this may be controversial, but I need to get this off my chest.
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Thank you all so much for being here and listening to my thoughts and stories. I'm super curious if what I shared towards the end of this video resonates with any other women, or if it was triggering for others, etc. Let's start a conversation :)
@Ellenfisher being a mom is a blessing wonderful thing but I think you never know how life will turn out. I think getting a degree was and is a good choice(I'm in college currently) but I also don't see anything wrong with being a full time mom. You could get married and have kids and let's say your husband suddenly dies or someone looses their job or whatever so having a degree is a good fallback in my opinion. I also think it's important to invest in yourself and set goals for yourself. For me graduating from college is my biggest accomplishment so far and I'm happy I'm graduating soon. Setting goals for yourself and doing things that make you feel good is important. That goal doesn't have to be college but college can be good. I know life is more than money and career but I like knowing I can support myself and eventually a family.
That's just my perspective/opinion.
I love that you are honest Ellen. I loved your message. Being a working mom I long for the day when I can stay home with my baby and hopefully future babies! The homestead lifestyle is definitely one I would like to work toward! 💗💗
I do not have the maternal energy to be a mother and I definitely know I would not be able to put in the work it takes to be a mother. I think it’s a beautiful thing to be a mother to one’s children and that it is a job of its own, but not for me personally. I have wanted to have a high paying career and go up in social status for a long time and I enjoy the thrill of success and growth that way. But some people like other ways of life and that’s fine! I think women are all so unique and individual and we all have different needs and paths!
@rephina3539 I agree. I liked what you said about us being individuals. Not all women have the desire to be moms but many women do. There's really no right or wrong way to live. However most women in America have to be apart of the corporate office job life because finances.
I think you come across as a very open minded person, respectful of other people's perspective on life. The guests on your podcasts are proof of that. Congrats!
I chose to abandon my career (which required a Masters Degree) and be a full time mom when my son was born 8 years ago. Wouldn't change it for the world! Now I have a 19 month old and I am so happy to be experiencing every moment all over again with a fresh perspective and a little more maturity at the age of 39. Among our friends, I am the only stay at home mom. Some family have even had the audacity to say that I "need to go back to work" and put my daughter in daycare! The lack of support when it comes to my choice for my family is sad sometimes. I am grateful I have a husband who makes enough money to allow me to stay at home and raise my own children... they are a blessing in every way❤ You are an inspiration!
Good choice, Mama!! I'm a SAHM as well, and I have also been asked, "When are you going to get a job?" That made me feel guilty for a while. But now I know it's the best decision I have ever made. My husband has 3 jobs, so I can stay home with the kids. Wouldn't change anything ❤
Good on you, stay strong
I too was a SAHM. I then went through a divorce and my ex-husband impoverished me through the court system. I am now living on food stamps with a college degree 5 years later and it took me so long to find work. I have to build my career back at 35. Nobody thinks it could happen to them, but women are the ones risking everything when they give up their careers. We don’t live in a world that is kind and supportive towards mothers. And I’m not just talking about divorce. If anything happens to your husband, then you’re screwed. Women want to close their ears and go “La La La” when other women say this, but it happens to SO many of us. Your family is right, but it does suck.
@@saraH-yu1mx well i am 39 a solo mother and working. But if a had a men and i could choose. I would choose staying at home and taking care of the family. So everybody who can, they are lucky in my eyes.
Same here ! Abandoned my career and multiple degrees and masters degrees to stay at home with my little amazing man. I’m blessed with a husband who supports this and together we are a successful team. I’m so grateful for this opportunity to be a mother and to stay at home. It’s made me realize all the energy and passion input into my career and school was just a space saver for being a mother. I only wish I could have had my child sooner but as we all know everything is in God’s time.
Love you Ellen ! You are just the greatest !
i’ve been watching you since i was freshly graduated from high school, about to marry my high school sweetheart with all of these goals i thought were my own. it’s only now, at 26, that i realize how much of the way i saw my future was molded by what other people were telling me i wanted. “you’re too young to get married, too young to have kids, too young to buy a house, too young to know what you want in life” and now that i’m a SAHM to 2 little boys, i’m realizing that hearing all of those things my whole life has severely impacted the value i have put on the work i’m doing now. i said to my husband less than 2 hours ago: “i feel like i don’t have a purpose” because i’m not making money & don’t have a career. but, i don’t want those things. i don’t want to be away from my children, i don’t want to make 100k a year and miss out on these slow days at home that feel “purposeless”. these are times i’ll never get back. this is time for me to pour everything i have into raising GOOD children who turn into good people. my job isn’t a waste. thank you for this reminder.
Yes!!
❤️😭thank you for sharing this! Your job raising good humans is so meaningful and purposeful and you’re so right, that these years are fleeting and we will never get it back ❤️
Yes!!
