The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins

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    If you keep finding yourself stuck in that loop of stress and avoiding the things you know you need to do, WATCH THIS.
    I give you my tools for dealing with procrastination… I know they’ll work for you too.
    If you struggle with procrastination, you're not alone. Research from a PhD at the University of Calgary found that 80-95% of college students are procrastinators.
    There's also nothing wrong with you. You don't lack willpower, drive, and focus. It also has nothing to do with your work and your ability to get it done.
    If you beat yourself up for procrastinating, that ends now. And here's why:
    You're looking at procrastination wrong. Rather than a trait or sign of motivation, it's simply a habit.
    A habit that comes about in response to life stress.
    In this video, learn the only way you can break the habit of procrastination-for good. This simple 4-step strategy will help you stop procrastinating and in the process make you happier and less stressed.
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Komentáře • 3,5K

  • @jatinmaharao6888
    @jatinmaharao6888 Před 4 lety +12078

    Do I struggle with procrastination? Nope I am really good at it.

  • @thomaspound115
    @thomaspound115 Před 5 lety +20018

    I’m procrastinating by watching a video on how to not procrastinate. ughhh mixed emotions

  • @ej9100
    @ej9100 Před 2 lety +3895

    1. Acknowledge the stress
    2. Count 5-4-3-2-1
    3. Interrupt the procrastination habit
    4. Do 1 thing ( at least for 5 minutes, and once you started, you will keep going)
    GOODLUCK EVERYONE!

  • @knowhowtodo
    @knowhowtodo Před rokem +731

    Procrastinating is one of the worst habits and sadly it's not easy to break.
    Everyone who is trying, good luck! 💪🏻

    • @nintensumphyrx4230
      @nintensumphyrx4230 Před rokem +9

      thabk you 😔

    • @marietambinya8878
      @marietambinya8878 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thanks 😢

    • @Phymacss
      @Phymacss Před 10 měsíci +1

      Thanks💔

    • @_Ginger_Tea_
      @_Ginger_Tea_ Před 9 měsíci +6

      If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
      Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
      I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
      If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
      Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤

    • @lostman8990
      @lostman8990 Před 5 měsíci

      Thank you, I appreciate your message. 🙏☮️☀️☯️

  • @akshatshah3961
    @akshatshah3961 Před 3 lety +2133

    “An hour is gone by”
    So relatable!

  • @maddyc503
    @maddyc503 Před 4 lety +8068

    I added it to watch later.
    No one can help me 🙄

  • @D-Man_Jam
    @D-Man_Jam Před 2 lety +687

    _"Procrastination is a form of stress relief"_
    Me who is stressed from procrastinating: *"I'm 4 parallel universes ahead of you."*

    • @selinaylacin1449
      @selinaylacin1449 Před 2 lety +100

      my stress affects my procrastination and my procrastination affects my stress. it’s a fucking loop!

    • @carnivoroussarah
      @carnivoroussarah Před rokem +25

      @@selinaylacin1449 is a cycle! Break the cycle!

    • @pravashi_382
      @pravashi_382 Před rokem +8

      Yeah it's a cycle of procastination...i saw a video by Ted Ed

    • @mansi3091
      @mansi3091 Před 10 měsíci +3

      Have you guys been able to break the cycle yet?

    • @aryanram02
      @aryanram02 Před 8 měsíci

      @@user-pv3mq7wx9t do u mind sharing how to do that lol thanks :))

  • @cupcakee993
    @cupcakee993 Před rokem +785

    I procrastinate way too much but once I start doing the work , I can do it for 15 hours straight without any break I just need to start bruh😭

    • @salmaakka1075
      @salmaakka1075 Před rokem +12

      Not your username I love it gsfqgqhjqkqlqjqgqv and am also here to stop procrastinating work and watchin bts's stuffs instead xd

    • @aislingdavis9066
      @aislingdavis9066 Před rokem +13

      Sounds like ADHD

    • @danacaro-herman3530
      @danacaro-herman3530 Před rokem +1

      That's awesome!!

    • @patriciaa4260
      @patriciaa4260 Před rokem

      I literally just did this 😭

    • @user-bz2rc2lq7q
      @user-bz2rc2lq7q Před rokem +16

      It's because you brain already knows that he's preparing for a hard task thats why you procrastinate

  • @birdgirl8390
    @birdgirl8390 Před 3 lety +3724

    Understanding that procrastination is a response/self-defence to stress is already a big step, thank you

    • @viharsarok
      @viharsarok Před 2 lety +37

      It's more like an inability to shift focus deliberately.

    • @funmilayofunmilayo5203
      @funmilayofunmilayo5203 Před 2 lety

      Pppppppppppppppppppppppp

    • @gocaines
      @gocaines Před 2 lety

      Yessssa

    • @geniezambia2868
      @geniezambia2868 Před 2 lety +26

      but how is blinding my self from reality to avoid the current stress going to help me overcome future stress that will with out a doubt show up because of unconfronted emotions all in the name of self defense

    • @amirulkhalid157
      @amirulkhalid157 Před rokem +3

      so true, massive key point. That thought has been helping me a lot on a daily basis!

