ASKING STRANGERS THEIR PRONOUNS (THEY DON’T LIKE IT) | NOAHFINNCE
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I came out as nonbinary last fall. I use she/they pronouns, because I prefer to be called they, but if people continue to call me she, I don't get upset about it. I don't bother strangers or mere acquaintances with my preference for they, but I love it when friends or family use the right pronoun. By the way, I am 76 years old and have always been a pretty open-minded person.
Amazing! It’s never too late to discover yourself
Its always nice to see older people also part of the community figuring out who they are!
Me being younger I started figuring it out in my teens but by 18 to 20 I started going by Nonbinary.
Though only online forums like reddit or even some discords I'm still closeted Transmasc Enby.
online I see people as young as their teens wondering if they're "too old" to figure themselves out. you could teach them a thing or two!
I'm trying to popularize ze/zir as a pronoun
@@Raven_Fable That's fine. Whatever pronouns you like are fine. I like they/their because they have a long history (since the 14th century) of being used as singular pronouns.
IT' S SUPER FUN WHEN PEOPLE SWITCH PRONOUNS MID SENTENCE IT FEELS SO GREAT
It’s also confusing as hell. If you have more than one set of pronouns I will probably never talk to you
@@rhymerlegend2717 as if they care enough to talk to you anyway…
@@rhymerlegend2717 thank god
Agreed!! It's also so fun to do!
@@rhymerlegend2717 OK. I don't have to deal with you then since you're annoying.
one time i heard someone say: if you ask a cis person why they are their gender, their answer/reason will most of the time relate or circle back to their sex or the fact that they were born as that gender. when you ask someone who is trans, nonbinary, or whos gender identity does not entirely match with what they were born as, their reasoning goes way more in depth and will relate to things like feelings, surroundings, their history, or maybe even trauma.
Patience and tolerance belongs to everyone
I want a dick and no boobs. Id say its pretty simple for me
Yes,i noticed that aswell
I just believe that our identities are so much more complexed than what cis/straight ppl forced us to think the definition is lol
They would probably say their pronouns are answer/reason 🪦
I'm a middle-aged-she-her-cis-mom-lady. Noah, you are my new favorite person. Clever, curious, insightful, funny, and compassionate. You make the world brighter! ❤
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Congratulations on your 100th like!! You seem like a super cool and accepting person too. ❤❤
Mixing pronouns (changing pronouns throughout the sentence) always makes me so happy
i do that with myself all the time as i use they/any :) it's fun
@paad thats cool I use they/he
@inside of me aldc ღ Cool i use those too^^
Yeah, that’s the best with me.
i try to do this for my friends and its fun to say, very very fun to say
i hope ppl do that for me too but i dont talk to enough ppl to hear it
Middle aged men honestly trying their hardest to be supportive is really heartwarming.
“Supportive” it’s not supportive it’s going by your beliefs. I’m not supporting Christian’s by saying god is real so you are a upoortin trans by saying a trans woman is a real woman. Also many trans disagree so this is just you speaking for trans people
@@juniorqindes8335 i had a stroke reading that oml
@@ohno030-Fr im struggling to understand if someone could like rewrite it..
@@Foofle “many trans disagree” oml
@@juniorqindes8335 my translation: “supportive” is not supportive if you are actually just supporting basic human rights like a normal person . I am supporting Christian’s by saying god is real, so you are being a person with actual morals by saying trans women are real women. Literally every trans person agrees so this is you speaking for trans people.
A lot of that was un *trans* latable
As a closeted non-binary person, I have met a couple people saying why non-binary people even exist and how the non-binary community is just ‘a trend’, leaving out the extreme body dysphoria, denial and confusion. Like, can’t people just be people? And also, about the ‘trend’ thing, it’s obviously not true. Non-binary people have existed for as long as people have existed. To be honest, I have been in a state of denial and shock for such a while now and everybody has been very supportive and I hope that you find this acceptance and friends in your life!
Thank you for reading!
I once had a conversation with a very straight/cis friend of mine who was trying to understand my experience. I spoke about my gender fluidity and how I’d honestly be happy with any pronouns as long as it wasn’t just she/her all the damn time. A couple times after that, when referring to me in conversation, he referenced me as she, they and he in one sentence and it made me feel so happy and excited. So yeah, I’m my experience, switching pronouns is awesome
I’m female to nonbinary and I go by he/they so people always get confused if they don’t know much about pronouns lol
My sibling came out as nonbinary a few years ago, and us having an almost/entirely straight/cis extended family, we didn't really know what to expect with their reactions. Surprisingly, our whole (huge) extended family respects their pronouns and chosen name and tries their best not to accidentally misgender or deadname my sibling. Just something that I'm incredibly grateful for.
The pfp tho…
@MR lmao
ha me with my family
it me
I'm the non binary sibling with an almost exclusively cis straight family of our family
off-topic but your pfp is yes
Now that is just beautiful
Person: "my name is bug and my pronouns are they/them"
Noah: YES!!!
