2 Types of Porn Addiction
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- In this video, Dr. Trish Leigh shares two types of porn addiction and more.
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For we wrestle not against flesh and blood,but against principalities,against powers,against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Matthew 5:28
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
James 2:10
For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.
let no man deceive you in faying words. holding a sheild of faith, i pray
Your bedroom isnt a high place.
@@williamgilley7061 find a hot girl but dont share and titles deeds or bank account with her. Unless shes freakin rich.
"Real life is hard. Fantasy is easy."
I get pretty hard in fantasy too.
Exactly!! That's why I become a worldwide celebrity in my head instead of going out and working for it and without having to deal with the pressures of being famous afterwards.. it's much simpler, work smart not hard
Fantasy is never going to be real! But it can be hard to give up!
Exactly 💯
you know what else is hard
I got into a program at my Church . Through prayer , the program and giving my struggle over to Christ , I was set free from the chains of pornography that had held me captive for 45 years ! I can truly sympathize with anyone fighting an addiction! Satan is behind it all and he and his are ruthless. Keep up the good work Doctor !
I hope the priest and the altar boys don't molest you. Watch you back.
No no
This is not *the* perfect path ( you haven't realised it) , you have rejected it attributing it to the act of something evil(devil)..
In short you have sub consciously suppressed the thoughts!
This won't be a permanent fix and the chance of failing is higher if you lose even a minute amount of faith (so hold on to ur faith!)
I am looking for a more "I understand this" solution and only philosophy will answer my question!
Not everything is 'Satan' 🙄
Damn, 45 years.. I've been fighting this for 2 years 5 months and sometimes I assume I cant beat it but I know there's light at the end of this dark tunnel
@@seanflum8521you realize Catholics are only one denomination that generally isn’t even respected by actual Christians
Very nice breakdown Dr Trish. Im the classic case I guess. The push away from depression and disconnection as a teenager was huge. But the images of that era are nothing compared to the media of today. The massive instant rush can be overwhelming.I really sympathize with teenagers now. I think porn is now much harder to avoid than drugs.
I was exposed to porn by my parents and molestation. I have struggled with this and very ashamed of it. Over the past year I have been focussed on praying for deliverance on this. I am down to where I did this every alone opportunity that I had to going about 2 to 3 weeks. I may have a fall about once a month now. But I keep going to the Lord for help.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve unfortunately gone through something similar. It’s absolutely sick and DISGUSTING, and I pray for you and all the other victims of such evil to be healed in Jesus name, amen.
Continue to pray and submit it to God!
Nice one man. Keep on pushing. Never lose hop. Losing hope isn't an option. Nice one. Yay!
You need to disconnect from the triggers if you left hand causes you to sim cut it off
praise God! Keep going to Him, invest your time and desires in Him and His kingdom work and you will beat it. I have been delivered for real for over two years
This is strange in a good way, i've reached day 7 with little to zero urges and every video i've watched that you've uploaded has helped me more than any other sources of info and help have. I used to struggle immensely even reaching two days. You are a miracle worker.
How is it going so far
When someone develops an addiction, the brain craves the reward of the substance. This is due to the intense stimulation of the brain's reward system. In response, many continue use of the substance, unlocking a host of euphoric feelings and strange behavioral traits👍
Definitely old school here. Trauma related. 52 years young and recently determined that I have an addiction that I thought was perfectly normal behavior. That is until I started watching Dr. Trish's videos. Wow! What a wild ride the last month! 8 days and no porn/masturbation. My wife of nearly 27 years knows and is behind me 100%!!
Thanks so much for your videos!!
How did she overcome her shock and pain? I am going thru her pain now. It’s traumatic.
@@KathyPaquette-nb6gzas a wife who’s husband struggles … it’s okay to grieve and feel the emotions you have. I will say give your husband grace and support. He’s deeply shamed and a woman’s response or lack of, can perpetuate the shame he’s already feeling.. I’m Christian and I often handle my husband the way Jesus handles me. I don’t get angry, scared, etc. I’m at piece, yes Disappointment is still there but the other emotions aren’t there anymore. Consistency in support and handling is key. My husband has been doing a lot better and has been able to go months and months without it. He may fall here and there due to stress but where able to overcome it quickly.
@@AliciaRobinson.Thank you sister. I just recently lost the love of my life…🙏ing the Lord brings him back.
