we’re in a sassy man apocalypse BUT still thriving and vibing
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In this episode, we delve into a societal issue referred to as the "sassy man apocalypse". Elle discusses the phenomenon where men, due to a lack of fatherly guidance, remain in a state of perpetual boyhood, characterized by selfishness and a dependency on women. She passionately argues against women tolerating this behavior and encourages them not to shoulder the responsibility for men's lack of maturity. Throughout the episode, Elle empowers her listeners to recognize their own inherent worth and refuse to enable immature male behavior. She wraps up the episode with a powerful message, reminding all women that they are truly the "prize" and should never allow anyone to devalue them.
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I'd rather grow old with my cat than be a married single mother.
Same ❤❤❤
Same same. Ain't non way
Yess
hahaha me too
YESS. I feel so bad for them. Imagine having someone and still feel lonely
“Just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent man” yes sing it baby!
“A man who depends on you subsidizing 50% of expenses. That’s a man dependent on you” you guys have the same insane focus on money as pull people. lol you all are a perfect example of horseshoe theory. You guys hate the pill people so much that you loop back around and agree with them on many issues.
An insane focus on money and a relationship as a transaction, other top liked comments in this video argue that divorce being allowed is bad and sex before marriage is bad.
But with your attitude that's all you will attract
@@Amanda-hc5ldum no, it’s not black and white where we have to be dependent, we can hold down our own and we don’t need to lose our autonomy to attract a man who will take care of us. If you’re straight up dependent all you’re going to attract is a man who will make decisions for you and that’s dangerous. Until we find a good one men are optional.
“Until You Find A Good One, Men Are Optional” I FELT THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
So true
Girl. This sums it up perfectly.
basically
Bingo! 🎯
The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
These men are raised to be mommy’s boys 😢
😭
I’ve met sassy men who hate their mothers 😢cuz their mothers were neglectful
@@asiamaynemy brother is one of those sassy men. He hates my mom because she ruined his life. How? He never had to work (cause she bought him expensive clothes and gadgets during high school while my sister and I had to buy our own clothes and give her half for a phone if we wanted a new one). He used her car anytime he wanted as long as he dropped her off wherever she needed to be (my sister and I took the bus, subway, got rides from friends and bf’s and walked. We cleaned, cooked did laundry, the dishes, ironed the laundry post wash etc. while he played PlayStation Xbox and took naps. But now, both my sister and I have good jobs, I have a masters, my sister has a PHD, I live in a nice apartment alone, my sister lives in a nice apartment too and she has a daughter. We are financially stable, and we go on international trips. Guess where my brother is? Still at my moms house. Still never had a job (he’s 30 now). Dropped out of college. He smokes weed, plays Xbox, sneaks girls in and my mothers money has a habit of disappearing if you know what I mean. He still drives her car and they’re always bickering. My mother was so mean to my sister and I growing up. But now she brags to everyone about how she raised us right. Forget the fact that my sister and I have been in therapy for YEARS cause of her. She did a great job (to her). My brother blames her for not pushing him to success the way she ‘pushed’ us and he always talks about how life is easier for women. Teh! Btw, my mom wasn’t a typical single mom… my dad was in the home minding his own business like he was a housemate and not our father.
Congratulations to you and your sister for your success. I feel like this scenario happens a lot and is not discussed often enough. All the best to you.@@UltraMella
It’s to a point that I feel like if I were a boy mom in todays time, I’d be so embarrassed
I’ve been saying this for years. Women run the dating market. We control who gets action and who gets shut out. It’s why they hate us. It’s why incels and their various spin offs hate us.
And yet these sameen tell you to "choose better" when you give one of THEM a chance.
This is why I never gave these types of men the time of day after dealing with just 1 of these vile men when I was 20.
@@samtula5946 that’s where withholding sex before marriage comes in. It’s so easy to weed out who’s serious and who only wants temporary pleasure like that. And then no harm no foul. Just move on. No heartbreak, pregnancy scares or energy sharing. Just keep it stepping.
@@DutchessSarahJyuppppp
@@samtula5946yeah but we're the ones who have to say yes so, were the gatekeepers of it all, including men's lineages
@@DutchessSarahJy’all have to stop being so male identified. Withholding sex does nothing. A man can wait on sex before getting with you and when he finally gets it after months or years he switches up now that you’re stuck with him. A man can have sex with you earlier and stay with you for life. It’s not about sex it’s about the man so if you want to withhold sex do it because you want to not because you think it will weed out the dusties. Some men have no concept of time.
I remember meeting a ‘sassy’ guy at salsa recently. He tried to pull the ‘what do you bring to the table card,’ and when I said… ‘uhh myself,’ (because I knew not to play that game) he acted all smug and nasty like ‘that’s it?’ ‘Just yourself lol?’
You’d think after that, he’d leave me alone right?
