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In this episode of the Spoiled Girlie Support Group podcast, Elle dives into the complex and often sensitive topic of money and how it affects men's behavior in the dating market. With candid and insightful commentary, Elle sheds light on the insecurities that some men project onto women and how they sour-grape women they cannot access. She also discusses the danger of men who threaten women with hypothetical violence and how to set barriers of access to yourself to avoid them.
Elle also shares discernment tips about content creators and warns against people who pry about your life. She emphasizes the importance of being cautious and discerning when it comes to who you allow into your personal space and who you share your life with.
Throughout the episode, Elle provides valuable insights and strategies for navigating the dating market as a financially secure spoiled girlie. With her signature blend of humor and wisdom, she encourages listeners to prioritize their own financial independence and seek out partners who can support and complement their goals and aspirations.
Whether you're a seasoned spoiled girlie or just starting out on your journey to financial independence, this episode is both informative and entertaining. Don't miss out on Elle's insights and strategies for getting that bag while still enjoying the spoils of the soft life. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this!
Chapters
03:31 money is a sensitive topic for men
03:56 men who are unable to provide project their insecurity of being broke onto women
04:29 men who ask what do you bring to the table are in their receiving era
05:02 how do you know he’s a provider?
06:24 men sourgrape women they cannot access
08:15 don’t be friends with men
12:28 people low self-worth love policing people with high self-worth
13:23 men in receiving mode will make you suffer
14:04 beware of people who pry about your life
14:53 bbmle men want rich men for themselves
15:20 men are obsessed with “humbling” women
16:46 discernment tip about content creators
19:58 men who threaten you with hypothetical violence
22:08 men establish dominance over women by reminding us of our anatomical inferiority
24:48 real talk, bestie
26:40 men who fearmonger you are in survival mode
28:01 set barriers of access to yourself - Jak na to + styl
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They know what they want.
They want submissive providers.
It’s impossible. You’re either one or the other. But these dusty bandits are so delusional and unrealistic. They want to remain broke, mediocre and lazy while having a submissive woman, 50/50.
Lol. Exactly! 😂
Mothers without authority over them. Care and provision without power.
They want all your contributions, but no credit 😂
They want "obedient doormats" not an actual partner!
She had a point! We are in a patriarchal society, how are you doing worse than me?!???! 😂😂😂😂
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@@Hadex518 what type of society are we in?
@@serenityssolace- women having endless privileges? M@les comm!t most cr!mes everywhere. Girls and women can’t even feel safe walking down the street, grocery shopping, school, work etc, because of the countless m@le perpetrators. Literally a 21 year old girl who just graduated from university with both a bachelor and master’s degrees, but she was sex-ally ass@ulted and k!lled by a random male while they were both tourists in Germany, and she isn’t the only one. 1 in 3 women globally experience physical or sex-al v!olence from a male intimate ‘partner’ (so countless of males are cr!minals); when a male breaks up from the woman, statistically, he continues to live his life. When a woman breaks up from a male, he gets overly em0tional to the point of him trying to stalk, ass@ult or k!ll her.
Like I'm saying! I am a woman how am I doing the most out here and you're just chilling?
@@serenityssolace😂😂😂
Earlier this year I went on a date with this guy while traveling abroad. He paid for everything. I haven't had a lot of dating experience so I haven't gotten to experience the princess treatment before. Later we were playing a question game and I asked why did he pay for everything. His anwser was that he wanted me to have a good time. I was there for only one more day and he knew that. So bestie I think you're right there is so much value in just being in our presence.
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There’s even a market for it! Some wealthy men hire a beautiful escort/ model to accompany them to events or just to even spend time with them because your presence itself is valuable. I wasn’t particularly social in high school but did I get invited to every party left and right because of how I looked? You bet!
barhopping in Bahamas and the man was so nice. I feel like I’m really ugly so I felt like I wasn’t even pretty enough to be there but then I didn’t go well because I was in Mexico and I thought people were just being really nice and like wanted to be my best friend and wanted me to move there but it was literally a scam and I feel so stupid like why would I think that strangers would want to be my friend I’m pretty insufferable right now because I’m fucking Greiving . I think I should’ve just married the man in the Bahamas. It would’ve been fine I would’ve gotten plastic surgery for him. The only problem is that he had a boat so like he could’ve ran into human trafficking but I don’t think so. Also, I feel like I’m never pretty enough to do anything fun I literally do not feel like I’m pretty enough to even go into clubs. like when people invite me to a club I’m like oh I’m not pretty enough to be there. I think it’s all manifestation though. Oh my birthday I ended up literally fucking up my mental health so much and now I can barely get out of bed because I’m so embarrassed I like embarrass myself in front of like Rich sex traffickers and hot girls. I know it sounds stupid But I’d also be embarrassed if I embarrass myself in front of Donald Trump and epstein And celebrities.
A guy paying for a date isn't the princess treatment, it's standard. Because yes, they're paying for your presence and hoping to get something else afterwards. Not to mention we don't make equal pay yet or have access to the same promotions as men do.
@Alicia-vq8jg Hey, I hope you are doing better now. If you are still struggling I recommend therapy if you are not going yet. I also like thewizardliz and healthygamergg here on yt for self help videos. Have a blessed day🍀✨️
My ex husband upon comparing me wife of 21 years to his new girlfriend ( she was a company president or some such ) asked me what I brought to the table. I replied I am the fucking table.
What do men want? I am confused they say they want traditional women but men should pay for every need for traditional women then when women had job and contribute to the finance they complain women are musculin and don't want them
Talk about us knowing our inherent worth and value!!!!👏👏👏👏
Literally how dare he ask you that! Pathetic!
I wish she would just run before waisting her time and for you to find someone who actually appreciate what he got or a manless happiness whatever works for you best ❤❤
The power omg❤❤❤🎉
“what do you bring to the table?” Does he even have a table??
I was on a first date recently and the guy started talking about "OH WOMEN WANT A MAN WHO BRINGS 6 FIGURES, BUT WHAT DO THEY BRING TO THE TABLE?" then started lecturing me about getting up at 4am to crush the day and start my own business and be prepared to be a partner in his business since we're equals. I couldn't say bye faster.
