My Teenage Son Is Becoming a Father! How Do I Support Him?
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My sister had a baby as a teenager. I was only one year older so a teenager myself. Over the years, my mom and I both made many sacrifices to make sure my niece was loved and cared for as my sister struggled with addiction and financial problems. So many friends and family members criticized us for helping as much as we did. We lost my sister very young from drugs but my niece is now a happy 40 year old mother of 3 amazing kids. Taking care of my niece was the right thing to do, and so worth the sacrifices we made to get her through her childhood. Hopefully the caller's kids will come through as good parents, but she can definitely make a difference in the life of her baby grand! Looking back now, I got so much more from my niece than I ever gave to her. She is such a special lady.
❤️❤️💕💕
I love it!! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
*Thank you for sharing!❤*
Good for you and your mother to give your niece a healthy childhood and shame on anyone who criticized you for doing the right thing!
A good outcome is always possible. My sister had a baby at 16 years old and as significant as it was to hear that she was pregnant, our family needed her baby more than he needed us. Once he was born, most significance (that we could see as children) was out of the window because both sides of the family fell in love with him and pitched in to help raise him. He always had more than enough due to family support. My sister went on to get her college degree in Criminal Justice and she's been in law enforcement for over 25 years. My 33 year-old nephew has been married for 8 years and has 3 daughters. He was the best child and the epitome of harmony for us. Because we were so young, he was like a human toy, which helped my sister out because we were babysitting when we didn't realize it. I realize now how noble my parents were to accept my sister's situation and to steadily encourage her to get her college education. Teenage pregnancies don't always have a negative outcome, especially when the family is solid.
What a beautiful outcome! I had a classmate this happened to. I am so proud of how her parents handled it(I know that had to be rough and her Dad was furious, rightfully so). I didn't understand her shame at the time, we were 16 when she had her baby. We were excited for her(dumb of us) but none of us were shaming her(to my knowledge). The story is long, but both parents are together and have been married for over ten years and there are two younger siblings. Just a beautiful love story!
Well said !
Possible ? Yes likely ? Not likely. teen pregnancy is a guaranteed route to poverty. As a parent your child is your responsibility if your kid is out there having kids your a lousy parent
@@auroramothergoddess rude
@@sdtcal forgive Kathy, she had lousy parents.
Me going into this video: haha sucks for them
Me leaving this video in tears: the most joyous beautiful thing is happening
LoL 🤣 it still sucks for them, especially her...
😂
Haha!! Oh gosh can we be friends?? Lol
I pray for them. This was the best advice this woman could have received
True. Many people forget how much a blessing it is to have a baby or grandchild. How it came to be is not ideal but a blessing nonetheless.
This happened in our family, over 35 years ago. Family supported the couple, the couple got married, and had another baby 4 years later and are happily married to this day, with 4 grandchildren! It can work with mature, adult responsibility and support.
Sure, definitely love the child, but your son is now a man. Better teach him about contraception before you have a second child in a year.
I agree that he is now a man and should get a job, move out, and be treated as such!
@@whitneyw.7919 No, he is still a child. Not only is he a minor, he is still a child. We have a baby raising a baby. That falls on his mother to help. She's not done raising him.
She still needs to get her son to graduation. She's not done yet.
I really loved the spirit of Dr. Delony’s counseling. We can’t control the fact that the baby is due in 1 month. We’re already here. I just love that the conversation shifted to excitement and embracing this baby so they don’t have to suffer under the weight of what “could have been.”
"Circle back to love" That is a great mantra. I'm going to remember it and use it for my life.
A support system for these kids is what’s going to keep them on track in life. I had a friend in hs who had 2 kids at 17 and 18, and nearly 20 years later, she is still with the same guy with 2 functional kids and a successful life because her family was there to guide them through.
