Mum Demands That The Wedding Dress Hide The Brideâs Figure | Say Yes To The Dress: Atlanta
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This bride's desire clashes with her mother's demands for a hip-hiding dress. Will she find the strength to stand up for her vision? #SayYesToTheDressAtlanta #SayYesToTheDress
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From Season 5 Episode 3
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Mom's day is done. The way she spins it to say "but I know how you feel about your hips...." No, it's how YOU feel about them. Get over it! So sad to constantly degrade your daughter.
I thought the mom's comment was funny to begin with and then when they showed them walking out and the daughter is wearing a top that really emphasizes her hips, I wondered if the mom has any idea at all about who her daughter is.
If this gorgeous lady has ever been insecure about her hips, it's 100% due to the mother's toxic attitude. Absolutely insufferable!
I think Toxic Mom is JEALOUS!
â@@patmccoy8758 I agree, jealous of her shape
The mom is gaslighting and projecting her own insecurities on her daughter.
Love grandmaâs supportive comment: âGot to show them while you got âemâ!
Right? I was like, "Amen, sister!"
I'm really chesty and my Nonna always says "flaunt it while you got it". I get insecure sometimes, cause it's really hard for me to find tops that are flattering
Grandma knows...she knows
Horrible behaviour of the mother,,,
@@ashleymarks3726donât worry about it! Iâm 13 and hereâs a tip for you to think abt when ur feeling insecure:)) âeveryone has insecurityâs to why think about people looking at you and âjudging youâ theyâre focusing on their own insecurityâs so why would they be thinking about yours? Your beautiful the way you are â€đ
Bride: "I think I look good in this dress"
Mom: "I know more than anyone sitting here how you feel about your body"
SOOOO TOXIC !! đ€źđ€źđ€ź
I would have said " no you don't because it's MY BODY!"
â@@amidthephantomsrosewith toxic mothers you can never win. I once had a headache and I felt hungry..... So I ate. My mother was so angry at me coz I ate. She thinks that if you feel sick, you should fast, shouldn't eat. I explained, It is just a headache and my body is signaling to me that I must eat. She then went on a rant about how she knows better if I should eat or not and that she is more "competent" in medical stuff than I am, and she wants only the best for me. I replied that I am more competent on what my body feels coz it is my body and there is no way she could feel what my body feels, and I feel that I need to eat coz other ways I will not only have a headache, but I will also start fainting coz of lack of energy coz I hadn't eaten that day. My mom went into a violent rage coz I dared to stand up to her and she started to throw random stuff at my head (I don't know where she got the idea that hitting my head with random objects will help heall my headache. No competent person in medical issues will dare to do that... That is how she wants the best for me, bullshit). I then called my friend to get me strong ibuprofen and to evacuate me. That was the last time my mother ever saw me. Went no contact, cold turkey, coz I was tired of her constant emotional and physical abuse.
That comment took me out!!! đ€
That mom should be ashamed of herself. Flat up toxic
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Wedding is probably in a conservative church. She should have come from another angle though
@@MsJubjubbird nothing says conservative than a parent telling the bride not to show everything especially if they want it in a church not the bride
@@sailorathena17 if the bride has picked the family church, then those are the rules.
Yep
Sounds like mom is jealous of her daughters figure. Weird and sad.
Lol older women hate hips. Younger women don't because they have learned most men like them.
â@@peachygal4153Very true. My 65 year old mom hates her wide hips because of how much attention she gets because of them
The bride has a much better figure than her mom ever had and Mom just can't stand that.
@@peachygal4153 Grandma sure knew what men like!
I thought I was the only one rhinking this jealoussssss
"Cover up what you don't wanna show." Obviously the Bride wants to show her hips. I hate when mom's project their own insecurities on their daughters.
The bride has a fabulous figure and sexy hips. Mom is a mess with a big fat mouth and no empathy nor taste.
Wanted to see if mom had those same hips!
â@@joywebster2678Mom WISHED she still had hips like that!!
I love her grandmotherâs support. Mom is talking about hide what you donât want everyone to seeâŠ. THEY ARE JUST HIPS! Good lord MOM! And they are âcoveredâ sheâs not walking out in a full sheer dress showing her butt crack and vajayjay. Itâs terrible that she has to conform to her moms wants for HER big day. Momâs selfishness resulted in her walking away without a dress and I bet mom could care less.
