How to Connect With Anyone: This Realization Changed My Life
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2016
- One way we can feel connected to people we meet is to drop the labels as to who they are. Labels bring connotations and meanings that are then projected toward that person and then the perceptual sense to which we see reality will then include those thoughts. The mental labels (whether it be race, culture, political affiliation, age, sexual orientation, etc) don't actually define the person we come into contact with anyways. We are far more vast then any label or characteristic. We are all humans, spiritual beings, consciousness, whatever you want to call it and anytime we label people we are limiting the expression of who they are and creating a wall of separation. Expanding this scope can help us to connect to the real energy of the person rather then the mental idea filled with personal connotations. We are all one and connection is a natural by product of who we are.
This video is about how to connect with anyone
I have judgements when I talk to people, not about them, but about myself. That's probably why I always feel like being outside the group or at a distance from others.
Elise Nieuwe look up codependency. Much love! :)
the ‘ideas’ about Yourself, drop them too
Walk up to the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say "I deeply and completely love and accept you no matter what". Think of those things that you judge yourself about and then say that phrase or replace "you" with "myself". Self love and self acceptance is usually something we miss out on when we are young because love and acceptance from our parents and people is usually conditional so we never build that strong foundation. Even better get the unconditional love and acceptance from an unchanging source such as Jesus.
@@jimmyjam3753 yea but what if you live in reality and there aint no jesus bruh.
@xX_Tyler_X x nigga but not the jesus hoppin off the cross, the jesus droppin tabs tho, ill believe that
actually i have felt isolated from everybody else my whole life , they just don't want me, feel like i am invisible most of the time
snorrevonflake try to make lots of eye contact it you’ll see the difference in the way they act towards you and don’t be nervous or scared while doing it. Making eye contact shows that your intimidating buts that’s not a bad thing some people are just intimidating themselves but that’s what makes them attractive. Knowing that your intimidating shows that your bold and have no fear.
Self fulfilling prophecy. Be careful the words you use
As much as it sounds like bullshit loving yourslef and not caring about others opinion and choosing who you give your love to. Read the book love yourself like your life depends on it. It will change your life. I was suicidal lost my job my girlfriend of 4 years and had no one where to stay. It took one book to change my life. A positive will make you be happy with whatever is thrown your way rather than the constant search for validation and happiness
@@CptnQuikNut wise words mate
My heart hurts to read your comment. If you ever want to talk, message me.
either you look at the world (or other people) from a love point of view, or from a fear point of view. Fear creates these labels. Love looks for connection. My life is being led by fear, which can't be turned off yet (working on it). But I do understand the impact of both. Many people, unfortunately, have not experienced love much and were raised with fear. It's a hard thing for a lot of people to even know there is a view of love when they have never felt it for long enough compared to the fear they have felt. Their whole being is filled with fear and it's hard to get rid of.
I would like to connect the person who wrote that..hit me home
Keep working on it.... only thing to fear is fear itself
Tijmen J.
I don’t see it’s just about love or just about fear. It’s also about feeling that certain
Connection with people who you just love to talk to, who will open to you, and
You open up to them without judging each other, who you just like to talk to,
And vice versa. I suppose you can just generalize it and say its about love or
Fear, but that’s not getting to the root of the problem, in my opinion. If you
Want to talk about fear, yes there are a lot of people who don’t open up to
Us probably because they fear they will be judged. So you can’t really get
To know these types of people to connect with them. If you want to throw
In the love part, thats the people who you just have this feeling of connecting
With, but its rare in my opinion, to find these types of people.
Thank you 🙏
Great comment. I have been operating out of a place of shame (fear) since I was about 8 years old. Because of something I went through as a young boy and then years of rejection, hiding behind alcohol and drugs, and ultimately self rejection, I have come to view myself as a defective person and social misfit. As hard as I might try to put a mask on, this is ultimately the person I present when I meet others. Damn, it’s a hard and slow battle, but I am feeling a hell of a lot better about myself than I did 10 years ago when I was strung out on drugs. It’s really hard to find people who know themselves well enough and are willing to make themselves vulnerable and share this with.
This is a great analogy!!! The ego is a tricky thing, I always do this subconsciously! Thank you brother
This video is so important. So many people that I come across have these labels that create boundaries. Making it difficult to form close bonds.