No! He KEPT asking me to dance
And kept trying to squeeze out all my attention for the rest of the night.
Proof that men who try devalue you totally know you have worth. They’ll just try talk you out of realising it.
#ick
Ewww I dance too and totally could see that happening. They are such con's. His behavior def told you the truth! But wow they are entitled
@@WynnWynn-gl3fk yeah, or just straight up ignore ha
I remember going to a store and a man looked me up and down and asked me "Are you going to share what you buy with me?" I looked him up and down and said no lol he IMMEDIATELY changed his question to "will you let me share what I buy with you?"
Men will literally test to see what they can get away with and I promise you he would've had zero respect for me if I had responded positively to the first question and a lot of women don't understand that unfortunately.
So he thinks you’re worthless, but still tries to get with you? What?
@@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs what a chad
The mindset of "I can make my own money. But when im with my men, I dont have to" have to spread more louder
So you agree with the patriarchy
Sounds like a call girl to me
@@adambarker749 i do. i want to be a stay at home wife
I had a man tell me he has extremely bad financial habits. That "He might have six figures one day and he might be penniless in three days" I told him I need a man that understand finances...he said since I'm there I'll cover for him. I said I can't be keeping finances in check and you're ruining it...then I peaced the fvck out
Well done sis!! ❤🎉 Glad you walked away from that man child.
I know a guy who makes £30K a year, yet, he is so good with finances, he will retire when he is 55. He's married with 3 kids and gis wife is a stay at home mum.
He told me one word to having all this. Investing. Legend!
@@vikki8699he definitely wont retire that early taking care of five people on that tiny barely one person salary, definitely not in America, that's poverty level.
@@Rosemary46840He lives in the UK if she used the pound “£” sign.
@@vikki8699 it sounds like he is only taking into account himself with those finances
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And they're also quick to call WOMEN entitled for just having standards
Like just say you like tall guys and BOOM
@@muslimmetalman So what? Cry about it
@@JumpRopeQueen111 Are the tall guys in the room with us right now?
And they are also quick to call MEN entitled for just having standards
True on that! if I just ask for some decent respect and expect them to make a plan if they ask me out, all of a sudden I am entitled.
The reason men were courting women back in the day (and even being selective about women), instead of sitting on their high horse crying about 'yOu hIt ThE WaLl aT 30' like MoDeRN men today, is bc only a few decades ago, they HAD to marry the girl if they got her pregnant. For life.
Well ~ not always but it would definitely be highly pressured to do (because otherwise you were literally ruining that woman's life and condemning them to poverty).
It definitely would harm your ability to get a proper wife as well, regardless of class.
Yep, that's why my grandparents got married. They hate each other too 😂
Exactly it wasn’t necessarily because there was so much love back then it was because people weren’t allowed to have sex until marriage. Also women could not provide for themselves they needed a man for that
exactly! I heard a content creator (I believe Tonya) say 'Motherhood is determined by biology, but Fatherhood is determined by culture'@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 The culture not too long ago was that it was even shameful for men to walk away from their children and wife. Now that it's not (anymore), men are walking away in droves! There's no one to shame them into behaving correctly anymore. I believe the culture & the church/ religion kept them in check back then.
@@patty-pat-patit still happens in the east though.
Avoid mean, sassy, dusty & evil men xxxxx protect yourselves ladies. I like women opening up we need each other 👊🏾.
Vice versa to the fellas. Just sayin
This is the most empowering channel on CZcams. The world would be so much better for everyone if women had never lowered their standards in the first place. 🎉
Agree! ✨💖 elle is thee best!
There was a time when women were threatened with violence, lucky we are progressively climbing out of that ditch
It's their fault.
They bully you into lowering your standards. Some women couldn't stand the nuisance + headache and gave in to the pressure.
@@JohnDoe-nm5le explain? Very vague to the point its meaningless
The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
The bee doesnt come to the flower then ask it "what do u bring to the table" 😂
This needs more likes. I'm gonna frame this on my wall.
The bee looks for what the flower has to offer (nectar) no nectar, and the bee moves on.
Bee uses that flower and moves on to the next one if that flower is not good enough
@@aayushtiwari3272The flowers also use the bees to create more of themselves. Also female bees search for bigger variety of flowers than male bees, because they gain not only their nectar, but their pollen too. Male bees drink nectar just to stuff themselves up, while female bees do it to create the hive.
Comparing woman to a flower and men to bees is perfect. Bees do things…..and flowers don’t. Some flowers are ugly and stink. Most bees look the same ☠️
Congrats on giving us oxygen and paper and drugs, flowers. we thank you for your “hard” work” we only care about your sweet stuff to make more of us, we might dip in you again if it’s safe, or we might just go on to another sweet petunia ☠️
I was seeing a guy who was fine, tall and handsome but was expecting me to be happy if I just spend time with him / cook for him / give him massages - literally give him more than i recieve. That was exhausting. And he used to brag how he is such a man, a keeper, the one who protects cuz he used to be in military 😂😂 GIRLS dont trust what a guy says - trust what your gut says. If its draining, RUN
Omg! I hate that!
