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- TODAY I AM COMMENTING ON THE HIT NETFLIX SHOW SEASON 3, EXPLORING TWO COUPLES WHO WERE NOT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THEIR FIANCEE.
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The last few minutes of the video just remind me of the quote “don’t leave something good to find something better , cause once you realise you had the best , the best has found better “
Yikes
Love this!
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@@blessedbythebest1003 what
@@Italianbabymakingpasta yikes… 😏 as in, good point.
Yeah the biggest issue with Zanab was that she set herself up for failure constantly and imo insecurity makes people more unattractive. She told him she would look like a different person beforehand which was why he made that comment, and then even after he said I’m so attracted to you she questioned it by pointing out all the things “wrong” with here in that moment. So many other examples of her putting these negative thoughts into his head with her own mouth and comparing herself to the other ladies. I’m not saying Cole is blameless, he’s clearly pretty insensitive and also not emotionally intelligent so doesn’t realise it’s all a cry for reassurance, he just thinks it’s all jokes and goes with it.
This explanation makes so much sense. Thank you!
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Well said!!
Exactly!!! 💯👏🏾👏🏾
And what's crazy is that Nancy literally told Bartise that his type clearly hasn't worked out for him and he still didn't get it. I just wish these women had some self esteem about themselves to know they can find and deserve better.
Maybe it’s the shame of getting married to the guy and not wanting to go back on your words could make us feel very shameful but walking away from a bad relationship is better than staying in a toxic one!
What was there to “get” he wasn’t attracted to her period. It’s not something that can be changed or forced.
It just is or it isn’t.
SHE is the one that didn’t get it. And to add onto it, they weren’t compatible.
She was wayyyy too good for him. Idek how that relationship happened 😓
@@blackswan6257 I meant "get" as in sticking to his type isn't working out for him (he's not in a happy committed relationship, assuming that's what he wants) so maybe he should consider not focusing so much on physical attributes. I agree that he and Nancy were not compatible; they were trying to force something that would never work. Still, there was a lesson in the whole experience that he completely missed.
@@blackswan6257 I feel kinda the same. She didn’t take any hints and he put the cheat sheet right in front of her
Most the people who go on these shows (Love is Blind, Married at First Sight ) need THERAPY not to pursue a relationship.
I feel like most people that go on are curious but producers definitely wean out stable contestants bc they want drama
@@yamiletmacias5311 Great point
like zanab
I’ve tried to force attraction to someone in the name of not being shallow, also because he “treats me right” in the long run I could’ve saved his time. It’s was painful for both of us.
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Same! Happened to my ex. Best person but no physical attraction. It was tough for both of us
Raven is not a narcissist. She is a confident woman who goes for emotional connection, stability and respect over shallowness, physical attraction, and fickleness
What do you think about her jumping jacks in the pod?
@@ola3rd i think she did that cause she was bored. She wasnt that into the guy and his sob stories.
@@ola3rd I mean from a person with ADHD I could not sit still for a while when I was younger. And still now I have problem with paying attention too long without another( multiple others) stimulation(s) on the side. Some people just need to be doing something all the time. She said it herself, they spend hours in those pods, she just needed to move and relax her muscles like yeah it wasn’t the best but it wasn’t the worst either. Bartise took it badly because everything that doesn’t revolve 300% around him hurts his feelings( so like everything)
@@Thatmainchick for real
I agree, Raven is definitely not.a narcissist.👍The true narcissist is Zenab. Insecurities is not an excuse to destroy anyone on national television. She enjoys playing the victim and she’s an evil liar.
This show is the biggest proof that love isn’t blind. All they can build without seeing each other is friendship. The rest is game of odds. If they see each other and there is no attraction then it’s not gonna work no matter how hard they try.
Exactly - if I am not attracted to someone on the outside I can only like them on the inside (personality wise) but never see them as a potential romantic partner because I just am not attracted to them 🤷🏾♀️
Tbh they're all extremely attractive people (the girls at least) so I find it offensive that the MEN have the audacity to say they don't find the girls they end up with very attractive
You're absolutely right, and this is why I could never go on a show like this LOL
Whew BREEEENYY!!! Snapped with the “don’t comment on her looks if we can’t comment on what’s in your bank account” 😂😂😂😂😂😮
Zanab is deeply insecure. Cole didn’t make it ANY better at all but I don’t think his remarks would have been so hurtful to her if she was more confident in herself to begin with
Nah I am not insecure about my weight but that only makes me _more_ annoyed if people make dumb comments like "Are you trying to lose weight to fit into your wedding dress?" Because at 5'4" 134lbs I don't need to lose weight... so I would assume that person only thinks so because THEY have a problem with my weight.