If people would just let go of expectations and labels- everything would be as it is. thanks for posting! 😊
You said it perfect! Thank you and Much love!
Wise, wise words Aaron. This is one video which, when shared, would help change the worlds of many. Much kudos to you and your work, thank you!
Aaron you have no idea the greatness your instilling on the world. Thank you.
Good video, thank you Aaron. "We are all connected"!
0:08 His face damn can't stop laughing..
Watching your videos is like reading a book I've already read.. It's amazing. I'm taping into what I already knew.
So simple but soo accurate 💪🏽love it
Love your beard Aaron! Thanks for all of the help
Thanks, brother. I couldn´t have said it better myself. We are all brethren.
Love the beard style and .. those flowers💐! 😁😍💙
Omg this vid was sooo freaking cute!!! I love my synchronized CZcams recommendations.
I am currently a little scared of a teacher that I have to face in a presentation for getting my lawyers degree. So I guess I'll drop the old, angry, scary nut job labels.
Thank you so much Aaron you're really improving my life.
Yelu C can I get a hello there?!
Give everything you have in love or don't give at all. Words, help, etc.....watch what you deliver to others and watch what you allow into your life and your spirit. Shut the TV off and disconnect. It's a brand new world. Learning how to love and doing things wholeheartedly with no expectations of anything in return, truly showing care, your life will change. Outlook changes.
Thank you Aaron, I needed this video to clear my mind up :D
Much Love :)
flowers make the best assistants everrr😍💐
Yoo this was amazing! I’m going to apply this to my life. Thank u!
Best. Video. Ever. Aaron, you are epic, and I love you, I love your messages, I love what you are teaching us. THANK YOU.
Old but gold ❤️ You always inspire me Aaron! 😊
Just came across your videos today , I've taken a lot of interest to them . I really want to change as I'm going through a tough time and I want to be my higher self
Hey it looks like it's been 2 years :) how are you doing Now? Much love!
It's been 3 years, we hope you are doing fine.
hey, 4 years buddy! how're you doing?
You changed in some way. It's not only the beard but the way you talk. You seem more genuine now, less forced. What did you do?
he took mushrooms
@@evanpennington1130 lol yoo!
Probably like the tree he talked about the other video ,
Wow! Just wow! Your insight is life changing. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🌎
The ending was so funny Great video thank you!
haha thank you brother! Much Love!
much love to you too!
Hahaha I love your energy dude!! This video was educational And fun! Thank you for being You!
Your videos are so amazing, glad you're growing an audience :)
Thank you Kat :) Much Love and Appreciation!
LIFE CHANGING!!! THANK YOU ⭐️💛
Hi aron,love your videos been watching you for 4 years now and I want to thank you for the help that you have brought into my life... Sending love and light all the way from Spain,blessings!
I think I may have found this out too late..its tied to my connection to my father, who is very judgemental. I noticed recently that I have adopted his ways. It's a very painful realization.
It’s never too late to be who you really are
Haha so sweet holding the roses that are not the same color haha. Bless you :) good content. Keep it up. Thank you
Hi Aaron just found your page, I love you videos so far and I've subbed. I love how you make things easy to understand. Thank you and keep em coming. One Love
Thank you Tiffany! Welcome to the channel :) Much love!
I love the frequency you are vibrating at. xo
This is great man!
Great video Aaron, thank you very much. Appreciate the videos, keep it up!
Thank you! Will keep going and I appreciate your feedback, Much Love! :)
I love the visualisation with the different vases. Putting people in categories is really one of the key disconnecting factors. LET'S DROP THEM LABELS! ;-)
Thank you. Great analogy!
I saw you on Infinite Waters videos commenting. Hi! Good information. Thank you.
Thank you and Much Love!
Great video, great Channel!! I love what you're doing - much love :-)
You are awesome. Thank you for your videos!!
But I don't hold judgement. I'm just too shy and uncomfortable around everyone
maybe you are shy and uncomfy because you are afraid to be judged. so you judge others that they will judge you. with me personally it is like that
@@futureless. exactly same thing with me
@@futureless. it's EXACTLY like that for me, but its cus my sense of humor literally SUCKS and ppl dont find me fun to be around...
