Young Woman Learns How Her Boyfriend’s Behavior Is Domestic Violence And How She’s Justifying It
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- čas přidán 14. 10. 2019
- Learn about Robin McGraw’s Aspire Initiative and Aspire app that is helping the fight against domestic violence. And, a young woman learns how she is making excuses for the domestic violence in her relationship.
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This woman has been so abused that she feels like it is her fault and that is so sad.
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Sadly that's true of almost all battered spouses, male or female and all sexual orientations.
Zoran gosh I see you replying to everyone. You’re not a nice guy if you feel entitled to a relationship. We get it you can’t get a girlfriend. Stop victim blaming.
That's part of an abusive relationship..
Physical and emotional abuse..clearly
This poor girl is so damaged by this abusive monster.
patricia donald-mcveigh it funny honestly
@@reynaldoray7539 nothing funny about someone being abused....
@@reynaldoray7539 you trolling bruh
@Naomi Brown who cares he's making her worse and taking advantage of her how dare u
BananaBrains 98 He’s probably a red pill mgtow
She doesn't know she deserves better.
Willis Allen Jr and it’s so sad to sit here and watch
@@diamondlackey5535 It is. I knew a woman like this and she would make excuses for her man. It took over 2 years for her to finally dump him. I just don't understand why anyone can put up with that behavior.
@@djstuntfox Like the video said, she might be afraid that if she leaves, her husband could kill her or beat her harder.
Of course she does but she chose the 'bad boy' and it comes with Lefts and rights. She didn't know that before hand though. Should have listened. If only women would listen but nope.
Zoran its more complicated than that. you’re victim blaming. and you sound like you belong on r/niceguys
She’s lucky that the kids aren’t his, she needs to get away from this guy.
Swpa 87
I thought that just the boy wasn’t his.
Not lucky. All the kids, his or not could be abused as long as she stays. He can move onto hurting them as a way to punish her.
@@Alisha21210 I think they just mean she's lucky in the way that should she finally decide to leave him, she wouldn't have to deal with custody issues and just finally be rid of him completely. That is, if ALL the kids aren't his.
They have one daughter together I believe .
She probably won’t tho
"He's a good father". Yep, cause when you punch your wife in front of her child, that makes you eligible for 'father of the year'.
I watched my stepfather in the car hit my mother and she said do it again...so he did ,her mouth was bleeding and I was say 3 or 4 that was one time of many ...later I hated both of them and left and never really connected again.....it traumatised me so much that I only now realise at 47 the damage that shaped my whole life ....I ended up feeling like the terrible one .....I can't have relationships because of this ....yet how can I keep blaming when I'm an adult the responsibility is mine ....I really need to work this out for my own peace ....
@@bluesea5742 I am so sorry to hear what you went through as a child. My heart hurts for you. I don't know what I can say that will make things easier for you, but I can share with you my story of learning the true nature of forgiveness. Many years ago, something happened to me and my late husband that involved our spiritual group. After the dust cleared, my husband and I recognized what had happened as a powerful spiritual experience. While no one (except perhaps us) was damaged by it, the core people in the community (we were core people also) turned against us and others could not stand up to them. Some of them told lies to protect family members in the process. Overnight we went from being the centre of things to being outcasts of a sort. And we had done nothing wrong, nothing to deserve this, just as you did nothing to deserve what happened to you. You have probably heard people say, you don't forgive for the sake of the other person, you forgive for your own sake. I had heard that too. Many times. But it just went in one ear and out the other. At the time, I had no trouble forgiving people who are remorseful, people who say they're sorry and are genuine. But I had a big issue forgiving people who don't even think they did anything wrong. Yet I did try to forgive them. I struggled with it for eleven years. Then one day I was on a phone conversation with one of the people from the community, telling her about my struggles to forgive. I never blamed her as she was the only person in the community who had phoned us at the time, to check on us, to see how we were doing. Then an amazing thing happened. In the middle of my sharing my struggles she said "Maybe we don't deserve to be forgiven." With that phrase, finally the lightbulb came on for me. In the magical moment of her saying that, I experienced to the core of my being, the truth that while they might not deserve to be forgiven, my husband and I deserved to be freed from the burden that their actions had transferred to us. It was powerful, it was instantaneous . . . I just let go. I let go because I deserved to be free and I hung up the phone a free woman. I don't condone what they did. I don't expect they will ever apologize or even see how their actions damaged us. In fact, even though we continued with the group for many years, we finally left and I no longer have contact with them (except for the woman in the phone conversation). My husband's Celebration of Life service was by invitation only and the core people who turned on us were not invited. But I wish them well in their lives. I wish them happiness and fulfillment. As for myself, I surround myself with people that I know will be there for me when I need them, like they were when my beloved husband died. And I will be there for them. I hope you find peace in your life. This worldly journey is not for the faint of heart, and I can see by what you've shared that you have both courage and wisdom. You have the ability to heal from your upbringing and as you do, some existing relationships may heal or strengthen. New nurturing and powerful relationships will also most certainly find their way to you. I wish you well on your journey. I am sending a 'virtual' hug. You deserve to be free.