This is really good advice and a good starting point. He didnt touch on finances and the running of a household with 2 teens and a baby. Who is going to support this baby and the 2 teens? Yes , its great to have a new baby but boundaries need to be drawn early on. She is going to be welcoming not only a grandkid but another teen who grew up in a dysfunctional home. Teen couples with a baby fight. A lot. Not so simple. I would suggest counseling for both the teen parents, maybe joining a teen support group. This lady is not equipped to take on all this responsibility on her own as the other grandparents watch from a distance and just visit and spoil the baby.
Agreed
Nobody wants the truth they want to be lied to and coddled lies are comforting
Bingo! 🎯🎯
You hit the nail on the head.
Dr. Deloney didn't touch on the finance at all. Who's going to pay for the two teen parents and their baby?
Who's footing the bills for all 3 people???
This is the hard truth that Deloney didn't talk about.
This almost brought me to tears. The love you know for your child is unmatched and will echo through eternity
Me too 😭😭😭♥️
My dad had me at 27 years old, he and my mom we’re together for 9 years. My paternal grandparents shamed my dad and even scheduled an abortion for me. Both families were wealthy so that wasn’t the issue. The issue was that they were not legally married. My grandparents also didn’t help my parents get married. My dad had just graduated as an engineer so he would be able to support me, unfortunately he passed away when I was a year old in a car crash. My dad dies feeling shamed for having me and most of his friends and relatives only heard about me in his FUNERAL... that’s the lesson here... my grandparents asked my mom for forgiveness on the funeral... and my dad was the only child...
that's so tragic
Dr John is so amazing. We need more people like him.
Thank you for this Dr. John. I had an unexpected pregnancy a few years ago. It was a difficult situation at every single angle from which you looked at it. I would have been so grateful to have ANYBODY tell me they were happy about my son. Now, he's a year old and I'm so grateful to have him. He brings me life with every happy smile & loving hug. Thank you for being so encouraging & supportive for this mother in a difficult situation.
I love that you could literally hear the relief in her voice toward the end of the call. She first called sounding very concerned and anxious, and toward the end of the call was very relieved to hear this from Dr. John
Dr D, that was beautiful.
I am in my 40’s and my mother had me as a young high school student. She still carries immense shame to this day and it affected and projected towards me for most of life.. until I went to counselling ( 10 years and counting) .
Her shame was passed on to my siblings and it’s affected 3 generations.. so you’re right in that it can change a family tree both good and bad.. My hope for this family is that the WHOLE family accept and love this baby. Great episode!
I was born when my mother was 16 and my father was 17. As a mid 30 year old man, my mother is barely older than me, and we get along very well and can relate to each other. Everything ended up fine.
That’s great you had a good outcome. That’s because your mom was mature. It was also a generation ago. The outcome will be determined by the level of their maturity and the amount of support they receive from their families. There are a lot of risk factors with theses families, ie, alcoholism. Divorce, and ambivalence that puts the baby at higher risk, but it doesn’t mean they can’t be successful in raising their baby. This grandmother needs to step up and get some therapy about this adjustment that’s hitting her life, otherwise, All of their unprocessed wounds will get transferred to the baby.
@@5thdimension625 true. This generation kids somehow grow up slower. Less responsibilities.
4:25 Dr. John is such a good guy. Good advice. I got my gf pregnant when she was 18, I was 19. Both of our parents were a wreck at first but they welcomed it after a very short time. They accepted it and they helped us and taught us. Meanwhile, literally every other adult that we knew was telling them to kick us out and make us pay for our mistakes and to let us learn on our own. Please don't do this to your child if they have a baby at a young age. Yeah, the pregnancy probably wasn't intended. But remember, however scared or worried you are for your child, they are just as scared, if not more, for what's about to happen to them and how they are going to support this new little person.
What a sweet story!