Well done! Before I said bye, I would have responded with, “I don’t sleep with my business partners, nor do I sleep with my investees. Sorry not sorry.”
That would make me physically sick.And would tell him I thought it was a date not bussiness meeting 😂
@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Livingbest answer
He wanted a co-worker not a partner. A co worker who can work for him and he can do nothing and relax in exchange.
@@TheEquinoxka hahahaha
Your channel has really opened my eyes, girlie. I used to be a 50/50 girl. Not because I really wanted to, but I felt bad for the guy because he didn't make that much money and I have my own job. Now I've learned my lesson and I'm ashamed of myself for degrading myself in that way by dealing with these below bare minimum effort men who wanted to be treated like women. So gross 🤢. I'm so embarrassed that I even entertained these men. Never again! I'd rather be single indefinitely 😁.
IT WAS SUCH A WAKE UP CALL
You go, girl!!
You’re not gross, we all as humans have inherit value and deserve love. All this is really confusing for a lot of us. The women would all love to be provided for but the reality is it’s not possible for many people in current times. So I would say everyone needs to date aware of their dating value. Not sure what kinda work you do but I guess the women here would say that being part of a provider type man is being able to build/get a higher earning job or business. So I’d suggest finding a woman who earns same or less than you, is of a similar dating market value, and always being a gentleman… setting a plan in place to improve your life standard and income and sticking to it. Good luck
@@leasaric8986 At least 80% of the women my age make what I make or less, and 50% of women under 54 do also, so not really that worrying when you put it like that. But man y'all are harsh in these comments lol
@@pareraphael6035 women nowadays often face crazy expactations of investing in their looks, having great careers, but also cooking and doing everything around the house. And on top of that also being a low maintanence 'cool girl'. It's too much, and after dating for some time, women just get tired, frustrated and need to de-stress with content and comments like these.
In short, I believe that men should put effort, and that means also money into dating. To the best of their ability, depending on income of course.
But it ends with dating stage for me. In a comitted relationship I go 50/50 or i pay more, because I just earn more than most people.
27:41 THIS MADE ME REALIZE, the guy who dated my mom and said “no one else would date you” and used the fact she had children as a reason- HE NEVER SPENT TIME WITH US. He only went on private dates with my mom. The fact she had children never impacted him but he held that against her!! I only saw him once and he didn’t even speak to us kids! He only said these things because there was no other way my mom would have dated him otherwise because he was so cruel and mean!!
I’m so angry for my mom.
Damn that sounds like the man my mom married. I'm glad he doesn't seem to be your step-dad and you didn't have to live with him
Women latch onto any guy who is willing to be the dog in the house to keep away all the other dogs lurking at the door. If thats how its going to be even today why ever on earth should daughters be birthed
Your mom was protecting you, actually. After my parents divorced, my mom dated a guy for 10 years that me and my sister didn't even know about LMAO. He was a decent/normal person, but because my sister and I were so young when she started dating, she kept us away from the adult male strangers she was going out with, and that's the way it should be
@urbirdfriend same reason why after being separated from my husband for 13years i never dated. And if ever I will have a man in my life, I will make sure mu daughters don't stay with us. I still don't trust my daughters with any guy even with someone I date or remarry
@@jackielaroga5408 says a lot about the male of the species
The tiny violin 🎻 sound effect has me weak 😂
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This sends me every video, it’s my favorite 😂😂
@@Avockadoo mr krabs tiny violin 🎻😂
Same, I love it 😂
I’m ROFLing with her editing. GODDESS! 💛
My mom always told my brothers that if they don’t know or have the means to provide for a woman and or family they shouldn’t even look at women with the intentions of courting them. My mom has suffered so much because of my father and his stingy butt.
I ended my male friendship and stopped accepting invites to "hang." No thanks, not in high school. My value goes down when I am seen with you..
You were fucking him for free?
@@thelucariamonarchs4889You don't have to sleep with a man to be valuable. Emotional labor, physical labor, status of being seen simply being NEXT to a woman, etc.
@@Just_a_Goth i know
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 You implied she slept with him. And questioned her for it.
@@Just_a_Goth you did saw the question mark, right?
There was a time when I thought I was going to hangout with my two girl friends at the mall (and then go watch a movie in theater, café, bookstore, etc. Just a nice day out with the girls), only to arrive there and see both their boyfriends were there, and one guy friend of theirs was there too. I was like..ok...I wasn't aware there'd be more people but I'll make an effort and stay. And then during the day, I kept noticing that both couples tended to leave me alone with that one guy and it's then that I realized they were trying to match me up with him. It especially clicked when they made sure to have me sit right beside the guy in the theater. I felt so annoyed. He wasn't mean or anything, but I wasn't looking to be in a relationship, and I was uncomfortable that nobody had told me about this setup too. I felt betrayed in a way. Then I called it a day, said I was tired and went home.
That evening, I messaged my friend and she said it was her boyfriend's idea but I told her that I was mad she went along with this, and that they had no business playing with my life/love life. I don't know if I reacted too strongly but it felt and still feels right to have firmly set my boundaries.
I used to always 'endure' things for the comfort of others, but I've realized that I need my own comfort as well. I value myself enough to nurture what brings me peace.
I don't know you, but I am really proud of you girl 👏
@@neyumiiiSame here! Her story really opened my eyes and I’m so proud of her!
That's so weird
It sounds like your friend's bf was trying to do his buddy a favor at your expense 🤢
You did great considering the situation!! ❤
The lady spoke facts👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. These men want to be women lol, they want what you have.
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Exactly. They're 🌈 and too cowardly to live honestly. That's why they have such resentment and hostility toward women.
Yes!!!
And THEN they will claim to be oppressed.
But us as women somehow aren't
@@therealmanifestelleso you are basic gold digger ?
