Fiancé's Depression Caused Him to Ghost Me for Weeks Before Our Wedding. I Had a Total Meltdown...
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- čas přidán 2. 06. 2024
- Fiancé's Depression Caused Him to Ghost Me for Weeks Before Our Wedding. I Had a Total Meltdown When He Bailed Right as We Were Signing the Papers.
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0:00 - Story 1
11:57 - Story 2
#redditrelationship #redditupdate #redditstories
"He's loyal"
If that's him being "loyal", I don't even want to see him being disloyal...
Girl is in for a world of hurt
her: “i want advice”
*”leave him”*
her: “thats not the one i want”
In OP’s defence it’s hard take reddit seriously when it seems like reddits go to fix all for every relationship snag is to break up.
Random person: “We couldn’t decide what to eat for breakfast.”
Reddit: Wow You need to divorce and go no contact. Get full custody of the kids. He’s so toxic. 😂
well her mom also gave the same advice @@BrightElk
@@zenplaysadoptme9885Yeah I know. I’m not saying it wasn’t good advice. In fact I left a comment earlier saying I’m surprised she stayed with him as long as she did because I couldn’t do it. I’m just saying that reddit loves to burn bridges even when it’s not required so if someone asks for advice and doesn’t have their head on straight they just might see it as reddit doing reddit things again.
@@BrightElk okay that's kinda true
The fact that this channel’s description says “I promise I won’t bite…unless you’re an entitled parent” is crazy
Oh great, this story. The OP is a total pushover who doesn’t know the easy choice is to leave. I’d rather not deal with a guy who ghosts me once a week.
It's normal for this channel to post stories with doormat OP's who sometimes ask dumb questions that they should already know. Funny enough, they aren't the most "doormat" OP I've seen.
@@SYLVESTER-6782 somehow there is worse…like that one story where the OP’s husband cheated on her with her sister, then she fucked him and got pregnant while they were separating. The comments told her not to go back, and she did it anyways.
@@SYLVESTER-6782yep. Remember the NFT OP who married the “office fxck” for 10.5 years and allowing her to cheat on him SEVERAL times before finally leaving. That one has to be the most spineless man ever.
@@lanrelara9481The worst one I've seen from this channel was an OP who cheated on his wife 4 times and got mad at his future wife for cheating on him with some dude. She lied to him a few times and by the end, he was still willing to marry her.
@@lanrelara9481The most doormat OP I've ever seen was from a story titled "My wife is a parasite and I feel stuck" that OP is a moron.
0 sympathy for OP she literally acknowledges that what he is doing causes her a immense amount of pain and he will never change as she is getting ready to marry him and refuses to entertain the only logical advice
So…. You know this is a bad decision and you want the internet to help you justify this bad decision.
Good luck.
She clearly needs therapy. As someone that has a family member with mental health issues that affects their family as well and you can never help them if they don’t want to be help he will just draw her down with him.
@@Crisfer05 first, this story is fake. Second, you can not get upset when you ask a question and get an answer you don’t like. I mean you can get upset but then you look like an insane person.
I realized ghosting is about consent. When someone ghosts you, for weeks at a time, realize that they don't actually want to be with you & simply can't identify or say it out loud. A No is no, but silence is not a yes. If it isn't an enthusiastic yes, it's a No.
I paused to write this, so I don't have the full story, but I'm a ghoster/shut down type too, but what needs to be fundamentally understood by people who are like this, is that when someone is there for you, ESPECIALLY A PARTNER, don't give them the ghost. You HAVE to talk to them, and tell them what's going on, however you can (cause it's not always easy to parse out). Even in small ways, like, "It's just one of those days." Is how I tell my husband "idk how to talk about it, it's probably not even sorted in my own head, but, it's just a day, and tomorrow will probably be different", and he gets it, and has even adopted it too when he's not feeling super green, but can't explain why. It's a small sentence that's been pre-discussed, with options.
Like okay, it's one of those days. Watch tv and cuddle? Need to be alone? Favorite foods? Grab bag/all the above?
Then lastly, keep working on it. Keep trying to help yourself and your partner. Therapy, walks, jouraling, whatever. Recognize you got issues, and work on it. Period.
This.
3:23 I love how the OP is now somehow the victim because she played a very stupid game and won a very stupid prize… and now she is shocked. Somehow.
they always try that to make themselves fell better
She's going through the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
and i like to add one more revenge
@@DarkEinherjar is moron one of those stages?
@@JohnDoe-wh6ddthat falls under denial.
Second story: the missing drugs…..are menopause drugs.
Yeah but from what he describes they seem to dissappear at a way faster rate then they had before. Also to add that the daughter changing her behavior and having the breakdown leans heavily towards the mom talking to her and telling her to basically take the fall for her makes it really hard to be anything innocent.
@@brandontucker6958you do realize the drug, supplements, and meds work best when taken daily right?, im premenopausal and i have to deal with a lot of the same things the OPs wife does.
@@brandontucker6958 For what reason would you coerce your own daughter to lie to your husband if it's just a medical issue other than to hide your cheating? Those pills might not be for menopause. There could be other pills in the menopause pill container, and she just got sloppy in refilling them.
In my opinion, situations where a spouse is willing to lie and coerce their child into lying and siding with them aren't good people to be with and are often good manipulators. She might have married him for the lifestyle he could provide and put on an act to get him to love her. Once caught, she'll play the victim card for as long as she can, and when that is done, she'll go for the throat.
This does not mean she's 100% not in love with him to a degree. She might have just given in to temptation and decided she "wanted to live free" again, like in her youth.
But that's what I think. I could be completely wrong about this.
Bro the comments and Op's mom are giving her tough love 😂 This gotta be fake rage bait
Right!? Like there is no way someone can be this dense with no self awareness of the stupid question she is asking.
