Men are GIVING UP ON COLLEGE... GOOD!
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Aba just has no imagination whatsoever. I knew exactly what I wanted to do as a career at 18.
Damn, glad I have an idea what I'm wanting to do.
Congratulations, you’ve got the pin of being absolutely correct.
AND you represent everyone right?
@@AMNOWFREETV Where did you see me say I represent everyone? I said he has "no imagination", not "my experience matches everyone", genius. Lol
@@AMNOWFREETV My brother is the exact same way actually. He is 18 and doesn't know what he wants to do either. He also has no imagination. Nothing wrong with it, it is just why it is harder for some to figure out what they want to do then others.
To young folks... Its ok to live in uncertainty! You dont have to make a decision when you havent gotten it figured out. You're not a failure. Go at your own pace.
The High School to College pipeline scam should collapse. No way the world should be pressuring 17 & 18 year olds to make a choice that vast majority of them arent ready to make. The way a lot of highschool educators and counsellors are complicit & often get rewarded for encouraging that pressure. Also most parents dont get how much of a scam it is, especially those from immigrant backgrounds.
Haram!
It’s definitely haram!!!
Hamdulilah brother
I am Haitian, btw, so the whole pressure from immigrant parents, I know too well. I was having an argument with my dad who is shackled to this idea, about wanting to film a short movies and he kept telling me that I needed to go to school to learn filmmaking. GEEZUS XRIST. Thankfully, my mom is more streetwise and agreed with me
Many men can't compete anymore. White CONSERVATIVE Racists initially thought that Black people had low IQ but as Black women now achieve more than white women that believe is changing.
Not necessarily. I'm am American and I got accepted into a college in Taiwan that costs $2,000 USD a year. It is just they charge you in USA your first born and half a million in debt for any grad degree. Go abroad. Also if you are in a specilazed field the Ministry of Education will pay you like $12,000 a year as a scholarship.
I think there’s a huge misconception about finding your calling. Life isn’t a Disney movie where you just follow your heart. Your calling will not fall on your lap. You have to go out and try different things to find out what you enjoy or what you’re good at. One of the most important things that a mentor told me after I graduated high school is: “You don’t have to know what you’re meant to do, just don’t stop moving until you find it.”
Exactly. Your job doesn’t have to be your whole life. Find something that will pay the bills and fund your passions! I enjoyed chemistry so I became a chemist, but I’m not PASSIONATE about it, I simply enjoy playing with chemicals and working in a lab away from the public. I put in my solid 40 hour week and the rest of the time I check out to do what I actually love.
Facts
EXACTLY !!!! Thank you
@@AMK544 im at this point rn im jus tryin to find some hobbys because I put so much into working since I was 11 i literally dont what to do on my days off.
I have the exact opposite problem. I was a tv kid so growing up being told I can be “whatever I want” so I was interested in writing, drawing, comics, animation ya know all that shit. But I have to go through a whole lot of bullshit to make that happen. It’s the best time to be an independent artist but I need something to fall back on because it’s not that stable # 1 and # 2 you give your work to a studio and it’s just a whole bunch of bullshit (look what happened to Final Space) and now I’m grown being “oh wanna be a writer? Meeeeeh … maybe.” And a whole other shit of personal problems I have
So I've done university twice now. First time I was 19 and was academically expelled because, like you guys said, I was young and a mess. I had severe social anxiety and depression and zero life skills. My room was consistently disgusting, I could hardly feed myself, I almost never had fresh clothes and I almost never left my dorm room. I was absolutely fucked. Luckily, because I was only in for a year the debt was negligible. However, my parents weren't so understanding. They basically said "heres the last thing we'll do for you as a child" handed me an application for the Navy and gave me a year to move out.
10 years and a 7 year stint in the Navy later I'm now on my second go at Uni. I'm on the deans list with straight A's. My room is small (I live with 3 roomies to keep costs low) but immaculate and well kept. I eat well, exercise routinely and I've been through enough counseling to deal with my social anxiety. Although my social life is pretty non-existent right now due to school and working part time, I know I now have the tools to make connections when the time comes. I have no debt and because of my time in the military I will attain my degree with money to spare.
I suppose in all I'm just trying to say for any of the young guys who might be reading this: you can change. You will fail in life and you will fail hard. But these failures don't need to define you and you have the ability to pick yourself up and overcome who you were. Stay strong young bros, I love you guys.
Amazing!! Your awe inspiring.
Bruh I went as a freshman at 20 in 2018 only first year was fun after that bruh I was running out of money plus a had to take out loans shii dropped out soon as this covid shii hit bruh idk if I'm going back I was almost homeless up there
Condeycon. I don't know if you will ever see this but I relate INCREDIBLY well to your first paragraph. It reminds me so much of myself. However, I'm still in the very slow process of getting my things together as a 25 year old after failing college in my first year when I was 19. I lack so much life skills, it's insane. I don't even know how to iron my clothes and I still live with my mom being unemployed...
Your story genuinely gives me hope... thank you so much...
Looks like your parents are the MVPs here
I can literally feel your authenticity from reading your words!! That was beautiful! Good on ya brotha!
Best part of the video, “He may not make as much as you, but best believe he'll have less debt than you.” Aba preaching out here.
Free cash flow wins over debt all the time.
@@enhancedutility266 depends on circumstances. Yes its best hut i got six figure job so have debt snd working through it to have a job i enjoy and i can do into my 70s without fear physical injury is a bet i took and will happily take again.
Yep. At the end of the day it all evens out financially
@@capitanawesome44 the real danger in the way our culture works is that most people "learn" to live paycheck to paycheck. Add 300K worth of student debt to that then tack on a 300K mortgage and then marry someone else with 300K worth of student loans and you have a recipe for corporate slavery. The habit of having debt costs a whole lot more than the actual amount ( interest included)
Man that's facts right there lol
My grandfather never graduated from high school. He became a radio operator in the Army during WWII when the previous operator was killed. He took that experience and taught himself radio repair after the war. He later learned television repair also. He built that into a very successful business which he sold in the 1970's to retire in his 50's. He then worked as a consultant to a large electronics company part time for a very large salary. With no formal education he was able to create wealth that is still funding our family to this day. His path cannot be replicated today and that is a problem.
Yeah...stories like your grandfathers was given to him partly because of the war. Opportunities were around every corner and there is a reason it was called the golden years of America. We don't have a great war. His story isn't 90% percent of peoples story now. You a e extremely lucky, very fortunate if you can be anywhere close to what your grandfather accomplished.
He got experience. Many employers WANT that experience over non-experience with a degree. The person with yrs under their belt is way more reliable.
My wife ain't graduate HS! But she worked her ass off. She learned quick, was managing a bank around 18 yrs old, decided to go to the medical field and is getting positions where they state "must have X degree". She ain't got college. She has that experience and runs circles around these people with a degree and no experience, which employers prefer.
I wish I could say the same for me, but just like your grandfather, I was in the Army too but I was medically retired. Now, I just do shit for my enjoyment, nothing too serious or career worthy.
Many of our predicessors path's cannot be replicated. Sorta like great things only happen once in a life time type of deal! Our generation sadly has to find other means to get by because most of the great inventions are already made & thus left many w/o any ideas to create a path of themselves in the New Age. Seems like we're really in the Shadow's of the people before us. With tech taking our jobs even, I'd say you lucked out my friend. Take advance of out, but don't abuse your grandfather's hard earned wealth!
@@sueblack5794 that 90% of people made it back then (at least that’s what your comment seems to imply) is also gravely mistaken. Lots and lots of people back then ended washed up. That just doesn’t get told.
@@leo-ub6nb You should def look into security at the very least or maybe become a physical training instructor for a police academy. I'm sure you can still bust a few moves! You can even become a shooting instructor @ a shooting range or a bouncer even. I was in JROTC in my HS, but never joined. Wished I did, but I decided college due to pressure from family
4 types of people:
No college and unsuccessful
No college and successful
College and unsuccessful
College and successful
As long as you're successful, you're on the right path. Set those goals and work every day towards them.
and with college you get highest odds to be successful tho as 90% millionaire are college graduated. aba and preach saying this as world is only at 1st world country, in 3rd world country college meant is the most important life choice if you don't go to college you're practically slave for the rest of your life with dead end job that's why indian studied hard, even sometimes only bachelor is not enough you need master degree to make it.
$100,00 in student loans for a Nursing job that starts at $17 per hour. College pushes people into poverty...WITH an education. It's Satanic
You're statistically more likely to be financially successful if you went to college.
@@fairuzsyahraisan7235 correct me if I'm wrong but didn't Bill Gates drop out of college?
@@SandwichDoctorZ Bill was the son of millionaires.
Those guys that don't go to college aren't just sitting around doing nothing. A lot are going the trade route. They're finally realizing that having an actual skill is more viable. You have plenty of young millionaires that have come into their riches from a skill they possess.
In college's defense there are plenty of 'actual skills' that you can learn there too. Is civil engineering not an 'actual skill'? And on top of that, the vast majority of rich people own degrees / went to college. Granted, you could chalk to this up to the fact that most rich people had rich parents and could afford it.
That's kinda cap. A trade will only get you so much money a year depending on the area you live in. I've been a house painter for construction sites for almost 10 years now
It's not as lucrative as people make it out to be unless your the supervisor. And after 10 years most people get exhausted physically by the job. Take that as you will.
@@kevinmatta9262 the average person with a college degree is only making 55k which is not much money at all. PLUS they have student loans which is even less money in there pockets. So that means on average people in the trades actually have more money in their pockets every month than a person that went to college. My trades job pays me 60k in florida and I don't really have much debt and I'm doing waaay better than my old classmates that got their degree that they are not even using. College only have a handful of majors that can make you very good money. If you are not in those majors, than you are wasting your time there.
