“TRIGGER WARNING Mother’s Boyfriend R**** Her Daughter”
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- Episode 50 | Vile & Evil | TRIGGER WARNING On this episode of Trappin Anonymous we have what may be our most vile & evil story yet. Woman details her experience with her daughter being sexually abused by her boyfriend, sending him to jail for 25 years.
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TRIGGER WARNING is placed in the description, I’ll likely have it updated to the title. Just wanted to give context. This platform is for the difficult stories that plague our communities everyday. We can’t be scared to talk about it, they’ve hid in the shadows for too long, learn what to look out for. Thank you for supporting the podcast.
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Thank you for giving people a platform to tell their stories and allowing them to be heard . These conversations need to happen in order to bring awareness.
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Much respect to you for giving these people a platform to tell their stories. You a real one for not being judgmental, and asking the hard questions. God bless you and everything you touch🙏🏾❤️
The interviewer needs to be careful with his language. This young black girl was just that, a little girl. A grown man cannot have a relationship with a seven-year-old. This man was abusing her and brainwashed her. Educate yourself! This was not her boyfriend!
I got such a errie feeling when she said her daughter was in competition with her. That’s a MAJOR red flag for a mother to say. The story goes wayyyy deeper than what she’s putting on to believe
Also what doctor wouldn’t provide her daughter medication for being sexually assaulted? That sounds like a major fabrication. It sounds like SHE is preventing her daughter to take medication so she can’t have children in her future. Someone needs to look into this family the “she thinks she’s grown comment” BLOWS my mind. This woman is a narcissist and not once said a comment about how this has mentally affected her daughter but she repeatedly says comments like “that hurts me, I felt like this”. Please look into this family
Eyeroll
giiirl i literally said out loud it sound like the mother was jealous of her daughter vs the daughter being jealous of mom the fact the boyfriend wanted the daughter which is of course sick but ive heard of it before the mom gets jealous, i would love for the daughter to tell her side especially as far as her relationship with mom after finding her daughter was molested by the boyfriend
Mama knew! It's giving "Precious."
Why would yal automatically assume that the mother is jealous of the daughter? He probably made that lil girl believe that she was better than her mother sexually. It doesn’t take much to persuade a child. This isn’t the mothers fault he had been grooming her for years shame on yal
My daughter getting violated by my boyfriend would make me not want another one for a long time.
EXACTLY!!!!
Why would she bring another man around her daughter right after that happened. I’m so lost in this interview.
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AT ALL PERIOD RIGHT NOW MALES THESE DAYS I DONT GIVE NO ATTENTION THEY AINT RIGHT
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Not only was she careless ,she took in a whole bum because he was always home .😡😡😡
That was a red flag. How are you going to bring a man into your house that can't even provide for you & the kids? He was just laying up & providing d-ck while watching her struggle as a single mother? That man did not care one bit- about her, the kids, or himself. Just worthless. Some women will put up with anything just to have a piece of man in the house.
@@teekolinski491yesss sad asf and it needs to be stopped bc these kids are getting hurt bc of their slow asses
& working 12 hr shifts to make ends meet? She should not have had any extra bodies in that house but her & those kids. She essentially struggled harder.. I’m not struggling with another grown body in my house let alone a man. She needs basic thinking skills & clearly therapy for her & the sake of those babies
@@latasheadalton6476 serious therapy because who would she still go back & bring a new man in there after all of this happened. Her daughter is suffering from trauma & you are constantly making her feel unsafe & vulnerable in her own home by bringing more strange men around. No wonder they don't get along.7
Exactly! Stop doing this shit
My aunt divorced her husband and they had 5 girls. She did not date at all. I think she probably had sex partners but we never seen no man around. She did not bring a man around until the youngest was away in college. I now totally understand why she did it.
As an adult your eyes are open to all the ways our parents protected us as children
My mother did the same after my dad passed when
I was 9.
And we wanted her to date and be happy but She never brought a man in our home ever!