That’s so sweet! My parents had a baby at the same ages as the kids in this situation, I got pregnant at 18 had my daughter when I was 19...I was married though :)
Kicking them out doesn't help them and I wish people realised! My husband is his mums first child and she was 17 at the time. When she told her parents she was pregnant, she was given a suitcase and told to leave. 25 years on the relationship between them is still very strained. My husband doesn't speak to his grandparents because they are so toxic
Kelly, my heart goes out to you because I was in your shoes 14 yrs ago. It’s hard because your son truly is still a kid himself and now will be a parent. Be open and honest with these kids and let them know you are trying to just figure this out with them. I 100% agree with John.
Dr. John is an absolute blessing. What an incredible man!
Dr. John, you are awesome! Circle back to love!💯
JOHN - "It's O.K. to circle back to love every single time!!" JOHN ROCKS!
His story of the pregnant girl 🥲 I’m so glad dr John was there at the time to help open her eyes to what a beautiful gift she was blessed with! It may not have been planned, maybe the guy didn’t support her and stick around but she got the better end of the deal. She got the beautiful baby and whoever the dad is maybe he chose not to or get to be a part of that crazy, wild, romantic ride called parenthood. I’m glad her mom stepped up and realized she’s going to be a grandma, you need your mom in situations like that, it’s one of the toughest things you’ll go through but it is so worth it. ❤️ God bless you Dr John!
Great, great advice. I have always wondered what the appropriate way is to respond in these situations.
This was a nice call. Good advice. I hope I'm never in the position of the caller but atleast if I ever am, I can keep this advice in mind
"Your kids are going to do stupid, hurtful, mind-numbing things. It's ok to circle back to love every single time."
That is a lesson that I need to make sure remains in the front of my mind.
36 years ago I was that girl. Love them and teach them and show them the way. That child should grow up knowing that they were fearfully and wonderfully made by a loving Creator and not a mistake made by anyone
Yes Regina, I approve this message! :)
Precisely what do you mean by "you were that girl", 36 years ago?
Such incredibly good advice! It sounds like it really touched her deeply.
Love your take on this ♥️ It's okay to be happy!
I was adopted and it was a wonderful gift. Not everyone should be feeling like they need to raise children they didn't intend to create. Search up Open Adoption and look into how beautiful, affordable, and straightforward the process is. I never have felt any shame about being adopted, and it allowed me to have a normal life with a well-established family. God bless these folks.
the parents aren't interested in adoption
@@cloudedcolour5329 The point I am making is that perhaps it should be considered.
@@lindsay833 you realise that while yes it CAN be wonderful, it can also be soul destroying and 'open' adoptions rarely actually work out
@@cloudedcolour5329 Of course I am aware. But many people don't know that it can be wonderful, not be soul destroying, and work out fine. There are a lot of perspectives to this issue, and everyone's voice matters in this discussion.
Moved me to tears Dr. The baby will come at some point, just work a little harder this time
Babies are ALWAYS a blessing, I'm so sad our society struggles to see it that way
What an amazing conversation. ❤️
When we found out our daughter was pregnant last year, our conversation with her and her boyfriend (who we already considered part of the family) was that this doesn’t change your goals and dreams, it just changes the path you take to get there. They are living with us and it is beyond a joy to be able to make faces to induce laughter from my grandson, cuddle, watch him when work schedules overlap… It may have not been in the “plans” but it sure as hell is a wonderful thing!
Great advice that you need a healthy dose of both guidance and reality and also love and support and encouragement.
Hopefully these two young kids are humble enough to realize that they don't know anything about the world and that they desperately need to rely on the wisdom of the grandparents in order for this not to be a disaster.
This doesn't have to have a bad outcome although it's definitely a hard situation. I hope it goes well.
Congrats! Good luck!
Good luck to the young parents-to-be and their families.
@@auroramothergoddess Its going to be your tax dollars since I've been on unemployment for nearly a year. Let's not judge anyone ok?
Fantastic advice. Make sacrifices and love on that baby!
Beautiful message.
I had my son at 16.. we lived with my ex husband’s parents till my son was 3.. and we went on to buy our first home when I was only 19. They can do it!