@@fourtwo5619 dude ima be honestly. Everything you typed sounds like bullshit. What trade is paying you 60k a year unless your the supervisor...
Plus just go to community college you don't get much debt from community College and it's basically the same degree. Ima get a paralegal degree and in California it pays wayyy more than my old trade. Depends where you live i guess.
@@mosorireayewale2820 it is a skill, but not many people are choosing those majors, thus the shortage. Hell, I went to college for computer science. I know how to program and I have networking skills, but I think I could've skipped all of the other things and just focus on those skills. It would've saved me more money and time.
“Men giving up college, women most affected”
But seriously, it’s hard to stay in college when the institution itself hates you and discriminates against you.
Wait, I'm not from America and I cannot understand it's just men, do women pay less fees or taxes for education?
@@haideralikhan5947 no its that colleges are heavily left leaning and are filled with feminist.
@@haideralikhan5947 they get more scholarships, preferential selection, preferential treatment, and ultimately can choose to just get married and be taken care of. They also go into an environment that demonizes men and worships women. It's pretty toxic overall.
Yep! That's what I was thinking, they are teaching hate.
@@johnquick9409 It's not just that they get more scolarships, but rather that they have women only scolarships while men have no men only scholarships because having scholarships for only one sex is actually highly illegal according to the constitution but nobody cares as long as its women discriminating against men.
College isn't for everyone and not going isnt for everyone. It depends on what you do for yourself.
Exactly
Yep, that also applies to the gender differences in jobs too. Women choose different types of jobs and careers to men, because it’s what “you do for yourself” based on what you want to, But people love to pretend something else is going on when it comes to that, the people who believe equality of outcome and equal opportunity are the same thing. It’s all very convenient…
It is not just that anymore. I had a writing class more focused on teaching women's history.
Two of my writing classes were like this. I learned less about the ideas behind writing than I did about what woman did what.
I got one assignment wrong only because I provided the wrong opinion, nothing about punctuation, sentence structure, choice of words, etc.
It is not right my GPA dropped from that.
And nothing I could do change that.
Even my speech class, the professor in some cases were more interested in "correcting" the topic than giving advice for talking aloud amongst a group.
The irony of that class, it got worse when it went fully online and my "professor" struggled to communicate with me.
@@Sinn3246 but that's life. College is the first intro to business and real life people out here don't give a fuck about you.
@@s.k.5747
I'm sorry to hear that man.
What was your original major for college before you completed?
I hate the way people generalize "Getting a college degree". As if majoring in psychology is even remotely comparable to becoming a computer engineer.
Don't need a college degree to be a computer engineer. CZcams university is enough. In this industry skills and willingness to work hard opens doors more than papers.
@@cactuspower6298 Am talking from experience. I have people with Masters, working under me. I don't have any degree. But I have more actual experience building systems, and leading teams. To an employer, ability to deliver is what matters.
@@charlesngeno Yes, that is true, but the stats say that generally the bachelors helps, and with scholarships and some hard work, you can pay under 10-15k in student debt out of college, which is less than the hiring bonuses that most of the students I have mentored end up getting. Now obviously I am a big supporter of working part-time in the industry while in school and spending summers scoring those good industry internships so that you can build a network.
It really depends on what you plan to do with the degree. If you’re doing Engineering out of curiosity or because you’re bored, your degree is worthless. If you’re doing Psychology because you actually want to be a clinical therapist, it’s much more valuable.
Or an accountant... I can only listen
Growing up, it’s never, “Do you want to go to college,” it’s always “What college do you want to go to?”
Facts
True
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Not in America. They're preparing to be the most idiotic people on the planet.
Not only that it’s “well if not everyone is meant for college what do you do?” “Well either git gud scrub or enjoy your employment at McDonald’s” the high school I went to hammered that in and gave me *no* other alternatives and at home … wasn’t much better either
This will mean a lot to a lot of young men who were told they were disappointments from family members for leaving school and are still trying to find the place in life. Thank you so much guys.
Been there done that if your family members are toxic then stop talking to them and no I'm not joking. Good family members will support you, bad ones will not.
What I’m currently going through 😅
Its most bad for kids from immigrant families that came from poor countries. It's always been known its like this with asian parents but trust me when I say it's all immigrant parents.
I had a friend that went to college on a full ride for music and he quit because it didn't serve him. He's never looked back.
As soon as I made the decision to give up on college that's what I was called a disappointment by my family members. But when it comes to my cousin who quit college they're singing his praises
I uttered a loud “AMEN!” when you mentioned how the children of immigrants are hyper pressured into matriculating into higher learning, and refusing to do so, welcomes guilt and shame. Speaking from experience: tried appeasing my mom’s suggestions when deep down, I could never deny what I eventually dropped out for and pursued the happiness I always longed for: Music Production
Happy for you bro!
Great for you man! I graduated college but dealt empty and am considering music too! Hope your life becomes a huge success, man!
That was the only aspect of my undergraduate music degree that I truly enjoyed, apart from large ensembles, friends, and some of my world music studies. I'm glad you get work in a field you enjoy!
Congrats man
I didn't drop out. I got the stupid law degree, worked in law for six years and hated it, and then went through a career change. Feel like I lost a lot of years and wish they had let me figure out what I wanted to do instead.
"Equip yourself with the skills that people will pay for." -Thomas Sowell
Glad I dropped out twice to pursue skill building. Changed the direction of my life for the better $$
You're right!
@RonYo I know right, these people just ignore the pay premium college begets your
a stupid idea of economics. Right now there are workers striking because of low pay and the companies are hiring non skilled workers and fucking up. You aren't paid for a good skillset, you are paid by leverage
@@dericmederos1514 we need more people to unionize that way the companies will have to pay and offer benefits or else they are done for, the end, game over.
I don’t mind a Blair mountain 2.0 event happening, one less Barron at a time
good advice from a guy that i don't really like all that much since i think most of the time he's spitting bullshit but yeah good advice solid
College graduate here. Here's my take:
-Higher education is a great experience. Met some great people, learned a fair bit about myself and my field. It's something I wish everyone COULD experience.
That said...
-It needs to be at least affordable and ideally free. The cost is utterly atrocious. It just straight up isn't worth it. Like payin $1000 for a video game that you've only seen trailers of and you have no idea if it'll be good or not.
-Only go if you know what you wanna do. I suggest doing a semester or go to a community college to get gen eds out of the way (which is bull, I went to high school for that...), and spend that time doing electives you have some interest in. Then choose your major based on what you loved most. DO NOT start your education beyond gen eds until you know your major. It just isn't affordable to be clueless.
-The fact most colleges don't actually have a semester dedicated to finding you a job is a joke. It's what many people go there for lol. More colleges need a system that tries to set you up better. But many colleges just say "Do the schoolwork, and good fuckin luck!" I was clueless how to get the job itself. Worst part of college imo.
-Not every field needs college. A healhy amount prefer quality of work or experience. Study the field you want before going in.
All in all, college is an incredible experience most people shouldn't have because the cost and risk is far too great. Sucks.
Some unis spend a semster finding you a job (or at least an internship). My cousins went to one where you were required to spend at least a certian amount of hours working.
It's amazing to me that at this point they are allowed to charge as much as they do for degrees in things like dance, art, music, and a good chunk of social work and psychology. I know so many people that have degrees in those fields that have done absolutely nothing besides loathe over the debt while working the same type of job they would have gotten before they spent 4+ years and tens of thousands of dollars in college.
I was raised by parents who never gave a shit about college, and from that perspective, it was always hard to understand the appeal 🤷♀️
You can learn novel concepts and work on researching new ideas. Well, this is my experience, as a senior studying electrical engineering and physics, I love it. I’m hoping to obtain a doctorate in optical science (specially nano/quantum optics). However, I’m certainly in the vast minority lol
Im glad dude. Your contents a gift to the world. Just shows what can happen when u chase what yk u gotta do instead of what everyone else says u gotta do
The fact that John Hill watches Aba & Preach just throws me lol .. I also left college because i felt uncomfortable , was definitely a trash experience but i am debt free THANK GOD
Seeing John Hill in these parts of the woods makes my bearings very very very moist. Roll forever
As a university professor in the UK unless you are going to university for exceptional courses such as Lawyers, Doctors, STEM. University is a big business and a scam. Thanks for sharing this guys
On the flip side though the one major difference we have in the UK is barely anyone ever pays their tuition in full, and its hardly a fraction of typical costs in the US.
That being said, seems a lot of people go to uni for the sake of going, but I think the job market is to blame for that since degrees are now expected in jobs where they aren't even necessary 🤷♂️
Lawyers though. The whole law system is a giant self licking ice cream cone extortion racket. The fact you have to pay a bunch of money so someone can speak in this law language with all these rules and caveats. Morals and justice are completely removed unless it serves a greater purpose for media propaganda purposes to keep the wealth and power consolidated at the very tippy top. Extort men, blame men, push men out of jobs they are good at for people who aren't because racism and sexism and all the isms. That way all the weak dummies are all the middle management and all the super rich club stay unchallenged. And all the men can be stuck doin all the work and paying for all the mistakes of the ever growing weak sheeple.
Thank you for your honesty bro
As a Veteran, I know it is a scam. But I get paid by Uncle Sam to stay in school. So I'm gonna scam him right back and get a free degree as slowly as possible.
@@User-pw3pu Absolutely brilliant.
I think there is a bigger fish to fry with this, the fact that this modern world pushes college so hard as the only way to make good money is maddening. They don’t push trades too much in a lot public schools anymore, especially when alot of these types of jobs needs experience and such too. We need to give those choices of consideration to our next generation for sure. Nothing wrong with wanting to learn a tradable skill.
I second this statement. We need more people in trades and now there are advertisements for trade school since the older generations are retiring from the trade fields.
