Sadhguru on Arranged Marriages

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  • Are arranged marriages outdated and regressive or is there something about them that is relevant in today’s times? Sadhguru answers.
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  • @namasteindian3538
    @namasteindian3538 Před 3 lety +897

    After seeing 2 completely compromised marriages, one that of my parents' and the other of my brothers',I chose to marry a person i liked and still going strong for 21 yrs.(by God's grace)!

    • @GladiatorKingz
      @GladiatorKingz Před 3 lety +5

      Great

    • @vishnu108hari
      @vishnu108hari Před 3 lety +57

      arranged marriage is pure rubbish .

    • @filmymela4638
      @filmymela4638 Před 3 lety +101

      My parents have had Arranged Marriage and it's going strong . So, your experience is not a universal experience. 🙏

    • @himanshugupta7933
      @himanshugupta7933 Před 3 lety +31

      @@filmymela4638 ask your mother if she is happy. There is a very high percentage of chance that she isn't. If she truly is happy, then she is exception.

    • @vivekghodvinde
      @vivekghodvinde Před 3 lety +71

      @@himanshugupta7933 nobody is fully happy in any relationship. We all have flaws and we all try to make it work.
      Nothing is perfect. We must all embrace imperfections. Then and only I guess couples can have a long lasting marriage

  • @vishwasagarwal
    @vishwasagarwal Před 3 lety +2244

    There is a reason why I prefer listening to Sadhguru than watching Netflix ❤️

  • @anusharma-fk1tf
    @anusharma-fk1tf Před 3 lety +983

    Those who get good partners for marriage at right time are luckiest person on this planet do you all agree with me.

    • @onlyhuman5669
      @onlyhuman5669 Před 3 lety +8

      No.

    • @jaychoudhury1401
      @jaychoudhury1401 Před 3 lety +25

      The crux of the this session bis not to search for The good person but be the Good person, so that whoever is your partner, you would conduct the relationship the best way you can.

    • @dhareshm6189
      @dhareshm6189 Před 3 lety +17

      More than that one should be good partners instead of expecting others to be good.

    • @libraryofmoments
      @libraryofmoments Před 3 lety +5

      Totally agree with you... bdw m also anu😀😊

    • @suzannebernert
      @suzannebernert Před 3 lety +1

      ❤️

  • @Coolaayanshgames
    @Coolaayanshgames Před 3 lety +474

    It's never about arranged or love marriage, it's about finding the right person and elders respecting the choice of kids.

    • @august-bl1jh
      @august-bl1jh Před 2 lety +14

      and kids respecting the choice of parents too

    • @agnivmajumdar215
      @agnivmajumdar215 Před 2 lety +10

      So basically love marriage 😂

    • @stanman1985
      @stanman1985 Před 2 lety +5

      @@august-bl1jh what? Read what you just said.

    • @august-bl1jh
      @august-bl1jh Před 2 lety +1

      @@stanman1985 if its an arranged marriage, kids should respect the choice of parents is what i mean

    • @stranger_0007
      @stranger_0007 Před 2 lety +17

      @@august-bl1jh I'm gonna marry not my parents. I choose.

  • @jatinlalwani8355
    @jatinlalwani8355 Před 3 lety +715

    Reporting sexual offence is also very less in India. Does that mean it's not happening? Divorce rate is less doesnt imply marriages are working. People are concerned about their image in the society here in India. This is the reason why they don't file for divorce and refrain from reporting sexual offence.

    • @visnu3
      @visnu3 Před 3 lety +56

      even if it is underreported I don't think it can blow up to 90% like in some European countries

    • @sonja_rademacher
      @sonja_rademacher Před 3 lety +35

      Jatin Lalwani That is a big problem. In China, too. Russia, too. In Russia, the police mostly doesn't help if a woman is beaten by her husband. And often women are beaten to death. Mankind has got to learn a lot...

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety +30

      Exactly.. People love living in delusion......The arrogance is strong

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety +13

      @@sonja_rademacher here police will help the woman no doubt but women are ingrained to accept suffering...

    • @sonja_rademacher
      @sonja_rademacher Před 3 lety +13

      @Super nova So then please explain why couples stay together even when they don't want children and don't have children?
      It makes me sad, that your mother and your father have not given you true, deep love.
      If parents don't give love to their children, the children are not able to feel love later in life.
      Believe me: Love exists. Everywhere.

  • @Shivavishnubrahma
    @Shivavishnubrahma Před 3 lety +106

    Netflix lol
    India is a different country
    You cannot look at india through west perspective or even a middle east perspective
    India is india

  • @arya5352
    @arya5352 Před 3 lety +1608

    Success of marriage can't be measured by divorce rates. There are a lot of people who suffer in hiding.

    • @sreelekshmi7636
      @sreelekshmi7636 Před 3 lety +134

      @Yogic Lady nop... What she is telling is truth...
      Even my mom and dad is not divorced but the are like completly two souls now..
      Just for sake of us children they are acting the role....like just to show society..
      So read correctly and comment

    • @samarpatel4173
      @samarpatel4173 Před 3 lety +12

      @@sreelekshmi7636 ohh ! That's the tough way deal..
      But what do you think- divorce is better option.

    • @VivekSingh-ts1ec
      @VivekSingh-ts1ec Před 2 lety +21

      @@sreelekshmi7636 so are you expecting there should be no disputes between people? Well good luck with that. Also, what's with that soulmate thing?