I left my career of 17 years after the pandemic to raise my kids. I am significantly happier and grateful my husband works so hard that I am able to do this. We've had to make some sacrifices and there are definitely hard days but I wouldn't change a thing.
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I am so glad you posted this! I have eight children (all to the same man!) and we homeschooled all of them! My oldest is married with baby #2 on the way, the oldest five are all graduated, my last three are all in high school. I am in the "home stretch" and I have a deep, deep sadness, knowing that it will all end all too soon. The house is way cleaner now without little ones, we get out of the house and into the car on time now (!!!), all my children do their own laundry, the amount of food I cook is vastly decreased with only three left.... sigh. I hate to be a broken record, but it DOES go by too fast and you will absolutely pine for the days when you were in the midst of chaos of a bunch of little ones. This is the most beautiful life there is...
You've no idea how much I needed this message! I'm 21, a uni drop-out, and struggling with so much pressure because I want to marry, have kids, and garden and manage my household. It's what really brings me pleasure, but everyone in my life is telling me to work and do an apprenticeship or go back to uni. I finished school with better than average grades, and now everyone seems disappointed by my lack of career ambitions. Really struggling with the pressure of all those opinions!
Im around your age and feel the same way! I want those things and have trouble finding drive/purpose in anything else, yet I feel so much pressure to have my own career just in case I need it
@@bankrolldame I'm a retired grandmother. I don't think you should feel pressure to have a career that must define you. However, I do think that a woman should never expect that there will always be a man to support them. Stuff happens... divorce, illness, job loss, death of a spouse. Life has away of happening while you're busy making other plans and you shouldn't wait around for a husband to walk into your life. If you find that someone special to settle down with and raise a family, that's wonderful. But, do yourself a favor and have some kind of training or job skill that you can fall back on should the unexpected happen. It also doesn't hurt to have some retirement savings set aside for yourself. Believe me, the "golden" years have a way of sneaking up on you very quickly!
@@ga6589 Thank you for your advice :) I'll take it to heart. I've always lived for love and found my purpose and drive in my romantic interests, even as a young child, instead of focusing much on growing my other hobbies or interest. Sometimes I even feel like its hard to find a point in living if it doesn't involve love or connections with others. I know I need to find myself more in relation to a skill, or work..and how I can serve the world with that. I appreciate your words.
@@bankrolldame Just because you have a regular job doesn't mean there aren't ways to connect with others and make a difference and have meaning in life.
Never underestimate the power of the small gestures and kindnesses that we can offer to those around us and in our communities. They go a long way towards making a difference in this world... married or not.
BTW, if you enjoy being around kids, consider working in a childcare field or as a teacher's aid. They are in very high demand.
I want to live sustainably too but no kids plus I will be a cardiovascular surgeon so it won't be too hard
I’m a mom of 2 girls in a dark cold country and in an apartment, just wish I had this life like you have. Hadn’t checked in for years, last time I did you were pregnant. It’s so beautiful to see all you have accomplished. Being a conscious mom and parent raising children with healthy food and environment is a dream of many!
Wise women don't have brats, ewww
I think every person should have the ability to feel empowered to do life however they want! We should encourage people to follow their hearts. A woman doesn’t just belong in a home but if she loves being there then let’s support her! If she would rather climb the corporate ladder, then go her! If she wants a mix of both- great :)
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Absolutely! This is a true feminism - choice.
The best thing my parents ever did for me was emphasize the importance of education and never ever setting an expectation that I would marry, have kids or seek some high paying career. I was able to choose my own path and I'm so thankful for that!
That is great. 🙂 I definitely had the expectation to get married and let my husband handle everything. I never found a husband and I'm 44. Although I wish I was married, I am glad I didn't settle on someone not right for me.
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Gratitude to all the women and moms that made sacrifices in order for their daughters to get degrees and have careers for as long and they choose. Gratitude to the women and moms that sacrificed so that we can have options. I’m grateful to my mom that stressed the importance of me having an education and the ability to provide for my children. She always talked about how she would have loved the opportunity to get a degree and have a professsion, but she was born in a different place at a different time. She didn’t have the option, but she broke herself to make sure I did. Thank you mom ❤
What a beautiful message for your mother.
