EXs ONLY come back for THESE 2 Reasons after a Breakup!
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- EXS ONLY COMEBACK FOR 2 REASONS AFTER A BREAKUP
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Man, thanks for what you do, man. There are so many guys out here? Bash women to make money, but I appreciate what you're doing for men and women out here.
I don't want him back, he lost a good women for good, staying under no contact has been work great for me
Thx again
My bday is in 3days and then Memorial Day next day should I keep no contact? Please answer
Your absolutely correct big brother much love on your knowledge, it brings relief,💪💪💪💪
People need to understand no contact works for two reasons.. the main one is for you to work on yourself while not forcing a favorable outcome. If they come back it’s up to you at that point to either forgive them and move forward with them or you probably won’t feel anything to have to accept them back Into your life. What has helped me has been God.. have I cried? Yes. Do I feel down at times? Of course. But understand through pain comes a lot of understanding remember that… Love y’all stay strong.. in my case she has rebounded with someone else and I truly wish her the best. God bless every broken heart here.. put your love and efforts in God and not recline on the love humans offer.
God bless you everything and I mean everything! You said was 100% correct even your feelings and how you implemented God in it thank you so much for that because nobody really does to God when he’s our only answer of course we’ll have days when we’ll feel depressed but God sustains us
When you become attached to or love anyone or anything besides God, you will always be disappointed. Rely upon the Creator not the creation
@@samb5208 amén perfectly said 👌🏽
@@roothelegend182 sure thing God must come 1st in everything meaning are ups and downs in life he is the Alpha and Omega which is very crucial piece without him our pain, sorrows, and obstacles become ever more challenging because we think we can fix things ourselves and in that very instance is when we feel lost etc (that’s what Satan wants us for us) God bless y’all
Why do Christians downplay human love. It’s kinda toxic dude.
1. EX must feel that you are moving on. (Fear)
2. EX must feel the pain that you are gone for good. (Pain)
pweehhh, he knew i was gone for good! and never have i saw him cry,, first time..i laughed and cursed him out!! good day sir!! not worth my energy anymore.
They don't care. Even some average woman will find a new man within some weeks.
@@marguskiis7711 if they don’t care, why do you care?? :) Right? I can find a few nice women is few days. And still, my ex came back.Then they have to Co-exist because they have my babies:)
Legend
@@bambijonesyou're definitely not gone for good.
After 4 months of no contact I reached out to her, she replied that she has no interest.
Our relationship lasted 4 years.
I think it’s time that I close this chapter of my life.
I have found that every time I break up I find someone better her loss move on find another
never give up bro
why it ended
We spent 4 months apart and we had our first date yesterday, it happens , I thought she was long gone.
@@jonaveul gg bro never give up
Don’t give up on her
Look at us all in here hurting together😂 but seriously we will all get through it!! I’m on my second week of not hearing from her. I only wanted to see her be great and i still hope she does. I pray we can get back on track one day🙏🏾
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Hurting together 😢😂😂😂😅
Needed to read this. Thank you❤ you’re not alone!:)
Same!!
Lol word
I moved 1500 miles away. Went full ghost, blocked her and deleted my social media accounts. I started receiving calls from restricted numbers. I answered, flew to see her and we're engaged now, working on when I'll return home for good...
LOLLLLLL LOLLLL
May all the dumpers end up like they did to us by their partners in future so they learn the lesson and experience the same pain we are experiencing 🙏
I know mine will, he only chooses us women with self-esteem issues, it was awful for me to have that exposed but I've been healing that in myself this year and he's been off using someone new. I pray she wises up to his to "poor me, I'm not healed, I can't commit," game or she is strong too.
Many dumpers are not bad.
@@tru_kru_bahbee24 facts.
I dumped my ex because he was such a toxic draining narcissistic person. He’s been begging for another chance but I refuse.
@@ericalashay0209ame! On and off for 5yrs with a narc. Its been a week since I ghosted him. Blocked him from everything, changed my number. I also deleted my 20yr old email that hes been messaging to hoover me. Totally cut ties with this demon. dont wait for them to replace you..
Trust me guys and girls no contact works my partner broke up with me a month ago and I went in no contact and started working on myself and they tried reaching out. You have to show them you are ok with losing them. And this does not work if they know you are waiting for them. Please just forget them and work on yourselves. They will come back they always do.