As a nonbinary person who's been thinking about changing my name to Bee, that made me so fucking happy to hear
Yes omg he said that in such an amazing way I skipped back a few seconds in the video to hear him say it again lol
@@meganmullis5386 Bee! That's an awesome name! Glad to hear you found a name that you feel comfortable with, and good luck on your name-choosing journey! 🐝 🫶
agh! another person shares my name. more bugs, let's go
Delusional
im 11 years old and recently found out im transgender after like a year and i already came out to alot of people and i finally feel happy and accepted!!
Nice! I am glad you feel accepted.
I’m 11 and trans too (probably) but I’m not out yet. I’m glad you feel accepted!!
Yay!!!🏳️⚧️🎉
yayyyy i hate to see when ppl say like "ur to young to be doing stuff like that ,like stfu and go care about yo own business(im 12 btw)
OMG, good for you!🥰🥰🥰
As a gen alpha, I am privileged enough to have learned about sex vs gender and the basic sexuality’s in 6th grade science. My school also celebrates pride month. We have a pride club, where as mentioned in another one of your videos, is simply just a safe space for all people in the community. I am female, but use the pronouns she/they as both make me comfortable. Love your content, sad I just now learned about you and missed out on your content all those years ago :( def sharing this channel with my gf!!!❤🎉
Stop it you're making me feel old (but fr though I love how schools celebrate pride month now, mine celebrated IDAHOT this year and some students got angry at it, so the campus coordinator decided next year would be an even bigger celebration. I had to learn about sexuality and gender on my own but I'm so glad you got taught about it and I hope you have a wonderful day, little one)
What is a gen alpha?
2010(or 2011) to 2024. Be careful sharing your generation, because now ik ur approximate age.
gen alpha is in 6th grade, you have a girlfriend your making me feel old as a junior in hs
@@izzyqueen5280 Same dude. 6th year Belgian secundary school. I'm fking 17
2:53 I go by he/they/she and I love it when people change mid sentence, it just shows recognition for my pronouns and just generally makes me happy :)
Yeah, I go by any and I feel the same
I go by they/she and same
Weird
@@blowinatranny are you really going around all the comments telling people they're weird
oo, I go by the same pronouns!! Just in a different order. . and I honestly rlly relate :DD
It's so fun when people switch my pronouns mid sentence it's like pronoun parkour and it's incredibly validating knowing people are putting in effort to use more than one set (he/they/it)
Finley someone understands me
Ayyy I use he/they/it too!
@@SpAc3B3e Aayyy I love encountering ppl who share all my pronouns
Same!! same pronouns and same love for the switch ups
Exactly this. Pronoun parkour! Also that would make a great game lol
18:15 once hung my trans flag on my window (which I thought was facing an abandoned building but I suck at realizing stuff so) and some guy kept bothering me about it (they thought it was the pan flag and we’re getting kinda violent so I’m actually thankful they didn’t realize it was the trans flag.) moved shortly after.
Ngl... the guy that harassed you sounds kinda... dumb.
19:17 OKAY. Okay okay OKAY. I am so ready to talk about this, I feel like I was made for this moment. Hear me out.
Today it’s increasingly accepted that gender is a construct, but it’s still a newer concept, so when I was explained the rationale around 10 years ago, my cis ass struggled to grapple with it, particularly because it felt like it was denying trans people their identity. I’d long accepted I had weak gender identity- I would have described myself as cis by default, but if you accept sex and gender are separate, and sexuality and gender are separate, and interests and gender are separate, I realized that gender couldn’t be a reliable predictor for any aspect of a persons life, and was therefore arbitrary, or if not exactly arbitrary, arbitrarily defined. Before I go further, I DO believe people identify with gender, sometimes very strongly, but people identify strongly with race too, and even nationality, and those are Obviously social constructs.
So even though it took me a long ass time to fully accept gender as a social construct, once I did, I chose to reject the foundational concept of gender on a personal level, and when I did, it changed how I felt ON that personal level. I went from mostly straight to properly pan, with some preferences, I more fully embraced my femininity, I AM trans, I am a little grossed out being lumped in with guys, but I wasn’t until my mental state changed.
BUT THAT SAID, I still code mostly masc- not exclusively, but I don’t owe anyone androgyny- so most of society treats me as male, and if I believe gender isn’t real, it follows any humanizing pronouns would be equally valid, so it’s I can imagine choosing he/him pronouns for convenience even though for me personally, it’s like an itchy sweater.
Like, if you call me he/him it’s fine, but even if *I* have rejected gender associations, I know *you* probably haven’t, and so when you use exclusively masculine pronouns, you are pushing me back into a box I reject, so if I know you enough to tell you I’m non-binary, it means a lot to me when you treat me as non-binary.
Noah cheering on all the non-binary people and their cool outfits is so wholesome
What's Noah's real name, seeing as she's a lesbian?
@@marioluigi9599 Noah has a boyfriend last I knew. So I’m pretty sure he’s not a lesbian
@@hayleighhartenstein8526 You don't know what a man is, cos this isn't it. Men don't act like this. Show me one who does. Especially at 23 years old
@@marioluigi9599 Noah is a guy in a relationship with a guy, in what world does that make him a lesbian????