Yes. Very true.My mother made sure I am financially independent and emotionally strong so as to face our traditional Indian society.I profusely thank her
So true 🙏🏻 I’m a full time mom now and I love it, (after getting 2 masters degrees lol - and I’ll probably go back to work when my kids are a bit older). But it was definitely a choice I was able to make thanks to the hard work of my mom and the generations of women who came before me/us ❤
I think education is really important to enable you to have choices IF circumstances change. We’ve also worked so hard to try and fight for equality, that assuming a ‘woman in the home’ role can feel at times archaic. I will add though that I was lucky enough to get to be a stay at home parent for 2 years whilst my husband made enough money to provide that. Sadly it wasn’t an option for long term as the cost of living continued to get more expensive. It really is a very privileged position to be in to be able to stay home, and those 2 years for me were so special. In the U.K. there are more and more fathers staying home with children whilst mothers go out to work. More and more companies are offering fathers 6 months paid paternity leave now which is incredible! X
It’s not just a “privilege”. Anyone can do it, some may work harder for it than others. The word I would use for it is sacrifice. Unless your partner has a very high paying job, you have to sacrifice everyday to be a homemaker and stay at home mom. There’s nothing glamorous about it.. for most that is
What seems archaic is to waste our lives working for someone else, fulfilling their dreams. I can’t imagine doing that again.
@@Sammiejammie521it is a privilege. Not everyone has a partner to go out to work, or if they do their income may not be enough. I really don’t know how you can deny that.
@@Sammiejammie521also, do you know what archaic means?
@@katie8325 Just because someone may not have a partner does not make someone with a partner privileged. That is the norm, the base line..that is how it is supposed to be and what steps you should take before having a child. Does it makes the person without a partner in a bad position, sure. But the lack in someone else’s life does not automatically make someone else privileged. If your partner has a job, trust that you can make it work. Most don’t want to because they want to consume more than they can afford. It may not happen over night, you may have to work a second job or work nights or weekends,but you can certainly put yourself there in a year or two. Just because you are home during the day does not mean you don’t work part time on the evenings or work from home once or twice a week.. it looks different for every family. But it is certainly a sacrifice and not some fairyland where one partner makes a lot of money and the other gets to sit at home and paint their nails all day. And yes I believe that being a slave to someone else is archaic.
How refreshing this was! To hear a young Mom being totally into motherhood! Thank you ,too, for not playing music, & instead letting us share the birds, wind noise & happy children chatter.
I'm not a mom, nor do I plan to be, but this video brought me to tears. The intention and care with every action and word is truly touching.
I chose to not have kids and focus on my career- as long as everyone can hopefully live the authentic path that really resonates with them, then we can all be truly satisfied with a simpler life ☺️
I also choose not to have kids but i also dont have a carreer😂
Smart! I never understood the fascination about procreation, and let's not forget that at least 40% of kids are somehow neglected on the emotional level. Most of people can't not take care of themselves properly but think that putting somebody else in this world will "fix" their life, nonsense.
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@@user-lb5tt3rb2tfascination with procreation?.... Isn't it like .. our very most basic intrinsic desire? If that's been taken away from us by corporations convincing you that our literal species going onward and the most basic life skill of having sex is no longer of value they've done there jobs well.
Anyone ever watch the Disney movie Wall-E?? Yeah..I think we are at that point. Fat blobs being conveyed on a belt with screen in front of our faces at all times being told what to think. They had it right and it's very depressing lol.
I'd love to hear what the fascination with NOT procreating would be?
What exactly does "being happy" mean?... What I see is alot of women on prescriptions toiling away and realising later they were tricked
@@user-lb5tt3rb2t it’s ridiculous how most animal adoption agencies will thoroughly inspect the home before giving an animal over but everyone can just create children with no check
So beautiful Ellen! I too crave to be JUST a mother and not have that nagging worry of needing to raise kids AND hold a job just to make a living in this day and age. we need to normalize motherhood as being "enough". I nannied for a long time and saw how hard it was on families with both parents working full-time. Kids desperately need present parents, and raising children is a beautiful experience that feels like our society makes into something with little to no value. Your channel has inspired me in many ways and I'm grateful to have healthy role models like you! 💗
To anyone who may feel their role as “just a mom” goes unnoticed, I’m here to tell you.. YOU ARE AMAZING!! There is absolutely nothing more divine, than being a Mother. I believe that whether you have children or not, all women have the divine gift of nurturing and caring for others, tapping into that role in whatever capacity it may look like, is fulfilling who you are made to be. I think all of that should be celebrated and never looked down upon ❤️ Ellen you are amazing!
Divine? It's the most disgusting and humiliating experience for any woman. It grows inside like a cancer and destroys everything. That's so awful. Such a toxic mindset to spread that it's something wonderful when it's really not
I started crying, and realized you were crying at the same time ❤️ I am a stay at home mom, and while it can be so hard, nothing else has ever fulfilled me the same way.