Like if I'm cooking for you, at least wash the dishes. If I'm giving you a massage, I want one too!
They think they're the only ones who work or go through stress, and that women are just there to serve them for crumbs in return.
Exhausting.
The military is a double edged sword for men.
💯💯💯
And carefull when you leave that kind of men, some women got maimed and murdered for that 😬
And they wonder why women threat them bably
😭🤣, this ain't it
'In his divine feminine receiving mode era' is bloody hilarious 😅
The music had me dying 😂😂😂
@@user-wr3ij3rl7qomg!! saaaaaaame 😂 I swear it gave me Deedee from Dexter vibes. Dancing in her ballerina outfit 😂🤣🤣
Choose better my nigga 😂😂🤷♂️
@@devinchapman3912 it's a stand alone funny phrase!
I don't get it. Women been telling us to be more feminine and in tune with emotions and here is the result. Shame insult and guilt
I have a cousin who is a "sassy man" and now he is single and miserable. He has a whole host of psychological problems and he was actually healthy and okay to begin with. He has done this to himself.
Like KS says “I’m going to hell and taking you all with me” like sheep led to slaughter.
Wow I going thru divorce with husband 24 yrs. As soon as he started KS red pill content all hell broke loose smh
I know a woman who came out of an abusive relationship. She waited a year to "heal" but still ended up being in a relationship with a man who gave her the bare minimum. She doesn't see it as the bare minimum, to her he is a saint who would save her from her misery. 2 months into their relationship, she got pregnant, and engaged to him. She doesn't see the financial and life difficulties ahead. She is a well-educated woman who earns more than him, yet they can't move in together because no landlord wants to rent them a 2-bedroom house. Once the baby is born, the sassy boy plans to work part-time to be the "main carer" of the child, while the wife would work full time + overtime to make ends meet. She must work 12-hour shifts, six times a week just to support this sassy man she chose as her baby daddy.
All this suffering just because she didn't see her worth. That she was worth more than this. She just rushed into the next man who showed her a bit of basic human decency. I wish I could tell her all of this and show her this video (and most of your videos), but she had cut me off from her life. It's safe to say she didn't want me to burst her bubble.
To all women out there who accept the bare minimum from a sassy man, I really feel for them. I hope more people see your videos. This should be a wake-up call to all women who can't see their worth.
it's hard to be friends with women like this, isnt it? They'll be sitting there, with their entire life burning in the background, going 'I'm so blessed! I have the best life & babydaddy eVeRrRrrr'.
@@patty-pat-pat it really is. and they justify their impulsive decision like, "When you know, you know." like sis, how'd you know? what did you know? why do you know? like what---
@@typicalairhead6846 'When you know-' -you know you're in a storm of hormones. 🤷♀ And why should it _become_ love eventually, esp. when it's so forced by accidental procreation? I even get that she wants this romance+ happy family fantasy, and to be this lucky one, the chosen one to 'know' 🙄.. but esp. with this financial future, all this sounds sooo bad.
..At least you won't have to babysit and listen to years of drama and despair.
@@cp_honey You're right. it's the happy hormones. like the high, isn't it? I've only realised that if she didn't cut me off, I would babysit her for years. Thanks for pointing that out.
@@patty-pat-pat yes those women are delusional and it’s really sad they can’t see how their low self esteem is making their lives harder than it needs to be. I have a bestie that go with an older dusty man who lives with his mom , had dv accusations, court cases, he was verbally abusive to her, cheated on her, got her pregnant and had her get an abortion, came in between our friendship to the point where we almost fell out and they were on and off. They’re not dating now because of the cheating but I could see she was still in contact with him because “he’s a good friend” 🙄. NOW the fool lost his current court case and he’s finally in jail and she stays in contact with him. I said please don’t visit that man he is not worth all of that. She makes comments about her hopes for a better man but clings onto this man because she’s afraid to be alone. Oh and he was on drugs, forgot to mention that.
My uncle told me my dad would've died eventually anyways because of drinking due to living with 4 women (no other men).
Why the absolute fuck would he tell me that?
Placing that blame on me hurt so much.
If men suffer from and hate women so much, why are they around them?
I had an alcoholic ex who actually blamed me for his drinking. He claimed he simply couldn't tolerate me sober. I left. He's still drinking. And still trying to get me back. I'd laugh if it weren't so insane and just plain sad.
They need us. They do really do we have inherent value n some resent us for that
@@pilarensi that's why they're mad if women don't need them to survive. They need us and want us to need them too. But we really don't. "Women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle" 😂
Just reverse whatever they say and you've got the truth 😂
Don't fall for it.