We are both believers with trauma backgrounds that show up differently for each of us. He has long standing prom addiction I have significant relationship insecurities.
Likely we both have bpd, traits or full blown.
We both know our identity In Christ but our flesh, the enemy battles with the spirit.
Gods bless you your husband is blessed to have you and your understanding of the grace of Jesus.
🙏 for you both!
👆🏼🙏♥️
I found my first magazine in 1983 when I was 12. Definitely old school. Good breakdown of what really is a life destroying habit.
I keep quitting for a month and then coming back to softcore stuff. Thanks for reminding me why I'm trying to quit.
Dont give up man!
I’ll be 38 this Dec and I’ve had both types. I’m starting therapy and counseling to deal with traumas from my childhood and I believe this will help my journey
Hey, it’s been about a year now, how did the therapy help ? I’m asking cause maybe I might need some sort of therapy although I do control myself & sometimes last 3-4 months without porn & abstaining (semen retention) then I relapse for just 1 day or 2 the most cause I know it will take a toll on me if I keep going.
The mid 30’s is definitely a gray area between the two types because we started in the magazines, pictures, vhs era but by the time of late middle school/ high school, internet porn was in its early stages or at least that’s how I remember it.
Why not talk to your partner? Talking to paid person won't help much.
@@iJuanGutierrez sorry I’m just now seeing this. It helps a lot to be able to talk about it. I’m also in a men’s facebook group.
@@pajeetsingh that’s a very good question and I do talk with my partner. It difficult for them to understand since they don’t struggle with that affliction
10 weeks without relapse.
How
Keep it up! Great job.
It’s possible keeps going. My best attempt was 4 months.
I did 3 months before, I failed about 5 times on my journey and had urges with stress before and now I’m good.
@@CHRONOTHEMANGAKA my worst fear
I was a victim of childhood molestation by my older sister. Many people associate incest only with the females being molested but it started when I was 5 years old and lasted until I was 13. she always tried to cover herself by telling me I was naughty, and she was going to tell mama and I should be ashamed of myself. When in reality I was too young to even know what I was doing, and she was twice my age. So, I have lived a life of being ashamed of myself and that sex is always dirty. I am now 72 years old. I certainly wonder what my life would have been like if I had the chance to grow and developed as normal people do. I sought counseling in my 40's and the female counselor that I had told me she had a similar experience with her dad. She also helped me to understand the perpetrator would always try to blame the act on the victim. But she also helped me to understand the perpetrator in most cases was also a victim of someone else. I have forgiven my sister, but she knows that I remember what she did. Many men could tell the same story as mine, but society always blames it on the male member of the act. And likely if they told it to someone they would likely say "What are you complaining about?" I guess it is just a good place for me to share my experience anonymously. Thanks for listening.
Your story is helpful, thank you for sharing.
I hope you have others in real life to listen and share with-as we know this is more prevalent than our culture wants to recognize.
Your story as many others here could make a difference between living in shame and behind closed doors and freedom in understanding the root of so much destructive behavior.
It always helps me to remember that for the most part hurt people hurt people. Allows me and hopefully society to treat others kindly.
Hope your doing ok now!
Janet
64yr/old sexual abuse survivor
I had similar issues as well, combined with bullying has long term effects. Still trying to fix it to this day.
It's 1975, my parents are splitting up. My world is falling apart but there's playboys underneath my older brother's bed. Thank you for this video it was an epiphany. Anyone struggling don't be ashamed educate yourself in honest humility and your life will transform. I'm betting my life on it
I find the only way I'd be able to stop completely, is if I'm in a relationship. Unfortunately my social skills need serious work. If I can accomplish this, there'd be no incentive to watch porn. I remember being in a brief casual relationship with a girl a few years back and was able stop cold turkey for months. Being single makes this much more difficult
Absolutely. You should look up being "pent up." It has disastrous effects on stress levels. Which is why porn is good.
@@viktorwolfe8333 in what way does watching porn help with that? I could understand relieving yourself but why include porn with it?
@@Xscape128 don't listen to him bruh, you don't wanna go back in the bad lazy bum cycle of p*rn
@@viktorwolfe8333shalom rabbi
Pornography was so appealing to me as a 1980s teenager that I refused to buy a VCR. But high speed internet and the lack of contact during a long term relationship sucked me in my late 20s. I am finally getting this under control in my 50s.