I love my dark skin but if someone kept bringing it up like "Wear sunblock, you don't need a tan"... same.
Especially if I'm sleeping with the person... little throwaway comments can hurt MORE if they are about things you actually felt confident about...
@@SunshineJoleen the comment about fitting into the wedding dress came after he learned she had only eaten 1 banana and spoon of peanut butter, plus she turned down the food he offered her earlier. It really wasn't a reach for him to think perhaps she's trying to get her "wedding dress body" by watching what she eats (which MANY women do, let's not pretend here). She came into the experience a deeply insecure, hyper analytical person and unfortunately a person with that mindset will always view small otherwise mindless remarks as an attack on their very being.
@@thedebbyoshow685 thank you Debby 🙌🏾
100% agree
If she was confident she would have left him by the fourth episode, like Meeee
Love might be blind but ego and lust have 20/20 vision. Bartiste was sexually attracted to Nancy because she's lovely and, uh, she was available. Once he saw Raven he was attracted to her for obvious reasons, and he saw her as someone who would bolster his standing among his peers and others.
Men will marry women that they aren't attracted to because they serve them. They will not only step out on these women...but will feel justified in doing so. And they'll not be proud to have them on their arm. Women should avoid these men at all cost.
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This video was exactly what I needed. There is a guy I have friend zoned but he’s a great guy and so many have pressured me saying I just need to date/marry him even though I’m unattracted to him! I refuse to do that because I don’t think that’s fair to him or me. Glad to hear you say I don’t have to force anything if it’s not there it’s just not there 🙌🏾
Honesty is the Best policy, As a Man kind of in ur Friends situation, I hope he finds some Woman who can looks past his hideous looks. Would give me hope.
@@harryschlitz4067 honesty is the best policy which has always been my reasoning for not pursuing a relationship with him. And just because I am not attracted to him doesn’t make him hideous.
So why you playing him like that he probably thinks you like him that's not cool
@@MsSummers2u Thank You for Replying and Yes I agree, Honesty is the best, Hideous is a harsh word, Sorry..I have had it used on me more than a few times when Females thought I was not listening So….
I thought I was the only one. Attraction is important to me. I felt bad for not being attracted but still being pressured to settle
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
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Video suggestion: I personally and I know many other women have gone through relationships that left them feeling less than and the first thing a lot of us like to do is “glow up” not realizing that the physical transformation/ successes does not mend the brokenness inside and if anything it just reaffirms that we will somehow now be worthy once we achieve xyz… with my last boyfriend even tho he treated me amazing he told me that black women were not his first preference so I ended things but my self esteem took a big hit. I would love a video on how to heal INTERNALLY and release the shame and low self worth we feel from allowing less than we deserve. Thanks Breeny! Your videos touch so many lives I love you so so much ❤❤❤❤❤
Love this!!
Girl I feel you!
I love this comment. I totally feel this way too. This is actually why since my last breakup in April of this year, I've taken a beat before immediately running to the gym. I realized that only addressed part of the issue, and actually that issue is the only reason why I'm single now, so it's imperative that I address that first, then work on the physical later.
@@Londya I’m glad you could resonate 🥰 but yeah we really have to be aware of our intentions behind certain “healing” practices. Wishing you the best in your journey!
Same here. My ex (we started in April and I broke up with him for the third time in November) kept telling me to watch my budget on food. In particular fast food, McDonald’s. So I first wanted to hit the gym. But now I realise “Hold on. Is it my appearance tho? I’m healthy. And I love my body. So it’s not health related. Do you really need to hit the gym when you run in the weekend?” And idk. It was just an epiphany so I definitely understand. I still have a long way to go in understanding what the root cause is. But we got this sis ❤
No because if they don’t your mention beauty first cut your losses from the beginning. Attraction is foundation of a relationship and the way the men on the show treated the women they weren’t attracted to confirms the hypothesis.