@@deadcomet Well cos it's a girl that's acting masculine. If it was a guy, it would act like an actual guy.
Why is she lesbian? Well because she's gay. Right now she likes boys because she sees herself as a boy - that's part of her delusion. But before she saw herself as a guy, when she still saw herself as a girl, she was obviously attracted to women. And she would also be attracted to women again if she "detransitioned". Why? Cos she's gay, ie. Lesbian
Asking for pronouns is a very polite thing to do ! People shouldn’t be rude about it especially when people who ask are usually so sweet :(
It's also a very cringy thing to do
@@blowinatranny It's only cringy if you make it cringy. Anything can be cringy if not handled or responded to well.
@@blowinatranny commenting like this is also a " very cringey thing to do"
At least it shows what kind of a person you are. If I get asked my pronouns I will be polite but know that I need to tred lightly in fear of hurting shallow feelings by “misgendering” someone
2 transphobic replies in a row! combo
16:59
The three states of matter
Solid liquid and gas
But further than elementary school
Plasma hides beneath a mask
I dont even know most of it
I just know it shall be taught
This is not a poem
No rhythm no rhyme no thoughts
3:03 yes, especially whenever they also use mismatched terms such as “they are my boyfriend” or “he is my partner”
53 year old here. I think your video proves that it isn't only older people who can be bigoted. Age is no excuse for not learning from others. I have known about trans people for at least 30 years (30 years ago I visited my friend at her college in Minnesota and they had a talk given there by three trans women - but I think I sort of knew about them even before that?) and of course they have been around since forever. I am always happy to learn more from you or Jammidodger. Or Roly and Luxeria. My pronouns are she/her as I am a cis woman and identify as such.
You are an icon 🤩
SLAYY
Yupp. My ~67yo mom always uses her age as an excuse to be bigoted, and scoffs when I remind her every time that her mom had no problem being respectful and affirming, and she was like ~95 when she passed. Age isn't an excuse. Never was.
Getting down with the kids.......what an embarrassment 😂😂🤣🤣😂😂
@@sys-foster When you mistake common sense for bigotry......sad
Noah, I’m a closeted trans guy (teenager) and I’m feeling exactly the way you describe yourself in the past. You’ve honestly helped me so much. Even when I’m having a really bad day and feeling dysphoric your videos make me happy. Thank you so much 😊
❤
@@HyperNovva thanks man that means a lot! Good luck to you as well!
Same omfg
@@itsmesal13 Thank you! Glad I could help ☺️
Oh, you precious BOY
💙💞🤍💞💙
I love that Bug's hair colour was matching the leafs yellowy colours.just BEAUTIFUL.
Omg the name "Bug" is so adorable!!!! I love unique names like this!!!
to the multiple pronoun question, yea i personally think its great because its a validation of all your pronouns. i feel like a lot of the time if you have multiple pronouns like he/they or she/they ppl will only use the binary ones, which can suck so i like when both are used and try to do it for others as well
I personally like when people use multiple pronouns for me in the same sentence or when my partners say “he is my girlfriend” or “she is my boyfriend”
yes!! if someone said “he is my girlfriend” i would pass out by the euphoria 🤠🕺
That for me would just make me go 'huh' about 5 mins later after the conversation lol. No prob w it or anything
3:08 “Do you like that, when people change genders mid-sentence”
I prefer when they do, yes. My gender is always basically a complicated mix of guy and enby although the percentages of each changes, and when people change between neutral and masculine pronouns I feel it really well represents that for me and I like it.
18:09 "You know it's going to upset people." heh heh heh....that's the whole reason we do it
as a person who uses he/they I LOVE when ppl mismatch honestly needs to happen more i think!!
Same:)
My best friend uses he/they, and he looks quite fem, always confuses people when I show a photo of them and go, “yeah that’s toxin, *hes* great”
i use he/they too!!
They/he too 🐸
I use she/they , no one ever uses theythem for me but yeah. I kinda wish people used both and mismatched both for me. It sucks sometimes, but yeah.
I'm Non-binary Genderfluid (AFAB) but I go by They/Them and He/Him and I absolutely adore when people switch mid sentence~ It's just fuzzy and cozy feeling 💗
@Ville oh damn I lost count how many times you replied this but I think I was at 13. You apparently seem to care a lot
@Ville Oh poor you, you need to find other hobby.. If you think that would bother anyone.. Maybe try knitting or painting a lot ppl. find this relaxing ^^ (and I guess "cringe+ don't* care")
@Ville missed you buddy
@Ville congrats on coming out!!! Slayy ❤🎉🎉🎉
I'm afab gender fluid and go by he/him and they/them too!
I am a FTM Trans Guy with He/They pronouns, I LOVE IT WHEN MY FRIENDS SWITCH MY PRONOUNS MID-SENTENCE!
16:41 I was lucky enough for one year in middle school i went to a public school were they actually talked about gender identity and being trans and all the other gender things, it really helped me figure out my pronouns!