I ended a friendship with a male friend who was possibly high value, but otherwise completely unattractive. I've felt bad about ditching him, but thanks to this support group meeting, I don't anymore because I've learned he didn't serve me! Thinking back, my mere presence with him in public earned him HUGE points. I could always sense that people would light up when they saw him with me. Like they were thinking, "Wow, good for him." I hated that gut feeling so much. Now, I have no male friends. I am so blissfully happy every time I'm seen out with my beautiful gal pals. 😊
i love this bestie 👏🏽
Omg thank u for sharing this is so helpful 🤍🤍🤍
I am doing that too. Get rid of male friends
@@iaf4454Exactly ✔️
@@serenityssolace another bitter and emotionally lead moid. Ugly and broke plus bitter. Stay single, no one wants your dust
You’re my new favourite person on the internet! I am an old married spoiled girlie, and I think you are on point. I got so much heat when I was young for being “spoiled” and a “Princess” and I wish I had had a spoiled girlie support group! I’m rooting for all of you spoiled girlies! Raise the bar because as someone who works in family law, I see what happens when women settle for these what did we call them, bare minimum effort men. Yah it’s not good. Trust me, much better to be single until you find a good strong provider man.
What happened with low bare men cen you explain more?
@@fatemad4012 Usually when women settle for any old husband as I call them (bare minimum low effort men) they're ok with it at first because feminism, 50/50 etc but when they have children they realise that it's very difficult. They end up going back to work before they're ready because the family needs the income, they end up doing all of the parenting and most of the housework even though they are working full time. Their husband does the minimum and only when asked meaning she has to nag all the time. Eventually, she is tired of having to be the provider and the caregiver and looking after everyone and she wonders what her husband is even good for. And then she ditches him and he is angry because she ends up "taking his house" and he has to pay a minuscule amount of child support. This is not a provider mentality. Women should only marry men with a provider mentality - even if she works, he should still be the provider and the family budget should be based around his income meeting at least the basic needs (housing, food etc). This way the woman can stay home with children when they are young or work part time or around the family's needs. Her income becomes extra which is nice and allows for less financial stress. It creates much more harmony and happiness in the home.
That's exactly why birth rates are going down. Maybe Elon musk was right. A lot less people are finding love and having babies and it's in westernized countries. Italy is banning English there and I think it's because of the culture of us westerners is infecting them. They haven't had a baby born in the entire country for three whole months! That's insane y'all.
@@divorceguru your advice and comment are all great but I can’t get over how perfect your channel name is for this community haha
This is 1000% true, and I wish I had heard advice like yours before I got married. Now I'm in a nightmare situation and clawing my way out. Ladies, don't humor these men in any way!!
Also, "sour graping" is real & only a small fraction of the subtle manipulation that happens. It will destroy you from the inside if you put up with it for too long.
I have a child with a man and when my birthday rolled around i asked if we could convert the change jar to bills and go get a drink at the bar and he said no LOL. my very first mother's day was the same, he had no plans or intentions to make the day special in any way, and got so mad that I was disappointed about it that he yelled and stormed out, disappeared for a few hours to calm down. Just risky and dangerous to show any genuine feelings to him if it wasn't serene bliss. I tiptoed around eggshells while we lived together to keep his explosive rage to a minimum but sometimes his anger was just unavoidable no matter how sweet and silent i was. I'm still healing 6 years later. I knew him for 3 years as a friend before we dated, and he was the chillest, most polite, funniest guy from a distance. It's very hard for me to trust my judgment with new men for this reason. The patriarchy represses all their emotions and they keep all their sadness and anger hidden away, then the nurturing counselor female energy receives the wrath wholesale
Ladies… I was suckered by a man… he saw my house that my ex husband and I worked our asses for and he manipulated me.. I fell into his trap and I didn’t realize he wanted me for my house and what he perceived as me being wealthy. I am FAR from wealthy but to him and his government funded lifestyle I was a meal ticket and I was so clueless… I thought we were going to build together until I woke the F up and saw that no I was a meal ticket and he wasn’t building sh-t. Be careful ladies you are worth more then you know. Love yourself bc you are the one in life you can rely on. So be your own best friend. Love yourself. Until you can do that stay away from men.
I hope you didn't lose too much 🌸
I feel so seen with this comment, I brought home a guy one day some dude i was casually dating (I know better now). This man looked at my house and literally said the words "I would totally marry you just for this house" like wtf
"You're not going to fuck up my genetics" 😂 DEAD
I didn't realize that my friendship really did add so much value to men that really didn't care about me and just wanted to get in my pants. I was close with two men for years and we went everywhere together. I noticed when I was with them other men would look at them with envy, not only that, men would talk to them more and they'd make more friends. Eventually I was tired of them not respecting my boundaries and dropped out of their lives and BOTH of them became loners, depressed, and even stopped taking care of themselves. Simply being seen with an attractive woman gave them value in the eyes of other men AND women. Let's be honest what do most women think when they see a not so attractive dude with a good looking woman? They think either he has money or a big weeny. I'm in the process of leaving an abusive relationship and these videos are really helping me to understand my value and that I should never let anyone treat me the way I've allowed men to treat me, my whole life.
I hope you are free now bestie!
HG Tutor helped me escape my abuse relationship with a low vale looser because i couldn't see my value at the time.
Me too❤ Cheers to all of us Finally waking up, and getting what we so richly DESERVE 🥂💃💖
The men who ask what you bring to the table fail to recognize that you own the table.
And they are bringing nothing to the table except questions about what's in your pockets 🤢 male princesses needing sponsors
Acting like it's women who came up to them.
Why would they even ask that type of question when it open up the door to the question of what they are bringing to the table.
We are the table lol
Exactly tf
When it comes to first dates, I think it’s quite simple to figure out if he is a provider. he will make reservations, offer to pick you up, (pls decline ladies for safety, instead have him send a car), and upon meeting him, he will just come to the table with that big boy energy. You will just know. If you have to question it in your head, the answer is no he is not a provider.
❤❤❤ love your comment ❤️❤️❤️
THIS
A lot of trouble but someone we just met
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 a quick easy way to safely get yourself out of an hour long dinner with someone who isn’t worth your time without causing a disagreement or a fuss.
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 and that perspective will ensure you won't end up on dates with women with high standards. It's a win/win!
Yes! Low men fantasize about rich men and what they imagine it’s like to be them. They are always speaking for rich men as if they can hop into a rich man like a wetsuit lol. It’s so weird.