I don't have a college degree but make decent money as a heavy equipment operator in the construction industry. Though I may go back and get an associates degree I think people fail to understand the difference between entry level pay and potential earnings after you've been in an industry for 3 or 4 years. There can be a significant difference between the two. I also think people need to take time to consider how much the lifestyle they desire to live this going to cost. The lifestyle I want to live doesn't necessarily require me to ever make $100,000 a year so I don't really have to make a killing. Lifestyle choice and the location someone decides to live in are usually major factor that should be considered when it comes to what kind of earnings they pursue.
Most of the successful people I know are in a trade and/or own a business. Many of them either have no degree or aren't using their degree at all.
Your last sentence is an example of how these messages are being communicated badly. By saying "nothing wrong," there's an implied stigma, like it's a professional choice that needs to be justified or defended. The message needs to be more aggressively positive, like "the country needs more people in these good jobs, if you've got what it takes."
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 that’s what people like you are for. Getting to the mind of people who need more convincing. That isn’t my job. However if you think doing a blue collared doesn’t need to be “justified or defended” to some of the youth I promise you’re mistaken.
Also, university isn't the only place where people can get an education. Get an apprenticeship, etc.
Not everyone is academically inclined, some people do better with practical skills... doesn't mean they are dumb. Just a different form of intelligence.
I literally just completed my degree today at 27 years old. lol
Congratulations
Congrats man
Congratulations buddy!
Congratulations 🎊 what’d you study?
Congratulations man
I dropped out of high school and got my GED. Then I joined the army, went to college, grad school, and now I am a math professor at a large university. Everyone has their own path. You probably won't "find yourself" until you are at least in your 30s.
It's not really about finding yourself, it's about building oneself. And that can only happen with time and experience, not by forcing a college degree by taking out an insane student loan.
I dropped out of high school got my ged and ultimately joined the army too. I'm only in college because I'm not paying for it.
Bitch that too damn long😂. I got like 10 years to go. What the hell🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Nuff respect to you sir!
Also people can get a job right after high school that offers to cover tuition (or at least partially). I’ve seen secretaries at my job earn their bachelors while working. Even if it takes a couple more years, not being in debt is worth it.
Having a degree doesn't make you more intelligent, it makes you more qualified/educated in a certain field, just like manual labor jobs. People who brag about their degree are always the dumbest, these people are chasing prestige, not education.
I endorse this message.
Dr Jeremiah Goldberg PhD
@@bigtombowski I agree with you guys.... but...sorry this cracked me up xD
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Tell me you didn't go to college without telling me you didn't go to college lol mad you're uneducated? looooooooser
The Ivy League profits off of this ideology. If people liked themselves more, they wouldn't feel the need to spend so much money on a title.
As a black physician, and prior chemist, I disagree with Aba’s stance on higher education. I think that black men are giving away their power by not going to college.
Education is going to be more valuable in the future as can be predicted with the crumbling public educational system and increase in sham charter schools. As well as the great divide between the rich and poor.
POC are going to be at the bottom of this new economic shift and it will become more evident as more POC drop out of schools. Then more white collared jobs will be the only jobs leading to successful livelihoods.
The days of thriving on entertainment is going to end. It’s a Ready Player One type dystopian future.
I didn't know what I wanted to do straight out of high school and I knew I wasn't smart enough for STEM subjects, so I started an apprenticeship as a carpenter. After a few years I attained my Red Seal with no debt and I'm currently enrolled in community college for management courses. Life is good. Not everyone is cut out for college and not everyone knows what they want to do right away, and that's perfectly fine.
Congratulations on your accomplishments. People forget we still need people in your field and other “blue collar “ fields. I know electricians and welders that make more than nurses. So the money is there also.
Community college gets bad rep sometimes but it actually saves so much time and money because people can research which majors they want more and take the preq classes and then just transfer to an accredited university.
Awesome bro
Totally agree with your statement! I personally do not like how people just want to throw the whole system away like mentioned in this video
@@TheSilentsymbol Thanks. The pay is definitely there for the trades with the added benefit of money saved on repairs and renovations. The only downsides are the stigma and the potential toll it takes on your body.
As a college student who actually needs college to do what I want to do in life, college is ridiculous. A lot of the professors make it hard for you to even enjoy the path you’re taken. I feel robbed on a daily basis. Like I’m paying to be stressed out and the professors are basically like “Welp get used to it, the real world is stressful.” Also, the fact that I still had to spend 4 years in college dispute coming into college with a little over a semester’s worth of credits. The Gen. Ed they tack on is CRAZY. I feel like the way colleges are ran will change because they won’t be able to get away with this crazy shit if less people are interested in going to college.
Wow. Sounds like indoctrination an thought control
What is your major?
@@treroney4720 biology pre-med
"Welp get used to it, the real world is stressful." Sister let me tell you, as a 3yr college drop out the real world is stressful with or without college. The extra stress college added made me go near bold at age 24... Yeah that Professor was trippin
Yup, I learned 100x more when I started working than in university. Was a total waste of my time. Most degrees should be targeted apprenticeships and 2 years max.
I had to take dozens of classes that had nothing to do with my major. My husband has a trade and makes 5x as much as I do doing environmental contamination study and water safety monitoring. His trade degree cost 10k total.
There should be more professional Certifications for “hands on” jobs. I think that could benefit people and the debt wouldn’t be too much?… I feel like a lot degrees/programs are made for office type jobs, and that’s not for everyone.
Trades do this.
I agree💯
@@j3s333 you right. It’s not as much as before tho, non? Not even promoted as much too.
This one
My teacher in high school said "If you don't know what you want to do with your life, don't go to college." Probably the best advice I've received.
Going to college for a business degree is insane. Everyone is going for business. Like wtf does that even mean? Could you pick a more vague degree? I plan on my kids knowing fairly well what they want to do as an adult. I had to almost fail HS, join the military, try for an engineering degree, dropped out, deployed, got out the Army, floated for 8 years at BS jobs and now I’m a certified HVAC Tech with a career in the horizon. Now I’m 34 and only found my calling 3 years ago. Never stop moving and never allow yourself to get complacent. Your not old til your old, it’s never too late
I lost my hair keeping up with my parents expectations, fast forward a couple years I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
i got grey hair at 22 cuz of college
Spot on dudes. Easily 80% of my degree was fluff that I could have learned by myself online. Thankfully, it worked out for me by doing multiple internships and keeping my debt low by working all the way through, but it's a waste of time and money for a ton of people. Only go to college if you have a plan for how to make it happen, don't think it'll automatically make life better for you, because it can actually make things a lot worse..
You picked a dog degree then.
Sorry but branding all uni degrees as pointless is so short sighted. Not all degrees are pointless, the ones YOU lot are taking are.
But yeah, going to do a soft degree or not putting effort in is worse than not going to uni at all.
@@mememachine5244 My degree is in Criminal Justice, and I do actually work in that field, so I can't completely knock the utility of college. The thing is that almost all the value I got from college was through internships; the classes I took - even within my major - were rarely related to anything I wanted to do professionally. For the money I spent, that seems pretty unacceptable.
@@StephenAbootman "Criminal Justice" thats exactly the problem right there
@@mememachine5244 How so? Not mad, just curious to hear your opinion.
College seems to be a way to screw you over easily as the degrees are worth nothing and by the time you are done you could have gotten a job which gives you enough to have a comfortable life instead of debt. Only women fall for the college trap so easily and think any degree will give them money.
“Kids that were supposed be doctors but had mental breakdowns and just gave up on everything.”
Literally me. today is finals and I’m not doing them or probably returning back to school because I’m just done. I give up.
11:38 “Everytime I tried to go back to school.. it’s funny because something always pulled me out. And I’ve always been able to find more outside than in school.”
I’ve felt that way for years. And finally.. now at 28.. I can move on.
I’m in highschool but this summer I worked at a lumberyard with a guy that dropped out of community college after 1 year. He always hated school, and hated college too, but his parents pressured him into going in the first place. His parents had a sizeable college fund for him, and now he is using it for pilots lessons to get his pilots license, and it seems like he is really interested in it and enjoying it. Good to see someone make a good choice for themselves.
A pilots license is still a good investment on a marketable skill though
Man every body needs at least 2 flight school classes in my opinion. I learned alot more in an hour at 2000 feet than I did in four years of undergrad. You can’t bullshit and buzzword your way through a landing or recovery
should we be concerned that the less males in higher education would possibly result in more and more woman in those positions, not necessarily qualified because of the vacuum left behind and we'd have ideologies being enforced at top levels of authority as a result? Like...SJWs aren't uneducated and if there is a power vacuum left by less males in higher education companies are going to hire them, so are we okay with that...? is that actually a good thing? It seems like men are falling behind...and it should be concerning not embraced because how are men going to get into a better position if we have ideologies at the top discriminating against males? Replacing one form of alleged female discrimination with male discrimination.
I make more as a truck driver than my sister who went to TCU which is expensive af, more than my cousin who went to USC, and my Aunt who graduated from UofAustin. I can name more but you get it.
@@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse Here's how: 90% of women won't go into blue collar jobs. Without those, everything collapses. If men are smart, they will make the jobs that matter really matter.
Im so glad this video came out when it did. My parents are immigrants, and you absolutely hit the head on the nail of the coffin with what I’ve had to deal with. I accumulated 30k of debt, being forced to pursue something that I didn’t want for myself and I finally decided to just leave school. I even got kicked out of the house for making the decision i made, but I’m so glad I’m not alone in having to experience this or feel this way. I currently have all of my stuff in my car and I’m moving down south with a friend. It’s definitely going to be the hardest life has ever been, but I’m glad it’ll be on my terms.
Damn 30k in debt and they kicked you out the crib? Moral of the story do what you want to do and not what others tell you to because when it all comes down to it you only got yourself.
Don't get lost. You're not alone. Seek a mentor to help you.
Keep your head up bro. Things will get better.
Good luck to you. Do what you want to do at your own pace. Wishing you the best and keep grinding.