Distancing yourself is always the best option imo . Eventually your silence will get to them and they’ll be wondering what you’re doing, who you’re seeing now . I never take anyone back because for me once my trust has been broken and I can’t ever go back to where we were- done that, been there and it just doesn’t work. You’re just setting yourself up for a double whammy. Work on yourself, do the healing and move on. Peace, Love and Light 💕
What if yall got kids together?
@rickyjohnson5894
Kids are like glue that holds two people together.
If they are willing to make sacrifices and concessions to prove, literally and figuratively, that the relationship/family is the priority then another chance at reconciliation is necessary.
what if they in a rebound and they live with them?
How long did you go no contact before your partner started reaching out?
Remember. Everyone is an ex for a reason. Move on.
Many times your ex doesn’t come back because they miss you. They come back because they miss access to you.
They failed to find a better man
If a person loves u, they will never leave, so anyone 🤷 else can get you. They leave because they don't care about you like that. If they love ❤️ u, they will stick and stay and treat u well like the Queen 👸 u are and never leave your side willingly. Point blank period 👌🏾 💯 leave them alone, and find yourself a real King 🤴
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Ima just going to level with everyone.. Truth is while we’re binge watching “No Contact” and “How to get your ex back” videos, they are more than likely moving on or have moved on already with someone new.
I wish everyone the best I truly do but truth is we have to move on with our lives without the expectation of them ever returning. It hurts, I know..
2 year relationship which was good for the most part, currently 45 days NC and I’m confident she’s seeing someone else or there was an overlap..
🙏🏾Praying we all find that person who values our heart
It's the sad truth. I've been accepting this also after a similar amount of time. I mean her loss but I still think and miss her. I hope she reaches out soon but I know i have to just let go and move on regardless if she does or not. Hurts so much to lose love but still always worth loving.
THIS!!!!!!
This is what drives us men crazy. Men take breakups a lot harder then woman, especially if the female is the one to end it, why? Because most woman already have an inbox full of DM's from guys just sitting and waiting..."Oh she is single, I'm pouncing" hell they were probably already trying to get with her while she was with you, and now since she is no longer tied to "You" all she has to do is choose from her full DM inbox. For us men our hearts hurt a lot longer, all we think about is her, all we want to do is be with her, but she has already moved on to the next guy and when we learn that as men it only hurts more. "Why him, not me? Why? Why?" and it eats us up inside. Men when they find their true love they try to hold on to them, why? Because its not easy for men, its hard to get a girl to be into you, regardless of how sincere, kind, loving, successful you are, and when we find the right one we try to saver that. I've been in the "No Contact" phase for a month now and its one of the hardest things I have to do. I can't see into her life like I used to because she ghosted me and blocked me from all of social media, so it only makes my mental health worse.
@James Shidell going through this also. Been 2 months and yes I still can't stop thinking about her. Time heals all wounds and we will be blessed with better bro. GBY
@@mkwhole it’s extremely tough, I’m 43 years old, been through a divorce, my best friend and the person I loved for over 20+ years who helped me through the tough times, and I’ve gone through hell and back, she was always there for me, she was my rock, until she wasn’t. Its heart breaking and one of the worst feelings ever! I keep telling myself it will get better over time, but time just seems to make it worse.
Yeah NO Contact Does work The more you don’t care the more they wonder. You literally have to go GHOST. Like U never existed. Don’t hit them up don’t post on social media. Any source they have access to see u AVOID it at all cost. That’s if y’all had a strong bond. Just focus on yourself and act like they NEVER was on this earth. However If they do decide to comeback make them work for it like a job promotion. Because you know ur worth.
Can I ask u for an advise
@@swordfish_wotb2249 what’s on ur mind?