YES!! I did the same… Adults usually put off our feelings, and focus on what he have to do first. I waited until my kids were grown and gone before I started a new love life. How do you move on and so quickly at that, knowing what all that happened…
My mom did the same thing and was celibate for most of the time
I have 2boys and they never seen a man in my house...yes sex partners 😂 but I feel her totally
This is why I will never divorce my wife. I don't want my daughter around a random man I don't know. As a father, you have to be around to protect your children.
I really loved this comment ❤️
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Facts
I applaud you, great father! On the flip side, single mothers shouldn't be dating, period.
Single mothers shouldn't be dating and definitely not bringing men into their minor children's lives. Period.
she threw me off when she said her daughter was having " sex " with a grown man that's not sex that's rape!! the mom sick and she knew
I AGREE
Exactly 7 years old
Me 2😢😢
Exactly. There are many contradictions in her responses. AND the words she uses and being more concerned about her pain makes it clear she knew.
Exactly
Mom stating she doesn’t take responsibility for what happened to her daughter and defending it with stating her daughter could’ve said something is so disgusting.
She so weird fr
She definitely got issues upstairs.
Man listen I came here to say this I was hoping somebody caught on to this nonsense she seems mad at her daughter as if she took her man or something
“That wouldn’t be fair to my love life” 🤦♀️
As a therapist I'm speechless
I would love to hear her daughter’s side of this bull crap story.
Facts!.
Exactly!! this nasty ass mama knew this man was touching on her child and she just wanted to keep her man so she didn’t say anything until we got too far. This is sad.
Exactly cause this mama giving 🐂 💩
👀 3:37 bull crap? Let me keep watching smh
@@ShannonSoSweeetyeah bc mom takes no responsibility
Wait wait wait! You brought another random guy around your already traumatized daughter?! Awww hell naw! Couldn’t NO man be around my daughter after that!
are you reading between the lines here like me?! The comments praising this woman are baffling me!!! She is definitely not a good mom, already had the girl taken out of her home prior to this!.
Cause I would be a virgin all over again! I could NEVER!!!!
@@sharcam2010no thank you . Too many time throughout the video I had to rewind on some “ wait what did she just say” . Lady ain’t smiled WHOLE video until being asked about her love life.
Right
A Man would be the last thing on my mind.
My Children would be in College before I let my wall down again.
@@sharcam2010helloooooo did you not hear her sharing her story of abuse as a child.. omg how bout stop judging.. that woman never had a good example, at least she called the police on dude.. the mothers life was tragic herself.. this happens to many, wealthy people rape their children all the time. I wonder would yall have this same attitude towards them??
There’s a reason Mom wasn’t allowed at the courts and can’t access the documents. She didn’t protect her daughter and she didn’t have him arrested because of what he did to her daughter. She had him arrested for how what he did made her feel.
You don’t know … and you can not say why she called the police but at least she did tf… it’s get swept under the rug in many families
This woman went thru a lot as well as the daughter.. you don’t know her personally.. please chill..
Spot on. There are many contradictions in her responses. AND the words she uses and being more concerned about her pain makes clear she knew.
That part 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 she needs to be in jail as well
She knew her child was being raped way before she called the police
I work for dcfs and mothers like her are all so common the desperation of finding love will cause you to turn the blind eye to what you already know is happening.
A lot of these mothers have an IDEA of what’s going on . There’s no way this man was sexually abusing this girl for years and you didn’t have an idea . The girl wasn’t comfortable with telling you because you didn’t create a safe space for her to feel heard.
Yes and am I wrong when I say there are absolutely doctors who are treat this little girls STD and make sure that it doesn't infect her and damaged her for life that is absolutely mind-boggling that she had the audacity to get up and say no doctor would cure this child's STD I don't believe that for a sec. . Your lazy and more concerned with finding another man...smh...I pray for this child
@@missunderstood2637And more concerned about the details as well. Saying she fighting to find out, this is crazy bc what will that solve smh
She wants that little girl to suffer for stealing her man any other mother would have went to numerous doctors to resolve that issue . I try to hard to be understanding but mothers like this make me question humanity. This mother is desperate
@@missunderstood2637she is lying. She probably didn't want to take her to the hospital or a clinic because the staff would ask questions since she is a child, not a teen. Her mother just didn't care.