All lies.
They blame you to guilt you into accepting responsibility so you'll stick around trying to make amends whilst they derail you. RUN!
Lets keep those standards high girls
Let's keep those standards high, men
You Can All Agree Right That's Not Working Out To Well In The Long Run... Don't Focus On The Now Look To The Future!
If something doesn’t work and you just keep doing it don’t expect people to look at you crazy 😂
@@jlspracher anyone who has their shit together deserves to keep their standards high 🙏
you are just my CZcams mom, thank you for existing, really! 😭🙏🏻
😭😭😭🤎
Yay❤
This is such a sweet and wholesome comment 💕
Honestly very true! my ex lied about his degree and career and bummed in MY apartment, used my car, and financially/physically abused me. It was the biggest mistake and learning lesson i had in my life. He tried to hold me back in MY thriving career due to his insecurities.
My brother is a mommy's boy he's old and still want to be a mama's boy I can't. He does nothing for my mom
thank you for sharing🤎
"You can tell when they're energy is depleted." FELT THIS. Whenever I look at pictures from when I was in a relationship with a sassy narcissist that did not even want to buy a pizza for $30 unless we split it, but was benefitting from all my feminine energy, I can literally see how different my aura is. I don't have that glow in my eyes and aura, I was completely depleted, exhausted and in fact I ended up burning out. It was like a grey veil was over me. Whereas today, even though my life is not perfect, the results of being alone and getting rid of that narcissist are OBVIOUS. My eyes GLOW, my aura is VIBRANT. I feel like MYSELF again. All I´m saying there is truth in this, energy is real. Trust what you feel. If you feel like you´re being depleted of your energy, DUMP HIM as soon as you can. I wish I did that sooner, as I remember I always wondered why I felt drained around him, but did not understand why. I did not understand energy back then and wasn't into spirituality.
My childhood bestfriend wound up having a sassy man’s child. They split up and wound up back together- he watches my IG stories more than she does 🤮
Tell her
I loved this video. Especially the last sentence: "You are the source. You are the creation. You are the prize. You have so much inherent worth and value, and everyone else is working overtime so you don't see that."⚡✨
Hey! Can you tell me what does the last line mean,"Everyone is workinh overtime so you dont see that"?♡
@@yuookii150 It's like there is an entire system in place that is trying to make us feel like we are less than, flawed, unworthy, etc
YES! I have been having this conversation with people for the last year. So many men talkin outta their necks about all the things women should be and do while simultaneously doing less and less of the bare minimum male tasks 🙄🙄🙄
Talking about high value/traditional women do this and that.. meanwhile they’re living in someone’s basement lmao
The way this video opened, she’s so passionate ahhaa - I love
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“…and the OTTOMAN” bahahaha 😂 love that line
The title of the video is so accurate! I've been noticing this a lot lately.
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As a woman of 50, who understands the lesson Elle is talking about, the hardest way possible, I am so glad you get women know this decades before I did! Women don’t tear each other down, we clear the path for everyone in the future! People (men) are NOT a project!🔥
Yes, I’m 40 and I’m astonished how much young women already know. I had to learn the very hard way.
@@susannehuber3996men feel the same way about y’all . Women your age ruined marriage for men and women younger than you . We’re all bitter and use each other because that’s the standard and expectation y’all set
@@Joe-qm4yvbut you are single staying in mom's basement.
@@kanikakumari7219 actually I’ve got my own home no thanks to mom and dad it was all me . I’ve been on my own since 16 bc I’m a guy and we’re capable of financial responsibility self reliance unlike y’all 😁 being by yourself means nothing when all you girls are living on your dads money
@@Joe-qm4yvNot dad's money, child support.
Damn, this is relatable. My recent ex is a sassy man and it felt like he was an energy vampire. I was suffocated for 1.5 years with him and now that we are apart I’m starting to get my energy back.
I’m so glad I found your channel today. ❤
This was GOOD Elle! I literally just had to get rid of 2 "sassy" men...both wanting me to get dressed up/look good (for them), wanted me to pay for dates (for them), and let them use me for my resources (for them). You did a great job addressing why the men are not "men-ing" in today's culture. I agree that the lack of manhood traditions/rituals and fathers who "checked out" early played a big part. Add the whole manosphere/red pill/incel culture and us spoiled girlies are set up to fail! Keep exposing this so all women can benefit💕
💯 accurate
we have high standards babyyyyyyy
purr🤎🤎
Let’s leave all those red pillers alone. Yes, even the hot ones.
Here here!
I met a handsome man once who talked red pilled. Immediately made him ugly in my eyes so I left him alone. Funny thing was, he got really angry with me for walking away from him. He may have been beautiful then, now, hes run down unhealthy and ugly with no friends. The inside ALWAYS creeps to the surface.
