I'm going to describe why I hate having social anxiety and why people aren't worth it☠️😢 #antinatalism #lifeispain #hatepolitics #autism #misanthrope #mentalhealth
People suck these days you are really better off being alone. I wish I could go back to the 90s and early 2000's that era was a great time to be around, compare to now.
Having hobbies to pursue, or some form of physical activity I've found helps. Spending too much time inside without engaging with the outer world, will tend to have a negative effect. Both the body and mind yearn for constructive forms of engagement daily.
I can relate so much to what you say. Society still doesn't fully understand or accept anxiety as a real thing, and even if you can just try to tune those opinions out because they're not helpful, it's gonna nag at you now "what if my problems aren't that important?" and it makes you second guess yourself. I didn't even get bullied as much as some other people did, but those amounts that I was is enough to mess me up still, 10 years later. Fundamentally, I know it's silly to let one person's perception of me ruin my whole day or week, but instinctually it feels like a reflection of what I already knew but was hoping no one else was noticing. And then I try to put on a show and act normal and camouflage myself, suppress the thoughts that will get me in trouble, but I still feel like I'm being looked at under a microscope. I constantly am double checking myself that I am not offending someone else or doing something wrong, without even realising it, and the thought of embarrassing myself in front of another human being is enough to make me panic. I just feel like my existence is an embarrassment. And the worst part is, knowing that the genuine people out there who really want to be helpful, will just get hurt by knowing me because I can't help myself. That's why I avoid people. I don't want them to be disappointed.
It's okay to not be perfect. You aren't Inherently a bad person for being embarrassing/embarrassed. Social anxiety itself is extremely relatable to most people. If you would tell other mature and experienced humans about your social anxiety, they would have nothing but empathy and understanding. I am a 27 year old guy, and when I tell people that I can't talk to woman, or that I have mood swings and sometimes act weird/impulsive and not according to my principles, they usually understand. Being honest and authentic is actually the cure to your situation. It's not easy, but once you realize that lying about yourself because you don't accept yourself is exactly what causes your issues, you can actively work on that. You aren't defined by your mistakes. Your self reflective ability and your desire to be accepted are noble and valuable. You have been humbled by life, you experience things very intensely, that is actually a very meaningful and useful aspect of your personality. As an example from my life, when someone is having issues, or is shy/awkward, I don't judge them for it, because I know exactly what that is like. When someone acts blunt and edgy, I know that that doesn't mean they are bad people. I can only do this because I've had to confront myself about the same thing and I came to the conclusion that I'm not a bad person myself from acting this way. It gave me valuable perspective. In fact, I have come to learn that people who claim to not experience these hardships are often not trustworthy. If someone claims he does not feel anxiety, does not feel embarrassed, does not care about what others think, does not struggle with his own self image, THEN I become suspicious.
The thing that gives me depression most of all is knowing how this existence will most likely NEVER end and there is always more suffering around the corner.
I mean, yes. But also this life is a chance to experience beauty and fun or just peace. Side note: Bad things still happen to people with faith in God, but the difference is the perspective and peace God gives us has a nice side effect of allowing us to endure always and happily.
What do you mean it will never end? Are you aware that you will probably die within the next few decades? 😂 I mean, suffering itself is not a reason to be depressed either, it's our ability to reduce suffering that gives our life meaning, and this meaning prerequisites that suffering exists. If someone suffers and you can help them, the how is that not inherently something you should persue? Generally you are suffering needlessly due to your disposition towards life.
@@carlpanzram7081 They are suffering needlessly because they are burdened with existence they didn't ask for. And while the commenter is definitely a bit too confident that it will never end, it is still a possibility. The Universe could be an endless cycle for all we know.
for me, due to autism and other neuro divergence I never really cared about how other's viewed me, but I still have a history of social anxiety from being sheltered and past traumas, also the autism making is extremely difficult to socialize compared to other people. it took a lot of time and effort but I'm at a point where I don't really notice the anxiety anymore outside of a few specific circumstances.
Having social anxiety and not caring what others think of you is directly contradictory. I think you don't "don't care" what others think of you, but rather you'd wish you wouldn't care, which is again just a reaction to the basic Desire to be accepted and valued. It is NOT virtuous to be unaffected by other people's opinions. That would be a sign of anti social personality disorder, or sociopathy. I'm autistic myself. I definitely care about how others think of me, it's just difficult for me to tell sometimes, which is frustrating. Nonetheless do I wish to have a social circle of peers that value and respect me, and support me in my effort to be the best version of myself, because they like me, and because they wish the best for me. It's a harsh truth, but you probably won't be able to find happiness and content in solitude. I need people, that's a pretty basic human need, just like sustenance.
@@carlpanzram7081 i think missed out some stuff, like I don't care what people think of me outside of the people in my direct friend group. currently the people in my life are probably some of the best people i could ask for and some of the few people i really value anymore, due to past abandonment/trust issues. honestly my entire brain feels like a contradiction and it often feels a mix apathy and caring too much. I end up getting confused on what I feel most of the time. although it is improving for me with the help of my current friend group. sometimes i struggle wording stuff and ending up sending the wrong message.