I will say.. only one person told me Congratulations for my son.. and I’ll NEVER FORGET THAT PERSON. Be happy for that baby.
I love this. ♥️
I have had some people question me how I can congratulate and get excited for other women having children out of wedlock.
My response? Babies are awesome and there's nothing that can be done at this point. Love them, love that baby, and make the best of it. Don't make a child, like you said, feel shame early on for just existing. Help those Mamas. No body is perfect, and we all need love and encouragement. As Christians, if we truly want to be pro-life, then actually act like these babies deserve to be here; because they do. ♥️ And you start by loving those Mamas.
As a Christian this is something I struggled with. I agree with you, at this point, all we can do is show grace and love. I like to remind myself that I have faulted in so many ways and God has been gracious to me. So whenever a friend is in this situation, the first thing I say is congratulations and get excited. Then we'll deal with everything else later.
God gives life. Any biology lesson will teach how crazy it is that everything match up just right for a baby to conceived and grow to full term. I honestly don't know how biology teachers can be atheists (mine in college was, I wish now I could have had the courage to sit down with him and ask her to talk about it). But yes life is miraculous no matter how it happens. And it's messy like he says, but somehow God says children are a blessing. Not just the ones born into affluent dual parent homes. All children.
Every baby deserves SO much love!
You’re a rockstar Dr. John
This is Dr. John in top form
This baby will be lucky to have so many people that will love her.
If they are good kids just support them and be there for them if they need it. Make sure they understand they need to figure out how to make money so your not supporting them 100% financially.
Great advice.
Wow doing well in school ! I feel for you hope it all works out
I had a teacher tell me a baby is always a gift never a mistake. I can’t tell you how much that meant for me and I state I was in and how alone I felt and how ostracized I was from my family
My husband and I were teenage parents and both graduated. We now have 5 children. From personal experience if you bring negative they will run from you.
Dr. John, I agree with your advice. I wish I was supported way more when I had my baby. I didn't even go to college and finish. I finished high school but I went to trade school. Oh well. I can only do so much with the cards I'm dealt with. Oh well maybe one day. 🤷
Having the dream fall apart is heartbreaking. Not having your kids listen to you is heartbreaking. Having your kids do the EXACT OPPOSITE of what you taught them is heartbreaking. But then this little person is there, and you love that little person beyond belief (there's a reason grandparents lose their minds) and your priorities change from heartbreak to nurturing your grandchild.
You need to remember they are the parents and you a grandmother, you will fall in love with this child! Guide them with love . This happened to me and I love my granddaughter more than life and my son is married to this wonder lady. He didn’t finish college but he has a wonderful job and a wonder father. This baby isn’t a IT it is a human and love him or her with your heart.
Just be there.... listen to them. I lost my dad at 12 my kids are almost 3 and 1 idk how many times I wish my dad was here just to talk to even if he didn’t have any wisdom to drop just know someone else that’s been through is there would make the biggest difference in the world.
"Circle Back to Love"
How could anyone dislike this?
Birth control talk !!! What are they going to do , so that they don't end up with another kid before they graduate ?
This is scary. There are worse things but, most likely they will struggle and not stay together in the long run.They will likely change as people down the road.
Yep
jeez, find some love and positivity in your heart Amy. Being a realist doesnt make ypu a hero. You are the exact person Dr was mentioning about shaming. hpw dare you
I know teen parents who have stayed married for decades. It is possible, just takes more work.
