The Truth About Perfectionism
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- čas přidán 7. 02. 2023
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Finally you add link to the short lol
When the perfection is sus
so im not the only one who noticed the thumbnail xD
Kinda sus that this the only comment that got hearted
My perfectionism literally ruined my school years to a point it got so bad I couldn't complete any projects and it would make me spiral horribly because then that 100% became 94% to 73% to barely breaking 50% it's so hard to get over it feels like if I couldn't do it perfectly I couldn't finish it at all or turn in something I didn't think was good. They said something is better than nothing but my brain and feelings could NOT justify that at all, it made me so physically sick :/
This literally resonates with me so much!
Is that Burn out?
@@brandyjacob5926 it's overexhausting yourself to the point of burning out. A simple 1 minute task becomes a 4 hour task because you want it to be perfect in every way. Eventually it gets tiring spending so much energy doing simple things that you start to work less effectively which just worsens things. it's ironic
@@Ame865 oh okay, thanks for answering
I relate so strongly. It prevented me from doing some fun things as well, like I always wanted to draw comics but I felt like they never looked as good as I wanted so I could never finish any. It was also so irritating looking at your old works when everyone praised them to the moon but it helped nothing because you only saw the faults. It nearly felt like everyone was lying just to be nice to you.
Iv taken this mentality with my digital art. in the past, id spend hours trying to get what I was making to look exactly like it did in my head, and it never turned out looking good. I did this for 3 years. then eventually threw my hands up in frustration as said "f*ck it!" stopped trying to make it look "perfect" and not only am I happier with my art, but I feel like my skills are improving much faster then they were before.
So true! As soon as I stopped caring if I made bad art, my skill level went way up. Putting pressure on myself to be perfect was restricting me and I was too scared to take risks. Not giving a fuck is freeing, and creating freely gives better results
@@Meraxes6 That's awesome! I'm so happy for you! I just wish I knew to do this sooner in life. haha.
Good for you 🎉 that is seriously a huge feat! I am very much as you described with my painting.
Any of you guys god advice and how to let go of that? Art student here and my perfectionism has gotton me to the point that I’ve been on a burnout from art and it’s making forget why I love doing it in the first place
whoever's doing these thumbnails deserves a raise
youtube does it automatically xD
Don't let perfection be the enemy of good
The perfectionist in me wants to make a correction: Don't let perfection be the enemy of good enough.
On another note, aren't perfectionists more likely to end imperfect relationships? Or rarely get into relationships with "imperfect' people who can't live up to the standards of perfect waifus?
Agreed on needing to process the grief of an imperfect product or result in order to move forward with it.
@@sLIMshadyKP "On another note, aren't perfectionists more likely to end imperfect relationships?"
That depends on the expectations placed on them (whether it is by their own selves or others).
If their "perfect life" (or social standing or whatever) requires being in a relationship, then it's likely that they'll persevere in seeking perfection within their current relationship even if they end up burning out everyone around them including themselves.
Otherwise yeah, they may prefer throwing the relationship away and keeping on their path on their own.
that thumbnail tho
First sentence biggest truth ever, for me it worked to convince by ratiolyzing it: I wanna be as perfect as possible but I keep screwing up because of that mind set so I just have to be less perfect so I won't screw up as much. Worked out perfectly
Perfect is the enemy of done.
I love these little nuggets of wisdom. Small note though: I think the text editing could be a bit less distracting. The emphasis on things like "NO GUARANTEE" kind of gets lost in the sauce.
Thanks for the feedback!
When I started self-monitoring my personal life like it was a job, I would rate my 'performances' of the day week out of /20. Just like school grades. The thing is, you can never reach 20. Or maybe on some exceptional, once-a-month occasion. It's not the same as in school, because there getting 15/20 makes you feel comfortably above average, as you compare with others. But when you're alone, it just feels like you're 5 points short of your goal. Doesn't matter that much either if you 'just compare to yourself', because THE GOAL is set by yourself, for yourself. So it actually makes you feel like you're failing yourself. Even though you may improve.
-> so eventually what I did was switch to rating myself out of /10.
LEAVING THE POSSIBILITY TO OVER-PERFORM !!!
This is part of why I love Dr K so much. I come to get advice about one topic, and get bonus GOLDEN advice about another as well.
This greiving process is important. I think understanding and embracing grief, whether it’s the loss of a friendship or loss of opportunity, is healing
The thumbnail is a depiction of the faces of deities on temple and cave murals lol.
Eyes of Kali, my man.
I love this one so much. It helped me work thru the hardest thing inside of me. Still is my favourite. Thank you.
that dialogue loop is actually perfect though
This short needs to randomly play throughout my days every day
my ex was a perfectionist and when the relationship ended she did that process of grieving with all of the memories we had together, which i thought was weird at the time. i wouldn’t get back with her but i hope that that was a step towards letting go of her perfectionism
Thank you Dr.K
you help me so much im so glad that you do youtube
This is not settling, this is actually zooming out so you can see the dashboard better and drive properly.
finally one more step closer to perfection
that thumbnail is golden
Embrace the chaos
Great advice
Sounds like enlightenment
This dude be speaking facts
Gold
Perfection is infinite though, so you'll never achieve anything close to it
But thing is, what if instead of holding on, the person is letting go because of such perfectionism? how to know when to compromise since we know that no one's perfect? Sometimes I feel like it can end up in somewhat a grey area this question.
Heavens
😊
I’m a pianist and for musicians it’s really common to struggle with perfectionism at some point or another our lifes.
The thing that helped me let go of trying to be ‘perfect’ is to understand that I will always be improving all my life. There is no such thing as ‘perfect’, even artists and musicians like Leonardo Da Vinci or Beethoven thought they could always improve and be better.
So, in the end I think what matters is the journey, to be happy and content with every little improvement we make, it’s one small step towards achieving our goals. I’m thankful for every little progress I make no matter how small it is, even if it’s just realizing I’ve been doing something wrong.
Speed run perfect
Im dealing with this as far as making content if it not h to e way i want it i just get rid of it all together
When you as a perfectionist aroace clicked, curious to find out tips to help with being a perfectionist, but instead end up with some break up tips 😌
Perfectionism is stupid cause you're always evolving. Gaining new things and letting go of ways of ineffective doing and thinking.
Idk. I'm working in therapy on letting everything go for 9 years. And with respect to perfection i've became much much worse, I can't concentrate much on one task, I have worse memory, my working skills are much much worse than before, since I'm working much much less than before. I'm much far from perfection or a good specialist than I've ever been in 9 years.
Perfect cycle by the way
Tf does a relationship have to do with perfectionism.
@@Dimitris_Half but that isnt what he's talking about here
@@Dimitris_Half this guy has a knack for posting shorts where the original context is completely lost
that thumbnail LMAO
"Perfection" is just an excuse for complacency. You can always do something a little better than you did before.
You're either competent or you're not.
How do you grieve in a way that optimal for letting things go? Like, in a way that's just not coping
Coping is avoiding emotions. Grieving is feeling them.
How can an AI grieve?
U speak like jordan
Change the thumbnail plz
nah it's perfect🌝
So we should stop striving to be our best? 🤔