Exactly 💯 I feel the same way!!! There's no way she was completely oblivious
She has not taken accountability for her part! She probably thought it was “sweet” that her bf was spending time with her daughter. He was molesting your daughter with you in the next room, I PROMISE she saw some signs but willfully ignored them. She damn near seems as if she’s resentful towards her own child.
she did
I can tell u my sister went through this and sad to say but she sounded like my mom she even told my sister she was sorry evetho she did nothing wrong.. they dont take responsability
@@silvialopez5541 they don't and it's very sad these children have to suffer because most time these women don't take accountability responsibility stop let these monster around your children
@@silvialopez5541 when I realized I had to move on from my abusive baby father I knew then I'm not going to have no man around me and mines you can't trust them and I'll rather be alone and know m safe
She’s probably told these things to her daughter face too
Don’t ever leave your children alone with these men. No matter what.
Exactly
I agree! However, I’ll go even deeper than that…. Do not leave your children with men or women. There are single fathers out here that can meet a creepy woman with issues. So to be safe leave them with the grand parents when go out, ijs
It's so so many great step dads. And now women see why men don't date single women. Bet yall hate men saying that. How about you marry your baby father or don't have kids.
Agreed
this is about a real phenomenon that occurs often. Its about rape of a minor and you still find a way to make it about you......@@dyonell1
Rape is big in her family but still allows men to come around 😩💔I hate that for her daughter
Right like girl what’s not clicking
I took that as molestation and rape happened to every generation in the family bc it kept it on the low. Her family had plenty of pick me , insecure woman in the family like the mom. She’s lame ! I can’t believe she came on here and is blaming her daughter
Exactly. Why would you leave your children alone with a strange man?
Not allowing another man in the home is not being selfish to your own happiness but its protecting your prized possessions. Hearing the mother talk about how her daughter was in competition with her was very weird. This man was grooming her child to be his woman in her mind she saw it as competition. Meanwhile her daughter was probably doing those things to physically, mentally and emotionally survive her situation😩🤦🏾♀️
Some girls do behave that way.
@@happybirthday8803she is a little girl.
Competition or jealousy of daughter and mother relationship is actually common in the Blk American community
@@kevinruger8819 yes it is
@@kevinruger8819 a lot of older black women act so childish like they are stuck as teenagers in the head
This is disgusting as a female who has been through this same Scenario …. this lady Knew this man was touching her daughter she just didn’t believe her THATS WHY SHE HATES YOU it’s not because you “ took him away “ she keeps secrets from you because the first time she opened Up YOU DIDNT LISTEN 😒
Exactly
My thoughts exactly. She contradicted herself through this whole story 🤦🏽♀️
Did that lady just say the daughter would start an argument between the mother and BF so she could have him that night. Lady be for real. Wow, just wow.
Exactly she said her daughter said when I told you you didn’t believe me… like wtf. I think she knew too.
She definitely didn't believe her. Listen to the words she uses to describe the abuse... "They were having sex... When he was messing with her", as if her daughter hadn't been abused and was a consenting participant 🤦🏽♀️.
Not her getting another boyfriend after that traumatic experience
Right!
Absolutely ridiculous!!!
This is exactly why NO man will live with me until my daughter is GROWN (she's 13 right now). Why do women act like they can't be in a relationship with a man without shacking up with him. He can have is own place and me and my daughter will have ours. No man will be in the same household with my daughter besides her father. Once I'm DONE raising her then I will explore actually living with a boyfriend/husband.
