Andrew Callaghan responds to sexual allegations
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Guest bio: Andrew Callaghan is the host of Channel 5 on CZcams, where he does street interviews with fascinating humans at the edges of society, the so-called vagrants, vagabonds, runaways, outlaws, from QAnon adherents to Phish heads to O Block residents and much more.
Please, you have to make Lex watch "be Lex Fridman" by Wormwood. It is UNCANNY.
yet again, not talking about the other allegations, which include rape, corroborated by different sources, as published by The Stranger on Feb 28th 2023. staying silent on that comes off like an admission of guilt. it does not sound like you have learned a lot, it sounds like you bid your time for a comeback like Louie CK and every other piece of shit in this business. and you realised your fuckboy days were over so you settled down, congrats. still an alleged rapist.
It's amazing how Lex could say so little and still repeat himself.
this guy is beyond dull
I know right. Like how did this guy get so big?
@@rtotheizzle joe rogan
Crazy that people will dislike someone/something and still invest THEIR time 🤣
It’s truly an art (not really lol)
Lex responded with "thank you for showing accountability" three times in a row and Andrew somehow still kept the conversation moving.
What do you mean?
@@Vikings-zr6dr I think that maybe Lex was trying to end the topic and move on and not dwell too much on that stuff, but Andrew has a lot to say about it
The last time he said “thank you for mostly taking accountability”. I think that’s because Andrew said he had no clue the girls didn’t feel good about the hook ups, when in reality I imagine he knew but didn’t care
@@screamdreamer9085 that's quite an assumption, especially considering (if my memory serves me correctly - I watched the full interview the day it was released) Andrew said he wouldn't want to hook up with someone he knew wasn't into him. Sounded more like to me that the girl had a fucked up childhood and doesn't know how to say no to herself or anyone else for that matter. Let's not forget that this continued to escalate as Andrew became more famous. There's a correlation there.
@@ivi0nk3y36 It's all an assumption. You idiots on here taking sides and believing people on the Internet like Andrew are the epitome of dumb.
Lex staring down at his sticky note "Thank you for taking accountability.."
it's called a script
@@pimppopotamustard They told us in the early 2000's that Harry Potter was written on a napkin. They also told us in 1969 that man landed on the moon....and now you are telling me a sticky note is a script?? OK fair play.
@@Tom33875 you're seriously implying that the moon landing was staged, aren't you? lmao
@@LogsMaggot No there's wind on the moon. The American flag blowing in the wind does not lie. We just haven't gone back because all the documents were destroyed. You'd suck off Neil Degrassi wouldn't you?
@@LogsMaggot the world began in 2000
the interviewer has the same level of charm as a basic bar of soap
it's part of his charm
I think he freebases barbiturates right before the cameras roll.
@@csweet207 He probably does hours of meditation and studies stoicism on a regular basis. Lex is just a super chill dude who doesn't focus on emotions. Or maybe hes just a psychopath I don't know.
@@patrickbertlein4626There's nothing about stoicism that says "don't make basic facial expressions or ever modulate your voice"
@@patrickbertlein4626lmao stoicism doesn't change your facial expressions, body language or tone of voice.
She literally said "i saw your fame increasing" Wow this is so sad.
Sad? How about "entirely predictable"?
But equally, what a genuine response from both sides. He owned his part, and she owned her actions, has an understanding of her traumatic past, and the two sound remarkably adult about the whole thing. Even her reaching out first after the fact is more honesty than most people are afforded.
she saw that as opportunity to blackmail him. money , money, ...... insane
That meant his life got better as her became more daunting because of the experience. I’m assuming she felt like it wasn’t fair
Exactly. I bet if he wasn't famous and rich this wouldn't have happened. Somehow these whores always come back where the money is.
The moral of the story is that hook-up culture is not good for your soul. There's nothing consequence free about sex.
this
I’ve had plenty of one night stands and I’m happy married at this point in my life. You just can’t be emotionally weak
@@jordanbarnett7247 And many more like you who had ONS are divorced or never married and the statistics show that
ok mom 👍
@@jordanbarnett7247 nothing says emotional strength quite like bragging about the drunk 403z you fkd in a youtube comment section 😂. Either way there were still consequences regardless of whether you are married now.
I feel like my generation grew up on a lie that hookup culture is totally fine so long as you're practicing safe sex, and the older I've gotten the more I realize sex is a very intimate experience that you maybe shouldn't just throw around on complete randoms. We should at least be understanding that the sexual experience has far more gravity than we thought.
@Graham Fucking facts! This is particularly true for young women who often feel they were taken advantage of if they do not have feelings requited
Wow ur a real genius.😂😂 no sshiet
Nahhh I’d argue there isn’t enough education around emotional and social aspects of the situation, not that it’s a lie. It’s different for everyone
@@DTTWOPP you must be really fun at parties. I bet you can't help but make friends wherever you go. How do you manage to be such a cool sweet nice guy to everyone in comment sections? It's SO admirable!!! ❤️❤️❤️
This is stupid. People have sex, there's nothing abnormal about it. People like you hype it up so much when in reality it's not a big a thing as you think. It's completely natural.
Andrew literally breaking down his darkest mindset and the interviewer is sighing and writing on his notes.
takes notes on how not to do his future apology :)
yall, lex is autistic and he’s dealing w a very heavy and sensitive topic trying not to say anything harmful. give him a break
@@elise9537 SERIOUSLY. When the person apologizing makes it all about themself... bruh.
@Alej_915 your all sick in the head, dude has nothing to apologize for, the adult he was with regretted and had second thoughts after she made her decision and decided to try and ruin someone's life over it, she needs to be in jail
@@Avtomat_Killashnikov he said himself it was a pattern of behavior that he realized he had. Stay mad dude
When the "allegations" came out, Tim Heidecker dropped Andrew like a hot potato. I‘ll never forget that.
he tends to do that. Him and Brett Gelman kiss in the sewers at night.
