INFJs and INFPs, Neurodivergence, and Lack of Focus
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- čas přidán 20. 08. 2024
- INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to judge themselves harshly for not sticking with projects and not finishing things. They blame themselves for a “lack of focus.” But what most INFJs and INFPs don’t know is that they are not the problem, and what they call a “lack of focus” is really a sign of a gifted neurodivergent mind.
“Lack of focus” is one of the most commonly reported problems from INFJ personality types and INFP personality types when it comes to finishing creative projects. Many INFJs and INFPs will say: “I have shiny object syndrome,” “I get so distracted,” “I get excited about one project and then something else excites me and I want to do that instead.” Most INFJs and INFPs think they need to force themselves to approach “focus” in a certain way, which includes sticking with one thing until they finish it and not working on anything else, setting concrete goals and pushing themselves to meet them, and pushing through even if they feel bored, resentful, or exhausted.
INFJs and INFPs tend to view focus with this kind of perspective because this is how popular culture views the concept of “focus.” Popular culture believes that “focus” equals working in a straight line and pushing yourself through things until you achieve pre-set concrete goals.
This approach does not work for INFJs and INFPs because we are neurodivergent. A high percentage of INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are working with ADHD or are on the autism spectrum. All INFJs and INFPs are highly creative and gifted, which means that we need to approach focus in a different way. Watch the video to find out more.
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Me: Dang that’s a very pretty background
Also me: This video is about a lack of focus?
😂 Good one!
I did the same
I'm an INFP. I will pick what cup or utensil I'm going to use based on how I feel. Lol Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you for touching on the autism spectrum. I’ve had that intuition for a long time but you are the first I hear that makes the link with INFJ
No wonder so many people find life so hard, esp when we are not understood or understand ourselves. Thanks for being someone who does and shares it with us.
Its good to hear from someone who gets us. I have made it to late middle life living as conventionally as I could but its been difficult since I have a hard time focusing for very long on any one thing. I tried to determine if I was suffering from ADHD but if so its very mild and not impairing. But these last couple of videos from Lauren have been rich with this idea that we INFJs {and apparently INFPs as well} do not think or act in a strictly linear way. If its true that we think in a pattern more like a web then it makes sense that we would work and also create in that same web like way. I have spent hours upon hours doing tasks that are very linear and step by step. Its the most common kind of employment I would guess. You do a step by step task and your employer pays you. But I have often found it very hard to stay engaged with this type of work and to do it day after day without a shift in what I am doing. In my free time I tend to work on various tasks for as long or as little as I feel engaged. I get them all done but in my own manner and at my own pace. Much more satisfying but no pay.
Thank you Lauren. The point about if our emotions aren't in it, we're out of it is such a huge element affecting every area of life and something I've struggled to understand and manage all my life. Looking forward to the in-depth coverage of this topic.
Grazie prof Sapala! Legendary, very appreciated!
Another awesome video! Feels like you're talking directly to me.
Thank you! I needed this validation so much today. You are a gift for us. I really want to join this class. 🙏🏻
Thanks Lauren, I really needed to hear this today. Dots are connecting.
ENFP’s totally have lack of focus too 😂🥳 we not only get super distracted by feelings intuitions and creativity but also by people!
I finally feel understood. ThankYou
Ok this is so accurate for me, it's insane.
Eerily accurate!
We can procrastinate but also become obsessed with a project passion seeking truth wisdom, again very contradictory but we wouldn't be infjs if we weren't i think back how weird i must have come across when i wasn't an aware awake infj and probably got triggered and in denial but once we are conscious of being pure consciousness Radiohead makes so much more sense 😇🙏♥️
I am definetely an INFJ, but I really have to question about being on the spectrum. I have been looking into autism for 3 months now, because a friend is making content on it. I do have some overlap, however I never had to mask to fit in, and my INFJ cameleon skills arent used as self protection. In fact, I don't have much problem saying if I don't want to do something. Also I can read social cues, and implied meanings (as most INFJs can). I don't have an issue with being overstimulated, etc.
If I am on the spectrum, it feels like such a diagnosis would be academic.
I’m an INFJ. I also have troubles working and writing but it’s not due to lack of focus, boredom, or Adhd. The reasons are stress and overwhelmingness. Is that a personal issue or is it an INF’s quality?
Could u describe what triggers the stress, if it's because the job keep throwing thing at u in a rate that is faster that u can handle or as if u wanted to scream, slow down and lemme handle things one time at a time. Then, it is an INF quality
Thank you the personality traits explain a lot, infj and my adhd dx fit me, once I stopped masking my feelings and work with it i like myself better
same goals but creative way to submit it
On point ❤
You are so helpful and encouraging. Thank you ❤️
This is all great info... I can really relate. But how do we translate our "gifted" minds in to a fullfiling and stress free existance in a world where everything described here is against the norms
how can this be applied to learning to code?
I feel like I do better when instead of following a straight line, I follow my particular large s curl hair pattern 😆 🤔.
I would love it if you would go into more depth about the connection between neurodivergence and our personality types.
As a very left field side note, I’ve found a direct correlation between how blocked (and even completely shut down I can be) and when I went back on liver support supplements. Specifically sp livaplex. Just throwing this out there in case it’s helpful for anyone else. I feel like I can finally begin to be myself again and have the capacity to implement good suggestions 💜
Or right brain dominant
I love your videos, but your volume is very low.
It is. She needs to turn up her volume!
Sweetheart ….
I can’t find your email address! Or other info for the classes!
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Everything starting to line up for me. I need to talk to you in person