The Pygmalion Effect

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  • The Pygmalion Effect is the phenomenon whereby higher expectations lead to higher performance. The Pygmalion effect is also known as the Rosenthal Experiment, named after a research of Robert Rosenthal at Harvard. #learn #psychology #motivation
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  • @sprouts
    @sprouts  Před rokem +961

    Help us to reach more teachers to learn about The Pygmalion Effect: patreon.com/sprouts

    • @deleted-something
      @deleted-something Před rokem +2

      Ye

    • @ArawnFR
      @ArawnFR Před rokem +2

      IQ tests don’t test intelligence by the way

    • @ayokanmibolu-ariyo6109
      @ayokanmibolu-ariyo6109 Před rokem +1

      John 3:16 (KJV) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Romans 10:9-10, 13 (KJV) That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
      For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
      For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved

    • @valeforedark
      @valeforedark Před rokem

      Never see one of s female helping or benefiting the male

    • @DemonetisedZone
      @DemonetisedZone Před rokem

      Never heard of this before.
      Thanks👍😉

  • @stellar_nathy6679
    @stellar_nathy6679 Před 4 lety +42834

    This reminds me how EVERY SCHOOL YEAR, a teacher would say how we were "the worst behaved classroom" and from that point things only got worse and more dramatic

    • @DimoB8
      @DimoB8 Před 4 lety +3009

      This does happen to my class to, while I was in the 10th grade , the older students were worse (at the point of throwing a door at a teecher, yes a whole door). But because we were loud we were "one of the worst classes that ever passed through this school".
      And this is why our new literature teacher treated every one of our class like shit because "she heard the rumors" . She single handedly murdered my average.

    • @bilguunchuluun3685
      @bilguunchuluun3685 Před 4 lety +775

      Our class was the same also but at the end of 9th grade, there is a bunch of exams that determines if u make into the next grade or not. Supposedly all the bad kids didn't make it and one of the teachers started a rumor that our class got way better and now they don't view us as that bad. Even though our class was almost the same as last year

    • @alegria1813
      @alegria1813 Před 4 lety +453

      Lmao I'm always in the worst class.

    • @mochuyy
      @mochuyy Před 4 lety +747

      I honestly hate my math teacher. She'll say "We've been learning this for so long! How come you can't remember this?" Or "You should all get 100%" And when she sees a student that doesn't get it after a while (that she doesn't like) she'll tell them, except in an angry tone. This is basically why I never ask for help :/

    • @alegria1813
      @alegria1813 Před 4 lety +151

      @@mochuyy mine is exactly the same wtf

  • @RelativelyBest
    @RelativelyBest Před 3 lety +24334

    Basically: Confidence has a _huge_ effect on performance, and your confidence is heavily influenced by people whose opinions you respect.

    • @tankofnova9022
      @tankofnova9022 Před 3 lety +258

      @ANNABELL CANNON *bad* parents:

    • @sleepingcinderella
      @sleepingcinderella Před 3 lety +71

      Unfortunately

    • @ruchamansukh1203
      @ruchamansukh1203 Před 3 lety +22

      @ANNABELL CANNON :(

    • @fleecemaster
      @fleecemaster Před 3 lety +180

      Doesn't have to people you respect, anyone with authority or influence over you

    • @KushagraaDubeyy
      @KushagraaDubeyy Před 3 lety +173

      But more than that it shouldn’t ultimately depend on others or external validation too much otherwise one becomes a puppet controlled by this person or that circumstance etc. True confidence should always stem from within !

  • @lillianpark90
    @lillianpark90 Před rokem +5125

    This is why as a teacher it’s so important to believe in all of your students.

    • @SourthernerPilgrim
      @SourthernerPilgrim Před rokem +32

      well if teacher paid more than some bullshit celebirity...
      maybe they will..

    • @CarlosCosta-gp4dv
      @CarlosCosta-gp4dv Před rokem +31

      Its hard when some of them don't give a fuck about studies, and they're not shy to clearly demonstrate that

    • @Eye_Radiate_Light
      @Eye_Radiate_Light Před rokem +9

      They play favourites

    • @Tenchi707
      @Tenchi707 Před rokem +3

      Well then there would be no motivation to become better, if a teacher motivate a good player and a bad player the same way that would be weird, he can only tell the bad player to become better which they do all the time

    • @stopworrying8850
      @stopworrying8850 Před rokem +1

      ​@@Tenchi707 Falls

  • @raimahossain2174
    @raimahossain2174 Před rokem +878

    This is interesting. I remember back in college I was tutoring some kids in high school in math, where some would get their work done asap while others I couldn't get to solve a single problem. Eventually, instead of giving up or getting frustrated on the few that acted like they just cant do it, I started to communicate with them more often, ask them questions that I knew they'd know how to answer and give them a little praise each time they were able to answer or they tried to, as though they just know how to solve the problems themselves, they just needed to believe and dig deeper. From there you keep applying it to slightly more difficult problems, give them a lil praise each time they try a bit harder especially when they might fail and now you have a child that actually wants to solve the problems and seems to be kind of enjoying it too. All because you had faith in them and helped them see that they can! It's amazing.
    Remember to praise the effort, not the outcome.

    • @sprouts
      @sprouts  Před rokem +61

      We need teachers like you!!!

    • @richsackett3423
      @richsackett3423 Před rokem +14

      Yup. There are no bad dogs.

    • @MoniiChanTheUnicorn
      @MoniiChanTheUnicorn Před rokem +17

      You sound like a wonderful teacher, this is why I was always bad at maths in school and have always been a 'creative' type, yet as an adult I work in STEM as a Software Engineer and I absolutely love it!

    • @bernardkung7306
      @bernardkung7306 Před 9 měsíci +10

      @@karlwithak. Let me guess... You don't believe you're influenced by advertising and marketing, either.

    • @jdelacruz14791
      @jdelacruz14791 Před 9 měsíci +6

      @@karlwithak. Research from over 50 years ago is unreliable because of how poorly misunderstood psychology was at the time. Length of time isn't an indicator of how reliable something is. In fact, it's quite the opposite. When it comes to these topics, more recent findings tend to be more reliable than findings from over 50 years ago

  • @skeg8599
    @skeg8599 Před 3 lety +10288

    All of my teachers told me I was shy and I believed them, until one day a teacher said I wasn't shy, I'm just quietly confident.
    That changed everything for me and I started believing in myself.

    • @borko8325
      @borko8325 Před 3 lety +215

      AWWWWW

    • @nothanks010
      @nothanks010 Před 3 lety +348

      My experience was similar in the way that I had to come to the realization myself. People constantly reinforced the belief that I was deeply insecure or scared of sharing my thoughts. They couldn't have been more wrong. Really glad you are able to see the confidence you hold! More people should

    • @FingerinUrDaughter
      @FingerinUrDaughter Před 3 lety +5

      thats fucking pathetic. why would you place so much value on random people who dont matter? all they are are people with a job. do you hear the 7-11 employee say something mean about you, and start thinking that its true?

    • @skeg8599
      @skeg8599 Před 3 lety +224

      @@FingerinUrDaughter wow that's so true. What kind of stupid little kid believes what their teacher says. We can't all pop out the womb as enlightened as you :(

    • @Proxyy7
      @Proxyy7 Před 3 lety +97

      @@FingerinUrDaughter Lol, you're a scumbag.

  • @angelinebena9675
    @angelinebena9675 Před 3 lety +50624

    That’s why good teachers are important. They literally change people’s lives

    • @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241
      @junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241 Před 3 lety +530

      Speaking from experience, yess!!

    • @aarymantimalsina6148
      @aarymantimalsina6148 Před 3 lety +48

      Ikr

    • @stop4683
      @stop4683 Před 3 lety +594

      absolutely. i had average teachers until my freshman year of high school where i had the best teacher in my life. encouraged and inspired me so much in school and outside of school & completely changed who i am. also made me actually care about a class that i otherwise wouldnt have cared about

    • @charlesozuna8763
      @charlesozuna8763 Před 3 lety +550

      And bad teachers can ruin your motivation to pursue something, speaking from experience, I hate band and jazz now

    • @algorix8420
      @algorix8420 Před 3 lety +43

      @@charlesozuna8763 nooo, jazz is great

  • @caravanlifenz
    @caravanlifenz Před 10 měsíci +86

    My mother always had so many mental issues when I was a child, so I always stayed quiet and listened to all her problems. Consequently, she said I was the 'good, quiet' one. In adulthood, I took a psychology class and realised she was a manipulative bully and a narcissist, so I stopped going along with everything she said. Suddenly, I was demonised as the difficult, selfish one. It's amazing how you're 'good' when you go along with everything they want, and 'bad' when you say no to manipulative lies.

  • @teramir4302
    @teramir4302 Před 10 měsíci +54

    This is actually a very scary and yet tragic phenomenon. in short, society pushes the individual down the path it considers to be appropriate for them. be it a serial murderer, or a successful celebrity.

    • @narrow3601
      @narrow3601 Před 5 měsíci +6

      That's actually an interesting view on this phenomena

  • @snookiewozo
    @snookiewozo Před 5 lety +5418

    More appreciation -> more motivation -> more time spent -> more skill.
    Simple as that.

    • @j0e3o77
      @j0e3o77 Před 5 lety +146

      There is a way to break this: Self-motivation despite what people may believe, and you prove them wrong by your own skill and belief in yourself.

    • @PaperPlateClorox
      @PaperPlateClorox Před 5 lety +7

      Exactly and the cycle restarts.