No one cares if u will forget it or not. U dont know and never will be friends w this kid. Worry about the real world
Just like he bailed on Sam Hyde when they were about to take over
@@DTTWOPPhave you ever heard of principles
@@michaelgoesfast1welllllllllllll Hyde is a big ole national socialist not quite the same
Lex Fridman could have been replaced with a mop in this interview and it would have been the same.
Tbh I am still single after my last live-in gf accused me of some heinous stuff I would never dream of doing. I didn't get in any trouble, but I did have to soeak to the police, and forgiving her is irrelevant, I don't know when I'll be ready to take that chance again. I was a hostage in my own home with her. I may have avoided legal trouble, but 10 years later I am still alone, and it feels it will never end. This woman should be charged with something, both of them. Cheers to him for trying not to be resentful.
Thanks for sharing your experience-it's more common than you might think, and it's really meaningful that you're opening up about it. I hope you can overcome this hurdle and make peace with your past challenges. It's completely understandable to have reservations about starting a new relationship, given your experiences, and no one would fault you for feeling cautious. I sincerely hope you find a relationship that's genuinely joyful and meaningful for you. All the best.
Maybe men should grow back bones again and stop letting women put puppet strings on you. We live in an age where men are becoming victims and guys sit in passenger seats as the girl drives them around town. Tf is happening to us?
I feel this so much. This sort of domestic situation fucked me up so bad.
Try finding a non-liberal male counselor
As someone who has almost had this happen to me, twice. The best advice I can give you is to call their bluff and pretend like you’re getting police involved. Both times I had started getting texts from friends saying “so and so is saying such and such”, so I immediately texted them that I’ve already got the cops at my house and am giving them my phone. Both times I was worried they’d just not say anything, but they weren’t very bright. Both times the girls replied flipping out, called me crazy and weird, which really bit them in the ass because no one that was actually abused would get angry and upset when their abuser says they’re turning themselves into the cops. Liars will though.
One of the girls replied to a post I made that contained a screenshot of how they reacted, even had the audacity to try and play the victim AGAIN, doubling down saying “my abuser knows I’m terrified of cops”, which got something like 62 laughing reactions, and still to this day her Facebook sits dormant. She was real active before all that though. Both times were from girls who I had hooked up with only once, only to lose interest in them because they sucked at being a real human and had like zero social skills.
Also, for obvious reasons, this plan doesn’t work if you’re an actual POS scum bag that knows for certain that loads of people have evidence of scumbag behavior. In which case, instead of pretending to call the cops, just straight up call them and turn yourself in loser.
So any Woman can come back years later and say pretty much ANYTHING and it will probably stick. And people will still wonder why young men aren't dating like they used to 😂
The problem is that being a selfish a$$hole has no gender.
There are many men that have abused their strength and positions & some women that have abused theirs.
Blaming just one is ridiculous
so true
Especially if youve become successful.
The lesson here isn't to date its not to have casual flings with someone you don't know well. Have sex after you've dated that person and know them well. I don't think this is a problem with the women being malicious always I think this is a consequence of casual sex. Alot of women don't want to have sex so quick but our culture more pressures them into doing that.
@@jaredmccain7555 very good insight
“Saw your fame increasing”
This woman has 0 trauma, she wants a check.
What he said is she sent that text WITH A LAWYER hoping he'd respond with something they could use to incriminate him.
It's the same thing cops do all the time. It doesn't matter if you're guilty or innocent, they want you to start talking so the lawyer has something to spin.
@@twelvecatsinatrenchcoatwhat could he have said that would be incriminating and would have been grounds for a successful lawsuit?
@@HughMungousSack I dunno, I'm not a lawyer. But my understanding is the more things you put in writing, or just say if a cop is listening, the more oppurtunities the lawyers have to twist you up. They can find inconsistencies, they can make you look like a liar, and it makes it harder for YOUR lawyer later on because you're removing potential defenses from their quiver every time you open your mouth. If you say something like "I DIDNT DO [insernt thing]!" in a text you don't think amounts to anything, 12 months later in court your lawyer can no longer make the argument that you did actually do [insert thing] if it somehow helps your case. Maybe it was an alibi, maybe that specific thing wasn't actually criminal and shows you really weren't doing whatever thing was criminal/liable.
its more than a woman one of them was 17 when he dmed her... and it was 2021 not a decade ago.
they are not women they are teens. look up their age. he dmed 17 yrs olds. what the hell is wrong with you pervs?
She’s an adult. She regretted a decision. She tried to ruin someone’s life because of it. I don’t understand how this is a career ender.
This blew up. The discussion is based on the only thing talked about in this video. In this instance I don’t see how it’s a career ended. I have not and to be honest probably won’t look any deeper into this than what I already have haha. Y’all go too hard in comment sections 😂
Because there are multiple she’s not just one
@@Dirge4july So what?
@@Dirge4july Absolutely none of them described SA. They described an uncomfortable sexual experience, that's it.
Because this society wants to crush men as much as it possibly can. Every man they can knee-cap is one more spot for "diversity equity and inclusion" to fill the gap.
@@Dirge4july so we are just going to demonize anyone who made unwanted advances but didn't act on them? you trippin bro
I love seeing how Andrew has become more serious over the years.
It's called growing up lol
To each their own but I’m not as much as a fan. I feel like even though he has a lot of good videos, the more serious stuff recently is not ever as good as his funny stuff. Found the nra video semi preachy, his movie too. Not saying I’m republican or anything, but wasn’t as unique to me
Keep kissing his ass praying he will acknowledge your existence. You dont know this dude, you think you know this dude.