You know what I found interesting while watching this season? Its how Bartise was always talking about the physical attraction but then when he was talking to his sister she was telling him (and im not qouting her) "you arent superficial. You arent like people who only look at appearance" and I just felt uncomfortable cus the entire time I was repeatedly thinking "he is super superficial and childish"
You’re absolutely right! I kept saying during the show Bartise and Cole are both immature people only focusing on superficial things. They were both not ready to get married to anyone.
The difference between Cole & Bartiste is that Bartiste just wouldn’t let the looks thing go. He’s also someone who would never be satisfied because he thinks love is based on feelings rather than actions. That’s why all the “love” in his past relationships “fizzled out”. Cole was willing and wanted to try. He legit wanted to marry her. Both immature clearly but I definitely give Cole the benefit of the doubt.
@@Belindarko the only reason why cole focused on superficial things is because she did, point blank. She even told him before she took of the make up that she would look different, but no one remembers for some reason.
Dude rates her a 9/10.
watching this video made me realize that I never wanted marriage I've just wanted to be validated which is why my type is my type. Never knew stability in my relationships and now I'm realizing its because that wasn't what was important to me. Not feeling rejected was. Finding some that made me feel like I had some type of solid reason to be alive and that the way I could show up for the world was needed in some way. Someone who would continue to affirm that for me so that I could finally have the strength to live instead of just survive. Wow so thankful for this video.
Great selfreflection!
This is deep!
I feel you 💕
Yep, I think Colleen didn't want to feel rejection again like she did with Cole. So, she settled for an emotionally unstable guy, Matt. She felt validated by him, but I don't think he's right for her.
I never want to be with a man who uses the term 'nut' or calls a woman's parts 'a box'. They also use violent language like 'hit' in some of those clips you shared. Those guys seem kinda gross.
*It's so so limiting when someone is fixated on their type.* I'm forever going to be attracted to men with beautiful hands, but am I going to not date someone who's a great person, honest, full of integrity and life just because they don't have the best looking hands. That would be mad!!
Ditch your type and you may surprise yourself by attracting someone truly great!
Loved this video. A great inspiration for my own channel 💕
I think that's reductive. Attraction has a strong connection with biology. Often humans are unconsciously driven to find mates with compatible but disperate immune systems. The heterozygous advantage is also a huge factor. "Types" can be a way to explain these preferences. We should allow and not judge people with their sexual selection, it's a part of nature.
@@happygolucky9004 @Happy GoLucky there's definitely a reason why we're attracted to certain people, but I think it can be very limiting if we're too fixated on that and never try something outside of our usual type.
You may not like peas because you never ate them. But what if you tried 😉
@@IEVAKambarovaite I think that's assuming that attraction is a choice. Forcing yourself to eat peas when you've never had them and forcing yourself into sleeping with someone are two different things.
@@happygolucky9004 it's just a metaphor 😊 I guess, I'm just trying to express that I've noticed from my own experience and people I know that someone's type maybe very limiting and it's always worth being open minded. You don't have to be sleeping with someone you're not attracted to, but you can definitely go on two dates. Attraction sometimes grows.
@@IEVAKambarovaite I think that's a nice sentiment and glad that works for your life. It won't be right for everyone though and I think it's important not to judge people for their feelings and attractions. If someone feels strongly about sticking to their type that should be not only allowed but also not judged or convinced they should do otherwise.
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Before dating my boyfreind I wasn't physically attracted at all, then we become super good friends and I started falling involve with his personality, then started becoming physically attracted haha. Now I think he's the hottest guy ever 😂😂
He's probably not bad looking to begin with.
Yes this happened to me once I meet someone I wasn’t attracted too but overtime I thought they were the hottest guy I have ever met😂 and another time I couldn’t get passed the looks no matter what. The guy had a good personality but I couldn’t get passed the looks.
@@friendlyneighborkai265 cause attraction and personality go hand in hand you need both.
@@tobiaslawrence8928 yeah this is why I don’t agree with the people who say looks don’t matter because it definitely does
@@friendlyneighborkai265 they matter to me I would rather look at someone's heart
I had to learn the hard way that you can't force attraction and that nothing can make up for attraction in a relationship.
Thank you Breeny!