Not a wetsuit....😂
You're so right. Regular men are talking about high value like they are too. It's crazy. No Michael, you work at the bank and have a credit score of 400, slow you and your jelly role down lmao It's all women hating. We should ban and report any channel that has women haters in the comments because it's influencing way too many men on a mass scale and they think it's ok to be a predator. Because apparently it's our fault. These echo chambers are dangerous and it's going to make our culture in America worse and worse until no one is getting married unless they are Uber religious.
Case in point: the Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos worship among men
Seriously, they really think they're one promotion, one networking connection away from striking it big and being deserving of a trophy wife. It's the delusion for me🤣
My ex who gave me bare minimum asked me what I didnt do was bare minimum and i was literally being his mother and I finally realised it and left because I literally have girlies like you helping me realise my true value
Me right now with my husband. I am feeling very resentful towards him
@@Jennifer_j749divorce
Had an ex like this. I realized late that I was the one taking care of him and i had to kick him out. It hurt, cos sometimes he'd complain that i wasn't doing the bare minimum when he didn't care to get a new job, i was the one struggling to pay the bills while he complained i didn't cook or clean the house. They just want to feel comfortable while we do everything. When he said he wanted to be left alone and unbothered that's when i decided to break up with him. Not having that bs anymore. I feel way better now.
Same for me, 20 years wasted 😢😢 but not anymore ❤
I work in foreign affairs, and one thing I got to experience is that most Americans treat other countries as if it was their playgrounds: talking loud, interacting with natives who are just carrying on their day, expecting everyone to speak perfect English and be eager to help... It gets worse when they come especially to pray on women because they think everyone is desperate for a "loser back home" just to get a green card. Ugh!
Is it just me or when men remind you about potential violence from other men… it’s giving pimp vibes 🤮
Hello, I wanted to say that my boyfriend pushed me to learn martial arts in order to protect myself from male violence and I think this is the best way to show his love for me 😄
He gave me confidence in my ability to protect myself and convinced me that women are not inevitably weaker than men. Basically this is simply a training issue. These bbmle try desperately to spread the idea that women can't protect themselves from men.
thank you for sharing bestie ✨
@@ilikepancakes2368 Maybe with a weapon. But not with just martial arts.
@queenmilka3306 Its important to remember thay your chances for escape safe and unharmed if the time comes are best if you run, second best if you hide, and as a last resort fighting. And that goes for anyone.
I train muay thai and my boyfriend is always cheering me when I show him vids of me training or of my newly developed muscles. Other guys say stuff like "you boyfriend must behave well because he's afraid you'll kick his ass". Like, my boyfriend isn't afraid at all, he doesn't have any reason to be...
The same thing happened to me where a girlfriend invited me out dancing but her man ended up being there and his unattractive male friend from out of town. I was not told that the men would be joining us either. I was not upset with my friend because she moves differently than I do. I said hi and bye and left immediately. I did not spend more than 3 minutes there lol. I had no regrets either.
Im sure the dude didnt wanted you there either but compromised with his gf, I have seen it a lot of times with dudes
@@thelucariamonarchs4889Wow ur being like this under every comment. Sad.
@@nitebreak and? I'm just stating facts, your feelings about what I say dont really matter and you aren't contributing anything to the convo, so...
@@nitebreak your comments are the same as mine but I do explain my points at least unlike you
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 facts don’t care abt ur feelings 🤓🤓🤓🤓
It's true, they are obsessed with rich men. I've been with a few millionaires and they do not give a single fuck.
They want to be able to actually work hard and become financially stable like their parents or grandparents had the ability to do.
I like your attitude. I need to detox myself from being a people pleaser.
Thank you for creating a spoiled girly corner.
Less girls are brave enough to step up and say it honestly that we deserve to be treated nicely.
I want my daughter to hear you.
This 🥹💝
How? They all have their standards on their tinder bios lmao
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 I grew up in a time where women don’t need tinder to stay happy. Being single is not encouraged by my society norm. But I strengthen myself enough to ignore the norm and I wish my daughter can also do the same.
@@suchaleelim but you are a single mother?
@@thelucariamonarchs4889 yes, that is why I appreciate this channel. It helps to detox my unhealthy belief about relationship.
You are so right. Even having men annoy me in the comment section on CZcams is exhausting. And there always seem to be more men who are angry in the comments than women. They have this attitude that they are right and put words in your mouth that you didn't say and I don't want to shut off my notifications so I end up deleting the comment for peace. They don't stop until they get the last word. Why are they so angry?
In high school when I was dating, I only dated guys outside of my high school because I could not stand the rumors that would go around school if you did date a guy so I stay out of that. I’ve always had really high standards and growing up I just felt more mature than the guys around me. I need to date a genuine man not a boy. My bare minimum is pretty high in this decade. Relationships are not a competition it’s about love and respect. I fully expect a man to open doors, read me books, tuck me in bed, give me massages, flowers hand picked or bought, drive to the building when it’s raining and pick me up, plan dates and take me out, have good hygiene, have good communication,….etc. acts of love and words of affirmation are a both of us situation. I will compliment him and he will compliment me. I’ll write him cute texts and he will write them back. I’ll make him cookies and he will make pasta… simple. But when it comes to dates or providing I fully expect him to step up.
I made a promise to myself in high school that I wouldn't sleep or date a boy in the same school... best decision. I didn't have any drama just hung out with my girls, they're still my friends btw.
Understandable if the effort is mutual
Totally agree. I have thought this too. No such thing as a male "friend". (They're usually second-rate orbiters waiting for you to reach a real low point anyhow so they can finally make it. And they can wait decades! Just my observation.) Love your logical, Market-driven approach here. Excellent.
EXACTLY. thank you
Yup, had to learn this the hard way
This. The only male friends that I have are gay or in a couple where I’m also friends with the woman. If the man and woman break up, I don’t keep my friendship with the guy.