@@alwynraynott7303 no.... I still have fun all the time, but I'm not an immature 20 year old anymore. The two are not directly connected like you seem to think.
being exposed does that to you :) so dont dm teens :)) child play ruins your life lol
Andrew obviously recognized that he was in a position of power and him a)seeking intimate situations with people who already had a one sided relationship with him then b)pressing these people to be intimate with him was him further abusing that power. The important part about this is that he recognized that he did not understand this power imbalance. The women that experienced this regret in no way deserve disrespect that this comment section is giving them. they deserve to be heard. Andrew is hearing them and correcting. The commenters that watch this interview and don't perform the same introspection are doing a disservice to Andrews emotional work he's done to look this in the eye and come out on top. Shame on those people.
Shame on the simps who want to hang someone out to dry for having imperfect relationships. You talk about "power imbalance" as if these aren't grown adults. These are people looking for a payday, who can't make good $$$ on their own. Hmm maybe why they slept with someone famous to begin with. 2+2=4.
@@destroya3303 let me spell it out slower for you but more for the others reading this because i seriously doubt you have any sort of introspective ability; grown adults get into situations they regret later on due to being influenced by someone else in power. this is called a power imbalance. this is a b-a-d thing.
@@jakeharrington753 lol you guys are desperate for new things to be outraged over. Yeah let's prosecute people over sex they regret! What is this nonsense?
Let me know when any form of threat or coercion was involved and until then keep your nose out of people's private lives.
Busybody hypocrites, one and all.
@@destroya3303 "keep your nose out of other people's lives but here i am giving a shit about private encounters" lol k keep calling people hypocrites and maybe it'll stick. And i didn't say anything about prosecution or the encounters involving any sort of coercion (even though, yes, the encounters did involve andrew pressing those who he was trying to sleep with which he admits to in this interview). hope your strawman works on someone else though.
9:15 when AC is saying everyone disappeared in a week is hard to watch, you can tell how badly it messed with him. Props to him for growing and learning. Love you Andrew
"I want to be on the right side of history, I don't want to be anti-cancel culture"
Dude hasn't learned or grown at all
Hating your loved ones from stopping you taking your own life. I’ve had that exact thought in my life. Unreal.
ya another commenter after you pointed out the same thing - crazy
/r/im30andthisisdeep
same
@@Llllltryytcc damn man that's kinda heartless not gunna lie
That last bit hit hard. I just got hurt by someone and she came at me with anger and blame when I calmly expressed how I was hurt.
Andrew had ~10 girls accuse him, over a half decade long period (and it sounds like he even had a reputation before any allegations).
I feel bad for Andrew Callaghan. The evidence seems to show someone who was beating themselves up, who was dealing with a lot of past trauma and Andrew became part of her trauma. This happens a lot. ONE good reason to not hook up with true strangers or true believers. That is to say if someone who is enamored with you because of your fame or because they work for you.
Sleeping with a fan is always big no no
Dave Chappelle came up with the “Love Contract” over 20 years ago and somehow it’s more relevant today than ever.
im so glad i met my wife when i did. The fact that shes 6 years older than me also helps, digital and social media is just an absolute cesspool. This is a great example of how a situation that initially was handled between the two parties gets out of hand because of money and social media. Coming on strong, is cringe but its not abuse and its not illegal, its all about intent. She told him he made her feel uncomfortable, he apologized and it was accepted. He gets money, then boom the social media generation sees dollar signs. Dangerous waters we as a society are treading, very dangerous.
@@Mojo_Radio He didn't even admit to being a sex pest
6 years of usage
@@bigcockedman714 lol
@@bigcockedman714 bruh
Edit the original comment said 6 years of use
@@arandomuser3329 recreational usage
Why do we as a society, allow this stuff to happen? This guy literally didnt do anything wrong.
Cmon bro u need to start judging books by their cover lmao
But he had consensual relations with a woman years ago who decided to change her mind, isn’t that basically assault now?
@@gmo9023who decided to change her mind now . And you wonder if that’s assault ? Are you slow af ?
@@BobbySlackem-fd1uh it’s sarcasm bud
he literally admits his mistakes. Are you calling Andrew a liar?
12:20 I felt that in my bones. I've actually grown quite distant from my family and friends for this exact reason... It makes the self loathing snowball continuously for even having these thoughts. It is exhausting.
Please reach out. Whatever is happening, has happened, you can turn it around.
@@7773CLAI’ve tried therapy, medication, and everything in between. I’ve just been trying to make peace with the hand of cards I was dealt. I think I can tough it out until I wither away naturally. That way, only I need to suffer and my surrounding peers don’t. I’m not a victim, I am a product of the universe. No need to waste your precious energy on consoling me, stranger, but I appreciate the thought.
100%
When the only thing keeping you here is a perceived obligation to others, developing feelings of resentment towards those people is not surprising.
Been there. I found a way part-way out. I'm managing. You can too.
Thank you lex and Andrew for allowing a conversation go this deep. I found it personally really helpful with shame and fear of making people feel uncomfortable or not realizing blind spot of power dynamics when you’re a young male, but more than anything accountability and change. That is very important- it still doesn’t discount the pain that this must have caused Andrew regardless of his role in it.
Bloke was hung out to dry. A sad indictment of the world we're living in.
How? He was a creep. Not a single woman I've had casual sex with has ever accused me of being pushy or a creep. No smoke without fire
He's doing just fine now.
At the time of the allegations coming out, as an avid Channel 5 fan and Patreon supporter I was pretty shocked to hear the allegations. I was excited to see his new stuff after his time off, But I’d admit I was a-bit unsure how to feel given all that came out and what we knew at the time.
Hearing Andrew here just blew my mind. He brings the same level-headed commitment to truth and critical understanding to even his OWN darkest times, without trying to victim blame, or be angry and bitter about it. Although it seems very obvious this was in part a coordinated hit job by greedy lawyers, he still tries to show what HE can do better, rather than just poke fingers and be bitter.
Whether you like or dislike him, going through what he did on that scale of popularity and on the cuff of “making it big”, It would be easy to understand why someone would simply hate the world at that point. Yeah I guess Im making abit of a dick-riding statement, and perhaps im bias as I have been watching and supporting him since the All Gas No Brakes days, but I respect the shit out of him for actually trying to make something positive out of such a horrible situation.