I think you can either grow from this or let it stunt your growth and use it as an excuse in life. I didn't stay with my first two daughters Dad (we had our first while he was still in highschool , and I had just graduated.) We ended up getting married at 20 and 21 thinking it was the right thing to do. Needless to say issues happened between us because we both were doing it for the idea of what we had thought family looked like . During the time we were together we were giving the blessing by his parents to live with them for the first year or so. Meanwhile I paid to have my own apartment because I want a back up plan. We were able to save up money to get into our own house so became homeowners at around the same time we got married. Even though we changed and our marriage was very short and we decided on divorce, and I kept the house because I could afford too, and he didnt want it. I think we all have decisions to make. I decided at 20 to save all my money instead of going out to party which I could have done wasted money on sitters and drinking. Instead I saw it as an opportunity to do better for my kids. I am almost 27 now with 4 kids, and I am in a relationship that we are both happy in. My ex husband and I co parent our girls together , and when our kids ask why we aren't together we say we are better be friends. I think it's important to remember being young is gonna be hard , but just because you are a young parent doesn't mean you can't succeed. It just needs to be made clear to them that their decisions impact not just them now, but this baby as well.
@@MotivationalCarpeDiem for real, imagine thinking about any situation in a negative way as opposed to finding the solution. Sheesh
Best episode ever ♥️
This is the best video ever!
This guy is awesome at his job
“Should I be excited?” Yes.
Give 'em a Hoorah!
I guess I feel like the son needs to get a job and finish school at night. Probably his girlfriend too. Just my opinion.
I don't think you can go to high school at night. Usually night school is for continuing or adult education if you're missing or want to take one class, or finishing your GED. But if you are still two semesters away from getting a high school diploma, I don't know if you can take night classes for that and just drop out of school. My guess is that you would have to get an approval from the county school board, considering that he is still a minor, and even though he may have a child, he is still legally a minor, and cannot legally make choices for himself, unless he is emancipated. But even if he's emancipated, because she's still a minor, I would think that he would still need authorization from the school board to allow him to drop out of school as a minor.
Absolutely not Tim, school is the priority, without that they are guaranteed to live in poverty for the next 20 years, and draining our tax dollars. They have other people that can help care for the baby, while they are in school.
Also, check out your local YoungLives chapter... They might be able to help be another support for the new Mama (and possibly even new Dad)
Excellent advice!!
first things first: Paternity test. I know its not nice to say, but its reality. not judging her or implying malice on her part, just people are the way they are and sometimes make mistakes. she truly may not know.
Wow what a negative thing to say when there was no indication that this might even be an issue. Not everyone sleeps around, even stupid young teens in relationships can be faithful to each other.
@@luke7842 honestly though I know a lot of women that got pregnant by someone undesirable or by someone out of a relationship and then lied to stay with the guy that was more of a stable person/situation. If the guy is going to support the Girl and the baby they need to make sureits his especially if this woman is uprooting her own life for them to move in. Not to mention getting rid of her animals which sucks.
Yet Dave fired a woman for getting pregnant and not being married.
Really where did you hear that
@@auroramothergoddess it’s literally all over the news! She is suing! Google it.
@@Mjl449 oh wow I didn’t know thanks for sharing
Wow you went there 😳
@@joyaustin6581 all you have to do is google it
This was really good. I feel like Dave would be shaming them for moving in together
My mom told me if I got pregnant as a teenager I'd get kicked out and given no support. Makes keeping your legs closed a lot easier.
My family situation scared me enough that I was wise enough to not have children out of wedlock, especially as a teenager. Teens know about contraception, whether or not they use it or abstinence depends on a lot of factors
It’s called parenting. Too many lousy parents like this woman on the call
Nooo this is not good either
I just wanted to comment and give the mom some words of encouragement. I know this is not ideal...no. I also got pregnant young (19) just graduated highschool. My daughter is now 7 . I have 4 kids. 7,4,2, and 1. I want you to know my life wasn't over. I didn't go to college I went into a trade. I got my first house at 20 . Now I'm almost 27 buying another home. I did get divorced from my first husband. But we had two kids and we co parent in a healthy way. I grew up fast, but she was sooo worth it!
Just remind them this is a blessing even though it wasnt planned, but for it to be a blessing they will have to step up, and try!
You have 3 baby daddies?
