is this who I am?” way so they can find it harder to settle on a career.
"intimidated by the work and scared of the outcome" yup
Right now I believe the viewers of this video are flowing in the similar timeline. Guys and Gals we all will come to peace with our existence soon🎉
I’m 21 and I still feel lost. I’ve been feeling lost for the past 2 years ever since I left cosmetology school. It feels like school gave me something to do. It was predictable because I knew what was to come next. I feel I’ve been living on autopilot for a long time. It feels like the same day over and over again, like I’ve been living dead. Feeling lost because it feels like I’ve lost meaning to my life but feeling anxious for not knowing what the future holds. This video does give a little reassurance to me. And it feels good that I’m not alone even though I don’t wish this on anyone. Love this ❤
Feel you...
Wow I feel that, exactly same same situation,
@@karaboja7871 Yes, sending love ❤️
@@nessaa1388 Agreed. Sending you much love ❤️
Just turned 20 on the 1st of April and I already feel so anxious and lost
You'll be fine
Relax, you're 20 years old.
Same😢
Thank you for taking the time and making this video. I have been struggling with this for a while. I unknowingly fill up my schedule and am just realizing that it's for the sole reason that I dont't have to face the reality that I dont know what I want from life. But at the same time I recognize it's a blessing since every door is unlocked. I just have to have courage in opening them and seeing where they take me. Thank you.
Sometimes the best thing to do
is be in nature. Sit with the trees.
Let go of all thoughts.
You’ve let it consume you to the point of panic.
Nothing is worth your sanity or peace,
especially not someone who treats you poorly.
Do anything to keep your mind off the subject.
When a thought comes in tell it “you don’t have access to me anymore".
And put a stop to it, replace it with whatever other thought or verbiage you want to use.
I just came out of this myself after two years.
It IS possible to move on. Just be with you for a while, you and God. Breathe and let go.
Write it all down. All of it! The anger the rage the sadness, cry it all out. And then don’t look back, eyes forward. You have a purpose and you’re being called to something else.
Remember that.
Much love to you.
Great video Man, just watched it on a Friday evening while everybody I know is partying and so on. Apart from the fact, that all you mentioned is absolutely true, I would like to share with you my personal experience. To be completely honest, this is the first time I will write something personal on the YT comments section. Almost 2 years ago I moved out to different city to study with my girlfriend. We were together then for about 4 years. It was really convenient living with her because she was cooking for both of us and my only responsibility was to do the dishes. However, after one year something changed and we broke up. The point is, that after one week of eating frozen food I was so fed up with it that I decided to take some action and learn how to do basic pasta or sth. And to my complete surprise, it turned out that cooking is so much fun, that after six months I have earned myself a nickname "chef" among my friends because of my skills.
The point is, that sometimes you can find something fulfilling to you when not especially looking for it, some things are just meant for us but we do not know when we get there. Greeting from Poland!
thank you for sharing your story lana del ray!
Im so thankful this video exists. I'm currently 20 and it's a tough time for me. I dropped out of college, lost my girlfriend, my long called best friends are moving farther and farther away from me... But your video helps me to cope with my current situation. Everytime I feel bad I watch it and instantly feel better. It gives me hope that things will get better and easier eventually and I also feel less alone :)
Same situation ... we are not alone bro
I turned 20 years old four months ago and this video perfectly describes how i feel and now that I know there are more people feeling this way ,I feel some sort of comfort and I've started embracing this feeling. I'm very glad i discovered this channel. Keep up the good work man!
its honestly crazy to say that im turning 20 next year and this video helped so much especially with pressure from family to hurry up and get a career and be an adult. thank you 💗
This year I'm about to end my 24. Most of my friends when I meet in college and in middle school stopped contacting with others. They live their life with other friends, have their career and partners, sometimes even a baby. I'm still fighting to have good carrer, try to keep friends who are still with me, steel keep lights for my parent and find someone. Maybe it's stupid but I'm not giving up, thank's to you and this material. Thank you!