I am definitely one of your classic cases. The days when you had to go to a store miles from where anyone knew you to buy a magazine. Unfortunately, for work reasons, I was exposed to the internet quite early which has had a hook in me for years. But I will break free, and your videos are a key part of it. Thank you.
For an older person it’s a difficult choice. Once we’re over 40 the available singles are usually recovering drug addicts or a tatted up single mom with 3 kids from 4 different dads and leave a trail of destruction in the lives of whoever they date. Sexual desire doesn’t go away when we’re single, so what’s the safer option?
Yeah I hear you lol suprise never really thought about that until it happened and now what? Honestly I don't think there is a answer. It's just learning to live without it. I have the same problem. Ive stopped looking for a year now because what's the point. The only thing left is just too much of a burden. Most women really screwed themselves up. The juice ain't worth the squeeze. And the only decent ones left are top trophy stuff that ain't gonna be interested. Life certainly does suck looking at that aspect. Our society certainly has gone the wrong direction. Last girl I tried dating was tattooed had a daughter she just let run around doing whatever. You know that's how she'll learn is by making all those mistakes on other people's lives. I couldn't stand that. It was ridiculous. You council a child. You don't just let them exist and make bad choices. Duh. Otherwise nice girl but I see that alot. They just can't raise their kids and wth would i want to even try and be told it's not my kid so I just have to sit and watch chaos? Nah....i guess this is life now. Feminism is such a great thing ended up making everyone miserable....yay
@Carlos The Boss well not all women just the majority lol. Plus someone said something to me a few years ago that does resonate in my mind whenever I get to down about the situation. See up until about 20 years ago all men and women were social to a extent. Meaning there was no internet and basic TV so that forced people outside and in the world. The problem is now any decent woman or man very rarely is out and about. The good people are at home lonely because going out only leads to hanging around a bunch of truly extroverted trash lol. So the only women you tend to meet are the ones you don't want to. What the fix to that is i have no idea. And hey great if your the type of person like those people then things work out. I guess my point is the girl your looking for is out there....she's just at home feeling the same way as you. Figuring out how to solve that problem is the hardest part. The internet is nice and all but honestly it's destroyed most of our lives and taken away the basics. Like our conversation. 30 years ago we'd be chatting out at a bar about this same thing except every once and awhile we'd see that good girl at the table doing the same thing with her friend's and you'd be able to make eyes and with a little bit of liquid courage and some goating from your boys stumble over and say something sweet and......the rest is mortgage kids and a shit job lol.
@@williamgilley7061 yeah I never bought into the whole church scene thing that people suggest. This is my opinion but any girl who is going to church that is single?....well she's gonna be a little warped in the mind nowadays. Plus if she's there chances are she's shopping as well but with a twisted morality. She wants the complete opposite of what men want. She wants a fun energetic guy who is super Christian and is more interested in volunteering to do things than spending time with a woman lol. Basically looking for a straight gay man to take care of her. It's weird. Women stop wanting anything physical or sexual once the babies are born and they are married. It's interesting how that switch is flipped and it's depressing knowing and seeing that for the most part everything about a woman in today's world is a lie that they themselves aren't even aware of. Other than finance what good is a man to a woman? They don't find men really attractive. They have too many options. Sexual desire can be easily replicated or replaced by tv tools or books. And as for social interactions? Well they have their friends and pet's. It's the perfect example of a buyer's market. They literally have no use for a man other than convenience of financial resources.
@@williamgilley7061 you know a little off topic but this reminds me of this family of women in our town real bible thumpers. At first glance and to most people they are the American dream and I've been friends with 2 of the sisters of 4 for years since school and were 40s now but....looking behind the scenes this is what you really see. They are all good looking married to men and you would be jealous of these men until you imagine what life is like. These women are always in bathing suits posting on social media about the good life and how they are blessed but you look at the men and they are exhausted slaves. So they are all into this adopting colored children so they all have like 5 or 6. And every weekend these guys are slaving away building something or redoing something on someone's house or volunteering. Now these women have a free labor force that they manipulate into doing things because of their looks and these men are always sweaty and doing something in the background. Not to mention their full time jobs all the volunteer work and any free time is spent working free labor for these women and then you add on the addition of having 6 kids of different races that arnt yours just to please these ladies. I see pictures of these guys and they are exhausted. And let's be honest....is any kind of sex or intimacy worth that price? Not to mention with everything going on....when do they even have time? Seems to me like a living hell. These women exploit their men and treat them as slaves. They have no hobbys. Only more work from the girl's. Hell there old man just died at the ripe old age of 63 and he was worked to death. It's a interesting family that I spent alot of years being jealous of but the last 10 or so I see behind the curtain and it looks like hell. I laugh when I see the guy's around town because they ain't smiling. There yawning with bags under their eyes. The only thing that they have above me is they can tell themselves that they have someone in the few times during the day when they are allowed to think lol. Other than that if you really think about it their lives are of servitude because of a natural sexual desire that they can't see past. And after all is said and done they truly have nothing that is theirs and I highly doubt that they even have that much relations. So what is the point of it all?