@@RealistRatRace Beauty is subjective, everyone has different views on what they find attractive whether they admit it or not. honestly I feel sorry for you
@@RealistRatRacenah. Good cheekbones, good hair, prominent brow ridge. His looks aren't holding him back. I agree it's dishonest and not right to call people who aren't pretty that they are good looking, but in his case he is genuinely good looking. This doesn't mean he is model material, but that's an exception by definition.
@@RealistRatRace He's like a 4-5, certainly not "bad" looking. Without the beard and with a more neutral (or friendly) and less grumpy facial expression, he'd look quite decent.
just try and impress yourself it'll take a long time but i was like you and i've been working on it for like a couple of years now and things are so so so much better honestly
i hate this man, everytime I actually feel good and think "oh this time it won't be that bad", then I take one step outside and I already have tremendous crippling anxiety.
We don’t need anyone. We don’t have to play any games, if we don’t want. The next step though is this; What do you want? If we have nothing much to lose, then we are free to go anywhere right? To do anything. If I ever lost everything and wanted to die, I could just grab a one-way ticket to the other side of the world. Some sleep and water and sun can do wonders for mental health btw. But only as a stronger baseline. Not a fix-all. Now the real point. All of this stems from a hole in us. In you, and me. It’s a God-shaped hole and without God we think we don’t need Him. We can’t see it, and yet we’re miserable. So again, what is there to lose? Reconsider what your preconceived notions of “God” are and find Him in the scriptures yourself.
1:34 Why not? Does it hurt to look somewhat decent? I mean, your hair is alright, but shaving off a beard really isn't that much effort and is done in a few minutes, what reason is there to _not_ do that to look a bit better?
i had social anxiety. now im popular (not for validation, just because i've flipped the script). you'll get over it when you don't care anymore about getting over it. go to the gym to be a better version of yourself (same for getting a job). also try the 100 approach challenge (just try to get numbers from 100 girls) - you learn that "rejection" is in your mind. one step at a time. get out of your own head and get into this spinning rock we live on. がんばれ👍
People suck these days you are really better off being alone.
I wish I could go back to the 90s and early 2000's that era was a great time to be around, compare to now.
Dunno how old you are but the 80's was incredible!
Having hobbies to pursue, or some form of physical activity I've found helps. Spending too much time inside without engaging
with the outer world, will tend to have a negative effect. Both the body and mind yearn for constructive forms of engagement daily.
Noshit
I can relate so much to what you say. Society still doesn't fully understand or accept anxiety as a real thing, and even if you can just try to tune those opinions out because they're not helpful, it's gonna nag at you now "what if my problems aren't that important?" and it makes you second guess yourself. I didn't even get bullied as much as some other people did, but those amounts that I was is enough to mess me up still, 10 years later. Fundamentally, I know it's silly to let one person's perception of me ruin my whole day or week, but instinctually it feels like a reflection of what I already knew but was hoping no one else was noticing. And then I try to put on a show and act normal and camouflage myself, suppress the thoughts that will get me in trouble, but I still feel like I'm being looked at under a microscope. I constantly am double checking myself that I am not offending someone else or doing something wrong, without even realising it, and the thought of embarrassing myself in front of another human being is enough to make me panic. I just feel like my existence is an embarrassment. And the worst part is, knowing that the genuine people out there who really want to be helpful, will just get hurt by knowing me because I can't help myself. That's why I avoid people. I don't want them to be disappointed.
It's okay to not be perfect. You aren't Inherently a bad person for being embarrassing/embarrassed. Social anxiety itself is extremely relatable to most people.
If you would tell other mature and experienced humans about your social anxiety, they would have nothing but empathy and understanding.
I am a 27 year old guy, and when I tell people that I can't talk to woman, or that I have mood swings and sometimes act weird/impulsive and not according to my principles, they usually understand.
Being honest and authentic is actually the cure to your situation. It's not easy, but once you realize that lying about yourself because you don't accept yourself is exactly what causes your issues, you can actively work on that.
You aren't defined by your mistakes. Your self reflective ability and your desire to be accepted are noble and valuable. You have been humbled by life, you experience things very intensely, that is actually a very meaningful and useful aspect of your personality.
As an example from my life, when someone is having issues, or is shy/awkward, I don't judge them for it, because I know exactly what that is like. When someone acts blunt and edgy, I know that that doesn't mean they are bad people.
I can only do this because I've had to confront myself about the same thing and I came to the conclusion that I'm not a bad person myself from acting this way.
It gave me valuable perspective. In fact, I have come to learn that people who claim to not experience these hardships are often not trustworthy.
If someone claims he does not feel anxiety, does not feel embarrassed, does not care about what others think, does not struggle with his own self image, THEN I become suspicious.
The thing that gives me depression most of all is knowing how this existence will most likely NEVER end and there is always more suffering around the corner.
Sure thing nutter
I mean, yes. But also this life is a chance to experience beauty and fun or just peace.
Side note: Bad things still happen to people with faith in God, but the difference is the perspective and peace God gives us has a nice side effect of allowing us to endure always and happily.
What do you mean it will never end?
