My wife turned my children against me, ruined my life &I was to award her 100M in divorce settlement
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- čas přidán 20. 06. 2024
- If there is one thing Suresh Kantaria regrets is marrying a woman without enough family background check . He also regrets not having dated several women before and giving in to his Indian culture
Years later, he is opening up on the pain of marrying a narcissistic woman who not only separated him from his children by telling them how much of a useless father he is, but also walks us through the mental torture she caused him and why he fought the court’s decision to award her 100M shillings in their divorce settlement
This is his story on today’s episode of Society unplugged
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The often "unspoken silent voices" by men that is often ignored, trashed or castigated. As men we often prefer keeping quiet than speak. If men were to open up Lynn, your chanel shall be clogged with "tales of the silent men". Money regardless of how much amounts to nothing but "PEACE" to a man matters a lot. The things you get "FREE", "LOOT" or achieve corrupting shall come back to haunt you. Where are all the Moi regime CORRUPT and KILLING Leutenants??
Mr Suresh bhai, its well sir. I remembered your case vividly as if it was yesterday. It shocked the world, I should say and without judging either you or your X, I affirm you and empathise with your situation then but happy that you are alive to tell your story to the world to learn one or two things about marriage and its ugly internal challenges. I believe by letting go, you started healing and hitherto at peace with yourself. Self-awareness brings in self-care while self-affirming is a recipe to inner peace. I learned those tenets way back in my early 30s and today I live in total peace in my 60s.
Suresh Kantaria bhai, may peace be your portion as you continue doing what your passion endeared you to do towards your destiny in Jesus name.
Praise God you are alive. Many in your position are " Preserved" in the septic tanks while their spouses are flying private jets and sailing in cruise ship or private yachts
Alive**
Suresh, you have come a long way, and by opening up, it gives you more peace.
Hello team how are you doing today and am t❤❤kioko❤❤aging and 6 I lol l vacation
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This was my mum boss ..i can tell you he is a gem ..he treated his employees like family.GOD Bless and add you more years sir.
Am not judging him, bt I will use his case to pass my opinion.we have witnessed many cases where men or women when outside there they are "fine thank you", bt inside their mansions they are something else..
@@Blessedgirl724 Please..I knew when I was as little as 3 years old ..I can tell you for a fact he is the kindest soul..my mum worked very close to him for 40 years and what he is saying is 💯 true...
@@Blessedgirl724His employees are also like family they know better
I always feel like good men are sometimes wasted on evil women 😢. I had a terrible marriage, but I still didn't ask for a single penny after divorce, not even child support. My peace of mind was more important than money.
True
Very true
True n good women also fall for evil men
Mr kantaria is one person that made me own a company without even knowing how capable I was. through his advice and direction I am now a director of my own company. I respect you Sir......made me take a step that no one could make me to.
I wish men would speak out more. This story is so heartbreaking. Am so sorry for men who are going through things that they can't talk about. It is great that Suresh managed to get out of this toxic union.
Robert, you are exceptional and have added so much value to LNN!
My compliment goes to the gentleman who is conducting the interview professionally. ❤
Very professional🎉👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thank you🙏
Robert is doing an incredible job 🙏
My favorite handsome and very professional ❤
@@annmuchai6200and the voice is soothing ❤
Pls remind Robert to mention LNN on his Intro.He is a great man.
Am the mariam being talked about and all i can say he is my mentor the best human ave ever met,,,much love babu from your bibi
I will never turn my children against their own father no matter how we have differed. His a source of the seed, my kid's bares his name NEVER, God forbid
If the father is abusive?You will still allow your children to have a relationship with a man who will infect their future and mentally destroy them.Stop being a pick me !
Well said❤
True
Apparently unless the children are small,,,,but if the children are grownups,,,not all of them will turn against their dad,,,,they are able to see what is happening by themselves,,,,am sorry but I wish we hear from the wife
@@carolineatura13 recently, in a certain primary school,a dad came to just see his kids under the supervision of the classteacher. I think they might have separated with the wife. In just a few minutes, the wife comes in with a policeman to confront the father. The father cried uncontrollably. Fear this narsiccistic women.