Idk man, if I was in your shoes, I would try going after younger girls. Such as late 20s and early 30s.
I found pornography at age 7 while googling how babies are born. Ended up seeing the word sex and then looking up sex videos because i was 7 and didn’t know what sex was . Found porn and just kept looking for more of it
Thanks doc. I am a teenager and i am already escaping the addiction. Started getting big, meditation, sungazing helps ALOT. Its soo easy for me. I am on like 3 weeks streak! You made me understand this on neurological level. Thanks!
I am actually motivated to do stuff now.
Me to bro lets get this shit gone
@@kdot999 yeskir! We all gon make it. Its day 93 for me
@@prosperity144 yo wassup man I’m a teen too I’m 17 u still on the streak
@@mts_payso6206 yeskirrr! Day 165+ everyday is one step closer to becoming the GOD version of myself
What about those of us that are unattractive and too old to to find a partner ,porn helps with the unavailability of sex ,and most women shut sex off after 40 odd years of age !! And nowadays women basically have a fantasy expectation of how a man should be !! So those like us only have porn !!
fucking exactly!!
Not all use is addiction or dependency.
Many are better off with this.
Lindsay, a superb post. Please accept a virtual hug.
@@viktorwolfe8333 Please see my reply to Lindsay.
@@allaboard4050 Don't think I need a virtual hug. :/
Spiritual work on myself was my release after about 45 years of it! Tried to quit so many times but it would never last for long. Get serious with Jesus and get out of Satan's terrible trap.
Now I'm addicted to dr.Trish
Me too
I'll bet she could make way more money encouraging porn addiction rather than trying to cure it -
Oh boy…🤣😂🤣
You do good work here. Porn addiction is a major problem for me and many other men. I will be watching and learning as much as I can.
Women too.
I have recently been off porn and other things for about under a month now and have progressed very well but I have been having high anxiety when it comes to performance with my wife. I can’t seem to shake the anxious thoughts of ED and don’t know how long this will last. She is fully aware and says it’s never a problem and is with me on the journey but I need to know where I am in this walk and want to make it to mental freedom to get back to the way things used to be. Prayers gladly welcome 🙏
If the boy won't stand up get viagra straight up ain't no shame, it be a lot reasons we can't perform. I had a 3 way bout 2 months ago and couldn't perform. My problems be different from everybody else's dow.
Lol, yeah we had to watch Cinemax ( also known as skinemax) and Showtime at 3 a.m. in the morning. If you were lucky your old man had one of those scrambler cable boxes.
Susan Featherly was my favourite actress.
After nearly 4 months I started again before. Now this is the second day of abstinence. I felt I was out of it when I passed the third month with out it. But now, I m feeling I may fail again. The guilt after watching is so tremendous that it almost becomes unbearable. It is really really really a bad thing.
You not alone keep on fighting
Im addicted to porn because of severe emotional neglect. Ive known for a while. I even managed to fix it!!!! And then i fell back into it even harder than before. Because after i FIXED my life, i was sexually assaulted and i immediately just collapsed and fell back into it
Technically i consented but thats not the POINT, the point is SHE DIDNT CARE about what she was doing to me.
But when i touch MYSELF, i GIVE myself the affection she didnt give me
And thats JUST what caused the relapse. Thats not including everything else
When im in a relationship, i dont need to touch myself or watch porn
My addiction is connected to loneliness, not a high seeking. When im happy, socially happy, i dont get those urges
Developed a habit in my late 20s that went from once a month to once a week. In my mid 30s now and really wanting stamp it all out. It’s tough especially first thing in the morning when I’m tired. I’ve been wishing for my single ‘road to Damascus’ event to change my habit instantly but am realising it will be a 10 round slug fest against Apollo Creed. Wishing to no fap indefinitely
Oh noo!! Once a week lmao
You know what I'm thinking about.