    • @aishwaryasitaram2227
      @aishwaryasitaram2227 Před 2 lety +27

      Then love marriages are also no better... people are just people

    • @aishwaryasitaram2227
      @aishwaryasitaram2227 Před 2 lety +20

      @@sreelekshmi7636 acknowledge and appreciate what your parents are doing for u ...it's about priorities... easier said than done

  • @GS-um6ww
    @GS-um6ww Před 3 lety +303

    Key word willing to take *RESPONSIBILITY* ...there is chance to miss the word

  • @prithvijmody2529
    @prithvijmody2529 Před 3 lety +237

    summary :
    1. divorce rates in India are Considereably lower than other nations.
    2. every marriage is arranged, either my someone or by emotions or you.
    3. you need to be happy within yourself and only then enter a relationship, not compulsiveness.
    4. you need to marry the girl and nothing else, not her background or things that don't concern.
    5. usually parents make marriage with best interests in mind and a longer time frame

    • @lynn-qv2wg
      @lynn-qv2wg Před 2 lety +35

      I think the divorce marriage rates in India has more to say about culture, traditions, and taboo in India rather than how well-arranged marriage works vs how well love marriage works.

    • @lakshyakumarjha7240
      @lakshyakumarjha7240 Před 2 lety +19

      No 5 is debatable!

    • @creamyhora4005
      @creamyhora4005 Před 2 lety +1

      @@lakshyakumarjha7240 Absolutely

    • @praveerkumarmistry4665
      @praveerkumarmistry4665 Před rokem +5

      But the thing is, in india divorce is unacceptable by the couples there is a constant fear of " what sociaty will think " that's one of the reasons of such a small rate of divorce cases in india

    • @JustMe54328
      @JustMe54328 Před 9 měsíci +2

      Ok, domestic violence rate?

  • @deepakbellur9676
    @deepakbellur9676 Před 3 lety +422

    An old joke : 'You fall in love with a pair of eyes and end up marrying the whole person!"

  • @vinay3381
    @vinay3381 Před 3 lety +287

    In India divorce rate is 1.5 percent because... Very less chance for women to get married for second time and many indian women are not independent... Otherwise India will also have good number of divorce rate... Nothing else

    • @bloggerblogg5878
      @bloggerblogg5878 Před 3 lety +47

      Exactly! finally, someone pointed out the reason right in this question. Thank you!!!!

    • @meeralakshmis5863
      @meeralakshmis5863 Před 3 lety +10

      True that.

    • @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716
      @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716 Před 3 lety +18

      @Allie X nobody actually supports divorce. It's good if two are happy and satisfied in a relationship but if they're not, why stay in an unhappy marriage?

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety +43

      @Allie X are you from India? Do you know how many people are forced to marry? My own friend is forced against her will and she's miserable.getting beaten by her husband but her parents don't care because they spent too much on the wedding ...this is the reality just in case you're living under a rock.stop watching American shows and see what's happening here

    • @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716
      @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716 Před 3 lety +4

      @Super nova I have experienced love. So how can I accept it doesn't exist when i have felt it. It doesn't necessarily have to be a boy/girl. Can be the ones for your friends, family and yourself too 😌😌

  • @elpanchitoruso
    @elpanchitoruso Před 3 lety +58

    “Change happens in an instant. It happens the moment you decide to change.”

  • @surajverma-em5zp
    @surajverma-em5zp Před 3 lety +71

    He khowns how to play with words
    But this is the powerful line "every marriage is arrange only que is by whom " thats right

  • @phenom2012
    @phenom2012 Před 2 lety +219

    I would prefer to be alone than be in a loveless, lifeless, ARRANGED marriage.

  • @prernakulkarni6759
    @prernakulkarni6759 Před 3 lety +16

    I don't understand how the success of a marriage is decided by the divorce rate of a country. In India a vast majority of people stay in bad marriages rather than getting a divorce and compromise on their health, happiness and life for the sake of preserving a marriage.

    • @tarmin1711
      @tarmin1711 Před rokem +3

      There's nothing to understand, your bias is showing.

  • @majorbhaskaranrb3624
    @majorbhaskaranrb3624 Před 3 lety +281

    That women sounded like siri

  • @vineeshavikram6827
    @vineeshavikram6827 Před 2 lety +157

    Divorce rate low because people choose to suffer in a marriage rather than being judged by society. Arranged marriage is like neglecting ones right to choose his or her own mate. Its forced on them with out even realizing its forced. We have to give more importance to individuality

    • @enigma533
      @enigma533 Před 2 lety +10

      Who is forcing, they give atleast 6 months to one year time.... if ur love is pure, one day is more than enough... people who have broad minds will never face problem with arrange marriages, there are many suicides in love marriage as well...so think big

    • @janmejaypandey2424
      @janmejaypandey2424 Před 2 lety

      Individuality is now in the most compulsive state..So yess if you become truly aware then you are a conscious individual..In this state everything is taken care of.

    • @Mohittiwariji
      @Mohittiwariji Před 2 lety +5

      What you are saying is forced marriage, not arranged marriage. There is big difference.

    • @vineeshavikram6827
      @vineeshavikram6827 Před 2 lety

      @@Mohittiwariji read again to understand clearly

    • @vineeshavikram6827
      @vineeshavikram6827 Před 2 lety +2

      @@enigma533 the entire system of arrange marriage is forced and conditioned

  • @aranyacockatiels6682
    @aranyacockatiels6682 Před 3 lety +716

    Now 23 year old Netflix has become the platform to judge one of the ancient civilizations , indian traditions😂.

