How to Stay Calm Consistently : Psychology & Mental Health

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    Staying calm consistently requires you to keep a few very important things in mind. Learn how to stay calm consistently with help from a licensed marriage and family therapist in this free video clip.
    Expert: Roberta Marowitz
    Filmmaker: Andrew Stickel
    Series Description: Whether you're dealing with stress, nervousness or just want to help a spouse who is dealing with grief, each and everyone one of us could use a little help in these areas every now and again. Get tips on psychology and learn how to work in a variety of different situations with help from a licensed marriage and family therapist in this free video series.
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Komentáře • 171

  • @dokiki6107
    @dokiki6107 Před 9 lety +208

    I have anger problems because of how bad my life gets sometimes, but lately ive decided to try to calm down and accept things the way they are

    • @PaleBlueDott
      @PaleBlueDott Před 3 lety +7

      I think the best approach, is to remain calm and observe the problems of your life, accept the possibility that they might remain as such forever, but then try to do the things that will maximize the possibility of changing at least some of those things for the better. That way you don't stagnate, you move forward, you improve, but it's not a win-or-lose situation where you MUST make it, instead it's a simple attempt and whatever happens, happens.

    • @touchoffairy9975
      @touchoffairy9975 Před 3 lety

      Me too

    • @jay2wavy215
      @jay2wavy215 Před 2 lety

      Respect man I’m going through the same thing.

    • @KoolT
      @KoolT Před 2 lety

      Some people call it being a GROWN UP, stopping temper tantrums

  • @smellydonut5088
    @smellydonut5088 Před 4 lety +79

    My family is extremely loud and explosive, whereas I am (or I try) to remain calm. Sometimes however, they behave in such triggering manners I need to distance myself for hours just to mantain my peace of mind.

    • @rae4828
      @rae4828 Před 5 měsíci +3

      I relate to this so much. It really takes a lot of work to become calm after getting used to such loud environments.

  • @justjoshing3156
    @justjoshing3156 Před 9 lety +85

    I never used to do my homework because I had a serious procrastination problem. Then I would get stressed out because of getting bad grades. And now recently I have discovered that actually doing my homework when I'm stressed calms me down because I have to concentrate on that. Win win!

  • @danieltheteacher
    @danieltheteacher Před 9 lety +38

    Yes, I am calm. I grew up with a rageaholic.
    I talk with God all day long. For example: "God, please help me accomplish something today."
    (Currently I'm an under achiever because certain people block my goals of homeschooling so I'm just relaxing at home until my son is 16 and then I'll move on with him or without him; 6 years from now)
    I avoid certain selfish people or being in the car for a long time with selfish people.
    To be poised is to conquer myself. This is my goal.
    Your video was helpful.
    Thank you.

    • @skwee6996
      @skwee6996 Před 5 lety

      Daniel Caron
      You believe in one god find your religion , islam is the answer , you completed the i belive in one god but all you need is, and muhammad is the final messengar, you testify this then you are a muslim

    • @hungkiet7535
      @hungkiet7535 Před rokem

      @@skwee6996God capital G

  • @PaleBlueDott
    @PaleBlueDott Před 3 lety +8

    I think the best approach, is to remain calm and observe the problems of your life, accept the possibility that they might remain as such forever, but then try to do the things that will maximize the possibility of changing at least some of those things for the better. That way you don't stagnate, you move forward, you improve, but it's not a win-or-lose situation where you MUST make it, instead it's a simple attempt and whatever happens, happens.

  • @paulobarros3247
    @paulobarros3247 Před 7 lety +163

    Csgo bring me here

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go Před 8 lety +71

    Good stuff :)

  • @ebetpinakbet4674
    @ebetpinakbet4674 Před 6 lety +5

    Im 38 now and been so aggressive that I want to punch somebody when im out of control and imagining brutal and evil things against people around me that went hating myself and asking at the same time why I have this negative thoughts and attitude so I began searching how to calm myself and start practicing how to slow things down and gradually I can control my thoughts and I can breathed calmly like a river and move like a kuala bear, I slowly inhale and slowly exhale and blank my mind and walk like air and forget all negative thoughts and now these simple tips became my gift. thank you very much for this wonderful video.

  • @lanka8786
    @lanka8786 Před 10 lety +13

    Listening to this at work, just needed something badly...before i get all fired up at everyone.... :(

  • @Guenevere333
    @Guenevere333 Před 4 lety +7

    Focus on one thing at a time and take things slow. Thank you!