They are too affectionate at first makes me wonder if they are orbiters
As a 40 year old woman who has had male friends since being a teenager, I can confirm that this is in fact 10,000% true
it’s so strange when a man wants a submissive partner but he also doesn’t know who he is, is insecure about his partner’s passions (i dont mean passive activities like watching tv, but education/writing/art, anything involving expressing creative thought) and is not secure enough to be a dominant person. especially when they’re acting like this in college settings and expecting a woman to throw her education away for a relationship just because he is and doesn’t see any purpose in life beyond that. people like that want to be worshipped for treating you like a 24/7 escort as if them acting entitled to your time instead of seeing a therapist is a blessing.
This reminds me 100000% of my ex, adding to the 50/50 shit when he was even earning 3x what I did, lord never again
Girl not “put on my clown makeup” when I say I burst into a laughter so intense I spit my wine out🤣!! Like sis seriously you cannot drop gems and well constructed jokes simultaneously, it’s so effectively distracting…….🤣🤣! Idk how I happened upon your content but as a mother of 6(5 daughters)I’m hook, it’s giving life lesson plan outlines for my young ladies. God bless you!! Keep educating women, it’s needed, especially this new generation!!!
Also because we are more fragile and need protection we need to keep away dangerous and vicious men, especially those fearmongering, because we are more precious and delicate creatures and we have to protect ourselves from this type of brutality. Bless the Shera7 legacy
hear hear 👏🏽👏🏽✨✨
women are delicate but not fragile. we wouldnt be the ones in charge of birth the most paingul thing after burning alive in the world if we were fragile. we are strong always have been but we should like you said keep away from vicious destructive men because we are delicate. don't even entertain men that raise their voices, i have cut off aggressive family members and friends because of this. if men are not coming with a gentle and protective and warm energy towards you (wether they are friends, family or potential partenrs they got to go they will be poison to you, we are growth and creativity we should not be around those kind of energies).
"Sour graping" is an awesome term! Men should focus on building themselves up, getting their ish together before bothering women that are out of their league.
You're so right that violent men will scaremonger general male violence. Because it's literally on their minds. To them it's always an option and women who say no to them "deserve" it in their minds. They are always 1-2 steps away from doing it themselves. They probably already have. Men who yap on about the terrible things other people will do, likely do these things. Same thing occurs with cheaters. Observing crow behaviour found that crows who steal, are constantly in paranoia of other crows stealing from them, whereas crows who don't do not. We assume others think alike to us. So always be very careful when you hear that kind of shit from a man. A kind man would genuinely never even consider it not even as a hypothetical
I dated 2 broke men in my life it was the MOST horrible experience. Never again.
I'm training as a violin luthier atm. A basic professional grade violin goes for about £20k MINIMUM. If I'm making one violin a year, I'm earning as much as a minimum wage job will earn in 1 year. It takes me about a month to make a professional grade violin atm. At the end of this month, my school is holding a contest where, in groups of 5, we have 24 hours to make a viola, over 3 days. This is from a drawing to a finished instrument in the white. (Unvarnished, so basically plain wood) Let's just say I will be making much more than just 1 instrument a year. Not only that, but violas, cellos, double basses, viols, all go for MUCH more than a violin will cost. And that's not even including the extra things like bows, and repair jobs, and bow re-hairs. What can these men offer me? I find these dusties LAUGHABLE!
Oh my, I didn't know it could be so expensive! This seems like not only a job but also some sort of art. Do you need to have a good ear for music to do this?
That's such a somewhat niche job. I always wondered how one comes about It?!?.
Coz you wouldn't hear of fascinating jobs, highly qualified and as high revenue jobs like this in mainstream schools.
I noticed that this behavior is more prevalent with younger men (under 40), although it does happen with men over 40. Men have become laaaaaazy, and yes, it’s because they’re in their feminine. There was a time in my father’s generation and older where men like that got shamed by other men because a real man can provide and protect their family, and if they have to depend on a woman’s finances, they’re not a real man.
I agree that what’s happening in your real life tells you the truth, not some “podcast bro” living with roommates, in poor health, and has a low net worth. The shaming and insulting is a technique to get the high-value woman to lower her standards so they’ll give in and date them - and it’s NOT WORRRKINGGGG. Sure, there are pick-me chicks that are willing to get with their program, but these males don’t WANT the pick-me chicks.
I tell women that if you aren’t getting the type of guy you want, check your environment because you may not be where they are. If you are in the environment, then either the market is extremely competitive (LA, NYC, MIA) or you don’t have the look that gets the reaction you want. Either fix the look, or change your requirements if you can’t or don’t want to change you look.
It's not like that, most women just look for a free meal and are serial daters, that didnt happened much in your dad's era, now it's pretty common
The thing about the environment is soo true! When I was in LA, the men actually put effort, but still tried to play games (which is not what I am about.) After moving to Fresno, I‘ve only met a bunch of below bare minimum men that only want to do coffee dates. (And they don’t even pay for the coffee.) So until I move back to LA, I am not going on anymore dates. It’s a waste of time and money.
@@kb8511are you for real that they don’t pay for the coffee? Lol
@@kb8511 that’s absolutely disgusting of them. I do not accept coffee as a date. I only go on coffee with friends. That’s an immediate no and next.
OR of course I will go get coffee with my man once he’s already my man in a relationship and we are also doing many other things together
The being seen with a couple’s friend is so real 🤮 Like gross. Never again.
this 😭😭
Earlier only women were jealous of women these days men are jealous of women 🤣🤣🤣
This is the kind of energy I like! Don’t sell short of ourselves if you know your worth! ❤
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Watching your videos has restored my selfworth in less then 24hours.
I have been battling my selfconcept these last 18months and just hearing you remind me of things I knew but forgot or a feeling that was taken from me a long time ago, just fixed it in less then 24hours.
Time to wash the mudd off of myself and put on my crown! And whoever thinks that's narcisistic can just leave themselves out. I have been putting myself down for long enough. And I'm not even an ugly woman. Not that they deserve to be put down.
But it's like you described I had a boyfriend that got upset because I broke up with him and he put me down, I let that get into my head resulting in me losing my selfworth and manifesting a crappy life.
Time to take back what was mine!
I find it funny when men speak about their physical advantages over women. The majority of them don’t even put in the gym time much less learn how to fight. They themselves are not ready for WWIII.