    • @l3layze
      @l3layze Před 5 lety +5

      Sneaky Weasel this has been blatantly obvious to me for years when I managed a store. I’m only bringing it up because I’m not a manager anymore and my current managers treat everyone like Joe. They don’t see a problem but we have been trying to communicate for several months now.

    • @ShadowPhoenix82
      @ShadowPhoenix82 Před 5 lety

      That's probably how it works for normal people.

    • @123456789santia
      @123456789santia Před 5 lety

      @@ShadowPhoenix82 Yeah, because success have a lot of alternatives than 3/4 forms of improve skills.

  • @ataman8616
    @ataman8616 Před 3 lety +9796

    From a little different perspective. I was taught a sequence by my uncle: "If you call someone a monster and repeat it every day, he will become one"

    • @Lthe1
      @Lthe1 Před 3 lety +255

      I like that a lot. Imma have to write that down

    • @ndinzuzu9236
      @ndinzuzu9236 Před 3 lety +598

      My parents say the same thing and then call me a stupid bitch

    • @opusmagnum9916
      @opusmagnum9916 Před 3 lety +15

      haklısın kardeşşşim

    • @gamemations5066
      @gamemations5066 Před 3 lety +5

      mine too

    • @ShahidAli-wp3dv
      @ShahidAli-wp3dv Před 3 lety +335

      so if you call me handsome and repeat it everyday, i will become handsome

  • @Arc_Viper
    @Arc_Viper Před 9 měsíci +81

    As a short man, this is relatable. The Pygmalion effect is strong with men concerning their height. People all around me have lowered expectations because of my height. It took me years and years to get my own motivation to be charismatic and confident despite my environment. It's not easy.

    • @mradu30singh
      @mradu30singh Před měsícem +1

      Correct
      I always feel same. 5' 6"

    • @spacedinput
      @spacedinput Před 22 dny

      What did you do different? I am sure you tried your best until that point. Did you just try even harder?

  • @ThatiLeRosa
    @ThatiLeRosa Před rokem +70

    This is great. I come from a schooling system that placed students in “A”, “B” and “Bottom”(or what they would refer to as “mixed”) set classes, the A class only got so much better. B remained consistent. Bottom class students dropped maths and tended to give a “I don’t care” “I’m barely even trying” attitude. Always didn’t like this system. Interesting to see how this video strengthens my belief

  • @CanDOGGOGetSubs-jr9xn
    @CanDOGGOGetSubs-jr9xn Před 3 lety +8992

    I think this is the reason why some people fails school because they get unmotivated to get there and learn something.

    • @FuckEMM808
      @FuckEMM808 Před 3 lety +306

      I went through hell and back to fckn pass highschool and guess what? I did it! I graduated and even through all those years of failing and having a hard time doing my work or being put down because I was “ smart enough “ I still did what I had to do. So whenever somebody wants to call me stupid I will tell them that I graduated ... my grandma calls me stupid but guess what? I graduated and she didn’t

    • @markoogle
      @markoogle Před 3 lety +43

      This is why u have parents to motivate you, and yourself to motivate you

    • @jakepaul6979
      @jakepaul6979 Před 3 lety +30

      The question is , if someone thinks negatively of you , how do you reverse it?

    • @johndavemedenilla4583
      @johndavemedenilla4583 Před 3 lety +21

      @@FuckEMM808 you're the man

    • @voidday
      @voidday Před 3 lety +27

      My principal treats me like joe in the basketball team. She always gets annoyed when I make a mistake, while she explains and laughs it off with most of my friends, especially my best friend. I hate her so much.
      Edit: spelling
      Edit: also I think she treated me like this because I was a new kid, while she treated the others better just because they were at the school longer. Moreover, she rarely calls on me for anything even if I'm an option and raised my hand.

  • @Cormac_YT
    @Cormac_YT Před 2 lety +9093

    The people who were expected to do well were nurtured to do well and the people who were expected to do badly were developed to fulfill those expectations

    • @Jy-xq2ew
      @Jy-xq2ew Před 2 lety +144

      I don't nurture is the right word... Groomed perhaps.

    • @ninja.training.6197
      @ninja.training.6197 Před 2 lety +73

      Sometimes it goes the other way around

    • @sandroadler3607
      @sandroadler3607 Před 2 lety +155

      That's crazy, and even today schools work like that
      They for shure don't want all of us to be smart and intelligent. You need some dumb people, because without those there wouldn't be smart ones

    • @wariocart35
      @wariocart35 Před 2 lety +47

      Right up until imposter syndrome takes hold

    • @smokeyjoe6059
      @smokeyjoe6059 Před 2 lety +54

      @@Jy-xq2ew Conditioned.

  • @aguspuig6615
    @aguspuig6615 Před rokem +73

    I remember having a biology teacher that had negative expectations about me for no aprent reason. To the point were she would ask a question, i would raise my hand to answer, and she would not notice, on a room that was like 10 feet by 10 feet with ten people in it. And she wasnt just maliciously ignoring me, my classmates had to point out that i had my hand raised and she was genuenly surprised she didnt see me, but this happened repeatedly. The way she treated me was so confidence destroying that i doubted everything in tests, biology became so hard for me, the only subject i had to study many days for an exam to only fail, that the next year i changed it for another subject and got better grades despite missing a whole previous year of teachings.

    • @sunsuna972
      @sunsuna972 Před 3 dny

      I’ve had teachers like this. I was always told I was bad in maths so I believed them and in high school, one of my teacher tells me “wow, you’re one of the few students I have who understand maths to it’s core. you don’t memorize the outcome.” And that’s when I realized that those teacher who told me I was bad in maths meant that I was bad in understanding their method, which was basically making us memorize the whole step.
      I come from a country where memorization plays a very big role in education. I do understand that it is important but it’s not a guaranteed learning system.

  • @haydenadams3308
    @haydenadams3308 Před rokem +86

    This is why as a coach you have to do two things: not get too attached to avoid bias in your treatment of players and never write a player off. Each is an individual and is on a journey that hopefully you have some influence on. You'll be surprised what players will start developing out of nowhere when you do.

    • @plugshirt1762
      @plugshirt1762 Před 4 měsíci

      @@carsonhunt4642 congrats you managed to type a comment completely irrelevant to what you were replying to

  • @ew1852
    @ew1852 Před 5 lety +30136

    Makes you wonder how much talent has been wasted over the years due to teachers/parents etc not knowing how to nourish it!

    • @nurysieve2185
      @nurysieve2185 Před 5 lety +386

      agree

    • @heartache5742
      @heartache5742 Před 5 lety +189

      TALENT ISN'T REAL

    • @theinvincibles764
      @theinvincibles764 Před 5 lety +991

      Alexey Stolovoy tell that to my 2 year old son who already knows thermodynamics and theory of relativity

    • @kamehameha2291
      @kamehameha2291 Před 5 lety +459

      Teachers suck cuz they dont motivate people ;"(

    • @MrEysox
      @MrEysox Před 5 lety +79

      @@theinvincibles764 he just gives his best

  • @AB-ur9rq
    @AB-ur9rq Před 5 lety +11644

    "Whether you think you can or you can't, either way you are right."
    - Henry Ford

    • @eddy4470
      @eddy4470 Před 5 lety +17

      But what does that mean?

    • @josinelafontaine4939
      @josinelafontaine4939 Před 5 lety +174

      Except, the lesson here is: other people can control how you think about yourself (or, if they don't, it doesn't matter because you'll fail, even if you think you're awesome)

    • @AB-ur9rq
      @AB-ur9rq Před 5 lety +297

      Josine Lafontaine True, but it is also a cycle. If I let other people's perceptions of me influence me so much that I begin to believe in them more than in my own perception of me, I would gradually prove them correct.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 Před 5 lety +15

      Some think they can and they can't.

    • @Cortanasboyfriend
      @Cortanasboyfriend Před 5 lety +30

      Always hated that quote cause it’s sort of a hard to swallow pill

  • @bethanyray6421
    @bethanyray6421 Před rokem +110

    i realized this a really long time ago. My sister and I were close in age but I was a little more outgoing and she was a little more shy and attached to others. It seems as though from a young age, I was fostered with higher expectations and over time my sister was given lower and lower expectations. She struggled in school while I got A's and B's and rarely any C's. My sister failed, almost got held back, and never graduated high school. I was involved in a lot of extra curriculars because my parents thought I NEEDED that and thought my sister didn't need it. They thought I had more energy, more of a need to express myself creatively through dance or music. My sister was not given the same resources that kept me out of trouble. She got involved with a bad friends, drugs, bad relationships. Now I am 21 and she is 23 and she doesn't have a job. She is living with my mom in a one bed-room apartment staying indoors literally all day long. Whereas I am in a private 4 year university going on my senior year and going to move on to graduate school.
    All of this because she was seen as a struggling kid and expected not to do well from the get go. She never stood a chance because we were always being compared. I think my parents did the best they could I really believe that and I would never ever tell them this but they failed her. I know they tried hard and I know that they wanted the best and can't help their own biases but they still failed her. And I have vowed that if I ever have kids I will always try to give them equal expectations and opportunities. Every kid deserves that.

    • @sprouts
      @sprouts  Před rokem +20

      We never know how drastically our biases and expectations can influence other's life. I am sorry your sister's environment wasn't favorable.

    • @kaz_50
      @kaz_50 Před rokem +38

      You just described your parents failing your sister, I may not know the details but the way you described it is basically that. I think the reason why you still believe your parents did their best was because you yourself turned out well. Just because you turned out well does not make the way they treated your sister well (based on how you described it) was ok. This is just how I see it from an outside perspective based on the information you shared.