    • @rrr5_Finance2
      @rrr5_Finance2 Před 3 lety +6

      exactly

    • @ky8519
      @ky8519 Před 3 lety

      What series was the lady talking about btw

    • @AyeBeeG
      @AyeBeeG Před 3 lety +45

      People have been criticizing arranged marriages for decades. Netflix just turned it into content and happens to be a western company that will question eastern ideology as well as western culture, don’t flatter yourself.

    • @aranyacockatiels6682
      @aranyacockatiels6682 Před 3 lety +55

      @@AyeBeeG East doesnt need approval from west.Both should mind their ways..Dont flatter west over east..

    • @aranyacockatiels6682
      @aranyacockatiels6682 Před 3 lety +10

      @Ankita Pr You may be entitled to your opinion mam, but I dont agree with you ..

  • @cinnflowergirl
    @cinnflowergirl Před 3 lety +140

    I can see how arranged marriage could work, especially because families are involved. In the US our families are too separate. But I think the percentage of divorce per country are just as reflective on how easy/hard it is to get a divorce in those countries. That cannot be separated from the equation.

    • @Effervescent_1212
      @Effervescent_1212 Před 3 lety +57

      And low divorce rate is not an indicator of happy marriage. People here probably don't walk out of a unhappy marriage due to fear of social stigma. Statistics don't prove much in my opinion.

    • @divyaamohan3743
      @divyaamohan3743 Před 3 lety +10

      Statistic is just bullshit society here is traumatising every woman to suffer in long terms

    • @kumarabhishek5652
      @kumarabhishek5652 Před 3 lety +5

      @@divyaamohan3743
      Then please leave the society which also comprises of 50% women.

    • @nirvaashah168
      @nirvaashah168 Před 3 lety +7

      @@kumarabhishek5652 and 50% brash men
      But wrongs also happen to men, not just women.

    • @falguni.bonaparte
      @falguni.bonaparte Před 3 lety +3

      Actually about marriages I won’t speak that whether to do arrange or love marriage it varies with person, but I believe that if in USA family culture comes in life of people then it will solve half of their problems may be if it’s loneliness and some other problems which are associated with it. As an example whenever we are living with family we see better moral support in life, which is there in India.

  • @computerauditor
    @computerauditor Před 3 lety +244

    All marriages are arranged by whom that's the question 😀 truly Sadhguru's words are always so true, real and blissful!!!

    • @indianmilitary
      @indianmilitary Před 3 lety +5

      by karma

    • @rambocool4284
      @rambocool4284 Před 3 lety +1

      @Zapper Zapped how do you know that?

    • @truthalone4083
      @truthalone4083 Před 3 lety +1

      @@rambocool4284 Awesome question... Im sure he doesnt have an answer.

    • @rambocool4284
      @rambocool4284 Před 3 lety +1

      @@truthalone4083 he will answer just like you by quoting some ancient scripture written by people of the past, apart from that he and you have nothing to answer, you both are different sides of the same coin.

    • @truthalone4083
      @truthalone4083 Před 3 lety

      @@rambocool4284 Hey, your question is a good one. @Zapper Zapped is just a deceived fellow

  • @SyamaSivaprasad
    @SyamaSivaprasad Před 3 lety +32

    how joyfully Sadhguru explains and clarifies this matter of break ups, which is one of the major causes of immense pain and stress to almost half of the world's population.. thank you Sadhguru for always explaining even the hardest of matters (as the world perceives it to be), in a very simplified and humorous manner💖🕊️🙏

  • @nakulkanchan7313
    @nakulkanchan7313 Před 3 lety +24

    Actually the Indian divorce rate isn't low because arranged marriage works. It's because divorce is such a taboo that people would rather live their life with the wrong person than be shamed for being divorced.

    • @kolkataguy3917
      @kolkataguy3917 Před 3 lety +6

      Divorce rate is low in India mainly because of the kids . It is obviously not good for the kids if their parents get divorce . Indian parents take their kids seriously.

    • @nakulkanchan7313
      @nakulkanchan7313 Před 3 lety +1

      @@kolkataguy3917 Yes, that too.

    • @ahanachoudhury4811
      @ahanachoudhury4811 Před měsícem +1

      Who says arranged marriage is always about wrong partner? It can also work

  • @sanjoychakraborty8638
    @sanjoychakraborty8638 Před 3 lety +29

    In India though The Divorce Rate Is 1.5% (approx)
    Many women Live very Uncomfortably, the Main Part Is responsibilty,
    If One Is responsible and Can Create connections With Love any Kind Of mariage Should work.

  • @syedansurgouse5272
    @syedansurgouse5272 Před 3 lety +256

    Arranged Marraige comes with longer Expiry dates due to Tradition and Social Conditioning ✍️

    • @ssingha9554
      @ssingha9554 Před 3 lety +6

      And if break that socail conditions will i be jailed for that??

    • @sankar-rl3zv
      @sankar-rl3zv Před 3 lety +3

      @@ssingha9554 no it's ur choice if u consider keeping more than one or two wife/husband is good then u can break that social conditions it's ur choice

    • @himanshugupta7933
      @himanshugupta7933 Před 3 lety +26

      You meant Forced relationships? Right? Just give an option to women of India. Believe me majority of them would divorce their husbands. They stay in marriages because they are not financially independent and are forced by whole society to stay in marriages.

    • @human1505
      @human1505 Před 2 lety +5

      Indians suffer due to societal norms.