  • @nolomoussy9407
    @nolomoussy9407 Před 4 lety +3429

    I know what my problem is: phones and screens
    being addicted to watching stuff and letting your brain be passive

    • @siddharthrajan616
      @siddharthrajan616 Před 4 lety +192

      Very good you have understood the problem. Now go out and do an activity that makes very good use of your brain. Learn a language,read a hard science book, pick up a new sport or start making videos....whatever u wanna do just start taking action(at the beginning take it slow) towards it. Soon u will break out of this habit. You may not see quick progress but just stick with it. Show up again and again and again...that's true progress towards your goals.

    • @omniscientomnipresent5500
      @omniscientomnipresent5500 Před 4 lety +2

      Mmm...

    • @Amy623
      @Amy623 Před 4 lety +6

      Sleep smarter by Shawn Stevenson helped me allot

    • @cyberneticbutterfly8506
      @cyberneticbutterfly8506 Před 4 lety +12

      On a bigger scale it's the nature of distraction itself, and how you as a person deal with distraction.

    • @omwtobeatprocrastination7766
      @omwtobeatprocrastination7766 Před 4 lety +24

      Legit, but even though I've tried, it's like I can't stop using my phone/laptop and it frustrates me so much

  • @rubenjooste4383
    @rubenjooste4383 Před 2 lety +74

    Who else is procrastinating by watching this

  • @exposez
    @exposez Před 6 lety +5644

    Procrastination is a habit.
    It's kind of a self defense against stress.
    Be aware of your behavior (the procrastination) and Acknowledge the stress.
    Get yourself to start.
    Think that you will deal with the problem for just five minutes.
    After that 80 % of you will continue.
    Thanks Mel Robbins!

    • @spamaccount4513
      @spamaccount4513 Před 5 lety +55

      summarized in a great way!

    • @bongobliss5795
      @bongobliss5795 Před 4 lety +84

      Can u plz help the other 20% that include me

    • @mrbennett
      @mrbennett Před 4 lety +81

      @@bongobliss5795 Get yourself to start again with the 5-second rule for another 5 minutes. Repeat the cycle till you can go longer than 5 minutes.
      If you find you can't go longer than 5 minutes ever, then maybe you need to reevaluate and decide if you really want the goal you have set for yourself and if that action you cannot stay on for longer than 5 minutes is a necessary step for achieving that goal. You also need to be sure you actually have the skills to execute on that task.
      If your goal is the problem, change it.
      If you find that step is not necessary for your goal, eliminate it.
      If you don't have the skill and you are not enthusiastic about learning it, get assistance from someone who does while you focus on the things you have the ability to execute on.

    • @jenster29
      @jenster29 Před 4 lety +6

      No! Thank You!
      Coz now I don't have to watch the video.. Even though its been on my watch later list for some time

    • @SB-fo7em
      @SB-fo7em Před 4 lety

      Very well said

  • @franticzenster8140
    @franticzenster8140 Před 4 lety +3351

    Procrastination stems from a fear of life. Discipline helps, but ultimately the fear must be addressed to truly be free.

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm Před 4 lety +49

      Do what you like doing and have no fear.

    • @KingKong-mp6gj
      @KingKong-mp6gj Před 4 lety +10

      True words.

    • @shuepsx652
      @shuepsx652 Před 4 lety +155

      @@aammssaamm What you like doing might not pay the bills...

    • @aammssaamm
      @aammssaamm Před 4 lety +15

      @@shuepsx652 If you like working for free who can stop you? LOL

    • @antereaw6178
      @antereaw6178 Před 4 lety +41

      Anne Smith bills...bills can stop you lol

  • @Bl1tz4n
    @Bl1tz4n Před 26 dny +7

    who is here procrastinating with me by watching this video in may 2024

  • @84071639
    @84071639 Před rokem +26

    When I'm anxious and stressed it seems more difficult to carry out the simplest activity. Sometimes I get addicted to scrolling down my youtube feed or any other social media (especially when I don't sleep well at night) and my attention span decreases substantially, so when it happens procrastinating is almost inevitable because my brain only wants little effort and lots of dopamine.

  • @akaparz4109
    @akaparz4109 Před 3 lety +4586

    Stop scrolling down deep, listen to her

  • @robinhood_stock_trader2183
    @robinhood_stock_trader2183 Před 4 lety +695

    "The worst form of procrastination is reading a procrastination quote, feeling the guilt and not doing anything about it."

    • @Martin.Wilson
      @Martin.Wilson Před 2 lety +28

      I have a plaque on the wall of my man cave that says "If I said I'd do it, I will.....you don't need to keep reminding me every six months".

