Being Aro Is Fine (Advice #5)

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  • čas přidán 14. 09. 2018
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  • @maybeilikedyourstupidface5507
    @maybeilikedyourstupidface5507 Před 5 lety +12109

    I love you.
    No romo.

  • @maddie2690
    @maddie2690 Před 5 lety +16300

    *“often i am upset that i cannot fall in love but i guess this avoids the stress of falling out of it”*

    • @wormworm1781
      @wormworm1781 Před 5 lety +1481

      the lyrics has so much more meaning now.... I'm stunned

    • @apriweutsnglawhetpi3256
      @apriweutsnglawhetpi3256 Před 5 lety +344

      no please I’m stunned aswell 🤯

    • @Zelda090909
      @Zelda090909 Před 5 lety +883

      I’m Aromantic so I always related to that part of the song so I’m so happy that it was actually probably about that feeling of being unable to fall in love the way other people do. It makes me so happy!

    • @coffeebreak5367
      @coffeebreak5367 Před 5 lety +191

      THIS MAKES MUCH MORE SENSE NOW

    • @mariana-mr4nq
      @mariana-mr4nq Před 5 lety +87

      This makes way more sense now

  • @ithinkimremus3707
    @ithinkimremus3707 Před 4 lety +6093

    He's so adorable
    Y'know, I was at his concert and someone screamed "HOW'S JUNO?????"
    He stopped and said "how's Juno? For anyone who doesn't know Juno is my kitty cat."
    Everyone awed

  • @pixelbombed
    @pixelbombed Před 5 lety +7137

    Aro ace people need more support honestly.
    I'm aro ace, and I always feel kinda lonely because I don't want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I mean, it doesn't really bother me, but I feel left out sometimes, y'know?

    • @inkyio
      @inkyio Před 4 lety +168

      Well being in love sucks and I understand your struggle but it's better to just not have romantic feelings for people. You should have some friends and be happy with them so I hope you're not as lonely if you do gain more friends or already have some that you love a lot. 🤧🤙🏼

    • @livbrooks4194
      @livbrooks4194 Před 4 lety +128

      Hi! I have a question I was wondering if you could answer? If it’s too personal no worries tho. Anyway, I was wondering, as an aro ace person, have you ever experienced a “crush”? Like is there a feeling of platonic crushes? I’m not aro or ace so I don’t know and was just thinking about it. Honestly I think the only thing you’d be missing out on is that butterfly feeling when you have a crush. Everything else you can experience platonically. Platonic love. Platonic intimacy. Platonic vulnerability. Passionate friendships. Sounds like a good deal to me! Hahahah. I’m sorry you feel left out, hopefully this comment didn’t make that worse or anything. Have a good day!

    • @lightlytoasted7119
      @lightlytoasted7119 Před 4 lety +118

      Same! I'm also aro/ace and I also feel left out. All of my friends have partners and I don't. I don't even want a partner. I know how ya feel.

    • @imweird8524
      @imweird8524 Před 4 lety +66

      Yeah I’m figuring out who I am and I’m pretty sure I’m aro/ace and my friend was talking about how being ace makes absolutely no sense to himself and he was judging it and I was like oh

    • @gregthefrog5149
      @gregthefrog5149 Před 4 lety +68

      All your close friends get a girlfriend/boyfriend and you feel alone as fuck and you get sadder thinking that you'll be more alone when they'll have a family

  • @mxbug_
    @mxbug_ Před 5 lety +6004

    can you become my therapist

    • @haley8597
      @haley8597 Před 5 lety +150

      He's doing 10000x better than my real therapist, is that bad or 😂

    • @sweatingfrommyeyes767
      @sweatingfrommyeyes767 Před 5 lety +100

      @@haley8597 if your therapist isn't helping you at all, then maybe get a new one.

    • @louisesalazar9992
      @louisesalazar9992 Před 5 lety +29

      @Gay emo, I like your username btw

    • @Sh4rkZzZz
      @Sh4rkZzZz Před 5 lety +19

      M O O D

    • @kaisetic3150
      @kaisetic3150 Před 5 lety +35

      I would gladly hire Robbie as my therapist

  • @raynahylden9117
    @raynahylden9117 Před 5 lety +5214

    We love an aro legend (platonically, of course)

  • @kathessler4090
    @kathessler4090 Před 4 lety +2997

    I'm only a few years younger than Robbie but I want to be like him when I grow up, he's so kind and lovely :')

  • @sashawayblight4920
    @sashawayblight4920 Před 4 lety +354

    Thank you for the aro part, I recently just came out as aromantic and non-binary yet my mum doesn't really support it and keeps on telling that I'm ''who I was born as'' and it knocked my confidence a bit. Thank you so much 💕

    • @sami1503
      @sami1503 Před 3 lety +53

      tecnically she's right. you're who you were born as: enby and aro :)

    • @Cr_nch
      @Cr_nch Před 2 lety +18

      @@sami1503 Had us in the first half, not gonna lie.

    • @fool2202
      @fool2202 Před 2 lety +4

      i think i’m on the ace spectrum

    • @faenene
      @faenene Před 2 lety +4

      I can understand you’re situation because mine is very similar. Hopefully things get better!