In a digital space of clearly drawn lines, Im glad we still have creators who are above all honest, but also don’t turn their inherent grief into more pain and project it. I only hope that I can remain so level-headed going through such an ordeal at those heights.
Before watching this clip, I was extremely concerned he was going to take a "no discussion" approach to things or maybe even slip into more reactionary thinking or tendencies. This is probably one of the best shows of accountability you can ask for. He knows he was in the wrong and has seemingly taken the steps to address it. The only way to know if he's rehabilitated for sure is to see where he goes for years to come. Actions speak louder than words.
"Hurt people hurt people... someone with a traumatic background isn't going to have sympathy for applying that traumatic pain to someone else, even if that person isn't the cause of what put them in that spot."
Wise stuff right here. I wish I would have known this much earlier in life. I've dated women with traumatized childhoods who had absolutely no qualms with massively screwing me over. That's not to say that you shouldn't date people who are victimized, but you definitely need to keep your guard up.
The hardest thing with trauma is understanding you are more able to hurt others now that you have been hurt, and to basically understand that the trauma gives you more responsibility to not repeat it. Often trauma is used as an excuse when in reality is a weapon and burden. You are hurt, damaged goods, and now have the ability and instability to hurt others as you repeat trauma cycles. So it might be better to stay away from people with unresolved trauma.
Sad truth!
was lex fridman drunk during this? hes barely putting together sentences and isnt making eye contact
People need to take accountability for their words and actions. If you give consent and have sex with someone you don't get to change your mind afterwards about it. People make mistakes all the time and have regrets. But that should not be the basis for ruining someone's reputation and extorting money from them. Own up to your mistakes, learn a lesson and be more careful next time. On the other hand, it is a lesson to be more careful about who you choose to have sex with too. Usually a good idea to get to know the person first. You don't know if they have mental illness or other circumstances that would cause problems for you later.
This
He said he didn't even have sex with her, so it wasn't even that. They just fooled around a bit.
We live in a world now where allegations can get you a nice a payday
its two women..''she invited Callaghan to stay in her home with clear boundaries that he wore her down into doing things she wasn't proud of."'
@@briceticker6721 the others just talked about it.. doesnt look like they asked for anything. did you actually watch the apology videos ?what would you think if it turns out he is actually dming 17 yrs olds?
Is the end-game of this simply going to be that adult women can't consent to sex until they have a signed document from a psychiatrist?
I would never sleep with a woman who wasnt actively excited and aware enough to engage in it with me. Not out of legal paranoia, just because anything less would be depressing as shit
Chapelle's show predicted this decades ago lol
No, its actually really fucking easy. If someone says "No," you don't commence any sexual acts. You don't prod, you don't push. I wonder why women are so scared to go on dates with men when they get so confused about this basic ass subject!
This is how they control the population. This is part of "The great culling."
They're proving in real time you can't just believe all women. You must investigate and presume innocence
I mean, the girl didn’t lie according to Andrew - he’s said that she’s telling the truth
@@psychoticchemistseriously? She misrepresented a scenario to portray herself a victim and the dumbest people on earth clapped like seals to destroy a young man's business. Are you simple?
@@stefanharris659 Lol I’m just telling you what Andrew himself has said multiple times. The part that was questionable was her airing it out in public because of his fame, not the actual claim itself. Again, this is coming from Andrew, not me.
there were so many allegations lol, he was definitely a sex pest. good to see he's changed.
There are allegations that are pretty much just awkward moments, but there was a girl who he pressured, she said no, then asked her to take him home (already very lame and awkward again) and he started to touch her leg while she was driving.
That's straight up disgusting, he was (or is) a weirdo.
channel 5 kicks ass and so do you dude, fuk all that other noise man
He's a pervert that belongs in prison
Don't be a CUSTER, watch channel 5!!!
@@DiogenesOfCa 78 here
That was deep, I connected with what he said about not wanting to leave earth bc he didn’t want to hurt his family.
Lex: lets talk about these allegations
Him: the Mojave desert almost makes you wish for a nuclear winter
Suffering in silence over here. That last quarter of the video really hit home
its two women..''she invited Callaghan to stay in her home with clear boundaries that he wore her down into doing things she wasn't proud of."'
then she should have kicked him out...Feeling pressured to do something is no reason for you to actually do it. Imagine if a drug addict blamed his dealer for coercing him into taking drugs. That doesn't make sense does it? It was ultimately their decision and any feelings they have about WHAT THEY DID are irrelevant.
@@jakeingram3490 dude she's A TEEN. Its a recurrent behavior as he said! Why are you abusers defend and expose yourself?
@@jakeingram3490 and its more than one she
Didn’t he say he was 22 at the time…
@@MrSeth3158 in one case in 2021 he was 24. Not sure about the other girls. He said he'd "party" every night. Imagine the number of "incidents" till it got public.
He's matured so much, great journalist he has bright future this one.
This dudes life is a work of art. Baring all to the world. The honesty of a human, flaws and all, not to be shared but to only to be bared. Lessons learned, self actualized, in public. Some of it calculated, some of it happenstance.
Well said
Are you a writer? Because you should be.
@@Iamjoeberg Thank you, kind stranger. I am a writer. Not a published one. But someone whose thoughts are communicated best through the written word. I should probably tell my saboteur to fuck off and share more of my writing.
*way with words*
He’s a gen z tik toker who is a creep. Not the hard hitting journalist you all think. Never compare him to hunter s Thompson
Lex may be the worst interviewer that I have ever seen. Andrew is fighting back tears, and Lex looks like he'd rather be doing anything else.
It is his job to remain completely and act as nothing more than a flashlight, in order to illuminate and explore experiences and perspectives of his guests.
thats probly why he gets along with zuccerburg. they are both reptilians
@@conservat1vepatr1ot Yeah that and he has aspergers
Should LEx also cry?