I'm definitely the first type. Luckily, porn was harder to come by when I was a teenager. Unluckily though was the trauma that drove me to it.
Yes, you can cure stress by natural ways and that too optimistically and not in vain.✨
Align probiotics are helping me good with stress.
Meditation is a healthy replacement
I commend you for speaking truth, I.e. pornography is an addiction, contrary to what the psychiatry industry tells you that it is not.
Often times the experts miss that many people, probably more so today then in the past, use Porn as a substitute because of changes in views about sexuality and the roles men and women play in today's society. Relationships are more complex today then in the past, and many young people may not feel they can get the kinds of people they are attracted to, or, they have unrealistic standards about a person's physical appearance and personality, or they are self conscious about their own bodies. In either case, they fantasize through the advent of porn. As an older Gen Xer, I didn't have the challenges younger men have today. We sometimes played the Hard-To-Get or Prove-It-To-Me-If-You-Really-Want-Me games with some of the women we were pursuing. Many young men today are not willing to play those games, so they choose Porn instead because it is free and readily available. Like one commenter wrote, Fantasy is easier than reality. Porn is like a drug to the pleasure centers of the Brain, especially if self-gratification is involved. Definitely lots of prayer and fasting are required to pull down that stronghold.
DR. Trish Leigh porn is a form of brain wave hypnotism just like yoga , meditation , chakara healing , other new age vibrational medicine ...the hypnotism is most of the addiction
Exposed at 13 and then got into heavy when I got married from a lack of sex. Watched it for 20 years and now have ED. I quit watching it regularly because I simply am not excited by it anymore. Getting aroused for sex is very difficult now. It's not worth the addiction. I could never break it so I did it until I couldn't get excited anymore. 20 years of it.
So now asexual? Are u surviving? Hope your marriage has other redeeming qualities?
I know this is off-topic but you're actually really pretty!
And I'll bet you visualized that you were watching a porn video where she would take off her clothes at any second, too, didn't you? lol
Glad I was already an adult when the Internet became part of or everyday lives. Had to settle for magazines and VHS tapes for the longest time lol. Jokes aside, it's much tougher now. I feel sorry for kids growing up in today's world.
Hi Dr. Trish, yes you needed more of an imagination back then with the magazine's. Or the city near me had adult theatres. I know of a tool that I learned which pretty much works for me I thought I'd share, when I have the temptation to act out I get a piece of paper and have a dialogue with myself. Like I'm having a talk with the addict and my (healthy) self.i let the addict speak on why he wants to act out, and my healthy self says all the possible consequences, the point is you are writing all this stuff down, however long it takes.that by the time it takes for this conversation to end, the urge is gone.
Thank you for sharing your strategy.
@@danielszambelan6876 👍
it's an interesting modern trend, and it's good that now people are starting to pay attention
There are two types of people addicted to porn, those that use fast forward and those that don’t.
I’ve struggled with pornography since I was 9/10 years old… for the first time ever I really am trying to beat this thing but am struggling so much. I feel like I’ve associated it with shame, stress and guilt from when I was younger and I was bullied. Any advice or direction? I will gladly take pointers. God bless!
I suggest you read the book called, “the easypeasy method to quit porn”.
This book explains the psychological part of the addiction and really breaks down the process to stop porn forever.
As you see you are NOT alone! Shame only keeps us hiding…hope you reach out and find others who struggle. You could help many!
Sheesh! Yall talking bout porn like it's a bad thing! Sexual restraint causes uptightness and sleeplessness. What are you holding it in for? Marriage? Life's too short to let others convince you that what makes you feel good is wrong. Its your life! Live it!
Agreed! Go live a life that includes a lot of sex. Unfortunately porn is just you watching something on the screen and having sex by yourself… Not the same at all as having a lot of great sex in real life.
@@DrTrishLeigh I have a balanced life which includes both. I don't have issues with porn. Sometimes it's what my option is. But I do agree that live sex is far better.
Lol pornography IS a bad thing and if we are willing to accept all sorts of degeneracy that’s being watched by children we might as well be damn zoo animals! It needs to be removed from society!