    • @FishesandNuts
      @FishesandNuts Před 2 lety +1

      I mean thats u were born as. Ur non-binary and aro :)

  • @ailyme189
    @ailyme189 Před 5 lety +13833

    “And I’ve got my brain on”
    Oof can’t relate

  • @KhanStopMe
    @KhanStopMe Před 5 lety +4132

    but pls, my family robbie :(

  • @ireallylikeslugs1769
    @ireallylikeslugs1769 Před 4 lety +281

    Robbie: “i too am aro”
    Avery: “blueface baby”

    • @cavekid1400
      @cavekid1400 Před 3 lety +30

      some aro people can be in relationships :D aromantic identities are a spectrum

    • @bbinst4r
      @bbinst4r Před 3 lety +13

      Bro slugs don’t get enough attention they’re so cute omg

    • @ireallylikeslugs1769
      @ireallylikeslugs1769 Před 3 lety +6

      @@bbinst4r slugs are very epic

    • @robin_ch
      @robin_ch Před 3 lety

      my dad used to kill slugs :(

    • @1SKRAAC1D
      @1SKRAAC1D Před 3 lety +1

      @@robin_ch noo

  • @crunchygrunchy5741
    @crunchygrunchy5741 Před 4 lety +282

    I'm not aro, but honestly, y'all give amazing advice.
    *I don't need love, I need choccy milk*

  • @c1rcusfreak
    @c1rcusfreak Před 5 lety +3684

    *Robbie for president*

    • @mcryourmemorywillcarryon7315
      @mcryourmemorywillcarryon7315 Před 5 lety +100

      no he doesn't deserve such stress

    • @ys-mi2js
      @ys-mi2js Před 5 lety +2

      JHope Le Happy Flower hi army

    • @ea597
      @ea597 Před 5 lety +35

      I wouldn't wish the stress and hate of politics in such a purehearted human being. I do however, wish everyone or at least MORE people would be like Robbie.

    • @arson9662
      @arson9662 Před 4 lety +6

      Unfortunately that’s impossible

    • @tws20873
      @tws20873 Před 4 lety +11

      Robbie for immortal ruler of the universe

  • @spacadet.
    @spacadet. Před 5 lety +5893

    I'm not personally aro, but I really REALLY liked what Robbie said about thinking of platonic love and romantic love being on the same level, just different. That's a very nice way to think about it, and was actually very comforting.... I like it

    • @caduceusdraws
      @caduceusdraws Před 5 lety +153

      It might sound cheesy but I like to think of platonic and romantic love as 'two different pillars of the temple of Love™" (the temple of love part might be a bit cheesy but-) I think it shows well how one isn't superior to the other, and both are equally important (holds the whole structure up) and while different, still part of the same structure :3

    • @zoegast103
      @zoegast103 Před 5 lety +54

      I’m not aro but that part comforts me

    • @bonepaste_3336
      @bonepaste_3336 Před 4 lety +70

      Mikolam07 that’s a fun take and it’s a very nice visual but like... aro people function without the romantic pillar, so you don’t really need both as nice as it is for some people to have romantic love. I like to think of it like... idk socks? You can mismatch them just fine (let’s say that’s friendship) but it’s a great bonus for people to have matching pairs (a relationship.) Some people don’t care or like just having mismatched, whereas others REALLY want a matching pair.

    • @nbae1106
      @nbae1106 Před 4 lety +9

      That was exactly what I was thinking

    • @arayahope9295
      @arayahope9295 Před 4 lety +12

      It makes me feel better about catching myself at 3 am thinking about someone I dont have a crush on.

  • @HMooney
    @HMooney Před 3 lety +55

    So now I know why every single lyric Robbie has ever sung has hit the nail on the head for me... I'm also aromatic/asexual and trans. This guy would be my dream friend. I also have so much platonic love and have even tried to fall in romantic love, but immediately fell out of it, realizing it wasn't real... "Often I am upset that I cannot fall in love but I guess this avoids the stress of falling out of it;" damn, now I know why those lyrics hit so hard.

  • @livelaughlufffy
    @livelaughlufffy Před 4 lety +129

    5:50
    Pop artists: sing about sex
    Me: Yep nursery rhymes alright

  • @nowakithomaslibanore2869
    @nowakithomaslibanore2869 Před 5 lety +5868

    I really feel that you understand us all and it makes me feel less lonely

  • @lovelyafternoon
    @lovelyafternoon Před 5 lety +3549

    I'm asexual and I don't understand how sexual love is considered the next step up after romantic love. People go on a few dates and stuff and are like "finally the dates are over now we can hook up", and fail to appreciate the time you've spent with that person, acting like the only thing it led up to was that.
    Also, if you're dating someone, you shouldn't just be their partner, but also their friend. Spending quality time is so important in any relationship. It isn't just all roses and candles, it's having fun!