I kept being judged, cuz by the way I acted I made people think that I was weak/deppressed/sad/worthless. If you keep thinking that you can't hold judgement you will be it. Change the way you think, be more confident, learn to love yourself way more than you do now, and FORGIVE yourself... Your life will change, I promise! Cuz my life changed after doing these.
@@Isaac-mi5wq When was the firs time you felt your sense of humor sucked? Did someone tell you that or did you have a difficult experience? It's possible you are holding an unconscious belief about yourself based on a past experience. Part of you think that this is a way to keep you safe.. that doesn't mean that it is true. Everyone has a unique perspective and it's equally as important!
Truly a great video. Thank you.
love and light to you Aaron
333 views keep growing on your journey. 💜 my spiritual awakening has begun
Synchronicity :) Much Love!
Outstanding my friend. Peace
I love that you used flowers to illustrate this. It added to the whole presentation. Thanks!
Nice pfp
First video I've watched of you and now you've earned yourself a fan. I love it. Kinda needed this. Thank you for making it. I will be following you closely. Love, all the way from Nepal.
Much Love Yuna! Can't wait to one day make it to Nepal...one day...lol
+Aaron Doughty Ah! You certainly should. You'll absolutely love it here. There will be whole bunch of people who'll be interested in listening to things you'll have to say. :) You'll have great time and conversations. May your 'one day' come true soon! ☺️❤️
Loved this video. It speaks truth.
actually i really want this video
i watched yr lots of videos
thank you again ☺
I love the flowers 💐 example. They’re all so beautiful together before they start getting pulled apart...... societally imposed barriers too- need... to... go!!!
Well said... I agree. As Dalai Lama said, we all are same human beings physically n mentally ....
I'm a very accepting person, I mostly try to judge people based on their behavior and actions rather than all these labels, some labels I even dropped naturally and most of the time when I go to meet people I'm very open minded to them. But some just don't wanna be open towards me no matter how open I am towards them
Young bro
It is awesome
Never seen such presentation
Live happy live joy life
So true! Who are we label others? Love the analogy! :)
Much Love Ramexa! :)
I never had the feeling of a family so I had to rely on my friends for years I had one or two kids that I was close too but then... corona happened I became more depressed than before and I starting thinking whether or not my bonds were genuine. Now I’m 14 years old and I just don’t know how to reconnect since I can never see my friends face to face to test my thought. Just want help and tips anything is appreciated
This is a fantastic example of Seperation Aaron....you are a natural teacher and we are blessed to have you teaching us. Thank you 🎵
Love the video!
thank u for this video ..., i forget almost forget this lesson thank u ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻
A fine, useful, inspiring video. Thanks. That open-mindedness and spotting of commonality is crucial to being a better person.
Your message is very profound my brother
I must be pretty enlightened. But thank for making easier for the people that aren't. Great energy. Thank you. And simple is what some people need at certain points in their lives. imho
Thanks for your video, It's very interesting!
love you to our core!
Very Very Nice Explanation. I really appreciate it.
Omg you’ve changed so much lmao 🤣 in the bet ways!!!!!! Wow 🤩
With the recent "transition" of Loise Hay and the disappointing hurricane debacle with Joel Osteen, this man is my new spiritual beacon. What a guy!
First video I've watched of yours...subscribed! :D keep it up!
Thank you Gabby! Mucho Love! :)
Ditto!
Love seeing your growth.. haha this stash look makes me laugh but it looks hot too. Just not used to seeing you like this. You look like an old time big political man vs the natural caveman look you got own😃
I need to hear this 🙏🏽
This is good. Actually good.
it’s hard for me because i’m always anxious. on edge. anytime i come face to face i’m never truly in the present it seems... also when it’s obvious people don’t ... nurture me. idk... i’m trying my best but i always seem to fuck up the vibe...
makes me want to leave earth really like why is it so hard
You will look for Point of connection rather than point of separation! why didnt i get this before ... Thank you Aaron!
For me, this is actually the reason I'm finding it difficult to connect with people. I've learned to drop judgement, though meditation, and am now finding it more difficult to say, sit in the kitchen and talk with my family..but maybe I just haven't fully dropped all the judgement out of what society talks about. I definitely get drained, but I think as this meditation continues, I'll get a better handle on it. I commented on your spiritual awakening video, but again I discovered meditation while being anxious/depressed, and I believe it's part of the reason, I put resistance on engaging with poeple.