Are you aware that you will probably die within the next few decades? 😂
I mean, suffering itself is not a reason to be depressed either, it's our ability to reduce suffering that gives our life meaning, and this meaning prerequisites that suffering exists.
If someone suffers and you can help them, the how is that not inherently something you should persue?
Generally you are suffering needlessly due to your disposition towards life.
@@carlpanzram7081 They are suffering needlessly because they are burdened with existence they didn't ask for. And while the commenter is definitely a bit too confident that it will never end, it is still a possibility. The Universe could be an endless cycle for all we know.
@@carlpanzram7081 Who guarantees you that it's over after death?
for me, due to autism and other neuro divergence I never really cared about how other's viewed me, but I still have a history of social anxiety from being sheltered and past traumas, also the autism making is extremely difficult to socialize compared to other people.
it took a lot of time and effort but I'm at a point where I don't really notice the anxiety anymore outside of a few specific circumstances.
Having social anxiety and not caring what others think of you is directly contradictory.
I think you don't "don't care" what others think of you, but rather you'd wish you wouldn't care, which is again just a reaction to the basic Desire to be accepted and valued.
It is NOT virtuous to be unaffected by other people's opinions. That would be a sign of anti social personality disorder, or sociopathy.
I'm autistic myself. I definitely care about how others think of me, it's just difficult for me to tell sometimes, which is frustrating. Nonetheless do I wish to have a social circle of peers that value and respect me, and support me in my effort to be the best version of myself, because they like me, and because they wish the best for me.
It's a harsh truth, but you probably won't be able to find happiness and content in solitude. I need people, that's a pretty basic human need, just like sustenance.
@@carlpanzram7081 i think missed out some stuff, like I don't care what people think of me outside of the people in my direct friend group.
currently the people in my life are probably some of the best people i could ask for and some of the few people i really value anymore, due to past abandonment/trust issues.
honestly my entire brain feels like a contradiction and it often feels a mix apathy and caring too much.
I end up getting confused on what I feel most of the time. although it is improving for me with the help of my current friend group.
sometimes i struggle wording stuff and ending up sending the wrong message.
Change can be painful, but it doesn't mean it's bad. There will ALWAYS be an opportunity to change and grow.
You're a handsome young man.
Thanks❤
Stop the cap. He’s a sub 5 male.
@@RealistRatRace Beauty is subjective, everyone has different views on what they find attractive whether they admit it or not.
honestly I feel sorry for you
@@RealistRatRacenah. Good cheekbones, good hair, prominent brow ridge.
His looks aren't holding him back.
I agree it's dishonest and not right to call people who aren't pretty that they are good looking, but in his case he is genuinely good looking.
This doesn't mean he is model material, but that's an exception by definition.
@@RealistRatRace He's like a 4-5, certainly not "bad" looking. Without the beard and with a more neutral (or friendly) and less grumpy facial expression, he'd look quite decent.
just try and impress yourself it'll take a long time but i was like you and i've been working on it for like a couple of years now and things are so so so much better honestly
i hate this man, everytime I actually feel good and think "oh this time it won't be that bad", then I take one step outside and I already have tremendous crippling anxiety.
Look *presentable, yes I'm *that guy* 😈
You him?
We don’t need anyone. We don’t have to play any games, if we don’t want.
The next step though is this;
What do you want?
If we have nothing much to lose, then we are free to go anywhere right? To do anything.
If I ever lost everything and wanted to die, I could just grab a one-way ticket to the other side of the world.
Some sleep and water and sun can do wonders for mental health btw. But only as a stronger baseline. Not a fix-all.
Now the real point.
All of this stems from a hole in us. In you, and me.
It’s a God-shaped hole and without God we think we don’t need Him. We can’t see it, and yet we’re miserable.
So again, what is there to lose?
Reconsider what your preconceived notions of “God” are and find Him in the scriptures yourself.
Greetings
Its gonna be popular
I have a crush on you lol
Thanks I guess❤
awww. now chat him up to fuck. lol
She's probably a bot@@Soundeagle3456
@@thechelsearantman6717 most likely.
@@thechelsearantman6717hahahahahahahaha
1:34 Why not? Does it hurt to look somewhat decent? I mean, your hair is alright, but shaving off a beard really isn't that much effort and is done in a few minutes, what reason is there to _not_ do that to look a bit better?
I don't know how this was recommened to me because I hate it too
stay hard bro
i had social anxiety. now im popular (not for validation, just because i've flipped the script). you'll get over it when you don't care anymore about getting over it. go to the gym to be a better version of yourself (same for getting a job). also try the 100 approach challenge (just try to get numbers from 100 girls) - you learn that "rejection" is in your mind. one step at a time. get out of your own head and get into this spinning rock we live on. がんばれ👍
ps cut social media and cut porn. youre just poisoning yourself
Jimmy from Payday2 😎👌
if you wanna go to the pub sometime I'd be down
In Kent btw
Get a haircut, gain some muscle, focus on grooming and you’ll be in much better position.
Facts
Imo the hair is fine the way it is, looks a little messy (in a good way) and fits the shape of his head nicely, but the beard has to go ^^
You don't have anxiety you are just sub 5