That’s awesome. I’m a rising senior and in all of my years of school these things were never taught/mentioned to me.. I had to read a book and figure it out on the internet to know they existed 😭 Might be because I live in the south though. (Srry for necroposting)
I'm genderfluid so my pronouns change quite often. Because of this, I usually just introduce myself with they/them pronouns as they have yet to cause me any dysphoria and it's easier than just constantly changing them on people. That being said, I do still have preferences. For example, I am currently most comfortable with she/they pronouns, and I especially love it when people switch pronouns mid-sentence. It feels so incredibly validating and it's a breath of fresh air from the people who just stick to one of the several sets given. Bonus points if they switch up honorifics too.
Have you seen those pronoun pins with the arrows pointing at specific pronouns? I have a genderfluid friend who wears that and you can like check their current pronouns.
what's an honorific? I thought honorifics were like names to show you're close to someone. like babe, baby etc. but if strangers are doing it surely it can't be that? /genq
@@enya03 Like, Mr./ Miss/ Mrs.
@@idiotically-everything ahhh where I live we call that a title! thanks for explaining
A FELLOW FLUID! HI THERE (●’◡’●)ﾉ
I'm still closeted so nobody has changed pronouns while talking to me, but there is the feeling when someone asks your pronouns. I came out to a friend of mine (genderfluid) and they asked what pronouns I was using *that day*. That just gave me such a bubbly, happy feeling 😊
Am I still genderfluid if my pronouns change more often then once a day? Or if I’m fine with all pronouns but my gender changes a lot?
i think that would be gender-fluid. i am pangender ❤ @@goldfishimpact736
@@goldfishimpact736you could be pronoun fluid?
@@goldfishimpact736yes
@@Gooselover-2 well I’m fine with he/they pronouns always, but sometimes I’m fine with she/her, and sometimes I’m not.
And my gender changes a lot, which does affect my pronouns, but not just my pronouns, my overall gender
As someone that's genderfluid and use all pronouns I love when they switch it! When someone calls me he then she I feel so much more comfortable with my identity!
This comment section is teaching me a lot! My bestie is genderfluid, and I was never sure what pronouns to use for them. Now I know to try switching the pronouns up!
@@rosykindbunny1313 im so glad you are learning!!! Im happy to hear my comment helped you figure some stuff out with your friend I hope you both are well
It’s sad that validation from other people determines your level of confidence. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and stop seeking approval from other people
Im a young trans girl. Im not in the closet or anything, but your videos give me comfort! Thank u
My relationship with gender is so funny because my parents didn't raise me in a "gendered" way, like I could play with whatever I want, wear whatever I want etc and because I have ADHD I didn't pay attention in school when they were teaching us that there were 2 genders or whatever lmao so i never thought about it.
People called me a tomboy but that's wasn't a label I really identified with even if it probably was the closest description from the outside lol, I was just me- I just happened to prefer more 'boy' stuff to 'girl' stuff. I wasn't even aware of gender as a concept until I hit my teens and puberty and I felt dysphoric lmao (they did at least teach us the difference between sex and gender in secondary school though, it really shocks me the amount of grown adults who don't know that).
Now as an adult I def feel more 'masculine' than 'feminine', whatever the hell those things even are, I don't identify with so-called womanhood at all and have never felt like a woman or a girl, because I'm not one. I consider my gender (or lack thereof?) one of the most "pure" things about me because I was so detached from the performative aspects of gender growing up so it just formed organically for the most part.
In the wise words of The Spongebob movie "you are who you are", and this is who I am lmao, fck everything else.
In the past, when i was like 5 or something, i heard something on the radio about trans people, when i asked my mom she gave a simple explaination and i inmediatly understood. I also said that i was trans and my family said that i wasn't... i did turn out to be right tho.
These sort of videos are always fascinating. I'm Finnish, and grew up speaking Finnish, and we got no gendered pronouns here. Hell, you may not even be referred to as a person if you're decent enough. In official Finnish, you got no gender but people aknowledge you as a living being, but everyone speaks spoken Finnish here, in which case you just automatically get referred as "it".
Thats so slay
*books the next flight to Finland*
Same in Persian except the it (object) is different from the it (person).
tuntuu niin oudolta nähdä suomalainen kommentoimassa Noahin videoon:0 Hellowww
@@player4283 Ei saatana torille!
9:31 Noah thought he could flip us if and no one would notice🤨📸
7:35
me too, though
I don't even know why but sweet, supportive old men are kinda adorable.
like not in a weird way obviously
but, take Wilfred Mott for example... ❤
I, a genderfluid person who lives in the trees, absolutely ADORE switching pronouns mid sentence! I love being called she and then he the next and then they, it always just give me such a happy feeling that I will genuinely sit there and start shaking my hands cause I get really happy! Genuinely, I love people using multiple pronouns in the same sentence for me. It's always been something I love doing AND love being done, it just always makes me feel SO SO SOOO HAPPY!!!