Wish you best success 🙌🙏
Btw Ima out myself, Im 20k in debt, only got a bachelors in social work and I feel played too. You're not alone! We gonna get through this. YOU ARE NOT YOUR DEBT 🥲
went to art school...dropped out first 3 months, went to school for audio engineering, dropped out in 6 months, decided that I wanted no more debt, and just found a decent 9 to 5, I still have goals on fulfilling my dreams, just realized that college wasn't going to make that happen for me personally.
Cause your choosing stupid shit… go to a Community and get a trade job in a couple years you’ll make more than most people and not be forced to work some random 9-5 instead
My brother and girlfriend kind of opened my eyes about college. For a while after I graduated, I always wanted to persue college because I wanted to make my parents proud. I knew college debt was an issue with a lot of people and I come from a family of low income and I would be a first generation college student in my entire family. So for a while, I had a lot of pressure on me. There's one side of me that's saying "Finish your school, finish college and get that degree and make your entire family proud!" Then there's the other side of me saying "No, don't do it, you're fresh out of high school with no idea of what you want to do in life or even major in when in college. So don't give yourself unnecessary debt!"
My girlfriend got her degree recently, but she's almost $40k in debt and still isn't sure of what she wants to do in life and she regrets going to college and being in debt for a degree she probably won't use.
My brother is a senior in high school and one time he told me, "When they showed us all these amazing colleges and all the positives of going to college and getting a degree, I wondered, what about the negatives? I'm hearing only good things, but where are the bad things? Nothing is only ever good. Besides, I don't want to put myself in debt. I'll go when I'm ready and know what I want to do."
This is why my sister and one of my brothers went to the military to become field medics. They did 20 years and came out with military pensions, one is a certified government CRN Nurse(Sister), one is a podiatrist work for a major practice. NO DEBT, and 20 years of medical experience. They travel and WORK in many hospitals and medical facilities around the world. They said the biggest thing their employer always asks them is "Do have some hands-on experience in this field. College is not for everyone
You said your sister and one of your brothers...does your other brother crush people as a Tennessee Titan?
Dude, you can't be a field medic in the military and then go be an MD (Podiatrist) or CRNA (Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist) in the civilian world without earning the college degrees required. Your sister requires a Masters to be a CRNA and we all know what it takes to be an MD.
@@QarthCEO he probably means that because the military, his siblings got free (G.I. bill) education which transferred to civi life.
@@XD-ty2xw The GI Bill helps pay for college, but you still have to GO to college to earn the professional degrees you want afterward. No one becomes a Doctor or Certified Registered Nurse without college. It takes 10 damn years of University to become an MD and 7 years minimum to become a CRNA. It's either a bullshit story or he doesn't really know what his siblings do for a living and is confusing being a Certified Nursing Assistant and Podiatry Tech with being an actual RN and actual Podiatrist.
@@QarthCEO there’s allot of bullshit stories going on in these comments.. I just read someone say you can get an engineering degree from a trade school..
If you don’t want to be a doctor, a lawyer, engineer, or professor, there is no need for a college degree. Trade classes should return to middle and high school.
100%
If I have a son I'm encouraging him to try trades. Trade schools make hardworking, hands-on men powerful
That's your truth.
@Ko Jin Indeed! Them too!
@@Kevin-ls2gt do it! As a man in his young 20s who surfed around office jobs since I was 18, I wish I would've just gone to trade school off the bat! Turns out anything you do with your hands is more fulfilling & more transplantable of a career.
I took a 7 year gap and went back to study neuroscience. I wasn't interested in school straight out of high school and now I'm way more interested than all of my younger classmates. When I went back, I took it very seriously, got into an honor society, and received a full ride. It is absolutely because I went to school when I wanted to and not when people pressured me to. In those seven years, I worked at coffee shops and traveled the country in a punk band ^_^. It's YOUR life, folks! You know what's best for you.
You guys are such a valuable voice for young men (and people in general). Seriously, thank you.
I really think college is basically a scam outside of STEM degrees. Also, as a person who has dropped out of college twice (so far) I would not recommend anyone to go to school for a degree that they’re are only “kinda interested” in.
My biggest issue is the "required" subjects. I tried college for IT. Why do I have to pay for a humanities class for a degree in IT? Why do I have to study English literature for a degree in IT? While I believe that knowledge is great and I have always encouraged my children to learn all they can, there is an abundance of free information and I see no need to have to pay thousands of dollars for it.
@@cduleck1 exactly I am in college for game art/development. I have learned criminal justice, political science, marketing, psychology ect. None of those help me in my future field. I should have 4 years of modeling, drawing, environmental design ect. No they want me to be a well rounded student.
@@cduleck1 because that's where they get to indoctrinate you.
@@cduleck1 I had the same question it’s a simple answer. They just want you to be educated.
@@cduleck1 I get it. They want to make you well rounded individual, who is educated in a broad spectrum instead of just a narrow education in a specific area.
I imagine that men are realizing that college isn’t worth it if it isn’t STEM. And from what I hear, a lot of people are just going to trade schools instead.
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Or law
That's what I am doing.
If you degree doesn’t lead directly to a job which without it you can’t get chances are it ain’t that useful
Or finance/ accounting
my husband and i both didn’t go to college- me because i had to start working at 16 and was lucky enough to find a company where i could really grow, and him because he’s an immigrant who still has a hard time speaking and understanding english- and honestly we’re doing pretty good on money. and there are huge opportunities that we’re working towards that are not too far out of our reach- the social norm nowadays is that to be successful you HAVE to go to college but in reality there are many ways to financial stability without having to have a degree - and i’m just talking about living in the US, that definitely might not be true for other countries but this is just my experience
my lil brother quit the college from first year... collected the money from small jobs for 2 years and now finally made his own company where he interviews college students.... fairytale lol
@@syedharis1906 i didn’t even know there was a field in this lol, i guess the possibilities really are endless
I used to be a trucker, and now i'm in college studying medecine. Honestly , the time in school has cost me so much that it is gonna be a while before i get back what i would have made during all these years. Trucker life just was not for me, but it's always surprising to see people in the medical field judging down truckers, when most of then could not even do it has a job. I was fortunate enough do be able to to something I am passionate about but, people should realise that they dumb down essential jobs even tho they are basically the base of the society without them, we could not have medical supply, or that expensive car, or that food etc etc. Respect every single humans giving their heart out there. People are awesome and you are definitly not define by your degree
Love this comment
I respect people who stand by their convictions at an early age. I drank the cool aid and regretted it. Got a whole double major degree and still renting under my parents house in my 40's. My uncle who never reached high school just finished paying for his third house for his son, work as a licenced AC repairman.
Amen, this is encouraging. More than I can express, love and light to you.
Yikes!!!
SHIEEET
What's your major?
Lmao. For every story like this, there are 5 that are successful. Either your major was gender studies and history of gender studies or you are not responsible with your money.
Kids definitely shouldn’t be going to college if they don’t have an end goal in mind with a specific career. A lot of kids are told it’s the only way to succeed so just go and get a degree. But there are SOOO many paths to success , especially now. I’m glad people are waking up.
exactly, even those in the field who speak at colleges tell people that they dont care about degrees, its about experience.
LoL... this shit's gunna crash & crumble
i know exactly what i want to do in life as a career, and college still feels useless to me.
@Dillinger Zanmato :*(
I went to school for accounting because I did not know what I wanted to do. When I was failing, I switched over to operations, which only kind of interested me. Now I am working with a company that hardly invests in me. At this point, I realize that I may never actualize my potential in what I do if my heart is not in it.
Made the decision this year not to continue with uni. Not quite sure where my life is going but we’ll manage💀
something important to know is that YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO TO COLLEGE RIGHT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL. I waited til I was 20 to start, because at 18 I was completely unmotivated and didn't know what I wanted to do, I was burned out from high school and had horrible mental health. I waited until I was ready and made the choice to go to college myself, and now I'm double majoring in math and physics. You can start college at any age: 30, 40, 50, it does not fucking matter whenever you're mentally and economically ready. if you don't want to go to college that's fine too.
This was my story at 17. I screwed up terribly by going straight to college after HS and failed. I decided to work and it helped my anxiety/confidence. In my late 20s to early 30s I was more devoted to earning my degree.
I've had the same exact experience as you tbh.
@@DelicateDecaysame. graduated a year early at 17 and i dropped out my first semester. i’m 20 now, went back last year at 19 still not knowing what to do so i took random courses but i’m on track to get my associates by the end of august 2024. my general ed will be taken care of.
Going straight to a University after high school is honestly an unrealistic expectation to push upon people that are so young. University is romanticized and I feel other options are never spoken of in a positive light when transitioning from high school (i.e trade school or community college.)
My parents think that getting your degree is the only way to make it
@@carmencapa6945 that's what i thought, too. then i started working during my 5th year in uni and realised how useless school is. not to mention that now that i got to know the market (as an architect), i'm planning to swap carrers. don't waste your life in uni theaters. figure where you'd be comfortable financially and what you needto do to get there.
As someone who did just that, I can confirm it's a tad unrealistic, I changed majors three times and spent more time and mo ey in Univeristy because of it, instead of maybe taking that wasted year and use it as a gap year traveling around the world, now I'm stuck "working for the man" with no real way of traveling anywhere near the way I would've after high school while still leaning on my parents. You literally have to be unemployed or some tycoon who wakes up and makes money to properly travel
I personally was going to go to law school or med school when I got out of high school but ended up working before that and, after getting some work experience, I decided to take a pay cut for the job security and set hours of a career as a tradesman. I'm going to school for Welding and the cost of school is SIGNIFICANTLY lower, and I get to leave my work AT work when I start working so I'm good in my decision
i should have worked first and then got a job at a company and got them to help pay for it.
If i didnt have my parents supporting me i would have been fucked.