  • @looopaa9783
    @looopaa9783 Před 3 lety +6

    i’m so exuberant and intense because i’ve learned in life that when in doubt just say something loud and confident and people will accept you, but i love people who are relaxing and welcoming, i want to be more like them, it’s socially exhausting the way i handle things

  • @jfitz3133
    @jfitz3133 Před 6 lety +30

    I smashed my table and tore my shirt off watching this video, GOOODDDDDDAMNIT!

  • @tuvekoah6549
    @tuvekoah6549 Před 3 lety +5

    Pray Allah to be calm

  • @farfromregular
    @farfromregular Před 7 lety +1

    Thankyou I've Been Crazy/Insane For My Whole Life and This Calmed me down

  • @nobil3711
    @nobil3711 Před 3 lety +1

    things never seem to go my way and i always have to remind myself to be okay, but sometimes its too difficult

  • @meganc1106
    @meganc1106 Před 8 lety +1

    thank you for this video I've been very stressed lately and this did help keep me calm

  • @savanahjuliakite
    @savanahjuliakite Před 9 lety +6

    Very helpful, thank you.

  • @vishalchaudhari7198
    @vishalchaudhari7198 Před 4 lety

    Short and sweet! Very useful as well.. Thank you so much for this :)

  • @nikeshdubey4129
    @nikeshdubey4129 Před 5 lety +4

    If we are more calm and more focused, our actions do slow down and we talk slowly and with a very high confidence. We know what we are doing. We can concentrate on one single thing at a time if we want , plus we can do 10 activities in one single moment also(yes it's possible) . If you are literally calmed down and are focusing on your breathing(very deeply) , you will know your goal and how to achieve it , you will not afraid of anything you will just know you can do anything you want. It's a state like you have reached a 'bodhi' state. Your mind your intensity in doing things will reach to new hight and will go even higher as you take it .Nothing can budge your calmness than .

  • @dylancilliers7116
    @dylancilliers7116 Před 9 lety +20

    Im only 15 but suffer from extreme anxiety when I lose things or when I havent prepared for a test and it doesnt help the way I want to live as I go into overdrive and often cannot get to sleep. It really isnt helpful when somebody asks "What are you fretting about" it just makes things worse and often makes me get panic attacks

    • @fazliullahkhan5299
      @fazliullahkhan5299 Před 9 lety

      nice

    • @1agnesdei
      @1agnesdei Před 7 lety +1

      Dylan Cilliers start to working out , work out until your limit push yourself really hard you'll find your strength! I had horrible panic attacks when I started working out it really helped me because I felt the same way my heart was super fast feeling dizy I've learned to breath slowly and then everthing would pass . So just push yourself u'll fell strong

    • @shafidarussalam
      @shafidarussalam Před 5 lety +2

      Now you are 18
      How are you

    • @KidHavikProductions
      @KidHavikProductions Před 5 lety +2

      yea how are you doing lol

  • @JAWOMBAT
    @JAWOMBAT Před 5 lety

    I’ve got a husbalaziness problem and no amount of breathing will help....
    This vid has made me go berserker even more good efing work

  • @komalpatel1158
    @komalpatel1158 Před 7 lety +2

    Hi,
    Your video is really helpful. But the thing with me is that I have to have different tricks all the time. For instance, if one time a song or small video or something else helped me staying calm and feel relaxed out of high stress, the other time it doesn't work well. Then I need to find some other core and more intense tricks like watching a movie or going on a long drive. In years now I see that I have to do different tricks most of the time. Anyway- your videos are really informative. Thank you.

  • @viosupwerdoze29
    @viosupwerdoze29 Před 8 lety +2

    Thank you!

  • @Demboledemi
    @Demboledemi Před 10 lety +1

    GREAT tips thank you

  • @tammyhuennerkopf7378
    @tammyhuennerkopf7378 Před 7 lety

    Learned something. Thank you. Shared.

  • @AnnaSmith-sk6di
    @AnnaSmith-sk6di Před 8 lety +32

    I'm a multitasker and DO NOT FOCUS at all

    • @myfamily9393
      @myfamily9393 Před 3 lety

      Same!! I'm what I call a scatterbrain. I just do things randomly. Need to be more organized

    • @endezeichengrimm
      @endezeichengrimm Před 3 lety

      Multi tasking is a myth. You're really just changing your focus rapidly. You can train yourself to slow that down and focus on one thing for a longer time.

  • @Mcfc2Rich
    @Mcfc2Rich Před 8 lety +2

    I'm already a very calm and composed person but i want to be a master of it. Maybe I should try Zen meditation :) thx ✋🏻

  • @thexskating
    @thexskating Před 4 lety

    I really like this video. Very awesome!

  • @lin90210
    @lin90210 Před 7 lety

    thank you very helpful!!