    • @dakotadominique9063
      @dakotadominique9063 Před 4 lety +137

      Lovely
      I do agree, your partner is your friend and not just an object. 😖

    • @ed-xq5jd
      @ed-xq5jd Před 4 lety +180

      I personally am not asexual but I totally agree. Sex should not be the main part of the relationship

    • @dakotadominique9063
      @dakotadominique9063 Před 4 lety +21

      ghost girl
      Me neither but yeah.

    • @mo0nflowersart
      @mo0nflowersart Před 4 lety +24

      Thank you thank you thank you! I feel like this is a good comment I'm bisexual btw!

    • @yuriambre3253
      @yuriambre3253 Před 4 lety +35

      @@ed-xq5jd I mean, sex is an important part of the relationship but it's not the only part. It really depends from person to person. I don't think I'd be able to hold a relationship with an asexual long term.

  • @stephiguess737
    @stephiguess737 Před 4 lety +150

    ⚠️⚠️⚠️ HANNAH IF YOU ARE READING THIS ⚠️⚠️⚠️
    You are worth it. Your life is worth living. If your friend make you feel like you aren't enough, YOU. ARE. EVERYTHING. We will always be here for support. We care. I care. Cut that friend off. It might be hard, but you won't regret it. You are amazing.

  • @gabbyu6866
    @gabbyu6866 Před 5 lety +73

    Personally, I’m gay but I support all sexualities and I’m glad to learn more about beautiful aromatics 🥰

  • @b0b913
    @b0b913 Před 5 lety +2301

    "And I've got my brain on"
    10 seconds later: 0:20

    • @wylee9
      @wylee9 Před 5 lety +32

      B0B This comment made me ugly laugh lmao

    • @666cowboy.
      @666cowboy. Před 4 lety +9

      I just sounded like a windex bottle 💀

    • @tee9802
      @tee9802 Před 4 lety +2

      Omg I do that all the time

  • @zohrabaig397
    @zohrabaig397 Před 5 lety +4095

    I legit thought that said "being an afro is fine"

  • @maybelater8293
    @maybelater8293 Před 4 lety +53

    *iss like a litil- a litil potato chip*
    oh my god stop being so adorable

  • @mychemicalriot
    @mychemicalriot Před 4 lety +68

    what robbie said about love is really cool to hear, even though i myself don’t fall on the aro spectrum i feel like a lot of people don’t appreciate platonic feelings and act like it’s such a limited relationship. like cuddling w/ homies is the best.

  • @lulubelle3924
    @lulubelle3924 Před 5 lety +7060

    Robbie: *gives a very emotional and healthy way to deal with friendships and problems you have with people*
    Robbie: *gets a question about a person being sad and suicidal because of a friend*
    Instant protect mode Robbie: THROW THE WHOLE FRIEND OUT YOU DESERVE BETTER

    • @chocolatecream7234
      @chocolatecream7234 Před 5 lety +149

      Lulu Belle he’s not wrong

    • @adamstephenson14
      @adamstephenson14 Před 5 lety +160

      Haha from experience definitely the best way to do it. You are not obligated to have anyone in your life just as they aren't obligated to be in yours. If they aren't making your life better then GOODBYE!

    • @littlepurplebird9832
      @littlepurplebird9832 Před 5 lety +9

      @@chocolatecream7234 she didn't say he was wrong

    • @chocolatecream7234
      @chocolatecream7234 Před 5 lety +11

      Little Purple bird I didn't say she was, I was supporting her point.

    • @rottingsword
      @rottingsword Před 4 lety +22

      Lulu Belle *chucks friend into sun*
      Oops too far.
      Oh wait, nvm, she’s a bitch.

  • @malaizze
    @malaizze Před 5 lety +3051

    robin looks like he's following a fly around the room with his eyes half the time
    *you can't unsee it now*

  • @leeisamess.28
    @leeisamess.28 Před 2 lety +67

    I'm lesbian, and I think I'm aro.
    I like watching others falling in love, but I don't quite....get it emotionally. I've always felt like I belonged in this spectrum, and lately I realize that you don't have to fall in love romantically.

    • @elianna_ecc
      @elianna_ecc Před 2 lety +4

      I'm glad you've found yourself.

  • @sophiee__
    @sophiee__ Před rokem +22

    I’m aro and recently my best friend asked me to date her, knowing I’m aro. I had to reject her and she’s been ghosting me since. This video honestly helped, I can’t stop hating myself for not being able to love her romantically, thanks robbie

    • @-Teague-
      @-Teague- Před měsícem +2

      I am in a very similar situation rn. I hope you're doing well 🩵

    • @sophiee__
      @sophiee__ Před měsícem +1

      @@-Teague- i’m so sorry you’re going through that love it sucks :( but i’m doing much better and ik you will too!!

    • @-Teague-
      @-Teague- Před měsícem +1

      @@sophiee__ tysm I'm so glad to hear you're doing well and you made me feel a lot better 😊🩵

  • @ducky5086
    @ducky5086 Před 5 lety +951

    Often I am upset
    That I cannot fall in love but I guess
    This avoids the stress of falling out of it

    • @stinkiegwurl
      @stinkiegwurl Před 5 lety +9

      Lottie SKSKSKKSKS

    • @farinhaNico
      @farinhaNico Před 5 lety +45

      green makes sense now

    • @Tealule
      @Tealule Před 5 lety +42

      Are you.. tired of me yet?
      I'm a little sick right now, but I swear, when I'm ready I will fly us out of here

    • @mya4949
      @mya4949 Před 5 lety +16

      @@farinhaNico it's not green it's this is home!!