That is wonderful that you are able to find yourself through the stillness of meditation. If you haven't done so already, I strongly suggest you check out Dr. Joe dispenza. He uses meditation to help teach how to create the life you desire. One book of his is called "breaking the habit of being yourself" All the best!
@@AbbyRuston thanks for your prompt reply. 😂 all jokes. Truly appreciate your reply! Yes, I have listen to Joe amongst many other spirtual/wise people. It was going deeper within myself, I've learned what I think is such a crucial element to living a good life is the art of acceptance. So presently when I talk about meditation, I have realized. We all have different ideas as to what meditation actually is. To me the greatest insight, into see that, the "You" that you feel you are, is an illusion. Once you can cut through this illusion, suggering has a much harder time remaining attached to the mind. All love! Take care! 💪❤🧠
Loving the beard.. caped crusader..😉
If you have Asperger's it's extra hard. I connect with dogs and animals. They must read my kindness through my eyes 😊
Animals absolutely can read and feel emotions more purely than most humans.
Great video!
Very Very Well Said 😍
Perfect!
Whoa, when I saw the thumbnail I thought your voice would sound completely different. Like Charlie Hunnam but deeper.
Good video!
As I was watching this, I realized that I've actually done this long ago.
Did anyone else absolutely die laugh at the “senior discount” pic. Lol
I will not see people's actions ,race, age, or any other label I use to have for people and I will see every one as completely equal
Thanks Brother
Really cool elaborated with example.... you should make video on political connection too
"Some flowers just are rosists or daisyists, until you put them in a vase to get over it"
- A Botanist proverb
I love you man...
Excellent
great video, one new subscriber :)
Thank you Ahmed, Much Love!
Handsome Aaron. Lucky Leeor 🙂
Ive only just actually realised this today, i have social anxiety around confident, outgoing and social people and i put them into a box of naturally perfect like that, like not understanding how they can be so charismatic and socially skilled, like the elite, & those people i feel are going to think im a weirdo
But people are just humans aren't they ig, everyones a little weird, how would you even define the norm? And even so eccentricities spices stuff up and stuff, like how the beauty stwndard is 'perfect' but the 'impurities' in people give so much soul, life, movement, like gestural
Anyways when i get comfortable with those types of people is when i accociate (forgor how to speel it) something even a little eccentric/imperfect/caring to them (e.g me in a youth club with them and the leader is very caring and has their unique characteristics), then it breaks down that image of superiority
Like they accept uniqueness & stuff, they're nicer
*impurities show you're alive, relatable, living and breathing, someone you can get close to, theres a history, and everyone has thwir own life/impurities to get to know
(sorry i cant edit comments) like i listened to someone babble on aboit how they love potatoes and stuff the other day and their joy inflicted on me, they were so alive, movement and facial expression and me remembering that everyone loves to talk about themselves like just that symphony
Yeah i ramble off topic sometimes (more like all the time)
This turned into me talkjng to myself about how the pressure to be perfectlt 'beautiful' is so nonsensical 💀
Like wtf some girl in a tiktok was beautiful, then i opened up the commenrs and everhone was calling her cheese pizza for having acne like bruh i didnt even notice that, and everything has some visual appeal to it (yeah i like art)
Also this whole notion of 'ugly' vs 'attractive'
I remember thinking to myself if we didnt have those whats pretty or not labels the world would be a better place
Everhthing harmonises together in a face
I remember seeing someone considered unnatractive, but his signature smile could alleviate the whole world
Aaron, we miss the stache 😂☺️
Very good video. It needed to be said. 2 years later, in the current age of outrage you get called a bigot for this. 😂
thank you,
Your moustache is awesome bro
I feel like the people I'm with tend to put labels on everything, and while i don't really mind or care for labels. I sense and am told that plenty of other people tend to put them anyway. It is slightly odd tbh, I think that's why the people around me tend to like me.
That could explain censsory overload
I AM A GREAT MANIFESTOR THANK YOU UNIVERSE
So, if I don't like to drink because I think that is bad for my health, and I reject people because of they're giving me alcohol is something wrong?
curious to the source of your info...i hav read similar things in a book...
He says tagging on a meaning. But it's really a stigma. He's not telling us how to connect with people, but what we need to remove in order to connect with people.