  • @rollins4737
    @rollins4737 Před 9 lety

    Thanks!

  • @nehalkamal2677
    @nehalkamal2677 Před 8 lety +3

    that was good.. thank you miss lovely

  • @Archcadegamer
    @Archcadegamer Před 6 lety

    Ty, kind lady.

  • @reinnepaneda9098
    @reinnepaneda9098 Před 10 lety

    thank u

  • @TheChurchIsLikenUntoTheMoon

    Breathing exercises is a great way to ease the mind

  • @quarter292
    @quarter292 Před 6 lety +1

    U see iam a 12 yearbold boy and iam a calm and cool boy i almost take everything easy and the important plus point about me is i don't get angry which makes me very calm all day

  • @rinenenenenene
    @rinenenenenene Před 6 lety +2

    I’m naturally calm, so why am I here...

  • @adarshmynalli5124
    @adarshmynalli5124 Před 4 lety

    Awesome

  • @alitou001
    @alitou001 Před 10 lety

    Nice tips

  • @SupernaturalBeingsofEarth

    first view and I like this Lady... my way is to re-awake and find new words and reminder words of wisdom such as hers and the obvious word CALM will be coming out in my vocab more than may be even necessary ... 01/01/15 needs newness ...

  • @rajendragujar3231
    @rajendragujar3231 Před 7 lety

    Sis, Dr.Please tell tips for self talk and rumination

  • @BySwizhy
    @BySwizhy Před 11 lety +2

    hahaha i had other things stressing me but then i played cod and got more stressed so i wrote in youtube "How to keep calm" hahahaha XD

  • @xxxxxPr0xxxxx
    @xxxxxPr0xxxxx Před 11 lety

    same

  • @BeOutstanding
    @BeOutstanding Před 6 lety

    concentration on one thing at a time, breathe in slowly

  • @snacklish3795
    @snacklish3795 Před 6 lety +1

    Is there a level above calmness? Is there more than calmness?

  • @taylorwimpey7202
    @taylorwimpey7202 Před 7 lety +5

    I am a nine year old boy who's mother is on drugs so her mother raised me because my dad is a truck driver and never home and I wand my moms mom

  • @rosa9005
    @rosa9005 Před 3 lety +1

    Im extremely type A and it's killing me. I want to learn how to be calm so bad.

  • @TidyEye
    @TidyEye Před 11 lety +1

    I AM CALM!!!!!!! lol

  • @devinplays7991
    @devinplays7991 Před 7 lety

    you are a good person 😀😃😄😊☺😉😌😅🌈

  • @Matriculon
    @Matriculon Před 11 lety

    drinking helps, too

  • @briankungu9667
    @briankungu9667 Před 3 lety +2

    I love you

  • @Nyz1ro
    @Nyz1ro Před 10 lety +5

    Im easily irritated and angry, and mostly sad on the inside when I Catch myself being irritated. In traffic, I get irritated sometimes, and quickly get over it a few seconds later. When my girlfriend is around, in the same situation, and tells me to calm down in an angry irritated manner herself, i get angry and defend myself with all kinds of bs i can imagine to prove im right. And im not saying its her fault, but her saying "CALM DOWN FFS" just makes me really irritated. Help would be nice.

    • @ts3858
      @ts3858 Před 2 lety

      Anger's really fear of losing control...

  • @sneakerbabeful
    @sneakerbabeful Před 11 měsíci

    What do I focus on, to stay calm?

  • @KomaUnwindDrink
    @KomaUnwindDrink Před 11 lety

    I drink a can of KOMA Unwind to stay calm. Its a good way to chill with out pills! :D

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT Před 2 lety +1

    How about praying and one day at a time

  • @MinimalistExplorer
    @MinimalistExplorer Před 8 lety +3

    Hey relax!

  • @rebeldetail6134
    @rebeldetail6134 Před 2 lety

    I just have an intense personality trying to learn to be more laid back I always want to be the best and it makes me so aggressive im in my 50s and I've done just bout everything I've wanted to accomplish but feel like I need to be more laid back

  • @dailylifeactivities472

    I am a psychology student... The problem i am going Through i can't concentrate on a single thing at a time...deep breathing will help me???

  • @rachel183321
    @rachel183321 Před 7 lety +2

    I get picked on a lot by my family and my boyfriend it's really hard for me to not burst out and start shouting and crying and wanting to hurt them with a weapon so I really need to learn calming methods any suggestions?