    • @adhithyanal908
      @adhithyanal908 Před 2 lety +3

      @@himanshugupta7933 says a man

  • @Rohit-tt5xe
    @Rohit-tt5xe Před 3 lety +71

    I don't believe in arrange marriages .
    How can someone marry some stranger.
    It's better to marry someone known to you

    • @vrutikarao2005
      @vrutikarao2005 Před 2 lety +7

      But before marrying you can get engaged know that person for some months. If you think it's going good you can marry or else break off the engagement. No one says marry the very next day you got a proposal.

    • @aryakumar9921
      @aryakumar9921 Před 2 lety +16

      @@vrutikarao2005 Yes but getting engaged makes you feel obliged to marry. Also, seeing people for marrying is equivalent to marrying *just for the sake of marrying*, as if it is compulsory to marry when you attain a certain age. Marriage should be an option, if someone fell in love or is looking for love, not a compulsion.

    • @akkshitaakkshita9591
      @akkshitaakkshita9591 Před 2 lety +13

      Specially women, it's like forced prostitution. Like if she is not even interested!

    • @salonichavan1629
      @salonichavan1629 Před 2 lety +1

      @@akkshitaakkshita9591 exactly sis exactly 🙄 exactly

    • @salonichavan1629
      @salonichavan1629 Před 2 lety +1

      @@akkshitaakkshita9591 exactly

  • @vijayalakshmik4385
    @vijayalakshmik4385 Před 3 lety +11

    Omg even i say the same to people, who argue about arranged or love marriage. I say, whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage, how good character your husband and how you take up things matters. Not the kind of marriage

  • @You_can_28
    @You_can_28 Před 3 lety +29

    "Self Appointed Advisor" hit me hard🤣😋

  • @palyada1
    @palyada1 Před 2 lety +23

    I have been looking for the best explanation to respond to my non-indian friends about arranged marriages. This wisdom by Sadhguru is the best one of all, like everything else!

  • @yashramteke4190
    @yashramteke4190 Před 3 lety +83

    I wish I could stay at Isha yoga center and grasp sadhguru's grace and preaching

  • @ilregnoregno6697
    @ilregnoregno6697 Před 3 lety +45

    What I like most about this man is that he doesn't force words. He just put them in orders then you have to choose which is the best. ❤️❤️What a genius!

  • @ziniadas5443
    @ziniadas5443 Před rokem +3

    Can't believe that I just saw you few days back in person, the day will forever be embedded within me. Thank you Sadhguru for making me wanting to be a better person.🙏🙏🙏

  • @yashwanthgowda4483
    @yashwanthgowda4483 Před 3 lety +19

    To all single people who came here just too make themselves feel better 😁😁😁 ...

  • @maumitamajumdar6831
    @maumitamajumdar6831 Před 2 lety +36

    In love marriage one chooses his own partner and also divorces by his own will..but in arrange marriage one doesnt choose his/her partner by his choice and cannot either leave by his own choice.

    • @shinefia5987
      @shinefia5987 Před rokem +1

      Exactly he cant compare it to western values of individuality. While India is bond to family and societal pressure

    • @aakankinskywalker384
      @aakankinskywalker384 Před 4 měsíci

      family and societal pressure is also important@@shinefia5987, the lack of that is causing high instability in the life of western people.

  • @nallurilavanya2636
    @nallurilavanya2636 Před 3 lety +53

    And he himself didn’t involved his parents. He chose his partner. Sometimes, marriage is a lesson for life, definitely many men and women out there in India are emotionally bonded to their parents. They stay for them and for the society. Otherwise India will be in first place in the other way

  • @victorrock1427
    @victorrock1427 Před 3 lety +84

    If you are capable & willing to take the responsibility then you arrange your own marraige .... If parents are capable & willing to take the responsibility then let them arrange it. As simple as that.

    • @ranjitsur6397
      @ranjitsur6397 Před 3 lety +31

      In most cases parents will insist for arranged marriage according to their choice but later they will not take any responsibility.

    • @jita14
      @jita14 Před 3 lety +13

      Ranjit Sur they’ll say - it’s your fate😟

    • @victorrock1427
      @victorrock1427 Před 3 lety +10

      @@ranjitsur6397 Then that is a broken system .... And all you can do is take charge and fix things yourself. Taking responsibility for your own life and making your own choices..... And suffering your own choices also if need be
      But to begin with .... They are your parents and your inside voice would warn you about what & why they are saying.

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety

      @@victorrock1427 exactly

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety +7

      @@victorrock1427 there are men bitching in the comment section about how they are mad divorce exists and they can't keep slaves haha.....This is the mentality of some Indian men...No wonder our country is the way it is

  • @eljoemissiletoe3438
    @eljoemissiletoe3438 Před 3 lety +38

    This is one of the smartest people on the planet representing humanity and teaching. Thanks

  • @simpleguy38
    @simpleguy38 Před 3 lety +40

    Love marriage is something which doesn't involve a third person otherwise it is still be called arranged marriage even if it is arranged by friends.

    • @FirstLast-lw1oi
      @FirstLast-lw1oi Před 3 lety

      With this many people in the world, you really think you can isolate the two people concerned. Whatever and whoever interacts with them at any point is ubiquitously going to arrange it after all

  • @adityajambhekar5444
    @adityajambhekar5444 Před 3 lety +13

    The music in the end is soooo relaxing 😀❤️

  • @TEERTHESH
    @TEERTHESH Před 3 lety +18

    As long as there is willingness to make it work(which comes from tradition and upbringing), relationship will last longer. Lack of patience and quick judgements have failed many things..

