The discussion around rumination/compulsions you *like* is very interesting. 🤔 One of my hobbies is creative writing. I’ve always been susceptible to daydreaming. Finding a balance of thinking about stories as a kind of planning rather than a form of brain entertainment that keeps me from doing the things I actually want to do is difficult. It’s very true that creating those habits of staying in my head can add to other compulsions as well. I wonder if other writers have this challenge.
What I do with that is make sure I'm writing and sharing that writing. If I'm going to spend time on the story in my head, it's going to directly lead to action that will share the story.
@@everybodyhasabrain That’s a good point. I have a writing buddy I like to discuss with, and I share online too. It’s the biggest issue when I’m trying to sleep. I can’t sleep, so I get bored and daydream. So I’m also gonna work on laying in bed mindfully, even if I’m awake. It’s interesting how I’ve improved so much on anxiety-related compulsions it’s switching the goal posts to stuff I didn’t really have problems with before.
My biggest take away from this live stream was that, it seems like what we spend alot of time doing in our heads, and how we interact with experiences, just becomes a fully automated program eventually as the brain becomes more efficient at that. And sometimes we install unhelpful programs by accident, maybe they were needed before but they longer serve us now - yet they keep running against our will. For example maybe there was a time where we were in "survival" mode and stressing alot because of circumstances + lack of awareness about better coping ways, but after that stressful long period ended we kept being in a "survival" mode and still feeling stressed out, it just became the default way of being and living. Or the example that you gave about interacting with small uncertainties and ruminating usually, then we just learn to be good at ruminating and the content is really irrelevant by this point - it's just how the brain processes any uncertainty now with this program, by ruminating. It makes alot of sense, hopefully I understood it correctly, If I did then would you say it would be correct to assume that we can all choose to be aware of our unhelpful "programs" and choose to install different ones, and with enough practice this will be our new default mode - eventually completely overriding the previous one?
Yes, it can be useful to see that the brain is just trying to control uncertainty in a way its learned how, and it's open to other ways of interacting with uncertainty, but we'll need to show it those new ways
Mark please help me i am really struggling. I am wondering if i am using acceptance as a compulsion. I dont get the difference between using acceptance as a compulsion and practicing acceptance properly. What should i do about this. It just gets to overwhelming for me
You've posted about this uncertainty several times. But there is no question in your message. I don't know what kind of help you're looking for. But posting it again and again to check for reassurance is an example of something I'd see as not helpful. Instead of trying to chase reassurance about an uncertainty, it can be much more helpful to give that time and energy to things we actually want to grow and build in life.
@Markfreeman how to stop having conversations in ur head . sometimes i dont even realise it but when i do i try to focus in real life.also i have this weird physical sensation in my brain and its hard to concentrate.what can i do with this sensation?
You don't have to do anything with that sensation. What if you didn't judge it as "strange" but instead welcomed it? It can be there like so many other experiences. There is a song playing in this cafe as I write this. I could judge it as a "strange" song or I can just let it be there as part of my experience while I do something I value. Not needing to judge and categorize and control experiences is also a helpful with dropping so many conversations in our heads.
@@everybodyhasabrainmark why the hell i didnt find you before... Thank you for doing all of the things that you are doing. You could easily earn loota money by lanching some kinda course or anything but you're so kind for doing it for free
@@everybodyhasabrain All the so called therapist should be held accontable for not making their client better... And why they were using any other method when i can see that non judgement is the best, in fact the initial step of their method is judgement/identification of a thought When thoughts are thoughts, and clouds are clouds
I get anxiety when ever I get a stuffy nose it drives me craZy we’re i feel like I need medication what can I do about it cuz the stuffy nose done go away just cuz u have anxiety so for 3 weeks am anxious and anxiety ever night tryna figure out how or what to do to get me to breath ??
rest in peace to Sasha the cat. Hope you are doing well Mark as I know you've helped us tremendously
The discussion around rumination/compulsions you *like* is very interesting. 🤔 One of my hobbies is creative writing. I’ve always been susceptible to daydreaming. Finding a balance of thinking about stories as a kind of planning rather than a form of brain entertainment that keeps me from doing the things I actually want to do is difficult. It’s very true that creating those habits of staying in my head can add to other compulsions as well. I wonder if other writers have this challenge.