@@GREGSJH13Speak for yourself. Removing things from society because you don't approve is the first step towards the end of free speech. This is material that isn't intended for children. It's the responsibility of the parents to monitor and have awareness of what their own children are doing. It's just like cigarettes and alcohol. The parent is responsible for keeping those out of their children's hands. I (and many others) enjoy adult entertainment and do not agree with your view. You can choose to keep it away from yourself, but you can't make that choice for others. You say its a bad thing, but that doesn't make it so. Eradicating the industry would leave a void where many would have to find another means for release...think about that. One's libido doesn't simply shut off because there's no more porn.
Dr Trish, I am trying to get my husband to get into one of your programs. Three years ago my world crashed when I found out about his porn addiction. We have five children and since finding out, he has just shut down and his emotional abuse is getting worse. He claims he is not watching, but literally every single responsibility of home, financial, kids, cars, bills, EVERYTHING he has left on me. Why is he this way if he has not been watching? He has no phone and is home all the time.
Look up Heart to Heart Doug Weiss.
Depression is a real thing. I've suffered from it and it can ruin a life. Hope this helped.
He might be chronically depressed
I've had a porn addiction since the age of about 13 after being introduced to it. Slowly but surely kicking the habit and turning my attention to more positive things.
Thank you for showing all these sideeffects you have saved me 🙏
"hi-jacked" the beavis and butthead laugh in my head probably confirms everything you said about me,
"introduced to them by someone..." an older female relative and her bestie got us into it at 12, they were 15 - they even talked us into practising on them, we will never reach the stage where we call this with a word.
I saw porn at too young of an age, and as an adult I have looked at porn very few times. It is highly addictive, so like drugs or alcohol, I have avoided it like the plague. The temptation to look at porn comes occasionally out of the blue, but I struggle with depression and I know if i give in to the temptation the depression will get significantly worse. The temptation is fleeting, so I go do something else and it will go away sooner or later.
I watch porn everyday for 15 years I think I’m to far gone 😢😢😢I wanna stop but I can’t
Pornographic videos, and images is what I want to stay away from it only leads to destruction. Pray more asks God, to strengthen you. I can do all things through Christ, who will strengthen me. Philippians 4:13.🙏🙏🙏
Im an immigrant from in the 2000s, and the way I grew up in the 90s was very oppressed and it was third world country living standard while growing up. Now I'm in the US suddenly exposed to all these
Pornography has caused me a lot of trauma. I was a happy go lucky kid and now due to the lock downs I go straight up to 4-5 times a day.
Km krle bhi
@@shubhamkaushal6014 flatline me tha bhai! How about u?
Sometimes I get scared to be raped by many girls directly on the street and no one helps
I watch pron, certainly used it as a way to deal with trauma but also just enjoyed it for its own sake. But I dont feel I'm addicted to it and see no harm in it.
How is trying to control how it is all a psychological matter and shaming is only psychological opinion the main thing is to be productive to yourself and don't kill others ability with psychological opinions that may get you a fix but it is just using others for your benefit live and let live and encourage people to be happy and take care of there injoyment and share but don't cripple there ability in any way for that is a sin
Since I'm older, yes, the magazines' were what I started with at a very young age. Then, when , the digital age appeared and videos, OMG I was in heaven until I realized it is a problem. It is so much easier to find now from when I was young which makes it so hard to kick the habit.
I had that conversation with my son. Classic vs modern. Now, what I've been processing recently are things I wanted to do when I was younger. I wanted to be a beauty tech, hair and makeup, all motivations completely hedonistic.
That being said, the fantasy aspect of porn, and the selfish ness, shallow ness required to be in that world.
So, in my real life, I was with this woman for several years, in that time she'd say something about her looks, in my head, telling her "I'm not with you for your body" was an acceptable answer, it's not selfish or shallow, not a good thing to say to someone who's insecure
This is a very truthful and useful channel Thankyou
What really hurt me at an early age was working at a video rental store (VHS) when I was 17 years old in high school. They had a backroom of adult videos. It was all down hill from there.
Some of those trees in the painting behind her look like brains.
Great idea Baked Potatoes on a stick Just have to figure out how sour cream and butter won't mess up your shirt
I'll be 49 this year (September 2022) and definitely fall into the "Classic" category. My question is: How do I know if my strong urge for sex comes from the testosterone in my body, or from the problems developed from childhood sexual abuse and exposure to pornography at a young age? What is "normal" for sexual desire for a healthy male at my age? Is once or twice a week too frequent? I haven't been back to the screen since October 2020, yet I still have a strong desire.
