This is excellent. It makes absolutely perfect sense. Our brain wants to save energy so WHY would it motivate us if we have never done that thing before. Our brain only gives us the motivation when we get into the habit of things. But if we never have even tried it, our brain isn't going to give us thoughts or feelings surrounding that thing we don't even do!
I'm so grateful for these videos. OCD makes me question everything, and makes me want to quit everyday. Not responding to triggers & thoughts is the most difficult thing I've ever done, but these videos give me hope and make me feel safer and like I'm not alone. Thank you so so much for them :)
Thanks! I had very similar compulsions, actually. Once, I was completely convinced I'd not only caused my work place to get robbed, but also that I'd caused it to burn down, at the same time. Those poor burning robbers. I went into work two hours early the next morning just to see. BUT the great news is that it's totally curable and you should definitely tackle this because it opens up so many possibilities in life. Don't let OCD decide your career or anything else in your life...
That's ok! It's a stressful experience. It's great that you're even trying it. A big part of what gets us into a mess with anxiety and stress and depression is compulsively doing things to try to avoid those feelings. A big part of recovery is learning that it's ok to feel anxious or stressed or depressed and that those feelings don't have to affect the healthy things we do everyday. Keep pushing with the CBT on your recovery journey!
Right. When motivation becomes an excuse it's going to make more harm than good. Rid off of the concept. Act now, do your work and you'll see results. Start freeing yourself of your own thoughts.
Fighting hard with my ocd these days. This video will help me immensely! Thanks! There shouldn't be any motivation. Resisting compulsions should become a habit.
Whew...I always try and do things, like yoga, paint etc but I always give myself shit because I don't have the "motivation". Every night I'll give myself a lecture and say "tomorrow you WILL DO xyz" and I never do. This made sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much sense! Thanks "Oh wise one"
My OCD has taken over my life, I can't eat, or sleep, and I felt pain in my chest yesterday around my heart. All from constant sleepless nights, not eating, hell I've lost so much fucking weight. Everything is off balance in my physical health because of this. I'm eating more now, I'm trying to eat more, in fact my thoughts aren't bothering me, it's my physical health I'm focusing on. And when I can think of the things I love without anything intruding I feel happy and motivated again. I just wish I could be physically healthy and be able to do this still.
Learning is great but you don't want to reinforce your OCD and make it worse in pursuit of recovery. OCD is all about chasing certainty and trying to cope with or control uncertainty, so if you're trying to be certain about OCD, there's the potential for it to become a compulsion (which can cause obsessions). I'd suggest focusing on recovery, not the illness. You're going to ditch the illness anyway, but health is something you'll practice for the rest of your life.
... I did ERP to get over my checking compulsions. It was extremely effective. But I'd recommend doing it with a professional who has great reviews for doing ERP for OCD Your compulsions at work might not be the best ones to start with. You should start with what causes the least anxiety and build up to bigger things. A good professional can help you figure that out. You'll very quickly learn how to accept anxiety and experience and not have to respond to it with compulsions. Keep pushing!
I suffered all types of ocd including sexsual and pure ocd for 11 yrs. But most shameful and chalanging for me is pedophile ocd. Right now obsession also comes but I can deal with it. I didn't take cbt Or erp from dr. I did it longly and never give up policy. but got help from internet, you and others ocd advocates..I had learn lots of about ocd that really helped me. Rights now I am working a software development company as a programmer.thaks o lot you
@@everybodyhasabrain can you upload videos with pedophile ocd. Because this is very shameful and guilty for stuffed. This type of ocd really unknown for many people.they suicide because they haven't enough awareness and education about it. I can say about my experience...
I encourage people not to get stuck on topics like that. OCD is always the same, no matter the topic of the fear is. I already have two videos up about not getting caught up in "themes" and not getting stuck on sex-related topics but seeing past them at what the fear is really about.
thx so much, I've ever sought for motivations when I was about to take exam.... so guess the result... I completely regretted losing time seeking for motivations instead of preparing myself for exam .. and what did seeking motivation give me... ? nothing!