Wouldnt be a productive conversation if both people are crying.
i left reply on this comment but yt deleted it. i was saying how lex is a rptilian because hes friends with zuc. i wonder if they are hiding something🤔
Having built myself back up from some bs in my teen years - i know how hard it can get when everyone is just saying stuff without actually thinking - respect Andrews response and pushing through without avoiding the facts. Respect ✌️
This guys been gaslight so hard he believes it
He may just be playing the game. You wanna keep your career you gotta roll with the punches, even if you’re innocent. It’s fucked.
I went to a liberal arts school during the pandemic/2020 election season. It was gaslighting all day every day from everywhere. On the campus and in the city.
It got to the point where I just kept my head down and tried to blend in best I could. I had accepted that “maybe that’s just the way things are now”
This.
@@Nope2479yeah it's this.
@@user-dh3ez1ky7iyou know the term liberal arts doesn’t have anything to do with politics right lol
@9:17 It's shocking how people you would never guess really think of you when you hit a low
Just remember, there is a power dynamic/imbalance between a well-known creator and a fan (which can lead to feeling pressured into sexual activity initiated by the famous person). Also, i can imagine it’s difficult to see that someone you feel like pressured you into doing something get a lot of public attention/praise. Just throwing out these thoughts based on the many comments/generalizations about “dating women these days”
I'm glad this narrative exists. This person is a staple in the young and growing Internet culture and a hell of a journalist. To allow him to express himself after hearing his statement is so important. I hope we can find ways to hold the parties involved and the scum legal teams accountable andake them understand how important life is.
Saw the thumbnail I thought this was the guy from white lotus season 1
"i saw your fame increasing" that is so fucked
She really said " I have evidence bit you shouldn't ask to see it" any woman can ruin any mans life just for clout
I hope that this can be the final word on the topic, and I want to see him move forward from this.
He’s a good man.
We all are sinners boys and girls, but to recognize and empathize with someone else’s individual experience takes huge nuts.
We all watch as literal demons lie to our faces…the one who speaks truth gets hanged.
He’s taking us is a positive direction though with every video and more.
Truly a good person.
Personally I must stand behind that and I always will.
I agree with most of what you're saying but how do you know he's a good man he's just an internet celebrity lol
I'll plead ignorance. had a knee jerk reaction to the allegations...and no opinion of him prior to this interview but he's clearly a very thoughtful, mature person. very impressive.
You’re a loser if you had a knee jerk reaction to this guy, re-evaluate yourself
At this point there's been enough fraudulant, bogus, and over-hyped media hit pieces that the rational thing to do is doubt all women.
What even were the "allegations"? She consented and then weeks later said I felt pressured by your "fame", where he still accepted responsibility and gave her credence (hes not some A-list hollywood actor btw) ... and she still came back years later with her full threat/blackmail on display yet it worked lol
he shouldnt be dming and coercing teens then :)
@@joshdoesntcare3939 it looks like it was not a decado ago... they are teens. in March 2021, after having previously met him while he was with another woman at a bar, which made Caroline believe their meetup would not be romantic. She said when he tried to kiss her, she turned him down. Later, he badgered her for sex, and even though she says she said, “No, I’m not feeling it” to him, she eventually relented and said she was coerced into various sexual acts.
This is great. I feel like I’ve been an early fan of both of you young men. Genuine meets genuine.
In a series of videos, Dana said Callaghan assaulted her on a drive home from dinner, first kissing her neck, then putting his hand down her pants and putting her hands on his crotch as she was telling him to stop. Callaghan left the car after she'd asked multiple times, Dana said...''she invited Callaghan to stay in her home with clear boundaries that he wore her down into doing things she wasn't proud of."
in March 2021, after having previously met him while he was with another woman at a bar, which made Caroline believe their meetup would not be romantic. She said when he tried to kiss her, she turned him down. Later, he badgered her for sex, and even though she says she said, “No, I’m not feeling it” to him, she eventually relented and said she was coerced into various sexual acts.
@@elise9537 Hope it goes to court so they can find him innocent. The money grubbing attempt 2 years after she rescinded the allegations sounds like a change of heart with an attempt to cash in. Regretful sex isn't the same as coercion.
@@avertingapathy3052 not taking multiple nos for answer is the answer to your all of your sex moves and the only way for you creepers to get some kind of sexual gratification yes but for most ppl thats not sex ok ? hope cops look up all of you guys dms and the age of the ppl you prey on.
I had no idea this was actually going on for him
Trying to be as unbiased as I can. But it really seems like Andrew has grown and changed. I can imagine him as a person, younger, horny and wanting to hook up and being creepy and pushy. It doesn’t seem like he’s done anything illegal but he seems like he aware that he did hurt somebody and doesn’t want to do it again. And has grown and changed. Super solid dude
I'm sure glad I'm not as desperate to stroke my ego and get off with strangers as I was from 18-23
ew we dont excuse being gross and pushy because of 'horniness'...thats not an excuse
The fact is that at least from his claim this hurt of someone was done unwittingly, due to him not being aware of her trauma. The implicit notion here because he is male and horny and because she has encountered abuse, that he is the culprit, when it seems to be some gray area of him genuinely not knowing her story and her not being able to keep boundaries. He made it clear that he would have taken her trauma into account would he have known.
The pitchforks in our zeitgeist just show the vitriol and complete lack of regard for ruining of lives in current generation of men for whatever past sins, perceived or actual. The problem is that many with less of a social support network than Andrew would take much longer to recover as they rightfully perceive injustice for being ostracized on behest of someone's word.