    • @andreamessiasgomes7118
      @andreamessiasgomes7118 Před 2 lety

      Rubbish , vibe is vibe , if the vibe is gone and you have grown it's finished, y'all being spiritual don't know this stuff. What y'all think that growth happenes only in academics? Put that in relationship then y'all will know , that yes sometimes relationship don't work even for soulmates it's because even in relationship there are lessons.

    • @tarmin1711
      @tarmin1711 Před rokem +1

      @@andreamessiasgomes7118 Rubbish, there's no such thing as vibe.

  • @bcs3790
    @bcs3790 Před 3 lety +15

    Just loved it, Crystal clear explanation, feels good.❤️

  • @ranjitsur6397
    @ranjitsur6397 Před 3 lety +43

    This impression that parents know what is best is very misplaced. Because parents build their opinions based on caste, class, social obligations and very less on individual choice and well being

    • @praful4383
      @praful4383 Před 3 lety +3

      That's not bad at all ...
      If u give them lot a freedom then they fall into trap of bad people too.

    • @harkharajbharali808
      @harkharajbharali808 Před 3 lety +20

      @@praful4383 Parents cant decide tbh, They cosnider too much about society and too less about happines of their children

    • @btshash6532
      @btshash6532 Před 3 lety +5

      @@harkharajbharali808 that can not be said about all parents

    • @guleriab
      @guleriab Před 3 lety

      Same applies to all and of course you too. You also dont know everything?

    • @kritikatiwari1144
      @kritikatiwari1144 Před 3 lety +3

      @@guleriab atleast they know about themselves!

  • @dailyclicks8308
    @dailyclicks8308 Před 3 lety +37

    We want a society where woman feels most safe... We don't want an open society where relationships are taken for granted

  • @luzvictorialopezgiraldo9164

    Por favor, traducir al Español o colocar subtítulos en Inglés....estoy aprendido mucho Inglés con ustedes, pero no quiero perderme nada. Gracias🙏🤗

  • @AkshayKumar-bn7gm
    @AkshayKumar-bn7gm Před 3 lety +2

    Just last two minutes of this video can change many lives🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @anukrishnan3733
    @anukrishnan3733 Před 3 lety +42

    There is lot of transformation on me because of u sadhguru. U r mine great teacher 💓💓

    • @anukrishnan3733
      @anukrishnan3733 Před 3 lety

      👍👍transformation

    • @user-bc1nx9uo2p
      @user-bc1nx9uo2p Před 3 lety +3

      @@anukrishnan3733 there has been a lot of transformation in me due to sadhguru.He is my great teacher*

  • @MissPrissy6688
    @MissPrissy6688 Před 3 lety +11

    Not all marriages ( other than arranged) are cultivated in a "Bar". There are many ways to meet your devine. The ways of the world have changed. Women can get education and financially support self. Not necessary to marry to be dependent on a man financially. When you are dependent on another financially...you are their prisioner.

  • @yashibhardwaj6871
    @yashibhardwaj6871 Před 2 lety +2

    When there is no answer to ur question there is always an answer which will come from his side🙏🙏huge respect to sadhguru ji

  • @pratimamahato7856
    @pratimamahato7856 Před 2 lety +9

    And if there is a marriage without the girls agreement and she is been forced to mary a person , doesn't it be considered a legal rape . And this is the thing mostly happening in India

  • @Thelittleclipstore
    @Thelittleclipstore Před 3 lety +25

    I had arranged marriage .. and I can tell u from my community that the divorce rate is so low simply because divorce is considered the worst thing to do.. but there’s full of miserable people stuck in marriage .. arranged marriages can work but only if the couple dates enough afterwards and knows who they are and what their looking for an are simply well educated what to look for and what to feel.

    • @nirvaashah168
      @nirvaashah168 Před 3 lety +1

      agreed!

    • @Vibes3438
      @Vibes3438 Před rokem

      yes

    • @swetha4844
      @swetha4844 Před rokem

      Horoscope matched?

    • @Thelittleclipstore
      @Thelittleclipstore Před rokem

      @@swetha4844 you mean if we match based of synastry ? No the parents choose and child just agrees or disagrees but the child is often under pressure and has no clue what’s flying and just says yes as long there’s nothing obviously terrible or super ugly about the person

  • @dhanachandrasanasam9705
    @dhanachandrasanasam9705 Před 3 lety +68

    A lot of noises around me but whenever I started listening to Sadhguru everything seems to be quite and cool.🙏

    • @akshaydushyanth9720
      @akshaydushyanth9720 Před 3 lety +5

      Thts becoz he makes u to focus on your ownself

    • @j.jeayareka5193
      @j.jeayareka5193 Před 3 lety +2

      It happens when our excess energy is not channelised. Please ase do some physical exercise, and meditation.

  • @hst198
    @hst198 Před 2 lety +1

    One can't stop future happening.🙏
    Saying is easy, facing is difficult...

  • @gampinny
    @gampinny Před 2 lety

    Listening to sadh is soo refreshing. He puts you at a comfortable place mentally, freedom indeed ✌🏾❤️❤️

  • @dhivyau9349
    @dhivyau9349 Před 3 lety +25

    Just because people don't go to family court for divorce doesn't mean they don't go for filing domestic violence cases. India has highest number of domestic violence against women in marriage. What ABOUT dowry harassment? Is it even fair enough to just judge a successfulness of marriage only based on divorce rates?