You're so real for that gender euphoria is always a top reason to stim
Seems I am the only one in the world who doesn’t love it
my mate is genderfluid and i try to change their pronouns every other time for him
@@aivahutch4034 That's really sweet of you! I bet they really appreciate it a lot, he seems really awesome. :D
wait wait wait i feel like you skipped the whole live in the trees part, care to explain that hahahah
Dude, I love Lewis and his ‘pronoun guy’ vides 😂 they are just so funny
He goes up to people in his aggressively rainbow attire and the fear in their eyes- 😭
i know 😭😭
i know right, lewis is so fucking great haha
What’s his channel name thing
@@qualitycomedy3049his channel is Lewis Buchan
3:07 yeah i use she/they and i really wish people did that
15:27 omg thats jack oliver!! they were on the tv show glow up
i have a friend that uses any pronouns and their reasoning is that “im too young to care” and that “i have bigger problems” and i have sm respect for him cause i wish i could just not care that much. love that guy man ❤
HEY WAIT WE'RE NAME BUDDIES
i love it when people change my pronouns mid sentence!! as a they/she, people very rarely use they/them pronouns for me, let alone use both, and it feels like a sign of respect towards my identity
@Ville you clearly do, you’ve commented this over 8 times 💀
I came out as non binary and trans when I was 12. Now I’m 13 and over half of my friend group isn’t their assigned gender at birth and I love how much this shows that we’re growing up in a society that is so understanding and out about being apart of the lgbtq+ community. And one person in my friend group of like 10 people is straight
Are you a baker?
Figured I'd ask with the amount of eggs you're cracking
@@BadabingBadaboom69 nah they just making a large omlette
A lost generation
@@TRACYxBEAKER are you saying tjis as in forhotten or as in hopeless. Im pretty sure you mean hopless (shame on you if that is the case) but i want to be sure
@@TRACYxBEAKER oh look, a bored transphobe with no life
im 14 and i go by any pronouns and one of my friends asked me the other day why i go by any pronouns and not specific ones and i answered by saying "because my gender is now in the bin"
As a 13 yr who's Bisexual, Im really glad that I'm looking at ur channel, because u inspire me and others into being themself!
Omg sweetheart! I’m cheering you on and your journey!! From one bisexual to another, I hope you’re doing well!💖💜💙
SLAYYYY!!!! 13 YEAR OLD BISEXUAL TEAMM!!!! SLAYYYYY
When ur a 13 Yr old trans omni : I with we were on the same boat ;~;
(i use he/they pronouns. I use they/them pronouns cuz saying it sounds nice and its easy)
Same
I'm almost 13 and bisexual and questioning gender. It's nice to know I'm not alone😊
As a (closeted) trans guy, I agree on the 'younger kids not caring about queer stuff' sentiment.
One day I asked my younger brother (who is 9) if he knew what a trans person was. He said "Isn't that boys turning into girls and girls turning into boys?".
After saying yes, he said "Yeah, it's cool. I support that."
And I feel like the fact that a literal 9 year old is more understanding about this kind of stuff than grown adults is really telling.
When my transfem parent came out when I was around five, I accepted it straight away. I can't remember exactly how she came out but it was something like:
"I want to be called Jasmine now. And I'm a woman."
I was like, "Okay."
tbh teens and young kids mostly don't care these days. I had a classmate this year who fully socially transitioned over the summer break, and when she came back no one questioned it or gave it a second thought, the name and pronoun change came easily to everyone, and yeah, nobody cared lol.
@@maycarmel8416 yeah! everyone at my school respects the trans students we have here. those students have talked about grown adults being incredibly rude and violent towards them while kids and teens don’t even care. i guess kids just have a lot more of an open mind
@@ShiningStar396 Is your mom Jasmine a baddie tho
@@SET-SSNN She's cool
If someone asks me why I’m genderfluid my response will be “because identifying with the ocean is better than identifying with people”
Also I never really hear people refer to me so I never hear people use pronouns on me but often I’ll talk to myself in the third person and realize halfway through a sentence I just changed pronouns like 7 times 😂
I'm personally a person under 16 that goes by neopronouns and seeing someone that's over 18 not being mad that I'm "too young" warms my heart 😭❤️
Edit: Thank you guys for all the likes and replies! Your all really cool people, I was honestly expecting a lot of backlash but I was surprised to check these replies and see none
I also use neopronounces, i get what you mean
@@JayPierce_Official i fucking love when people say pronounce instead of pronouns
it's so funny for some reason and I couldn't tell you why if you asked me
I feel the same❤
@@nicreveni started giggling from this 🤭
i use neopronouns too!
52 here, so older generation I guess, Gen X. I used to be pretty bad with trans issues, I didn't understand it so I didn't accept it. Then I realized my acceptance didn't require my understanding. I accept lots of things I don't understand. Now I've gotten to the point where I have a friend who came out to me, as a trans woman, before she told anyone outside of her medical providers. I think that is a huge honor.
Recently I've been having fun educating people who insist that They Them is plural. I point out that the word has been used to identify people whose gender is either unknown or irrelevant. And that it has been used like that since Chaucer.
Same here. I'm 52 and who am I to question how someone else is feeling. I don't have to understand it. If someone feels better with a different pronoun, just do it, it doesn't hurt me
@@kilsestoffel3690 exactly, so many people are concerned about things that literally have no effect on them.