I feel the same way and I’m 27 every since I had my first baby at 17 and it was a girl ! I knew then no man would live with me and my daughter ..then at 19 I got pregnant with my second daughter , I’m 27 now and they are 7&9 no man lives in my household and a dude I was talking to wanted me to come to his place , I have my place he has his … he asked to move in before he got his own place and I said no … he has no kids of his own and he said some weird stuff before most men are predators they will touch a little boy too … women sometimes are sick but majority rules and majority of pedophillia is men , men have no self control women do not trust men with your kids even biological dad rap- e their daughters! Be careful men are not to be trusted … I don’t even trust the man I talk to because he acts weird and saids weird stuff he first said he didn’t like kids nor want any then all of a sudden he wants kids and asked to move in I said no you said you don’t like kids why would I move you in with my kids .. he said oh they wouldn’t be a issue ! lol I was like no … no man ever will live with me , I already am young with young baby girls ! So if women older than me or my age don’t understand no man moves in and you damn sure don’t work all day while he stays inside the man needs to be outside the house most the day ! Not in the house that’s for kids and women ! A man is a hunter NO MEN INSIDE YOUR HOME LADIES ! I’m 27 black young woman I got molested at 5-13 by my mom’s HUSBAND it wasn’t even her boyfriend! He also had no kids of his own . Very nasty evil man ! Trust your instincts and intuition!
That part
BINGO!!!! can't a single man live in MY house until my daughter is out of the home. she's 11 & I'd rather sleep alone every single night than risk somebody hurting my baby.
I hear you still
@@christinarose6957exactly
The mom really said some concerning things! She said her 7 yr old would purposely start arguments with her to go sleep beside the man. And she takes no accountability for failing her own daughter! This whole story is really disturbing 😢
I said the same thing 😡
Exactly
The mom is so far removed from reality due to her own trauma/abuse that she can hardly be a mother to her own children. Blame can go every direction but the truth is... this abuse is a bad pattern in the family history.
Her story just ain’t adding up at all. The math ain’t mathin maam. Mom is so engrossed in having a “man” and to lowkey say your daughter is in competition with her is wild. As much as I want to empathize with her, there’s a level of accountability she doesn’t take at all for this situation. So sad and vile.
I don’t think she meant it like that… the child was groomed by the predator to believe that he is a friend/ boyfriend. He created that competition between mother and daughter
She definitely needs to take accountability… red flags were definitely there…
@@nicolesmith1532add that to the fact that she was working 12hr shifts and doing hair to make ends meet. There’s no way a man would be living in my home and I’m doing all of that! My bf would be mad af and throwing tantrums if I was working that much and left him here with the kids lol. Also, it’s impossible because HE WORKS 🥴🤦🏾♀️
CORRECT
Yes, my stomach literally turned too hard her say " that shouldn't be fair to my love life" that is why your daughter doesn't respect you... You're not willing to go see a childhood trauma doctor so she can clear up this STD that you're nasty ass poor excuse for a man gave her you're not putting her in therapy... You're obviously not using any of the resources given to you by your victim advocate or the victim of crime fund... You're not concerned with any of the things that are good for her emotional and physical well-being but you are concerned with keeping your love life fair you're sick and you're equally as responsible if not more
She didn't notice him. Leaving the bed at night. On a regular basis. How could you not notice that. If you get out of bed. You got 2 minutes to get back in it. This is horrible hope that baby is ok. Communication is a must on a regular. In depth now with kids. To feel they can open up. Wish he'd ask her why the alarm. Was set for that time. How she missed him leaving the bed nightly. I be ridden with guilt for life.
THIS!!!!
Now this I do agree with. I been tried as a child so any movement around me will wake me up . The slightest wind can pass me and I'm up. So her gut instinct should of told her something.
Let’s not criticize this woman she’s been hurt and doesn’t know how to truly be a mother because she was deceived . She’s still soul searching and trying to fill a void . I Pray for healing over them their future, soul, mental
health etc
WTF! After her daughter was abused, she brings another man in the home. The mom needs therapy because obviously she thought it was ok.
No not all men are bad I got a step dad and we don’t say step bc he is my father the one who takes care of me we are blood without dna
I feel like she needs to stop asking her daughter what happened and put her in therapy regardless of what she says and also family therapy for all of the household.