    • @mya4949
      @mya4949 Před 5 lety +23

      ooooooooooooooooo
      i'll cut my hair
      ooooooooooooooooo
      to make you stare
      ooooooooooooooooo
      i'll hide my chest and i'll figure out a way to get us out of here

  • @peachy4123
    @peachy4123 Před 5 lety +818

    omg you're hair is so floofly its so amazing

  • @cherrytoli
    @cherrytoli Před 4 lety +51

    5:22 small things really do make the difference when you’re insecure :) i wish everyone knew that something as small as texting first in a conversation can make us happy for an entire week :’) but things like saying hi in a different tone than you usually do can make us feel like we did something to upset you and you hate us ehe

    • @hoebagellie9268
      @hoebagellie9268 Před 3 lety +1

    • @paragonofhope2620
      @paragonofhope2620 Před 2 lety +2

      It really is a rollercoaster isn't it, one second you're laughing and having the best time of your life and as soon as they leave, you wonder if they actually hate you.

  • @Shinnyuu2
    @Shinnyuu2 Před 2 lety +5

    You had my subscription at “Egg chip.”

  • @sav1319
    @sav1319 Před 5 lety +2717

    *"I'm really into eggplant"*
    me, a gay: **coughs in gay**

  • @angelplush4057
    @angelplush4057 Před 5 lety +2948

    Robbie: And I’ve got my brain on.
    Also Robbie: Im- Impro- improvis- *oh god*

  • @thecosmicroze9706
    @thecosmicroze9706 Před 4 lety +20

    The advice on being aro spec really helped me come to terms with the fact I am aro spec, especially since I’m also ace. Thank you

  • @themothking7029
    @themothking7029 Před 4 lety +35

    I'm ace so i get not being able the experience a certain feeling of attraction.

  • @evy8482
    @evy8482 Před 5 lety +505

    "And I've got my brain on"
    *Seconds later*
    "Improv-
    Impro-
    Improvnsjwisna-"

  • @gwen9509
    @gwen9509 Před 5 lety +1342

    *all you need a spot, merch, and a brain to make a great video*

  • @datfatrat7135
    @datfatrat7135 Před 2 lety +4

    watching old videos of my favorite singers is so fun

  • @frogiiii
    @frogiiii Před 4 lety +29

    2:47
    BUT LITTLE DID HE KNOW....
    A v e r y

    • @DurpySquirtleGaming
      @DurpySquirtleGaming Před 4 lety

      Rat Mom robbie is cappin in this video

    • @cavekid1400
      @cavekid1400 Před 3 lety +12

      some aro people are in relationships! aromantisism is a spectrum and he recently said himself he still identifies as arospec

  • @stephoh2695
    @stephoh2695 Před 5 lety +707

    Eggplant = egg chip

  • @odinbaldr8136
    @odinbaldr8136 Před 5 lety +571

    You look very handsome today Robbie.

    • @portianoel
      @portianoel Před 5 lety +10

      Odin Baldr you right he’s such a sweet boi❤️❤️🍋🍋

    • @Luciasingsometimes
      @Luciasingsometimes Před 5 lety +24

      Odin Baldr he looks handsome everyday

    • @alliev8792
      @alliev8792 Před 5 lety +2

      He looks very nice very nice everyday

    • @Rasberry1929
      @Rasberry1929 Před 5 lety

      I thought this was a victorious reference

    • @whatthehck4604
      @whatthehck4604 Před 5 lety

      how dare you
      he's aro 😂
      jkjk

  • @rink5870
    @rink5870 Před 3 lety +13

    I watched this 2 years ago when i was 13, i’m 15 now and its even more relevant. I don’t know and have never met you, but thank you for both giving advice and creating music that comforted me throughout the years.

  • @Yanderehanako
    @Yanderehanako Před 3 lety +12

    Robbie is adorable and now I understand the lyrics to *This is Home*

  • @beefstroganoff1774
    @beefstroganoff1774 Před 5 lety +1838

    *how did he have an instant response to each of them and how does he know literally everything*
    *theory: he's Jesus*

  • @whatthehck4604
    @whatthehck4604 Před 5 lety +1106

    take four of those sticky hand things
    and just go *shlap shlap shlap shlap shlap*

  • @roseditslunasofficialyoutu9250

    Everything that comes out of this human’s mouth could be a quote ngl

  • @mikeyclaude2270
    @mikeyclaude2270 Před 4 lety +15

    Everytime I see you on my dashboard, my brain just says "SAMMMMME" over and over again. I'm also a red-headed aromantic.. so It's a little trippy. Your personality is also the most adorable thing ever and... oh my stars, you're amazing

  • @kablooey3846
    @kablooey3846 Před 5 lety +620

    I always thought the lyrics ‘often I am upset that I cannot fall in love’ from This is Home were about being aromantic :,) ur cool Robbie