Giving up on “education” or men are realizing a skill is waaaay better then getting an overpriced college “education” only to be in debt for years to come.
I have heard much about skills and how they are invariably more valuable than anything else throughout your lifetime. But I have no idea what those exact skills are and where to get them. Are they people skills? Physical skills, like carpentry or knowledge of machinery? Can you tell me more about these skills in general?
@@thebedroomshow9010 He's talking about trade school. Skilled labor.
@@thebedroomshow9010 People are talking about trade skills. The jobs that build infrastructure. Construction, plumbing, electrician, mechanics, metal workers, etc…. These are trade skills. They are valuable because you are always going to need people to fix and build. Many make a great living. Most require on the job training or a training at a trade school. The trade schools in my community are connected to the high school. My daughter graduated high school this year with a trade job making $24 per hour and full benefits and no student loan debt.
@@thebedroomshow9010 most definitely skills involving the work place in general. So yeah any of the skills you mentioned are viable.
I know your going to say that some of these can be done in college, but realistically for these young men, you can learn these things in the work place, WITHOUT being in a mess of student debt. Unless your aiming to be in a specific career choice, college is most definitely not for you. And if your not even sure on what kind of job you want, or your life is filled with uncertainty, the last thing you want is to be overpriced college to receive education that won’t even benefit you.
@@thebedroomshow9010 learn a trade (skill). I did a 6month technical school program and got a 6figure job within 3 months of getting out of the class.
Was forced to go to nursing school after highschool by fam standards (they didn’t even graduate highschool themselves🤦🏽♂️). Keep in mind I was also working full time as a salesman so whatever I’m making is going to something I don’t want🤦🏽♂️
After 2 years I Quit the job and dropped out of nursing school. Studied software dev alone for 6 months and I got over a 6 fig income a couple weeks after that lol life is good. This happened 9 months ago.
Covid played a part tho cause lots of people were quitting their jobs so I had more opportunities
How can I get into software development. It’s a skill I want to learn while doing my law degree, especially learning how to code in Python
@sihlemanana862 best way imo is to find a project you are interested in and then use that to learn on the go. That way you are learning but also working on your portfolio at the same time
I'm blessed that my parents saved up to help me go to university, but now that I'm almost finished my degree, unsure what I want to do still and hearing stuff like this, I sometimes wonder what would've happened if I didn't go straight to university and instead got some work/life experience first. You're bang on when you say college/university for the longest time was just "the thing to do" out of high school (that was certainly my parents' expectation). Thankfully, that social mindset is finally shifting, and I'm very curious how it will change society a few decades from now.
Unless it's a *STEM* degree, college is pointless.
Trade skills have good pay anyway. 🤷♂️
Well I’m going to college for cooking but the class are fucking point
Men are also not getting those . It's been decreasing since like 10 years ago
As a half computer science major I will have to say stem doesn’t even guarantee success. There’s a lot more options but also a lot more requirements being raised since everyone is trying to go into it 😂
@@ativaadzem566 Because now people who aren't even in STEM like CS are using the internet to learn coding and getting STEM jobs.
Yep, but the problem is kids are being told to do something they love and most of the time that means doing something that doesn't pay well
I have a 17 year old son who knew that college wasn’t his jam; he just doesn’t enjoy school that much. Instead, he has decided he wants to go to a trade school to learn blacksmithing. I’m beyond proud of him for avoiding the same trap that I fell into. I spent years and years in college, I have $60K in student debt, and for the past 20 years I’ve worked in a job that doesn’t use my degree at all. Funny, I recall my professors in college telling us how in-demand we were going to be and how we would be able to name our price and pick and choose our jobs - it was all lies. Learn a trade, kids. And avoid student loans!
It will be harder for men in the dating world since most women with degrees want a man with a degree and salary too. I just hope women start to understand this.
Smart kid.
just a question since we're both the same age as your son. I plan on learning Welding too and I got looked down upon my peers because of that plan. Should I reconsider my choices or should I follow it? We're all in STEM but I really am not proud of my skills in Math.
They should add for 10-20% of you...that's the part no one says. But alas they need people to keep enrolling since it's kinda their job and all. I might be one of those people soon myself 🙈
@@Just_Hu They are going to have to or they are going to die alone. Not trying to be negative. You either in it for Love, or you going to be alone. That's what I got say to those ladies. It ain't about the Paycheck no more. Hypergamy is going to have to Thrown out.
Being younger I wasn't fully aware of the situation at hand with how most degrees and the process of earning and finding work with just a bachelors can easily be a trap. If you are about to graduate highschool, I highly recommend taking a year or two off to work and save up, and then either decide for a trade or start with 2 years of community college. When I started college at 18 I was so indecisive and wasted time and money. Even though I am only 21 I definitely know myself more than when I was 18 and have actual life experience from being on my own for years. If I got to redo college I wouldve had a much more mature and goal oriented mindset and seen college for what it actually is (for higher education for specific jobs) than believing it was a "coming of age and freedom experience"
I didn’t go to college immediately after high school. I didn’t have the desire to go, but I was working at the mall and since I hated the job I had. Decided to just do one semester in the spring.
Covid hit that Spring and it reminded me how much I disliked school. I dropped out after that semester and have been working at Amazon Full Time since. I like my job, but I have definitely kept my eyes open for other opportunities to make more money, and even just finding what I want to do with myself. Even though you can say that I’m smart academically. I still hated school with every fiber of my being.
As a Marine veteran who now goes to an Ivy League school, I can tell you that if I wasn’t getting free college AND getting paid to be here (tax free), I would not have gone to this school. I am also in my last year here. I have friends here who are freaking out about being 250k+ in debt just after four years for an undergrad program. I’m glad that I’m graduating with the same paper but with zero debt. If I had to pay, I’d rather be in a community college for 2 years, get my associate’s degree, and then transfer to a small uni or state school. This is the most cost efficient method IMO.
Did you get a scholarship to go?
@@zoesolanki961 I have a combination of scholarships and the G.I Bill, an educational opportunity program for military veterans.
im happy you went this route but i absolutely hate how some veterans portray it as "Lol i was smart getting the GI bill you are all stupid for taking out loans!" like most young people were told not to go to the military because they would die and encouraged to take out loans. Again, I encourage people to try what you did but hate how some vets act as if this knowledge is common sense when it is never talked about by the majority
I got the G. I bill too, and the only thing stopping me from dropping out is that damn mha. It's worse because the degree I'm shooting for is music.
The way I see it, a piece of paper isn't going to make my music better.
@@dericmederos1514 funny story is that even if you don't join the military, you're gonna die. But if you go to college, you might not get a job. Still gonna die though. Pick your poison
Graduated in 2019 and took some time off and enlisted as a Marine Reservist so I could go to school and hopefully become a Doctor. I was recently diagnosed with B cell ALL leukemia and it’s been a motivation ever since and I think I really found my calling. As a 1st gen Mexican-American, it’s okay to take some time off post high school and decide what you want to do ! Whatever y’all do I support y’all Kings and Queens ! 💙
My parents want me in college
Sending you the best wishes. Stay strong, life is worth living
Stay strong hun!
Doing but trying to be an anesthesiologist. Stay motivated brother!
God bless keep fighting 🙏🏿
I'm currently in a university debt free. Though I failed my first semester because it was almost all online. I made enough money to pay for both semesters, It's a cheap college but hey, it's something.
Though I'm currently wondering if I should just stop going after this semester, work on patenting something I made for a class project, making a working prototype, all that. The professor even told me I should patent the idea.
That could bring you a lot of success long-term, even if it doesn't work out first time. Definitely have a deeper talk with that professor about it, if they're willing to have that chat with you.
Recently most Airlines removed the bachelor's degree requirement to fly under them, as the market is really competitive [In a good way] right now as many people aren't choosing piloting so it's much more relaxed getting into that line of work for a serious career, I always wanted to fly but that requirement scared me away initially but now that its changed I have no excuse and have started flight training today.
I dropped out of a psych major with a 3.6 at Florida State university. I was DONE arguing with professors who felt the need to present the sick theories of Freud and other mental historic figures as if they were fact.
Not to mention every female professor I had was preaching feminist theory. I now work on a tow truck flipping junk cars and make more than I would have made as a psychologist.
Good for you! I’m happy. Doesn’t mean it isn’t good for other people.
Wah wah feminism, nah nigga it's on you for choosing psych major in the first place
@@reinaldomartinez13 exactly, girl major guy.
Lmao nice
I am going to start college soon, I still feel a little confused about my decision to pursue psychology, whether will it help me in the future or not, I am glad that you do something that works for you, I don't live in the US but I am thinking about moving to Canada in the future, and where I live it is compulsory for you to get a college degree, it is all very confusing.
I am 21 and now a senior in college in the US. Like many others, I didn’t know what I wanted to do at 18 but basically went in to college because everyone in my family looked at me to do so. However, while I was there I constantly thought this. I didn’t know what I wanted but I made the steps to get into a nice program for something I do enjoy and take pride in. I got an internship from this too and love the job and the people I work with. It doesn’t pay very well, but for right now, it works. If any of you were like me and went to college not knowing what you want to do or where your interests are, work towards figuring it out now. Don’t waste your time and money if college is not right for you. If you find out there is something a college can provide that you are passionate about then I say pursue it. But you really have to dig deep and find what inspires, and interests you, and that might mean leaving college, and that’s ok.
I can relate I didn't know what to do and my family suggested university and I said sure why not, still don't know why I came here but I'm still young I can always make changes
Dont have student loans tho so it's not really a problem in that department
Hmm
I would agree with that, but also make sure you pick a career that is employable. Many people will get a degree in some sort of fine arts and end up jobless, unless they somehow manage to make art that sells substantial enough that you can make a living. That’s pretty uncommon and risky to hope on tho.