@@22jp yeah so I had a situation when girl was chatting with me like really a lot for 2 months (cuz she lives in one city and I live in another one 400km away/250miles) then asked for some space or I should say I asked her if she needs it cuz she wasnt so excited anymore while chatting with me. And then after 2 weeks of this, I totally gone and didnt send anything for thennext 20 days, when I came after 20 dayd and sent her message she said that she lost feelings and only wants to be friends but in my opinion that is all a product of us living far from each cuz she didnt see me for a long time and so my question here is should I wait for her to make her regret it or forget her. I feel like it could work but the distance that can be only destroyed by being in constant contact made the difference here. She said that she is too busy with her jobs at home, also high school and she is trying to find the best college. Also she had catastrophic period at home with her mom who just left her family and she has to take care of everyone now alongside her dad. And Im sure all of this has affected her and she feels different but she had feelings for me but two months later just wanted to end it all for no real reason. Once again I have to mention that we didnt see each for about 60 days back then when she decided to stop our "relations" and Im not sure did she just miss my physical appearance that is much more interesting than typing a messages whole time. Anyways Im sorry for this huge text but to sum up, do you think that she will later come back when she sees me cuz Im repeating again we didnt have a physical contact since I think new year eve so she maybe thought that she lost feelings but its just because of me not being near her. Or do you think that she would ever just send me a sudden message where she says that she wants me back. Even nowdays Im ignoring her stories on ig and she is watching my every story, even on the snap but doesnt want to send any snaps lol. Anyways sorry once again for this huge text, I felt like it would be useful to explain everything, hopefully U get it ⚡
@@swordfish_wotb2249 always remember that females grow a stronger bond in person. Also remember if she has good memories with you she will never forget you. However you are the one that did no contact. So you can’t expect her to hit u up. You should of waited for her to say that. But u went wrong by talking to her a lot. Thats how females lose interest fast, you have to stay busy never let a women think you have no life without her.. But when you do talk Keep the conversations fun and interesting but don’t talk for long , that’s what makes her grow interest. But always remember never listen to what she says but what she does. Yeah she said I don’t have feelings but she keeps on looking at your story so there is some type of scrutiny there. You can still get her. Just hit her up and make plans on seeing her again and that’s it. Don’t talk about nothing else and when y’all see each other just have fun together so she can go back home thinking why did we stop talking. Furthermore, all that extra talk she saying about her home situation she just trying to get a reaction out of you. Remember u always have to stay Being STOIC. Never let her get you out of character, you always be calm and humble. But long story short hit her up. You can still get her.
@@22jp yes when she turned kinda cold (didnt send any heart emojis or cute messages and she seemed much different) I asked her if she wants some space because I felt like there is no hope in talking to someone who answers only with short messages and with no real and deep emotions. I thought that its just her period for some time and she said so, I kept sending her some memes every 3 or 4 days for the next 2 weeks and then I totally gone from the chat for like 20 days. I expected her to feel happy again, instead she just wanted to be friends 😕😑 weird really, usually distance helps people regain feelings but she is different... I hope that ur right about this case, thx for ur time to actually read all of this, means a lot
After 16 years he seen a text come thru from me to someone who’s phone was charging and he took a screen shot! The rest is history we’re married and very much in love. I actually believe we’re soul mates he just needed the time to grow and boy did he realize there was no replacement for what he lost, me!!
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It's been since Jan 31st it so hard not hearing his voice receiving his morning text my heart is broken missing him so much. Through it all God giving me the strength to heal if I can ever🙏🏽💔
Broke up on my birthday december 3rd. Ye trust me i hear you
My situation exactly!! Since November 2022 I miss all his calls and messages everyday, since last week I've been looking for way out to reaching out to him 😢 I'm going to break no contact with him. 4 months I didn't hear from him it's really hurt
Feb 2 for me. I miss her voice so much but I have finally accepted the breakup and feel much better just focusing on myself
Let him come back to you guys. They always come back when things don’t work out for them. Don’t reach out. They disposed you. At first it was love bombing with GM thinking about you and good night tests 2nd: hot and cold meaning inconsistency from one Monday morning tests another one on Friday morning then you start to wonder till it’s your turn to start chasing with the good morning or calls: 3rd boom! Dumpster (disposed) if chasing here comes the blocking stage lol 😂. Girls I can relate. A secret I want to share with you is there’ll be a time you’ll ask yourself either they return or not WHY WAS I SO STUPID TO CARE THAT MUCH THAT CAUSED ME SO MUCH PAIN EVEN TO MAKE ME HATE LIFE????
@@benithacalloway8286 I agree.
That's all good advice. Thanks for sharing. As a general rule, it's best to let your ex go and not chase after them, no matter how much you miss them and want them back. If they come back, they come back. If they don't, they don't. You should move on with your life either way, and if your ex wants you back, make them work and beg for it for once.
Well said
Depends on what they said and did
@@danieljohnson9841 Yes, that makes a lot of sense. I'm sure there are things an ex could have done that would make reconciliation all but impossible. But I've always been a very forgiving and understanding sort. It's probably a weakness that bad people try to exploit, and so I have to learn to maintain stronger boundaries. But I'd rather throw my arms around someone who hurt me than turn them away, particularly if I felt God brought us both together.