Her hips WERE covered in all the dresses. She wasn't walking naked to the showroom floor.
The second dress was the winner in my opinion. The bride looked beautiful and happy in it. That mum is a piece of work.
I agree! It was the most flattering and beautiful as well.
Yes, absolutely true đą
Agree on the second dress the first was too form fitting those styles are ok for girls who are thin everywhere plus looks like it would be hard to move around in...just my 2 cents lol
This mother seems to be jealous of her daughter's pretty figure, grandma is a darling
I've got a feeling grandma is going to put mother in her place when they get home.
I think the mom is super mean and she enjoys the power she has over her daughter. Why would any mother be like that? Surely she wants her daughter to feel happy with her choice of dress on HER wedding day?
It's called Narcissism
i so agree. That "i can say no" business was totally out of line. Shameful.
Mom ain't happy. My aunt was the same way with my cousin. Her daughter was happy and getting attention. Mom was miserable and vying for attention. She was worse on her daughter's wedding day. We all rolled our eyes, kept the daughter in the dark about her mom's behavior and just had fun. Which was a win win for me. I can't stand my aunt and seeing her miserable because everyone was having fun was just icing on the wedding cake đ
Wedding is probably in a conservative church. Some women also use their daughters for some self worth. She's also 23 and every 23 year old wants to be sexy. She might change her mind about her choice in ten years time
@@MsJubjubbird the church couldn't be THAT conservative. The daughter would have had that in mind. It's not like she wanted to show off too much skin or make her bust a focal point. It was just her curves she wanted to embrace. And as for her being 23 and wanting to be "sexy", there are women literally double her age who want to show the same or even more. Age has nothing to do with it. She, like many other brides, wanted to feel confident in their own body and ultimately their dress. Mom was destroying her confidence. More than likely because she had little to no say about her own dress. Misery loves company. Especially when that company is starting to show confidence.
The comment about how sheâs knows how her daughter feels about her body is shameful. Sounds like the mom has body issues not the daughter
Yeah, gaslighting much
I hope she always feels beautiful in her body, because she's beautiful.
The key to this is, to buy your own dress. Because then your nasty controlling mom, southern or otherwise, has nothing to say about what you wear.
So agree!
Amen sista!
yes exactly. If my mother pulled this crap on me then I would have said (in the store) Thanks for the offer to buy my dress but I didn't realise it would mean you also choosing the dress I wear to my own wedding. I will buy my own dress.
@@ktwashere5637 I do not understand how your daughter is old enough to marry and yet is not old enough to choose her dress. If she has to be told what to wear, she is too young to marry. What the girl should have done is called off the wedding and eloped. Then her mother couldn't participate at all. That would have really pissed her off and I for one would have stood there and laughed, just for spite. I really hate seeing mothers act like this.
100% correct
This beautiful bride has a mumzilla for a mother. That mother is trying her best to try and body shame her daughter. The bride looks amazing.
The bride should get what she wants. I let my daughter pick what she wanted.
I let my daughter pick as well. I gave her a budget, and she went over a bit, but worth it for a dress she loved. My problem was she looked gorgeous in every dress she tried on, so there was no tears from me. I was just there to support her and pay.
â@pamtanner516 same with my daughter. My main question was, "Do you feel beautiful?" I was there to support, and pay.
@@cecedubois5147 the one thing I will tell you is she chose a dress with sleeves and back coverage. Once she turned 18 she choose to get her fair share of tattoos. I donât/didnât approve. So thankfully her dress hid all of those.
@@cecedubois5147 my hubby paid for the dress.
Honey, you're a grown up. Pay for your own dress and don't let your mother shame you.
That first mother has real issues and is projecting them onto her daughter. What a horrible, toxic woman. I really hope the bride got the dress she wanted (and therapy to break free from her motherâs bodyshaming).
âI hate mermaid dressesâ
Me: Well, youâre not the bride!
This mom is so jealous of her daughterâs beautiful shape. Itâs obvious.
I hate when Mothers press their own insecurities onto their daughtersđ
The bride looked wonderful on all the dresses but the second one was the best and it could have been a good compromise for both.
Totally agree! The second dress was gorgeous on her!!
Compromise is not in momma dearest's vocabulary. You do what she wants or she makes you miserable. Your first in many lessons about boundaries, my dear.
I wanted to SCREAM at her mother!