All the therapies
Exactly!
A NEW BOYFRIEND?????? OMG!!!!! WTF!!!!! Her self-esteem cannot be this low
I’m so confused… the mother’s story isn’t making sense to me. Other than what you guys in the comments have already stated, she said she was in a 3 year relationship with him but later says that the man watched her daughter grow up and changed her diapers yet the abuse started at age 7. She also said he was 26 when he started abusing her, but 28 when arrested yet she said the abuse started at age 7 and she discovered the abuse when her daughter was 11.
Exactly! I was over here doing the math and it definitely wasn’t adding up
Ok, I thought only I caught on to those details
They probably dated when mom was younger but they broke up and didn’t reconnect until the kids were older.
I thought I was the only one who caught that
Yehh I was thinking the same thing that lady knew what was going on for sure
Nothing disgusts me more than a deadbeat father, and a woman who allows every man she meets around her children. You can’t be so pressed for some dyck that you become blind to the signs right in your face smh. Not every man is supposed to meet your kids, come to your house, or smell your cat. Stop being so desperate and protect your children!!!
Mom is FOS! There is no doctor who would refuse to examine a child for sexual abuse or prescribe STD medication/treatment. As mothers, we are 100% responsible for whom we allow in our homes around our children.
Smh so the daughter is currently sitting with a std from assault and possibly yeast infection from a dish towel
She was working 12 hours, sleeping like she was in a coma. That man had too much access, i mean even to the point where he was messing with her in the kitchen. Just makes me sick to my stomach and just to think her daughter feels like she's competition to her mom. Jesus.....
Sick to our stomachs
He is a predator that’s what they do I don’t think people really understand the definition or the meaning or understanding of grooming
She was working hard to keep that jobless bum in her house laid up everyday. Ridiculous
According to the mom
I came upon your comment just as she said this.😢
There is a history of trauma in this family as stated by the mother. Constant questioning never equates to a child being open with you. Never assume that your child will tell you just because you told them to tell you.
Very true
It has nothing to do w trusting a parent... When you're that young you don't know how to articulate yourself... Or even explain what's happening to you...
It's just so cunning and baffling what predators will do...and they twist something that should be good and positive relationships... Into something evil
I don't know how or where you get these interviews but by far your channel is in my top five❤🎉
@@irisdouglas1057 I really like these interviews and I respect
Everyone that opens up about themselves...
It's one of my favorites up there with soft white underbelly
So, what do you do?
For her to say it’s not fair to her dating life after he asked why she would bring another man around. Is ridiculous. I was touched as a child and in turn, I don’t let my kids be around any man alone. And I have sons. I was with a man 4 years and I don’t allow men in my house with my kids because you never know and I’m never giving anyone the chance. My childrens safety comes first. These women are weird. I’ve cut off female friends because I observed them having too many men around their daughters and I don’t respect that. Also she stated in the video that her daughter would tell her that he was touching her and she was see him in the shower scrubbing but didn’t think anything of it. Make it make sense. It’s something mentally off with this woman. The guy is to blame but she is to blame as well. Ladies put your children first! Stop bringing these men around your kids! I was 4 years into a relationship when I found out 21 years ago he got a 14year old pregnant when he was 22! That’s a predator! So I’m glad I move the way I move because these men are sick!
I agree. Her daughter was 7, how he changing her diaper? Its time to focus on healing, dating should be the last thing on her mind. Fair? What happened to her baby girl isnt fair. She had a hard childhood and now her daughter does too. Gotta break the generational curse. Prayers up for her
We're sorry you had to go through that
Right!! This the reason I had small kids until they were older I didn't date or have anyone around them after their father and I split up.. My daughter nobody could be around her at all O don't play that shii cause everybody gone get it bout her!!
Exactly!! And these boys are NOT safe out here either!!
WOW!!!!!!
I absolutely agree!!!!!