    • @narrow3601
      @narrow3601 Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@kaz_50oh absolutely they failed her

    • @doublet3n672
      @doublet3n672 Před 4 měsíci +14

      "My sister deserved better, but I'm never ever going to tell my parents that, can't ruin their perfect view of ME" mate you are part of the problem.

    • @storyfrontierdrive1433
      @storyfrontierdrive1433 Před 4 měsíci +2

      How selfish you are

  • @CrusaderGabriel
    @CrusaderGabriel Před rokem +21

    This is why I made a personal hobby going against other’s expectations
    Personally I prefer people not having any expectations just because it’s incredibly annoying having to meet them (the higher their expectations the worst, like you’ll have to work more than what you like to just to have others happy instead of yourself)
    but when they assume I’m stupid it makes it really fun to prove them wrong, I have no minimum to achieve so if I fail at proving them wrong at the worst I just did the bare minimum and still succeeded in whatever was the task, but that’s just me as a self motivated adult, the coach from the example was an A-hole and should’ve been fired

    • @DesertStateNevada
      @DesertStateNevada Před 8 měsíci +2

      Same for me. Most people had/have extremely negative views about me, either to somehow elevate themselves or its self projection. Doesn't matter, the picture they created about me in their heads which they have held onto for a decade is negative. I never let those people define me, I worked my ass off, and reached levels they can't even dream of. Now when they see me, you should see the psychological breakdowns they get when their view about me shatters. Its like a nuclear reactor meltdown happens in their mind, they can't process it.

  • @n0426
    @n0426 Před 5 lety +25915

    That’s why good parenting is important.

    • @kellyv6075
      @kellyv6075 Před 5 lety +402

      Spot on!

    • @bugeye8749
      @bugeye8749 Před 5 lety +378

      It’s crucial

    • @pawpawworldchanel
      @pawpawworldchanel Před 5 lety +819

      Exactly, i have a very very negative mother who always bring me down, and NEVER support me to reach my dream, she always said all those negative things, bad words and made everythings become harder for me, even my mother always insulting me all the time, thats why no matter how hard I try, I always failed, I wish my mother will gone, so I can enjoy my life and reach my dream, you cant imagine the amount of negativity she brings everyday, my morther always oppres me to the limit I cant handdle, I feel worthless everyday, everytime my mother open her mouth, I feel worthless, its begin since I was a kid, I dont know what should I do, im so sad

    • @seakalix4297
      @seakalix4297 Před 5 lety +369

      Hanna, the saddest part - at least to me - is that your mom was probably treated by her mom in the same way, and her mom probably treated her the same
      way and it goes back generations of women treating their daughters abusively. My mom was a controling, negative person too. Even when I grew up and moved out she was the same. Thank goodness when she died! But when she died she left my brother her house - because he was the one that never got married, never moved out, she chased away any girl interested in him. Kept him on drugs, cooked his meals. And you know what, karma got him because in 2014 a tree fell on that house during a hurricane and he didn't have enough homeowners insurance on it to rebuild it so he had to move, lol! I hope you can find your path!

    • @gutenman7112
      @gutenman7112 Před 5 lety +104

      @@pawpawworldchanel I hope you will breal.the cycle , I know it will be hard even if you are concious of it , my father teaches me to abuse animal and expected me as a useless dumb child, im always angry of th , of me and everything because of how I learned from them , morever im concious in all of this .

  • @SM-gh3cy
    @SM-gh3cy Před 4 lety +5569

    In my native language, Turkmen, we have a saying "call someone dumb 40 times, and he will become one"

    • @dekudeku5520
      @dekudeku5520 Před 4 lety +31

      Indeed I know of it.

    • @dekudeku5520
      @dekudeku5520 Před 4 lety +138

      My dad also knew it, by still decided to call me all sorts of things regardless. Damn he lucky I don't wanna kill him, yet, I rather watch him go through hell, but at the same time I want to see him suffer, luckily for him I'm also lazy.

    • @LATINASTYLEx3
      @LATINASTYLEx3 Před 4 lety +85

      Right important parents don't call their children dumb or something. My parents did this very often and I believed it 🙁

    • @LATINASTYLEx3
      @LATINASTYLEx3 Před 4 lety +12

      Right important parents don't call their children dumb or something. My parents did this very often and I believed it 🙁

    • @SM-gh3cy
      @SM-gh3cy Před 4 lety +16

      This way or another our parents teach us, now we all now how to treat our children. Not the best way to learn but still...

  • @teauxni93
    @teauxni93 Před rokem +6

    "...is there a way to prevent ourselves from being shaped by others in a negative way?" Yes! Spite...

  • @dariusdafigga
    @dariusdafigga Před rokem +21

    Wow I’ve always vaguely thought about this concept but didn’t know it had an actual name and it is so true. I experience this just about every time I meet someone. Your looks and the personality you give off often causes others to have certain expectations of you. I often find myself trying to live up to those expectations subconsciously. Every now and then I would realize and question why I do the things that I do. This explains it

  • @tryingtopickagoodusername9598
    @tryingtopickagoodusername9598 Před 3 lety +7070

    "Treat a man as he is, he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he could be, he will become what he should be" - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

  • @socosoul8294
    @socosoul8294 Před 4 lety +26568

    A moment of silence for all those who were in the same situation as Joe

  • @manasjaiswal1783
    @manasjaiswal1783 Před rokem +4

    This is exactly what has happened to me every time this year either consciously or subconsciously, eventually resulting in poor performance of mine during preparation journey ! And now that I know what was going on I can totally cutoff or keep myself unheard from such people . Thankyou for this valuable information 🙌

  • @bishalkumar8287
    @bishalkumar8287 Před rokem +3

    Woaw, I can relate to Joe, as during my high school days, our teacher used to treat us different and always favoured the person that performed better and eventually led us to think that we are not good enough and used to affect our performance and we also started missing the classes, but eventually things became better........So message to all the Joe(s) out there, don't give up man, just keep trying, don't stop....you will eventually make it

  • @piliana12
    @piliana12 Před 3 lety +5018

    A teacher told me I was slow at learning and understanding and I believed her, and when I finally met a teacher that showed me otherwise, I had the highest grades ever in my life

    • @runpigrun
      @runpigrun Před 3 lety +34

      You’re not supposed to end sentences with prepositional phrases

    • @littlefishbigmountain
      @littlefishbigmountain Před 3 lety +97

      @@runpigrun
      Why? We don’t speak classical Latin, which is where that rule was forced onto English from. As Winston Churchill said (ironically) about that claim, “This is the sort of English up with which I will not put!”

    • @alextheconfuddled8983
      @alextheconfuddled8983 Před 3 lety +59

      @@runpigrun Its not a sentence, it doesn't end in punctuation.

    • @daanav3682
      @daanav3682 Před 3 lety +3

      Same

    • @AydenRose04
      @AydenRose04 Před 3 lety +82

      @@runpigrun they got their point across so it’s fine
      Plus you didn’t use punctuation so why are you bothering them about their grammar

  • @muyhiram
    @muyhiram Před 4 lety +13168

    This is why good looks often lead to success.

    • @amethyst_0711
      @amethyst_0711 Před 4 lety +131

      Same 🙃

    • @VikeingBlade
      @VikeingBlade Před 4 lety +581

      That's an insightful observation ngl. I wonder how this idea could be used for good

    • @RedFloyd469
      @RedFloyd469 Před 4 lety +1611

      And more importantly, why less attractive people get worse jobs, are treated worse, have less self-esteem, perform worse in tests, are less motivated and are regarded as worse human beings in terms of morality.
      The latter is only reinforced by hollywood cliches connecting morally bad behavior with ugliness, and virtuous behavior with beauty.

    • @galacticlavalamp6338
      @galacticlavalamp6338 Před 4 lety +509

      I hate when I heard that. Especially since I know it might be true. But you can’t just be beautiful, you have to actually be good at what you do.

    • @VikeingBlade
      @VikeingBlade Před 4 lety +496

      @@galacticlavalamp6338 This is true. The thing is just that people with good looks often get seen as better because of it (more charisma), meaning that they're trusted with bigger jobs, larger opportunities, etc. But what really wins out in the end is your ability, not how good people's initial opinions of you are

  • @aguspuig6615
    @aguspuig6615 Před rokem +6

    I feel like its really important to train yourself to see the good in people, if you try to fake it it doesnt work, it only works when you have a genuine degree of admiration or respect for the person, i feel like being profecient at seeing the good in people and being able to show it is one of the best social skills there is. You help other people, and predispose them to treat you nicely, if youre already confident and charismatic people will get a big boost from being apreciated by you, but even if youre shy and kinda awkward, if people get the vibe that you apreciate them youll always come out at least as cute to them, no matter how awkward you are.

  • @Shelby-mh2ux
    @Shelby-mh2ux Před 7 měsíci +7

    This effect is very similar to my expectations in school, where in school I was really bad in studies, but was totally opposite when it comes to sports...At that time i had already expected my sports teacher to treat me the way Joe was treated, so even if I had got no compliments I had gave my best because I just loved playing and at end even though was not treated equally like other players i won lots of gold medals which was the source of my motivation

  • @benjaminaltube8731
    @benjaminaltube8731 Před 2 lety +8731

    "Higher expectations lead to higher performance"
    People with anxiety: *yesn't*

    • @randominternetviewer166
      @randominternetviewer166 Před 2 lety +266

      People with anxieties, learn it from a very young age. Most likely from how their parents reacted to their actions

    • @ainsleyswartwout2202
      @ainsleyswartwout2202 Před 2 lety +267

      ay lmao yesn't that is true.. I was told I was smart etc. until I got to reading comprehension in fourth grade and my confidence dropped significantly because I was great at everything else but non-verbal (non-auditory word) comprehension and memory. I didn't have words for it at the time, but that's what it was. As I got older, I was still told you're smart, you have so much potential just keep at it you'll go far. But my feelings, my reality wasn't lining up with what was being said of me. I failed an AP English class in 11th grade and just barely got through AP History because I was so stressed about the work, anxious, and not confident in my abilities. Even still my parents kept saying, you're really intelligent I don't understand why this is so difficult for you, the reality for me caused me to lose all hope in my future. They weren't really seeing what was going on with me emotionally and with how I viewed myself, like I was just ignored a lot of the time, so they couldn't help... I remember seeing myself as someone who just couldn't keep it together, so what was the point in even trying.
      So but yeah, higher expectations of someone has to be there alongside being paid attention to, being helped and encouraged, and being coached for higher performance to occur.