This one one of the realizations that really helped me begin to understand more about gender. My own understanding of my gender was not super clear to me and I always had an “f-this” attitude towards societal gender roles. That made it hard for me at first, to open my mind up to the idea of someone feeling assured and confident in what gender they were. Once I understood that other people can have a strong sense of their gender identity, I realized that even though I don’t really know what that feels like, it doesn’t mean it’s not possible.
I think that realization that other people have different feelings than us, but we don’t need to know all the details to accept them, is so important. It seems so fundamental to let go and relax, in order to open the door to others. I am so glad to see this comment and I’m happy that y’all have come to that realization. It is super cool and it reinforces that the acceptance of not understanding, is so so important.
@Jenna Grace I'm a bisexual male I totally get the not understanding how others feel thing. Like I don't understand how someone can see an attractive person, of any gender, and not be attracted to them. Just like non multisexuals have a hard time understanding how we work.
And, similarly, I feel that pansexuals feel attraction in a different why than bisexuals. They tend to claim gender doesn't play a role. For ne it does, I am just attracted to all genders but that gender is important.
I'm cis and straight and had never doubted that. I totally get, that people are attracted to various people in various ways. I'm attracted to men, but not to all men and I've even met very few women who got my attention. I don't get the trans feeling, the feeling of being in the wrong body. Must be disturbing and terrible.
when i chose the name Topazz, a lot hated it because it was "unrealistic" so it's good to see somebody appreciates funky names
Thanks for all your posts Noah! I appreciate you immensely!
For me I like being a guy as well as a girl who goes by she/him because nobody can misgender me.
If they say "THATS A GIRL" its true because I'm a girl.
if they say ''THATS A BOY" its true cause I'm a boy.
And even if they only use one set of pronouns (Either he/him or she/her) its still my pronouns.
#Bigenderpower
Common bigender W
Cool, I've never encountered a she/him in the wild but I've always been fascinated by them from when I learned about them. I don't know how but I just find the she/him pronouns so cool, because it's like you said: no one can misgender you
there are more pronouns than that but go you
@@furballscave4431 she's probably talking about conservative people who would intentionally use just one set of pronouns just to misgender him, those people would not use other pronouns probably
@@lindaplayspiano true
I am currently using he/they pronouns, and I find it very funny and refreshing when people change between them mid-sentence. It is just a lovely thing to know they're acknowleding my identity. (But in my language we only have she/her or he/him as a commonly known options, so I mostly tell people to use he/him for me. And it also depends on the people I'm around what I tell them to use for me)
Omg, I have the same situation
ayo also a finn he/they haha
12:10 I find this specific tic tokers videos so funny because like i go to school with people who are exactly like the boys in his videos and their responses are so dogshit that I actually love it lol 😂
17:09 " *_I LOVE YOUR OUTFIT!!!!_* 😡😡🤬"
I was originally scared to watch this video because I’ve seen so many of these “what’s your pronouns” videos where it’s just transphobia. But then I just got hit with your total positivity and this video made me happy. Thanks ❤️
Who cares
@@GeorgeFloyd-iw8vn i do tbh
“WE FOUND A VOID GENDER” as he gets pulled into the void 😂😂
12:00 as a trans girl who doesn't want to get Botton surgery YES THIS IS ME
Im cis. Im she/her i questioned my gender alot growing up. My sister is trans and she really pushed for me to be trans or nonbinary too it. Shes grown out of that shes cool now. But now i know for sure that i am a woman and i love being a girl. Feminine things give me euphoria and being called they them feels slightly dysphoric depending on the situation. Like if its a stranger its fine but if a friend uses they them i feel less feminine. I think it reminds me of people pushing for me to be a boy. People also thought i was a trans woman high school was weird.
@@bellahague8010 hypocrites am I right?
@@bellahague8010 couldn’t be me
Amazing that you've found your identity, thank you for sharing your experiences in that cis people can feel dysphoric too. I didn't know that, thank you for allowing me to understand
Literally had a convo with someone last week about my gender. I'm a non-binary transman.
I was coming home from work and a random person approached me you know trying to be friendly (I thought) and stuff and out of the blue they asked me what my gender was and I told them I use they/them pronouns. They got angry and frustrated saying "No, what's your gender you male or female, girl or a boy? I'm a girl. What are you? I said "I'm just a person who uses they/them pronouns." and then I walked away and I could hear them yelling like: "bro I just asked this person what they're gender was. I didn't ask for all that, are you a girl or boy? it's simple just like that!" and that's why I don't like people.
And funny enough, they used my pronouns while talking to someone else lol
As a transgender male, Noah honestly makes me so happy. He had amazing music, he’s funny, and he’s accepting.
My absolute favorite comfort CZcamsr!
My name is Ziago with He/They/It pronouns 😊
i’m also a guy! i go by he/him and i LOVE noahfinnce :)
Heyy, I found out, that I‘m a transboy like two months ago after I thought about it for like half-a-year and my friends are all really supportive, and I play theatre and the ensemble is also a bit like my family and it‘s a bit like a rainbow-ensemle cause we are all either queer or allies and we are over 100 people from 1 - 89 years old and I‘m very happy, that I could find a home there and everyone calls me he by now, and I‘m planning to out myself in school after summer break so yeah, wish me luck and thank you for your amazing videos.