I feel you…. and I think it puts you in trouble and in danger when you go for somebody even though you know for a fact that they’re just totally not the catch for you….
from experience, i personally disagree. i’ve been in relationships where i didn’t find the person attractive at first and i insisted on looking for “things” that would make me attracted to them and it worked
@@hannalowercase5928 the same for me,i met someone i was obsessed with him and he's not,but in the end he becomes obsessed with even more then me!
@@hannalowercase5928 well I think people are different I cannot be with someone I don't find physically attractive
I mean yeah. But most of men aren’t attractive while their wives are more attractive. So it can work but men are immature and stupid.
Thank you!!! I truly never got how people don't understand how just because you find someone attractive does not mean I want to be with that person. I've run across numerous men that were attractive (me, friends, strangers all knew this) but I would never date them. Or that I don't have a type, I just have characteristics and the guy must be attractive to ME! it's so weird that ppl can't grasp this. I've had men tell me in my face the "type" of men they can see me with not knowing I actually try to stay away from men like that because their ego and attitude is 0/10. I met a guy recently who I never thought I would like but I did.
I’m at a point where I don’t have to be attracted to a man. He should be clean and well groomed, takes care of his body, with a nice smile. Those are my physical requirements. I am attracted to intelligence, and men who are attracted to me.
You bring up a good point about this. This is why I believe that women shouldn’t shoot their shot. You can be beautiful but you’ll never know if you’re his type. If you’re not his type, he may engage you for a while, or sleep with you but he doesn’t want you. He didn’t want you to begin with.
Yes 💯
Facts! We sabotage ourselves as women when we try to make the moves... let the man pursue and chase.
@@princessslaya937 she is saying the opposite of this
I'd always care about looks too along with personality if a guy doesn't look good i won't be attracted to him even if he has a great personality and I'm certain most men won't approach or want to be with a woman that they don't find attractive
@@jeshurundaniel794 thank you.
One of the biggest confidence boosters I’ve had is when I started taking my makeup off around my husband, he would always complement me more. He will always say baby. You are so beautiful Waymore than when I have my make up on that definitely as a woman makes you feel good when you can feel beautiful and not have to put your face on.
Love is not blind because Cole and Colleen would of been perfect for each other 🙄
Literally!
I know why he rejected her😤😤😤
@@fabibibine Girl why because I cannot figure it out 😭
I just got out of a relationship with a man who was not my type and that I was not attracted. I dated him anyway and I kept on using the good qualities he had to gloss over the fact that he was not for me. Breeny, this video was refreshing and I will add on your points to the lessons I learned from my most recent relationship.
Absolutely agree with every point you made, especially regarding Raven and Bobblehead. I also want to add that my opinion on Bamboo is that he is very much in his feminine energy and craves so much validation like you mentioned. Raven was very put off by Boomerang because she could energetically sense his insecurity and feminine energy that made her disgusted by him. Raven is clearly a match for a true masculine leader, which Balloon was the opposite of.
LOL! All the names for Bartise who I personally don't regard as "hot" at all. He's just so high on himself and it's obvious. I think he has deeper issues to reject an ultra feminine girl like Nancy who is the rare ride-or-die-for-her-man type of woman.
@@ktp. I don’t think Nancy is a feminine woman, simply because she never stood up for herself or her boundaries. Bartise is the real feminine here, that’s why he was attracted to Nancy bc she’s in her masculine and doesn’t trust her intuition.
@@LaraOmar girl, you get it. I love seeing women get it. People think femininity is about being cute and wearing dresses. It’s more savage than that.
When Cole said " you do look like a different person now" was the nail in the coffin. 😬
It was a joke cos she had said it to him earlier in the day and then the scary monster thing, I would have said you’re a scary monster. It’s about not having the same kind of humour and it’s unfortunate. The more insecure someone is the harder it is to love them because they don’t even love themselves
Bartise didn’t like Raven until he saw her. I think that’s what she meant. In the pod without seeing her he said she was shallow but when he saw her then he was like I think we would worst perfectly together. He was just driven by lust.
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I personally don’t think raven was acting narcissistic. She said she didn’t like that he seemed to only like her looks wich a narcissist would 😊
He seems like he doesn’t like how insecure she is. I don’t think he cares about looks so much. He doesn’t like the fact that she just won’t loosen up and be herself and be carefree. To him that’s what turns him off about her, not her physical appearance. What does it matter how you look if you’re going to be insecure and not be yourself because you’re so caught up in looking perfect. Beautiful women still get left and get cheated on, let’s be honest.