  • @blueberry.941
    @blueberry.941 Před 5 lety +321

    *i just died cuz my heart exploded*

  • @CKayh
    @CKayh Před 3 lety +26

    i've been avoiding from talking about this online because i don't know for sure if I'm really aro ace.
    1) I never been sexually attracted to anyone so no see someone attractive oo I wanna be *BE* with them
    2) I used to be upset for not having a partner as a 12 year old kid because all of my friends are forming rElAtIoNsHiP and I feel left out. pretty sure all of the people I thought I have a crush on is just me admiring their existence and being attracted to their aesthetics. idk for sure but I'm 19 now but I don't get excited about being in a relationship. I love friendship more. and if I did get crushes on people (before, I don't get crushes on people now) it'll only last minimum of 3 days and maximum of 3 months. I dunno, it is how it is

  • @wowthatsmucas8061
    @wowthatsmucas8061 Před 4 lety +34

    i thought i was aro for a while. I felt sad sometimes looking at others. i just wished i loved someone- I realized that i wasn't aro, I'm just so scared of rejection that I beat my feelings into a ball. i realized that was unhealty and im trying to help myself. ive had a girlfriend since then, and it didnt end well, further sending me into my fear of rejection. Ive gotten a girlfriend that I really like and she is serious about me. Ive learned that I have so much platonic and romantic love to give- I tell all my friends I love them and hug all my friends (haha). i really cherish everyone around me and i make sure they know it.

  • @luclem.6234
    @luclem.6234 Před 5 lety +668

    Subtitles say "plutonic love"

  • @sharty5056
    @sharty5056 Před 5 lety +1592

    “I’ve got my brain on” literally struggling with every single word possible
    To be honest that is me every single day

  • @kelsewer9672
    @kelsewer9672 Před 3 lety +14

    im a panromantic ace and the irony of having endless options but not really kills me

  • @donnaelliott2729
    @donnaelliott2729 Před 4 lety +44

    My brother: which is more important, listening to Cavetown all day or actually doing something with your life?
    Me: 3:39

  • @Claire-ju3hj
    @Claire-ju3hj Před 5 lety +1421

    I don't know if I'm aro, I'm confused and i can relate to this is home
    Update: I realized I’m ace, told my boyfriend and broke up with me. Lol

    • @pearlcandy
      @pearlcandy Před 4 lety +21

      I am late but yeah me too.

    • @Bee-nc5rc
      @Bee-nc5rc Před 4 lety +185

      That's why it's a spectrum. You might be grey-romantic or demiromantic. I'm personally demiromantic, which just means that I don't feel romantically about a person until I have a strong emotional connection with them first.

    • @_ennuii
      @_ennuii Před 4 lety +4

      fkfjfjf same

    • @eviecash4061
      @eviecash4061 Před 4 lety +18

      Hope things are going well! It took me years to figure out I was aro spec.

    • @datbreadcat3240
      @datbreadcat3240 Před 4 lety +42

      @ルビー actually there's a lot of people that fall for others just based on their looks, so far I know both of my sisters are straight and fall in love with random guys they see and haven't even talked to I don't understand why though because I think I might be ace

  • @gh0stbees
    @gh0stbees Před 5 lety +807

    bless this video

  • @neongreenmush
    @neongreenmush Před 4 lety +47

    If you ever do another one:
    One of my close friends recently told me that she’s had a crush on me ever since we met, but I don’t really like her like that..I want to still be friends with her though

    • @amunhotep9188
      @amunhotep9188 Před 4 lety +9

      This was commented 3 months ago but I think that if you really don't want a relationship with them then tell them that because you shouldn't have to be in a relationship that you don't want to be in. I also think you should definitely explain that you don't want your friendship to end because of this but you should also expect that they won't be happy and probably very upset or maybe even angry. You should try to understand how they're feeling though.

  • @leooliver7293
    @leooliver7293 Před 4 lety +4

    I just want to say, thank you SO MUCH for talking about aromanticism. As an aromantic person myself, this is so amazing to see, and makes me feel so happy!!! Thank you for helping me become more confident in my orientation!!

  • @maya1651
    @maya1651 Před 5 lety +896

    you’re literally the cutest all the time, i feel attacked

    • @justinandrianpotolin1033
      @justinandrianpotolin1033 Před 5 lety +6

      maya i love how he stutters so cute

    • @maya1651
      @maya1651 Před 5 lety

      Justin Andrian Potolin ikr he’s such an adorable bean :,))

    • @maya1651
      @maya1651 Před 5 lety

      CrankyseptiplierPhan thanks yours is great too!

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 Před 5 lety

      Whenever I feel down, I just watch him and I feel better

    • @mlpelementheart
      @mlpelementheart Před 5 lety +1

      your pfp is me @ cavetown oof

  • @samina151
    @samina151 Před 5 lety +525

    "How do I tell someone that I dont want to be their friend anymore?"
    "OoOoOoOf"
    I dont know I found funny his reaction

  • @soniafaust8
    @soniafaust8 Před 4 lety +7

    “I’ve been playing Zelda way too much” god I felt that. I love your music and video game taste😂

  • @cloud-ji4bp
    @cloud-ji4bp Před 4 lety +2

    I had a really bad breakdown just now and thought to watch something to calm me down, and this helped. Thank you! I love you and your music. U help so many people I hope u know how much u mean to us

  • @emmaireland7952
    @emmaireland7952 Před 5 lety +649

    ”and I’ve erm, got my brain on” 😂😂😂💛 I love you so much!!!
    (edit: thank you for all the likes!!!!)

