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2:08 Besides the obv can I point out how much bad taste you must have to ask someone you just met to remove their makeup, it's like asking a man to show you their balance and/or ask how much they make on the first date.

If he wants you to build with him but he makes the income and you stay at home, he needs to marry you. And in the process he needs to be willing to pay you a "wage" so you don't have to beg for pocket money whenever you want to do the smallest nice thing to yourself (or just buy groceries for the family) and sign a prenup that splits every additional wealth gains that occur during the marriage 50/50 in case of divorce. If he is not willing to do that, he does not see what you do for him and the family and he sure as hell does not appreciate it (and you are set up for financial abuse from your partner). You can also map out lots of other scenarios and how they should go in your prenup like who the kids should live with etc.. Statistically, people who sort that stuff out are less likely to get divorced. If you stay at home for a guy, also make sure that you got a 401k sorted - statistically you will outlive him and that shouldn't mean you end up having to significantly cut back when you're a grandma. And yes, the good guys exist, but I didn't find mine on tinder ;)

I want beautiful romantic things, and it's okay for me to say that! It's okay to admit it to myself! I WILL BECOME THE PERSON I WANT TO BE!

Whenever my brother wanted to get away with doing something AWFUL to me, he'd say, "I was just trying to teach her a lesson" or "When will she learn?" ...coming from the worst man* I have ever met.

Whenever a man would say, "You can just do all of those beauty treatments at home, they don't have to be so expensive.", I would be stumped. However, you've shown me three things: 1 - I don't have to argue with a man about those things, if they don't get it, they can f off. 2 - If I do spend all day doing those things they'll suddenly wonder why I have no time to spend with them. Money < time because you can't get more time but you can always get more money. PLUS, it's way more relaxing having someone else style my hair, do my nails, wax me, etc. 3 - The moment those things AREN'T done, they take notice and they DO CARE.

Regarding living with a man, I grew up in a household with the household tasks being really well balanced between my parents - I had the luck of having this model, tasks shared, expenses shared, conflicts solved quickly... So I have a certain standard in regard to who I will share my space with. At some point in my life, some years ago, I had to move on the other side of my country for a new job, and the fastest way for me to have a roof over my head for at least some months was to get a shared flat. I ended up being the only woman, with 3 men - more like 3 adult-shaped children, really. I was NOT treated like a person with her own life. I was the only one handling everything in the apartment (while having the smallest wage, might I had). The moment I dared stand up for myself, one of these men became some middleschool level of bully, to the point I ended up filing a police complaint against him AND moved and left them in their trash. This cunt couldn't wrap his pea brain and frail ego around the fact that I wouldn't bow to him. Anyway, now I own my flat and live on my own (with a kitty incoming), and I will remain extremely picky about which man enters my flat. I am not stooping down to someone's level. I expect someone to be at my level and to mutually lift each other up in our ventures. I'm not here to do the heavy lifting for a man's ego. I'm not here to be a man's second mother/free therapist. I'm not giving up on myself and my life for a man. The man will have to make himself worthy enough for me to stop whatever I am doing and take a good look at him. Also the man will do 50/50 on the expenses for the apartment, no freeloader is allowed in my house - only guests get to be freeloaders, because they're not here long term and I also willingly offer that for them as a host.

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I'm so tired of brad pitt, drake and the fact that the babydaddy-babymama phenomenon is romanticized gosh. And the audacity of people to always blame women? Disgusting. Honestly i do feel lonely when I'm done with the day and i scroll through "relationship-family content" but apart from those ting few times i am so very happy to not settle for less like many of my friends did(i can see their boyfriends/husbands aren't treating them right but patriarchy is so ingrained in their(my female friends' mind) they don't even realise they're being used. Don't even get me started with doctors. The last guy i had feelings for, doesn't even talk to me now, while when he joined the medical school i was his emotional support lol"

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Damn this was good!

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Listening to Pearl trying to justify her view points is like watching someone trying to argue with a tree 🤣

Skinny actually means young. Youth means furtile. Act fast😉

Off topic but you guys had cars at 16? Oh to live in the first world...

You suffer because you desire.

I’m shook at minute 21:00 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

The point and message of this video is so liberating. Elle you need to write a book. Discovering you and She-Ra seven has been my aha moment.

Not to be a pick me, but the man is clearly more intelligent here

The fact that people are out there purposely screwing up when i have been doing it withouth meaning to is crazyyy. 😂😂

youtube ONLY puts ads for tampons and other menstrual products + laundry detergent and other cleaning products on your videos. tffff

The cocodrile tears from Gwyneth 😂😂😂

I don't believe in no-fault. Why should the woman and children give up their family home because the man cheated? Why should a man have to pay alimony to a cheating wife?

exactly what i needed to hear today, thank you❤

In that spezific example in the video: Am I the only one who finds these kind of fight in the open kinda distasteful? How can they fight when the bill is served but not decide the payment before? If you can't pay (and others are not paying for you) you don't go to a restaurant. With friends you can meet at home and hang out (cooking together ist nice!).