You already taught the slaves how to read, honey.
I've never seen a hot red piller. If he opens his mouth and says stupidity, instant no and he's now ugly, downgraded from the "passable" face or nice body he might've had. They are usually just _ok_ in the face anyway, work out, and wear decent clothes. But fine? No.
If they are actually handsome and/or the body makes them fine, they then downgrade to attractive, but still unattractive af 😂
@@islakaySame thing I said. I've honestly never seen one and that's not just bcs they're icky when they speak. But on a physical level, never have I ever
@@islakay Honestly I was thinking the same thing.. These red pill men usually look like garbage disposal trucks. Evil thoughts show on the surface.
It's so heartwarming to watch this video + read the comments and see women lifting each other up.
Advice for young women: when you introduce the idea of not sharing 50/50 to a man, mind you that he might say "that's a great idea!" because he wants all that honey and will agree to anything. Happened to me twice in my life, and now I have a vengeful ex-husband blaming me for stealing all his money and using him, spreading gossip amongst our families and in our friend group. If a man doesn't get this naturally and shows that he is willing to spend on you naturally, don't go there. You shouldn't have to educate a man on the basic economics of being a woman: if he doesn't see it, you will not change his mind by sheer force.
When elle said her “THAT IS NOT MY TASK” quote, i litterally yelled out loud “YEAAAA!” 👏😂💖✨
Elle thank you for my reup of girl power energy!💕
Yes! This is what feminism is actually about ❤🎉🎉
@@Tealaful aamen ! 😎💖
Testosterone levels in men are at an all time low. That may explain a few things.
Because of chemicals in food and everything else it isn't just cultural it's biological
My 20 year old little brother sent me a message from a girl who asked him to give her something to remember him by and he said he's tired of giving girls things😂
I told him then he should consider dating men because women are receivers while men are providers
I honestly blame the red pill movement and the effect it's having on these young men
Thanks Elle, for this video. I'll encourage him to join a positive male group or club of some sort
@@kibitzrI don't know about where you live but I live in an European capital and (basic)escorts charge between 100 to 150 euros PER HOUR. Yes, PER HOUR. And they might charge dislocation (like uber fare).
And these escorts don't provide sexual services only. They are available to go on dates, weddings, events etc.
A 3 hour date and these ladies are getting between 300 to 500 euros.
But men want women to basically do it for free. Sex, companionship, armcandy and not forgetting when they want the girlfriend to do chores and manage his agenda like his doctor appointment and remembering buying flowers for mothers day.
Obviously, he doesn't have to buy gifts for girls. He can buy gifts for his xbox and bar friends, instead. And then we have groups gathering online talking about 'male loneliness' because they dont have access to sex and romantic relationships (with women), otherwise they could be dating other men.
Still, nobody cares about 'women's loneliness'. The single mothers who have to support a family by themselves withot a support system are shamed and the women who decided to be single and adopt a cat and a dog are also shamed as 'crazy cat ladies'.
@kibitzr well when it all gets broken down entirely in THEE most simplistic form, men claim they "need" sex they love our bodies and our beauty our companionship our nurturing. You come to us. We have to open our bodies TO you. You TAKE from us. It's a different experience. So yes. We get to just BE. But being taken by a man in and of itself already can be draining so you have a role to maintain us because again, it's MEN who want our bodies.
@@redleeks6253 Women don’t die alone though, Women know how to build connections while men fail to do so.
It sounds like he's being used which a lot of women do all the time.
I feel like saying that is just building up old and dated gender roles. You’re brother doesn’t have to give her anything imo especially if this is the very start of the relationship. And her asking him for stuff right out the gate doesn’t sit right with me either.
The intro is too accurate😂 She’s hilarious!
But seriously though. We should leave those sassy men alone and let them find their inner goddess. Until they finally realise nothing inside them is goddessing
😂😂😂 why do I even try to imagine their inner goddess? I think I have a mental trauma now😅
Nothing inside of them is goddessing😭😭😭
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And rhe exact reason why theyre "lonely and depressed" and need women to pacify them and distract them from that gaping hole inside them.
"Inner goddess" is wild🤣🤣🤣🤣, I'm using that ma'am.