Thankyou for sharing your story and your compassion...❤️💜❤️💜Mum passed away so I can't say anything to her now , she wasn't a religious or spiritual person either so I feel really sad about that ....I was hard and now I'm getting softer as I get older ...what a hard lesson to know and learn....forgiveness is so important for the self !!!!
@@bluesea5742 My husband passed away almost 4 years ago and we walked a metaphysical path together for 32 years. We both had near death experiences as children so we knew that death is only a transition to our true home. When he died, I knew he hadn't gone far, but even so, the grief I felt was deep and I missed him terribly as we did everything together. We had many mystical experiences in our lives and I thought he would visit me in dreams after he died. Instead, joker that he was, he decided to be more 'in my face'. So instead, he flickers lights, closes doors when I'm standing right there, moves the toggle switch on the coffee maker only he used until he passed, so when I turn it on it sprays water everywhere, moves the rearview mirror in the car only I drive, etc. etc. I finally went to a local Medium because I wanted to know what he had to say for himself! Apparently lots. One thing I've found out for sure. He knows everything I think and everything I'm going through. Things I've never shared with anyone and never even said out loud. Even if your mother wasn't 'spiritual' in life, we are all spirit and nothing but. I can say with the sureness of my own experience (and those of many of my friends), your mother does know what you're going through and she does loves you. You can talk to her, either out loud or through your thoughts. If you write her a letter, she will get it. The fact she's on the other side does not mean you cannot heal your relationship with her while you are still here. In fact it can be easier, because she sees more clearly now. My mother passed away a year ago. She had a difficult upbringing, lots of trauma in her family, and lots of hardship in her life. Consequently she had trouble being an affectionate, nurturing mother and our relationship was difficult while I was growing up. It got better as time passed but we were never close like probably both of us would have liked. Four months after she died I visited a Medium, mostly to hear from my husband, but it was my mother who came through first. The first thing she said was that she hadn't realized how hard I took the death of my husband. That totally made sense. My Mom always saw only what she wanted to see. Anyway, I've managed to find out more about my mother, and her issues, since she's crossed. There are things about your mother you don't know that probably affected why she was the way she was. Even though she's crossed over, she can still be part of your healing process. I'm sure she wants to be. When we cross over, all the veils fall away and we see things much more clearly. All the best in your healing.
Well if that makes him father f the year then god help his daughter that is all I can say
Dr. Phil praising is wife at every chance he gets
Yes, how tragic.
Robin is honestly very beautiful and looks younger for her age she's in her 60's but she looks like she's in her 40's
He trying to get some 🐱 after the show
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“I don’t feel like I’m a victim...” That line broke me. That’s the crazy thing about abuse. It can be so insidious, so manipulative, so gaslighting, that it can happen to anyone, of any personality or confidence level. It happens even to people who “fight back” or manage to maintain their sense self-worth. No one wants to see themselves as a victim, because they think it’s like admitting they were taken advantage of because they were weak or naive. But being a victim of abuse has NO reflection on your strength as a person. Abuse is not a reflection on you; it reflects only on the character of the abuser.