At age 11 or 12 my father thought it would be a great idea to store is vast collection of Playboy magazines under my bed.
I'm now 62 and struggling with porn and I hurt my wife deeply...when she found out I'd been looking at porn for years...😰
I will find a way out!
What is considered addiction though? I watch around 10mins of porn at least 5 times per week and it makes me feel good. I've never had any trauma in my life. I've been married for almost 20yrs and with young kids, we don't have a good sex life. So porn fills a void. I think without it I'd be a much worse person. I'm just wondering then, is addiction referring to hours of porn every day?
No. It is not regarding hours it is more of dependency on it.
Do you need it to take the edge off? Do you hide it from your spouse? People usually think porn is helping them and making them a better person until it escalates… Which most times it does.
@@DrTrishLeigh I don't depend on it, I just like it. I do hide it from my wife, because she doesn't have the same sexual impulses as me, and she wouldn't understand. Also, male and female fetishes are different, so I don't want to be judged. Porn is the one time I can be my true self, like what I like, and not be judged... p.s. I'm not into anything dark or weird, I'm very normal.
@@funcool32 The doctor probably thinks 20 minutes of sex is enough too, I watch it cause my Wife won’t take the time to rev me up what are we supposed to do?
@@lawnmowerman4040 it's very hard to understand a man with a high sex drive if you're not one yourself. Easy for others to say it's addiction and make us feel like we've got something wrong with us!
Yeah this woman just doesn't get it. Thats weird huh?
Idk if its addition or im doing it because i have nothing else to do. Usually i just feel a sudden urge to do it, it doesn't feel good anymore, its like whatever and im still doing it. Its awful, im sick of it. I cant go even 2 weeks without it
What you described is the essence of a compulsion or addiction. Time to leave it behind.
There is also the biological factor we are wired for sex it is a natural drive and if cannot satisfy with someone then we seek sexual satisfaction through fantasy, with imagination, remember sex is a natural act we are built for it to try and ignore that is very difficult if not almost impossible task.
Alot of people do celibate for a lot of different reasons.
I'm 90+ days into no porn and I honestly don't feel any different. Is that normal?
I'm in the classic category and exposed to porn at the age of 12 by an image from a magazine of an Italian woman(Monica Bellucci).I had a secret hiding place of the magazine and whenever I get time alone i would view her images.I also grew up in a family of nine and my father was abusive especially when he was angry or frustrated I was his victim by insults to demean me infront of my siblings,punishment(caning) or I would be assigned heavy duties and sometimes he would gather all of us then separate me from the rest and telling my siblings that I would be a terrible,useless man in life.My self esteem didn't die despite all what I went through and I never carried hatred towards my father.He passed away 9 years ago and never got a chance of reconciliation.Today I'm the most successful in my family and supporting most of them(siblings).I forgave him since he's my father,gave me education,raised me and today I realize the hardships of raising a family.Dad I have forgiven you and may your soul Rest in Peace and all I have in my heart is love for you.
You know why you are successful?It's because of your good ❤️.By not holding grudges to your father
I was born in 1988 and I’d say I fit the classic moving to contemporary model.
Just wondering why the DSM 5 does not include porn addiction as a mental health condition?
Just 2 main types? I don't know about that
I knew when I was 9, when I saw a "club" magazine for the 1st time, I was never the same after.
This was a very interesting video. I'm on the older side so I went from Mags, VHS, DVD, to now internet. I feel like my addiction has gotten worse as I get older. I've never been in a relationship but I still interested in mating. I'm actually to the point where I can I only need 2 seconds and I then I created a fantasy all in my mind. eek!
Doctor you said . Childhood trauma dysfunction is the cause for porn addiction. Please explain what do you mean by childhood trauma.
yes you are right and great work
I'd like more information about "old school" addiction. I know it's a huge problem that people have grown up with access to video porn, but as you mention there's a segment that had the door opened by magazines or whatever before the internet era, and it would be interesting to learn more about the journey for those people.
By your teachings I have begun to ask myself "What is this feeling?" when I feel tempted back into the screen. And I know the response now, and I tell myself "this is your brain demanding a quick hit of dopamine. you need to move somewhere else and address this some other way. I am the driver here, and "No" is my final answer to "the screen". Thank you Trish!