    • @asthaaggarwal.7270
      @asthaaggarwal.7270 Před 2 lety +8

      That’s me…. I WILL GET THROUGH THIS HECK YEAAAAA

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 Před 2 lety +1

      Na you just dgaf

    • @blitz-rs7xp
      @blitz-rs7xp Před rokem +2

      This is a procrastination quote.

    • @jaimealexander2505
      @jaimealexander2505 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@Martin.Wilson😂

  • @cristian-bull
    @cristian-bull Před 2 lety +158

    I work on pomodoro periods of 25 minutes.
    Sometimes I find it very hard to start, so I split the first pomodoro in 10min work, 5min rest, 15min work.
    After that it's a lot easier to keep going with the 25min intervals. The idea of just getting started even for a short period really helps.

    • @gemmeldrakes2758
      @gemmeldrakes2758 Před 2 lety +5

      I had to do that too. I thought i was the only one.

    • @Roastpeef
      @Roastpeef Před 2 lety +4

      I think I'll try this. Starting with 10minutes.

    • @ashuzguitar
      @ashuzguitar Před 2 lety +2

      Thx for the useful tip. I'll share it with my village, and they'll thank you too.

    • @carolinasantiago6508
      @carolinasantiago6508 Před 2 lety +2

      wow i love the idea!! thank u very muchh!!

    • @aristocracydemocracy7455
      @aristocracydemocracy7455 Před 2 lety

      In my case, I usually take a cold shower. And during the process it causes very quick heart racing. So the idea is basically to overcome with my procrastination and take myself into action.

  • @sarshak8420
    @sarshak8420 Před 9 měsíci +6

    Yes, I procrastinate on calling people that I really need to call. It's my anxiety and having to talk to the person and sound professional or sound like I know what I am talking about.

  • @9squares
    @9squares Před 4 lety +2483

    Procrastination is a crime, it only leads to sorrow. I can stop it anytime… I think I will tomorrow!

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 Před 4 lety +62

      3 weeks later.....
      Did you actually do it

    • @9squares
      @9squares Před 4 lety +91

      @@plumberdash9729 I will, I will, I have been so busy you know... You make it sound like I have a habit of this.

    • @plumberdash9729
      @plumberdash9729 Před 4 lety +37

      @@9squares no no its ok i procrastinated yesterday when i had a physics exam today.....i went with only studying one chapter.....and i procrastinated to review that chapter so i forgot it before i intered the exam.....you can guess the rest 🙂

    • @KatarinaS.
      @KatarinaS. Před 4 lety +50

      When we put off til the next day
      By choosing to play
      And repeatedly delay
      What we can do today
      Our own self we disobey
      And our nerves we fray
      While slowly wasting our life away

    • @christina4012
      @christina4012 Před 4 lety +1

      Mmm same

  • @procrastinatingnow9451
    @procrastinatingnow9451 Před 5 lety +1493

    "Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle."
    ~ Abraham Lincon

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 Před 4 lety +30

      Despite many references on the Internet to Lincoln saying this quote, there is no evidence to support it. Within The Collected Works of Abraham Lincoln, he says the phrase “things may” only three times, and never says “things may come,” “things left,” or the word “hustle.”

    • @ghassankhan7728
      @ghassankhan7728 Před 4 lety +26

      I think it’s supposed to be taken as a joke haha, I doubt people are that dumb

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 Před 4 lety +20

      @@ghassankhan7728 - ......." I doubt people are that dumb". Now I assume THAT is meant as a joke......right?

    • @admiralampere5513
      @admiralampere5513 Před 4 lety +7

      @@redrock1963 damn, a double r/wooosh, that's rare

    • @redrock1963
      @redrock1963 Před 4 lety +3

      @@admiralampere5513 - LOL so rare you can tell your grandkids about it.

  • @arsenigold9470
    @arsenigold9470 Před 4 měsíci +3

    This video has been sitting in my "Watch later" for over 3 years now, finally uncorked it, and it is great!

  • @itsoktoberight4431
    @itsoktoberight4431 Před 11 měsíci +8

    Understanding and realising that you're doing it is a big step I've had chores piling up for about a year that I keep putting off and realised they're not going to fix themselves

  • @methmemelab8819
    @methmemelab8819 Před 4 lety +457

    I am a major procrastinator but I've never watched a single video on how to stop procrastinating still CZcams recommended me this video. Interesting!