Emma Moser this is exactly why I didn’t wanna tell my family about my abuse cuz I was scared and embarrassed they’d make fun of me for being weak
This is so true
Emma Moser I also think it’s because people have an idea of a victim being this broken down and battered woman who stumbles around her husband, not realizing that a victim can be anyone.
I grew up in a DV household. My mother told me she will always be there if it happens to me. And she will do everything in her power to educate me, being the eldest i remember having to shelter my siblings in our bedroom and soothe them
Thank you.
She is not weak. She’s scared, doesn’t want her children to grow up w/o a father. I’m so sorry.
This is definitely one of the reasons (which i find so stupid of an excuse). I have a family member in an abusive relationship and THIS is one of her many reasons for why she stays and why its “for The sake of her children”
They aren’t even his kids
I’d love to lend my abilities to women like this ... let me know and I’ll come make a visit to the guys lunchbreak and have a lil fun at the expenditure of his bones
@@ghostofhieronymusbosch1893 would be better if you could be a father figure to kids of dads like that
@@ghostofhieronymusbosch1893 they aren't even his kids so now what??!! Do tell.
“I just dont want him to get in trouble “ 😟 the manipulation done to her is real
Right! No, honey, you do want him to get in trouble because it's what you both deserve. He should be in trouble and you should be free of this!!
In a weird twisted way its because she loves him or thinks she does
Codependency is just as much a disease as addiction
Agreed
Word
Yep, it's like... Addiction to another person.
Michelle Boldan yes or worse because most don’t even realize it’s a thing
This
My aunt was in a relationship like this and her boyfriend ended up killing her. I hope this woman is able to get out of this horrific situation and is able to be safe.
I am sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry that this happened.
My aunt too. I'm so sorry. 💔
That's so horrible. I hope he got put away where he can't hurt anyone else.
that happened twice in my family too. it’s devastating😭 battered woman syndrome is real
This broke my heart. “Okay I’m sorry I lied I don’t wanna get him in trouble” she sounded like she was about to cry, he’s a monster.
I have lived this nightmare . Stop wasting energy on justifying his behavior and leave and never look back. Give your all to the people who deserve it, your children. You are enough, and you do not need anyone to complete you or validate you. I know how hard it is to leave, but I promise it will change your life for the better. Stay strong.
Callie G so true 👏👏👏
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Hope you're safe and happy now girl x
Thank you for sharing. You are so beautiful and strong.
Callie G how did you leave? I’m in the same situation the woman in the video is in. I don’t have money so I am dependent on this guy and it’s too hard to leave
WTF...this woman is scared to death of him
She only says that stuff so he won’t hit her. He is a monster
She's not leaving because she loves him, and those punches that come with him.
@@Zoran69 why are incels like this
No, she probably genuinely thinks she’s being a good woman who stands by her man. My guess is the guy showers her with apologies and love bombs to reinforce that idea.
Not necessarily, I was in a mentally abusive friendship (not fun) they twist your mind to think you are the one doing wrong. Even by threatening to kill themselves if you leave them or don't talk to them. She might have been like me and had her mind twisted so much she believed it was her fault, she's the bad one and if she doesn't comply he does something that is *all her fault* trust me I got out but I still feel guilty sometimes. I tell myself and my friends do that I'm not a terrible person but it always comes back into my mind. If he's been so mentally abusive it will damage her a lot, I know because it's been 4 years and I'm still recovering. True I didn't get abused but my mind got twisted into hating myself more than anything.
of course plus she spent years building a family she doesn't want to loose and is financially dependent. She's in a very difficult scenario.
Wow She really didn't want him to get introuble but he deserves it or he wont quit or even do it to someone else.