So what if porn is not this huge stress response addiction reaction is actually physical/ sexual? Like i can abstain from porn for long periods of time but eventually get wound up physically (i.e libido kicks in). If you’re not in a relationship there is actually zero outlet for this and then your in a battle. I found if I continue to abstain from porn it actually doesn’t improve … (i.e libido stays high). Basically I disagree its always an addiction/ stress discomfort response.
When I started just thinking about my ex I realized I was using it to avoid something emotionally
What about later trauma eg relationship failure/divorce and all the consequences of that emotional, psychological, financial etc
It seems that I get the message that the goal is no self gratification whatsoever because it ruins the ability to have a satisfying relationship with your spouse or partner. Can't couples become so infatuated with sex that they ruin
their own relationship for themselves even if they are monogamous? And what about people like me who have no desire for relationships but still have a strong libido? Perhaps I am just jaded and need a different set of instruction.
One solution 4 yah
......pump and dump these girls
When people frustrate the hell out of you in person then don't be surprised when they will turn to virtual reality. cell phones, selfies, endless texting, technology generally speaking are more of a serious addiction than 'porn' itself. People are just too slow to realize that and some people just don't get it and never will.
For these people who are traumatized in early age, in a way, they don’t have a real life. it’s not just that it’s more comfortable in real life. They don’t know what real life is and if there’s trauma or porn or whatever is introduced to them by someone, they know a family member, then that is real life. And of course even that early age they’re conflicted they know it’s not good.
Not until about 2020's I didn't even know that porn was something bad. Adult entertainment felt good for me, and it got me going through times of easy and hard. I quit watching porn and erotic art whatsoever. Let me tell you, it was 1,000 times easier to quit smoking.
If it wasn't on your phone, most men wouldn't never think about it.
Now it 1 week for me I really hope it permanent may God help me
Yeah I’m just really lonley and it’s hard for me to meet Someone for a relationship and then there’s too poor too fat too ugly I am 🤷🏿♂️
I had a relapse today but it was me that caused it for me self
If somebody has pornographic flashbacks after having quit porn, many months later, would this be classed as PTSD? How can these be eradicated?
Maybe, but it's infinitely better than any STD. Not that I'm speaking out of experience, in fact I'm happy I never contracted one, but to your point it helps to read or engage in a physical activity that requires focus.
It's worked for me though not always. I guess we all have different paths to get there.
My 1st time I even saw porn, I was 11 or 12. A friend or a friend was watching porn at his parents place. I never really got into porn until I was in my mid-40's
I don't have a woman, therefore I watch porn. That's by far the most common type.
and i have woman but i watch porn they i broke up with her
You can buy a woman.
@@jlwright2586 Buying a woman is expensive, and also illegal in some countries.
@louisaparker your right
@@K94406 Two years after my initial comment, I still don't have a woman, so I still watch porn. Porn does not have any effect on my relationship, because I don't have a relationship.
I fall in the #1 category 100%.
Thanks. I think classic is my trauma. Chaos at home and being introduced to it w dopamine hit.
This is first time in a year I have gone 6 days without porn and I just relapse.
I will continue keep the fight, thank you doctor for all the helpful informations
But Ma'am, does Pornography (straight/heterosexual) affect female children/teens/adults at all ?
I'm asking this because, I only see boys around me using such vocabulary, memes, discussions and the addiction ofcourse. And it's only the boys that I see getting deteriorated performances in academics, sports, socialization due to this.
I’m curious, when is it considered an addiction?
probably when it interferes with work/school/family/your relationship/your motivation
@Dr Trish how do you avoid porn + fap when your life long partner has entered menopause, and you’d be lucky to have (unsatisfying) sex once every four to six months?
Excuses, excuses, excuses. Sound like a real victim.
I love my addiction. Just the truth. Have had it since 6 or 7
What a sad state of mind
@@juggyfoad6759 How the Hell would u know.
@@Biker65 loving your addiction that actively worsens you as a person is nothing short of the most pathetic thing ive ever heard
@@juggyfoad6759 hes addicting to giving homeless people money. Not porn. Ur not understanding him right lol
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Please answer me 🙏🙏
How to healbbrain fast ?
How much time need to heal brain after 4 years regular porn addiction ?
Hi friend. I made a video on this. Search for the porn brain reboot timeline on this channel. It will help you understand.