    • @zaplepikachu
      @zaplepikachu Před 2 lety +36

      @@randominternetviewer166 I dunno dude, my family has genetically higher dispositions to anxiety despite us always being encouraging in homes and receiving praise for what we do.

    • @red13emerald
      @red13emerald Před 2 lety +130

      Higher expectations CAN lead to higher performance, if and ONLY if higher expectations cause a positive effect on the persons performance, like getting more attention put into their training, support after failures, etc. If the higher expectations are unreasonably high or the person is not supported in any way, they fail to meet those expectations, and may blame themselves for it, despite the expectations being the problem, not their performance. I’d say that is one of the prime contributors to anxiety, as it is very easy to internalise these unrealistic expectations and the subsequent self-blame, which, in combination, cause a vicious cycle of learned helplessness.

    • @josiahhill3783
      @josiahhill3783 Před 2 lety +3

      This is too accurate

  • @fiorenzadelafuente1062
    @fiorenzadelafuente1062 Před 3 lety +5158

    Joe deserved better. Hope you’re having a better life buddy😔

    • @Ray2311us
      @Ray2311us Před 3 lety +151

      I was Joe, I’m having a nightmare ever since elementary.

    • @SONALI_V
      @SONALI_V Před 3 lety +59

      @@Ray2311us aww 😔I love you for doing your best

    • @jorgerosas2516
      @jorgerosas2516 Před 3 lety +4

      You mean the Joe that got sick with hava?

    • @karthiksashank6829
      @karthiksashank6829 Před 3 lety +3

      Its a story and it aint true

    • @fendy5124
      @fendy5124 Před 3 lety +39

      @@yw6836 joe mama ahahsssjsskjsksjsks
      Ok

  • @markb8312
    @markb8312 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Yep, very true. That's why it's important to try to be encouraging and find the good things to say about someone to them, even if it's hard at times. Or maybe a bit of a stretch. If they hear the positive things you believe about them, it will trigger a positive loop (and vice versa). Especially important for parents to encourage their kids, because other kids in school will say so many mean things for no reason, and if the kid doesn't have an authority figure combatting that negativity it will be bad for them

  • @1UniversePrincess
    @1UniversePrincess Před rokem +1

    This simple explanation, reminds of what my mom told me about how our bad behavior could trickle down to our little sister if we didn’t improve it when we were growing up. Also reminds me of how people do gaslighting (unfortunately had a run through someone that did it, glad it’s over now).

  • @ClioMako
    @ClioMako Před 5 lety +6933

    Poor Joe, he deserved to be believed in.

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 Před 5 lety +17

      ClioMako ...but he's a douche.

    • @benjaminr8961
      @benjaminr8961 Před 5 lety +35

      @@JaysonT1 He is also fat.

    • @alehunter15
      @alehunter15 Před 5 lety +175

      Hey Joe where are you going with that gun of yours?

    • @juliarenneker7297
      @juliarenneker7297 Před 5 lety +193

      @@JaysonT1 but he wasn't a douche before the coach stopped paying attention to him

    • @StreetGeekz
      @StreetGeekz Před 5 lety +64

      Joe later became known as Wreck it Ralph.

  • @sdrice2007
    @sdrice2007 Před 4 lety +6236

    As an educator, I've seen this over and over. I wholeheartedly believe in this. I do my best to approach each class as a room full of young geniuses.

    • @SevScout
      @SevScout Před 4 lety +20

      Hmm. What you should be actually doing, is to try and see the value/enjoyment of motivating even those, who are (even if only in your mind) behind the rest of the class. Seeing every child as a genius will put unwarrented stress on those, who are simply lacking. Motivating them to do their best, even pushing them to their limits is what should be preferable, since that will teach them their own limits and will harden them enough, so that they will be able to withstand far more rigorous educations than they would. This goes for the gifted ones as well. Teach them to know themselves. Don't teach them to be full of themselves. Please. You'd not only do the kids a giant favor, but the whole world.

    • @cranjismcbasketball4754
      @cranjismcbasketball4754 Před 4 lety +37

      Damn is your last name really rice?

    • @cappuccinocoffee9734
      @cappuccinocoffee9734 Před 4 lety +56

      I thank and highly appreciate teachers like you. I was a student with a low self-esteem at the start of my freshman year. My maths teacher saw something in me. She slowly developed me and helped me grow, and become what I am today; a straight A student.
      *Thx for the 18 likes haha.

    • @althafshameel4466
      @althafshameel4466 Před 4 lety +7

      All the best sir. I too wanna be the same 😊

    • @bnashtay2278
      @bnashtay2278 Před 4 lety +7

      Be my teacher! I wish everyone could see me as an intellectual...

  • @TinmanHU
    @TinmanHU Před rokem +3

    I thought I was familiar with this sort of thing, but this is the first I've heard of it. I have to admit that this is one of the most brilliant phenomena I have heard about in recent years. I am impressed!

  • @orthoswolf4394
    @orthoswolf4394 Před rokem +41

    I was a victim of this from my track coach and it it has affected me mentally since then. I always held myself to high standards and tried hard, but I was always pushed beyond my limits and got hurt. Any time I mentioned that I was injured and in need of some rest, I was berated for not wanting to be there and not wanting to be a part of the team. I still showed up anyways and continued to practice. During some sprint workouts, I was literally tearing up as I was limping as I ran. I still ended up getting pulled from competition in my final year because my coach viewed me as unwilling to support the team, regardless of the fact that I had went to every meet regardless of if I competed or not (even paid to get into some). Since then, I’ve struggled to sit down and think that I’m doing a good enough job at anything I do. It’s made it nearly impossible to appreciate the smaller goals and I always pressure myself to be the best. It’s rough, but it’s getting better.

    • @EnderEYEx
      @EnderEYEx Před 11 měsíci +1

      That's a dick coach that is out to make you have a bad time. I don't wanna assume but maybe racism or prejudice? Or he's just a shit person. You did fuckin amazing.

    • @Anthony-jh6xt
      @Anthony-jh6xt Před 5 měsíci

      Damn, try saying no next time

    • @maddogbarfog2492
      @maddogbarfog2492 Před 5 měsíci

      With respect, it sounds like you struggled with it before this coach if you were consistently training to the point of injury. It’s not the coach’s fault you felt you’re not good enough. Perhaps some self refection is your key to freedom.
      I know there are a lot of trolls on the web. I swear that’s not my intention. As soon as you realize it’s always been you holding yourself back, you’ll realize you are the one in control & can honestly reflect on your behaviours which are holding you back.
      Right now, it’s hard for you to see because you’re focused on blaming some coach you haven’t seen in years.

  • @quandrellhendricks
    @quandrellhendricks Před 5 lety +2133

    *Ok but I’m just showing appreciation to the Artist who drew this*

    • @leoelliondeux
      @leoelliondeux Před 5 lety +3

      *cool story bro*

    • @TL5official
      @TL5official Před 5 lety +8

      It's just templates from a whiteboard software. Anybody can make this.

    • @22geo6
      @22geo6 Před 5 lety +1

      I wish there was a real dislike button😂

    • @stopstaringandsubscribe5189
      @stopstaringandsubscribe5189 Před 5 lety +2

      @@TL5official he means that the drawing sucks ... and if he complements the drawer it'll get better

    • @natsukilovestobake4427
      @natsukilovestobake4427 Před 5 lety +2

      1000,000 subscriber with some vids challenge Oh okay no wonder most of the replies are kind of negative! I was taking the comment literally and thought that was a genuine compliment so thank you for explaining that!

  • @k-lahkhan1111
    @k-lahkhan1111 Před 2 lety +3388

    if I try to explain this to my parents they'd just say "well Joe needed to prove that his coach was WRONG and he should've tried harder"

    • @purdyprincess
      @purdyprincess Před 2 lety +309

      That's my mom. She's all about proving the other person wrong about their beliefs of ourselves

    • @mazvitaselemani
      @mazvitaselemani Před 2 lety +185

      This effect seems to neglect all other factors, like individual interaction between Joe and the Coach that might make him change his mind about Joe, or Joe having support from his other team mates, or like your mom said Joe's resilience. It's definitely not 100% true but , it's certainly arguable that this effect exists in our society

    • @hippiefairy7333
      @hippiefairy7333 Před 2 lety +41

      Asian moms

    • @k-lahkhan1111
      @k-lahkhan1111 Před 2 lety +32

      @@hippiefairy7333 how did you know omg

    • @hippiefairy7333
      @hippiefairy7333 Před 2 lety +28

      @@k-lahkhan1111 im asian too haha

  • @Lilitha11
    @Lilitha11 Před rokem

    This reminds me of my little league coach when I was younger. He was a no nonsense, extremely strict coach and he expected everyone on the team to do well. He is the type that yelled even if we won the game, if we gave up too many runs. We were undefeated and dominated the league that year. I played on other teams in other years, where the coach doesn't really expect much from a lot of the people, and ones who thought the most important thing was just to have fun and try your best and we always did really bad on those teams. Even if the couch was a hard ass, the high expectations from him made everyone a lot better.