@@Klobanob I think you don't really have a full understanding of what a degree in Fine Arts is. Those jobs just a general pelo unless you hit it big and sometimes people choose their passion over marketability which is fine. We treat education as if it's some sort of capitalistic exploit when it isn't and it doesn't have to be. People go into Fine Arts because some people's goal is to be a fine arts teacher or to be an academic or historian of Fine Arts or to work in the Fine Arts industry for entertainment industry. It's not just them selling art so I think you don't have a full understanding of what the jobs are in that field in the first place
@@Klobanob That was me. I've been drawing since I was 5, and not the type of drawing the the average 5 year old draws. I was told what do I want to be when I grow up or you can be anything you want to be. That's a big load of hogwash!!!!! I ended up changing majors a couple of times after realizing the MATHEMATICAL PROBABILITY of me being hired under an art major. Wasted years of my youth and time. My advice to the youth....
#1. don't just pick something your passionate about
#2. Don't pick something that's high demand but overly saturated
#3. Make sure it's something you are passionate about, it's high demand, and everyone and they mama aren't apply to do ( I would pick something that requires a high level of math skills personally).
I had a family friend have a mental breakdown from the stress and pressures from college. She was getting delusional. When it got so bad, her parents finally did something about it and put her in a hospital. Unfortunately, she passed away. She was only 20. She kept saying that she dealing with a lot from school, but her parents refused to listen to her.
How she passed away?i don't get it
@@cianchim9034 we still don't know, she just died🤷🏿♀️
@@nailsbyeleasha wtf :(
@@cianchim9034 Stress kills but probably an underlying condition.
Yeah bro I remember going to parties knowing dam well I had sum work due whole at the party you stressing tf out college literally had me at depressions' doorstep ngl when covid hit I used that as an excuse to drop out
Something people never talk about is that depending on what you're studying it does NOT NEED TO TAKE THE ENTIRE YEAR...college is wasting away our lives and the reward is debt.
I really appreciate Preach delving into his university experience. I can tell it still affects him a great deal.
I'm 36 and am in college for the third time. I wasn't ready when I was 18. Tried again when I was 29 and life got in the way. It's tough and our K-12 education system is woefully inadequate. Thus why most of college is trying to get you up to speed.
K-12's isn't to prepare you for college. It's not even there to prepare us for adulthood. It's mostly there for training purposes. It's not for educating. More like a prison to make money off you filling a seat and train you on how to conduct yourself in work society.
I'm 3 years into college studying IT. My college is an overpriced Internet cafe. Its focusing more on theory than practical and those 3 years would've been better spent just using Internet resources to teach myself...but I was 17 when I made the decision and now 21 year old me has to live with it. It is what it is but I would definitely recommend waiting a year or two before applying for college, put yourself out into the world and get the mental growth that the school system could never instil in you.
You don’t have to study IT. You can build skills online for free.
Wow bro, you just told my story
@@VonGoldfinger have to kinda disagree with you here, did IT too and while it’s true that you can learn from internet you gotta find a good and complete free class. There’s a lot of of free class but a lot of them are not complete or lack structure. What I would do to people who learn by themselves was to tell them what to learn in order because some free class literally put you in the middle of computer science.
There’s also, this false confidence when you learn from “4hours to learn C++” video, just because you’re able to “copy” from a video doesn’t mean you can code on your own well for example.
Not to say it’s impossible to learn on free class, I could have easily substitute my Uni time for free classes (went to college and University) but pretty sure I would have lack skill if I didn’t went to college. Not from the states so college for me was 400~ a year so at that price its “almost free” and yea free classes beat Uni if you have dedication.
@@moufou4life When researching about self study in terms of IT, people recommend also doing small projects to consolidate your knowledge and know how to to apply what you've learnt in a real life scenario.
@@sibusiso2841 yes it’s a good thing!
When I was 18 I enlisted and didn’t tell my parents until it was time to drive in. Partially to avoid this. Seeking something more college being pushed as the path in the home. And me having no idea what the future entailed and just seeking more guidance than I had already been given. It’s not a path I’d recommend for most people it’s really for a certain type of person. But I feel that. Debt that looks like and probably is connected to what for me would have been a guess based on monetary opportunity.
So true i did not go to college or further my education . All i have is my highschool degree . But yet here i am working in the medical center as aide making 20$ an hour . All these younger female co workers going to school when i got in for free . I hope it goes like back in the day when all you needed is good work ethic , be a fast learner, and work hard .
Dropped out of college for trade school, trade school cost me 3500 and I’m on pace to make 85k this year.(aircraft mechanic) Also I have good benefits.
Nailed it bro! Trades can take you anywhere 😁
@@joshstanton267 thank you! Yea I'd recommend trades to anyone! Hopefully your work takes care of you too!
I dropped out of university 5 years ago. Got a military work grant to go get my CDL (a 6k, four week course). Now I'm making six figures a year traveling the nation.
@@JaxMerrick Nice! Hope you enjoy your work/time off. Yea I travel a lot as well and with time the pay gets a lot better.
@@nickjames7365 well, I'm going to be transitioning to a local semi job in the next few months. Money is good, but I'm missing the simplicity of a 9-5. And OTR tends to kill one's social life. My house is paid for, and now I can relax more.
When I was in high school I got lucky enough to be given a full scholarship to unc Charlotte if I played for there soccer team since I’m pretty good, my parents went crazy at the idea I could go to college for free. The thing is I always played soccer as a hobby and I hated the idea of making soccer my job so I turned down the scholarship and instead went to welding school. I now make 82k a year after 3 years of welding experience.
Dude, where I live there's a MONSTER demand for welders like you cannot believe. Nope, "me wanna be a reporter/lawyer/manager/whatever". All but lawyers have a harder time finding a job. Welders have a line forming in front of them to see who gets the welder (figure of speech).
Crazy I’m going to uncc
People pushed me to do art at college & as it was my favourite subject at school, I gave it ago but reached the same conclusion as you, I like it as a hobby but not my career. A lot of people say they end up not liking a subject when they make it their main focus.
I am glad you struck on a job which is something you enjoy & are naturally good at, the pay is nice too.
Couldn't have you done both? I feel like you turned down an awesome fantastic opportunity that others would have jumped to have had. Could've gone to welding school after your free degree and smashed all that college tail.
@@MaximusRacellius Exactly! That’s what I did…. take the opportunity given, get the free education and run. Come out of college with a free degree then compare salary of work in that field vs welding. Yes it would take more time but it could result in more opportunities in addition to more money.
As a guy, going for Comp Sci was the best decision I ever made in my life. Literally every day I think to myself "damn I'm so glad I went to school". If you are going to go, put in the effort to learn what to go for!
I went into the Navy when I was 25. I was a cook. I got a culinary degree and went straight into management. I HATED IT! But, I was debt free and still had a GI Bill. I got ANOTHER free degree (actually, I made a profit going to school). Now, I'm 46 and just got my journeyman electrician license and am loving life. I work at a different location every day. I'm outside a lot of the time doing "man shit" and shutting the fuck up. I don't have to deal with customers or comment sections. I don't have to compete with women, but I do have my choice of them.
You don't have to be on a front line fighting an "enemy" to extract value from that system. I got promoted to Captain's Cook in my second year and spent more time on Virginia Beach than I did in the kitchen unless we were on deployment. YOU HAVE OPTIONS even within systems that don't fit inside your world view. I saved my name tags from my military service and display them in my den. I never kept one from any fuckin restaurant I worked for. Just sayin.
College isn't for everyone. The way they set up these institutions cater to a way only certain people learn. As long as you develop a skill you're fine. There are certifications and hands on training that you can go through that will get you a job making more than someone who went to college.
Definitely! Especially if you have developmental disabilities like Autism or ADHD school can be a very difficult place to be. I'm surprised I managed to even get through college with undiagnosed autism.
WARNING I am the unprettiest human YTer worldwide. Take the hint, dear bsm
frfr biggest waste of my time, going to uni didn't give me anything else besides headaches and sleepless nights lol
Yup, it's called Trade school and joining a union.
Yup! Honestly, I mentioned this in another comment, after high school I could’ve just went to community college and did prerequisites for almost nothing and then transferred to a university later. I’m grateful that I haven’t racked up debt at all but just time and stress right now is a lot.
I LOVE this.
My son is 17 and just graduated highschool.
I have been explaining for a few years now that I DID NOT want him jumping in to school because I believe this is how a "mid-life crisis" is formed.
Kids need time to figure themselves out.
Thats so cool, i wish I was encouraged to find what my interests and hobbies are at that age instead of 30. Smh
How are you teaching him to be a man?
It used to be totally normal for young people to go on a “grand tour” which was a time for them to explore the world and figure themselves out.
You're a moron. And what? When he fails in life it's the fault of politicians? How are they going to figure things out when they spent their days behind their playstation or iphone? Are they going to follow Facebook college and CZcams universtity to figure things out? Stop it with the bs.
I wish I had a parent like you. My parents are currently forcing me to go to college and if I don't they've treatend to kick me out and we get into heated arguments whenever I try to talk to them. Its ironic because both of my parents never went to college yet they have it pretty decently for themselves. I know for a fact that I don't want to be a biomedical engineer for the rest of my life even if it pays extremely well. I realize they are doing it because they want whats good for me, but I feel like if I were to take a lot more time into taking the opportunities the internet has in terms of marketing and start a business then I could potentially get a way bigger head start in life instead of waiting until I'm 23 and finished with a bachelors to start.
I am one of the young men not going to college right out of high school. All of my family doesn't support it, so I'm basically on my own. Gonna make it without it I promise
How's everything going now?