Ellen, thank you so much for speaking up about this. I so deeply needed to hear it. I went college and had a career. I had a nice life, but when I met my husband, everything changed. I suddenly wanted a family. I gave up my career by choice and decided to be a stay at home mom. I’ve never been happier. I didn’t know what I was missing. At the same time, i’ve never gotten more judgment and belittled by people for being a stay at home mom. Being told things like- I’m not doing anything with my life,” or “ I need to stick my daughter in daycare so I can go really make something of myself,” etc… The list goes on. Though I know these things aren’t true. It still hurts. I am so grateful that my husband and I agree on how we want to run our household and raise our children. Bless you, Ellen. 💖
Oh Ellen. This came at a perfect time. I grew up with a mom who worked full time and was gone a lot. She works so hard and did her best. I’m so thankful for the sacrifice she made in a way so that I could do life the way I wanted. Dance, go to Disney World etc.
As a mom now tho, I realized what I really needed to my core is my momma. I needed her presence, her loving touch, her guidance. I could have done without all the things. (As grateful as I am) I have 2 littles now and mostly stay home with them. I couldn’t imagine anything different. When you started tearing up, a part of me was healed listening to the break in your voice. Thank you Ellen ❤️
I really love how your filming has changed these days. You film your kids so well, affording them the privacy of never really having their faces on full display but also allowing us, your viewers, a little snippet into your daily life with them. Your videos are super beautiful & very inspiring. Thank you♥️xx
I didn't even notice until you brought it up!! You're right. She's done an exceptional job giving them more privacy without being obvious about it. Well done Ellen.
My experience is/was it was frowned upon that I don't want to have kids. People tried to force it on me for years, but finally my loved ones understand and don't bug me about it anymore
I have the impression that not having kids these days is frowned upon way more than being a stay at home mom. But they like to portray it like their choice of lifestyle is soooo disliked by "society". I don't know which society they are talking about. Especially with the U.S. reverting back to medieval times....
I started watching this channel at 13. Now I’m 21 and married with a toddler and another on the way. I’m so happy. I knew when I was 18 that this is definitely what I wanted. With university looming over Me I felt like I would never ever be happy. So I didn’t go. I got a part time job and before the summer was even over I met the love of my life. He has supported and loved me ever since. We have the same goals and we love the home we’ve created together so far. We’re excited for the future.
I would just want to add that you do your job at the same time... that you ve managed to create your dream vision of you wanting to be a home stayed woman with many kids and having a super duper pumping online influencer business going on at the same time and that you have been building up for years. That you make probably a good amount of money out of this. I m really happy for you. I guess you re in a different situation that this vision of a home stayed mom that is just taking care of home and kids. It s you re job at the same time. Which is great ! Because you ve made the choises that led to it ! All best !
Yes exploiting the “babies” lol
I love hearing you get emotional about being a mother. I feel so often the bad sides of motherhood are shown and everyone is sharing the stresses, frustrations and sad sides of losing who you were before you were a parent. I long for the day I am a Mother, always have but modern motherhood is seriously broken, it's all gadgets and sleep training, things that sever the connection with your child. I love watching you because you keep it so simple and loving with your kids, they are your world and your marriage is devoted to them and to each other. Truly inspirational. Please do more content where you talk about the transformation you went through from maiden to mother, what age you were each time you got pregnant, how the different phases of life at those times impacted parenting decisions. We need spaces where women gush about motherhood and their kids because the bad stories are being told regardless. The good stories, the happy childhoods, the loving relationships, they deserve the light too. You are our Mama Guru for those of us who don't have kids yet and I imagine also those who do
You’re living your authentic self Ellen and it shines through. You are blessed and all that surrounds you is full of light 🙏🏻
Being a mom has always been my favorite role. ❤ I think soaking up those few years we have with them will never be regretted.
Thank you for saying this. I definitely feel like people think I’m thinking small and not making much of myself for being a mother. I always feel like I have to justify why I’m doing it. But I love it so much.
Ellen thank you for this video. I actually started crying. I am 23 years old (don't have children yet) and no one has ever vocalized that it is okay to want to be "just" a mum and the importance of that path, staying home with your children and raising them. In my experience, the emphasis is so heavily on climbing the corporate ladder.
This video made me tear up. So true, all of it. Thank you for being here and being such an inspiration. Can't wait to see your garden come to life!
Thank you for making this 💛 it's so wonderful when people choose a direction in life that they truly want to walk. Love the little paradise you've found and created for yourselves, truly beautiful. 🥰
It’s great if being a stay at home parent works.. but in my mom’s case it didn’t. My dad left us, so my mother was jobless and had no education other than high school. She had no backup plan. She went back to college later in life and started her career in her mid 40’s, but can never retire now.
As a fellow ethical vegan, parents raising small ethical vegans who are kind, healthy and earth conscious - who will grow up to be adult ethical vegans who are kind, healthy and earth conscious - is everything. So grateful to you for that. ❤️🌱☮️
Edit: I am much older than you (and childless by choice) and the youngest of 7 and my own beloved Mother recently passed away. I am increasingly aware, amazed and grateful at how hard she worked all those years as a full time Mom… Her unending love and selfless devotion… It’s by far the greatest job there is. ❤️
Found myself in tears while you were talking about motherhood never being presented as an option. I think so many women have the same thoughts as well. My mom was a stay at home mom and it has been cool seeing her navigate the time she has now after her children have grown up. So proud of her. Thank you for sharing this video.