Perhaps that can be addressed by some consent form and video recording that the current guardians of the zeitgeist believe will improve foreplay or maybe we can all learn to take some responsibility for our actions like Andrew, but that would mean this woman would have to acknowledge the money grubbing attempt to collect on his success 2 years after forgiving for a faux pa that he had little knowledge of. Seems to be that those with a conscience are the ones that pay for mistakes of those that don't care and are ostracized with many choosing to kill themselves or worse. I don't have much sympathy for her after trying to collect. This is blatant exploitation and we all know it.
well it's a good thing imagination isn't admissable in court
Always been a channel 5 fan. And never heard any of the allegations surprisingly. But people make mistakes. And people grow. And man you are definelty a good guy and I can relate to your lowest point feelings and logic and glad that your on the other side of it and finding joy again. I'm almost 3 years removed from my past low points and it gives a way better perspective and life view in my opinion. Thanks for the candid and intelligent discussion.
Yeah if you look for partners (female or male) in places where you know troubled people gather, places with high levels of mental and social problems, your eventually going to get bit. No place is 100% safe but there are safer places than Instagram, join a book club or a PAID dating site (people who pay are more serious about finding long lasting relationships), but id stay the hell away from social media platforms that you know can be very toxic.
Is the picture in the thumbnail the same one callahan mentions?
No
That pic is from his apology video
When i was 22, me and two of my best friends rented a house together and partied all the time. Always hooking up with different girls, because hook-up culture is what everyone is doing but you never know what the random girl at the bar is going through.
This guy is a virgin
I feel and hear his pain. Wow this was awful. Humans are terrible to one another. Stay strong Andrew!
I mean, this is all well and good, but other people came forward prior to and after this who knew him for years and called him out for his behavior without any attempt to sue or get money. He acknowledged in previous interviews that he was drinking a lot and was pushy in some encounters and in hindsight he did not practice proper consent. Hes rolling back his story now to save face.
If you watch the entire clip he mentions that as well, he said "it must be a pattern of behavior" or something along those lines that he needs to address. I am in no place to forgive him or whatever, but he described the situation with the main person for a while in this clip and also mentioned the others bringing up similar concerns was an indication that he needed to change, which according to him, he addressed in therapy and rehabilitation. I don't see him walking anything back but once again, no apology will appease everyone. The only thing he can do is set an example moving forward and make sure he promotes healthy behaviors. This seems like a start, to me at least.
@@Devin_Art except he spent the first have not only dismissing her claim but trying to flip it around. Then, after doing so, he admits that maybe he did behave unethically but like, you know... not that one time he was actually called out for it.
Also, she denys his version of the story all together and says she never told him they were all good like he's repeating here. She says she reached out before to tell him how she felt and he blew her off and now she just sees him trying to cover his ass. So the fact that he's being duplicitous here does not look good for his case of relative innocence.
He didn't do anything illegal. Upsetting someone, making them uncomfortable, making them cry or whatever isn't a crime - it's life. If someone crosses the line, talk to the police.
@@vic-hn3nl you have absolutely no proof he didn't do anything illegal.
@@AllenSmithe the accusation is the proof. The worst accusation so far is just "he made me uncomfortable and that triggered me"
He probably came across as somewhat scary and that’s the reason she said yes as preventing something a lot worse to happen. Women with trauma can freeze up and submit out of fear
yep, he pretty much said exactly that. I wish some of the angry hurt misguided guys here angry on Andrew's behalf when he asked them to do pretty much the opposite could process this point.
Vulnerable women are conditioned to act out of integrity and speak with dishonesty, because people, especially men, behave in ways that make them fear for their life and make them feel it is impossible to act and speak in integrity without getting seriously hurt or even killed.
look into the story of his behavior in the car. he was SUPER pushy. coerced consent lol.
True
This guy is such a carring person. The people qho loved him saved his life because he didnt want to let them down. I love this guy even more. I love his honesty
yeah like his team that left right away.
I am glad you are here. Accountability is an undervalued trait. Thanks for sharing. You are the Neo -journalism prototype. The world would miss you if you weren’t here! Keep up the great work…. On your videos and On yourself! Peace !
yes LEX seems like a cool mafia type guy lol
Andrew's comment from 1650 - 1701 is really interesting and full of wisdom.
I had no idea he was alive back then. Man, the things he's seen over the centuries...no wonder he's so wise.
@@CornyBum "Corny Bum"
It was quite a time for Europe
Glad you're still with us Andrew we all make mistakes and I see you have learned from this one that's all we can be asked of. I love you bud! Keep being your truth.
as somone who stopped his patreon when u didnt reply to allegations within a week...i will be re-signing up, i just wish u were able to tell us all this sooner
So SO crazy that someone who was in a consensual act, or whatever, can say they regret the consent they gave and twist someones mind around towards suicide...wtf man
its two women..''she invited Callaghan to stay in her home with clear boundaries that he wore her down into doing things she wasn't proud of."'
and it wasnt consensual. coercing/badgering teens is not consent! in March 2021, after having previously met him while he was with another woman at a bar, which made Caroline believe their meetup would not be romantic. She said when he tried to kiss her, she turned him down. Later, he badgered her for sex, and even though she says she said, “No, I’m not feeling it” to him, she eventually relented and said she was coerced into various sexual acts.
@@elise9537 Funny how his accusers name is Caroline Elise, elise9537...
This is wild, on so many levels. It's sounds like regret and or a money grab.
By which party?
@@yahirbear the obvious one
@@huntermartin heard
its more than one girl and it happened in 2021. looks like he is dming 17 yrs olds.
@@yahirbear clearly the woman in question.
I cant believe i'm listening to a nuanced conversation on the internet. Here we have a man who recognises absolutely that he should have done better, knows exactly how he will do better, and is teaching other men to do better. What better resolution could we expect?
Wow he felt remorse after abusing some people, I guess he deserves his career back!
Absolutely insane that someone can just make an accusation and have it immediately get picked up by all the news sites, and the accuser can just message all his fans and sponsors and make such a negative impact.
Did he not do the things that were said by his own admission?
@@mugi_c4420 re listen to what happened.
@@mugi_c4420 Do what exactly? He admits he asked for consent and when it wasn't granted he didn't force anything.
@@mugi_c4420 Sure but the fact that all these events happened before his admission shows the willingness to act on pure accusation.