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  • @filipthedev4159
    @filipthedev4159 Před 4 lety +747

    "How to stop procrastinating"
    - I'll watch it later

    • @aishwaryar1290
      @aishwaryar1290 Před 3 lety +3

      That's me

    • @Meadowwing
      @Meadowwing Před 3 lety +4

      Ha ha... well one thing I have learned today is that we all have a sense of humor about it that's pretty nice I think good luck to everybody

    • @Midalias25
      @Midalias25 Před 3 lety +1

      😂

    • @3bed999
      @3bed999 Před 3 lety

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    • @leeroy14r60
      @leeroy14r60 Před 3 lety +1

      Guess what was in my watch later since 2018?😂

  • @jackroberts6938
    @jackroberts6938 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Every word you said is 100% true for me. I needed to hear someone say it. Thank you, and thank you for the roadmap to breaking the procrastination habit!

  • @4GODiswithus
    @4GODiswithus Před 2 lety +2

    I really needed to see this video. I've struggled with procrastination for years and I'm ready conquer it so I can conquer my goals...I'm hoping you have more videos on this topic and more. Thanks so much!

  • @mauriciogerhardt3209
    @mauriciogerhardt3209 Před 4 lety +1947

    Skip to 3 minutes:
    1) acknowledge the stress that you feel when you think of doing the think you're avoiding.
    2) count 5 4 3 2 1 so you'll activate your prefrontal cortex.
    3) interrupt the procrastination habit by starting the stuff you are avoiding. If you just start, 80% of people will continue it doing it.

    • @mauriciogerhardt3209
      @mauriciogerhardt3209 Před 4 lety +34

      @@simonelastname5182 I dunno, I was just summing up the video so people wouldn't have to watch the whole thing.

    • @cautarepvp2079
      @cautarepvp2079 Před 4 lety +9

      how to acknowledge the stress? How to know?

    • @harukaf.n.1994
      @harukaf.n.1994 Před 4 lety +57

      It's just 3 minutes omg I'm sure all procrastinators here can watch more than 3 mins of advice

    • @365MRYOLO
      @365MRYOLO Před 4 lety +4

      Simone LastName at that point, look for a video on “how do I know how to do things”

    • @KH-ks7si
      @KH-ks7si Před 3 lety +12

      @@simonelastname5182 you just have to think about your future. Just think about (more effective the younger you are) how if you dont do what you have to you will never become what you could possibly be. And imagine being old and thinking back on all of your regrets and realizing you could have been so much more. When i think about that its a lot scarier than some work.

  • @_lil_lil
    @_lil_lil Před 3 lety +458

    "You're not a procrastinator. You have A--"
    Me: "-DHD"
    "...habit of procrastinating"
    Me: "well, that too" 😅

    • @kw6724
      @kw6724 Před 3 lety +3

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @SparklingLemon430
      @SparklingLemon430 Před 2 lety +7

      Yeah I'm wondering if this technique works for people with ADHD... 😰

    • @Vijayyadav-sx4dt
      @Vijayyadav-sx4dt Před 2 lety +1

      Oh that's hard.. I also can't pay attention and focus how do I know if I have ADHD?

    • @ferris2323
      @ferris2323 Před 2 lety +19

      Just got diagnosed at 25, got called lazy my whole life. Turns out I had rampant adhd that went unnoticed because I have the inattentive (inward) projection and I’m an introvert. So I can focus really well in social settings like the classroom and library(because I don’t feel like everyone’s eyes are bearing down on me like I do at places like the grocery store) but I sit down to study at home and it quite literally takes me 2-3 hours to get into a “zone” where I don’t have to reread everything multiple times because I space out constantly and end up passively reading and don’t notice. Though there was a bit of laziness when I was a kid😂

    • @mrssomeone2143
      @mrssomeone2143 Před 2 lety +2

      @@ferris2323 oh same. I like to be distracted, like the need to see some variations, hehe... and not adhd

  • @chesscrater6331
    @chesscrater6331 Před měsícem

    No wonder I don't feel stressed out about anything. Thank you. I have been playing that video game instead of doing work to do what I really need to improve in something else. I literally feel so much better after watching this video. I feel incredibly empowered. Thanks.

  • @hoolimooliyt
    @hoolimooliyt Před rokem +2

    This video has resonated with me so much, I have tried so many different things to stop procrastinating and nothing seems to work because everything stems from the huge amounts of stress I feel in my life most of the time so I´m actually gonna try her plan and I hope to God it works.

  • @pankajkela4406
    @pankajkela4406 Před 3 lety +57

    1. Procrastination is a mechanism stress relief
    2. It is a habit
    3. Every habit has trigger, pattern, reward
    4. The only way to break a habit is to never deal with trigger, but break the pattern
    5. Next time you procrastinate, remind yourself you are stressed, count down 5 4 3 2 1 and work just for 5 minutes.
    6. If you work just for 5 minutes, for 80% of people they will continue working.
    7. Breaker of chains, YOU

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler Před 5 lety +486

    Looking at procrastination as a habit makes it seem that much easier to overcome. This was an excellent explanation. Thanks, Mel!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  Před 5 lety +57

      Yes - the habit can be broken!