Then again, maybe God brought us together just to teach me these lessons about boundaries and self-respect. Hopefully, I was able to inspire my ex to change her ways and turn her life around, that she would turn to Christ for forgiveness so she wouldn't have to pay Karma instead. But it's out of my hands now.
Great comments, you gave me some things to think about and I appreciate it. Thanks!
*I’d say let them go and move on. If they come back, just remind they that they broke up with you and let them know to not cave and stick to their decision. Remind them that you’re an ex for a reason.*
The thing is if you breakup and you actually feel better and you're doing better post break up, there's no returning. Most women wait years to leave but once gone, they hardly return. Especially if it was not a healthy relationship...
🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃 AMEN, RUN LIKE HADES IS LICKING YOUR SOLES!
After 2 months, out of nowhere my ex liked my Instagram photo, the she started to see my stories, when she went for trip, she was wearing the ring that I gave her. I have her CZcams also, she was listening songs like "call me, want you bad, can't stay without you" and so on 😌 I don't know what these signs means, but I will keep going focusing on my goals 😎
This is good stuff ...it works my ex wife came back after no contact....but I was done I did not want her anymore. Going through that right now....I made the mistake and went hard for 2 months strong texting,calling,begging,gifts....I've been in no contact for 2 months. I feel stronger. Get closer to God. Invest in yourself. Know your worth
How long were yall separated before she came back
When I went no contact from my ex wife July 2017 by August 2017 she was begging me to come back after she left. I'm actually dealing with a whole new situation now. We fell in love. She broke up. Telling me she didn't believe I loved her. So I chased her hard for 2 months from Nov to Jan. Been in no contact. No contact actually builds you up. You regain your confidence.
Hope it builds me up, I was in a relationship 11yeara, took her on and her son, had a girl with her 4 years ago, her son dosnt want to speak to her for leaving in January,. Iv been trying to message and tell her , but to no progress. I'm now going no contact , see what's what
No we do not beg people, we do not harass people, we do not stalk, hack or anything else. Once a relationship is over, it's over. Move forward with your life and don't look back. It doesn't matter how well they may be doing or not. Relationships end for a reason or reasons. Life is way too short to be stuck in a pattern of always returning. Life is so much better moving forward. Hope you find what you're looking for. Best wishes to you on your journey.
Glory Be To God!! When God brings you a person you will know, trust the process, work on self, trust God. Do not go backwards, let them go, embrace your new life🫡✝️!! 7+ billion people in the World, take a chance with NEW Love in Christ, Glory Be To God!!
blocked for 7 months now and counting. Only God knows how hard it was for me
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Stay strong I feel you
TheArtOfLove, Coach Blac and Coach Lee are the best in the game I thank God for you guys...... 🎉😂😊❤
I totally agree and well full of advices appreciate. I hope nothing but best for everyone as they prayed for.
Need daily reminders of this right now, even tho it’s the same things being said in a different way … thanks!
Solid advice going no contact. Hopefully then you meet someone new.thanks coach blac
Love is more powerful than fear, fear and hate are easier to get over than love ❤
Wow! That's the best example I've heard about emotions being disengaged! It makes complete sense now, when it never has before! Thank you!
One of the best videos I have seen on this subject. 100% spot on. Thank you.
I like your advice, practical and simple advice. 👍🏿
VERY well said. Your message is the most powerful, and I believe true, of what I have heard. Bravo. Cheers mate.
You are an amazing coach. The fact that you recommend "Man's Search for Meaning" and "Letting Go," two great books is impressive.
Bc 😅 I
This was just what I needed. His anger almost got me.
She’s dead to me honestly. A restraining order in a relationship that never had any physical problems, we literally argued every week. I moved out to give her space and she quit on me. I’m good, I understand that not everyone is for you, they’re either a blessing or a lesson. I’ve learned my lesson. I was labeled a narc for not wanting to argue, I would rather talk calmly like normal people.
Yeah. If you’re always being argued with it’s over.
He left me as soon as a week he was with someone else. I found out she worked with him. He was going out with her every weekend while we were together and saying he was with his friends.
You deserve so much better.
my story too
Why do you want to be with him? Why? read your words… why?
Omg this is my case!!! 😢😢😢
Thank you for this video. I needed this information because I've been doing all of the wrong things (calls, texts and emails) to the point that he has blocked me on everything. I'm not going to reach out to him again, instead I'm going to process the pain in a healthy way until there's no more pain.