I literally have an uncle (grown, in his 40s) and his mother (my granny who is 64) is still working nultiple jobs to pay his bills. SMH, when I learned this, i realized how pervasive mooch men were 😔
It’s not nice or fair but some men hate their moms because he blames her for spoiling him. I had an ex who even stated he dislike that his parents made him the way he was. I read a book that stated in order to not turn into a masculine woman and create a feminine son you literally have to stop catering to your son’s needs after 5 years old. This doesn’t mean neglecting them of course but they are suppose to be given chores. You aren’t suppose to adhere to their cries when they demand wanting something (or everything when it comes to my kid) when you go to the store. If you choose to buy them something it has to be tied to a reward system. They have to actually earn whatever item they want so you basically start the allowance routine very very early for your boys. Meanwhile you give freely to your girls so they don’t feel they have to bring something to the table later. I feel the roles of how we raise boys and girls have been flipped by women that wanted approval from their spouse so they spoil the boys and punish the girls (thinking this is what they should have done in their relationship) when in reality they chose the wrong mate. Plenty of single women have raised healthy adjusted men (just think of the countless widows left after multiple wars). So this topic is so much more complicated than the whole men are this way because they are fatherless. It’s more about the culture of women for some odd reason that continue to raise their son’s like surrogate spouses even when they are married thinking these boys will magically become men that understand women and their needs in the future. Not going to happen, they just get worse the older they get. then due to guilt as well as how mothers are wired we just keep giving to them until they have turned into whole sassy men. So unless there is a man (husband, brother, father, even an uncle) around that can stop that mom from giving into that child/ boy without her flipping out or going into overprotective mode those men child are going to continue ruining our life/ society as a whole.
100% agreed
100% spot on. What's the name of this book?
my dad been a sassy man nearly my entire life (just recently he starts to provide financially, when we're all grown and sick of him lol). my ex also had this disease, and i was like "nah, not gonna suffer from this disease again" rather be single than interact w these men again
I used to think it was normal to go 50/50 on everything with a man. Now men still ask me if I want to go 50/50 and I simply say "no" and "I wasn't raised like that." And then they pay. Men have no problem with providing for a woman. You woke me up haha
What's wrong with 50/50?
lol if she say no then I guess we finna rob this mf today 🙈
@@mitza420its never actually 50/50. Men say that when they want to justify spending money on a woman but rarely split emotional labor, child rearing, cleaning, etc. in addition, it should be 100/100 where both partners give it their all and support one another. 50/50 men will keep tabs on you but get mad when you do the same to them.
@@Confettifunthat’s not what is discussed in the comment or the video. They are saying even if the relationship was truly 50/50 that’s still bad. I don’t get why you guys hate pill people when that’s one of their main ideas as well
Literally what is wrong with like, spliting bills and such, literally no reason not to
The “man” who raised me also ab**ed me, mentally & physically. Looking back, he was the sassiest man I’ve ever known. My mother worked full time. 😒
The sound effect of “divine feminine receiving era” cracks me up! 😂 sassy man sound effect hahaha
I want it as a ring tone!!! So good 😊
Love this coined term “Sassy men” that perfectly described the blocked men in my life 😂
I love to se guys in healthy “bro groups “ too
Keep high standards we carry life 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶💗💗💗
Yess! The title alone is a statement. We needed this session bad bestie 🙌🏽💛
They are haggling your worth and you are letting them, BESTIE WAKE UP!
Hell yeah! ❤ Excellent video lovely!
Had to immediately come and give it a like. But I'll watch after my shift is over.
I appreciate u bestie🤎 get that bag
I love this channel. It makes me appreciate the man I have while also holding him to a standard that allows him to be deserving of me. Thank you for your wise words, bestie ❤
thank you soo much elle, watching your videos has slowly been changing me to the woman i really want to be. Im extremely driven, proactive and independent but because of your videos i realized that's what made me depleted and in a horrible relationship before. I coddled my ex because i thought it was love and all he did was become a parasite in my life.and in no way im saying i want to or need to change but im learning how to act on dates so that i can attract the right man. Things are so much clearer to me now,. I know im capable of doing everything for myself, i work and provide for myself, im very career driven but i want a man to take care of me and take charge. ANd i realize now thats its okay for me to do nothing and let the man take charge. Im the type to take care of things if they arent gettign done, but now im using my resting ability to just let things happen and i feel so empowered in a way. Youve made me feel like its okay to be to expect things from men, and its taught me to attract the kind of men im looking for. It may be so small but i went on a date yesterday and didnt feel like ordering so i just told the guy to order for me and it felt so good. But it just goes to show i have a longway to go to find a balance. I just really wanted to thank you
🥹im happy to help bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
The feminist movement changed the guardian of a woman's body from her father, to herself. Back when women were owned by their father's, even the father would not allow his daughter to marry a man who could not provide for her financially. So just because the guardian has changed, does not mean, the transaction is now free and a woman should allow herself to be with a man who cannot fend for himself or her and their offspring. Being a married woman, means you are denying yourself the pleasures of other men ravishing your body with pleasure and showering you with gifts. It is more of a sacrifice for a woman because were she to have a child, she could die. Men do not die when their wives give birth. Therefore women should not cheapen the transaction of relationships, by giving themselves over to silly, immature men who cannot provide and if she MUST give herself over to an immature man, there had better be the best financial incentive in doing so.