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      @papichilo9437 Před 3 lety +5

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  • @lilyrose141
    @lilyrose141 Před 2 lety +3

    i love the fact that this video is so short and precise! i actually watched it and took the information in, unlike the procrastination videos in my watch later list that are like 20 minutes long

    • @ensoasmrmusichouse9861
      @ensoasmrmusichouse9861 Před 2 lety

      You may want to give this video (czcams.com/video/xbPy5afSMJU/video.html ) a go. It’s structured around the pomodoro technique consisting 4 sets of ‘25min work + 5mins break’.
      Supposed to be particularly helpful when you are finding it hard to concentrate or have just done a procrastination binge.
      No harm trying I guess. All the best for your goals! 😉

  • @elinaoberemok1732
    @elinaoberemok1732 Před rokem

    Good luck everyone! Watched this video a long time ago. Rewatching because it's been tougher recently to keep up with tasks that are so tempting to save for later. God bless!

  • @charliebubna4770
    @charliebubna4770 Před 4 lety +237

    Love from India 💗💗
    This really works ...I count 54321 and i make up my mind to study for 5mins or just 1 page ...By this way I started to completing my syllabus more and more day by day ... I came here again to thank you ..

    • @En_theo
      @En_theo Před 4 lety +27

      54321... that's a big number

    • @Ankit-zu2kp
      @Ankit-zu2kp Před 4 lety +5

      You would've done it anyway. Real procrastinators can't be helped.

    • @ralsei7170
      @ralsei7170 Před 4 lety +3

      @@En_theo lol

    • @hemangipujare1090
      @hemangipujare1090 Před 4 lety +2

      I am from India too !Namaste!

    • @NairaKa
      @NairaKa Před rokem

      Thank you 🙏 I m gonna try too

  • @Tomroberts101
    @Tomroberts101 Před 4 lety +78

    This must be the 100th video I've watched on procrastination.

  • @olivashard8113
    @olivashard8113 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much. I didn't realize that stress was triggering my procrastinating habit all along. You have really helped me.

  • @Nisah98
    @Nisah98 Před 2 lety +7

    I find her advise to be beneficial and works for me but in the beginning it was still hard as I still get distracted by social media and CZcams. The challenge was putting in excruciating effort to resist those temptations to make the 5 second decision.
    So, I decided to get the Freedom app that blocks out those distractions at certain times where I start my tasks. Once the temptations were no longer options, it’s much easier to make your decision.

  • @allrez4157
    @allrez4157 Před 4 lety +194

    "You're not a procrastinator, you have a HABIT of procrastinating." I couldn't agree more. Right after I joined the army's, I struggled in the beginning because of this terrible habit. But in two weeks, as I kept going through the days, I was broken and I've never felt so good about myself.

    • @rangelrenteria1038
      @rangelrenteria1038 Před 2 lety +1

      Broken how?

    • @paulperez6167
      @paulperez6167 Před 2 lety +1

      @@rangelrenteria1038 it's a bit like breaking an unrideable horse.

    • @mo1976ney
      @mo1976ney Před 2 lety +4

      @@rangelrenteria1038 I think he means his habit was broken

  • @fyradur
    @fyradur Před 2 lety +189

    Finally a productivity video that actually will make a difference in the world.
    This actually uses a solid method backed up by science with clear instructions, instead of those "motivational, reach for your goal" videos. From studies we know that setting a goal and watching motivational videos does nothing.

    • @brooksfaucette296
      @brooksfaucette296 Před 2 lety +9

      yeah most motivational speakers are quacks, even though they may think they are doing something. this is good stuff

    • @kenzo6994
      @kenzo6994 Před 2 lety +3

      yeah fax, anyways i’m a huge drug dealer and I need some advice. You guys are good at hiding during useful moments. Where do I keep my narcotics

  • @lmcnultyn
    @lmcnultyn Před 5 měsíci

    I've always suffered from procrastination and it has always been a major habit that is very hard to break for me. For me, it mostly stems from not having the desire and not being in the zone to do any work as the thought of doing what I need to do would be exhausting and off-putting. Thanks so much for this valuable information. I will work hard to apply the steps to breaking this habit and all other habits that I have.

  • @rahilarora5553
    @rahilarora5553 Před rokem +7

    Amazing I tried many things but this 10-9-8 counting helped me alot❤️

  • @3kbschannel288
    @3kbschannel288 Před 4 lety +128

    let's be honest she's a great speaker

    • @kimjong-un1848
      @kimjong-un1848 Před 4 lety +1

      I'm sure this is not the only thing she is great at

    • @vikome5420
      @vikome5420 Před 4 lety +12

      @@sebastianskii7512 oh for gawd sake, stfu we find perverted idiotic dumbass people everywhere comment section

    • @madhavsanap6690
      @madhavsanap6690 Před 3 lety +4

      @@kimjong-un1848 she is good writer

  • @AyodejiAwosikaCreates
    @AyodejiAwosikaCreates Před 4 lety +166

    Love the distinction between identity and behavior. It's truly the core of personal growth altogether.