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A couple of things
1. For some people physical attraction isn't important, the same way not everyone wants a rich partner. Different people prioritise different things
2. I think having a type is similar to having a fetish. If you can only be attracted to someone with hazel eyes, something else is going on there
AGREED
Facts
Yes! Agree!
Agree especially with the second one. Some people literally don't have a type and when people with a specific type hearvthat they sideyel it. I used to myself . As in getting older my gosh the physical is nice bothbwoukd be perfect but I am becoming more flexible.For some people it isn't about physical attributes as much. That's okay
Why are you saying people? Say men find looks more important. Women don’t care that much. Men ain’t shit.
I'll never forget last season when shake said love is blurry loooool
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I believe that if God has someone for me, they will find me. I do not have to dress up with intentions or act in a kinda way for anyone. If a man approaches me and losses interest't cool, but I am not searching for nobody. The is sooo much pressure in finding the right person it is starting to be boring, honestly. I just wish we can all just relax and focus. Things happen a lot for people who do not care and just leave their lives. True love will locate me, that is my belief.
My issue is that a lot of men always believe that you want them for just talking to them.
Why did these women stay with these men after they talk to them like this, is the real issue!
No self confidence
Breeny you are looking sooo amazing girl!!! I'm so proud of you keep it up you are glowing 😩💕
Thank you beauty!!
as a young 21 year old man, i learned alot from your views on attraction. thank you so much for sharing your views!!!!
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A man being attracted to you vs you being his type is a big big difference.
When your his type - you could do no wrong in his eyes , he will chase and pursue you.
When he's attracted to you- he will settle for you and tolerate you.
I can't wait to see your reactions to the second half. Because this whole season feels like a dumpster fire...
Every video you produce has so much value, Breeny! Thank you sis🙏🏼✨
Thank you so much!
I’ve been with people who I initially did not find attractive and then realised I should’ve gone with my initial instinct. I agree that us women value other qualities besides attractiveness but looks do help. Thanks for another great video!
I think he brought up “you look like a totally different person” as a joke because that’s what she said earlier. He even replied “that’s what you told me!” I don’t think he genuinely meant it or found her unattractive at all, He just thought he was being funny (but still I’d hate to hear it).
Exactly! People are picking apart his comments without context 😓
Ladies let’s not forget that when there are guys like Cole and Bartise in this world there are also guys like Brennon ❤
Brennen is a cuck
He’s spineless
But Brennon is a bbbbb
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He was alright. I think they just both settled for each other honestly.
Absolutely spot on about Bartiste!! Love your analysis and yes they all need a slap 🤣🤣🤣
I have a type. I believe there are levels to attraction and when you are with your type, you are even more attracted to them. For instance, ( I would not prefer to use a scale of 1-10 but for the example) ,I would be more attracted to an 8 of my type than a 9 of someone who is not my type. For men, I believe they are less flexible concerning attraction compared to woman. Remember, from what I can recall, Cameron's previous girlfriend was black...Lauren was black. He got his type.
You're so fun, Breeny! It would be so cool to chill with you and watch Love is Blind! ✨️ 💜💙🤍 💅🥂
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Personally, as a female, I understand the "guy's" perspective after sex, because I'm the same way. And in my experience, the guys that I met were not like that to me. It's not a gender based thing, it's an individual thing.
I just watched this last night and this whole situation made me so mad, I'm glad you're covering it!
This is a good example of why Alexa and Brennon did work well. They both came there or the right reasons, yet are total opposites.. Same with Raven and SK. Its very important to be genuinely open minded you go on a show like this.
Idk if Brennon & Alexa will work long-term. Hopefully I’m wrong.
Love your explanation of types!! I tell people all the time I don't have a type. And I believe you're spot on about the ego view of it all. Types are telling on how mentally and emotionally matured he really is and what he's ACTUALLY looking for!
Breeeeeeny this vid had me feeling like I was sitting around talking with a girlfriend!! You are fireeeeeee!