Do never scream at narcissists, they feed on your rage. Ignore them.
It is so sad how we inherently and desperately seek the approval of parents who don't deserve that level of loyalty.
When the daughter has to say "Mom has the look on her face I was hoping for" instead of the mother saying that about the bride, something is really, really wrong.
I was just thinking that... A child shouldn't have to worry about seeking their mother's approval for things like this.
Just Googled her wedding to see what she decided on. Whitney got married in 2013 and has two gorgeous daughters. And she wore an A line which was similar to dress two, except it didnât have a sweetheart neckline but was straight across. She looked gorgeous.
And she's allowing her mommie to body shame her daughters. Two pigs in a pod.
Well I saw that the moms OTHER daughter got married in a mermaid dress like the first daughter wanted! Wonder why she let the younger daughter have a mermaid dress. đ€·
@@countrygirl5579maybe that daughter had a strong backbone and told their mother âIâm wearing it anyway!â
She looked absolutely gorgeous in the mermaidâŠI can never understand how moms can put down their daughters that much, so sad
Fantastic figure on the bride! The mermaid gowns are really flattering on her. The bride has to wear the dress, so the final decision should be hers
My mother did the exact same thing when I was looking at wedding dresses. Constantly telling me how fat I looked to the point I was in tears and just wanted to leave. We ended up going to the court house bc it just wasnât worth the stress she put me through
I am so sorry to hear this. I don't think Mother's have to be with the bride when she buys her dress. Since I was paying for everything, I went dress shopping on my own. When Mom finally saw the dress, she and Dad loved it.
đ± Iâm sorry that happened to you
iâm so sorry that happened to you. back when i got married i had a students mom tell me to tell me what i wanted and she would design the pattern and make it. my mom came with me to get the material she was all support and no stress- she was a dear!
Iâm so sorry you were forced into doing that. I hope your mom isnât still trying to force her will on you. This is why some daughters have to move far away from their parents. I hope your marriage is full of joy.
I hope you moved far away from her...
I cannot imagine my mom critiquing my body when I was shopping for a wedding dress.
âAll anyoneâs gonna see is her hipsâ
AndâŠthatâs a bad thing how, exactly?
Apparently, that's all mom sees.
That poor girl is going to spend the rest of her life fixating on her hips because of her mom.
And that's horrible because her shape is super attractive. A really conventionally drop dead gorgeous figure.â€
She probably already does secretly since I doubt this is the first time the mom said that to her
That mom outta be ashamed of herself. So sad her daughter couldn't pick out a dress because of her mom's insecurities and beliefs.
Mom is jealous. Her daughter is beautiful and a great shape.
Mom is just body shaming her. She looks curvy because she IS curvy. Every dress in the store will show some curve. It's like the people who attack large chested women for dressing "slutty" when they're in the same pants and t-shirt uniform as everyone else.
This bride does have a perfect beautiful figure. The second dress was WOW. Mom's like this is the reason I went dress shopping alone.
Mama needs to worry less about what SHE wants and maybe give a damn about what her DAUGHTER wants.
What is the mom's obsession with her daughters hips!?!
That second dress was absolutely stunning.
When you come back, leave mombehind
She has such a beautiful shape. The mom is just being a prude
It was the opposite dynamic with my mother, I would say I thought a dress made me look too big in the hips and my mother would say, women have hips! They're supposed to have curves. đđđ Love my Mom
Buy your own, then tell Mama, âI invited you for your opinion, but that doesnât mean you tell me what I wear.â
How awful for a parent, especially a mother with a daughter, to hold their child hostage with negative energy and purse strings. Hiss boo on you, mama.
If the bride truly disliked her figure the way mom claims, she most likely wouldnât be trying to get a dress that shows it off..đ”âđ«
That âI know how you feel about your bodyâ comment sounded more like âI know how I always felt about my body, and my insecurities, which Iâm now projecting onto my child.â Itâs just so draining to see mothers do this to their daughters.
They are not YOU! Theyâre their own person!!
Mum should be ashamed of herself. Her daughter looked stunning in all of the dresses. Let her choose her own dress!
Whitney should have left momma at home.
That second dress was super pretty on her and the mom just shot it down. Such a shame
Itâs not about YOU MOM!!! Itâs ALL about your daughter & how SHE feels! Good grief!! đđ€Šđ»ââïž
I hope mom is proud of herself for ruining her daughterâs dress shopping!