Extra plus because she’s afraid of the ramifications. She’d pay the price. :(
if he gets in trouble he will be more abusive... she must get help, remove herself and the children from this environment and make herself independent
Sadly these ladies are so desperate for what they think is "affection" they are easy targets for abusive scumbags. So they end up defending them because either they've been programmed by the abuser to think its their own fault, or because they just can't face life without a boyfriend/husband. . It's really sad and people often dont understand why they dont just leave. It seems simple from the outside, but its not. Plus statistically she is in most danger of being killed when attempting to leave. We need heavy sentencing for these abusers. We need to put the fear where it belongs - with *them* .
@@glengraham7080 as someone who has parents that have verbally abused me and used scare tatics, i know her frame of mind very well. You know that this isnt right and should leave but youre afraid of leaving because they help in financial areas and other things to compensate the anger and abuse they inflicted. Victims generally feel lonely and helpless because their abusers are their main support, even if they have many friends.
Victims generally try to rationalise the abusers actions like "theyre my parent and want me to be a good person". ((Rationalising doesnt mean understanding the truth of the matter but can mean trying to justify an event/behaviour)).
Sorry for the long comment lmao
She’s terrified because she knows if he gets in trouble he will quite literally beat her to death.
She's not scared she's deciding to be clingy. She can leave him. He can coparent like everyone else does.
Gideon Of the Galaxy ah yes, victim blaming. Anyone suffering from domestic abuse (woman or man) often times can’t just leave. They have to make a plan to get out safely.
That was my thought too.
God it's heartbreaking to see a victim cover for their abuser.
Her: "The first time he hit me, I made a stupid, irrational, and unnecessary comment that made him angry".
So sad that she is blaming herself for the abuse. 😥
“I don’t want him to be in trouble for anything he’s done to me.” That’s the problem, honey! He’s learned that he can get away with things. No one has held him accountable, so now, he knows he can hit you and there aren’t consequences.
Good point.
She started off saying "It was my fault, I said something I shouldn't have said." That is exactly how the abuser wants you to react.
An 'amazing father' does NOT put his hands on women!!!
That lady is terrified 😢
The abuser alllllways says they agree when he tells them to never put their hands on a woman in anger.
Yep. My ex always would tell people hed never hit a women but behind closed doors he was abusing me. They lie like a rug and so easily
Yep. Some of them truly do know it's wrong and just have anger management issues (no excuse), but many just lie and say anything to get what they want.
'Bad boys' are exciting at first but they might come with lefts and rights.
@first last people dont always show their true.colors till much later
A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship, and her ex was telling us all at the dinner table about how freaked out he was (he worked in a hotel as a concierge) when a woman came running downstairs crying because her husband beat her. He went on to say that it was wrong and he wanted to protect the woman, that her husband was disgusting etc. Turns out he was doing the same thing to my friend.
Domestic violence never gets better it gets worse.
Would the person be able to get help and maybe stop or does that ACTUALLY never happen?? I've never went through this nor really read up on it. I did study a marriage and family class for college but there really wasn't anything about domestic abuse
That fact single handedly saved me from my abuser. He put his hands on me once, in a deeply disturbing act, and light bulb went off "It only gets worse". If he was able to do what he did, and sleep peacefully after.... i truely believe there is no end to the cruelty he'd inflict. I knew I had to run.
untill they eventually kill you..that's how it always is..
Brittney Jensen I don’t think abusers change! The man that abuse me he took classes and therapy and still abuses me
Brittney Jensen I guess it’s a matter of who really wants to change, you can get all the help and therapy but you control yourself at the end
I hope she gets out. I really, really, really hope that she gets out. She’s not trying to protect him, she’s trying to protect herself.
God it is heartbreaking to see this woman cover for her abuser.
Sounds like she is scared to leave him
She doesnt have anywhere to go.
Nunya Bizzz that’s why most woman won’t go. Where is there? With all her kids?
Maybe it’s because she actually is
Or maybe she's just clingy.