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I mean, men are still held liable for the child though which can ruin them financially for the rest of their lives, even if the child is a product of the woman raping the man he can still get taken to court for child support
@@abrawolfyes, and that’s wrong. But men don’t die in childbirth, which was the point of her commenr.
@@KP-ej7gc it's kind of muddled by the points surrounding it. "Getting married means denying yourself of being ravished by other men" and "only get with an idiot if they have money" like, whatever happened to marriage and having a kid just because yall like each other
@@abrawolfBut, women did try that - the fact that it failed and keeps failing is how we had to learn it was a bunch of bull. A man just "liking" a woman will never be enough because of how men treat women statistically and because they are fickle - women who keep falling for it, keep ending up abandoned, broke, and struggling because a bad choice in a partner destroyed their lives.
All over TikTok/YT/Instagram there are countless examples of women having breakdowns, after being abandoned by men during or right after pregnancy. All those men told them they loved them, and wanted to be with them, and the women believed it. The men clearly lied, and now those women are burdened with those children forever.
Having a child is one of the single most financially calamitous events that a woman can undergo, married or not. It immediately puts her at risk for poverty and financial ruin, as well as being physically and mentally dangerous.
To take on a risk like that, she needs every insurance possible, and that's just how it is. Sayings like "love isn't always enough," exists for a reason.
Having a son at a young age and his dad passing away at a young age while looking around and u realizing most of the ‘males’ aren’t actually grounded in there masculinity.. aka sassy but pretending to be mucho.. 😢 no choice but to do it until a good father figure is seen.. protecting his masculine energy
The opening statements and the dramatic music, I hit like STRAIGHT AWAY
Maybe men are acting how they truly are. They are done acting how patriarchy wants them to act 😅 men are sassy
yup..seems so more and more
I'm not
Listening to you teach literally makes my spirits soar! Thank you for speaking truth!!!!!!!!
Period bestie you said everything every woman need to hear
These dudes need the YMCA 🤣
I swear it’s something In the water. They don’t want to do NUTHIN😭
Bestie is so fiery today🔥! I missed this energy. Hope we can see more of this.
Sis, if you work your butt off so that you can have the power to purchase your own assets (vehicle, place to live, etc.), and he wants to move in with you, or use your car while you're at work, or have you pay his phone bill because it's "cheaper" for you to be on the same contract.... Sis, just let him go. I don't care how sweet or sexy he his. He will use you-either intentionally or unintentionally-by taking advantage of your natural feminine tendency and desire to nurture and nourish. He NEEDS to learn how to nuture himself. A man needs to learn how to hear his own needs. And he needs to learn how to honor those needs by responding to them in whatever way is most nourishing to him. (NOT by reacting impulsively to his feelings, or acting on some compulsion to smother a feeling).
Because here's the thing-he can't treat you with the love and respect you deserve if he doesn't know how to treat himself.
thank you elle ❤ i was so confused about wtf a sassy man was and um....nope nope nope
really appreciate the captioning too!
Spoiled girlies unite! 👑💕💫
"They are HAGGLING you!! Bestie, wake up !"
Boom 💥!
The music you play when you talk about divine feminine energy in men takes me out every time 😭😂
This was sooooo good and clear: “It is wonderful to have a good male partner. It is equally devastating to have a bad one.” That was a brain explosion in the best way. The next best thing to having a good male partner is being alone; NOT having a ‘meh’ or a bad partner.
This is true and you can tell when a man has had positive guidance from an older man
The men are not adulting. And keep expecting adult women to be their new mom so they can keep on living as a dependent child having his mom provide for him.
😲 Oh my goodness! I just had an epiphany: Buddhism solved the “men who are in receiving mode” problem by enticing them to be celibate monks! I mean, being a Buddhist monk is literally the highest form of receiving mode because everything they have must be given to them by laypeople. BUT it also solves the Incel problem by giving those men a higher goal to boost their self-esteem, methods to develop some real wisdom, and group living with other like-minded men to provide the social support that is essential for human happiness. Yet again, the wisdom of the Buddha can continue to solve “modern” problems!
Genius
Wishing for 100 000 subscribers very soon for you, Queen Elle! You deserve it - you practically gave me knowledge I never would have known otherwise!
My family tolerates this and I am FED UP! My mom’s therapist said she had that issue of married single mother because all she got from him was money. Everything else was her job or it didn’t get done. She is just glad at least she got money but in reality the world won’t evolve if men don’t evolve. My dad is an adult child to this day and it’s horrible. We need to stop letting boys be boys that never grow into men.
I think we should also see the sassy women that are helping those men get too far. I had a relative that groomed and raped me at 14 and found out his mom was for it so I will never forget! My self-esteem is high now and it’s amazing!!!!!!!
I can’t 😂 “the pickmeishas” 😂
Her descriptions are a whole
Mood.