This man has a lot to unload. I feel like we just touched the surface. It only goes to show us that wealth can be a double edged sword 😢
My biggest lesson.... don't rush in getting a life partner. It can be disastrous.
Another lesson is his description of Family. Some of our family members are our worst enemies. Treasurer those who are closest to you, for they matter in your life.
A very good revelation of ones life...not many would courageously do it the way you have done it Mr. Suresh. The ending is so good . Thanks for sharing.
Kudos
Wapi likes za host wetu Robert you're doing good job
Wow - I love the honesty - It is very therapeutic and deep healing. Mr Suresh - that is the way of life, you came out stronger - you are first amongst many. Thanks for the Wisdom - GOD BLESS YOU.
I love the content. It's about time we have people speaking out about narcissistic abuse in relationships, workplaces, and families. It's a silent killer and a cancer in our social fabric, as the abusers often disguise themselves as victims, denying justice to the real victims. To Mr. Suresh, I believe in God in restoration; may God bless your paths.
Kwanza at work!!!
I love each and every episode of LNN , are all educative.
This is a really good platform
Safe spaces where men can speak is important
You are a pillar of society Lynn Ngugi. Thank you a lot. This is a warning to all of us men out here. Ease brother, we hear you now.
Interviewer is unobtrusive, knows when to bring the conversation back on track but still lets the story be told. He's not annoying either. Kenya TV is littered with annoying AF characters starting with the Kingori and ofweneke fellows. You are a gem , pleasure watching your interview 👍🏽
Kudos to Rajoro for the patience and the story flowing uninterrupted.Mr.Suresh is full of wisdom.Cheers to being an overcomer
This interview is truly powerful and eye-opening. His willingness to share his personal experiences about his challenging marriage and the impact it had on both himself and his children is both brave and commendable. By shedding light on the effects of dealing with a narcissistic spouse and the struggles of going through a divorce, he is not only raising awareness but also offering hope and inspiration to others who may be going through similar situations. His honesty and strength in sharing his story are truly admirable. Proud of you Suresh😌
Thanks Lynn and Robert and your Team for this interview.
I have listened again to the valuable lessons from his experiences.
Mr Suresh all will be fine. Sorry for the hurt in your heart. I went through that in my marriage and i have healed. I can related very well . Some people are demon's and shouldn't marry. Its unfortunate but life is fair we shall be happy again. Mr Suresh am here to hug you . 😊
I lived with a nercistic husband for 11yrs last year i took a bold step of walking out with my children.Depression was killing me 😢Today im the happiest woman in the world.Not yet in another relationship but when the right time comes the Lord will do it and i will start with him 🙏
Lord will I ever testify this ,im dying of depression
Hugs someday. The sun is new every morning
It was a great interview. You are such a good listener. To the guest, thank you for sharing your story. God bless you both.
Robert is doing an incredible job, I've never missed his interviews.More grace to him
This is totally heartbreaking and extremely sad. I wish people would be kind. Dear men we re sorry, speaking out is not weakness
Thanks for sharing, Mr Suresh. You survived it all. I like your outlook on life…keep hope alive and keep looking good!
Very educative let me follow till the end
Hello team LNN,
What are your views on today's show and what message do you have for Mr.Suresh?
I hope he heals
Some wives are really toxic.
I can hear the pain in his voice.
May God heal him
A coin has three sides.
His side, the wife and the truth.
All in all may he heal. Everyone must do their shadow work.
@@Helen-fg5pz that what we exactly tell all women who are from " an abusive husband " a coin has 3 sides
Men are tormented too with no place to air their feelings.
Men also get abused.thank you sir for sharing🎉🎉
Mr suresh kantaria Sir I wish you longer life I happen to have been one of the people who served your on those troubles where one of your employees threatened to kill you.
Once you leave such marriages...If you were sick the illness starts to dissappear....Toxic/Narcissistic partners are like demons in human form...I have been in one. Its hell on earth...Mine did the same thing of telling one child how useless i was...She left last yr...The peace is just Godly...Threats from the child and i know where its comes from....GOD has been amazing...