  • @videosfromkideos2386
    @videosfromkideos2386 Před 8 lety +7

    since i was 7 iam stressed depressed disappointed and nothing works ive tried meditation spa day even a whole chocolate filled day but whatevr happens im still super angry at the world and disappointed at the universe

    • @fefes2703
      @fefes2703 Před 8 lety +10

      Watch your inner thoughts and replace them with positive ones constantly until it happens naturally and you won't need to anymore. Also, always think positively of yourself too, for example say positive things to your self such as "I'm so beautiful when I smile always and I'm so diplomatic that's why I will try to solve things with simple words just to get rid of the problem and get back to my relaxation mode". I'll tell you what's I've been saying to myself and it's been working for days now " I'm quiet, I'm cold & I'm so relaxed" and I breath so deeply. I say it constantly in my mind. I believe that for now I'm doing it consciously but after awhile it'll happen unconsciously. I've noticed great results so far! I won't tell you, I'll wait till you experience them. ;D

    • @RuneSigrid
      @RuneSigrid Před 8 lety +1

      +Fefe S thank y ou for that!!!

    • @keeplearning5374
      @keeplearning5374 Před 7 lety +2

      Pray.

    • @rickgrimes4831
      @rickgrimes4831 Před 6 lety

      Keep Learning to who ? Lmai

  • @vnll_wrld2790
    @vnll_wrld2790 Před 3 lety

    Now I am here to find out why I am always calm even when I lose my phone, i broke my tv screen,got robbed and many more times, 💩

  • @mumbos8211
    @mumbos8211 Před 6 lety

    I got mad today because my new drone and the wire was detached i ripped the charger out of the wall and it cut me so i had it i broke the drone i wish i didn't because my parents can fix wires so i'm not stuck with a x11

  • @Ekwefi787
    @Ekwefi787 Před 3 lety +2

    can you make a video about getting harassed by skeleton ships and Megalodons and ghost ships and krakens
    Edit: it will help my Health Because today i had a very hard time in Sea of Thieves

  • @dapper2562
    @dapper2562 Před 3 lety +3

    Her: focus on one thing at a time
    Me about to attempt golden Freddy mode: 👁 👄 👁

  • @tarnisment7400
    @tarnisment7400 Před 6 lety

    I need to know how to protect my self if someone tries to kidnap me and r A pE me. .

  • @mynameisnobody3931
    @mynameisnobody3931 Před 5 lety +1

    I keep getting angry at my son. 😕😕😕😕 i wish i could stay calm

  • @MotoRevelations
    @MotoRevelations Před 4 lety

    Much better played x75 playback speed.
    You're welcome

  • @12HarrisonHBrock
    @12HarrisonHBrock Před 10 lety

    All games in general lol :)

  • @wonderingaround945
    @wonderingaround945 Před 4 lety +2

    Yo, people actually stay calm?!
    I've went to a therapist and I've realized that I've never been calm. It's more like I'm just not freaking out yet. And I guess I've misunderstood that as calm. What even are emotions. They are stupid.

  • @Hidanandkakuzu4eva
    @Hidanandkakuzu4eva Před 10 lety +2

    i have really bad ADHD, most of the time i will start to cry and violently act out, i cant stand it, most of the times i have to go into another room to scream and cry, but nobody fucking knows about it, and they dont understand, i cant calm down, it is to hard, i keep crying and crying if i cant, what do i do

    • @crashendodt
      @crashendodt Před 10 lety +4

      Just stop behaving like a bitch!

    • @darthbolloful
      @darthbolloful Před 10 lety +2

      maybe its not adhd and your just spoiled?

    • @antonanoyumus1410
      @antonanoyumus1410 Před 9 lety

      A technique that helps me is to think I'm in a palace/house in my mind, and in that house I think of something calming. Another technique is to go to sleep to classical music it helps calm you down. When your angry just kill the person in your mind. Hope this helps.

    • @keaton91
      @keaton91 Před 9 lety

      Same here

    • @CommanderSp00ky
      @CommanderSp00ky Před 8 lety

      +Suicide Code try listening to vaporwave xd

  • @sketchwish5982
    @sketchwish5982 Před 11 lety +1

    Stay calm and try not to fart.

  • @daniellerickel7947
    @daniellerickel7947 Před 5 lety

    i get mad really fast and i have anger problems

  • @karenbressler4716
    @karenbressler4716 Před 11 měsíci

    Help there is no reason for me to be upset I live alone have no friends and family and am not calm because I am mad about being alone

  • @acandycoloredclown7005

    I’m always calm yet I look concerned or serious all the time please help

    • @kimc.1483
      @kimc.1483 Před 4 lety +1

      The Aquayeet King It’s unfortunately seems to be a case of the RBF. I can relate.