  • @ashwatson7097
    @ashwatson7097 Před 2 lety

    You are so so Correct Mel. First time I understood why I was procastinating. I was so stressful about everything that was going on and i just wanted to relax and forget and relax and time passed by and boom it was too late. .

  • @lenakan8990
    @lenakan8990 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This helps... SO so much! Great talk, it actually helps me a lot with procrastination on homework and other things, still working but it IS working.

  • @liz-jo8hz
    @liz-jo8hz Před 4 lety +212

    but i’m procrastinating for no reason right now. like i literally don’t have any stress. i guess i’m just really lazy

    • @maynaysauce2489
      @maynaysauce2489 Před 3 lety +50

      I think you mean you don’t have any external stress like financial issues. That’s fine, because you do have stress, and that is when you think about sitting down and actually doing your work. You think that it will not be a pleasant experience when you study or do whatever, so naturally, you choose to avoid it. That is a form of stress

    • @fawnomenal7097
      @fawnomenal7097 Před 3 lety +10

      Usually my laziness means I’m uninspired. But I just listened to a Michael Sealy hypnosis on procrastination the other day. Lasting effects so far. It didn’t make sense while I was listening that it would change anything, but there were some subconscious triggers that changed the course of the rest of the day and on into my next workday. So productive, I was wondering where I’ve been all my life. I am becoming the person I need to be for myself. ✨💖✨

    • @manfredmuench2657
      @manfredmuench2657 Před 3 lety +3

      I can identify with that - I am retired and still put off everything I can. Used to have a saying back in the day, ' Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow , because by tomorrow the bastards will have changed their minds'

    • @AnimationCraftFR
      @AnimationCraftFR Před 3 lety +4

      @• ᴗ Wow, the ADHD symptom is really describing me, I also tend to say to myself that i'm a piece of shit for only being able to aknowleg my issues and being lazy about it to counter them..

    • @bobbieschroder6231
      @bobbieschroder6231 Před 3 lety +3

      Even though you aren't currently stressed, you're actually avoiding _anticipated_ stress.
      For example, I feel perfectly fine just lying here, and I don't feel any stress because I'm at ease. However, when I think about getting up and doing a chore that needs to be done,, I can tell that my chain of thinking points to the expected stress from having to get up and do something that I don't want to do.
      In other words, the thought of having to get up out of this comfortable bed to do something that I don't feel like doing, brings forth the idea of a type of strain. So to avoid that *anticipated* strain (i.e., "stress"), I feel compelled to stay where I am.
      You and I are not really lazy. And don't let anyone make you think you have some sort of sickness, either. It's just a habit of putting off the anticipated strain or stress that we _believe_ we're going to experience if we get up and do what we don't currently feel like doing.
      *Since we now have that figured out, it's time to rise above it by changing our beliefs, perceptions, and expectations, so that we can move on to greater heights!*

  • @michaelciancetta6397
    @michaelciancetta6397 Před 4 lety +83

    This video changed completely my view on procrastination... will start following her advice in a couple of months maybe three..

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  • @SA-ud9nf
    @SA-ud9nf Před měsícem

    Ms Mel Robbins I'm so grateful for you ❤

  • @issambenmoussa1311
    @issambenmoussa1311 Před 2 lety

    Thank you. This is what I needed to hear especially that procrastination is a form of stress relief.

  • @annieblogger489
    @annieblogger489 Před 6 lety +227

    Huge respect for Mel... your last video on procrastination was also excellent. I also continue having amazing results with the Procrastination Elimination Method by John Isaac. Worth trying.

  • @setton4943
    @setton4943 Před 4 lety +123

    I'm sitting here at nearly 6am in front of my laptop when I first sat down at 11pm and haven't even wrote a sentence yet all the while browsing CZcams and staring at the screen 😥

    • @Hey_Its_Mikki
      @Hey_Its_Mikki Před 3 lety +7

      Lol. That sounds like something I'd do. I feel so normal now knowing this 😅

    • @milesowens3273
      @milesowens3273 Před 3 lety

      Its 4am rn lol

    • @NightMiner24
      @NightMiner24 Před 3 lety +1

      bro we must have the same exact brain then

    • @adiver_
      @adiver_ Před 2 lety

      Not the only one ....5:50 AM

    • @ciaranosullivan7791
      @ciaranosullivan7791 Před 2 lety

      11pm until 6am is when your brain wants to be asleep

  • @waelbeji
    @waelbeji Před 15 dny

    thank u! was procrastinating like CRAZY the whole day now imma be back to work! whenever i feel like lazign around ill count from 10 to 1 and just WORK!