Keep moving and never look back
For Rajoro, I am your biggest fan. Thank you Lynn for this guy, very professional, composed & properly formulated questions 👏👏👏
May God give this man strength and life to enjoy his remaining days of his life with joy.
Had a privilege to sit with him at Rudy's many years back though i didn't know he was going through all that, thank God he is looking forward to his purpose.
I love this journalist for your show Lyn!
We appreciate you Watiri for the support. Robert is doing a great job
Someone told me about this man. I remember he say he is very good with people.
Yes I totally agree with everything the man said. It's true some partners are toxic they come to your life & suck happiness. You start working for them, they end up enjoying your hard work & instead they start coaching kids to go against you. They manipulate everything, they don't feel empathy everything is about themselves. They don't want to be corrected & feel entitled. They will never advise you. It's about them. Any growth you do they complain & never want to see you achieving your dreams. They don't work they use kids as an excuse, they don't challenge themselves they sit and want everything to be provided to them. They depend on you and become entitled. Wrong partners are out here taking advantage
The early birds are here ready to learn...kudoz lynn❤❤
May Suresh be blessed! I remember Jaribu credit traders where I bought my first sofa set and my black and white TV in the 80's it was a very good credit shop.
Its sad the mother of his children turned his children against him. Families have issues. That shopping at the beginning was a big red flag 🚩. She showed her real self. Men should also also look out for red flags.
Deep deep sharing.
A humble Great man!
A lot of take home right there
Narcissistic partners are evil..they make you feel useless and unimmaginable emotional tourture and pain ..very traumatic..if this man ..well respected can talk about it ..then we should too... one may not know what onenis gonng through, especially if you smile a lot... homes should be our safe spaces but sometimes they become hell...peace to all..
Robert, you're good and getting better.
Great interviewing skills.
Pleasant to listen to.
Lessons from this, if anyone thought that narcissists are only men, they got another thought coming!!!!
Very relatable story. Before you marry date more, check background, including that of family and close friends. It will help reveal the type of person you are interested in.
Relatable to me too. show me your friends and I will tell you who you're
Things people go through,money is not everything,how I wish God brings truer healing to this old dad .
Thank Lyn for your informative platform.
I am happy that people are getting awakened to narcissism, narcissists have caused so much pain and are still causing pain to many(naïve) people out there. Statistics say that 2 out 6 people are narcissists'. Narcissists are in the workplace, family, neighborhoods etc., the idea is to detect them and deal accordingly.
Many people are ignorant of narcissistic abuse and continue being patient with them hoping the narcissist will change. Narcissists don't change, if you are married to one leave before its too late , if its a workplace or family members try to minimize contact with them, talk to them only when its necessary( a narcissist wants you gone or dead.)
Narcissists in marriage have tricked and taken their partners wealth or money and some kill to get what they want.
In the workplace they cause people to lose their jobs,.
They find pleasure in seeing people suffering and in pain. They have driven good people to having mental disorders and some even commit suicide.
Narcissists LOVE to CONTROL people using LIES and MANIPULATION and are extremely JEALOUS people.
BE WOKE AND STAY WOKE BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!
Well said. I went through hell in my marriage to a narcissistic man for 17 years. When I met him he had nothing and he was living illegally in the country. I supported him to sort his life out and get himself to be the man he is today. When he got his papers and a passport and a well-paying job, he decided I wasn't good enough for him. He started to make my life worse than hell. When I decided enough was enough he tried to finish me mentally, financially and physically despite expecting me to raise our two boys alone. He then went to find himself a mzungu girlfriend.
True. I come from a family of four siblings. Two are clearly narcissistic, and I cut all my links with them.
Lessons taken and credit given you are a great person and an inspiration to many .... Your smile is everything .
Ready for an inspiration and lessons to learn.