Shame on her for making it all about herself!
Mom isnt wearing the dress.
She looked absolutely stunning/gorgeous in all of the dresses đ€©
The bride looked absolutely gorgeous in that first dress!!! I really felt bad for her for the way her mom made her feel
Excellent time to start teaching mother dearest the meaning of the word boundaries. She'll need them if she doesn't want three people in their marriage.
I also had a jealous mother who ruined my dream wedding.
Jealous mother sad
Oh my word. She's GORGEOUS! đ„°
I don't like mermaid dresses AT ALL and that is not for me (even though I like my curves). I just primarily like a line type dresses. But the point is that it's up to the bride! I would want my mom's approval too, but at the end of the day, she shoukd get what she wants.
This girl has one of the most beautiful figures I have ever seen on this show. She's stacked like a brick sh*******! Lucky groom, and any of these dresses look fantastic on her!
I think the first dress wss amazing on her
I had to agree with the mom; all I saw was her hip area.
@@laurellane1721 I get you're that mom's and too, right? When we grew up being super skinny and poker straight was the look you were supposed to have. Now? The younger generations love the bigger hips and booties.
If you have ever looked through historical fashion books or magazines you will know that throughout history different body shapes and therefore clothing styles were popular. During many times of the 19th century (between 1800 and 1899) the hourglass figures with a hoop skirt of various sizes was fashionable. During the roaring 1920s the fashion style was to look like a woman did not have any curves at all. During the 1930s and 1940s because of the depression and World War Two it was considered prudent to conserve fabric and live within your means. The large full bell shaped skirts and dresses during the 1950s was a symbol to the world that the American people were so wealthy (compared to people in other countries) that they could afford to use ten or more yards (nine or more meters) for one casual everyday dress.
@@laurellane1721thatâs what happens when u are curvy and wear a fitted dress, you wouldnât say the same thing if that was worn by a skinny girl
Some moms are way too controlling!!! I was lucky to have a mom who supported me, no matter what.
Same here.
Why getting married when you're not adult enough to buy yourself a dress and being not controlled by the mother?
I wonder this a lot when watching this show.
Part of it is traditional. Moms always want their daughters to wear what they wore or if not, they offer to pay. Almost a symbol of the last time you dress your child. That being said, many do pay for a dress themselves and mom still has control. Because Mom has brought up their child(ren) to be so co-dependent on mom. Making decisions without moms ok makes them feel guilty. That's some severe brain washing while growing up.
I am seething from this mom... She is such a narcissist to have actually brainwashed her daughter to feel the day is about her.
I snapped when she said it was the look she wanted to see on her mother...
That's supposed to be what the mom is saying about the BRIDE! Not the other way around!
My head is throbbing I am so angry. đ€đĄđ€Ź
Why donât these Moms realize itâs not their wedding day. Let the bride choose what makes them feel beautiful. Seems extremely selfish.
mom chill out it's her day
Watching all the episodes I have, I really dont understand, whether the mom or parents are paying for the dress or not, why they feel its up to them to decide on which look the daughter decides on, depending on price. If shes mature enough to decide to get married with her families blessings, pretty sure shes old enough to decide how she wants to look walking down the aisle. I think of how my late daughter would have reacted to me saying no, not that one, lol. I understand wanting the mom to love the dress, but loving the daughter, she should be happy for her, whatever style she chooses.
Iâm sorry for the loss of your daughter.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum recently. I cannot imagine your grief, but I'm sending solidarity hugs. x
@@CleoS-vx5pd thank you so very much đ€
I guess Iâll never get over the way parents and friends think itâs a good look to act like this when dress shopping. Iâd be so embarrassed to act like this in publicâŠ
So incredibly proud of this bride for putting her feelings first â€â€
What is wrong with these moms "body shaming" their daughters and making the wedding about what they want!!! How did any man marry someone so self centred and entitled đ
Mom you had your time and now it's your daughter's time to shine please be supportive because after the wedding and she chooses a dress that you chose for her she's going to be the one watching back on her photos and regretting that she never got the dress she wanted because of her mom
The 1st Young Lady NEEDS TO DO HER!!! Momma has to SIT BACK & BE QUIET đ
When will these difficult mothers realise it is not their wedding day! Poor girl.
Mama, it's NOT your wedding!
One day I want to see the bride to be just go "mum as this is the dress that makes me feel bridal. I'm paying for it!"