  • @victoriadescalso6580
    @victoriadescalso6580 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Mel …. You’re great!!!❤️

  • @Weissklangi
    @Weissklangi Před 6 lety +28

    Perfect timing as always! Here I was sitting and not starting to learn for my next exam in a few days, always reading or watching sth. else than learning, because I'm so stressed about it and want sth. relaxing.

  • @Light-cy1gp
    @Light-cy1gp Před 3 lety +18

    Mel Robbins, whats different in your approach to motivating others is that u empathise with us all, u didnt shout, u didn't even say 1 single bad thing about people who procastinate, u uplift people and then your advice is short and to the point, i think u would be someone who would motivate all the billions of people if they heard your speech, your speech comes from a place of decisiveness and very easy practical advice , plus u don't go into long details about your life but u gave us a solution to a problem so many people go through everyday, im a medical student and i needed to study but wasn't motivated, but then i listened to your advice in here and i am actually reading right now and all the negative self beliefs i had are literally gone by just watching your video, may Allaah make u enter heaven ,thank u so much i appreciate the hard work u do for us all thank u , its people like u who lift up the world.

  • @user-hc6dt8wj6e
    @user-hc6dt8wj6e Před 3 měsíci

    לדעתי אחד הסרטונים הכי פשוטים וגאוניים שיש , למרות שכבר הכרתי את השיטה של הספירה עד 5 זה ממש הניע אותי עכשיו לפעולה של שתי דברים שדחיתי הרבה זמן
    תודה רבהה

  • @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn
    @MinecraftBoy-bj5bn Před 4 lety +7

    Thanksgiving break started and we’re off for a week and I have a lot of homework. Instead of procrastinating and doing it for 5 hours straight on Sunday night like usual I’ve been splitting it up daily. I feel so much more relaxed and stress free knowing that I won’t have to eventually deal with a pile of work at the end of break.

  • @dannyrandolph1033
    @dannyrandolph1033 Před 6 lety +178

    Thank you. Wow! So simple.
    Thank you also for removing the shame associated with procrastinating.
    I have a habit of procrastinating.
    Habits can be changed!

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  Před 6 lety +14

      Yes, Dan!! Habits can be changed - you go this!!!

  • @bobadiag
    @bobadiag Před 2 lety

    WOW Mel.!!! This is Probably the BEST VIDEO You have Ever made.!!! Thank you So Much.!!!!

  • @vivienthcorrea4183
    @vivienthcorrea4183 Před 2 lety

    wow!!! so much value in 3 minutes ... Now I have a strategy to deal with this habit .... Thanks Mel Robbins.

  • @Lysana7
    @Lysana7 Před 5 lety +6

    thank you, Mel! you are the only one that actually talks about procrastination being a coping mechanism for stress relief... it makes such a big difference in my opinion to know this and it is just so true!!! XX

  • @grace5447
    @grace5447 Před 3 lety +94

    I see all these jokes about them procrastinating, but here I am beating myself up for still not starting work due tomorrow morning. I seriously need to change.

    • @aiaimizu
      @aiaimizu Před 3 lety

      did you do the work?

    • @grace5447
      @grace5447 Před 3 lety +5

      @@aiaimizu I did. But I can say the result was not my best because I was just trying to get over it.

    • @unknownhero4816
      @unknownhero4816 Před 2 lety +7

      We make fun of it, but it's actually a serious issue... Jokes are just a coping mechanism. Hope it got better for you, hang in there.

    • @grace5447
      @grace5447 Před 2 lety +1

      @@unknownhero4816 Thank you. I hope we all overcome this soon.

    • @sofiahuerta6029
      @sofiahuerta6029 Před 2 lety

      Same

  • @lordmorpheus7281
    @lordmorpheus7281 Před rokem +1

    Added your video to Watch later.. Will watch it some day!

  • @rohiniagawane6349
    @rohiniagawane6349 Před rokem

    thank you so much I almost wasted my 4 years because of procrastination loop, and then beating myself for wasting time, I am still recovering from this habit but things getting better because of will power

  • @sarahmagin7914
    @sarahmagin7914 Před 6 lety +8

    Thank you so much for sharing this. When I read about this in the 5 Second Rule, it was eye opening. It helped me so much to overcome my habit of procrastination, because I finally figured out the actual problem. Now I get so much more done. Really, thank you.

  • @souvikguha
    @souvikguha Před 5 lety +4

    This is probably the best video about breaking 'the habit of procrastination'. Will try. Thank you so much.

  • @alysonquinn4701
    @alysonquinn4701 Před 8 měsíci

    It is a Monday morning and I happened upon this as I got to work. Thank you, it saved my day, week month.

  • @geneg3776
    @geneg3776 Před rokem +1

    Yes when I procrastinate it's mostly emotional not laziness for me. Great video.