    • @ronnie-qh7nc
      @ronnie-qh7nc Před 3 lety +1

      Hmm dowry can happen in even in love marriages too....yep India has high rate of domestic violence but is that marriage specific?? It depends on the person not the mode of marriage.....

    • @ronnie-qh7nc
      @ronnie-qh7nc Před 3 lety

      According to NCRB data of 2012 out of 100000 marriages 5.9 women faces domestic violence cases......

  • @BrianSmith-li3zs
    @BrianSmith-li3zs Před 3 lety +4

    Respect love and gratitude

  • @parvathy.r457
    @parvathy.r457 Před 3 lety +2

    2:48 , that really really is perfect . I have written an article about it too

  • @prakashdesai403
    @prakashdesai403 Před 3 lety +10

    When you don't allow any one, but you, who can make you happy or unhappy, no relation can be failed once established in your life. Perhaps problem is that every one wants spouse to be ideal according to his/her definition but don't want to be so for his/her partner, or they take marriage as business contract, where, spouse behavior is directly related with partner's behavior, almost no tolerance.

    • @Annsu2017
      @Annsu2017 Před 2 lety

      Preach👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @laxmandeep9409
    @laxmandeep9409 Před 3 lety +67

    Today's sadhguru quote for you..
    '' karma means your life is your making,
    Karmic accumulation can be either boost or burden. That is your choice '' -sg
    Marriage is your making, A bond tat becomes Boost or burden depends on how efficiently you arranged the relation.
    Arrangement has to dispense through out the life !! Moment to moment.. People think
    Once we do, it is over .No it is a constant process.. You can make every moment a fresh meet 😅😅🙏 !! Only if you how to handle the true life partner K A R M A 😜
    The E t e r n a l b o n d.....

  • @ReynaSingh
    @ReynaSingh Před 3 lety +57

    India has a low divorce rate not because arranged marriage is more successful. It's low because divorce is still quite taboo in India.

    • @meeralakshmis5863
      @meeralakshmis5863 Před 3 lety +5

      Exactlyyyy.

    • @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716
      @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716 Před 3 lety +3

      👏👏👏👏 true

    • @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716
      @idontshiplarryanymoreiship2716 Před 3 lety +10

      @Allie X that's not true. There are single moms in India too. Generalising that all their kids will turn out bad is like stereotyping them.
      You'd rather live with a partner in an unhappy marriage than live peacefully with your child?
      It's HOW you raise them.

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety

      @Allie X god bless 498 a

    • @rajnimalakhelawan6439
      @rajnimalakhelawan6439 Před 3 lety +5

      @Allie X there is not an army of single mothers in india because most unmarried women abort their babies! What choice do they have but to abort them? Your tradition will eat them up alive. Plus, dont forget the 32 million plus missing girls that have been aborted in india, making men to girl ratio quite imbalanced!. What nerve do you have to criticize a Western country that many Indians would love to migrate to! (And...some of the single mothers in western societies are in fact abandoned by Indian men who are afraid to go against their parents wish for their arranged marriage, thus they deny and leave their child and marry who their parents choose for them. (And their wives have no clue that this child exists normally; they hide it! Sickening, really!)

  • @Vishwajeet-Deshmukh
    @Vishwajeet-Deshmukh Před 3 lety +2

    We are eager to watch.

  • @marlineramlotchan4214
    @marlineramlotchan4214 Před 3 lety

    So beautiful pastimes of Sadhguruji 💎🌻👌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @indigenous6550
    @indigenous6550 Před 3 lety +59

    The very concept of marriages as a whole is outdated these days, leave a side arranged or love... in this realm of hookup culture etc. Marriage doesn't hold that sanctity as it used to in our Forefathers era.

    • @raiPKyt
      @raiPKyt Před 3 lety +3

      That is absolutely correct ..!!

    • @RK-nq3fj
      @RK-nq3fj Před 2 lety +2

      Very true. It exists primarily for raising children

  • @milanhembram6314
    @milanhembram6314 Před 3 lety +26

    Adjustable nature is required for a long lasting marriage.

  • @kanakmahendraaliveness5646

    Every day I watch your video Sadhguruji and that always makes my day. Thank you

  • @yashrajtejpal1034
    @yashrajtejpal1034 Před 3 lety +1

    Sadhguru ji is really supeb the way he looks at anything makes it so simple.

  • @TMP_19
    @TMP_19 Před 2 lety +20

    It is a wrong metric to look at, the divorce rate. Ask how many are happy and I am sure more than 90% are divorced in their minds

  • @vkumar5605
    @vkumar5605 Před 3 lety +14

    Well, it's depends on your behavior and respect on the Partner, doesn't matter whether it is a Arrange or Love marriage. In INDIA divorce percentage has raised because of different mindsets and independence of one's feelings and never ending expectations from partner. In INDIA, people are much worried about image, so they try to adjust within themselves as they treat Divorce as negative impact on their family Image and also may be because of children they have. Simple way to be happy,
    "Don't Expect Much" from partner. Respect her/him.
    Forgive them if any mistake, because you love them & no one is perfect in this world, Even sachin "multi record breaker" gets out on Zero... Forgive them with smile as you do with your kids/friends.
    Soon your world will be changed.
    ALL THE BEST.