@@joeysonofjohn no man. I’ve seen it. When you go military, you see all kinds of things that *are* just utterly baffling. I have stories and stories y’all wouldn’t believe 😂😂😂
Ohhh snap. I was trying to be to show my edit and learned how to bold instead. Idk why that made me so happy 😂
@@joeysonofjohnnah bro those kinds of people actually exist.Once I literally had to punch my friend to make him break up with his gf who cheated on him with different dudes basically every week.
I honestly don’t know how this relationship lasted this long. You can’t use mental health issues as an excuse for everything. This is just cruel and intentional or not your actions have consequences and he clearly doesn’t want to change. He’s going to have to hit rock bottom first and that won’t be possible with OP in the picture.
Story 1 - This is why you don't count your chickens before they hatch. Op should have never used his last name before they were officially married. I also just can't with him wanting marriage counseling when they're not even married. Op doesn't have anxiety. That's the survival instinct telling op to cut her losses and run. Op would be getting clowned all over x10 if the genders were reversed. Op has everybody calling her an idiot and she thought total strangers with no skin in the game would be more merciful
Story 2 - That kind of overreaction came from built up emotion. I would have automatically assumed the wife was hiding something. I'm betting money she's having an affair.
Story 1 : "My boyfriend is great, loyal, we have a great life, he just has some cult issues !" *Finds out he has been gaslighting her AF for four years.* *Surprised Pikachu face.*
14:50 your wife explodes over that? There is something way wrong here.
You know what I noticed about "people"..... They want "family" but only under the guise of not having to have any trouble of dealing with other people's issues.
Why the hell would you want to tie yourself down to someone who doesnt give a shit about ghosting you, someone who is supposed to be there in sickness and health, thick and thin. How is he going to live up to those vows if he will ghost you for some stupid shit wtf
Rats, I want more follow-up to the second story.
What the hell OP even expected to happen? There's no help you can give to someone who doesn't trust you to share trauma, doesn't seek help for said trauma and thinks it's fine just running away the second trouble pops up.
OP and fiance are just ridiculous..
THIS GIRL IS SO ANNOYING LEAVE THE GUY ALONE
"My relationship was great"
No it wasn't
Op is totally delusional
This is the best dramatic channel
Lmao lets put the affair suspicion aside, you cant marry someone who is depressed thats not how a marriage should start
That dude is a mess and shouldn’t be with anyone period.
And the fact that you allowed yourself to be treated that way, you should take a break too to start loving yourself correctly.
If you do not love them exactly as they are, you have no business marrying them both for your sake and theirs. You can’t make someone change. They have to want to do it and to do it for themselves. If it’s for someone else, they’ll relapse.
Story one. They're both abroad. They're not together 24/7 or whatever. Their relationship isn't going to be good because they have no time together. It's a relationship of convenience. Not a relationship of love. She needs to grow the hell up and stop acting like a princess and he needs to man up and get some freaking psychological help. Both of them now need help. And Opie's mom is all tired of this bullshit. And I don't blame her
These stories were really something.
Im in a similar situation without the ghosting in the first story . Im dealing with a full blown narcissist and im struggling.
4:58 and op's mom totally right on that one
Imagine if the US brought their classified documents on their stealth military technology, showed it china, in effort to have a discussion about if they're engaged in espionage or not.
Bro, absolutely do not tell your wife in the second story. Tell your lawyer and your private investigator. 💀
The guy from story one is a master manipulator. You can't convince me otherwise.
I read something that said 'the person your with shows how much you love yourself' and yeah. Pretty self explanatory. 🤷
OP is a doormat. I do feel bad for her genuinely. Due to this man, her family had enough of her. Yes, people in Reddit are not obligated to be nice to you because well, sometimes people need to be blunt to see the truth.
Also, in my experience, people who leave cults and religions, or abusive situations, are much more likely to be abusive themselves. They justify it as getting 'even and fair' with the world. These people will ghost you and abandon you even if you knew them for yeats all because you annoyed them or they gaslighted you and you stood up for yourself. Compassion can be given but not one's backbone. Being firm goes a longer way than being blindly compassionate. You are a person, not a charity.
Dismissing people as doormats is quite possibly the least helpful thing you can contribute to the conversation.
The last thing someone in need of help should be getting is slapped in the face with contempt because being in an abuse cycle with a manipulator is somehow their fault.
I agree but when you have someone who knows that their situation is not ideal and is asking for help but does want to take advice of anyone. That's pretty annoying. No one wants to help someone like that
She's destroying herself. She's putting herself through that misery in pain Everyone's trying to give her a good solution to get away from him.Find somebody that is going to give you a 100%.But she won't stay with someone.That's gonna give you 20%.I need my partner to give me the same percentage of love and work that i'm giving to the relationship that we need to take a break or just split up
Dawg you need therapy not him wtf
she is just omg
she is acting like a "Pic Me" girl
oop another doormat story
At some point, you’re just bringing it on yourself.
And this have voting rights.
For the love of god this thing is teacher?
Girl 😭
Story 2: Wife is totally cheating and using the daughter as a scapegoat. Her angry and defensive overreaction betrays her guilt.
I hope this is fake 😂
Men can he sad too
ikr people think men are weak if they act sad
What do you mean? The first story was a gaslighting boyfriend?
@@gotenblack2542There’s sad and then there’s just general relationship neglect.
First forgot to comment
Im first
I AM EARLY
Imagine being so self centered that you think you're more important than an actual mental crisis.....
Going to need more context. If you’re having regular mental health crisis’s and you’re hurting other people around you in fundamental ways and refusing to do anything to improve or manage your mental health crisis so it’s not so painful for others then you’re selfish and they no longer are responsible for you.
Tard op.
OP: 🙈🙈🫨