I remember a friend told our clique in the 7th grade that her dad rapes her. We took her to our coach and she handled it from there. When she came back to school she looked like she shut down. Her mother said that he was a deacon in the church and stop lying on her husband. Fast forward her little sister went off to college and was date raped after many years of being raped by their dad. She lost her mind and was mentally unstable. When she finally told her mom the truth she sent her to a mental hospital. Mother’s of daughters PROTECT YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN AT ALL COST!!!!!
I’ve heard similar stories
Smh the mom knew she was being r@ped as soon as she asked her for help they sent her away!!! Smh very sad story. 😢 I feel for both of these ladies ❤
She’s a selfish mother. She has her own trauma and the fact that she isn’t deterred from bringing men into her home speaks volume
But it could have been her bio dad to assault her or a uncle or brother you never know.
She saved her child ???? Are u slow !! Not everyone expects men to be creeps!
@@simplyhoney691exactly
@@Riah305Exactly
Right
Now I completely understand why my mother never allowed men around her children. She waited until we were grown and out the house 😢.
This woman does not need to have kids or be allowed around them. Her mentality is screwed all the way up. She is just as responsible for what happened to her daughter as the dude is. Lock her up too!
This is sad and pathetic, you don’t need a man around your kids, even your sons. There are men out there that prey on weak women with children !! This pisses me off !
So If Someone Has Sons Keep Them Away From Their Daughters? Yall Slow? Or Just Emotionally Speaking Which Is Cause You To Appear Slow? which Is It?
Also women sadly, just can't trust anyone
Not all men are like that if my mom never let my step dad in I would not have him as my father now
@@SoleahWright I think she’s saying don’t be so desperate for love that you allow any man around your kids- even your sons. Meaning people tend to only worry about little girls being abused, but boys can be abused as well . I don’t think she saying keep siblings away from each other.
She said she was good to her daughter,but then says she never told her I love you
I have noticed a lot of parents think good parenting means financially providing & lack in emotional support.
My opinion here is the fact that her daughter needs to know that her mother’s desire for affection from men should be put aside for her security. This may be causing her rebellious behavior. At least, keep them away from the home. This child needs protection at all costs!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Thank you!! I just spent time going back and forth with some silly woman about the same thing. Moma has to put that child’s mental and physical protection first. I’m sure that child is triggered.
Why would she bring another man around her child ? After all of that trauma 🤦🏾♀️ Not taking accountability is wild
Agreed...it started at 7? That's too young to have another man around.
because Shes choosing her own happiness over her daughter's safety. no if and's or but's about it...she simply does not care.
@brycelatham401 But he also changed her pampers...I'm confused....
She don’t care. She never cared
I was trying to figure out the same thing!!!!! Like your daughter thinks its okay cause you keep inviting men over now. Mom you helped your BF take her innocence away. by not looking at Behaviors/actions which tell you a lot. However, it is all about how much do even care to notice. looking back at it. women bye.
The fact that you can’t wait until your children are grown to find love is CRAZY!!!! Especially after everything your daughter has gone through. Prayers for this child.
And as far as her saying that no doctor is going to check out a girl that young that's not true 11 year old girls start their period and go to the dr.... It's got to be a lie.. she's talking about how her child might have an STD but she's not going to give her no antibiotics because it's going to upset her stomach😂😂😂😂😂
Ma'am plz make it make sense...also you can tell the mother blames the daughter and is jealous
I thought the same thing!
@@rickiericktv3320 all I'm saying is she's trying to tell us her point of view.. and I respect that.. but this is only her point of view...
I can probably guarantee that if she was being molested at 7 years old.. the little girl has been groomed and manipulated..
That doesn't mean she wants your man to assault her bc she is young and confused 🤔😕..
I'm pretty sure she not in competition w her momma...
@@BlackbettyBamdalam I hate that she made that statement 😩
They check children out no matter what age especially if there was suspected s3xual abuse. I read about cases where they did medical checks on children because they were abused.
I was thinking the same thing. She just didn't try to get her checked.