  • @sonukumarchoubey4510
    @sonukumarchoubey4510 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for making it Clear 👏👏👏

  • @sapnamudgal3979
    @sapnamudgal3979 Před 3 lety +1

    I think its more about making a fix system or dynamic methods for marriage. Well it depends upon the quality of people in the society

  • @zekriashams6294
    @zekriashams6294 Před 2 lety +3

    He is truly a man of wisdom.💕

  • @pallavibhaladhare4306
    @pallavibhaladhare4306 Před 3 lety +6

    No arrange no love matter only caste matter in marriage .......
    If you want to marry person from same cast then your parent will agree with your decision
    If you want to marry person from another then parents will never agree with decision
    This is reality

    • @YouniqueSD
      @YouniqueSD Před 3 lety

      I dont count those ppl as parents

  • @Jayanti508
    @Jayanti508 Před 2 lety

    Great advice, great words guruji
    Thank you

  • @mayankswank6020
    @mayankswank6020 Před 2 lety

    Very logical, simple and factual & its not easy to be this ...that is the life👍

  • @MindBodyMantra
    @MindBodyMantra Před 3 lety +57

    The idea of how one takes it forward matters. Respect for everyone. Respect your partner. Regardless of how it happened. You both complete it each other. Remember Shiva's Ardhnarishwar avatar. One cannot exist without the either. Namaskaram!

    • @truthalone4083
      @truthalone4083 Před 3 lety

      Should we immitate the pattern of Shiva's leela with Mohini?

  • @grapeshott
    @grapeshott Před 3 lety +22

    good one. But I think Indian divorce rate is so low because of the stigma attached to divorce in India. Even my family, which is a middle class one, has stigmas about divorce, especially for women

    • @kritikatiwari1144
      @kritikatiwari1144 Před 3 lety

      I agree.

    • @kritikatiwari1144
      @kritikatiwari1144 Před 3 lety +1

      @Allie X you are every where.. Aren't you! Slamming all the comments which disagree with your line of thought. Don't be such a misogynist.

    • @excuseme1911
      @excuseme1911 Před 3 lety +3

      @Allie X I hope you are okay with the caste system too...Where you will be treated according to your caste ...The lower you are the worse off you will be...If you are okay with that then please tell us your caste so that we know how to treat you ....

  • @DasGaneshRAKESH
    @DasGaneshRAKESH Před rokem

    It's doing the best we can, with what we have
    And not worry about the results
    And living every moment on the journey

  • @vaibhavgarg9549
    @vaibhavgarg9549 Před 3 lety +8

    Sadhguru quoting himself did love marriage.. along with answer of this doubt means .. love marriage is best s.t you are clear about your
    Choice and loyal to your partner.. in other cases .. arranged marriage is obviously better in comparison to doing love marriage in which you are actually not
    that clear just to avoid arrange marriage..

  • @jankirathod5350
    @jankirathod5350 Před 3 lety +4

    This has changed my mind completely about the marriage....in a good way....Thank you sadhguru :)

  • @borgstef
    @borgstef Před 2 lety +3

    my indian friend had an arranged marriage and he is suffering everyday cause he never really loved his wife. But he's not divorced. So that's success?

    • @youtuberk1577
      @youtuberk1577 Před rokem

      Love is transient feeling . Today I Love someone , After One month I loved other , after 8 months someone other . so you can't keep divorcing And breaking up right ?

    • @borgstef
      @borgstef Před rokem

      @@youtuberk1577 all I said is that less divorces does not mean happy marriages. Have a nice day. Bye.

  • @va4250
    @va4250 Před 3 lety +2

    I am always impressed by his answers

  • @thegamingmonk7377
    @thegamingmonk7377 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for this video sadhguru for making me realise that nobody is perfect.....

  • @evergreen7781
    @evergreen7781 Před 3 lety +16

    Rather it's best DO NOT MARRY 😅😅😅 Enjoy your life with full freedom ❤️❤️❤️

  • @atasipanda9944
    @atasipanda9944 Před 3 lety +10

    I don't think success can be measured by rate of divorce, it should be measured by number of happy marriages, just because 2 people decide to stay in a marriage doesn't make it successful, in fact divorce might be better than staying in an unhappy marriage.

  • @sepalikafernando3681
    @sepalikafernando3681 Před rokem

    Thanks Sadhguru Ji
    Great talk. And very inspiring talk

  • @mehdikm3015
    @mehdikm3015 Před 3 lety

    On a enfin réglé mon problème merci à la fondation isha Europe 🙏❤

  • @shashioberoi6715
    @shashioberoi6715 Před 3 lety +31

    Sadhguru i dont know if ull be reading this... But i really need help! My mom is not feeling well... She once was a very active lady but now she tries but unable to get up from the bed...we got her tested everything is fine.... I don't knowts going on! Please 🙏🙏

  • @nikitatandekar1427
    @nikitatandekar1427 Před 3 lety +10

    Sadhguru i am having a very genuine question, if marraiges are made in heaven then why marraiges are breaking in 3 to 4 months? And why people from family are using black magic kind of things to seperate the couple

    • @preethishetty6179
      @preethishetty6179 Před 2 lety +5

      First of all he doesn’t believe that marriages are made in heaven .

  • @jcyadav527
    @jcyadav527 Před 2 lety +2

    i love to watch Sadhguru speech every hour 😇💗💗

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers Před 3 lety +1

    Very interesting and profoundly explained 🙏🏻💖🌷

    • @simpleguy38
      @simpleguy38 Před 3 lety

      Love marriage is something which doesn't involve a third person otherwise it is still be called arranged marriage even if it is arranged by friends.

  • @rasulbogdan6639
    @rasulbogdan6639 Před 3 lety +23

    In the U.S. marriage is an outdated concept for my generation. It's sad to say the least.