To be fair to Cole, if you listen to their dialogue when Zanab is taking off her makeup and Cole says you DO look like a different person, he follows it up with "No, that's what you told me." And Zanab confirms, "I did tell you that but..." but prior to that she makes it sound like he came up with that out of the blue by acting all surprised. Zanab has clearly been setting traps for him throughout this whole thing. He's just not smart enough to realize it and ignore her insecure statements. Instead he makes jokes. I honestly think he's just a playful person and is used to speaking his mind all the time, especially when there's not much to talk about. Despite this flaw, I think it's clear he's never had any bad intentions.
Side note- my husband is also playful like Cole and makes a lot of jokes. I see it as a form of affection, almost like a love language. And he makes me laugh all the time so it works for us. I think Cole just needs to find someone that suits him in this way
He didn’t deserve Nancy, she truly is too good for him. Im glad Raven shut him down, I know his ego was hurt 😂
Honestly 😅👏🏾👏🏾
Raven plan backfired on her. She was goin for resources not looks. But once reality hit that she have to consider someone else's way of living hit her like a ton of bricks.
I’m so happy I’m over with wearing makeup. The sheer insecurity and inconvenience wearing makeup imposed on me, I had to quit wearing. Zaynab scene in the hot tub is sad, truly sad.
Thanks for the video. As you mentioned, many people on that show are driven by lust and a huge desire for fame. Love is a commitment made by people who are mature enough to know that looks, while important, cannot outweigh personality compatibility and goal alignment cuz that's what will make a relationship go the distance, not the sexual desire that will wear off once another hottie enters your vicinity 🙄
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Raven is not a narcissist
My type has brought a good time but never happiness, Security, protection, compassion, and reliability. It was heartbreak city. I don’t believe types form healthy long standing relationships, unless your type is being emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically appreciated, respected, loved, and honored. Go where you are appreciated and taken care of, where there’s a partnership and understand that relationships are responsibility and hard work. I’m engaged to a man that isn’t my “type “ but he’s hot, sincere, provides, protects, committed and many other things that made me realize my type was a limiter that only cut my blessings short.
Amen
Another gold content love love this. Straight facts, and fresh topic that I haven’t heard. I definitely agree that men are really particular with looks but not so much with us because we’re more in the side of how they make us feel. ❤️💯
I like whoever likes me back. I don't have time for types. You miss out on so many options when you give yourself tunnel vision focusing on types. It's illogical to me.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder for sure. My ex was the most beautiful man in the world to me when I met him, others did not see it and said I was out of his league but I didn’t care, they weren’t the ones dating him. We broke up because of his insecurities but I still think he was a gorgeous man. Ethiopian and Egyptian, he had a very unique look.
This is exactly what is destructive about boring beauty standards. I see many uniquely gorgeous people who either have no self confidence or are self-hating by setting out to date anything that fits the North American version of beauty.
Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder
My auntie Breeny is back at it again 💯 I love how you are able to take these shows and pull PROPER perspectives. Keep them coming, Breeny! ❤️
Yes Cole clearly wasn't attracted to Zanab but he was also using negging, but he does it in such a subtle way, soo Zanab ends up looking like the crazy/dramatic one
Nope. I think she was actually dramatic. The clip of the tangerines right at the end of the reunion just shows how insecure she is/was and how much she blows things out of proportion
That Bartise is real nut job this season was so messy thnx gal for the review honestly am so disillusioned by love lately.
Whew Thankyou i needed to hear thissss… my male friend is so lovely but im just not feeling the attraction.. time to cut itttttttt and set the boundaries of the friendzone. Also you look so beautiful 🧚♀️💕
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Yes I love what you said in this video you made some key points. I just don’t understand how people date or marry people they don’t find attractive 😅
You inspired me to start my channel I really celebrate and appreciate you
I’ve only dated men that I FIND attractive. A 10 or 9 TO ME. But to other people, some of them don’t find them attractive even in general. For me it’s what I like, I don’t care what other people like. It would be MY man 😂
I really feel like the US version of love is blind is so disingenuous. They seem to push all the couples to go to the altar when you can tell most of the couples won’t get married. I think the Japan version is far more respectful
The Japan version is not multi cultuuraal or different backgrounds
Its ok to say another woman is attractive as long as he makes his woman feel the most beautiful. Batiste didn't do this after commenting on raven. No respect for him. He's a narcassist 100%
No no no!!!!Raven was def not a narcissists. Im from the states and in the south most pretty girls act like her. Were taught to be cautious and to allow the man to chose you! Which is a feminine trait. Barstool was very sassy & came off shallow which turned her off.Shes super confident and has standards and boundaries. Which every woman should have. She moved through the pods correctly most women could learn how to date properly by watching her 🤷🏾♀️
Barstool 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 !! Your comment is on point 💯
@@nikigracevlogs right! Idk what it is but Raven is being crucified for acting like a lady it’s weird . They was literally in the pods for 10days. Theres no way to be in real love. She was the smartest one.