How does that relate to a situation in which before doing anything I want to be sure that it's really a good idea? Like sending this comment: it might be a mistake. Maybe I shouldn't send it. Why do I really want to send it? Do I truly have good enough reasons to send it? Maybe it would be better not to send it? Why am I actually sending it? Maybe I should cancel it? Or at least wait till I get more sure about that? Or maybe I should do something else, which seems less risky, for now? Or maybe I need to do some mental check first? Analyze if sending it is a good idea? Is that also an OCD? It's not about counting unicorns and making sure that I have encounterned an odd nubmer of them every day, after all...this seems like something more direct to me. Well, it's about my life situation and relationships with people/the world and my mental and physical state, after all. Maybe it's more of an OCPD than OCD? What do you think about differentiating between OCD and OCPD? If I send this, I will get more into the careless mode (with all benefits and possible drawbacks of such mode). That's a big thing in itself. And do I really need to send it? Why do I want to? What motivates me? Is it a good motivation? Or maybe I'll be better if I stay undisturbed to it? Do I really want to send it or does it only superficially look like I want to do it? What do I actually want? Do I actually want anything? What does it mean to "want", anyway? Who am I, am I someone that "wants"? Ok, it's frustrating not to send it. So maybe it's a signal that I should send it. But maybe just the opposite - maybe it's a symptom of some desensitization? Maybe if I stay undisturbed to that frustation, I will transcend it? Or maybe I am just subtly blocking myself and getting stuck? It's exciting to send it. But it's more peaceful not to send it. Or is it? Am I really seing this clearly enough? I don't remember meeting anyone with such a dilemmas as those above...so is it really OCD? Or maybe something else? Is OCD actually some "entity" anyway?
I have noticed that I do tell myself mentally as part of motivation that I don't need to engage in compulsions, that I need to get healthy, that i can beat it etc. Seems like myself trying to motivate myself by thinking this is also a bloody compulsion?? Very difficult to just accept a thought, not fight with it and not engage in any compulsions whatsoever..
Yes. It implies the thoughts are a problem. It's like if you had to motivate yourself everyday to do great things despite living on a planet with a blue sky. How can anybody accomplish anything under a blue sky?!! But the real issue would be the judgments and beliefs about the blue sky.
Mark Freeman Hi Mark how do I turn this ship around? Feeling down and depressed today. I am trying to not do compulsions but my mind has been throwing all kinds of negative things at me today. I am unable to see anything worthwhile further. Feels like just shutting down and going to sleep. Brain being overactive. Despite all efforts seems like it's impossible to be better. Everything looks so distant. Having a big challenge accepting myself without any guilt or judgement after my cancer. When will I learn to live again???? When will I become bit more compassionate?? Thanks
It's fine to think all sorts of things. I'm not sure it's useful to engage with that stuff. It can help to shift the focus to actions. Trying to chase feelings can just sink us deeper into a hole.
Wait unicorns dont exist?!!! 😉 I started avoiding compulsions yesterday and I already have headaches and dont wanna get out of bed. Oh well, its part of the process I guesss
I love your videos, just had a question, I have really bad checking OCD, I close up from work every night and it causes me A LOT of anxiety and I always have to come back to check i've done things. Do you think talking to my employer would be beneficial? Or do I need to just tackle this head on and over come it? Also, I'm thinking of quitting so I can get better in a not so stressfull environment, what do you think? Thanks :)
Hello I really need help , I got harm ocd on May 27 , and I used to shake and tear up when it felt too real , i felt that feeling every night for three days , but now on June 29 I don’t shake or tear up anymore but ocd hit me when I saw a knife I saw like a imagine of me hurting someone and i don’t wanna hurt anyone , I just tell myself that it’s just thoughts and I distract myself , does that mean that I’m Turning into a Psychopath ? It’s not that I don’t feel emotion I still do my hurt starts beating but I get the feeling of feel cause I don’t wanna hurt my family , so I wanna know what’s going on , I still get ocd but I don’t let it get to my head
One thing that's really helpful is cutting out compulsions and learning new ways of interacting with the stuff in our heads. For example, posting the same question on multiple videos is actually the same compulsion that fuels the harm thoughts and the checking. It's just the same pattern of trying to be certain, trying to make sure. The more we chase certainty throughout our lives, the more uncertainty we create, like this uncertainty you now experience from checking your feelings and responses to intrusive thoughts. This is all totally normal and entirely possible to leave behind you, but it will require making changes. If you can access a skilled professional or a good book, those could be great places to get started on learning new skills.
@@humbertorangel19881 Yes, and notice how that desire to just really get an answer seems like something we need to do. It helped me to notice that pressure sand recognize that's a compulsion.
Fight the right fight. Pay no attention to your feelings, thoughts, and ocd. Rather assert yourself over your feelings like a robot for 2 days. Do that first beyond anything further.