    • @gauravchaturvedi6080
      @gauravchaturvedi6080 Před 3 lety +2

      @Arindam Das yup😂😂😂

    • @COSMIXA
      @COSMIXA Před 3 lety

      The traditional concept or roles of marriage may not add positive value to some women or men - depending on their personality / sexual orientation / career / family situation / spiritual beliefs ect. That's their personal choice.
      But, there are people out there, who will share your relationship values - so lead by good example, live life to the fullest and you will meet more like-minded people that will lead to fulfilling, intimate relationship.

    • @persona7506
      @persona7506 Před 3 lety

      @Arindam Das 2+2=fish?

    • @persona7506
      @persona7506 Před 3 lety

      @Arindam Das if " changing the point " & " taking words out of the mouth " had a face , it would definitely be you :)

  • @SarikaSolanke
    @SarikaSolanke Před 2 lety +8

    Excellently explained by Sadguru about the arrangement of a marriage.
    However, initial comparison of divorce rate in India Vs other countries is Not a right measure to compare sucess of marriages. 😀

  • @saurabhmishra1652
    @saurabhmishra1652 Před 3 lety +2

    Wonderful ❤️

  • @gokulamparikh2087
    @gokulamparikh2087 Před 2 lety

    Very true❤ i may not agree with all his speaches this one was so right.

  • @nehakhatri2826
    @nehakhatri2826 Před 3 lety +17

    Marriage, like everything in this universe is something which is complete, true & bliss only when there is undivided CONSCIOUSNESS involved.
    When there is no unpleasantness in you, full Blissfulness and pure love towards each other, only then marriage is a marriage else, it's mere Sham/arrangement!
    You need to understand that when you marry, it's fulfilled only if your loved ones are involved and during the entire ceremony, all you feel is lifelong promising bliss nothing else. ☺️✨

    • @omkarbhangle1908
      @omkarbhangle1908 Před 3 lety +1

      It's good to see chartered accountants here too! Am also one step away from getting the degree🙂

    • @_Shashwat_Verma
      @_Shashwat_Verma Před 3 lety +1

      Kya Baat hai , Aapki Kahi Gayi Baate Dil ko Chuu Gayi ...😢
      Aap Sadhguru ki Cheli Ban Jaaiye ....
      21 Topo ki Salami ...🤦‍♂️🏋️‍♂️🤸‍♂️👫🙏🏻

    • @mos9139
      @mos9139 Před 3 lety +1

      You are in the wrong profession.

    • @nehakhatri2826
      @nehakhatri2826 Před 3 lety +1

      @@omkarbhangle1908 Aha! All the best 😊

    • @nehakhatri2826
      @nehakhatri2826 Před 3 lety +1

      @@mos9139 Hahahhaa why so? 😅

  • @hst198
    @hst198 Před 2 lety +3

    Don't be hurry to get married or don't overthink about it, be ready for any changes, just managed to sort out things, solution is more important for any situation.....

  • @SagrikaOberoi
    @SagrikaOberoi Před 2 lety +1

    Namaskaram sadhguru lots of love ..such an eye opener..

  • @sagarbarai
    @sagarbarai Před 2 lety +2

    I like the way he laughs. Makes one Happy about it ☺️

  • @gauravchaturvedi6080
    @gauravchaturvedi6080 Před 3 lety +11

    Success rate of arranged marriage in INDIA >>>> love marriages

    • @harkharajbharali808
      @harkharajbharali808 Před 3 lety +10

      beacause people who arrange marraige are a bit ancient type and they dont believe in divorce and thinks society will judge them

    • @kanchansahu1814
      @kanchansahu1814 Před 3 lety +1

      Sahi bat hai

    • @gauravchaturvedi6080
      @gauravchaturvedi6080 Před 3 lety +3

      @@harkharajbharali808 but actually i r judging them and generalised ur judgement😂😂😂😂so don't be prejudiced and accept the reality

    • @bloggerblogg5878
      @bloggerblogg5878 Před 3 lety +3

      @@harkharajbharali808 that's why the divorce rate is so low in India, and not because they are happier in marriage then western countries. The reason is cultural and family pressure. Statistic don't worth too much if you didn't see beyond them. But people need facts and numbers to proof and that's enough if say couple numbers.

    • @praful4383
      @praful4383 Před 3 lety +2

      @Arindam Das perfect reply

  • @pam4840
    @pam4840 Před 3 lety +11

    I was waiting for some one to to pop this question and see how Sadguru balances the millennial and orthodox beliefs.

    • @rachelmcclain5367
      @rachelmcclain5367 Před 3 lety

      Too bad he isn't as mainstream as the "millennial" belief

    • @pam4840
      @pam4840 Před 3 lety +2

      @@rachelmcclain5367 Well, As the case, is I don't think you need to bring a revolution in the matchmaking culture. As there is no guarantee that a love marriage may last so is the case with an arranged marriage.

    • @rachelmcclain5367
      @rachelmcclain5367 Před 3 lety

      @@pam4840 I'm talking about what he has to say in general. He forces those watching to think about both sides, which I love

    • @pam4840
      @pam4840 Před 3 lety +1

      @@rachelmcclain5367 agree.. he kind of made me look at things from an unbiased, non hippocritical point of few. His wisedom is profound and should be taught at school to make gentler, smarter generation.

  • @praviagrawal4604
    @praviagrawal4604 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you Sadhguru🙏

  • @SaiSuraj9
    @SaiSuraj9 Před 3 lety +1

    Wisdom spoken 👏🏻