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Thank you ! She’s the smartest person on this show and I felt like she learned a lot from watching SheraSeven1 or FDS. She is graceful tbh
For Zanab and Cole I feel like the attraction thing was a race thing. She's Indian I think and I just feel like he was looking for a typical yt girl. He's a messy child anyway.
I think they both felt some type of way of how each other looked. Cole is just so honest and doesn’t know which things he should and should not say.
I've listen to probably a dozen reviews ...this one definitely topped the others ....detailed and brutally honest review.
So glad I found you! You are spot on in your analysis on these couples!!👏🏽
Love is blind. I have fallen in love with men a couple of times who I did not find find attractive at all when I met them, but falling in love with them made them gorgeous. Sorry you've never had that experience.
I had this experience twice and can safely say the power of someone's personality is much greater and richer than fleeting looks. I also see lately that if someone does not fit the boring standard of beauty, they're bullied and treated poorly which shatters an otherwise great personality. The mindset of today is rather destructive.
Zanab was way too insecure and always negative. He was immature but didn't need to be dealt with like her child. It was bs for them to railroad him on the reunion show.
Ikr 😢
That's why I don't wear make-up. Because at the end of the day I will always have to take it off, I see it as a waste of time, it also made me more insecure than I should have been. Its been 5 years I didnt wear make up, I spend time on eating good food and taking care of my skin and I always look the same, I'm used to my natural face and there is nothing bothering me anymore 👌
I’ve never been the one to wear makeup but I can imagine how scary it would be to take it off and have my other half see my real face for the first time, regardless of how confident I was 🫣😅 …thank God it’s something I was never interested in.
I'm sorry but I find generous and caring men automatically attractive. I don't mind being the star in the relationship
Bartise is a little boy and it showed
That last part of knowing your man's previous type... Absolutely necessary!
i disagree. i think cole was attracted to zanab from the beginning. however, zanab was very insecure and passive aggressive. her personality was different from the pods. the first thing he said about her is she is beautiful when he saw her. i think how she was in the pods was different in person and that played apart in why he started to lose the physical attraction for her. we also have to remember they dated these folks for like what a week(?) or so before becoming engaged. so i definitely can see him still having that attraction to his other top pick. So when he saw colleen of he was physically attracted to her because she is gorgeous. also she was nice and joking so it added on to that. (he was still wrong for the pool incident but i get it.) i honestly think of zanab was more secure in her looks and etc. then they could have worked out. but she was constantly putting her own self down and projecting those insecurities onto Cole. She was setting herself up for failure with the mind tricks and testing Cole. Cole was not intelligent enough catch what was happening and fell into the trap each time. so in the end they were doomed.
i agree with what you said about barqueef.
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I went out with a guy for five years in my twenties and he never had real self esteem so he couldn’t love anyone else and I got hurt and I also learned a lesson not to sleep with someone unless you’re sure that it’s right
I see what you mean. But I’m not very attracted to most people in general, and when I do find myself attracted to someone they tend to look similar, fall into a specific “type”. There are certain features that I really enjoy and prefer. Obviously that’s not enough-intelligence, kindness, emotional maturity, and personality are very important and things I cannot live without. So from my perspective, I don’t feel bad about my type because that’s literally just the only thing I feel sexual attraction for, and it’s not something I’m willing to forgo either 🤷🏼♀️ Too many people try to tell women to settle as it is.
"type" usually stems from a deep rooted emotional connection that is linked to how you see yourself.
Well the fact that you want other intrinsic values from your partner besides the physicalities that you find sexually arousing, means that you don’t necessarily have a “type”. That’s your attraction list. Especially, if said person have the physicality but not the intrinsic part and you don’t want them.