  • @legonerd162
    @legonerd162 Před 10 měsíci

    And this is exactly why as a teacher, I'm always encouraging and trying to help each and every student correct their mistakes and learn from them, rather than putting them down or ignoring the mistakes cus "they're just a bad student"

  • @99fulgur
    @99fulgur Před 5 lety +1880

    This is what happening in the schools for decades

    • @GamingwithHarsh
      @GamingwithHarsh Před 5 lety +46

      Sometimes the students don't do good in exams cause of their own fault rather than the teacher and this video gives them another excuse why they didn't study.

    • @Hargazer
      @Hargazer Před 5 lety +37

      Gaming with Thanos The video portrays well that a child that wouldn't be discouraged so much would be more inclined to work harder anyways. This video is about how our expectations of others can influence other people's success or failure. It's about shaping other people's behavior. Perhaps you should watch the video with a bit more attention this time.

    • @literallyasuka2996
      @literallyasuka2996 Před 5 lety +1

      Wtf is Mona Lisa holding in your profile picture

    • @99fulgur
      @99fulgur Před 5 lety +3

      @@literallyasuka2996 Uh just some broccolis officer

    • @unnamed715
      @unnamed715 Před 5 lety +19

      @@GamingwithHarsh "No such thing bad student. Only bad teacher."
      -Mr. Miyagi
      The Karate Kid

  • @joeyv2083
    @joeyv2083 Před 2 lety +5678

    This should be such a focus for parenting, schooling, and any place of employment... this would teach real leadership

    • @dukeleeroy1394
      @dukeleeroy1394 Před 2 lety +25

      Absolutely, leadership is the key word!

    • @dnegel9546
      @dnegel9546 Před 2 lety +23

      I dkn.. I work with some real shitbags. 😂

    • @dblack8141
      @dblack8141 Před 2 lety +3

      anyone who behaves like this should get their boomer shots.

    • @Jy-xq2ew
      @Jy-xq2ew Před 2 lety +4

      Well in an ideal world yes... But it should only go as far as home..(parenting)... The school or the workforce has no incentive to encourage their students or staff.. This is the nature of a competitive world... If your not fit for the job, someone else can step up... If your not the ideal student,... Well there are consequences for being average or below..

    • @dblack8141
      @dblack8141 Před 2 lety +12

      @@dnegel9546 like jay

  • @tonyg9775
    @tonyg9775 Před rokem +42

    I think one of the biggest takeaways from this is that if something is not your strong suit, who cares? Just focus on the best you can. A teacher told my sister’s class that if you fail one math exam you may as well fail everything. I don’t want to sound selfish but I’ve failed or gotten below average grades my entire life in math and now I’m going to grad studies in history. So it doesn’t matter if you’re not good at something, the positive mentality that goes along with it is more important

    • @lesshuman00
      @lesshuman00 Před 4 měsíci

      But how can you have a positive mentality if you're never given positive reinforcement from others?

    • @tonyg9775
      @tonyg9775 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@lesshuman00 You still have yourself to rely on, or you could surround yourself with ppl who give you genuine positive reinforcement, or you could prove to those who always criticize you that you are doing better than they ever could have expected. Easier said than done tho

  • @austindavid7155
    @austindavid7155 Před 5 měsíci +8

    I think I was a victim of this effect.. in art school I had a teacher that would often praise my work and made me feel confident and positive towards my art.. and that was when I saw the most improvement in my art. The teacher said my compositions were amazing. Then for the next 3 years as I went into higher division classes I got new teachers that constantly acted like my art wasn't good enough, they would constantly criticize it, and made me lose confidence in my work.
    And so I stopped improving, I stopped wanting to go to class, which only worsened my grades, and it was just a downward spiral.. and so because of that I was never able to get a job in the art field and I have very low motivation to do art at all. The art school ended up destroying my passion for art and so I deserve my money back.

    • @Jackal_Neck
      @Jackal_Neck Před 4 měsíci

      Idk about the moneys being owed back to you

    • @Disijdc
      @Disijdc Před dnem

      You deserve your money back for sure

  • @tyborg314
    @tyborg314 Před 4 lety +8690

    The way to prevent the opinions of others from shaping you, is to believe in yourself.. You, literally, can do the Pygmalion effect on yourself.

    • @jewelz.a
      @jewelz.a Před 4 lety +56

      exactly!

    • @kingsnowy3037
      @kingsnowy3037 Před 4 lety +147

      I believe that I can believe in myself. And I believe I can do that.
      AAAAH! Feedback loop! I'm going to go recreate Middle-Earth at a 1:1 scale on Venus. Then I'm going to write an AI that enslaves humanity for me, after which I will enslave the AI and force him to make me a fleet of Borg ships, which I will just blow up for fireworks. Then I'm going to create immortality, and travel back in time to the start all this, and fight myself to the death!

    • @whiteymamasan4138
      @whiteymamasan4138 Před 4 lety +20

      Your racist and a Nazi

    • @nessg1043
      @nessg1043 Před 4 lety +4

      Hmmmm....I'll try it

    • @biterness2323
      @biterness2323 Před 4 lety +64

      That can also make you a vastly delusional person though if you cant match the expectarions you inflicted on yourself

  • @arynkauble7215
    @arynkauble7215 Před 2 lety +14081

    That’s exactly what my mom did. I was born with autism and told I’d always be in the gifted (not in a good way) classes. I didn’t start talking until I was 5 and couldn’t read until 7 but my mom always told me not to worry about it and I had the same potential as everyone else. She’s sit down and read with me and help me learn. She’s encourage everything I liked including cooking, trains, certain books, art, crafting (towers out of toothpicks, etc.) my favorite was building stuff out ofntoothpicks. Even before I believed I was gifted in a good way or advanced my mom always told me I was to her. Now I’m graduating with two associates degrees for interior architecture and science before I graduate highschool thanks to a program I get to take. Thank you for everything mom ❤️

    • @mikewoodson6930
      @mikewoodson6930 Před 2 lety +711

      You have an amazing Mom. I believe you will continue to see more and more just how special your Mother is, in regard to raising you and all the encouragement. This is hard work for any parent. Your Mother loves you very much.

    • @dth3252
      @dth3252 Před 2 lety +297

      You sound a lot like my son! Your story is very encouraging.

    • @Lisa04W
      @Lisa04W Před 2 lety +120

      EPIC!! so incredible and inspiring

    • @chrisjoosten9819
      @chrisjoosten9819 Před 2 lety +77

      Good stuff, bud.

    • @riddhibiswas6508
      @riddhibiswas6508 Před 2 lety +86

      Am so happy for you! And your mom is an amazing person!!

  • @LordTankian0
    @LordTankian0 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this informative video. You explained the context fantastically. I already knew you would before I even started watching though.

    • @sprouts
      @sprouts  Před rokem +2

      You are so welcome! Keep learning :)

  • @dhoom-z7221
    @dhoom-z7221 Před rokem

    I remember when my friend believed in me, during one of the wost, or probably THE worst time in my life. And he re-established my confidence and I managed to go through my problems and succeed. Really makes me so greatly happy understanding what he did through this effect.

  • @9faris3
    @9faris3 Před 4 lety +7227

    So that's why Harry Potter was the chosen one. It could be Neville Longbottom

    • @MagarAnandChidambaranathan
      @MagarAnandChidambaranathan Před 4 lety +476

      Sinister Strawberry yes Voldemort started the pygmalion effect.!

    • @Hideotic
      @Hideotic Před 4 lety +6

      Sinister Strawberry Can you expound on that? Lol

    • @dragonbane44
      @dragonbane44 Před 4 lety +644

      @@Hideotic As per the criteria set by a certain prophecy, two people were fit to become the Chosen One: Harry and Neville. Both were likely enough. But Voldemort attacked Harry who he felt was a greater danger for some reason. This made everyone think Harry was the Chosen One and no one knew about the other choice. And because Voldemort became a mortal danger to Harry, Harry fought back and defeated him. He, thus, fulfilled everyone's belief that he is the chosen one. Voldemort started the Pygmalion effect by attacking Harry.

    • @kunal1957
      @kunal1957 Před 4 lety +19

      Did you just watch a film theory about it?

    • @dereklewis4321
      @dereklewis4321 Před 4 lety +37

      And then you see the Actor who plays Neville now and your like damn

  • @marzipan2343
    @marzipan2343 Před 3 lety +2643

    One of my teachers back in high school was a former sorority girl and she favored the popular kids and would pander to them. They could insult her to her face, make fun of her height and family, etc. and she'd take it/laugh it off. But I, a weird kid, snuck a peek at my phone and giggled once, and got kicked out of class for the whole period.

    • @waiting90dastochangemyname3
      @waiting90dastochangemyname3 Před 3 lety +352

      I had a teacher like this in eight grade, it was hell because the popular kids could crack unapropriate joke after unapropriate joke and she would laugh with them but if i even gave an answer or a question without raising my hand she would interrupt me or give me a death stare also whenever we played basketball or dodgeball at PE (which was very often) she would always pick popular kids to make teams and skip me and my buddies, it was arguably the worst year of my entire life and it has definetly left a mark on me. And the last thing, this honestly didnt matter much to me since i was treated poorly anyway, she would favor girls over boys and for example when a team had too many people in it, she would kick ME out who joined first and let the girl who joined last stay and she would always choose girls to do stuff like help other teachers who asked for volunteers carrying boxes and stuff and when we had to paint a wall for a musical we were doing she wouldn't allow boys to do anything and only the girls were allowed to paint and the girls were always allowed to play games and unholy poor taste songs on the digital board

    • @marzipan2343
      @marzipan2343 Před 3 lety +255

      @@waiting90dastochangemyname3 it's like...these people peaked in high school/college and are attempting to get back there by sucking up to the people who will do the same? It's sad, weird, not gonna work, and damaging.