Got me choked up this morning
whenever i’m having a really hard time parenting- when everyone around me seems to be so anxious & crazed bc of life or their kids, and i start to feel it too, the Lord always makes one of your videos pop up on my feed.. and i feel rejuvenated with hope & a drive to make my home peaceful again, to slow down and enjoy my babies, and to not be afraid to do things differently with my family. thank you thank you thank you.
The world needs more of people like you Ellen, God bless🙏🙏
I genuinely feel happy when I see that you have posted a new video. I'm from South Africa and I love how you have made the idea of homeschooling seem so easy and practical to do. I'm so grateful I'm subscribed to your channel, you are truly a blessing.
Yup I feel the same way. I am an RN and had been working for a few years before starting a family and quitting my career to begin being a SAHM. Everyone seemed to envy me masked in disapproval. It felt lonely (still does) but I don't regret being readily available for my children and family. Thank you for sharing your family and life with CZcams
Thanks for sharing your journey! As a stay at home mom
You were a big help as to what kind of mom I wanted to be finding your channel with my first pregnancy! Being home with my babies for the last 5 years has been THE ABSOLUTE BEST ❤
I relate so much to what you said in this video, and it feels nice to have an inspiration like you to really chase what I truly desire in life. Lots of love to you and your beautiful family ❤
I think the key is to be supportive of whatever life any women (or person) wants to live. I work with women during the first 2000 days (during pregnancy from conception to their child being 5 years) and a lot of the women I support are young mothers who have not had a career or education and are reliant on their partner and many of them have been in violent relationships they can’t leave because they don’t have the education or financial means to leave so they stay to have a home for their children and food on the table. The most heartbreaking thing I’ve learned since working in this field is that most domestic violence starts in pregnancy - often linked with loss of some control from the perpetrator. Living in small regional towns in Australia there are very limited resources and supports for these women. So while I support any women choosing what is right for them and their family, if you have even a small amount of education and experience it can go a long way if you need to leave a relationship should anything happen. All of these women were the same as all of us and thought ‘oh that will never happen to me’.
Personally I will stay home with my children and am privileged to be a little older and have good experience, education and skills if I needed to draw on that. However I am also privileged to have a loving supportive husband I have been with for over 10 years who has a good job.
Just wanted to share another experience to show the pros of education / career development for women before becoming mothers ❤️
Yes very true. Thank you for sharing your perspective 🙂🙏❤️
Thank you for saying this and for what you do to help vulnerable women! I'm so glad I have a bachelor's degree from a prestigious university and work experience because it gives me options. For instance, my husband is in grad school, so I'm the main breadwinner. And God forbid something happens to him, I can support our family and not worry about being destitute. I'm thrilled for Ellen that she's living the life of her dreams, but advocating for women to exclusively be mothers without pursuing other skills and education for themselves leads to situations like you've described. In Ellen's case, she does have a career; she runs a social media empire, produces and edits videos, promotes products, sells courses, and runs a podcast. If something happens to her hubby, she has many skills and a degree to fall back on. I belive every woman should receive an education and have some work experience because many things can go wrong in life, and she should have a way to take care of herself and avoid being trapped in bad marriages due to a lack of options. So let women live as they please, but they should all have the skills and resources to take care of themselves if shit hits the fan.
Gosh, this must be my most favorite video made by you ever. Loved everything about it. Thank you so so much for having made this ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing this video. I stepped down from my career to be a full time mom (I have a almost 2 year old and one on the way). I knew it’s always what I wanted to do but I’ve gotten so many comments about going back to work. This video truly touched my heart and made me feel good about what I’m doing. Thank you for your inspiring content.
I’ve been watching these videos for what feels like a decade but maybe less. Ellen you have truly inspired me my whole life and you embody slow but steady wins the race. Thank you
I have been here from the very first videos and you have always been and still are an inspiration. ❤ I literally cried because it's so true how we are told how we are supposed to live our lives so we stray off the path we want sometimes to not be frowned upon.
I am a proud grandmother of nine blessings that range in age from almost one to eighteen years. With the unconditional support from all of my in-laws, I was able to be a stay at home mom for most of my children’s school years. We have 2 sons and 2 daughters. I am so proud that our daughters chose to be full time moms and even equally proud of our two daughter in laws for being awesome working mothers! I truly believe that great parents like you both, are the answer to world peace. One family at a time. Like you both, we were able to raise our children and are able to enjoy our grown children and our grandchildren in Hawaii. You are an awesome inspiration to us all! Such a beautiful place your family continues to build.