Any updates? I wanna join your direction lol
I’m an immigrant child (Mexican) I’m born in America and my parents wanted me to go to university because I was a first generation and the oldest. After I dropped out, they told me that I wasn’t pressured to go. Honestly, idk if they pressured me or not but I’m glad I dropped out before it got worst. I have 14k of debt which is not as bad compared to others that went to a 4 years Uni. Right now, I’m teaching myself some skill sets to better my life
I feel u man. Rn I'm in college, my first semester and I don't like it. It's too much responsibility and lots of stress upon me. I felt like I rushed dis decision and now I'm regretting it. I sat in class and I feel like I'm wasting my time and I barely even pay attention in class cuz it's difficult and boring :/ I'm lost and confused
The success/happiness rate of college graduates would be much higher if college wasn't pushed at 18. I think you should enter college at like 23-25. I started at 18 and: 1. I should have went to a community college for the first two years (general ed is basically the same no matter where you go but the cost at a community college is like 20% of the cost of a big University), 2. I had no idea what I wanted to do/be and 3. Didn't have the maturity/life lessons to even start trying to figure out my career at that age. It's a joke that a 17 year old is seen as a kid that doesn't know anything but when you turn 18 you're an adult that has to plan/figure out the career you want for the rest of your life to be successful? I got a Communications degree after switching from a Finance major cause I didn't like it and thought I'll have more "creative" jobs with this Comms major. Fast forward 12 years I work in the Finance sector (surprise, surprise) and love it while other Comms majors I know are sales driven careers and I HATE sales (worked as a sales banker for 3-4 years before I got the job I have now). I wish I could start college later in life cause I think I would have been more successful in obtaining that finance degree for a much higher paying 9-5 job. Now I'm not saying I didn't learn anything with this degree and didn't gain value, but I think I wouldn't have had to play the catch up game if starting later in school to gain some life experience. But then again, I consider myself one of the lucky ones. Others not so much.
Best advice i ever got from college was from my Math Professor from Gremany "Take some time off. Figure out what you want to do. Stop trying to race through college, you americans keep stressing yourselves out too much." Took the entire following semester off. Needed it to just get out of that massive ditch that was just being burnt out. Was exactly what I needed for my mental health, and was able to finish it out from there from just a bit of time to think and refocus.
I too got a Comms degree. What do you do in finance? I always thought you had to have a degree in that field to work it. I'm curious to look for a job in that field, now.
I started college at 23 after serving in army and two years working before I joined. Best decision of my life and I didn’t even have to pay for college.
Yeah, I see where you're coming from but that wouldn't work for American society. If you start college at 23-25, you're almost 30 when you graduate (more if you need grad school or an advanced degree like for doctor, lawyer, etc). That would mean you don't become established in your career until you're almost 40. As I mentioned in a separate post, I realized early on that the first two years of university are a huge scam because you're not learning what you want to learn which is why I had my niece circumvent the whole thing (GED to community college to university). A bigger problem is that a large number of degrees are worthless when you consider how limited the market is for the skillset they teach. If you're graduating with 200k in debt, an Art History degree is not likely to pay for itself like a Finance or Accounting degree will. And yet people still pursue these dead end degrees and wind up drowning in debt they can't pay off.
Well back in the day people _did_ have it figured out at 18. Many already had their careers in mind. Remember people were married in their early 20s/late teens. Now everyone doesn’t think they are ready to be adults until 30.
As a dude with a college degree I agree I’m
Happy people aren’t being pressured into going to college anymore
Immigrants are still being pressured tho.(im an immigrant 🥲)
I think community colleges are the best for society cheaper. It's important to learn about things that weren't provided for you in public school. Higher education history finance . 2 year programs in trades. It's always important to be as smart as you can .
I am one of these men. I'm 19 and was able able to move out right after high school with money saved up from working fast food. Left and worked as a solar installer, didn't like it. I found a job as a gutter installer and I love it. By next year I will be making 60k with no debt and I'd like to start my own business in the field in the next 10 years. Sure, it's not a 6 figure job, but I can see myself in a great position in the future if I continue to aggressively save and invest. (And also if I don't fall off a big ass ladder and die) I see value in experiencing my adult life this early, instead of accumulating college debt just to find out I don't like what I'm doing and waste all those years.
Damn making the right choice, there are others ways making money like a side hustle or something
Keep at it young bro. My son is 18 and will be apprenticing for the Elevator/Escalator Mechanic. Within 5 years he should be push 100k+ a year. You made the right decision.
I went into the military and got into IT. Best decision of my life. I’m now a software tester working on a development team. I’m learning Python programming at the moment so I can become a test engineer. You don’t need to join the military to get into IT. Start off as a help desk technician and work your way from there. Or if you can problem solve and critical think learn a programming language. Information security jobs are abundant. Companies are having a hard time filling those jobs.
@DixieNormous I’ve met a lot of “not smart” people in this field...lol. You don’t need math unless you go to college and get a computer science or computer engineering degree. You can get a certification and some experience in IT and be good. CompTIA is a good a starting point.
@@sarah1484 thank you. Gonna check out comptia. 🙌🏽
I have disability and can’t do military. I have CompTIA A+, Network+, Security+, Server+, and Linux+ I know Python, Java, and C, I got my education completely free by proving my IT skills for a program. No one, not even help desk wants to hire me without 5 years experience. Yet I am being offered way more high paying office work jobs that I hate. I just wanna give up but I love computers more anything. It’s been 6 years of schooling for nothing though. Maybe it’s just sunk cost fallacy.
@@altaccount8749 You ever thought about becoming a consultant? IT is too broad for you to stop. You might be one of those folks who can work for themselves. Only thing is you’d have to be able to market and sell whatever services you provide.
@@sarah1484 thank you 🙏🏾
College/University is great for socialising and a great bridge for becoming independent. America's insane price guaging system, however, usually doesn't outweigh the benefit.
Proud college dropout here! For years, the education system has indoctrinated me into pursuing higher education, but after attending university for one semester, I was like, "F% this s*i#!" and dropped out. Before COVID, I took an interest in stocks & day trading, so I decided to open a brokerage account. After taking advantage of the dirt-cheap share prices and selling off some of them as the prices started to rise, I found myself profiting to the point I could pay off my debt AND still have plenty of leftover funds to further grow my wealth! Dropping out was one of the best decisions I have ever made, and I am never looking back
Imagine going to trade school and making 6-figures, but people in the media are wilding out because it’s not University.
THANK YOU!!!...TRUEST COMMENT EVER!!! FACTS!!
Some ppl care more about Prestige than a paycheck.
The fact that it isn't free and that colleges were still charging full prices for online classes would be a major issue as well. University isn't affordable and unattainable.
This is exactly why I dropped out. Paying full tuition to get sent home and sit on my laptop for a quarter of the day.
Making the government pay for it doesn't solve the corrupt structure that has more administrators than actual teachers, or solve the fact that most people don't even enter a profession in their degree's field.
High tuition prices are a DIRECT result of student loans from the government. Artificially low interest rates and they give em out to anyone. Meaning, universities can charge whatever the fuck they want, because they know anyone can go 100k in debt to pay for it if you convince them they "need" to.
With private loans, where the ones giving you money have a vested interest in making a return, don't give out massive loans to anyone and everyone.
Tuition inflation to this degree wouldn't be possible without government loans. Government paying for it is exactly the issue.
Supply and demand. Typically cost is a prohibitive to endless demand as not everyone can afford any price. This sort of thing causes what's called downward pressure on prices. Gotta try and keep your product affordable if you want customers.
Introduce government loans and now anyone can go 100k in debt regardless of their likelihood to pay it back. Guess now what the university charges for their degree?
Ironically I spent an entire semester working on a report about the above before I decided to drop out. Persuaded myself it was a waste of money.
2x drop out. High school and college
@@Theviewerdude Seriously though people dont understand this. You cant just throw more government at a government controlled problem.
@@TheDragonageorigins why do you think that is though? These universities are getting filthy rich. It's highly unlikely it's a coincidence that children are indoctrinated into believing they need a degree to make anything of themselves.
The people making money from the system now would also be thrilled at the idea of directly receiving even more guaranteed funding.
Someone, somewhere, knows they are profiting off of crushing naive and impressionable teenagers with debt.
youtube videos are free and better quality than online college classes
Bro all these activitists pushing so many "issues", and yet while they are fidgeting about bathrooms and the choice to write something different on a slip of paper, I'm transgender and bisexual, you know what stresses me rn?- I'm busy stressing about the fact that I can't and probably never will be able to afford college, I'm stressing about rising prices and not adequately rising wages, I'm stressing about the fact im 24 and living with my parents because if I want a studio apartment, that's at it's cheapest and arguably almost dangerous 700 of my 1000-1100 35-40+ hour work week checks lol. At most? For a studio? I can't afford it, or it's my entire check. That's not counting all of the other possible expenses, from phone, to internet, to eating, to bathing and taking care of myself.
I have no choice but to live with my parents until I can find sustainable roommates, and even then one medical bill and I'm back with my parents.
I have a million things wrong stressing me out right now. I don't give a flying fuck about bathrooms, the gender spot on paperwork, I don't give a fuck about a pat on the shoulder telling me "your not straight? Good" that shit don't mean anything and the last one is actually insulting. Can we get some college education? Can we get some enforcement on these greedy ass corporations living off our backs rather than easily providing for their workers? Nah. Nah. I guess I'll take a parade. Fuckers.
I wish we'd fix some actual issues instead of putting bandaids on social issues that could be far more easily resolved with a satisfied and happily striving populace than everyone suffering and hating eachother to boot. Bro, I'm about to get me a college education then skip out, fuck.
Damn that pretty deep.