    • @HoneyedToast
      @HoneyedToast Před 3 lety +178

      Had a French teacher like that but instead of the popular kids it was the boys in the class. And I do mean boys, it was 7-8th grade. The girls couldn't say a peep or do a single thing during class without her getting pissed off. One of the boys threw a hacky-sac at her during a test and she failed me for it. It was the most bizarre moment of my life as I sat in complete confusion while the entire class told her it wasn't me and the kid who actually threw it even owned up to it. She actually failed my test too.

    • @mauricenr2969
      @mauricenr2969 Před 3 lety +36

      @HoneyedToast Horrible!

    • @GiddyPinata
      @GiddyPinata Před 3 lety +13

      Jesus, I’m sorry dude

  • @dragonsoda3244
    @dragonsoda3244 Před 10 měsíci +2

    i expereinced this with my parents. When I was in elementary school, I did all of my assignments on time, didn't fall behind, and was motivated to do my work. But when I fell behind just a couple of times, my parents believed that I was a procrastinator, and they would tell me this so often, that it got reinforced into my mind, and I actually turned into a procrastinator. Now that I'm a lot older, I still struggle with procrastinating, parents really need to be conscious about the beliefs they have about their kids, because it literally directly influences how they will turn out in the future.

  • @girishjain4361
    @girishjain4361 Před 3 měsíci

    It's really fantastic. True, in a subtle way, we make opinion and judgement for others which definitely affects their thinking about them

  • @TheOtakuPrince
    @TheOtakuPrince Před 4 lety +3059

    As a taoist would like to say:
    Never let yourself become a prisoner of others expectations and opinions. Know yourself. Be yourself.

    • @thinkingmachine354
      @thinkingmachine354 Před 4 lety +18

      Boxspite but how exactly? Where does “one self” begin and end?

    • @PengyDraws
      @PengyDraws Před 4 lety +1

      Well, I guess I should go toss myself in the trash can then!

    • @LIFEwithBAVAN
      @LIFEwithBAVAN Před 4 lety +16

      This has become tainted advice nowadays with an egotistical, grass is always greener societal mentality.

    • @TheOtakuPrince
      @TheOtakuPrince Před 4 lety +11

      @@thinkingmachine354 Thats for you to find out. Some defines themselves as they are what they are. Others think the full extent of their body and mind, all of it, is him. And there can be many interpretations of oneself.
      All of it could be true and all of it could be wrong. There is no correct answer, only an insight. Where does it end and where does it start? I dont know. It might be that you are the whole universe, or it might be that you are a part of, or maybe, it might be your nothing but a spec of dust in the grand scale of things. Thats why we look at it, we ask what we are. Define yourself and dont worry if its the wrong answer. There is no complete and universal standard for who and what a person really is. I think people define oneself to get close to completely defining who they are. And what get from it becomes knowledge of oneself which becomes the basis for how should you act.
      Well, I have talked too much. Sorry about that. To be honest, I dont know. All I have said above are nothing more but my perspective of the world and myself.

    • @TheOtakuPrince
      @TheOtakuPrince Před 4 lety +9

      @@LIFEwithBAVAN Yeah I agree. Know oneself, Be thy self. It has become so over used that its meaning has been twisted and has been used to misled others into becoming what others want them to be. They say know oneself, be thy self, but none says or ask the question of what is the self and in the end, either by intention or by accident, the people who asked the question provides one with the answer by injecting their worldview upon them, causing one to believe it is the right answer. Once it becomes the answer, it becomes a basis for they will become. An example is a celebrity using herself as an example for an answer for the question of know oneself which some people will see it and interpret it as the right answer, making more people mimicking him or her, no matter the circumstances that exists in their environment might be.
      Well I guess this is nothing more but finger pointing. But thats is how I see the world.
      How about yours people?

  • @golapioraon6021
    @golapioraon6021 Před 3 lety +1460

    After seeing this, whenever someone tries to bring me down and I feel discouraged, me in my mind:"It's just the Pygmalion effect! It's just the Pygmalion effect! "

  • @Flashxy78
    @Flashxy78 Před 4 měsíci

    Great! I've been searching for this video for long!

  • @yavor05
    @yavor05 Před 4 měsíci

    Great work with all of your videos! Thank you!

  • @richardgonzales3341
    @richardgonzales3341 Před 5 lety +13147

    Joe: I'm going to play basket ball!
    Random guy from the coach's past: I'm about to ruin this whole guy's career.

  • @sare8835
    @sare8835 Před 3 lety +6473

    Do not forget that this is a circle. Yes, other people’s opinions of you may impact you, but your opinion about yourself can impact the way other people view you, which in turn will continue to impact you. You always have a hand and a say in your own life. Make yourself the beginning of the circle.

    • @mr.annihilazor8637
      @mr.annihilazor8637 Před 3 lety +39

      Thanx

    • @ok8077
      @ok8077 Před 3 lety +47

      This is a strong message Grape🍇

    • @blackatom4957
      @blackatom4957 Před 3 lety +16

      @@ok8077 I will join Pakistan army and destroy India....Wow 🍇

    • @hankhill6850
      @hankhill6850 Před 3 lety +9

      Be the one to pick up the napkin first

    • @akankshasharma943
      @akankshasharma943 Před 3 lety +21

      This is the best message we can give to someone... Before looking after someone.. look for yourself love yourself

  • @jameslucas5590
    @jameslucas5590 Před rokem

    Great video. It gives me pause on how I have allowed someone to "poison" my opinion about someone else, before allowing them to even try. I intend to correct that error next week.

  • @azizbekesanov97
    @azizbekesanov97 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Great video to explain Pygmalion Effect in a simple way. Thanks for your hard work 😊👍

  • @rafaelalodio5116
    @rafaelalodio5116 Před 4 lety +5557

    Moral of the story, never expect nothing from anyone.

    • @gamingtacos381
      @gamingtacos381 Před 4 lety +78

      How did you reach that? If you expect nothing from anyone, then you will act with those expectations, and they will match those expectations, and so on. Under the assumption that this effect does work, then you are leading those around you to achieve nothing.

    • @nnaif
      @nnaif Před 4 lety +78

      Gaming Tacos Read what he said carefully

    • @RedFloyd469
      @RedFloyd469 Před 4 lety +144

      @@gamingtacos381 He said "never" expect nothing. A double negative. So we should always expect something.

    • @theemirofjaffa2266
      @theemirofjaffa2266 Před 4 lety +31

      @@RedFloyd469 we'll just hope Rafael didn't commit a grammatical error and really understood or meant what he wrote there.

    • @gamingtacos381
      @gamingtacos381 Před 4 lety +17

      Red Floyd ! Oh shit you’re right. I didn’t read it throughly enough

  • @Neiotic
    @Neiotic Před 5 lety +10130

    Poor Joe, he doesn't deserve that, it's not his fault. WE LOVE YOU JOE

    • @hansgruber788
      @hansgruber788 Před 5 lety +58

      Javier Borrego well he should’ve lost weight.
      I mean seriously, would he ever be that successful at sports weighing 18 stone

    • @debban6397
      @debban6397 Před 5 lety +384

      @@hansgruber788 he's just a kid joined their as a hobby. Who knows maybe losing weight was main the reason he joined.

    • @mochamommyATX
      @mochamommyATX Před 5 lety +52

      Some people THRIVE on negative reinforcement. Look at the JJ Watt and Micheal Jordan. Look at boxing's new heavyweight champion. Those guys chose not to be victims

    • @edward10619
      @edward10619 Před 5 lety +5

      @@hansgruber788 Nikola Jokic would like a word

    • @FlareonB
      @FlareonB Před 5 lety +14

      I Love You too Guys - Joe

  • @StomachAcid
    @StomachAcid Před 10 měsíci

    Wow, that was a great explanation! So like, when someone says back to the drawing board, it’s like when you’re doing something but then it doesn’t work so you have to start over!

  • @jahjah520
    @jahjah520 Před rokem

    What an interesting video. It really shows how much I understand about how much individuals influence individuals’ self esteem.

  • @dogscott7881
    @dogscott7881 Před 5 lety +2492

    Wait a minute, your telling me getting treated like shit is bad for you?

    • @GoldVesp
      @GoldVesp Před 5 lety +167

      No. She is dissecting how it affects you.

    • @heartache5742
      @heartache5742 Před 5 lety +60

      IMADGINE MY SCHOCK

    • @uniquemystique8566
      @uniquemystique8566 Před 5 lety +32

      Best comment 💀

    • @Purity.Palette
      @Purity.Palette Před 5 lety +34

      But can you explain why I have this feeling that no one like me (in a romantic way) is because of me believing I don't deserve that or it'll naver happen?

    • @yard8616
      @yard8616 Před 5 lety +35

      @@Purity.Palette you have the feeling bc you have low self confidence

  • @nazzznazzz163
    @nazzznazzz163 Před 4 lety +3329

    Moment of silence for all the people that been treated like Joe, You know who you are.

    • @gdl-nik
      @gdl-nik Před 4 lety +3

      Nazzz Nazzz ... (just making silence here)

    • @Lynn-ip9sh
      @Lynn-ip9sh Před 4 lety +5

      ...