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 Před 5 lety +2

      Whenever I'm down, I just listen to him. I hope I can Meet him someday 😊

    • @gabbydraws5991
      @gabbydraws5991 Před 5 lety +2

      Red Hood me too

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 Před 5 lety +1

      @@gabbydraws5991 Hehe good to know someone thinks like me. I'm Steven btw

    • @emmaireland7952
      @emmaireland7952 Před 5 lety

      Red Hood me too!

  • @nyovyo
    @nyovyo Před 5 lety +567

    me: "i wanna just look at cavetown for a while"
    *get to the end of the video*
    "or if it wasn't, i hope you just enjoyed looking at me for a little bit"
    me: "whooaaaaaaa"

  • @Mel-iv3ge
    @Mel-iv3ge Před 3 lety +1

    i just wanna say thank you for making music and videos that generally makes me smile .. lately i’ve been feeling very down when i do i always just put in my headphones and listen to your music or watch your videos .. you are my safe spot and i love you so much your such a great spirit and i wanna be like you when i’m older ..

  • @ashwinskoog
    @ashwinskoog Před 5 lety

    I always watch your videos when I'm a little sad or anxious about my life and you make me feel calm and better and happy. I just saw you in concert and it was a dream come true and I'm glad you're doing such amazing things. I can't wait to see what you do next Robbie!

  • @TheObsidianNightwing
    @TheObsidianNightwing Před 5 lety +226

    misread the title as “being a bro is fine” nd was like :^) thanks actually

  • @TTVpeachie
    @TTVpeachie Před 5 lety +1318

    I’m aromatic, thank you for helping me figure that out I never knew this existed until now.❤️🧡💛💚💙💜:)

    • @angeldeactivated
      @angeldeactivated Před 5 lety +10

      ❤️💛💚💙💜
      I N V A L I D

    • @TTVpeachie
      @TTVpeachie Před 5 lety +42

      Deactivated Angel what? I just wanted to put hearts...?

    • @studysquid2002
      @studysquid2002 Před 5 lety +48

      @@angeldeactivated bruh what

    • @kinseyb127
      @kinseyb127 Před 5 lety +75

      Deactivated Angel UHHH AROS ARE VALID

    • @sammanthastarkey3600
      @sammanthastarkey3600 Před 5 lety +72

      Deactivated Angel aros are definitely valid lmao idk what you thought

  • @mhmyeahtotallynotacowinmen3373

    You are one of my favorite artists
    Every time I listen to your music it feels like I’m hanging out with a good friend in spring while enjoying a nice picnic together

  • @urlocalghost
    @urlocalghost Před 4 lety +35

    Me: a skinny legend
    My friends: NOT skinny legends
    Robbie: a musical legend
    Hotel? tRiVaGO!

  • @dgnrtt3560
    @dgnrtt3560 Před 5 lety +336

    oh,i'm writing an essay about you for my english lesson right now

  • @geniesloveme24
    @geniesloveme24 Před 5 lety +454

    God I feel so alone sometimes being on the aro spectrum, especially cause I do want to experience those feelings but I know I can’t and I’m kind of repulsed when those feelings are directed towards me. But I think I’m similar with platonic love, I platonically love my friends so much and I do love hugs and affection, but I associate it a lot with romance sometimes and that’s why I tend to hold back on those actions, out of fear that it will come off as romantic. I think it’s really awesome to see such an incredible songwriter not write about romantic love all the time!

    • @goblinkid3664
      @goblinkid3664 Před 5 lety +15

      Autumn g This is a big mood. I’m also aromantic and the term for being a repulsed by romance is called apothiromantic. (Which I also identify as). It took me a long time to get comfortable with the idea of doing romantic things but in a platonic way. I got to the point where a friend and I considered us to be platonically dating. But now it’s weird because they are actually dating someone and it feels really strange because I don’t understand romantic relationships

    • @maybeilikedyourstupidface5507
      @maybeilikedyourstupidface5507 Před 5 lety +2

      Ah yes me too

    • @penny6280
      @penny6280 Před 5 lety +2

      I can relate

    • @OddBunsen
      @OddBunsen Před 5 lety +5

      Yeah I'm not aro but I really wish more of my friends weren't afraid of being seen as gay for hugging.

    • @Melly-ex3uz
      @Melly-ex3uz Před 5 lety +9

      I can relate. I really really want to experience romantic love but whenever it gets directed to me I just get so so soooo scared of it. The whole concept of it is so happy and nice but it scares me.

  • @theythem6781
    @theythem6781 Před 2 lety +3

    i’m a big fan of his music but he’s such an adorable person too! he seems so kind and honest

  • @maskedcreations7040
    @maskedcreations7040 Před rokem

    I like how you take the time to answer people's questions and help them out. Giving advice is nice. You are very wise too.