Thoughts are thoughts! It can really help to recognize that the presence or absence of thoughts and feelings is not the issue. The problems come from what we do to thoughts and feelings. So why do you want to "deal" with the thoughts? It helped me to recognize the brain was only throwing up the thoughts because I would react to them and try to control them. It was just giving me something to do. If you don't want more thoughts to hate and fix and control, then it helps to stop hating and fixing and controlling thoughts
Unhappily Twisted that's just totally not true. I'm not coping with OCD now and definitely don't qualify as having any mental illness now. And that's the case for many people. The idea that mental illnesses are chronic is an old, outdated myth.
This is excellent. It makes absolutely perfect sense. Our brain wants to save energy so WHY would it motivate us if we have never done that thing before. Our brain only gives us the motivation when we get into the habit of things. But if we never have even tried it, our brain isn't going to give us thoughts or feelings surrounding that thing we don't even do!
Exactly!
I'm so grateful for these videos. OCD makes me question everything, and makes me want to quit everyday. Not responding to triggers & thoughts is the most difficult thing I've ever done, but these videos give me hope and make me feel safer and like I'm not alone. Thank you so so much for them :)
autumn h It is super tough but you can do it!
gina perhaps we trying to feel safer is part of the problem..
Just exposed myself for the first time... it was terrible.. it felt terrible... and now I'm proud :)
Thanks! I had very similar compulsions, actually. Once, I was completely convinced I'd not only caused my work place to get robbed, but also that I'd caused it to burn down, at the same time. Those poor burning robbers. I went into work two hours early the next morning just to see. BUT the great news is that it's totally curable and you should definitely tackle this because it opens up so many possibilities in life. Don't let OCD decide your career or anything else in your life...
Can a person survive from severe ocd
I've chased particular feelings for years "only this feeling means Im in love", "only this feeling means I'm normal". Working on quitting that.
Your videos make OCD easy to understand.
That's ok! It's a stressful experience. It's great that you're even trying it. A big part of what gets us into a mess with anxiety and stress and depression is compulsively doing things to try to avoid those feelings. A big part of recovery is learning that it's ok to feel anxious or stressed or depressed and that those feelings don't have to affect the healthy things we do everyday. Keep pushing with the CBT on your recovery journey!
Right. When motivation becomes an excuse it's going to make more harm than good. Rid off of the concept. Act now, do your work and you'll see results. Start freeing yourself of your own thoughts.
guaycura That's it!
Thanks! That sounds like a great diagnostic test you've created.
Fighting hard with my ocd these days. This video will help me immensely! Thanks! There shouldn't be any motivation. Resisting compulsions should become a habit.
Enjoy making the changes unreasonably!
Wow what an inspired and totally logical explanation far out this is what hitting the nail on the head is and means, thanks again Mark Brilliant work.
Thanks a lot for the awesome comment. I'm glad it's helping!
This video was a life saver . Thankyou so much for making this video!
😁🙌
Wow....never thought motivation could lead one on a negative path....thanks again Mark
You are so right Mark,
Never wait for motivation.
I was making the same mistake
Best motivational video about motivation EVER. Gotta luv ya (and unicorns too)
Hey man, your channel is awesome and its helping me a lot . Thanks.
Great Video My Man! Very well Articualed!
You're welcome! Have fun tackling whatever it is you want to tackle!
this is so relevant for me...thank you
Whew...I always try and do things, like yoga, paint etc but I always give myself shit because I don't have the "motivation". Every night I'll give myself a lecture and say "tomorrow you WILL DO xyz" and I never do. This made sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much sense! Thanks "Oh wise one"
Happy painting, Lisa! (Even when you don't feel like it.)
i very much needed this , thanks
You're welcome!
Your videos are great, they have helped me immensely. You know how i can tell? I haven't watched them all, back to back in one sitting! Thank you.
lol! love it!
when you feel unmotivated all you have to do is to watch this video and you'll get the motivation :-) you are great man... you are great.
Another awsome video!
My OCD has taken over my life, I can't eat, or sleep, and I felt pain in my chest yesterday around my heart. All from constant sleepless nights, not eating, hell I've lost so much fucking weight. Everything is off balance in my physical health because of this. I'm eating more now, I'm trying to eat more, in fact my thoughts aren't bothering me, it's my physical health I'm focusing on. And when I can think of the things I love without anything intruding I feel happy and motivated again. I just wish I could be physically healthy and be able to do this still.
how do you feel rn? after 5 yrs
thanks a lot mate!
grateful, great explanation
Thank you!
Amazing video curently studying ocd
You're welcome!
Hmmm... True... They'll always be real in your heart.