“She said yes yes because of the way I was handsome “😂. God have mercy and deliver, protect good people from evil beings
True thenx for reading between the lines he is not as holy as he pretend to be
great interviewer Lynn. Well done Robert
Mr sureish is a very good man he has really helped me in one way and another God bless you.
A great injustice done but pray,God can settle the matter.... thanks for sharing though.
Kudos Rajoro,where did you come from man!! Lynn where did you find this vibrant young man ! Guys you’re doing a good job,please keep it up. 👏👏👏👏👏
Lynn has very composed pannel,Kudos our interviewer.Though sometimes u can never understand what some women wants fr sure.
The interviewer is a very good listener. Hes good for the job. 👏🏼👏🏼
This is a man that has a clean heart may God grant you health and many years till you recover what you ve lost men fear women more than the devil we read of in the holly books
Weuh, this episode has a lot of lessons to learn from. First & foremost, those who chase money thinking it'll solve all their problems are so very wrong. Mr. Suresh is/was a billionaire but he lived in misery for more than 3 decades. I hope Mr. Suresh has found his peace and is on a healing journey.
May all men have the courage to speak their minds and pour what they're going through or they've been through. It's good for mental health and not weakness.
It is wonderful to listen to him telling it from his heart. A worthy human being.
Wow leo nmecomment mapema good morning good people let's get our gal to one million subscribers ASAP PLEASE 🙏🙏NYAMBURA WA NGUGI I love you so much 💕and your team you are the best
A lot Of Mombasa Arab Families are Narcissists Who Force their Husbands to the same Circumstances of the Kantaria,even doing Human ritual Sacrifices of the Kids,So sad I m healed after All the Narcissist wife did to me .
LUCIFER (my ex wife) is also from Mombasa and my experience after separation ,with all the mombasa girls I sat with ,all of then were narcissits irrespective of their tribe or race.
so sad.....May God give him Favor in his old age.....
Always note for the Red Flags because they show up.
Lynn this is amazing story and your presenter today did a wonderful job.
It's time now we also allow our men come out and share coz this also going to help with raising our boys without any anger, resentment and thinking they are not good enough
They also longs to hear those words of encouragement,love you,bravo,yes u didn't perform well but yes you too can n it's okay.they may seem like nonsense but it goes along way to them
Am really proud of the guest today that despite his status in the community,his wealth.He admits apart of his life that many would shy away to speak about coz of being afraid of the society that would only encourage u when succeeding in life n judge when thing(s) is going south.
Tell him this single mama of a son,is really proud of him
I have nothing but love and respect for you. Mr. Suresh Kantaria was my mentor in my young life. He is the most single person who influenced my life.
Someone who late told me aanout this man and said he is very good with people. I never think I will see his face nowadays Facebook .
Wao very profound huge lessons. Thx for the advice
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Your are so handsome Robert. My ❤ melts 🙈anyway you are such a wonderful interviewer. LNN 🔥 🔥🔥
Hmmm naricicistic abuse can last for a lifetime am so sorry Mr Suresh. you were going thru something difficult at a time when no one really had a name for it...........Pole sana but thank God you were able to experience some happiness in your life. Narcs are dangerous and then damage can be seen from his story.
Men should read 'The predatory female' by Lawrence Shannon.
No one is talking about the way some Lawyers and some wives, in divorce cases, collude in absolute inhumane, unjust and ungodly fashion, to outrightly rob husbands (men) of their hard-earned sweat as each takes a cut of their share of the"loot". It's deplorable. Thank God for amended laws. May God give this gentleman and all who have endured such indignity and pain, peace that surpasses all human understanding. I acknowledge, too, the pain and abuse that some genuine, hardworking, industrious women also go through in relationships with outright Narcs and Cons in the name of a husband. May God's grace and peace prevail for all.