  • @alexsamarie8379
    @alexsamarie8379 Před 5 lety +177

    One word: hair

  • @AyEmEl
    @AyEmEl Před 5 lety +242

    I've come to grips with my being aromantic for a long time, and the very moment I had made me so unusually happy for some reason. It was as though all the burden of feeling like; this is something people "need" to lead normal lives was lifted, and I viewed myself as a little more whole of a person for it, rather than fractured or incomplete. The knowledge of platonic and romantic love being on the same plane rather than one being greater than the other is truly important, and without it, I'd still be running around confused. Sometimes I get sad watching the world around me turn, the people indulging in things I don't find much interest in, but ultimately that's them, and that's the world. You can't view yourself as glued to this grand scheme where if you don't conform to normalities, you'll be rejected and bounced off the planet. Present yourself proudly as if to say "I know myself/(I'm figuring things out). I wouldn't have you know me, unless you'd like to, but I'm here and there is no removing me, who I am, or how I feel." If you can get that mindset down, you're set for life, and you're living it right.

    • @AyEmEl
      @AyEmEl Před 4 lety +7

      @@stelladenee
      There are a lot of dark places people can go, but the lack of belonging is one we've all been to for one reason or another. Even passed that point of revelation; even when we can officially breathe easier, there's a lot of points in life that generally take that breathe away for better or worse. Rest assured that if you are breathing, you are and will always be valid. Regardless of how bad things get and even well beyond our lifetime, having lived at all *means* something- as corny as that all sounds.

  • @Nelmel2007
    @Nelmel2007 Před 2 lety +2

    Why do aro ppl look so friendly and wholesome

  • @solfeuerschutte1315
    @solfeuerschutte1315 Před 4 lety

    thank you so much robbie, even if I wasn't one of the people who asked for advice on twitter it helped me. I'm in a really bad time of my life, I don't know how much I can thank u for it. just Thank u, love u

  • @hotgirl-cl2gq
    @hotgirl-cl2gq Před 5 lety +277

    don’t cut ur hair it’s magnificent

  • @pinkypie711
    @pinkypie711 Před 5 lety +281

    hello caveboy just wanted to let you know that this made my day. I've had a bit of a tough one so this calmed me and made me smile. thank you for being here.

    • @pinkypie711
      @pinkypie711 Před 5 lety +2

      also, I too am struggling with trying to socialise in school because everyone seems to be in their own group already

    • @portianoel
      @portianoel Před 5 lety +2

      Bibienne Yeoh awe I hope your day gets better❤️❤️❤️
      Edit: okay I’m dumb I spelled your wrong

    • @pinkypie711
      @pinkypie711 Před 5 lety +1

      @@portianoel hey lovely, thanks. I'm just getting ready for bed so hopefully things will get better in the morning but thank you for that ❤️❤️

  • @Kaytubeow157rfbrtmvs
    @Kaytubeow157rfbrtmvs Před 5 lety

    I love how you do these videos and connect with your fans like this, its really awesome of you

  • @gigitomato7227
    @gigitomato7227 Před 4 lety +2

    It means so much to me to have an artist I genuinely like a lot be like me :) and to speak so openly about it thank u and ur content has really helped calm down when I feel insecure about being aro

  • @arohikhurana4818
    @arohikhurana4818 Před 5 lety +326

    My Nickname is Aro so I literally jumped when I saw the thumbnail 😂😂

  • @goopie4066
    @goopie4066 Před 5 lety +66

    Cavetown being a smol bean for 10 minutes

  • @quinn2732
    @quinn2732 Před rokem

    you are a really great person who always gives me a lot of warm💕💕
    LOVE YOU SOSOSOSOSO MUCH!!

  • @gamer_rabbit19
    @gamer_rabbit19 Před 2 lety +4

    ive always wanted to sing but my music doesnt really make sense ever. when i heard you play it kinda hit me and you made me realize that its possible. that i can make whatever i want i dont need to follow music norms. thankyou.

  • @donuts1025
    @donuts1025 Před 5 lety +192

    When I first heard This Is Home I immediately felt like "wow, somebody else like me exists" because each lyric was like it's own little idea and moment and I could see every one of them in my life. I'm not Aro, but Ace and people either don't know what that is or assume I don't like relationships, love, ect. I found out about Cavetown and I loved the music. All of the sonts in general have such a beautiful pale yellow feel to them, and it just makes me less lonely.

  • @mollyjantzen8347
    @mollyjantzen8347 Před 5 lety +446

    Thanks for talking about aromanticism, I’m asexual and any bit of positivity for our community goes a long way!

    • @skylarishy
      @skylarishy Před 5 lety +56

      @Da Koynul There can be multiple meanings to a word. Asexual also means without sexual feelings or associations. Do your research before calling people out.