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman hooking up if that is what she wants. Of course. Problem is too many men make little effort to make themselves sexually desirable. And if he is attractive, there is a danger he will throw a fit if he does not get what he wants from the woman he is with. Sex can be so toxic for women it is not worth the risk unless a woman is really good at self-defense. It is like celibacy is imposed on women while sex is being shoved at us at the same time. That is a horrible thing to do to sexual beings. Fortunately I have met a great guy and the imposed celibacy is over. But wow. Periods of celibacy went on for years. An aside. I read Dworkins book years ago. It was revolutionary. I have always been a fan. Left wing men needed calling out. Many were creepy and abusive and hid behind their "progressive" politics to hide it. However, knowing from experience, right wing men were much worse. They attacked from both sides. Indulging in the sexual revolution, confining a woman at home while working to confine all women to the home. Double oppressors. They have not changed.

I knew this channel yesterday and I'm loving the content! Just separated after 13 years woth a toddler man, and girls I have to say: best thing I've ever done! Your content validates my experience like nothing else could. THANK YOU BESTIE

I had a back injury in my upper 20s, and because I didn't know how to eat properly, I gained over 40lbs. On top of that, I had the arm birth control implant put in. I gained another 60 lbs after that. I was miserable. I was depressed and started having all kinds of health issues along with insomnia. I spent most of my 30s in a hole of misery. I've lost 76lbs and I have 25-35 more lbs to lose still, but I feel sooo much better. It is also for health, but health comes with taking care of yourself.

Imagine being asked like 3 times if that was really what he wanted to say for his vows and TRIPLING DOWN, not just doubling down. TRIPLING down. Pathetic

So real because why did I start off not caring, even loving to be seen, with the highest standards just to end up being mocked into a pickme??? Of course, it was only a short, dark period of my life, but still, I look back in pity

Thank you, Elle. As a perfectionist and orphan young woman, I needed that message. I am always working and studying to honour my parents. It has become a life purpose for me. Being a good girl and following always the rules gets tiring and I forget myself sometimes with all the responsibilities. Keep shining, Elle 💝💘💖💓💞💕 To all the people who read this message, you are loved and you are bright. Never let others tell you aren't. Any time you are sad, remember: Don't cry, because your tears are like pearls. That was one of my grandmas tips💞💖

You ARE pretty, and it is good that you know it! I agree. I am sick of women being made to feel like they must disagree with and discard compliments.

I grew up in a Christian household and I was always taught to never let a boy touch you. As a got older they said that I should not let just any man have access to me and that I am valuable and deserve a man who will love me, respect me, and treat me as his equal. Even tho growing up, I was so insecure with myself and appearance, I never settled for anyone no matter how desperate I was to not be alone. I personally want to have a family one day. I love kids and I would love to have my own but I'm not gonna let just any man have that with me. Keep your standards high ladies📈📈📈

My dad bought my mom a wagon to help her take groceries from the car into the house…for MOTHERS DAY. So he can continue to sit on the fucking couch and not help her take groceries inside and put them away

I used to be a pick me. Because of the way I was raised, I learned to be an object. Unseen and unheard. I was a massive people pleaser. Couldn’t hold my boundaries. Minimized myself. Thought everything was my vault. Desperately wanted a relationship and love, to feel valued and needed. I was programmed to be this way by my parents. Men absolutely wrecked me for it. Pickens are codependent

I've owned chickens since i was very young (i promise this is going somewhere) and sometimes predators would find a flaw in the coup and break in. Two common predators were raccoons and foxes. It always sucked when we lost one of our birds, but it was still better when the fox attacked, because the fox would take one bird and eat it, while raccoons would kill almost all of them and leave them to rot, like they enjoyed it. I don't know why raccoons do it, but i do know the motivation of humans. They want to "put them in their place," they want to torture them. I thought this would make an interesting analogy. Transmasc and team 🐻

Honest to God, this has helped me so much when dealing with a male friend. We have no romantic interest in each other but this helped me re-evaluate the friendship. He treats me like a low investment friend despite me doing so much for him. I'm done catering to this manchild's needs.

Girl, I hope more men get better in the future. Because I am NOT settling.

It's really hard for me to even talk to women. I have social anxiety and I suspect autism too (dunno, not diagnosed). But anyways almost all my female friendships have ended badly, they've betrayed me or just have been toxic all the time until I realized and ended the friendship. So, because of that I don't trust women and it's really hard. I have zero female friendships as of right now (for more than a year now). I am grateful that I have my sisters but I do feel I need friends. It makes me cry, but most of the times I cant even get a single word out near women. Male friendships are also almost impossible, because well, we all know most of the time they are hoping for something. Plus men just don't get me as a woman you know. Anyways, whenever I am going out with my boyfriend and there are other women too, I just can't even start a conversation. And I suspect I don't have an inviting vibe (cuz im literally scared) so they are not starting a Conversation either. I don't know how to fix that, the fear is immense. I can talk to girls only when I am drunk and after that the relationship does not develop to something further. I am afraid that even if I can make a female friend, I'd be constantly questioning whether I can really trust them or whether they are really who they show they are etc. I am really just so sad recently because of this and want to do something about it, but I don't even know where to start. Last time I tried to make female friends (they were already friends together as a group) I found out after the interaction with me they just talked behind my back... I really took all my courage to even talk to them and they were so nice to me etc and idk... just hurts really bad and makes me even more scared of women. Scared of trying again.. idk why I am even writing all this here but I guess I don't have a friend to rant this about lol