This girl is clearly hurting. Really is afraid she will get beat after
Good for her
I don’t define an amazing father as someone who hits his wife. Does anyone? Nope.
No
It's absolutely disgusting. It's child abuse. He is harming those children watching him abuse their mother.
Yikes, all of the alcohol has really pickled this man. He looks much older than 28
Agreed
Hes 28?!
@@daniplaysoneasy-9454 lmao yes hunnie
Ew true he looks at least 38 . I've seen healthy 50 year olds who look more youthful than him
He looks 48.
“You never put hands on a women for any reason of anger I don’t care what” - periodt
You never put your hands on anyone, not just women. So it's okay to put your hands on men or little boys is that what you're saying? I agree with a lot of Dr. Phil's points but not this one...
if she tryin to kill you bro, i could forgive you, not sure about doctor Phil tho :D
He said to never do it in anger. He didnt say anything about self defense.
It's not okay for women to hit men but it's definitely worse for men to hit women.
She seems like the sweetest and she’s beautiful too :(
The women that come on this show and are abused emotionally, physically, and verbally are so FREAKIN' beautiful. Like BEAUTIFUL! Notice how these men just tear them down completely. What cowards.
This poor woman, my heart goes out to her.
Nobody: I need help, Dr. Phil.
Dr. Phil: You know, my wife Robin wrote this book and launched a nonprofit about this.
Saleen Martin so accurate
Yeah.. here is just one of the many resources that I will offer you, to help you. I mention my wife because she is the founder and runs an organization dedicated to domestic violence, the very topic of discussion that we are currently having. What a monster 🙄.
Really ....kind of seems like the appropriate time to mention something.
Thought I was the only one who noticed
They write in to the show to ask for help. So ‘Nobody: I need help, Dr Phil’ isn’t really applicable here. Lol
The tremble in her voice is full of fear for this guy. :'(
One cannot be a terrible, abusive husband, and be a wonderful father at the same time. It is not possible.
This is extremely heartbreaking. He has absolutely damaged her, it's sickening to watch him not even take responsibility for it. I hope she gets the help she needs, my heart breaks for her.
He will never have accountability to own what he did cus the risk of him being exposed as an abuser is too high of a price to pay he rather her pay the tab
I want to hug her. Him punching you in the face is completely unacceptable for any reason.
The first time he punched me.
Omg girl get out of there, you deserve better but more than you, tour kids deserve better than this toxic immature fool. He deserves to be in trouble. He is not an amazing father the way he acts is the worst example and you are an abuser to your own kids if you let this continue
He doesn't care enough to be embarrassed, that 'absolutely' meant nothing to him
Ikr !! I can’t believe he dared showing up. Well,at least he’s exposed.
Yesssssss like the blatant disrespect was phenomenal
He’s a narcissist
My boyfriend DID try to kill me, once while we were still together, once after I left. He threatened my bosses when he couldn't find me. He stalked me for a year. He paid my coworkers for my address and phone number. Not sure why this is on the list of "excuses?"
It's an excuse because if they would try to kill you after you left then if you stayed the relationship would probably come to that anyway...... and most victims know that on some level. But it is a valid reason to be absolutely terrified and terror can paralyze you in place. Unfortunately that is what they want. It's not normal everyday life to know that in the back of your mind.
As someone who lived and still lives in a domestic violence situation, I can tell you it's not as easy as people think. I've called the police a couple of times and the second time they came out to our home, they threatened they would have to get CPS involved and the kids would be removed if they were called out again. I can't win as I don't even have the police on my side when I need them. It's insane.
Kosher Dill I hope you get out of it soon🙏🏼 you deserve a wonderful life.. don’t let anything hold you back
@@roshasandesh5334 Thank you very much. That means a lot to me!
They say that to help you realise that this is dangerous for the children to encourage you to leave with the children or kick him out.
