What are Katie Couric's tips on dealing with grief? | The Tim Ferriss Show
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- čas přidán 8. 05. 2018
- Tim Ferriss talks about events in his life and asks Katie Couric for tips on dealing with grief.
Katie Couric is an award-winning journalist, New York Times bestselling author, and co-founder of the non-profit Stand Up to Cancer, which has raised more than $500 million to fund scientific research teams.
Katie launched her production company, Katie Couric Media, in 2015. Since then, the aptly named Katie Couric Podcast has featured conversations with some of the biggest names in politics, media, and popular culture.
Katie’s documentaries include Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric for National Geographic, Under the Gun, which aired on Epix, and Fed Up, which can be found on Netflix. Katie’s new six-part National Geographic series is called America Inside Out with Katie Couric, and I recommend you check it out.
Katie joined CBS as the first woman at the helm of an evening newscast after a 15-year run as co-anchor of NBC’s Today Show. Her awards include a duPont-Columbia, Peabody, two Edward R. Murrows, a Walter Cronkite, and multiple Emmys.
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Much love to Katie...she talks here about the feeling so many of us have had...❤
Beautifully said, Katie. I went through the exact same process 14 years later when my husband was diagnosed with glioblastoma. Your regrets are my own... I was frozen.
I was widowed at 29 and a mentor of mine suggested that I make space each week to just cry and journal and grieve. This was a few years down the road, and because I was running a business and taking care of other people I never had the time or space to grieve. I literally had to schedule it in to allow myself to process. You never get over it, it still comes up at milestone moments.
Hello Tim,
I'm at a similiar point in my life when it comes to letting the emotions free but not letting myself be rendered unable to cope with life. To find a healthy balance.
I've been heavily traumatised as a child and experienced multiple kinds of abuse, torture and so on. This the biggest reason for me to push my feelings away, but I know that for many of my friends, it took a lot less to build the armour.
I've read "Tools of Titans" and I think in many areas of life you do have a lot more experience than I and its kind of...soothing to see someone as driven as you learning similiar things as I in one aspect of life at the same time as me. I'm also just 23.
Often I feel lonely on my journey, because its very different in some ways from what other are going through around me. So seeing you talk about this feels like home.
I also find it difficult to find sources to the topics that are relevant to me, like this one. One thing I've discovered recently is information on the topic of DID (dissociative identity disorder). You probably dont have this disorder, but I believe that pushing ones emotions away is one way to not really be fully whole and authentically you, to experience the world less. To protect yourself from painful experiences, just as why DID occurs, to simplify. To cure DID you have to become one again, thats called Integration.
I think this might be interesting for you, because even though you might not dissociate (and maybe you do) there will be emotions of your past that you havent dealt with, that you maybe need to work through to feel better.
On another note, I dont know how happy you are, but solving these problems have significantly increased my everyday happiness and "cured" me of depression. Its one of the hardest things I've ever done, maybe the thing that took most courage, but also the most rewarding one.
On the topic of grief: I've lost a few people, including my daughter and my entire family. If your second father passes away, I want to tell you this: If you go through the pain, the pain will pass. It will come and go, in waves if you just let it be. If you wont let it be, it will overwhelm you all at once or you will just constantly feel depressed and numb without really letting your feelings out. In the phases where the pain is the worst, just sit there and only focus on the pain or the sadness or anger. The pain itself or the sadness itself isnt that bad, whats bad are the thoughts that come with it, mostly fear. Thoughts like: I'm gonna be lonely, sad, depressed without him. I'm not gonna make it through this. I'm gonna hurt forever. Or whatever your "monkey mind" tells you. Any kind of discomfort, especially if this severe, will possibly make your brain go wild with anxiety and thats the bad part, not the discomfort. Then, when you feel, for example, pain breathe deeply (it really helps) and watch how this emotion manifests in your body. Do you feel a bit sick to your stomach? Do you have a tight chest? Are your shoulders tense? What does this pain feel like? Really be in this moment with that feeling and do not try to run away from it in any way, even though that may seem hard. If the wave passes, which may be a few hours, take care of yourself. Talk with a friend, do some sports, eat well etc. You will need the energy for the next wave. In my experience, if you run away you lengthen the grieving process by years, but if you look it right in the eyes, you're over the worst within often just a week.
Maybe you can see this experience, or the next hardship that comes your way as a challenge to really feel your emotions. It will strengthen you immensely and afterwards improve your quality of life.
I wish you all the courage and strength you'll need. I'm sure you can do it.
Jenny
Fantastic advice
Hi Tim I am so proud of your courage to 'feel'
both very brave, thank you and thanks for your advice Katie, so hard to even try to imagine what to do in that situation
Hey Tim, I love the new format with the video!
Can you invite Julia Cameron to the podcast?
Good advice, thank you.
Wow this video is amazing
So he lost a few friends but never experienced grief? she was quick to catch that...
Heavy.
TIM, HOP IN A PLANE AND GO SEE HIM. IT'S JUST THAT SIMPLE AND THAT IMPORTANT.
This guy is dealing with someone who has dealt with the unimaginable. Suffering is just a word until you experience it. You don't allow yourself to grieve imo. Katie definitely seemed to catch this guy's nonsense.
I Listen Deeply First
Needs to be seen by everyone
In order to get the answer, you have to ask the question, and then stop. Do you want the answer? Seems like you are afraid to stop and hear it.