@@jasonjones8450 No I don't. I have one ex husband, and my husband. 2 from my previous marriage.
That isn't the point though. The point is no matter what happens in your life you can become successful. Having a baby at a young age isn't ideal, but it's not the end of your life either.
Yup! And once you get into that trade and get some money going, if you want to switch careers you have a better opportunity to. Never give up!
@@Spladoinkal Exactly! Now we can afford for me to stay at home . I barely starting working part time on weekends to get out of the house. But it's baby steps . Every step can be either a step to success or a step backwards. Even at that young of an age.
Please, as a single mom with a surprise baby, please! Please! Show all the love and support and establishment of healthy boundaries that you can…
There's another option no one has mentioned. How about adoption? Give this child the best opportunity that he can have instead of piecing together a family. There are many families that would love to have this child.
7:22 very true for any parent!
Poor woman 🙏🏻 So glad they are keeping the baby though. 🙏🏻
Let’s be real. The baby’s mom and the grandmas will do all the work. The guy won’t have much to do. It always works that way.
That's because the families always run in to rescue when they really should put the brunt on the 2 new parents.
Or the mom could bail and the father steps up. Stop hating on men.
Do not let them live together in a parent’s house!!!!! They can live together when they can pay for their own house
Oh heck noooo he didn't just say ... Just circle back!! LMBO 😀🤣 ROTFLOL noooo don't turn into Jen... LOL 😂
12:40 “This is just smooth sailing, way to go every body” - talk show host vibes 😂👌
I would trade places with this soon to be grandmother. My daughter passed at 14 due to a traffic accident. She was my only child. My ship has sailed.
I’m so deeply sorry for your pain.
@@amandawithlov3908 thank you. So hard when all your friends are becoming grandmas.
I hope the grandmother sees your comment and it readjusts her thinking about putting her pets over her grand baby’s well-being. She needs a wake up call to her priorities.
Public universities have 2 day care on campus. Texas College in Tyler Tx has a full ride single parent program.
except they are together so not single parents
@@cloudedcolour5329 They actually are single parents, because they are not married.
Thank you to the parents for not murdering that precious baby♡ Your life is not over .. it will be different than y'all imagined but it will still be amazing if you chose it♡♡
I was pregnant at 15. I love that this topic is being discussed. I get not celebrating at first and it feels wrong and taboo in a sense. But, after you have accepted it my advice is embrace these kids and tell them while the circumstances are not good this baby will be so loved and a blessing. Everyone lectured me all the time, tried forcing a abortion, and after birth I was told all the time "should have thought about that before you got knocked up." That baby became my purpose and because of him I became a success, and years later married and had baby number 2. With that baby so many celebrated, offered help, and was happy. Why would everyone offer to help me at 30 but offer me nothing at 15 16? That's when I needed the help, needed to be told it's going to be ok. When I got all the positive attention for my second child it broke my heart for the 15yr old me that had to work twice as hard to prove myself as a mother
Oh my so sorry that's not right
@@libertyna933 I forgot I had posted this and I'm shocked I said so much lol. I must have been in a sharing mood. Thank you for taking the time to read it and responding kindly
This one make me cry
Be happy that they're keeping the child for God's sake. Support them as best you can.
3/23/21....HARD TO GET RID OF PETS b/c THEY will suffer + prob NOT get such wonderful new homes...Some might run away or be killed @ the pound with lack of funds + most ppl want baby pets.
ALSO VERY DIFFICULT TO DE-PET/GET RID OF ALLERGY CAUSING PET DANDER/PET FUR/PET SCENT without completely re-habbing the place.
#1 WOULD BE PATERNITY TEST!
THEN make plans + other family MUST HELP SUPPORT THESE YOUNG PARENTS + BABY.
Shut up eileene
The parents do not need to support these kids living together. One giant act of irresponsibility is not a license to play grown up on someone else's dime and a live in boyfriend is never what a 16 year old girl needs.