Wow makes so much sense
Great!
Learning is great but you don't want to reinforce your OCD and make it worse in pursuit of recovery. OCD is all about chasing certainty and trying to cope with or control uncertainty, so if you're trying to be certain about OCD, there's the potential for it to become a compulsion (which can cause obsessions). I'd suggest focusing on recovery, not the illness. You're going to ditch the illness anyway, but health is something you'll practice for the rest of your life.
... I did ERP to get over my checking compulsions. It was extremely effective. But I'd recommend doing it with a professional who has great reviews for doing ERP for OCD Your compulsions at work might not be the best ones to start with. You should start with what causes the least anxiety and build up to bigger things. A good professional can help you figure that out. You'll very quickly learn how to accept anxiety and experience and not have to respond to it with compulsions. Keep pushing!
I suffered all types of ocd including sexsual and pure ocd for 11 yrs. But most shameful and chalanging for me is pedophile ocd. Right now obsession also comes but I can deal with it. I didn't take cbt Or erp from dr. I did it longly and never give up policy. but got help from internet, you and others ocd advocates..I had learn lots of about ocd that really helped me. Rights now I am working a software development company as a programmer.thaks o lot you
That's great to hear you found these tools useful! Enjoy the journey ahead wherever you want to go!
@@everybodyhasabrain can you upload videos with pedophile ocd. Because this is very shameful and guilty for stuffed. This type of ocd really unknown for many people.they suicide because they haven't enough awareness and education about it. I can say about my experience...
I encourage people not to get stuck on topics like that. OCD is always the same, no matter the topic of the fear is. I already have two videos up about not getting caught up in "themes" and not getting stuck on sex-related topics but seeing past them at what the fear is really about.
thx so much, I've ever sought for motivations when I was about to take exam.... so guess the result... I completely regretted losing time seeking for motivations instead of preparing myself for exam .. and what did seeking motivation give me... ? nothing!
jirawit jiracheewee It's a useful lesson to learn!
I think this goes for everything, I'm over here trying to start my homework lol
so true!
You're welcome, Jessica. Unicorns are motivating.
lol That's always a great sign that we're on to something healthy!
🙏🙏
How does that relate to a situation in which before doing anything I want to be sure that it's really a good idea? Like sending this comment: it might be a mistake. Maybe I shouldn't send it. Why do I really want to send it? Do I truly have good enough reasons to send it? Maybe it would be better not to send it? Why am I actually sending it? Maybe I should cancel it? Or at least wait till I get more sure about that? Or maybe I should do something else, which seems less risky, for now? Or maybe I need to do some mental check first? Analyze if sending it is a good idea?
Is that also an OCD? It's not about counting unicorns and making sure that I have encounterned an odd nubmer of them every day, after all...this seems like something more direct to me. Well, it's about my life situation and relationships with people/the world and my mental and physical state, after all. Maybe it's more of an OCPD than OCD? What do you think about differentiating between OCD and OCPD?
If I send this, I will get more into the careless mode (with all benefits and possible drawbacks of such mode). That's a big thing in itself. And do I really need to send it? Why do I want to? What motivates me? Is it a good motivation? Or maybe I'll be better if I stay undisturbed to it? Do I really want to send it or does it only superficially look like I want to do it? What do I actually want? Do I actually want anything? What does it mean to "want", anyway? Who am I, am I someone that "wants"?
Ok, it's frustrating not to send it. So maybe it's a signal that I should send it. But maybe just the opposite - maybe it's a symptom of some desensitization? Maybe if I stay undisturbed to that frustation, I will transcend it? Or maybe I am just subtly blocking myself and getting stuck? It's exciting to send it. But it's more peaceful not to send it. Or is it? Am I really seing this clearly enough?
I don't remember meeting anyone with such a dilemmas as those above...so is it really OCD? Or maybe something else? Is OCD actually some "entity" anyway?
I have noticed that I do tell myself mentally as part of motivation that I don't need to engage in compulsions, that I need to get healthy, that i can beat it etc. Seems like myself trying to motivate myself by thinking this is also a bloody compulsion?? Very difficult to just accept a thought, not fight with it and not engage in any compulsions whatsoever..
Yes. It implies the thoughts are a problem. It's like if you had to motivate yourself everyday to do great things despite living on a planet with a blue sky. How can anybody accomplish anything under a blue sky?!! But the real issue would be the judgments and beliefs about the blue sky.