The first time I went to the range, myself and another woman was in the top of the class (me first and her second and only because she had uncorrected nearsightedness). You know who was the worst? The tallest most buff guy there and everyone like him because they thought they were naturally born to these traditionally masculine things.
They. Are. Not. Masculine arts are learned not inherited.
My instructor (male 40s ex marine) told us that women are usually his best students. They listen better and don’t have their ego riding on being Rambo. They also don’t come to class with the preconceived notion that they are good at shooting.
Women can and should learn how to dismantle an opponent like IKEA furniture. I’ve lived experiences where knowing more than a man did (ie martial arts and firearm handling) has saved my life. Never let anyone hold their physical advantages over you. It is the scariest, most dangerous form of control.
Never let any man have financial control over you as well
Omg girl. I didn't realise this but as I got older, I didn't LIKE to be seen with a man I was not dating or I did not like. I didn't want anyone to think I was associated romantically with them.
Ikr ew
I realized I had no male friends (although I had many) during two crises. They did not show up as human beings. So - now I focus on the friendships with women.
Yes! When things went wrong for me all the men in my life ran! Never depend on a man.
No because I was at the grocery store one time and this guy was literally so close to me in the line. (I didn't have a cart as a divider). The cashier had to ASK if I we were cashing out TOGETHER. I felt mortified
I’ve also been in lines where men are standing uncomfortably close to me!!!!! Ickkkkkkkkk next time I’ll just start telling them to back the F up
“These alfalfa bros” I died lmfaooo
I also went into the prepper rabbit hole some time ago and let me just say that as a lady, if a man can't provide I will not accept him. Period.
I will not spend my resources on someone who will just consume my well earned provisions. In fact, that's why a couple of years ago some women and people from the LGTBQ++ community began their own prepping subreddit which is amazing.
This mindset is strange for me as a scandinavian girl. In our culture it is the norm to share responsibilities and going out with the mindset of "getting the bag" will honestly grant you the show off cheaters who spend beyond their means. It is a bit shameful for young men not to do childrearing and/or housework. And "stay at home moms" are not really a thing anymore unless there is a reason - like illness. Still, I understand your points so well. Broke men are a state of mind and they are exhausting. Even in my cultural setting, men tend to work harder/more and provide more while women prioritice the home and children. Even when both work and share responsibilities, that seem to be the most stable and happy relationships. Men that objectifies women are plentyful, but emotional mature, middle class providers with self-respect that are looking for partners will not be fooled by broke, unstable women as they also have options. They will not have problems rejecting you if you dont fit the standard for who they want to mother their children.
I was never a fan of how my dad treated my mother, nor do I get along with my brother, so it took a while for me to get a grip about what I wanted from a partner. I found him and honestly dont feel objectified at all. I have noticed that my precence elevate him somewhat, and we have both evolved a lot in this relationship. I am treated with more respect as well and feel more confident and am currently learning to embrace my femininity. We are expecting a daughter and I am so happy to know that she will have an amazing dad. I wish friends of mine will wake up and stop dating "dustys" and embrace a quality man with purpose and a provider mindset.
17:26 ah yes, projection, spreading all that dust everywhere hoping we choke on it - hard pass!
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Hello, you beautiful soul, I am a new subscriber, I am an amazing, looking confident 58 year old woman. And so far I’ve loved everything you’ve had to say. I wish your videos were shown to young women start at the age of 14 all the way up to the day they graduate high school and through college. You are an amazing soul doing amazing things for the women of our society. Much love, light and blessings keep up the good videos.❤❤❤
It’s been years I watched female content on CZcams, marriage advices etc (I’ m a millennial), so I really don’t watch this kind of content anymore cause it all sounds already done, already told… I also don’t agree with everything being from a particular cultural background.
Anyway, I wanted to say to you that your way of explaining some concept has a particular new spin on it and a very deep analysis of female value and human interactions, (like the part about male friends) so I really like your videos, maybe you are the only content creator that still has something new to say or a deeper, different spin on female value.
thank you 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Agreed! There are so many channels out here giving advices about the same things over and over without any basis or proper justifications. So glad her video popped up on my recommendation.
Let's say their version of S hitting the fan hits. Look, as a women we are plant ladies, most of us could grow our own food. We learned to cook and clean, we can make any thing we find even if it is just bone broth from roadkill. Those of us into sewing and crafts, we'll be able to stay warm and mend our clothing. We shop a lot, we know where the find hidden treasures in abandoned cities and how to judge self stable goods for safety. Many of us take self defense courses or go to shooting ranges for fun, we'll handle defense and hunting just fine.
But those men, they can't even figure out how to feed themselves without taco bell - they'll be dead first.
Do not concern yourself with what she brings to the table if she hasn't invited you to dinner.
Perfect
I have male friends and they all take me to nice places, trips, on boats etc and pay for everything! They do not try or expect sex or anything from me bc they simply value my feminine friendship and these are the only type of male friends women should have! I love my male besties and yes they’re straight 😂
betabuxx, their adoration for you won't last past 5 years, betabuxxers do learn over time to put themselves first
@@5678plmare you talking from experience or what? She said they are good provider male friends but has no romantic interest
As long as they are good for you and don't make you look low value to a future husband material man then I don't see the issue.
never trust males. you are more likely to be harmed by someone you know. the average male is a pred@tor & they are NOT your friends. They don't think the way we do. If they want to spend time with you and money on you, there is a chance that they will expect something s8xual from you one day.
If you were a real friend you would have tought them to value themselves and to stop getting used by you
When men say stuff like "Just wait" for something violent to happen to you, that's when I just want to point out, "That's why I'm armed, so I don't need anyone to protect me."
The most violence women experience is first and foremost from the men within their own homes - their fathers and older brothers as they grow up, next up are their abusive boyfriends (who may or may not share the apartment with them), and then their husbands. And we all know the same old story where a woman called the cops (men), only to either not be believed or be told that they can´t really do anything, and we also know all the stories about restraining orders (given out mostly by male lawyers and male judges) which then achieved f*** all for those women and did not keep them safe.