The sequence of events is rather critical here...duh
@@AlkalineGamingHD Accusations made by many different people. And accusations are more often true than they are false
girlfriends and dogs were his biggest fears but yet dude hitchhiked across america after college. LOOOOL
Since it happened I knew it was just BS. The journalism is too strong with this one.
Thank you Andrew for speaking on this topic I’ve been struggling lately and it’s genuinely powerful hearing someone communicate the same emotions and dynamics that have been racking my brain. Love you man. The world is a better place with you in it and I’m grateful you’ve achieved the fame you have
lex was not the right person for this convo. lol his responses are so disingenuous
I really hope this was as sincere as it came across, Andrew. I was a massive fan of your work via Hasanabi, and I consider you to be one of the greatest journalists of our generation. It was devastating to all your supporters when the allegations surfaced, although of course it was nothing in comparison to the pain felt by you and your victims.
Andrew's message to men was the most important part of this video. 1/5 women are sexually assaulted in their lifetimes, so if you are hooking up with people you will absolutely come across people with traumatic backgrounds.
Informed Consent is so important, and it is absolutely not a vibe killer to take a second to ask "hey, I just wanted to check in and ask if there's any boundries or triggers I should avoid?", "What do you like/do you like that?" "I want to be the best possible partner for you - assuming you're still down for this?" "Remember we can take a break anytime, just say the word." Honestly, showing care and empathy by checking in like this is such a rare trait in men that it's immensely attractive.
A lot of people calling this girl money-grubbing - I don't discount the possiblity... but I wanted to share something from a survivor's perspective who has found herself in a similar situation.
My abusive/sexually assaulting ex started to become prominent in circles we shared after years of no contact, including being covered in national media. I cannot describe the amount of trauma, pain and suffering that dug up - and yes, bitterness comes into the mix. Why do THEY get to carry on, be beloved and successful while my life has fallen to pieces as a direct result of the trauma inflicted on me?
I did not 'cancel' this person, but when other allegations of abuse surfaced I anonymously gave my own account. This person was "cancelled", or in grown up terms, faced consequences. I could continue my life with my friends and colleagues without feeling horrendously unsafe that they might show up in my life. They moved on with their life mostly unharmed, but less in the public eye. But I completely understand the feeling of wanting to do something vengeful. In a different situation, or if I was in a less stable stage of my life I might have given into the rage - especially if I had supportive friends egging me on and other victims affirming me and my experience.
Regardless... it sounds like Andrew has addressed his substance abuse problems and learned an extremely important lesson about power dynamics and trauma. I am a believer in restorative justice. I have the instinct that comes from being a survivor to disbelieve a cis white man. But to me, Andrew has stuck by his ideals. I really was expecting him to go down the cancel culture grift route in some form or another - so it is heartening for me to see his ideals carried him through this experience. Hurt people hurt people. Best of luck to everyone involved for their future.
Why’s he sound so guilty? You dont take accountability if youre innocent right? I dont think Andrew is the rapist type. When you get drunk and high ladies you can make bad decisions for yourself. Welcome to reality. Consent is consent…
Big ups to Andrew for being so open during this interview. There was a period in time when I actually kind of didn't like Andrew, because he said something, without probably thinking things through about another cool creator I've been following Brandon Buckingham. Since then, through sheer force of being a great journalist, Andrew won me back over. He has handled this situation in was that really impressed me. Would be super cool to see those two fellows talk and put their resentment behind. They both rub elbows in the same journalistic fields.... I'd love to see them have a dialogue and maybe a colab video some day.
Andrew Callaghan is among the most impressive humans I've ever seen. I'm a fan. Keep on keepin on dude. And thank you.
After all of this shit, his content is better now than it ever was.
Lex’s dark/defensive side. You can see him pushing to make Andrew into a victim as much as possible. Armchair analysis says this is Lex’s guilty conscience or shame complex looking to vicariously defend itself by defending Andrew. “Thank you for taking accountability… BUT..”
It’s when Lex’s dispassionate personality goes from a Spock-like intelligent curiosity to a emotionally disconnected (traumatized) person wanting to feel safe by creating rhetorical defenses.
The other big evidence of this was in his interview with the psychologist from the Johnny Depp case. They were discussing whether it’s good to tell your partner that you cheated on them. Lex had this take that “loyalty should come before honesty”. This is a pathological ideology used to justify unethical dishonesty. It’s a false dichotomy to place loyalty and honesty as separate traits of a relationship. But when you have a deep shame complex, you never want to feel judged, and so it’s better to keep things in the dark.
I notice that people with this disposition typically gravitate toward religion down the road, realizing that an absolute doctrine (of god’s forgiveness, or spiritual identity, or moral status) is the best defense against pathological shame. Many are intellectuals will move to Catholicism or Orthodox Christianity because they like all those rituals and symbols which reaffirm their spiritual status and create associations with “saints” (because the dream for them is to be a saint - an unassailably “clean” person). Others like Sam Harris create secular philosophies which still appeal to religious thinking (Harris’s “worst possibly suffering for everyone” concept, i.e. Hell).
You would hope that these otherwise good people might simply have their narcissism treated, but that typically doesn’t happen unless something devastating motivates them to go on a deep inner journey. Otherwise, they will continue to proceed with a shame-fueled narcissism, especially is it seems to be working well for them (as it has with Andrew and Lex).
I know someone who dated Andrew briefly and said they were a big time narcissist, that they would have a tantrum when they didn’t get what they want, we’re constantly rude to restaurant and hotel staff.
But then they’re good at convincing themselves that they’re not a problem, or that they’re “really trying to change”, or that they’re the victim or persecution.