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I enjoy all your videos but this one is probably the most authentic, real , relatable videos yet! 🙌🏻
I have had those same feelings as a young woman who wants to dedicate her life to raising babies. I have come to terms, though, that I am not in that season yet. I am a 21 year old in my last year of undergrad, and have chosen to look at is as getting an education FOR my children. I never wanted to go to college, but I am so glad that I am graduating now! I feel like it will make me a better mom, because I am able to speak knowledge and wisdom into my children that I wouldn’t necessarily otherwise have. I chose to pursue Photography in university, which is something that I love and can always pursue outside of Motherhood. I think that women who have babies and Mother without further education can 100% give a beautiful fulfilling life to their children, and I also think that women who are educated before having their babies can offer a different kind of perspective and knowledge base that is also beneficial and fulfilling. It’s just different paths, but I am certainly grateful that I have the opportunity to finish my degree in Photography before entering into the depths of Motherhood (which I am so looking forward to!)
I truly feel so much peace watching your videos. You inspire me so much you don’t even know it!💗
Being a stay at home mom and homemaker is one of the hardest yet most rewarding jobs. I’m glad my husband and I came from a traditional family so I never had the pressure to go to college and become a career woman. I went to college for a year on my own accord because I did want to be a zoologist but after meeting my husband, getting married and deciding to have a family, it was a no brainer that I would be a homemaker. My husband has always worked very hard so that we could do what we believe is right and what God wants. I started my own sea glass jewelry business on the side so I still did something for myself. I would never change a thing.
Until your husband leaves you... Then you wish you would have gotten a good education. Why do women in 2023 "cherish" this power dynamic where you are basically completely succumbed to your husband's will?
There are way more harder things then being a mom. Idk what you mean by the hardest
@@amirahelechi7113 I don’t believe so. If you’re an involved active mom/homemaker, it’s one of thee hardest jobs out there. You wear so many hats and do so many jobs. You never get a break or sick day. You’re lucky if you get over 5 hours of sleep. There is a lot of emotion and physical stress involved. Being a full time mom/homemaker was harder than any regular job I ever had. It’s harder than running two businesses!
@@AC-qz3uj 26 years married, my husband isn’t going nowhere. Young people don’t understand commitment and hard work these days. They don’t understand traditional family dynamics. I definitely have more power over my husband but I also have respect for him. I just to understand why people like you think the men control their wives in traditional families. That’s so ignorant!
@seaglassmomma4040 being a cardiovascular surgeon is hard being in the army is actual hard work you don't where multiple hats u don't even wear one at all 😭
Such a beautiful video Ellen. I appreciate this message so much and couldn’t agree more. Just sent my oldest to college and you’re exactly right you miss it profoundly..having all my babies home with me. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for a wonderful post and family update !! So appreciate you sharing your family and life with us !!
Thank you for letting us experience the sounds & sights of your beautiful island & being so inspiring in motherhood your videos are such good vibes ❤
That was so beautiful Ellen!! I totally agree, being a mom is so wonderful ❤️ and the garden looks gorgeous!
I love this so much, Ellen!
I agree. Growing up was full of pressure to know what I was going to do with my life (job) and go to college. Those were the most important things. Here I am at 32, still in debt from the college that I never graduated from, raising and homeschooling 3 kids. I never saw this coming and I am SO thankful for it❤️
So happy y’all finally got a nice big garden in! ❤ I’m excited to see everything growing! ❤
I am 25 and have been watching you for several years. I am in PA school and very career driven but I love the simplicity and how down to earth your family is. Your lifestyle is so beautiful. I will definitely be making my own veggie broth at home now! Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us. ❤ Blessings from Indiana
Well that was the most uplifting, thought provoking video I’ve seen from Ellen. Truly struck a cord with me and can relate so much.
Beautifully said x
As someone who had a very traumatic childhood, I just want to thank you for sharing your family and life with us in the way you do… it heals a part of me every time I watch one of your videos and also shows me a glimpse of the family I will create one day 🥹💗 Thank you so much!
Thank to you for being so open about your family, kids, goals...you are an amazing inspiration and transmit a lot of love, peace and beautiful energy.... blessings
Thank you so much Ellen, I admire you for so many reasons. As someone who has been so scared to enter into motherhood because of feeling like I haven’t accomplished enough in life but wanting to be a mom… this helped so much. ❤
You’re such an inspiration Ellen! 💛
Great video Ellen! So wonderful watching your family growing all these years and you get to enjoy this time with them as you should.