  • @ashleyj2526
    @ashleyj2526 Před 6 lety +31

    Thank you so much Mel! Every one of your videos is such a powerful concept. Your videos are like talking to that one best friend you have that no matter what tells you the absolute truth and so refreshing. I am so glad that I found your Channel

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  Před 6 lety +2

      Happy to hear this - thank you!!! xo

  • @jimwilliams4088
    @jimwilliams4088 Před 3 lety +37

    1) Acknowledge the stress.
    2) Count: 54321
    3) Interrupt the Procrastination Habit
    4) Just do 1 thing
    5) Work for 5 minutes

  • @yanara6333
    @yanara6333 Před rokem

    this short video was so powerful to me. i feel like this technique will genuinely help.

  • @indee9800
    @indee9800 Před 2 lety

    I find myself working efficiently when doing things one at a time, then having a very long break after. Thank you for insightful video 🙏

  • @sharonhunter337
    @sharonhunter337 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for this teaching. I came to the conclusion, about a month ago, that I do not handle stress well at all. So I choose not to do the things that stress me out, but then I am not doing the very thing I must do. Develop my gifting. Has nothing to do with work, but we need a good work ethic to achieve anything in life, generally. So I was looking at how to manage stress, healthy diet, exercise, sleep, etc. But this 5, 4, 3, 2 ,1, really addresses the root and brings immediate solution. Thank you.

  • @shubhanshubisht1667
    @shubhanshubisht1667 Před 6 lety +7

    It makes so much sense... Thanks for breaking it down

  • @monadamus42
    @monadamus42 Před 2 lety

    So perfect, love Mel. Thank you

  • @preeti2470
    @preeti2470 Před rokem

    I m glad I decided to watch this video, thanks again!

  • @dee.s.4513
    @dee.s.4513 Před 3 lety +7

    Beautifully stated, Mel Robbins. It's always stress that freezes--waiting for stress to go away is foolish. It's so true that once you bring yourself to get going, you don't want to stop.

  • @yassernadeem
    @yassernadeem Před 5 lety +3

    The single most VALUABLE video I have seen so far in helping me working

  • @only1zilla
    @only1zilla Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you, Mel. Very insightful.

  • @llllllllllllllllll663
    @llllllllllllllllll663 Před 2 lety +1

    I love the idea of procrastination being a habit and not a character trait 🙂It encourages people to actually make a change in their life.

  • @Anthroid9
    @Anthroid9 Před 4 lety +15

    This was a hidden gem. Thank you!

  • @antwuntrademark
    @antwuntrademark Před 4 lety +6

    Watching and learning this helped me to fully commit to filming, editing and posting videos again. 🙌🏽✨ Thank you 🖤

  • @sebastianrada4107
    @sebastianrada4107 Před 2 lety

    So good being here watching this video instead of being studing/working

  • @bahasadri3636
    @bahasadri3636 Před 8 měsíci

    Thnx so very much for opening my eyes on why I always procastinate !

  • @a.p.tiwari4795
    @a.p.tiwari4795 Před 6 lety +33

    Wonderful Mel, you have helped me concentrate on my studies. I have acknowledged my stress-pattern and I can undo the Procrastinating trigger now.

    • @melrobbins
      @melrobbins  Před 6 lety +6

      Love this!!! YOU are changing your life!

  • @yumorules
    @yumorules Před 6 lety +4

    What a superb speaker.....easy on the eye too😃

  • @AB-my3hx
    @AB-my3hx Před rokem

    Everything said in this video makes perfect sense. A very practical guide here. Procastination is habit to avoid stress. But once you start the task and work on it for 5min then you are most likely to finish it

  • @shababaltaf7875
    @shababaltaf7875 Před 2 lety

    This is really true, I have seen direct correlation with my work situation affecting my ability to deliver on personal goals.

  • @HolyManta
    @HolyManta Před 4 lety +7

    First speaker that actually helped me with procrastination

  • @hoorainayoub
    @hoorainayoub Před 3 lety +7

    this was so refreshing and different

  • @tripplem2605
    @tripplem2605 Před 2 lety

    Easy,thank you. Short & straightforward ⚘💗💗

  • @TigerDNF
    @TigerDNF Před 3 měsíci

    Oh my goodness Mel, you just nailed it.

  • @tresadixon2397
    @tresadixon2397 Před 6 lety +3

    Thank you Mel ❤️

  • @JustHerRandomStuff
    @JustHerRandomStuff Před 3 lety +5

    Heyy I've read your book, “The 5 second rule” and it's so helpful,thank you🤗

  • @AlwaysBrokenHeart
    @AlwaysBrokenHeart Před 7 měsíci

    One of the best advice out there on procrastination.

  • @robertamirtha4242
    @robertamirtha4242 Před 2 měsíci

    Very insightful, delighted in a nutshell. It resonates with me. Grateful, thanks.

  • @stellamarkose3262
    @stellamarkose3262 Před 6 lety +7

    Wow this is something I've been looking for