The rest of will just have to learn to create healthy boundaries where we have compassion and love for these people, but also create boundaries that protect us from suffering/damage when we end up in their psycho-emotional blindspots.
damn this poor dude has gotten played too many times, as a culture this shit needs to end he cant even defend himself he just has to submit to this all because what? a girl blew him and consented then decided "actually i want some money" absolutely insane
Thing about stories is that there are always three sides to it: her side, his side, and the truth. I believe many of us have had bad missteps as single people meeting other people. It happens. That’s what being young and dumb is all about in the beginning. Those missteps are what give you the experience to make better choices down the line as long as you recognize it as your opportunity to grow. Past trauma is always tricky but there in lies the point: being honest with all of it and being honest with the person you’re spending time with about it. Know what you expect out of the first date and don’t deviate from that when it comes to intimacy. No one should feel pressured but no one with a healthful and happy mindset who genuinely wants to be protective of their self would allow pressure to influence the decision period. This is why it’s important to know what you expect out of the first date.
Current zeitgeist is a hell of a drug that'll take a decade at least to recognize when it's being abused by the "victim." As for now it's free for all to cash in and exploit as some twisted attempt to expunge the past and get one over on current generation of men as sacrificial lambs for collective past sins. As usual it is mostly thoughtful people like Andrew who bear the brunt of this as they care for doing right. And they wonder why nobody wants to date anymore.
11:47 “I remember hating the people that would love me because they were stopping me from taking my own life” real shit
Probably the best response I've seen to allegations like this. He was pretty honest. He admitted a PR firm "tried to make him look remorseful" with their TMZ statement. Nobody in this situation has really revealed what happens behind the scenes. They always just lie and do damage control. The lesson here which I hope young people learn one of these days is that hooking up with people you don't know is just a bad idea. It causes so many problems. Often for you yourself, not just others. You can hookup with someone at a party and then find out later they are a horrible person, or they have a partner they didn't mention who's after you now, or the person you hooked up with has been hooking up with a lot of people after being molested because their brain is messed up from it. Get to know people for at least a few months before sleeping with them. You don't want to make someone feel pressured like the girl in Andrews situation, or feel gross because you slept with someone who you find out is a really bad human being, or get taken advantage of by a charming stranger. Wait it out. Its the only safe way.
The hand rubbing continues😂
This was a great convo. Start to finish. Very very good.
Too bad this is the clip. Oh well.
This guys the real deal
Very proud of Andrew for being so honest without blaming other people. That’s what being a real one is about.
all he did was blame the victim n tmp
tmz
This is so honest ..thank you.
I miss Andrew, thank you for having him on.
I wanna see a follow up video with Lex and Andrew's respective PR teams reviewing these performances they coached
At the end of the day, if you're not mature enough to say 'no' you're not mature enough to be seeking out sexual activity.
That’s simplistic and unrealistic. Firstly, not all situations where one needs to say ‘no’ are sought out. Second, one can’t often know their ability or capacity to say ‘no’ except through trial and error.
@@DannyHouk uncomfortable experiences are the price of learning then. Its not other people's fault you did something and regretted it later. People are conditioned to not take accountability for themselves, and whenever they regret something blame someone else.
@@WhatAMagician I’m not saying it’s the other person’s fault. You said don’t pursue sexual activity if you’re not ready to say no and my point is that’s unrealistic. We can figure out what do about it when someone regrets it. But that’s a separate issue… and it’s impossible to always know exactly how to handle new and unexpected sexual situations once they happen.
On the other side of what you’re advising… maybe don’t go into sexual situations without knowing that enthusiastic desire looks like and have enough self control to stop when there’s a sense she’s not into it.
@@DannyHouk👏🏻
Don't hook up with anyone that might regret it years later -OR- see your downfall as an economic opportunity -OR- has past trauma.
So basically avoid intimacy, don't do it.
Most males today have heeded the moral of this story.
The real lesson is if you're gonna engage in casual sex with women make sure they dont know your real identity, your real social media, and try not to meet them in your home or your car. Either meet at a hotel or their place. Sure it can get expensive, but yeah, casual sex can be expensive
And if I was famous I think I'd have to be crazy to have casual sex with strangers. Unless I was disguised as just some anonymous guy they met at a bar
@@perzonne6302If you're gonna have casual sex with strangers literally just don't be a creep. It's trivially easy. Don't pressure people into sex, pay attention to whether the other person is actually comfortable with what's happening. The lesson has never been "don't hookup because someone might try to take you down" it's "be respectful and aware that the other person is a human being". He seems to have learned that lesson himself as he matured, but the comments section is still victim-blaming as expected.
@@kylehart8829 the only sensible comment I've seen in this pit
12:20 bruh i've felt that so many times but never been able to find the words to explain it, he described that feeling perfectly.
4:37 "thanks for taking accountability"
8:27 "thanks for taking accountability"
13:46 "thanks for taking accountability"
why is he taking notes on the last one when he talks abt his parents dying i'm-
"I hate how many cowards there are out there."
Doesn't mean anything coming from Lex.
Time to watch redbar shitting on lex videos now
Lol what a cringy thing to say
@@jacka602 how? hes shown hes a huge pussy.
so I am confused ... if he did not have sex with her and all this was consensual what mental trauma did this person go through? To me, it looks like people who partied with him could not take it and wanted a check ...
Yeah it makes no sense if he didn't have "sex" with her. Why would she be so traumatized and why would Andrew feel guilty for how he made her feel? Just confusing all around.
She gave him a BJ at her apartment. According to her, she felt pressured to do it, and she said that he was "whiny" and "pushy" about.
So no, they never technically had sex, but she did consent to a sexual act, and then later regretted it.
In all honesty, he probably shouldn't have been pushy (as he has admitted), and she also seems really mentally unstable.
I think he’s not considering oral sex as sex
it's tough being famous this day and age knowing you were a piece of shit when you were younger. something or someone will definitely come out, instead of handling it privately then it's easier to make a public post. People are ready to end someones career even if they've been working towards a better life and trying to live a better toxic free life. What's life worth if you aren't allowed to have character arcs?
Love Andrew content, love Andrew’s personality. so cool to see him overcome this tough situation!