@@calamitynatalie8590 Which also isn't easy. He pays the bills. All of my family lives 13 hours away so I can't just go to a family members house nor do I have any friends. I only work part time and I can't bring that subject up at work. I honestly just wished the cops would've arrested him and gave him a wake up call but they instead threatened to remove my kids. I'd rather get beat than to have my kids taken away.
Kosher Dill I was in an abusive relationship just like my mother I saw and heard the abuse. You have to think what this is doing to your children, it’s going to affect them for the rest of their lives if you don’t get out.
I remember at the age of 16 I had to download the aspire app... used it once... it only takes once.
Saved my entire young adult hood.
What she needs to think about is her children. Your children always come first. How are they being impacted by this? Do I need to get them away from this man? Is it safe for us to stay here? Will they be able to grow up happily? I know it’s not always easy to get out of an abusive relationship, but she needs to think more about her kids’ situation.
My thoughts. He is capable of doing anything to these kids and get them damaged for life.
If he’s beating you he’s not a good father
I've been there, and the day I walked, I could finally breathe and I don't regret tossing 12 years of marriage down the drain. I was tired of faking and lying for him. I drained myself out. It took me a long time to leave but I'm grateful every day that a voice came in and said NO MORE. And I listened. Raising my son with joint custody is still a battle with my ex bc I left him, and I'm doing what I can to keep my son protected and understanding why., and keeping him away from that - even though I never let him witness it, I knew it was best for us to get out. I still have bad habits in trusting others too easily and I second-guess sometimes but I know now my limits and know it was the best thing I could do. THANK God I woke up.
"I lied because I don't want him to get in trouble". Sounds like me some years ago. He's so deep in her head, she's now programmed to protect him.
She sounds like me a year ago
Well done for getting yourself out of a bad situation 💯👏💚✌
That's sad. Good for you, for respecting yourself enough to leave the situation.
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Good job mama! I know how hard it is! 💖
@@karynjennings4208 thank you it took 3 years but there comes a time when you have to choose to live
The children are in danger!!!
He could beat the children if he beats his wife in FRONT OF THEM!
I feel so sorry for her. Been THERE thank God i finally got out and im very happy now with a great man and a baby. God is so good❤.....
I used to be in a violent abusive relationship for 10years. One time my ex slapped me around in front of a friend of his because of me not wanting to cook dinner and wanting to order and pay for the takeaway myself .... His friend punched my ex out stone cold and once my ex woke up from it ...he had that terrified look on his face that I usually had.
My ex didn't beat me or slap me up for nearly a year after that day. This friend of his always used to tell me to leave. Always checked up on me in the guise of hanging around more often at the house.
Once I finally left - that friend of my ex became the brother I never had! I only wish there was so many more men like my lovely friend! He stopped being friends with my ex and is the kindest soul I have ever met in my life!
She's more worried about him getting in trouble than she is about her kids being taken away by CPS?? I've been in an abusive relationship before and that is still baffling to me.
when she lied and came clean, my heart broke for her. it’s so obvious that she wants help on some level, and i hate that for her. my mom and i were abused also, and nobody deserves that.
“He’s an amazing father” - after he punched you in front of your daughter? Get away NOW!
If you feel scared around your significant other then you shouldn’t be with them, its not healthy
No it's not healthy but it isn't as simple as that. It's very complex and if it was that easy, we all would have left.
I know that kind of behaviour, I saw it first hand in my friend. She loves the man who abused her so much that I have to convince her to move another country. Because I'm not gonna wait till I see her corpse in a morgue. It was one of the crazy experience that happened to me.
I know how hard it is to break the cycle-these guys make the good times the best! Then BOOM they blow and you're left trying to make sense out of what caused it... NEWS FLASH!!!! Every time you not only forgive him YOU GIVE VALIDITY TO HIS EXCUSES!!! He will ALWAYS have a "good" reason....
It’s so hard loving someone so much and not really seeing the monster they are. She is not weak, he has made her feel that way. I hope she finds her power.