What a beautiful message! Motherhood is such a precious thing, thank you for the reminder of the importance and value found in raising and investing in children ❤️
Being a mom is the best thing thats ever happened to me 😭
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I started watching you when I was 15, I took a 6 year hiatus from CZcams, but I’m so glad to see you’re still here! You’re the mum I aspire to be for my little one 🥹
Thanks for the inspirational reminders that motherhood is so beautiful and so so important!
I’m a long time fan and this might be my favorite video of yours yet. You’re awesome, Ellen ❤
So beautifully ~ I’ve been watching you for years and currently in this phase of life as well~ thank you Ellen!
Your beautiful family and way of living is the epitome of what every family should strive to be. Your videos heal my soul. ❤
omg did I ever choke up when you choked up talking about your love for raising you children. so precious to hear
😭😭😭❤ the catch in your voice. I felt that mama. It really is the greatest gift. You're doing amazing.
I love your channel, I love that you are a stay at home mom, I love your new raised garden, and I am so thankful that your family is safe!!! I also love that you are able to teach viewers like me so many things that otherwise I may not learn. Your family's foundation is grounded with great positivity and I wish that for everyone, single or married, without or with children that they may be able to learn from one another.
I'm a silent viewer but I just wanted to say a massive thank you to the inspiration and hope you have given me. I found your channel when I was 13, now that I'm 22 it's amazing to see how much your world has grown and the stability you provide for your home, family and self. It's beautiful! Watching your videos and hearing your thoughts gives me this tranquility as a young adult that everything is going to be alright. Not needing to rush into the next job or fall into negative expectations of myself. I feel the need to grow and love, your channel helps me reflect that true calling of mine. So thank you, once again.
Much love, always. Thank you for sharing your experience, Ellen.
Love the new garden! So inspired to build this now in my backyard. I am a stay at home mom and homeschool my kids. This was never my original plan but so glad I figured out that this was the best path for my family and I am now teaching my daughter she can choose this as well.
I really appreciate you sharing what you did. I have been watching your videos since I was in 7th grade (now a junior in college), and your joy for all things -- family, life, food, friends, mundane moments, and more -- have always been so encouraging! I really resonate with what you said. My biggest dream is to be a mom and love on my kids to the fullest extent! It has been interesting being in college and having my professors diminish the abilities and love of a mother, always telling us that the emotional and care work that comes with it is draining, depressing, and you will never have enough left for yourself. I struggle with hearing this, because I believe that the giving of yourself so freely as a mom is beautiful and can be so fulfilling. The more modern day outlook on life with kids as less great than if you live it alone but financially stable is sad. If I ever mention that I want to get married and have kids young, everyone looks at me funny and laughs because they think that I am throwing my life away. But, I am not chasing a career or money. I desire a simple life that is filled with so many wonders like love, memories, and peace. Thank you for always reminding me that this life is a possibility!
I got married when I was 22 and in college. I got a lot of weird looks from people because I looked even younger than my age. I know how you feel. But I do want to point out that there is some truth to their concerns: Children are expensive, stressful, and time-consuming. When you become a mum, you have to make decisions that are in their best interests, not necessarily your own, which can mean lots of sacrifices. Then there is the money piece. Lots of families nowadays simply cannot afford to have stay-at-home moms because life costs a lot more than it used to. Ellen lives what looks like a beautiful, idyllic life, and I'm so happy for her that she gets to. But she is in a privileged position. She can afford to live in Hawai'i, the most expensive of the US states. She works from home and has an extremely flexible job since she runs her own social media empire. And she makes a lot of money off her social media, which I'm sure she works very hard to do, but many people will never succeed on social media, even if they work at it. While you're right that happiness is attainable for us all, a life like Ellen's is probably not what most stay-at-home moms can sustain in this day and age. But that doesn't mean you can't find a way to make motherhood balanced and fulfilling for you. Just keep in mind that social media isn't real life, and the fortunate few who can live these idealized lives may have many more resources and privileges than other families have.
Oh my gosh me crying listening to you talk about just wanting to be a mom. I currently have a 5 month old and finding my way back to work part time feels.... unnatural to some degree. Yet I miss that creative outlet. How special to watch this video this morning. You have lifted my spirit and inspired me. Thank you xxxx
I love that you caption what the kids are saying in the background!
I need all the outfits you wore in this video omg!🙌🏼😍
This video speaks so much to me! This is LIVING! Thank you for sharing your experience and validating those who may want to do something a little different than what the narrative surrounding what a woman should be and do is.
This video is just beautiful. I totally agree and resonate with all you have said ❤. My kids are grown now and my husband and I are in the phase of expanding our homesteading. It’s truly a wonderful thing!