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@@Waitingonasunrise Eugenics is Western science and based on Western experience. I do not value Western science but I can appreciate what it does. Everything we do in life even the selection of our partners is a reflection of what we think of ourselves, however positive or negative. If I am short, and I like height, I will seek a tall partner. If I am short, and I love my height, I will seek a short partner. Both are self projection. You can say it is natural selection but natural to whom? Usefulness and preference are two different things dear. Wanting a tall or short partner is not useful but it is preferred to some people. And useful to whom and in what context? Again, self projection.
@@Waitingonasunrise LOL......no you are using your western lens to assume height is a "universal" desirable trait. And it is not. Which species would have died out? Being black is not a universal desirable trait...is it dying out? nope. But a white woman who desires to be with a black man is projecting something about herself to be with a black man. Again, Western scientists use a basis to decide why certain traits are preferred over others, I do not buy it. Also "universal" implies more people are choosing a trait. Now if I do not want to be left out...then I will go along with said trait, knowing deep down that it is not my preferred trait. But because my feeling of belonging is superior to my desire for a short man, I will choose a tall man. Hence, self projection. I do not want to be alone so I will choose a tall man to belong. Skinny women are preferred in Western countries but thicker/bigger women are preferred in other countries so what is the "universal" trait? Being skinny or big?
i can tell this will be good🙌🏾
Breeny, you are so stunningly gorgeous, and smart and insightful!
Great breakdown!! Learned a lot from this video!
I do kind of believe love is blind, I met my ex partner through a online podcast and he fell so in love with me after a couple of months got down on one knee. I slowly began to fall for him too. But we fell out of love due to our highs becoming lows.
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Love is not blind because he is your "ex" now 🤣🤣
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Just like men probably shouldn't comment negatively about women's looks--- women need to STOP asking questions they truly DON'T want to know the answers to.
Breezy could you pls give us content explaining about these whole vibe of alpha male and female. Just for some of us to understand ourselves better.
Also would you consider yourself an Alpha female?
I feel like this is such an important topic and we could have no other better person unpack that whole conversation best other than you. ❤️🌹
I really hope Cole watches this... he really needs to
It was a joke cos she had said it to him earlier in the day and then the scary monster thing, I would have said you’re a scary monster. It’s about not having the same kind of humour and it’s unfortunate. The more insecure someone is the harder it is to love them because they don’t even love themselves
you know what, you made some amazing points! good catch.
Agreed love is definitely not blind I pay attention to red flags especially if the conversation is only physical
Thanks sis,,,for another great conversation/pep talk.. Your'e were
really missed ❤️
“I wanna show these men that Breenys OUTSIDE!!!!!” Lol this is so true 😂 Thank you for your honesty.
Breenyyyy I love these kind of reviews from you, pure gold 🥹
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Beautiful analysis Breeny ... very insightful 👌
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This is such an eye opener! We need more videos like this Breeny! It was so well said 💓 always curious to see what your next video is, love you girl 🌸
The "scary monster" comment was a joke. He literally said "Im so attracted to you". I watched the series and Zanab is crazy insecure. That's why she picks up on all the "negative" comments. She blows things up in her mind because of what she believes about herself. Plus she is a master manipulator. She is the worst type of person because she lacks all self awareness and places herself as a victim.
Insulations are not funny to be joke
Not everyone has the same sense of humour. If Cole was mature enough to read the room, he would have realised that his throwaway comments weren't landing the way he expected. It has nothing to do with Zanab being insecure. He just said a lot of dumb things for no reason. "You look so pretty today. I think it's the lipstick." Utterly tone deaf.
Absolutely agree with this
@@SunshineJoleen cole is immature, he says certain things that be off putting.. u look pretty today I think it’s the red lipstick… u look different without makeup.. you are a 9/10 I think Colleen and raven are beautiful.. 10/10… she had a lot of grudges from that also his immature demeanour and blunt opinions…. Cole brought the worst side of her
She may very well be insecure, but that doesn’t make what he’s saying alright. He knows she is insecure and that his unwarranted remarks are making her uncomfortable yet he persists in digging in at her irregardlessly.
Raven isn’t a Narcissist, I didn’t see that anywhere on this show…
I don’t think she is a narcissist but she def gave vibes that she’s wayyy too good for everybody 🤷🏾♀️