The next batch of men inflicting violence on women are complete strangers who - in most cases - will ambush you when you are out on your own (in the streets at night or even broad daylight now, parking lots, on trains and in subways, parks where you go for a jog or a walk etc.) and always when there´s nobody around who might be able to help you. So men can shove all the "Wait until...!" up where the sun don´t shine, because almost NEVER do we hear about cases where such an ambushed, kidnapped/dragged away woman got heroically saved from that situation by another man.
Whenever a war breaks out, men are also the last ones we can rely on to protect us. Because they are gone fighting and trying to survive themselves - governments don´t even leave men the choice to stay behind and "protect their family". They get conscripted even against their will. Once out there, they drop like flies. If they did somehow manage to stay with their families, they are always the first ones to get eliminated by the male invaders. And let´s face it, the majority of male civilians are equally untrained as the women - so what are they gonna do against tanks, grenades and AK 47s?
The women and children then are on their own and it is literally guaranteed that enemy forces will violate, brutalize and slaughter them, take them as hostages etc. as they make their way through towns and villages. It has been like that since the dawn of humanity, in absolutely every war, every crusade, every big conquest, every revolution. The situations of men "protecting and saving women" always happen as isolated cases, far and few between.
We as women are basically always on our own "when sh** hits the fan".
And we fare much better in life if we learn and accept that early on, then move accordingly and make sure to equip ourselves to the best of our abilities (don´t live with men, secure your living quarters, learn self defense and martial arts, learn how to handle all types of weapons and carry several of them with you when you´re out and about).
So don´t let a man tell you that you have to accept him and deal with him, just because other men will one day inflict violence on you and then you will need his dusty supposedly-superman a$$!
13:38 I can say that you speak facts!!! I was in those relationships were I was the one providing and it was the worst 6 months of my life... I lost weight, hair and my self esteem.... after finding your channel it helped me know my worth more ❤️❤️❤️
i am a spoiled girly. i lost a lot of friends due to being spoiled by my man (8 years together) they were a bunch of haters
i own my own house.
i am stuck in between going to college or starting my own business
i don't know if college is the right option for me but i do know i need to further my education right now so i can advance to the next step.
i feel stuck and it's hard because i don't have a support group and i would really like someone to do things with but i guess doing it alone is the climb
You can do it bestie!
UGH an old language tutor of mine always wanted to go places with me to "study", like Applebee's and sporting events. Looking back, I got played. He wanted to be seen with me. He benefited, I didn't. I paid my own way anyway bc I knew he was being weird and didn't want to "owe" him anything, but wowww
I’ve had THE MOST INSANE anxiety and have had trouble eating, etc.; but GIRRRLLL..watching your videos has made me THE CALMEST right now that I’ve haven’t been in a while and I’m just super grateful the universe brought me to this information that you given me right now. I’m finna be dangerous af to these lower than low, bare minimum ass men who I KNOW will try to hit my line once I’m UP-UP, they finna be sadder than before they met me 😂
Best channel for women and I'm here for it queen!! These conversations and ideals have become taboo but its only because of pick mes and women hating men. There are channels talking about its ok to be a predator as long as its not a a child predator. If shes eighteen then she should be happy to become an alpha widow. Like wtf why are men becoming like this? Regular men think they are high value. No, those are the super good looking, super rich guys with good morals. Not you Michael with your 450 Credit score and apartment lol Your a regular man so if you are lovable and willing to love a woman, that's good. We need to report and ban channels that have thousands of women haters in the comments. They are influencing regular men in so many negatives ways. Its dangerous to allow this!
No seriously, I have a 6 year old daughter and the culture shifts amongst males in this country is so frightening and threatening. I don't want these wolves in their Sheep's clothing to trick her into years of suffering like they did to me. And even videos like Ellie's being public and accessible to these dangerous men makes me nervous, because the more they know about our restorative philosophies the more they can build their defenses and improve their trickery
as someone who has saturn in her 7th house, bestieee you’re literally saving me from getting into a karmic relationships ✨
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Wait, how do you know this? How can I find out if I have that?
It's crazy how many people just assume your a couple when your dinning out with a male "friend", i didn't realize this until i saw so many people glancing at me & a male acquaintance of mine eating out. That man is in his 50's & I'm in my 20's so i thought people wouldn't make such quick assumptions on our relationship. Now i don't go eat out with any males unless it's in group or I'm on a date. The glances were very uncomfortable & noticeable to me while my male acquaintance was unbothered I guess because he was dinning with someone with decent looks & much younger than him? He eventually confessed his feelings for me while i told him it won't happen in this life time but he hasn't given up by the looks of it. I find big age gaps to be gross (20+yrs) as well as the men who find no issues with such things. This man is pretty decent & helps those in need so thats why i haven't completely cut him out of my life but i have limited his access to me.
I love this channel so much. When I stopped trying to people-please and realized my worth the man I was dating stepped up like crazy. I didn’t realize how much I needed to love myself more
THIS has changed my life!! TYSM❤🥂💃💖
The sad violin inserts get me everytime😭. As a girl in the world, thanks for the perspective Bestie♥️
I am so happy I found you 🥰🥰 I feel so safe and supported here like seriously my heart feels safe, much appreciate to you ❤️
I absolutely love the edits lmao and the violin music 😂
😂thank you bestie
I’m so happy I found you lol
Love that energy !!
thank you bestie 🫶🏽
They fantasize about s hitting the fan because of the lawlessness and in that lawlessness they will not go to jail if they are violent/abusive toward women.
“You are actually really ugly “ ~ My Ex !! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ thank you Estelle for sharing the fox story 😭😭 it’s all clicking
I died with the... "5050 dusties, below bare minimum, low effort man" 😂 I love your channel! Keep doing this!
My firearm and Belgian Malinois are gonna protect me more during WWIII than a dusty man 💅🏻😘
I really enjoy her videos. I also feel like 5% of the time she’d make a really successful cult leader.
That's why my ex never introduced me to his family or friends or took me anywhere where he could be seen by someone of his upper echelon social circle. I'm not even half way attractive, he was ashamed of me.
He paid for all dates, offered me gifts but was his dirty little secret. Note: He wasn't married and was younger than me. Family money
Just because of attractiveness he was ashamed of you?