(2:40) As a human who uses she/they/he pronouns, I personally don’t like mixing pronouns (in one sentence) but I’m happy to do that for others. When people do that to refer to me I just get so confused myself!😂✨
(10:12) For me, I don’t exactly experience gender so I don’t care what pronouns people use for me. The only time I’d mind is if on a particular day I’m feeling dysphoric. The use of she/her pronouns would not help.
same! I do it for people who like to switch up pronouns, but I prefer if people choose he/him or they/them for me honestly, without interchanging them much :]
the fact that you said you don't experience gender is so interesting to me I definitely do experience gender but I love learning about how other people's brains work
I se the same pronouns!!
Responding to duel pronouns thing!! As someone that uses he/it/they I absolutely adore it when people mix up the pronouns mid sentence, it's super fun! People use multiple pronouns for a reason; they want you to use both!
ayye we have reverse pronouns, mine are they/it/he!
ayee that's so cool!
binge watching ur videos rn bc ur my type 😭
As someone with he/they/it pronouns, I LOVE it when people mix my pronouns in a sentence. It feels very validating
changing pronouns mid sentence is amazing!!! i'm omni, agender, and use any (all) pronouns but i dress/act/look like a "stereotypical girl" and so often times people forget that i'm not cishet which is kinda upsetting but i get it :)
Oh my gosh yes! Non-binary (demigirl) and demisexual panromantic here, she/they, but I do nothing to hide my physiology and I'm a married mother with a cis husband, so most people forget/assume and treat me cis-het. So annoying!
he/they, and I love it when people use them interchangeably in sentences because it shows they genuinely care about making sure I feel comfortable
3:08 as someone who goes by they/he I love it when people just randomly change pronouns mid sentence
not completely related but I've been wearing a they/them pronoun button to school for a couple weeks, most people still use she/her but today I was talking to my desk mates in first period and one of them was like talking to the other about me and they were like 'this is a conversation between me and them' and it made me so happyyyy
@Ville I care
@VilleIf you don't care then why comment?
I'm so happy for you! That's always a great feeling and I hope more people start using the right pronouns
@Ville you apparently
YAY I'm happy for you! I recently went to a comicon and bought my friend a a fluffy purple and blue dragon print pin made from wood and enamel, I didn't tell them how much it cost (35$) but they've been wearing it to school everyday and look very happy wich makes me happy :D
This is how i came to using any pronouns.
i used to care about labels and stuff like way way way too much. i needed a label to cling onto otherwise I felt so confused and just insane. so id constantly be looking for labels that felt right and no matter how much digging and looking none of them did. i went through so many label and pronoun changes I can't keep count. It got to a point where it was just so emotionally draining that I decided to just not care. i forced myself to not care about a label and I have felt at lot more at peace with my identity. so now I don't use any specific pronouns and don't label my gender or sexuality and I have found life so much easier. anyways :)
i once met someone called gem after midget gems and i just hope theyre having a fantastic life
“I feel like most people who use they/them, don’t drink dairy..”
as a nonbinary I can confirm this is true
As a kid I was told all about the difference between sex and gender and it made me into the person I am today
I love that for you! you're so lucky
Thats amazing :))
Cool, so you were brainwashed 👍
same
100th like :)
I know one person (one of my best friends) who asks EVERYONE she meets and talks to their pronouns (in her words you never know so might as well ask to be respectful), and she also happens to be the one cishet person in my friend group (I’m nb). It’s amazing and I love her and it’s a REALLY good thing she’s over 6ft and athletic because we live in midwestern USA and some people get very angry by that question.
Im 13 and I caught onto LGBT stuff easily. There was a joke around the school when I was 7 where people would say gay and I didn't understand it, but when it was explained to me what being gay was, I just though 'cool' and didn't question it. When I was 11 and learned what being trans was, it took me 2 seconds to understand it , while the rest of my family, including my younger siblings, took weeks to understand. My brother who's only 3 years older than me is very transphobic and homophobic, not knowing he has a gay, trans younger brother. It also makes me very happy to see trans people that have gone gray because I almost never see trans people who live that long. Anyways, seeing people who are accepting in general is nice.
My favourite thing to do to make it easy for people when I meet them is to go "Hi, nice to meet you! I'm [name], he/him" I think it lets the other person tell me their pronouns without feeling they don't pass or something :)
I love your videos so much noah i’m a queer person and i find so much comfort in your vidoes they helped me so much when i was struggling with excepting myself ( i still struggle with it but it’s better now) keep the good work up mate
i adore nature names which is why i chose clay because it just sounds nice and suits me pretty well, people whose names are like saturn, bug, fern, jupiter etc its just makes me feel so happy (and yes most people with those kinda names like cavetown)
I'm she/her, but I used to think I wanted ro be a man because everyone kinda saw me as one in a way. Like I was always a tomboy and I put out this persona of not caring about my apperence and wearing "guy clothing". When I would wear clothes I really liked and felt comfortable in, that happened to on the "girly" side it made me feel like everyone I knew hated it and that they were judging me. Now I'm over it and have started to branch more into the clothing and things that make me really like myself! Btw your videos are great!