One thing I've learned from abuse no matter how much the girl (myself included) sticks up for the abuser it's NEVER gunna stop. Like my momma always says "A tiger NEVER loses their stripes". To any girl or woman out there who is a VICTIM it's NEVER TO LATE TO GET OUT. I know it's easier said then done for some but just know their is better out there and YOU ARE WORTHY OF LIFE 💞
I love robin! Such a sweetheart
I have been there. It took me years to get through it. I thought it was because I loved him but realized that I had to get over someone I loved and THEN get through the abuse (which takes longer in my experience) and I really hope I never go through it again.
I'm about 7 years past it but I've never gotten over it. I'm not been able to have a relationship and an getting to old now for children. If you moved on to any degree I really admire and respect you.
@@sarahmichelle6385 I admire you as well since you were able to get out. Some people are always stuck in it but we both got out. I am also not in a new relationship yet and getting old for children too but I am grateful every day of my life that he is not in it. It is a blessing waking up and not having to deal with him again. I try to live on day at a time and pray for the best.
I recently got my friend out of an abusive relationship and the similarities between this woman and my friend are starking. Onwards and upwards.
Oh my gosh, I used to say every one of those on the “All The Reasons For Staying” list. Even after he *tried to kill me* I made excuses and stayed. It took my 14 years to get to the courage to leave. I wish I hadn’t left it so long because I have totally lost who I am, my spirit is broken and I feel like an empty shell. I sufferer horrible PTSD. To anyone who can identify with anything on that list or in the videoclip, *PLEASE* talk to someone. It only gets worse and every day that goes by, you lose a little more of you, of your heart and soul and of your life. I will never be the same again. You are worth a lot more than this xx
This is why he acts the way he does: his mom was his first enabler now his girlfriend is the second enabler. Let this guy get in trouble and feel that stress from the consequences of his screwed up actions!
Yep. They find everyone else to blame except for themselves.
“Amazing father” that’s beats their mother.
One time my ex shut the door to our sound proof bedroom ( our apartment's previous tenant have put up soundmuffling walls in the bedrooms n sunroom/dining area) n it was the moment I realized I felt okay if I died by his hands. We had gotten to that point, soon after I left because there were many last straws but that was one that helped me wake up cause it wasn't okay to be okay with that.
When I was 13 I was abused by a boy I was seeing, and it ruined my life. I couldn’t tell my parents because I knew they’d be mad at me, I couldn’t tell my friends because they’d be mad at me, I was alone. That was almost 5 years ago, and I still feel the affects of that incident. I can’t trust men most of the time, and have constant panic attacks. The guy I’m with now is extremely supportive and patient, and I truthfully couldn’t ask for someone better. This woman needs to know that there is someone out there that is better for her, and will actually support and love her. She deserves so much better.
She’s so pretty and sweet, I hope she gets better
That use to be me “ I don’t feel like a victim “ now I’m stronger then ever ! 💪💪
bleu Hea how’d you get out? I need advice
I know this feeling all too well
I was in an abusive relationship for six years with a guy named Justin. He hit me, choked me, slammed me up against walls and tackled me all the time. What was even worse was that was the mental abuse. He broke me down and took away any self esteem that my younger self had. He cut me off from family and friends, and didn’t allow me to have a job to have my own money. I am lucky enough to have gotten out it and I’ve learned so much from it. Not everyone is that lucky. I hope this woman can see her worth for her and her children. She deserves more. 💘💘💘
Bro he's legit scared
I wish he’d say “you never put your hands on a partner or child in anger”
The worst part is that HE IS AWARE that he's an abuser, while she hasn't completely understand her situation. It shows in their eyes.
I absoloutely LOVE how Robin supports Phil by showing up to all his shows! 💕 And he gasses her up in return 💕
Don’t shame this woman!!!! She needs support not to be shamed.
"I had made a stupid, irrational, uncalled for comment...and he slapped me." THINK ABOUT THAT PLEASE!!!! No no no no no no no. You don't get hit or beaten up or slapped for saying something.