What I do with that is make sure I'm writing and sharing that writing. If I'm going to spend time on the story in my head, it's going to directly lead to action that will share the story.
@@everybodyhasabrain That’s a good point. I have a writing buddy I like to discuss with, and I share online too. It’s the biggest issue when I’m trying to sleep. I can’t sleep, so I get bored and daydream. So I’m also gonna work on laying in bed mindfully, even if I’m awake. It’s interesting how I’ve improved so much on anxiety-related compulsions it’s switching the goal posts to stuff I didn’t really have problems with before.
Catching the replay
Thanks for watching!
Haha, heard your comment on no pests in the garden, listening to this while killing hundreds of slugs
It is still part of caring for a garden!
My biggest take away from this live stream was that, it seems like what we spend alot of time doing in our heads, and how we interact with experiences, just becomes a fully automated program eventually as the brain becomes more efficient at that. And sometimes we install unhelpful programs by accident, maybe they were needed before but they longer serve us now - yet they keep running against our will.
For example maybe there was a time where we were in "survival" mode and stressing alot because of circumstances + lack of awareness about better coping ways, but after that stressful long period ended we kept being in a "survival" mode and still feeling stressed out, it just became the default way of being and living.
Or the example that you gave about interacting with small uncertainties and ruminating usually, then we just learn to be good at ruminating and the content is really irrelevant by this point - it's just how the brain processes any uncertainty now with this program, by ruminating.
It makes alot of sense, hopefully I understood it correctly, If I did then would you say it would be correct to assume that we can all choose to be aware of our unhelpful "programs" and choose to install different ones, and with enough practice this will be our new default mode - eventually completely overriding the previous one?
Yes, it can be useful to see that the brain is just trying to control uncertainty in a way its learned how, and it's open to other ways of interacting with uncertainty, but we'll need to show it those new ways
Hello, I would like to know how I can get some therapy with you please ?
Mark please help me i am really struggling. I am wondering if i am using acceptance as a compulsion. I dont get the difference between using acceptance as a compulsion and practicing acceptance properly. What should i do about this. It just gets to overwhelming for me
You've posted about this uncertainty several times. But there is no question in your message. I don't know what kind of help you're looking for. But posting it again and again to check for reassurance is an example of something I'd see as not helpful. Instead of trying to chase reassurance about an uncertainty, it can be much more helpful to give that time and energy to things we actually want to grow and build in life.
@Markfreeman how to stop having conversations in ur head . sometimes i dont even realise it but when i do i try to focus in real life.also i have this weird physical sensation in my brain and its hard to concentrate.what can i do with this sensation?
You don't have to do anything with that sensation. What if you didn't judge it as "strange" but instead welcomed it? It can be there like so many other experiences. There is a song playing in this cafe as I write this. I could judge it as a "strange" song or I can just let it be there as part of my experience while I do something I value. Not needing to judge and categorize and control experiences is also a helpful with dropping so many conversations in our heads.
@@everybodyhasabrain thanks Mark!ur great as always!!
@@everybodyhasabrainmark why the hell i didnt find you before...
Thank you for doing all of the things that you are doing.
You could easily earn loota money by lanching some kinda course or anything but you're so kind for doing it for free
@@RahulpratapSingh-bo3pd thanks, Rahul!
@@everybodyhasabrain
All the so called therapist should be held accontable for not making their client better... And why they were using any other method when i can see that non judgement is the best, in fact the initial step of their method is judgement/identification of a thought
When thoughts are thoughts, and clouds are clouds
I get anxiety when ever I get a stuffy nose it drives me craZy we’re i feel like I need medication what can I do about it cuz the stuffy nose done go away just cuz u have anxiety so for 3 weeks am anxious and anxiety ever night tryna figure out how or what to do to get me to breath ??