Thank you so much for the comfort at a very upsetting and stressful time. Bless you x
You doing some good work . Thank you 🙏 Blessing to you !
I think I’m the beginning begging and chasing is alright. Depending on how how long you were together. Because I know I don’t want to give up.. it’s grieving over a loss… but when you finally accept no contact… it shows you can accept and respect their decision. I don’t want my ex to think I never cared.. I care so much that I’m willing to let them go and let them find out what they want.
You hella right at the start it’s good so they know u care and they gonna think about that when u on no contact
This comment feed helped me so far more than anything, and the videos of course.
Wow this video really hit home, Thanks Coach B 🙏
The analogies you gave had me cracking up 🤣🤣🤣. I’m not watchin to get bk anyone but tryin to understand why these jokers think this way
Yeah I had 0 beef with my ex & recently she reached out to me, I responded in open arms but real quick the trail got cold & I came to a realization that she’s feeling powerful trying me like that. I was hoping she would humble herself but I had to cut ties & block her, I have value but that’s for me to know, I don’t like putting my self too high on a pedestal, I like seeing people eye to eye but when it comes to useless bad energy I have to turn my back.
Thank you coach blac, your videos and reels are helping me during my separation. The no contact is already working.
I must admit....THIS video right here....was ON POINT...alot of real spit box...
The point he made about if the begging and chasing ya ex has worked, they return, but they won't be there 4 long, they will INDEED leave again....so true. Your ex will see it as, "shit hell, no matter what I do, dip out, be disrespectful, ghost em, etc etc, no worries, I'll be taken back as ez as I left, again and again".
You're getting straight played...that's that on again off again relationship...
When it's your turn, y"all good, when it's someone ELSE'S turn....nuff said..
100% agree when I first broke up with my ex I didn’t care about any of his feelings. In that moment, the only person‘s feelings that matter were mine, because I was the one who was hurting. I didn’t actually start to feel the pain of losing him until maybe a month after we breakup. I felt fear and pain due to the fact that it was becoming obvious to me that he did not realize what he had lost. It honestly still hurts to this day. That someone I would have giving my last dollar, would just let me walk out the door. However that’s my rejection and abandonment issues. Every day gets a little better, but the pain of losing someone that I loved it hasn’t gone away. So yeah if you’re trying to get your ex back, just wait. If you were good them maybe they will want you back. You will never know until you try.
If you dumped him, the burden to reach out is on you. Going no contact is usually done by those who were dumped, since they did not end the relationship. It always baffles me when someone dumps someone and expects the dumped to reach out. Either you wanted the relationship to end ( which if so, no reason to feel loss) or you didn't and used the breakup as a power move and manipulation tactic. If it's the latter, then perhaps he sensed that and didn't want to play that game.
@@modickens1272 She sounded like she expected her ex bf to chase her after being dumped.
@@spiderjump I know, its unbelievable how some people's minds operate. Dumping someone and then pondering how they could " just let me walk out the door" translation: You're suppose to beg and plead to be back with me. I'm worth fighting for. Boost my ego and feed my need for power and control.
Why you guys projecting onto the dumper? Simply acknowledging and sharing from their own experience. It's very much appreciated 👍
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Straight talk…. Thank you!!
Before I found your channel I did exactly this not with the intention of wanting my ex back but standing firm on letting him feel the wrath of his decision on breaking up…he contacted me six months later in fear of me moving on… this method works for sure! Nevertheless I didn’t take him back!
Thank you so much for these amazing advice sweetheart much respect
Thank you so much for this video it really helped me through the worst breakup ever❤
You’re so genuine
Thanks bro your awesome this really helped me a lot to understand everything your a great person
Love from Curacao..my brother...im blessed having you man..
Yes I understand what you are saying and it's down to the point. I can say this because I am going through this right now.
When i feel a momemt of weakness, i come here. Thanks man.
Thank You Sir. Excellent Wisdom
It’s been 2 weeks and 1 day I haven’t heard from him 💔 but I’m doing things that make me feel good and happy!!