Terrible advice. Best advice is to give the baby up for adoption so the kids can graduate high school and go to college. Unless the grand parents want to take on the responsibility of being "parents" again. These kids will be poor and end up hating each other in less than 3 years.
I had a child young . I didn't give her up for adoption. I grew up and did what I needed to do. Debt free. Bought my house at 20. Got remarried. I live in one of the most expensive cities in America. I know have 4 kids. All our healthy and thriving. My daughter I had at a young age is now 7, and is advance in almost every area.
Your life isn't over because you have a baby or because you dont end up with the father of your child.
@@BlessedBlended Lady. You clearly are an outlier. Statistically speaking they will be poor and miserable having a kid at this young age. Best thing to do is give the kid up to a family that are ready for such a big responsibility.
@@jasonjones8450 You are only a statistic if you let yourself be one!
@@jasonjones8450 I have never felt like missed out on life or that I am miserable because I decided to keep my baby. I had every right to be a statistic, and say my past made me crazy. I decided to take charge of my own life and decided I wasn't gonna be stastic. I was adopted, and abused by my adopted father. Age doesn't always prove that you are responsible!
@@BlessedBlended Wrong. You are selling false hope.
Back in today it was prudent to get children as quickly as possible because of it was just normal. Now it’s different but better to grow up fast than be a child forever i guess 🤷♂️
I wish I had finished high school when I got pregnant at 16…. On the plus side I have a wonderful 25 year old daughter
This episode is by far my favorite. Doc took a positive spin on a potentially negative situation. An he said what most people will "not" admit. Pets are "not" human beings. Pets do not come before the people you love. Great show! 👏
I'm 38 my step son just turned 18 and has 2 babies already
This is interesting
That grandma is going to be the primary parent to this baby and any other interpretation is fantasy
3:30 TOP NOTCH ADVICE
Would be interesting to know the legal responsibilities of these kids parents.
The son needs to go get his GED, get a full time job. Then when he can, start taking classes for a better job. Give them no time to make another baby soon...
He’s About To Be 18
NO. You should not be acting excited about the baby. You should not have this girl and baby move into your home. They need to put this baby up for adoption. And if that is not going to happen, your son needs to get a full time job with a mentor, and to get his GED. This is not a time for celebration. There Is going to be a world of heartache ahead, and pretending that is not so is not going to make these two teens/ kids into more responsible adults. It sounds like all the adult parents are dysfunctional, so rotating them through those houses with the baby is not advisable. They need counseling, parenting classes, and an adult who is actually responsible, such as a mentor, to guide them into how to become self sufficient as quickly as possible.
Another option may be to see if there is an accelerated path to a high school completion qualification for both of them. The 'nice' thing about covid19 is school districts may have more options.
EDIT AFTER GOOGLE SEARCH:
Per Missouri law both these young sprouts are eligible to take the HiSET HSC exam. They need to verify that they have any high school credits needed for their age and are not enrolled in high school, and meet any other requirements. Do serious research to make sure they know everything they need to pass. After this papa need to get himself into a tradie apprenticeship and go from there.
Anyone reading this in a similar situation should do a Google search for HSC testing requirements for your state or country.
True. And lots of online options so that grandma isn’t full time babysitter while the kids are at school.
They can just go get their GEDs too.
@@belindagarza3958 GED = high school completion.
I can't believe Dr. John didn't call her out for calling her grandchild it.
When I was pregnant I tried to say “they” to talk about my baby before I knew the gender because “it” sounded weird, but every time someone would get excited and think I had twins 🤦♀️
Well it’s not surprising since she’s also putting her pets ahead of the baby’s needs and well-being as well.
Big mistake letting them live together.
Lol. You don’t have to use the bottle scrubber from satan. Platex makes some great bottles bags. I used them with my kids. Very rarely did I need to scrub a bottle. Mostly just nipples and rings.