The bride looked drop dead gorgeous in every dress she tried on. She also never had a dress that looked like lingerie or showed to much skin.
She looked beautiful in everything... Say bye to mom. Go grandma your cool
Sounds like mama is jealous
Exactly why I paid for my gown. I also had a bitter jealous family wanting to rain on my parade. Family will try to control with purse strings.
she should elope and not take one penny from that awful woman.
When I first read this I thought it said âpaid for your groomâ and I thought, this comment is about to get juicy đ đ
You thought you sensed a soap opera story here đ€Łđđ€Łđđ€Ł
2:45 Lol Monte đ
That mom was atrocious. The mermaid dress looked phenomenal on her. Mom is clearly jealous!
I hope mom sees these comments. She was pushing her own insecurities onto her daughter. Mom needs therapy.
"In a sea of mermaids, there's always one shark" !!
Mum must have had an awful hip trauma in her past đ
All of those dresses looked gorgeous on Whitney because she really did have the perfect bridal figure. I hope she stood up to her mom and got the figure hugging dress she always hoped for.
So sad. The 2nd dress was gorgeous and the 1st. She is a beautiful young lady. How unfortunate that her plump mom is making her beautiful daughter feel bad. Thank goodness for grandmom. Maybe the grandmom and fiance could help with the funds.
The Mother hates the way she looks, so she isn't comfortable until everyone around feels uncomfortable about the way everyone feels about themselves too. That Young Lady better wise up quickly. Her Mother is on a warpath to plants seeds to self destruction and insecurity into every Girl in their Family. She is miserable and controlling. She will not stop. She will only do more until she destroys every relationship she has. She knows how Beautiful her Daughter is, and it upsets her. How sad is that? The Mother is jealous. The sad thing is that The Bride will have to realize that for herself and recognize how much damage she has caused her and how to distance herself from her.
Honestly, each episode of Say Yes to the Dress I watch just impresses on me how much you need to save up and be able to pay for your own dress to avoid needing to make the person paying happy with the dress you get (not sure if her mom is paying or not here, but a lot of the parents or grandparents pay in this show)
âI know more than anyone sitting here how you feel about your bodyâ
If that is true itâs because mumâs given the bride every insecurity she has :(
That mum though....projecting her issues onto her daughter, sheeshđ
Wow! She looks great! What the Hell is the issue with her hips? Mean ass Motherâ€! I mean how cruel! Talk about making the âexperienceâ a nightmare and making her daughter feel like crap!đź
Oh girl, move hundreds of miles from your mother. Otherwise, she will be telling you how to live your life forever!
Momma, you can't see that your daughter loved the second dress and was trying to make you happy? You need glasses and a tune-up from grandma!
the second dress is soo prettyy
Mama sounds like Carrie's Mom Margaret "No you can't wear that or do that thing IT'S OF THE DEVIL You're Going To Hell!!" lmao
If this woman is getting married, she is old enough to decide on the style of her wedding dress... period.
Iâve seen WAY tighter, see through, low cut, etc. wedding dresses. Although I didnât like the fit of the first one, I saw nothing wrong with any of them. And Iâm pretty modest & old! Cool it mom.
That mom, using her daughters insecurities to shame her, is atrocious. Ladies save your own money for your wedding so no one can tell you what you can and can not wear.
I would have taken out a loan for the dress & left mama at home.đ
Come on Mom, be nice. She seems like a nice daughter. You obviously raised her right. Let her pick out her we'd dress.
Wedding dress
This is the most important day of your daughters life. Let her choose her OWN dress.
When I got married the 2nd time... my mama had no say. Backyard wedding, tea length lace. Totally different that my 1st dress
I have two daughters. When they were getting married I did not choose their dresses or their husbands!! If a women is old enough to get married, she's old enough to choose her own dress! Seems like this mom wants to control her daughter. Daughter better beware or Mom will be in her business and making choices for her that are the Mom's choices and not the daughter's choices.
This made me so sad, I hope the bride felt beautiful on her day
Mum is so jealous... What a horrible person. Yuck. Leave her at home next time.
Dear Whitney, save up your money and buy the dress you want to be married in. Next time Mom says 'I know how you feel about your body' tell her, 'Yes, and I'm trying to get over what you taught me.' Move on girl.
That mom is a Class A, Number One witch. Geez.