I just want to say that entering the millitary isn't an indicator of a good man or a "ritual of manhood" that is and indicator that he has improved or is somehow more competent as other men. Some of the most selfish and misogonystic men I've met, have been in the millitary.
The millitary might teach them dicipline etc. but most of the guys I've met only applies these teachings to themselves and doesn't change their view of women. The one's that I have met have horrible self-control when it comes to women and s*x. If they go in to the millitary having allready been taught sexist beliefs from their cultureb or at home it's not likely to change after. More likely it just becomes worse if the men around them thinks and acts the same, so they don't think there's anything wrong with it, so they don't change how they treat women.
This is just speaking from personal experience - people I've known from the millitary (men and women) and the stories they've told.
Ont time this guy told me how their friend got kicked out of the millitary for SA, and how he is scared that he might do something like it tpo at one of their parties when he gets drunk - IDK why he felt comfortable telling that, but he did. This also shows in the statistics of SA and R*pe of women in the US forces. www.rand.org/pubs/tools/TLA746-2/handbook/resources/data-on-sexual-assault-in-the-military.html
So just please don't go around saying that the millitary is somehow a manhood ritual which imrpoves men/the quality of men and how they think of and treat women.
But I do agree that something needs to change for men to grow up and start treating women better, and I think that you're spot on that it starts with what is being normalized and allowed in our culture by women.
I been thinking these same about biological changes in women make us grow up in this reality we live, like using it for good affording our lifes wherever we are, all in a natural way, and men don't grow too much if they don't put their will into it. I'm out of a years long draining relationship with this type of man who also got into drugs. And bestie u can even imagine, that was hell teaching! Love your content! Hugs from Uruguay! Tani.
Entitled incels basically
There are a lot of chad men popular with women who are sassy baby boys. There is no single rule
😢😢😢 I needed you like 15 years ago. Thanks for your videos, you are literally the best.
Finally a woman knows what she's talking about!
There are so many “married” single mothers out here. We need an AA group…Hi.. my name is _____, and I used to lower my standards b/c I didn’t know my worth at the time … Group: Hi ____!
There are codependency groups on Facebook and such!
I’m a man and love your advice “Women are optional until you find the right one”.
No more broke women in 2024.
Show me you deserve my commitment and then maybe I commit to you.
I missed you! Thanks for posting ❤
thank you🤎🤎🤎
You're on point with this!! Great job.
Lord! My favorite CZcams channel.
“Don’t get mad, get paid” Elle. 🎉
This channel changed my life. Thank you so much❤
Dang sista, this one hits home. I've been pondering breaking up w my 5-mo bf for a while & even initiated one time but he talked me out of it. I'm far from the Nelly's or Pickies, but the reason I struggle w leaving is because we go way back (karmic rls type thing) so he knows how to give me the right nuggets to make me think he's different while downplaying his sassy male tendencies really well. It also helps that he's exactly my type physically & emotionally. We might share a very special bond & are madly in love, but as always my hunch about this rls was spot on. This video is such a wake up call for me so I guess five months is long enough!
#DECENTERED #justanotherone
💛 much strength to you sis, to follow through and honor your own hunch and well being first
thanks so much Elle, this should be taught to all girlies by their moms. to see all my friends married sassy men, the more i enjoy being single. can you imagine being a mum, taking care of two kids, still on maternity leave making more money than husband (because of income from you properties, side hustles) and still you give him money to support his business? so you take care of household (i mean mowing the lawn, taking care of garden and house and all the bills) and husband just works, thats all he does, he goes to work....? sassy men, all my friends. husbands get treatments, breakfast to bed, cooking, paid holidays..... woooow never ever.
Elle becoming my favorite youtuber
12:46 😂girl stahhhhp!! I know a few girls that are just trading money back and forth with their (sassy) bfs and I get insane second hand embarrassment from seeing those public payments to each other! humiliating
My friend got her bf to our meet up once and we watched her cashapp him 80 cents 😭 Guess it costs her 80 cents to be seen as an independent equal in the relationship, what a bargain 😶
the ottoman took me out 🤣
"BESTIE WAKE UP!" I dont know why but that hit me. I just discovered your channel and I like your vibe and your loving way of speaking to us (your subs). Keep it up with the topics. I love it!
Elle, what did we do to deserve you 😭🙏💕 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us ✨
Such a good vid, Elle thank you so much for your content, you are truly changing our lifes for so much better ❤❤
A much needed video. Loved listening to this.
We are the Source. Creation. Prize 🎁
I know you’re an Academia girlie. Pls make a video on tips to do well in any career as a girl.
Yess
I subscribed like a week ago and it was a great decision!
i’m a man, and a gay one, but you’re so mother for this
Thank you again bestie ❤❤❤
It's the "bestie, wake up" at the end for me. Sending chills down my spine.