Mark Freeman Hi Mark how do I turn this ship around? Feeling down and depressed today. I am trying to not do compulsions but my mind has been throwing all kinds of negative things at me today. I am unable to see anything worthwhile further. Feels like just shutting down and going to sleep. Brain being overactive. Despite all efforts seems like it's impossible to be better. Everything looks so distant. Having a big challenge accepting myself without any guilt or judgement after my cancer. When will I learn to live again???? When will I become bit more compassionate?? Thanks
It's fine to think all sorts of things. I'm not sure it's useful to engage with that stuff. It can help to shift the focus to actions. Trying to chase feelings can just sink us deeper into a hole.
Mark Freeman yes Mark I understand. My brain just goes in ovrerdrive and it starts thinking all kind of stuff. Just doesn't stop. Trying my best.
I find it so hard to do cbt. I get really stressed about it :-(
Wait unicorns dont exist?!!!
😉
I started avoiding compulsions yesterday and I already have headaches and dont wanna get out of bed. Oh well, its part of the process I guesss
I love your videos, just had a question, I have really bad checking OCD, I close up from work every night and it causes me A LOT of anxiety and I always have to come back to check i've done things. Do you think talking to my employer would be beneficial? Or do I need to just tackle this head on and over come it? Also, I'm thinking of quitting so I can get better in a not so stressfull environment, what do you think? Thanks :)
Hello I really need help , I got harm ocd on May 27 , and I used to shake and tear up when it felt too real , i felt that feeling every night for three days , but now on June 29 I don’t shake or tear up anymore but ocd hit me when I saw a knife I saw like a imagine of me hurting someone and i don’t wanna hurt anyone , I just tell myself that it’s just thoughts and I distract myself , does that mean that I’m Turning into a Psychopath ? It’s not that I don’t feel emotion I still do my hurt starts beating but I get the feeling of feel cause I don’t wanna hurt my family , so I wanna know what’s going on , I still get ocd but I don’t let it get to my head
One thing that's really helpful is cutting out compulsions and learning new ways of interacting with the stuff in our heads. For example, posting the same question on multiple videos is actually the same compulsion that fuels the harm thoughts and the checking. It's just the same pattern of trying to be certain, trying to make sure. The more we chase certainty throughout our lives, the more uncertainty we create, like this uncertainty you now experience from checking your feelings and responses to intrusive thoughts. This is all totally normal and entirely possible to leave behind you, but it will require making changes. If you can access a skilled professional or a good book, those could be great places to get started on learning new skills.
Mark Freeman thank you so much and sorry I just really wanted a answer because the therapist I was supposed to get keeps rescheduling
@@humbertorangel19881 Yes, and notice how that desire to just really get an answer seems like something we need to do. It helped me to notice that pressure sand recognize that's a compulsion.
Thanks for this video. Would it be wrong to call this video motivational? ;)
--Muzition
You're welcome! We could call this video anything we want :)
I'm struggling with my OCD. Not sure how much more I can take.
Fight the right fight. Pay no attention to your feelings, thoughts, and ocd. Rather assert yourself over your feelings like a robot for 2 days. Do that first beyond anything further.
And make healthy productive choices for 2 days. That is the antidote.
Mark, my thoughts done give me anxiety anymore but when they don't give me anxiety, my brain throws even more at me. How do I deal with those?
Thoughts are thoughts! It can really help to recognize that the presence or absence of thoughts and feelings is not the issue. The problems come from what we do to thoughts and feelings. So why do you want to "deal" with the thoughts? It helped me to recognize the brain was only throwing up the thoughts because I would react to them and try to control them. It was just giving me something to do. If you don't want more thoughts to hate and fix and control, then it helps to stop hating and fixing and controlling thoughts
@@everybodyhasabrain thanks a lot Mark! 🙏🏼
My brain is like "Noooo! Stop telling her this, she's not supposed to know that!!!" lol.
Today is the day Iam mybe beating it ...very scared
Hi do you have some medicin and what?
No, I've never taken any psych meds.
Is your heart another brain? and intuition is that another brain?
Awesome! What do you mean unicorns aren't real??? ;-(
I tried to overcome it. but I always loss my confident. I always give up. then I becoming more stress and feels like want to kill myself. 😭
💯😔
You don't beat ocd you just cope with it , just like any other anxiety disorder. You need to give the correct info
Unhappily Twisted that's just totally not true. I'm not coping with OCD now and definitely don't qualify as having any mental illness now. And that's the case for many people. The idea that mental illnesses are chronic is an old, outdated myth.
Really? I do not think OCD is a mental health issue. I think it is a coping strategy.