    • @kyler7097
      @kyler7097 Před 4 lety +4

      ...

    • @valtaep1ece796
      @valtaep1ece796 Před 4 lety +3

      Nazzz Nazzz ....

    • @dontforgettolike7127
      @dontforgettolike7127 Před 4 lety +25

      It didn't come out of nowhere. Put some damn effort forth and break the cycle. This video is an excuse for the Joe's out there. "People think I suck so I might as well not try anymore. Not my fault. I want socialism now."

  • @b_sugar1613
    @b_sugar1613 Před 10 měsíci

    Love all your videos!!! Thnk u so much!!!

  • @ayushverma6000
    @ayushverma6000 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Thats why we need good parents and good teachers. And we should feel good about ourselves too

  • @restsarapmaginhawa5499
    @restsarapmaginhawa5499 Před 4 lety +7961

    This is why your self esteem should be internal and not external.

    • @thereisnosanctuary6184
      @thereisnosanctuary6184 Před 4 lety +44

      Restituto Ginhawa
      Shut up, loser!

    • @aryad.2540
      @aryad.2540 Před 4 lety +342

      @@thereisnosanctuary6184 whats your problem kiddo

    • @olliew2932
      @olliew2932 Před 4 lety +1

      wordd

    • @A_Random_Rat
      @A_Random_Rat Před 4 lety +290

      Arya D. His mom took his fortnite away. Let Timmy let out his anger.

    • @balladin9200
      @balladin9200 Před 4 lety +113

      Don’t seek validation from other people, you’re the greatest. Wait a second should you believe me or not?

  • @thanawatsudruangloet6450
    @thanawatsudruangloet6450 Před 2 lety +2921

    A wise man once said,
    "Believe in the me who believes in you".
    RIP Best Bro Kamina.

    • @jackhall1150
      @jackhall1150 Před 2 lety +34

      ;-; God rest his soul

    • @chenweihua848
      @chenweihua848 Před 2 lety +7

      Kamina?

    • @rowletthejowlet6241
      @rowletthejowlet6241 Před 2 lety +52

      @@chenweihua848 A character from a show called Gurren Lagann. The one who said the quote in the main comment.

    • @stanisawbenger3815
      @stanisawbenger3815 Před 2 lety +21

      Why did you have to write that I just barely stopped myself from shedding a tear. God damn

    • @theHedgex1
      @theHedgex1 Před 2 lety +11

      You brought a grown man to tears. Good job little buddy.

  • @Arch_Twisted
    @Arch_Twisted Před 4 měsíci

    This is why introspection and self-awareness are two of the most useful things you could ever learn. If you understand why your own mind does the things it does, you can avoid inadvertently affecting other people in possibly negative ways, while simultaneously bettering yourself.

  • @belvetica
    @belvetica Před 10 měsíci +3

    Similar to the rats, back in high school band, some drum majors treated the group like we were the worst band in the competition group. Some treated us like we were something really special. Of course, the majors who believed we had potential were always so encouraging and excited in their leadership so we always performed better under their leadership.

    • @tlrlml
      @tlrlml Před 9 měsíci

      Social response, regardless of how Allistics want to classify it as some magical spell, is nothing more then conditioning yourself to respond to the requirements of any given social situation.
      How you feel about yourself can not be effected by how others feel about you... unless you have condition yourself to 'believe' otherwise.

  • @sarie7509
    @sarie7509 Před 5 lety +1767

    I've felt this effect from teachers, sometimes like chris but always like joe.

    • @ritwikreddy5670
      @ritwikreddy5670 Před 5 lety +22

      I felt like joe in my freshman year when I took volleyball, but eventually transitioned to badminton because I wanted to play but hated to go to volleyball, so I gave badminton a try and there I was treated like chris.
      SO, APPEARANCES DO MATTER.

    • @KT-hi1rp
      @KT-hi1rp Před 5 lety +1

      @@ritwikreddy5670 same my hs volleyball coach treats me like Joe

    • @zzztv1915
      @zzztv1915 Před 5 lety +1

      One of my football coaches treat my like joe. But the other one treats me like Chris.

    • @ankhamybeloved379
      @ankhamybeloved379 Před 5 lety

      Same

    • @mansoor6678
      @mansoor6678 Před 5 lety

      I was treated like joe by my lecturers in college until word spread out i personally made a mobile game and published to the app store. Considering how the average student is a dimwit, the lecturers started eyeing on me with more respect from then on. I felt appreciated so i became more motivated. Became more productive in the end too with a better respect by my peers who otherwise considered me non-existent and potentially worthless. Sometimes all it takes is a good impression to change your fortunes.

  • @nawal10
    @nawal10 Před 5 lety +3184

    I’m a teacher and this was very helpful..I already try my best to treat my students equally and motivate them all, even the class clowns

    • @sourpuss5951
      @sourpuss5951 Před 5 lety +88

      ... Have any of those students found your CZcams channel?

    • @parthsharma7091
      @parthsharma7091 Před 5 lety +154

      your class kids are lucky to have a teacher like you. i wish i had the same then i would have been much better

    • @buffalosaucemakesmytoescur4171
      @buffalosaucemakesmytoescur4171 Před 5 lety +140

      nawal10
      I had a teacher who sounds exactly like you and she was the reason I started to like school. I’ve been told my whole life I’m the dumb one, but she had faith in me and I started to get better grades. I ended up getting into an honors class! It just shows how much teachers like you make a difference! 🙏💞

    • @shiBuyaking109
      @shiBuyaking109 Před 5 lety +21

      Yeah glad you are willing to better yourself could you be my teacher lol JK 😘

    • @madlad4687
      @madlad4687 Před 5 lety +20

      Beeing funny is a skill

  • @GodlordBazi
    @GodlordBazi Před rokem +7

    I've been the head of a gaming community for more than a decade until I quit in 2019. My task was everything in between organizing streaming hours for each individual player and leading them ingame with at times well over a hundred people in our group.
    In a leading position, ambivalence is the key. If the team is feeling too comfortable, you have to be the party pooper and make them get back in line again. If they're feeling down, you have to be the one to cheer them up in order to motivate them again. If someone is starting to get arrogant due to performing better than most of his fellow players, give their self-esteem a litte slap in front of everyone just to remind them that they're also cooking with water just like everyone else. If someone feels like the handbreak of the group and loses motivation due to being not as skilled as the majority of the rest, applaud them in front of the others for the things they did well so they'll start to believe in themselves again.
    It's important that you don't praise somebody like a demigod or push them down like they're worthless. Always applaud them AND tell them what - in your opinion - they should work on to get better in a friendly manner. Just shift the balance between those two things a little bit according to the behavior of each individual subordinate.
    If you're just fooling arround with your subordinates outside of business hours, make sure that you kind of "rotate" between each individual group (there are always groups, no matter the age, trust me), our make those groups join eachother in your presence. If you as the boss are hanging out with just one particular group too much, the others will think that those people within that certain group are your favourites, which in turn will make them believe that those people are a bunch of privileged ass-kissers. That's a really bad thing in terms of group dynamics.
    On the other hand, if you're spending time with the others as well, they will feel appreciated by you as their boss and they'll be willing to give you something in return for that, which is performance and dedication to their task.
    This technique does also come with the benefit that you won't have any favourites or people you dislike in terms of their performance and therefore you'll always keep a neutral, goal-centered opinion about certain situations, which makes problem solving a lot easier. If you manage to solve your problems, you will be more successful and success in turn is the perfect motor for your subordinates motivation.

    • @bedroid7801
      @bedroid7801 Před rokem +1

      Extreme underrated comment lol where are the likes

    • @Gardor
      @Gardor Před 10 měsíci

      really nice comment indeed 👏

    • @Anthony-jh6xt
      @Anthony-jh6xt Před 5 měsíci

      “Head of a gaming community” 🤓😂😂

  • @andriyodynets4806
    @andriyodynets4806 Před 11 měsíci

    Great video. It explains a lot of things!

  • @Max2ds
    @Max2ds Před 4 lety +2912

    “Imagine if you’re the coach of a basketball team”
    Woah now slow down, you gotta start the effect small

  • @kayjay8790
    @kayjay8790 Před 5 lety +619

    This is extremely important for us parents to remember. “Nurture” your children to a brighter future.

    • @Progamerjay100
      @Progamerjay100 Před 5 lety +3

      Agreed

    • @justfriendly7676
      @justfriendly7676 Před 5 lety +1

      I think its less of a danger for parents to do it (though it is more important for then to avoid doing it) and more of a danger that teachers and mentors do it. Cause trust me, I know quite a lot who do

    • @naritruwireve1381
      @naritruwireve1381 Před 5 lety

      I rarely meet anyone who actually nurtures kids except maybe a couple teachers and parents... But then again, being a caring person isn't a necessity for becoming a teacher or parent.

  • @generalmortars7557
    @generalmortars7557 Před 10 měsíci

    Wow. This explains SO much.

  • @Berxwedan.
    @Berxwedan. Před rokem

    Wew that saved my life, I’m grateful to know these amazing psychology ballz

  • @williamt1267
    @williamt1267 Před 4 lety +2977

    Wait a second. This is the EXACT reason why I stopped playing basketball back in fifth grade.

    • @soc7967
      @soc7967 Před 4 lety +90

      Damn, must’ve been annoying and hard for you

    • @crapcantbeholy1389
      @crapcantbeholy1389 Před 4 lety +80

      Oh yeah, it's all coming together

    • @williamt1267
      @williamt1267 Před 4 lety +169

      @@soc7967 it wan't really annoying, it was more confusing. In the time span of about a year, I completely lost all motivation to play a sport that I had been playing since I was 5, and I had no idea why. I realize now that it was because as teammates and coaches had lower expectations for me, I matched those expectations until I no longer had fun playing the game that was practically my only hobby besides video games. It was tough finding stuff I enjoyed for quite a while.