@@winxclubstellamusa100% sure he wasn't married or had a girlfriend. He was probably still in touch with an ex or trying to conquer an upperclass lady.
He lived with his father and we always had videocalls at night (every night). I heard him talking to his dad few times. One time i even had some documentations sent to his address (because i was out).
I was just a dirty little secret placeholder but too ugly/too lower class to even been shown as a conquest to his group of friends. If I was some beautiful high class woman he would want to be seen with me in his circle.
When men are pursuing their careers or dream women they like to have some low budget women on the side. Not very pretty and with good morals so he knows she will be exclusive and loyal but he doesn't take the risk of falling in love and won't be too hard to dump when new opportunities arrive.
And I didn't ger rid of him because he was the one destroying my life. I was an expat in his country and had no friends or family nearby (easy target, right) so he was pretty much the closest person i could rely on.
I also have some health issues that were aggravated by his behavior. Elle already made a video on how women mistreat women when they want to get rid of them and actually dumping them doesn't work because if they don't have a replacement ready they will go with 'you are crazy. Making a big deal out of nothing. We're good im just stressed over X and Y'.
I've seen exactly same conversations being played with other women, including the ones i know. Like men going through courtship phase, ask them for a relationship, playing good boys and after closing the deal within 2/3 months they start the detachment. Then when women complain they have been wronged and taken advantage the same reply follows 'I didn't hurt you. Your brain is hurting you. It's just your feelings. Just take it easy. Isn't a big deal'.
I find myself extremely exhausted trying to please him. Like it makes me extremely fatigued. He expects me to work hard and come home to play hard. Otherwise I’m labeled as boring.
Girl make him serve you when you get home, tell him to run your bath and get dinner started while you unwind, then give you a body rub. Frame it like something he GETS to do for you. Shift the paradigm
wow. these vids have made me realise that my ex guy friend was indeed using me for social clout. If we were walking in the street, he’d literally say “My Social credit is going up UP.” I thought it was a compliment coz I looked fyne but he was playing chess and I was playing checkers. Once I stopped giving him attention he replaced me with another girlie. When the girlie was in Paris, guess who he was trying to reach out to again. Lol I’m so done. Wishing him all the best.
Guuurrl, keep dropping these gems! Pointing out that men benefit just from being in your presence was... *chef's kiss.*
He was a 28 years old man without a car, I nagged him to buy a car he did after more than a year and once he had it, He had the audacity to tell me « ok I have a car now, now what about you? What do you bring to the table? » we were on face time and I was like 😧. Sir I wasted my gas for a year and a half to see you and I was a student! what about YOU paying me back??? That was my first and lsat time dating a broke guy. Telling me « you’re not a real woman » just because I refused to suffer from lack of money. Sir my parents worked hard for me to have everything I need. So no, you won’t drag me to your level. You mom can suffer for you. I won’t.
The more I listen to you, the more my past makes sense!!! Thank you for sharing wisdom 💕 I love learning from you, Elle!
The sad violin kills me every time!🤣
Lol yes I got rid of all guy friends awhile back and any man that spends time with me now must pay. I never go out for free 🤣
with this strategy, the men you get are loaded and have options, today they pay for you, tomorrow they pay for someone else who replaces you, you won't be exclusive, high value men enjoy variety, that's why they never settle, of course you will also meet another value man after, who will then d1g and leave, then you meet another and another ad infinitum, after sometime, you realize you are a high value man's toy
@@5678plm they pay because they know the value of spending time with a woman, unlike you, therefore they don't have that "dig and discard" logic that you have... 😂 And I don't really get where your point is going, what's your alternative ? That women should settle down for low effort men ? You wish ! If you can't step up, no problem you do you, she will find someone that can. That won't be hard, definetely not as much as for you to find a women that accept that kind of attitude from her man.
@@5678plm define "high value"
That lady with locs, is a women's woman. She calls a thing a thing. Ms Shonda walks the talk. Listen to the women of integrity. We need each other.
My below minimum effort ex promised me mountains, but when s hit the fan (a war started in my country), he ran away sooo quick🤡 So I wont be running to you, dude, bc there is no chance you will be there for me😂
The "get that baaaag bestie" part is my fav❤
Someone wanting you and then can’t have you and he says that you’re ugly anyways, let him know that even the ugliest person (referring to yourself) didn’t want him then that must really suck for him.
At 54 yrs old, you are one of the best at educating and supporting females. I've learned so much!
NOT THE XY CHROMOSOMES 😂
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Finding your channel is the best thing that happened in my life in the last months. ❤ every week i look forward and can't wait for a new video of yours 😊
They know they supposed to be doing better thats why they attack
You’re literally changing my life. This all makes so much sense
I dont agree with everything this channel says but it is so entertaining and its a refreshing take. WE NEED IT. I dont agree with everything but at least it makes me Think about things that I was trained not to, and discern ... so thank you, im having a great time here
Genuine question: what parts don't you agree in?
Hi, yes would love to hear what type of thigns you dont agree with? Just to see what other's perception on these videos are not to judge. 😊
@@Priscila-yy4wzthis isn't necessarily a 'disagreement' but a misalignment with what she talks about regarding relationships, and what I personally want in life. I do want a provider man, but I'm also interested in women so I wouldn't mind taking up more masculine roles in those relationships. Oh amd kids are definitely not a factor in either.
I wish we had a queer version of Manifestelle lol.
I've been trying gay dating but it seems like we can't escape gender roles here either, I think I want my queer relationships to have different dynamics compared to the ones with men.
@phtherapyxcast7996 thanks for replying your extended view!
✨I’m not gonna let you fvck up my genetic✨
This should be a the new “live love laugh” wall decoration
that video humbled them so they are trying to humble her ,💯
I'm bi. When dating women I want to spoil them, make them feel all pampered. It ends up actually going 50/50.
But if a guy doesn't want to spoil me at all, that's a turn off.
Same, this is exactly how I feel. When I'm with women, concerns about safety or other threats men pose go away so the relationships feel more equal or more open to discuss and debate what we want our dynamics to be. I love it!! My ex and I used to take turns being 'provider and receiver'.
I have been listening to your videos all morning. I wish I had access to this knowledge years ago.