Eish Lynn qe are going international congrats gal
Rushing for a life partner, sometimes is so dangerous 😢
Smh
Pole sana. Lynn bring the wife on another time...right of reply. Many stories have two sides. We shall judge better then
No need,this is a mature old man who has it all,he has no reason to lie publicly
Your presenter Mr Rajoro is 👌🏾patient with the interviewee, eloquent, smart both physically and intellectually not forgetting his handsomeness and neatness
Very educative story,bold and a shaper
Mr Kantaria , Is an amazing person, Values everyone and He is a very Respected Personality. He is a Gem of a Person. They are people who cherish him for his amazing personality. Bless Him
May God continue to heal you mr Suresh.....thank you for sharing
Its very impressive and encouraging to young entrepreneur.He is bold enough to source out advice to someone in business
I got married i was In love, we sired children, but along the highway we couldn't be together at all,, after 15 year's, left, i know can't change the blood flowing in the Veins of the children, therfore i can never make them hate him, we separated its decade now, Peace is More 😅important 🙏
so many nuggets, takeaways...alot of wealth has been shared here for both the young and old generations to tap on ❤️❤️❤️❤️.
I worked in a store owned by two Indian brothers. One of them was married to an abusive woman. He was unkempt, wore dirty clothes and he’d come to work in tears pouring out to his brother. Kweli all human beings go through similar struggles. Let us love each other and support each other.
You have several Indian women like this in their marriage
@@africaine4889 Mzee Kantaria may have freed many men to speak up too.
Why couldn't he leave the marriage?
Anyway, its' complex but it's good for men to take responsibility for their tidiness and cleaniness.
@@DadaSophia-rk2kj this question is the first one people ask of abuse victims.The situation is quite complicated. It is not easy to leave a marriage you are invested in and especially when there are children involved. Tafuta ‘Navigating Narcissism’ by Dr Ramani to hear more stories like this one and the psychological analysis. Your question will be answered.
So sorry you went through all that trouble.May God bless you and grant you the peace you deserve Mr Kantaria🎉
Listening to this man is just heart breaking. He is detailled and expresses himself so finely. It hurts so much that I want to give him a hug. Funny enough I am just meeting sir Kantari for the first time @Lynn Ngugi Show.
To all our genuine loving brothers, it is time to take and own the other side of your masculinity by saying "No to Manipulation and Emotional Blackmail ".
Love from Cameroon always ❤
A rich conversation.. thanks for sharing
Big up boy child, you have alleviated me on true thinking. They hurt you but themselves most!!
This interview is gold 🥇
Interviewer ,big up ,you gVe him his time to express all. Men go through alot in secret, glory to God you are safe
Sorry you had to go through that
God bless you for your fatherly sacrifices. I hope his children will back up their father, he was a real dad to them.
Congratulations to the host he’s letting the guest narrate his story without interrupting, great job. For this man to come here and pour his heart out takes courage, men don’t hurt in silence.
i like the way he says ' and its a happy family' just a normal indian familyway ;)
Aki what some men go through is tragic.
You can hear the hurt in his voice
Pole sana
Bravo to you Sir,,,he was a good father,,a good hearted boss who treated his employees as a family members,,,he was a fatherly figure to everyone,,,he has expressed his feelings deep from his heart that he has faced all through his life span with up and downs,, which I personally have witnessed being very close to him for almost 20 years now,,,,he is a person with a wealth of knowledge which I have achieved alot of knowledge from him,,,in the interview he has truly expressed his facts of life which I personally have witnessed being close to him,,, there is no doubt in saying that he is a great one Man facing all the ups and downs of his life by himself alone,,,, once again bravo to such a great and brave gentleman 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💯💯💯💯💯💯👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
The intervewer was great for hosting this show,,just letting him talk not interrupting awesome
An inspirational story to encourage more men speak out. Narcissistic is either gender. Kudos to Robert , the interviewer 😊
Mr Suresh sorry for what you went through marriage, but at the end of all you still stand strong and overcoming all the circumstances of life,,, kudos
Thank you for sharing ❤
He is my mentor and he has made my business grow a very good man
Wisdom nuggets from 1:30:00. Simply life changing
Guka thanks GOD u have overcome all that, men should learn to speak out too. Worry not Ur grandchildren and great grandchildren r there for u. Long live guka
Sometimes I can see why men in some societies marry several women.
I was just thinking about that in my next marriages
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