Oh my god. This breaks my heart so much. And how she apologizes so much ..is insane. I'll pray for her.
Honestly I respect tf out of doctor Phil for this. Trying to get this woman out of the abusive relationship and the fact that he reps his wife's work to end domestic violence so hard
This is a true abuse case. This is exactly how it is. Unlike the rest of the abuse cases that self pity a lot this is a real one
It’s never ok to scare another person. Making someone afraid of you is not ok.
Literally FIRST 5 SECONDS OF THE VIDEOOOO. She literally is sticking up for him and making it not look as bad
I feel so bad for her. You can tell how manipulated she has been and how scared she is. I hope she is able to truly heal.
He is not a good father;he's beating the mother..!!
She needs to stop smiling. Her daughter witnessed this and she stays with him. Time to leave. He needs to go to jail.
I expect it’s smiling out of uncomfortableness (I do the same)
A lot of times these women who are battered wear a mask like this. They convince themselves that what happened is okay. They laugh and smile to hide the person they really are deep inside...they are trapped. They have to make people think they are fine outwardly so that it won’t anger the abuser.
Eddy Marks Her attitude is deplorable, especially when told she’s abusing her daughter by continuing this. She needs help and he needs prison.
Sarah Shae Sometimes it isn’t that easy to just leave even with a child. She clearly has a problem that is very obvious, but it’s worsen by his abusive behavior. Most normal people can just walk away and do alright on their own, but often times it is harder for abuse victims with children to leave.
I believe a lot of this is an act to pacify him. She lies for him like it’s subconscious. It’s beaten into her mind that if she leaves then it would be over for her and her children. It’s all psychological and it can takes years of therapy to unravel that.
Eddy Marks That doesn’t justify any part of her denying she’s abusing her child, she is. And she knows it.
I know exactly what this woman is going through. Her situation is almost exactly like mine was, except I didn’t have kids thankfully. I feel so horrible for her. I’ve cried like a baby watching this because I know exactly how she feels.
It truly makes me so sad & breaks my heart that there is so much abuse out there -physical, emtional, psychological etc. This world today is just so messed up.
I have always dreamed of having a wonderful man by my side and having a kid ot 2, but this world is not what it used to be. I mean that shouldn’t hold me back on things that I have always wanted, but what I see & hear out there...it’s like why even try anymore.
There’s so much pain in this world, it just isn’t what it once was...Maybe I was born in the wrong era.
He is going to have to leave her. That is the only way out for her.
She doesn't love him, she just loves the idea of him
Shes scared
Love is crazy. It be like that sometimes.
I want to give this woman a hug she's in so deep
I feel her pain so much. i’m so happy I got away from my ex and he’s locked up in prison. I still apologize for everything and jump when someone yells or laugh loudly. Something i’ll never heal from, i’m always still trying to love myself again, I hope she finds peace and doesn’t blame herself
Poor woman..so heartbreaking. .kick him to the curb! I put up with being a punching bag for 7 years..frightened of my own shadow in the end. When l finally got away it took me many years to get over it..you never forget
This poor woman, I feel for her.
Hope she left him, he'll never change & will end up killing her if she stayed😥
I’ve been this girl, and it’s really hard to break it once you’re in it. It took intervention from my friends, plus getting punched in the back of the head, and being slammed against a car door. I finally stood up and hit back.
I’ve become stronger after leaving that relationship 6 years ago. I’ve found someone better, and now getting married. DV is really hard when you love the person and when they make you dependent on them.
I have been there and felt that way. It's the absolute worst feeling to blame yourself and make excuses for your abuser.
All those reasons for staying was the narrative on repeat in my head. I hope she got away from him.
That he's been hitting his wife is "all news to him" ??? (head explodes)
He is NOT a good guy if he lays hands on you and he is NOT a good father of he hits you infront of your children period.
Breaks my heart. She deserves so much better.
Love how Dr Phil bigs up his wife every show! That's the sort of love I aspire for. 🙌