  • @saishankar2486
    @saishankar2486 Před 7 lety +1

    in 6 minutes my results will be out wtf should I do ?

  • @arulkumaranp75
    @arulkumaranp75 Před 4 lety

    You are God

  • @Deathvader121
    @Deathvader121 Před 11 lety

    Anyone else here for cod?

  • @ts3858
    @ts3858 Před 2 lety +1

    Switch to herbal teas...truth

  • @Ronin_Wrath
    @Ronin_Wrath Před 4 lety +1

    league of legends brought me here

  • @sniperx5842
    @sniperx5842 Před 8 lety +43

    or just smoke a lot of weed

    • @infamoussydney1697
      @infamoussydney1697 Před 7 lety

      sniper x True

    • @slkjess1206
      @slkjess1206 Před 6 lety +4

      Weed puts holes in your brain especially in younger people , which leads to health problems in the future

    • @lutfizayed5699
      @lutfizayed5699 Před 5 lety

      @@slkjess1206 lmao 'puts holes in your brain' typical religious spew - and your proof lies where? fuck outta here kid

  • @VoidZeda
    @VoidZeda Před 4 lety

    Mobile legends brought me here

  • @alanduncan1980
    @alanduncan1980 Před 5 lety

    ....from the evil forces of Skeletor!

  • @CentristToday
    @CentristToday Před 11 měsíci

    This was so unhelpful.

  • @kielanino471
    @kielanino471 Před 5 lety

    Is that all ? Just the breathing???

  • @tay2255
    @tay2255 Před 3 lety

    If i can't stay calm.. Should I lay off the fruit shoots, coke, vimpto, lolipops, sherbet and more sherbet for a while?

  • @Daaavee69
    @Daaavee69 Před 11 lety

    League of Legends.

  • @georgeschlaline6057
    @georgeschlaline6057 Před 7 lety

    fapping doesn't work it makes it worse, The guilt causes worry

  • @lukecameron7006
    @lukecameron7006 Před 9 lety +1

    what if you broke you leg in dirt bike crash

    • @fefes2703
      @fefes2703 Před 8 lety +5

      "That's okay I'm glad that it hasn't gotten worse. It's alright stay relaxed" that should be your inner thought. As she's mentioned practice!

  • @Gepsutin
    @Gepsutin Před 8 lety +1

    Very dark eyes O_O

  • @romeliapolly2519
    @romeliapolly2519 Před 3 lety

    After many failed attempts with other brands, I finally found this brand. Weedborn products are the best and I don't think I will ever need to look for another CBD supplier. I would recommend for practically any health problem.

  • @missykittens0350
    @missykittens0350 Před 5 lety

    I don't think this video is helpful because I'm so stressed I got bitten BADLY so it's not helping and I'm hurting badly so yeah sorry but for me it's not helping with the video

  • @amysanimations7671
    @amysanimations7671 Před 8 lety +1

    that was horrible I actually got me annoyed listening to her repeat the same words over and over and over again than I was before watching this

  • @smoothieking44
    @smoothieking44 Před 11 lety

    haha no but thats funny

  • @madisonwilliams9864
    @madisonwilliams9864 Před 9 lety +15

    Why does she blink so much

    • @saisandeep11
      @saisandeep11 Před 7 lety +1

      to stay calm

    • @rickgrimes4831
      @rickgrimes4831 Před 6 lety +2

      She doesnt blink much at all

    • @feiwaan
      @feiwaan Před 6 lety

      That's just how she is I guess or because she's old?

    • @Salmanul_
      @Salmanul_ Před 6 lety

      People blink alot when they're talking

  • @realisticeyeball
    @realisticeyeball Před 10 lety +3

    i dont think those fucking bongos are going to help anybody keep calm. (lol)

  • @ikennaunamadu4692
    @ikennaunamadu4692 Před 6 lety +3

    I was distracted by your lopsided nostril

    • @collin.256
      @collin.256 Před 6 lety +2

      ceroVK u r actually fucked

    • @halaambe
      @halaambe Před 5 lety +1

      hehe i didn't notice until i saw this comment.

    • @dabosue05
      @dabosue05 Před 5 lety

      You seem pretty mature.

    • @kossiscott1002
      @kossiscott1002 Před 5 lety

      ikenna unamadu you’re an idiot 😁

  • @johnmann2955
    @johnmann2955 Před 8 lety

    Useless

  • @xtremesarcasm8025
    @xtremesarcasm8025 Před 4 lety

    Video did not help at all.

    • @VZRVELL
      @VZRVELL Před 2 měsíci

      Stupid comment

    • @VZRVELL
      @VZRVELL Před 2 měsíci

      Stoopid comment