Stay strong
@@giovannimorgan8728 thank you so much
@dreromonseletemple
Me too but we stay strong we will overcome it❤
Fear and pain everything you mentioned makes sense
Thank you sooo much!! Just found you a few weeks ago as I am in a 3 week no-contact now after a breakup of a 2 1/2 yr. relationship.. ..Applying everything-even though it hurts-patiently waiting to see if he realizes what he lost in me...but I won't wait forever as time goes on I'm hoping my pain decreases and if meant to be I can move on.. Looking forward to more of your content...thanks again
Yes go no contact trust me give him some time please don't go to a another relationship so fast thats hurts he will needs you trust me thats happend to me and she is in a relationship now what i do right please don't do that
I am single for now I not rushing any thing
I think you give amazing advice! You are very wise.
Thank you for helping me ❤
WOW! Impressive! Where did you learn this knowledge? Thank you! Very helpful!
Bang on coach thank you GBY
Made great points. Thanks
I agree with you 100%, I used no contact for three days and she reached out to me. Our ex doesn't care about our feelings, they only care when we stop chasing them, they start fearing that they might lose us.
Let go and let God
What I don’t understand is how I am so accepting and making plans for myself only to be obsessively wonder if she is thinking about me or coming back. I have never experienced this range of emotions. I broke no contact after a week 3 days ago and now I’m back on it and it’s harder and harder sometimes. Pray for me lol
Faith prayer & time ,God words are very helpful dealing with pain ,Jesus suffered for 40 years and in the end he won ,God said if you & I keep us he'll keep us in perfect peace,the word of God is the only way out of this ,here's a bible verse I want you to read over & over again 2nd Corinthians verse 4 & 5
Read Jeremiah 29:11
Its sooo hard😩😩
@@qwekut9453 trust me I know,I've been hurting crying and dealing with this for 5 years none stop ,I tired everything nothing seems to help ,I had to pick up my faith & trust God's word,God said in his words before his words come back to him void heaven and earth will pass away first , heaven and earth still exist so God's words are still standing, again it's very hard for me every day is a struggle but there's nothing to hard for God ,what I have learned in this situation it's a lesson my lesson was I was looking for a man to love me & I was doing all the wrong stuff trying to get a man to love me like doing stuff that a momma/ wife should do & the more I do the worse he treat me and the more he disrespect me so I'm now working on stop doing so much ,& the crazy thing about it he treat all the women that does nothing like queens , they don't think like we do what's wrong to us is right to them & what's good to us is bad to them
Today is one of my rare easy days. Thoughts are hit and miss but I have more control today. I literally got rid of all the reminders and keeping busy. I have noticed that caffeine makes things harder for some reason so I just drink water and work out. Hopefully this becomes more of a trend so I can become normal again.
I’ve just entered a period of no contact with my ex after 6 weeks. We live together and have children. I came to the realisation on Saturday that he wasn’t feeling the effect of what he had done because we’ve been behaving as if nothing had changed and I’ve been too available to him. Now I can focus on me and my happiness. Before entering in to no contact with him I did send him a text expressing that I needed him to choose his freedom or his family… I get that might come across like I’m giving him too much power to make that decision but honestly after a decade I feel like I can move forward and he is either with me on this journey or he isn’t - and if not it’s his loss because I know I’m a good woman.
I'm in the same exact situation and it sucks. I need to go into no contact as well. I've been to available to her and I noticed today, I feel she is taking advantage of me and my heartache. Hope all works out for you
My baby daddy used marriage and the ring 💍 as a carrot stick
@@CaptainsCollectables On Monday evening he asked for another chance… I said no…
All the experts say ‘focus on yourself’ and you think that’s an impossible task because you are so focused on them. But I promise when YOU change your mindset and realise you are the mother f*cking prize who is worthy of so much more you’ll attract something way better than what you were settling for.
She is now dating someone who is the exact opposite of me. She completely dropped her boundaries. Saw them at a party together but did not give a fuck and had fun. She looked at me as if I was an alien. She completly rushed into this new relationship while she took her time to get know me. Still not contacting her till this day and might never again. She was my first love and I was hers.
1.Fear - They think you might be moving away
2.Pain - They Feel the void ,they now experience the loss,they miss the good times together
Thank you so much, you have really helped me to see I can do better and move on...Everything about you is so calming and comforting, u got me through some very dark times 😢😢😢 much love to you x
A person can't care about what you had if they don't even care about what they put into the relationship. If they did care as you did, then you 2 wouldn't be each other ex. Through experience, just keep pushing forward. If you go back, you will start back at ground zero, having to pick up the pieces of your brokenness all over again. It's seemed like for myself, it was just as painful as the 1st time. I'm glad that experience is over with. I'm pretty sure both of our feelings are the exact same for once. I hope that I don't EVER have to lay eyes on him again. If I do hope I be hugged up with someone new that we both speak each other love language.