I appreciate this I'm glad I'm not the only one and I don't know what's going on with somebody I'm not going to have them being controlling over me and then expecting my attention when nobody's providing for me I've never lived up a man no man has provided like me like that I've always had to provide for myself so I don't know what their control issues to stop I am not going to have somebody expecting me to give give give give give give and give attention and this and that and other off of what seeing a man on CZcams or offline I'm not going to have a man expecting me to pay their bills in certain ways to use me in certain ways and then expect me to Finn for myself and then want to have access to me in certain ways what time does usually why I've been called a b**** so many times or this or that or nothing and it's a f****** Beyond sick of it I've always been tired of that they want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want want as if I'm expected to be like okay I'm not a f****** doormat and I'm not going to put up with certain things and certainly not in my account either or offline or online I'm not being mean I just I've been fed up all the more reason why nobody's been with me in any way not even sexually offline or any of that for 18 years ever since I've been separated from my ex-spouse he wasn't even really financially taken care of me or supporting me I was mainly the one doing it that was what was always being expected from me and I got tired of it I am tired of taking care of a man to be a wife and everything else and be there at home perfect little housewife why I took care of most of everything and I had to pay the bills majority of the time when they were making more than what I was and then I was supposed to be expected to make sure I look good and this and that and take care of this and take care of that when I was trying to do that all the f****** time everything was taken from me all the time how many people were f****** involved on allowing by telling him telling a grown man that he has the right to do that to me and then telling me as a good Christian woman I should be allowing that f*** no I'm not here to you know go off on anyone or any of that I'm just I've had enough of the s*** that has been told to tell what I need to be doing expected from me all the time when I haven't seen s*** basically telling me what a man deserves expecting me to think or feel as if I don't deserve anything when I know I do oh and for anyone that was talking s*** nothing was ever given to me I worked for every f****** thing no man gave me the s*** that I paid for and bought on my own so I'm not going to have somebody online expecting me to give them the wifey material somebody that's never been with me offline it's not going to happen you're not getting the wifey material expecting that online it doesn't work that way I was hearing that from people like seriously I couldn't believe that they were trying to make out as if I was a gold digger and I was like wait a minute here I paid for most of everything on my own it didn't come from a man it came out of my pocket from what I worked I got tired of that anyways with much love and respect I just I couldn't believe the amount of crap that was being convinced of. And I'm certainly not going to allow somebody being controlling of me in or out of my account certainly not coming from any man or anyone else that is not paying my bills not taking care of me don't live with me not any of that. I don't know a fazza.

One time I explicitly told a man that I did NOT want to live together. Why did we go to his apartment and his key didn’t work? He had just stopped paying rent👀 this was 15 years ago so I was guilted into letting him stay with me. Not in 2024. I never want to live with a man again. The man of my dreams would be happy living across the street becuz he WILL respect how much I appreciate my space.

Girl thought they were going to text her back and give her money????? BESTIE WAKE. UP.

Call. The. Police. They slept on your floor for the whole night without being woken up by the police??? BESTIE WAKE UP

Gold digger is a term used by men who have no gold

My mom was such a terrible pick me to nobody’s and my father who I currently live with is a terrible npc so I’m crying in my room on Father’s Day while he does god knows what. I knew it’d be worthless to plan something too. Happy Father’s Day everyone

It reminds me of how my boss used to brag to his friends about the 'tight deadlines' he met 'under stress', meanwhile I was doing ALL the 'minor' time-consuming tasks on the SIDELINES, and all I'd get in return was an off-hand comment about how I was 'a good secretary'. SECRETARY?! I'm doing most of the damn project on my own! At that point I wasn't his assistant, I was the project leader, constantly giving good suggestions and pointing out possible problems in the original plans so he could just sit there and do his simple little tasks. But no more, I'm so happy I quit that job.

Lol I'm so glad I found this channel.. It's not just me that is disturbed to my soul with the red pill bullshit... Pickmishas has me cracking 😂

I read Steve Harvey’s book “act like a lady, think like a man” it really opened my eyes to a lot of their hypocrisy and wrong thinking. For example, if you sleep with him first date you’re low value along with many other things. Noted. Self respect and self control are very important qualities girls…. But also, it goes both ways. What the hell do I want with a man who worships the dick god and has no self respect and self control. Why do they think that’s acceptable or attractive, it’s not at all. And hypocrisy makes you stupid? So get out of my face.

When will you post again... I'm missing you didi... I'm gonna call you Didi, that's Hindi for elder sister

Thank you for these reminders, elle✨

It’s exponentially self-perpetuating when you’ve built your boundaries up to keep BS out - the system keeps itself alive and it just moves trash right on out of your life should it get past the filter barrier 😅 It’s really not as much work to maintain once you’ve built it