    • @sirnuggets9666
      @sirnuggets9666 Před 4 lety +40

      @@williamt1267 although I may not know you, I want to let you know I appreciate you and I'm glad you shared this with us.

    • @Jonymankitty
      @Jonymankitty Před 4 lety +36

      @@williamt1267 when you work a job, you have to have a mindset that you're great. If you just start out and the managers treat you like Joe, then prove them wrong by overcoming what they said you cant, and that's how you can rise in a job

  • @kageisuke
    @kageisuke Před 4 lety +5174

    This is basically why the school system is failing. Low expectations creates a low bar to jump over. And when thee bar keeps going lower and lower in hopes more people will pass, you've instead dumbed down everyone.

    • @zissler1
      @zissler1 Před 4 lety +46

      Grimmjow Jaggerjack isn’t that what affirmative action reinforces. You expect minorities to do worst than Asians or whites, and so they do.

    • @centanhotbox84
      @centanhotbox84 Před 4 lety +11

      are all of u mentally handicapped?! oh wait i cant say that thats the polgmania effect. OH PLEASE. u sll know this. u dont let something out of you dictate or control how you feel or think. god damn its elementary this. no successful man or woman is extrinsicly motivated. and im talking about resl sucess here. Einsteins mozarts and michael jordans.
      Many "teacherssss" didnt like em but who cares? they just did their thing fully expressing themselves

    • @kageisuke
      @kageisuke Před 4 lety +30

      @@zissler1 No, affirmative action was made so that if two applicants are equally qualified you give the minority applicant a better chance of being hired instead of going with the default white guy.

    • @zissler1
      @zissler1 Před 4 lety +14

      Grimmjow Jaggerjack you have no clue about it, it counts as a score against you. So if someone has higher grades but is Asian and someone has lower grades and is black the black will get in as there are already a higher concentration of Asians. So in a way your already assuming they will not do as well. Sure you could say they both qualify or not, but it should be about the most qualified

    • @kageisuke
      @kageisuke Před 4 lety +20

      @@zissler1 You're confusing what it was made for and how you see it working. I specifically said EQUALLY qualified because of what you just said. Affirmative action is not supposed to promote unqualified or underqualified people over those who have the qualifications. How people view, interpret, and see it working doesn't mean that's how it's SUPPOSED to be used.

  • @shayan8449
    @shayan8449 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Interesting video
    I think this shows how important positive self talk/self love, and resilience is.
    On the other side though, it is important because it shows us how we treat people makes a difference. So it's important for us to be kind whenever we can and give our trust to people even though it might be hard sometimes

  • @ytuser392
    @ytuser392 Před rokem

    I really believe this, the problem starts when you can't help feeling negative about someone and therefore you cause your relationship with them to get worst and worst

  • @yuanrealosa8353
    @yuanrealosa8353 Před 5 lety +3603

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  • @naowright9308
    @naowright9308 Před 2 lety +1200

    This is why my mom would say, "You're not an idiot so don't act like one!" She wanted us to believe we were smart and capable human beings. I always felt like I could do anything if I wanted it.

    • @kharijordan6426
      @kharijordan6426 Před 2 lety +7

      Did you?

    • @naowright9308
      @naowright9308 Před 2 lety +45

      @@kharijordan6426 Well, what I really wanted to be when I grew up was a mother, just like her. I have been married for almost 15 yrs. with seven children that I homeschool. I am left handed and taught myself how to knit, crochet, and sew in a right handed world. Currently I am taking Handwriting Analysis courses from home that I want to turn into a home business. Several of my siblings are in or have been to college studying subjects of interest to them(nursing, business organization, family counseling, history ect). One of them at 20yrs.is about to get his pilot's license and his pilot mechanic certification. One, mastered Chinese and until recently was employed in China as a translator for a major electronics company.

    • @kharijordan6426
      @kharijordan6426 Před 2 lety +16

      @@naowright9308
      Cool. I'm still... thinking threw stuff.
      Glad you were able to live your dream of being a mom.

    • @keripik6728
      @keripik6728 Před 2 lety +8

      same like my mother told me, 'Actually you're smart but lazy'. Ah yes, i'm lazy af.

    • @zeenatbatenga2717
      @zeenatbatenga2717 Před 2 lety +10

      You are lucky that you had such a mom, when i do something wrong accidentally or not she yells, "YOU ARE SO STUPID!!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU, IF YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND SIMPLE INSTRUCTIONS HOW THE HELL ARE YOU MAKING IT IN SCHOOL??!!"

  • @SlavaPunta
    @SlavaPunta Před rokem

    Interesting. We picked up on this at work where customers can favor vendors (for bad reasons), but giving them more business nonetheless. Utimately making them more successful in return (or the bad vendor just makes sure to take care of their big new customer), reinforcing the belief that they were the better vendor to go with. And good vendors can be blacklisted (for whatever reason), obviously having real impacts too.
    We called it the "perception is reality" effect. Exactly what you're describing here. And it really played into how we marketed ourselves and interacted with customers.
    Never knew this was a defined phenomenon.

  • @karshanabhandari8415
    @karshanabhandari8415 Před 11 měsíci

    I'm glad it was on my recommendations. Thank you❤

  • @aartig.5143
    @aartig.5143 Před 5 lety +4449

    Damn that is scary. Someone else's beliefs about you have the power to change you and how you look at yourself. So toxic people are around all the time. That's probably why you need to stop caring what others think and don't let their actions define you. I'm not quite good at that, but if someone is tell me please

    • @autumnwind2699
      @autumnwind2699 Před 5 lety +229

      That's why good teachers and schooling is so important

    • @wordzmyth
      @wordzmyth Před 5 lety +166

      Keep looking for somone to believe in you. Until then do affirmations in the mirror every morning, so that you go out into the world already having believed in yourself.

    • @EclecticHottie
      @EclecticHottie Před 5 lety +67

      Say to yourself, "That's interesting. Is there merit in what they're saying?" If not, there's a million reasons to not take what they say to heart. I agree that affirmations will help get over the yuck feeling you got from them. I AM are the two most powerful words ever, so stay away from saying anything negative about yourself as well! (If you DO catch yourself, immediately change the phrase to positive.) If what they've said is true, improve yourself... then prove them wrong or just prove it to yourself. This life is for growing, learning, and bettering ourselves. The person saying negative and untrue things to you may just be having a bad day or is not on a journey of betterment.. because if they were bettering themselves they wouldn't dare speak to another badly. That is their story, their negative mind eating themselves from the inside out. Negativity creates chronic disease so keep your story full of light and love!

    • @TheNubbbler
      @TheNubbbler Před 5 lety +48

      Be nice to others. Believe in them. Help them when it's sensible to do so. Positivity has an infectious effect, just like negativity. As a result, you will feel good about yourself and others will do the same for you, due to the law of reciprocity.

    • @noeme17
      @noeme17 Před 5 lety +11

      This is true. This theory will only take place if your affected by what others think about you. If you care less then you just do you.

  • @supernana7263
    @supernana7263 Před 5 lety +5316

    People think you are great,
    Prove 'em right
    They think you suck,
    Prove 'em wrong

  • @J4ap0on3es
    @J4ap0on3es Před 11 měsíci +1

    Personal experience: this works
    I've always been the one who studied more and dedicated myself, some collegues of high school, not so much. Teachers gave more atention to me. But I've always wanted to help, to support, and I've discovered most of the teachers weren't dedicating tehmselves to these collegues of mine, making them sad and not very prpductive, or inspired... so they weren't giving too much importance to the classes

  • @MrJatan90
    @MrJatan90 Před 6 měsíci

    This is so well explained, thank you so much!

    • @sprouts
      @sprouts  Před 6 měsíci

      Glad you enjoyed it! :)

  • @PhuongNguyen-oy9xt
    @PhuongNguyen-oy9xt Před 3 lety +3858

    Being a teacher means being a huge responsible person, it can change one person's live.

  • @justme9818
    @justme9818 Před 5 lety +2356

    'Who's going to surprise me today?' is a great trick for coaches and teachers to use just before class/training. It really opens the mind! 😉

    • @at5286
      @at5286 Před 5 lety +4

      just me! I like this.

    • @yourbarista4154
      @yourbarista4154 Před 5 lety +86

      Interesting idea, it contradicts the video that talks about believing in the capabilities of others rather than not believing in them and asking to be surprised.

    • @kuku505
      @kuku505 Před 5 lety +6

      Wow you should be the next aristotle man! I love that phrase.

    • @JG-on2wx
      @JG-on2wx Před 5 lety +14

      That's a great idea. My plan is to teach at a university here in Germany one day, I hope I'll remember this phrase, although teaching at a university isn't quite the same as teaching at school, I guess, since you have to be more independent and self-organized as a university student

    • @incogniftoar3943
      @incogniftoar3943 Před 5 lety +12

      J G anyone who doesn't want to forget this phrase just screenshot it

  • @starsock2986
    @starsock2986 Před rokem

    That's what happened all my life, people had prejudices about me which affected their behavior and consequently my own image of myself and that influenced other people's view on me, but I realized that the circle could start from me, that I could be the one to set my own image and not be affected by anyone, which needs a lot of motivation and self love.

    • @sprouts
      @sprouts  Před rokem

      Self-love and self-efficacy all the wayyyy :)