I fully agree on your video 👍🏾
Thanks a Trillion! ❤🙏
Great video, Coach Blac. It was extremely helpful. My x has been gone 4 months. I feel like a fool every time I send him a text that he doesn’t respond to. Honestly he does not deserve the attention. He is incapable of giving me any emotional support.
this helped me a lot. thank you!
Ghosting makes you feel like a disposable toy. Any shared laughs, memories, conversations get marred by the betrayal and trauma that ghosting leaves behind. I wish him well but I know deep down that had things progressed, he may never have loved me and cared as deeply about me as I did for him.
thanks you for you effort to let our attitude easy for us and to understand alot of things about the breakup that's halepful from you i hope u the best
We were close friends for eight years but never officially a couple. After he said he just wanted to be with the right person and we were, “compatible in every way,” then encouraged me to get my nursing license in California, I just knew he was going to propose in January but he made excuses, instead, that his personal life is, “broken in many ways,” and now I haven’t heard from him in more than a month. 😢
I'm sorry.
@@kateroth7154 thank you ♥️
@@jeannievail when a man really wants you he will commit and not just be your friend for 8 years
@@WildMuffinofficial he was married until three years ago and I was in a 20 year relationship until the end of January.
I hate that I was the one to walk away but at the time, what he did didn't align with how I lived my life and I didn't want to be with someone who could make such a terrible life choice. I didn't allow his sentiments during the loss of my father to win me back either, after a year of us being apart. But now, a year and a half after breaking up, we're communicating and trying to mend what was broken. It truly can't happen before it's time, and no amount of coercion will speed up the process. I appreciate this video for its very good insight.
This guy is a genius
It’s been 7mo no contact and he had a new relationship in between. They’ve broken up and now he’s slowly trying to get my attention again. I will not entertain him ever again.
Have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about two years ago, but i could not let him go, so i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.i wish you seek his help too.
Appreiate You and Your Wisdom Too !
You are rite bro. Going through this now, I chased my ex to get back with me while he was attracted to another girl, he took me back. But after 3days he told me he needed a break again and I had to let him go and blocked him everywhere on my contact, a hard decision to make. Now trying to focus on myself
The same happened to me. I hope he can get past this selfish phase
The problem is when the relationship ended ...you don't have closure...that's why u pining for them to come back ,best advice is to work on yourself and self improve ..it will hurt but in time it does get easier..find better than what u had b4....
You are right I never comment on these types of post because I feel there B's but you're speaking from a place of truth
I don’t work this way. When I love someone, that love is a lasting force. It’s not conditional on the role or type of relationship we have. Seasons of life change as do the different roles we can serve in each others lives. Friend > lover > partner > friend , etc. But the love, the concern and care for their happiness as they define it never dissipates.
It is deeply unnatural to me to move from a place of profound connectedness and emotional intimacy into cold nothingness. Seems more like a game played to affirm ego and quell pain. My heart simply does not function that way
Right
Best I have ever listened to...using a practical illustration
Very smart man 👍👍👍👍
I told her she was right and I hope things work with everybody else.
3 yr relp and into a month of no contact. Today has been one of those days where I almost relapsed.
Been doing fine until today. I miss us but i miss me more.
I’m in the same boat. Stay strong 💪🏽 💜
Very nice video 😊
👸cheaters are repeaters👹never trust them. use 😭that pain for ur goals so no contact won't be in vain😌!
Yo shout-out from Chicago this is helping me
Im currently experiencing this subject, I thank you so much, #listeningwithaction 💕
No contact is for when you want to be done. The longer you start out of contact w someone the further apart you get so taking some time away for space is one thing but prolonged no contact (like I'm in now) is due when you want it to be over. Period
My ex came back when I worked on with 5th dimensions on spiritual communion or connection. Not on physical plane. If you worked on physical plane, you may be chasing your ex or can get into troubles. My piece of advice worked on spiritual plane to bring your ex back. For doing that, you need strong will power.
Right on, 100% !
Very very very true what you said
Ex’s needs to stay where they are at. God did not build me to run backwards, so therefore my reverse is broken. Looking forward and enjoying the rest of my life while doing God’s will while minding my business. 👍🏽
Amen!
Thanks for this video
LET HER GO!!!
Facts facts facts 👍🏼