I had a friend ask me in 7th grade what I wanted to be when I grew up . I told her I wanted to get married and have kids and raise them myself . I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom 😊
Before having a child, I really wanted to stop my carrer and be a stay at home mom (knowing we could not afford it anyway). But after my daughter was born I realized it was way to hard for me. So I'm sad and feel guilty but I have to send my daughter to daycare and work. Week ends are sooooo exhausting to me. And I also love my job. I'm an Art teacher. Props to you for having your kids everyday. I don't know how people find ways to respond and entertain young children all day long. And my kid absolutly refuse to play alone
I’m a mom of 2 (currently on maternity leave) and I can totally relate to the dynamic between mom and child you are describing. I found just letting them participate in whatever your im doing has helped. Letting them help cook, clean, put the clothes in the wash, bake a banana bread. That’s more fun to them then cartoons or playing with toys. After these meaningful moments I find they are more likely to independently play.
I’ve never related to someone else’s goals as much I do with this!! 👏🏼💕
I've been sick with the flu for a week and this video has brought so much joy. Mahalo Ellen ❤
Thank you for sharing Ellen, I feel so happy everytime I see your videos!
I chose the very same with my 5 boys, I'm so forever grateful. This was a beautiful video, more like this please. ❤
It's so inspiring to see such a big loving family growing food together. It really makes me so happy to see a mother of 5 just doing that. Loving and being present with her children and teaching them to grow their own food. Incredible
I felt this video in my soul. What a beautiful life. Thank you for the reminders and the inspiration ❤🌱
It is a cold monday morning here in Denmark right now, i LOVE sitting here with my hot cup of coffee and watch your videoes. You inspire me so much Ellen!! I know it's controversial, but starting my day with the right kind of youtube video just sets the tone for the rest of the day. And i really strongly agree on that parents should be able to be a stay at home parent without judgement. I will only get children if i get the opportunity to be a stay at home mom, but that like super controversial here in Denmark. We call the standart danish life a "Villa, Volvo, Vovse"-life, which means, that you need a big house, big car and cute dog (and kids) to live up to the "danish dream life". This life style is so important for many danes, and i honestly have never felt so excluded from my community, because my wishes are not the same at all, i crave a slow life, being a stay at home mom/wife, i crave it so so much, and i really feel seen whenever i watch your videoes! Thank you so much for being such an inspiration.
I literally talk about this so much! I was scared to ever say that I just wanted to be a mom and not work because of the criticism I could get. This video is so sweet and beautiful 🤍
Literally writing a book about this
It’s called “mommy comes back” about my journey back to my home from a full time careeer in anesthesia
Ty for sharing this is so important
Thanks for being such a fantastic role model for us young women out there. I am 27 years old, living in Austria and I am looking forward to raise my kids similar to your parenting style. I am a private teacher and I am looking forward to home school my kids :) you are a very powerful, creative and inspiring woman!
You have been an inspiration to me for years now. I admire your way of living, and I love watching your video's❤
Gosh...tears in my eyes.
I've been watching you since your first son and this is one of my favorite videos so far. You've been inspiring me since then and this message is just so beautiful. I love how much you appreciate life, and how much energy you and Andrew put into creating the life you want and dream of for yourselves and your family. And also how much you don't take it for granted. Those kids are so fortunate to have you both as parents. Thank you for continuing to post and share little glimpses of your journey with us. Love from Portugal
So often your videos make me cry. I can’t say right what I want to say, so this will have to do.
I am also a mama of five - our youngest daughters are about five weeks apart in age. I too have been vegan for over a decade and I too am a full time stay at home mama. I also crave beyond crave a slow, simple and beautiful life. I too home educate them and always have. However there are so many differences because you have achieved these things in ways I can only ever dream of and I so admire, respect and have my heart filled for you. My journey is different and we struggle with a lot of life’s basics - i long to be self sufficient but we live in a home near a town in a (now dark!) northern hemisphere corner of the UK.
I am constantly put down because of my life choice to “not work”….. yet absolutely nothing could make me change my mind about my conviction that this is what I want and need to be doing. I am only sad that it took me so long and so many years of searching to find it, and to accept myself that this is me. My children are my very heart and without being with them, I would have no purpose. I am many other things too - but Mama and wife is my role. I am a bit older than you, Ellen, and feel the pressure to move on now….. yet I don’t actually feel ready. I want to savour all this for longer, to do better, to linger over the baby days (though my eldest is a teen! And gorgeous for it). They grow so so so fast - and these “endless days” will be a golden memory far far too soon. Love and light.
I agree Ellen, raising my kids has been the best thing I’ve ever done. The only thing I’m finding is that as they start leaving and growing up it is so heartbreaking.. and very hard to adjust, even though you are so excited for them and proud! xx
God bless you and your family Ellen! Been following you for almost 8 years now. You're such an inspiration sister!
Been waiting for you to up your gardening, this is awesome! Love the arch, hope you can grow some exciting veg up it. To new levels of home grown abundance. Beautiful words about being a mom, I feel them