Although im kinda confused about what the "activists" have to do with these type of economic issues. Like i get what ur saying but alot of these activists r u just talkin abt what they want to say, they arent required to talk about certain issues whether they are important or not
@@bluesky-bp1bp I was on a aba and preach binge and that kinda exploded out, just happened to be on the wrong video yeah, there were a few statements related even if not to the video itself within the video that finally set me off
@@JjayNC8L lmao aba and preach binges to be doin that tho
@@bluesky-bp1bp they really do. Facts on facts
@@JjayNC8L they can be really funny sometimes, other times i feel that they add a bit to much fire to some situations lol
As someone who went to university I do not think I would do that again you generally learn such a broad topic that it takes 3 years or so to get through it all when really the only reason you are doing that course is to get a better job and it would be better if you did a course that is tailored toward a job than get a degree in some course. I have been working as a software developer for 10 years and not a single employer has asked about my degree not even the first 1.
I'm a college professor and I tell my students that if everyone in America got a college degree, then the people working at Burger King would have college degrees. You getting a degree does not change the structure of the economy. Some jobs are plentiful and others are scarce. Employers pay for jobs that need to get done, not your fantasy of a perfect life. Before you pick a major check out the placement rate. Are there jobs in the field you like? Who is hiring? What skills do they need? Then decide. Trades can pay very well. No shame in that.
Profound comments have never been written
Wait what is wrong with trades.
Real slick explanation that more youths need to know. Thanks prof
I tell people it doesn't matter whether they have a degree or not and most places, even offices, will still likely treat you as expendable. It's not easy for everyone to figure out who they are and what they want in life but I think happiness is more important than some temporary feeling of prestige you get from graduating uni.
I relate to that phrase so much... "I just feel so lost" Throughout my four years in high school, and the next four years in university, it always felt like what I was learning didn't matter, but my family would continually tell me that that was the way. Now I actually know what I want (I always wanted to write a story, so I started writing a web novel series at the start of the lockdowns and have gotten nice results and enjoyed my time with this hobby), and if I had started years ago before any of this instead of being told that was a wrong path and a stupid one, I think id be much less depressed than I am now.
Don’t be shy, what’s your webcomic called. 😏
This hit me hard man :( we’re in the same situation
This was one of my #1 complaints that went unheard now I don't even complain that they don't hear me anymore. I don't bother complaining at all anymore. School was killing me draining me but I did a work internship that paid me nothing but taught me so damn much and it was the absolute most fun I've ever had in my entire life then I started getting paid and it was even better. But now after everything the emptiness just eats up all the energy and happiness the little bit we can get our hands on. The worst part for people who have to live this kind of life is you will never be living just surviving till you finally get to die and not deal with it anymore. I'm not trying to be pessimistic or downtrodden just brutally honest. People like us don't want to be happy or successful anymore we just want to die in peace where the issues we had resolved or not, simply don't affect us because we've removed the problem itself or ourself from them. This is the world we live in and it's a sad one. But at the very least at least there are those of us that can understand each other and strive to survive. Stay strong and go out on your terms!
Fuck all that “ if I started years ago” look at your life so far. You’ve endured a lot of suffering which is the story… you’re a human. There’s no need to be depressed because you can either look at your past and be depressed about it which is the loser mentality or you can accept that this is what happened, what did I learn from it and how can I articulate myself so many understand, relate and take action. You have a gift and that’s life’s experience. We humans find it very hard to stop feeling depressed but realise you are depressed then draw a line on your time with depression then start to express on paper about your time being depressed and in that piece of writing you’ve written a story. That story will reach millionnsssss. we’re all the same, just different in many ways. All 7.5 billion humans apart from the a small minority of people that can feel have experienced every single emotion.
I’m kinda jealous in a way mate. You’ve gained such a valuable experience and you have to use that! use it don’t just let it die off because it’s stupid to do that and an absolute waste. There’s just so many out there that you can connect with your personal experiences. You’ve got this brother !
As someone with a BA, and the experience I had trying to get my last 3 graduating credits (I had to argue 400 level Chinese history courses should cover the freshman 'cultural studies' general requirement - insane), I ended up feeling like College was just another way to extract wealth from me. My degree has never come up in any job application/interview. The only practicle skills I learned were how to think critically, talk circles around people (thank you Formal Logic), and write at a level which makes my peers look like kindergarteners.
Outside of that, just debt. My tangible skills seem to make no difference in any job I've ever held (restaurant industry, then real estate, now a health insurance analyst). I work in a field totally unrelated to my education - and I feel like those 5yrs could have been better served working instead of in a classroom.
I have a bachelor’s degree that I was lucky enough to pay for with just grants and no loans to pay back. I totally understand why people don’t want to risk going into debt. It’s not worth it if you have to pay it all yourself without help
Gj
I think young men are realizing they can make more earlier in life if they either pick a trade or just start working. My son is 19, he makes $20/hr, is fully insured, has a 401k. His friends are either at University or moved to "the city" and are working retail for $13/hr (min wage here). My kid will own a house and retire before his friends if he just keeps his head down and works hard.
Except they also are not getting involved in trades too lol
What does he do?
Jesus Christ. I struggled to find someone willing to hire me at 19.
@@hemanths2230 he is working as general labor in a vegetable and fruit processing plant, mostly driving forklift and helping fill drums with puree. No where for him to go but up. His supervisor even told him to apply for an operator position.
I feel this 100%. As a college senior who regrets my degree choice, it hasn’t been fun. I’ve been lucky enough because I haven’t had to take out loans but it’s still a long investment of time. I’m hoping I find my true passion soon.
What's you degree?
That profile picture is amazing 👏
Those loans can equal decades of pain. Be thankful you only lost 4 years, as long as you are starting from square 1 and not square negative -10 you can always make a new future 👍
@@grownsimba8120 Economics. I find it to be so boring. I also suck at math
Find hobbies, start with that.
I feel like that lesson you listened to is the only one I really did as well. Don't borrow or owe any money, if you can't pay then don't play. University was never for me either but I regret not trying harder in the school I did do.
It feels like a scam that to build good credit you need to borrow money when I would rather just never owe in the first place. I know many people are forced into those horrible situations where you need to borrow to afford the cost of living and then it's a spiral of taking money from the poorest people instead of the ones with spare money.
As someone who is a 1st generation born American, the pressure/ expectations is REAL HIGH from family to go to school.
I started College, found out AFTER graduation I had to pay for it myself. I wasn’t allowed to have a job when I was in high school because “school was my job” so I struggled trying to work (struggling just trying to get a job) and go to school. Then I met my husband, we got married, he had an accident and I had to leave school to work to provide full time.
My family blamed him for me not being in school, even though the community college I had started at kept pulling more and more requirements for an AA out of the woodworks and made getting back in school damn near impossible.
I finally finished my AA a few years later while I was pregnant with my daughter and decided I was done. It wasn’t worth the headache, stress, and debt for MAYBE getting into whatever field. I also didn’t want to get a BA just to have it.
I now work in a trade, make more than some of my peers to went and got a Masters, BA etc. I have a great work life balance, I’m helping my husband pay off his student loans, we pay our own bills, and leave comfortably within our means. Should the opportunity arise, I would love to give my husband a chance to become a Stay at home Spouse, but he’s fine working as a teacher in the meantime.
Do you think my grandparents/ parents see me as successful? HAHAHA
But I have had to come to terms with it’s my life, I need to be happy with myself and my actions and focus on my and my small family’s future. If my kid wants to go to technical school, college, or a trade, that will be their choice and I will try to make sure they are set up for whatever they choose, I want them to have a better understanding about the everyday things that I was just thrown into.
Whether you’re part of the Manosphere or not, you can’t deny the culture shift that is happening. Women are getting more education, working for longer years, investing more into their jobs, and things are gonna get real different. Idk if it’ll be a good thing overall or a bad thing, but I’m curious to see what happens next-when women, who traditionally don’t date down, will have no choice to because 60%+ of them are more “educated” than their male counterparts. Very interesting
@@EspressDelivery lol true, but nobody said that this one tiny shift, the fact that women are attending college more than men, is going to single handedly flip society. Overall, the more this 60-40 gap increases, odds are that women’s wages are also going to increase eventually. This is just one tiny symptom of society pushing women into the working field. One tiny symptom telling us that big change is coming. And my guess, is that women will become more miserable than ever. But we’ll see. All I’m saying is that there’s a reason why women choose more hospitality jobs, and “retire” earlier to have a family. But we’ll see
@@EspressDelivery future generations will landmark this time period as the beginning of very different times and like I said, I’m very interested in seeing what’s going to happen
Spinster epidemic. I've been thinking about this for about 2 years now. We Millenials are going to be in our 40s entering an era of single moms and overeducated spinsters regretting they didn't have children and a family.
We already know what the end result will be. Just look at Japan. Men and Women make about the same amount there, and unemployment is more common among young men in japan. Their birth rates are extremely low, not even replacing themselves. Women will NEVER date down, it doesn't matter if it's their only option, because it's not, they would rather share a high value man, or be alone for their entire lives. This is the present and the future. This bubble will burst and I have no idea what comes after that, but likely a return to a more traditional culture, mainly because the only people having kids are more traditionally minded individuals, the modern lifestyle will go extinct because they aren't having children. This is just me speculating of course, who knows, it'll be interesting to watch though.
@@deathzero0212 I 100% agree. I’m gonna find myself one of the few women that appreciate a traditional man and we’ll just watch what happens, and try to raise our kids right. Just make sure you don’t put your life savings into investing in diaper companies lol.
I just started studying nursing at age of 31 after making mistakes and working random jobs in search for satisfaction and stability. Took me a while to realize but never too late. Take your time and don’t listen to anyone, do you.
Same! I took time off and travelled.
Already told my kids, if your not in STEM, I ain’t paying for it. Community colleges/trade schools is 100% is the way forward. That or get that scholarship!
I refuse to finish my masters degree. It’s such a scam!! I was just promoted to a role that requires a master degree. My husband is now the executive director where he works and he only has an associates degree.
Also I actually took my college to arbitration because we are not allowed to sue colleges. Colleges are allowed to do whatever they want!!! Charge you and change the price anytime they want. Then they drain your financial aid.