2:50 I LOVE IT WHEN PPL DO THAT 😭 it makes me happy
love ya noah, my fav content creator cuz ur funny relatable and just overall the best person i know lol
Hello! I am gender fluid and I go by any pronouns! I noticed you asked about how it feels to go by any pronouns and I would best describe it as (in my personal experience) that its almost like trying to find a message in some sort of abstract work where everyone may have their own conclusion! Anyways loved the video and I hope you have an amazing day!
Whenever someone tells me I can choose their pronouns I always have so much fun referring to them with ever single pronoun I know
I totally get people, especially binary trans people, who are like "I'm trying to communicate my gender visually and it sucks when that doesn't work". But, as a transmasc, for me, it's like, if someone calls me "she" without asking, that's how I know I failed. If someone asks me my pronouns, it's not because of me or what I look like, it's because they're the type of person who likes to ask. For me it's like, mostly trans people ask my pronouns, or people I've just come out to. So they're making sure they get it right, which makes me feel great honestly.
Yes, as a trans guy whose pronouns are He/It/Xe i personally love it when people change pronouns mid sentence it’s awesome
YOU KNOW CAVETOWN!!!!! I LOVE IT!!! I went to his concert a few days ago😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
I use she/they pronouns and personally I do like when people change between the two in different sentences (though if they use both in one sentence it does confuse me lmao). Also I use both so people can use whatever they’re comfortable with for me:)
Awesome pfp
@@meatmush thanks bro
@@vikaaaaaa yw mate
I use she/ they pronouns and I do like it when people change the pronoun they use to when referring to me in the same sentence.
Same! But people never ever do that for me, I wish people would though.
Me as a gender-fluid person if I was asked why that’s my pronouns: “gender is but a concept, so I became the concept of gender”
i use she/they pronouns and it's because i know im a female but i dress and style myself more androgynous so i also give off masculine characteristics so i use the "they" because I am still comfortable if people use those pronouns. it's also easier if people don't know what to use when they first meet me, they can use "they" and i won't care.
" Bug " , is one of the coolest names I've ever heard !!
"Who are you " *I AM B U G*
cis person here! and I would like to say that I'm so proud of all of you. some of you might be in a very dark place or came from a dark place, and just know that you are not alone and it will all turn out in the end. I may have no idea what you guys go through, but I will try my best to understand so I can support those around me :)
Why are you proud of people that hate you?
@FRISH idk why they would hate me unless i hurt them personally (which I try not to). They struggle with so much yet still push through. And for that, I am proud.
@@honey_Bee1333 That's the point, they hate all those that don't validate them. Everything else is "hurting them" or somehow causing a so called genocide. Apparently the old woman at the end is "offended" by being polite and not wanting to take part in the pronoun cult whilst even so far as calling herself as part of the older generation in order not to make others feel bad. Their "suffering" is self inflicted and no amount of emotional blackmail should encourage you to sympathise with them. They push their own problems onto other people. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to take part or being recorded on camera. Recognise who the ones are that don't respect people's boundaries.
@@frishter What??... We do not hate cis people. Where did you get that from? 😭
I love you
Genderfluid/bi over here who takes any pronouns! (He/They/She in that order of preference!) I am most comfortable with he/they, typically, but since I am, irl, a female, most people automatically use she/her pronouns with me, which doesn't really upset me at all. They are low on the preference list, but I'm not going to kill you, haha! For those who aren't sure what to call me, they usually use they/them, which is also totally fine! I prefer these above she/her, as I feel more comfortable taking they/them, since I considered myself nonbinary for a while. Consider them comfort/safe pronouns! Lastly, referring to me as he/him will make me jump for joy, bear hug you, and love you forever, since I've felt most comfortable with these pronouns for a while now, and they give me that warm fuzzy feeling inside. I don't really know how to explain it, but I hope that helps!!
“i feel like a lot of people that use they/them dont eat dairy” NOAH THIS MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD YOU DONT EVEN KNOW
YESS I love it when people use multiple pronouns in one sentence. Ima trans guy but my pronouns are he/they, and when people’s use them both in one sentence or both in back to back sentences it makes me so happy. I’m not out tho and my mom is strongly against singular they so it’s rlly only online people that use my correct pronouns😔
I personally LOVE when people change pronouns mid sentence for me. Especially like if my bf says like, “she’s my boyfriend” or smth like that. It makes me SO HAPPY
That makes no sense
@@liyah1675 ok well it does to me and it works for my life.
So I identify as nonbinary, I use they/them pronouns. I use the name “Cedar”. I can agree I LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! When a non-binary person uses names like bug, twig, fern, etc. because it makes me feel better about using the name cedar. Ty!
Yess I love names that are nouns or colors or months. Also I love your name, Cedar!!