    • @annasanchez8588
      @annasanchez8588 Před 5 lety +52

      Da Koynul Einstein wasn’t even a biologist wtf

    • @god-gu6pb
      @god-gu6pb Před 5 lety +12

      Da Koynul lmfao dumbass

    • @mollyjantzen8347
      @mollyjantzen8347 Před 5 lety +13

      Da Koynul asexual also means a lack of sexual attraction

    • @fm.9783
      @fm.9783 Před 5 lety +8

      Da Koynul ... you tried

  • @caliver819
    @caliver819 Před 2 lety +4

    As an aro person, thank you bro

  • @-thegratefulchicken-playzs8380

    His voice is sooo soothing and dullest and he just makes me cry but I love him and we are so lucky to have some one giving advice to you and at the same time being a lovely singer ❤❤

  • @heartgappedteeth
    @heartgappedteeth Před 5 lety +148

    Lemon wisdom.

  • @jillianjacques4190
    @jillianjacques4190 Před 5 lety +393

    The idea of romantic and sexual attraction doesn't interest me in the slightest and that makes me uncomfortable. What makes me even more uncomfortable is when people are like "ohhh she must be gay and just not willing to say it" like no.
    if I were a lesbian I would say so, theres no shame in it.
    It's something that I feel already separates me from most other people and it hurts even more when people don't legitimately recognize my experiences. Each and every single time I bring it up to people their responses make me feel ashamed about something that a lot of people are going through. Thank you for this video.

    • @natalie196
      @natalie196 Před 5 lety +8

      Ay. Your experiences and feelings are valid. You're great. I hope you find a way to make peace with the uncomfortable aspects of your person. Its easier said than done, but changing your reactions to things changes how you live. What I did (I'm bi-romantic and people call me a ho or say I'm straight but idealize the gay community because all my friends are gay so I lie to fit in which is a weirdly intelligent and completely incorrsct assumption) was I just accepted that some people just aren't going to understand. It's like when you like an unpopular food and people react in that weird extreme. You dont get ashamed for liking the food because it's food everyone's tastes and experiences are different. Their opinion isn't going to magically change your taste buds, y'know? I sincerely hope you have/find some positive people who do understand or are open to learning and I hope you can get to a slightly better place as far as self love and confidence goes. I believe in you, fam. I may be on the opposite end of the spectrum, but no one deserves to feel ashamed for who they are.

    • @jillianjacques4190
      @jillianjacques4190 Před 5 lety +6

      I don't feel ashamed so much as like, everyone treats me like my sexuality and romantic preference is a facade because they think I'm afraid of being gay or something... like what WILD assumption fam. people need to chill, but thank you for your kind words

    • @jillmont3342
      @jillmont3342 Před 5 lety +7

      I’m not asexual but I don’t want to date or anything and I’m at an age where I guess everyone has already lol anyways people claim I’m “bi” and hiding it or I’m lesbian and that’s why I won’t date guys. When in reality I just don’t want to

    • @antid3982
      @antid3982 Před 5 lety +2

      Heya sweetie, I’m the same and I know what you mean. It’s really tough and when people make jokes and stuff it always makes me feel uncomfortable but i never know how to ask people not to because I feel like I’ll be burdening them. And yeah people always seem to assume that it’s to do with your sexual orientation but like it’s more like the lack of?
      But yeah, there’s nothing wrong with you at all, you are valid, you are beautiful, and you are amazing
      💜🖤 good luck honey

    • @jillianjacques4190
      @jillianjacques4190 Před 5 lety +1

      thank you so much

  • @jammythepanfriednoodles3764

    “Just get a real job”
    -Cavetown

  • @nias2156
    @nias2156 Před 4 lety +6

    I swear he gives better advice than my therapist ever gave me in the 2 years I’ve been seeing her

  • @kam3490
    @kam3490 Před 5 lety +151

    i’ve got my brain on
    *eye spazzes out*

  • @mai2012
    @mai2012 Před 5 lety +149

    i’m aro and ace and sometimes i think there’s actually something wrong with me

    • @jocelyn8427
      @jocelyn8427 Před 5 lety +27

      There's nothing wrong with you! I'm ace too and you know what you are absolutely lovely the way you are I don't know you but I love you (Platonicly, of course)

    • @armadillolizard101
      @armadillolizard101 Před 5 lety +11

      This is such a wholesome and uplifting reply chain and it makes my heart warm ♡ you've got this, lovely. uwu

    • @simplyever-poet6349
      @simplyever-poet6349 Před 5 lety +5

      same though, but theres nothing wrong with us. Are orientation is valid and we all are great in our own ways.

    • @eggeggchick
      @eggeggchick Před 5 lety +4

      You’re fine the way you are 👍

    • @straykanade
      @straykanade Před 5 lety +2

      there! is! absolutely! nothing! wrong! with! you! you're! perfect! just! the! way! you! are! and! you're! completely! valid!!!
      all my platonic love

  • @emmavanyperen6935
    @emmavanyperen6935 Před 4 lety +4

    Didn't know what being aro was before this video. Thanks for telling me. Found out I'm not weird or broken I'm just aromantic. Again, thank you very much for telling me. I really appreciate it.

  • @margotpreston
    @margotpreston Před 2 lety +1

    Whenever I'm feeling down, I come back to this segment. I know it's an older clip, but it soothes me.