Why can’t the mother remain single until her children are grown? Like why does she have another boyfriend 😩🙄 these children need to come first I’m sickuh this mess. Humans are so business consumed with their needs versus putting others first especially their children
Just because she's a mother doesn't mean she should have to be single. More like why can't these men not have pedophilic urges. Or just not have a man live with you.
Why Must She Remain Single??? Let’s Be Fr. Yall Be Asking The Stupidest Shit Of People. So Because One Monster Did Something She Cant Date Until Their Grown? Not Keep Them Away From Her Kids But Dont Date Men At All Until they Are Adults? Stop Being Dense.
@@jackiemyers2773 Nah, no dating until the kids are grown and gone.
I’m from a different breed!! Parents who parented and focused on their kids. This woman hasn’t learned anything if her sister is in the home now to keep an eye on her daughter because she has yet another man. It’s called sacrifice but whatever not my mother or child. Just continue with generational curses verses stopping them
@@eyemazen2190 You Lying!!! And I Don’t Understand Why. Every Single Woman From Whatever Generation You’re Referring To Dated. Whether You SAW It Or Not Is Another Thing Cause Tbh You Dont Wtf People Were Doing.
Did anybody catch the part where she said her daughter actually told her and she didn’t think anything of it? She knew what was going on that’s why she has no emotions but calls her child competition instead.
Thank you
I heard it 😢
Can we stop saying it was the 11 year olds boyfriend or they were both in a relationship with this monster. He was her daughter’s abuser💔
Right! A grown man can’t be in a relationship with an 11 yr old
Its making me sick.
Yup exactly. This language is one of the reasons why sexual abuse in the Black community is swpt under the rug. To speak this language puts accountability on the child as if the child had a choice. This language is grooming to the whole community.
Exactly! I was weirded out when he kept saying "he was in a relationship with your daughter"..sir that's not a relationship smh🙄
her calling her daughters reasons for being SCARED and calling it excuses absolutely blew me
This!!!
I think this woman was desperate for any man and I believe she knew what he was doing
females intuitive sense tell them things but they choose to turn the blind eye... until it's too late
I praise the strong mothers that chose their children over a man
@@Mr247starmmm hmm 💯
Her fault as well as Lil buddy's.
SO GLAD SOMEONE IS SEEING WHAT I'M SEEINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
Why do you think she knew? Based on what?
It’s no way this lady still allowed another man around her daughter after what happened Smfh that is soooo wild to me ‼️‼️‼️
You mean to tell me THE ONLY TIME she smiled during this entire video was when she justified the need for a love life????? I don't expect anyone to handle their situation the same way I did but a love life should be the LEAST of your worries ma'am
Omg this lady is so numb I can see it in her eyes! I feel soooo bad for her and her daughter. It’s tooooo much pain to endure and it hurts me to my core. I want to hug her. I really pray her daughter comes thru and gives her mommy another chance.
All the prayers for continuous healing
Crack is what you see in her eyes
This is unbelievable!!!! She seems dead inside. My heart goes out to her and her daughter. That Monster ripped that family a part. I pray they can rekindle that relationship mother and daughter 😘 They need deep healing.
The mother picked the man's side so there's no need to rekindle shit with her mom aka monster.
Wowwww that smirk after being asked why she’s still bringing men around is disgusting. It speaks volumes 😢
Sometimes that's just a natural instinct to hide from crying . I can't speak for her but I know I will laugh stuff off because I know if i ever really think about that answer I will cry and it won't be no regular cry it will be a cry that have been held in for years. Some ppl that have been I'm survival mode for so long have different ways of reacting to things . But I'm only speaking for myself
@@octaviamcgee376what ?, her still bringing men around her kids has nothing to do with what you said
Because there are some mothers who have been molested , and they want their daughters to suffer the same faith
So the Momma still brought a NEW man around her children 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. Girllllllllllllll Bye!!!! Ain't no F'ing way!!! No wonder the Lil Girl is now "Acting grown" per her words. Heck you choosing YOU instead of your children.
I'm still lost about Anal sex that young
Some SA victims act out sexually after äbuse because of what they went through. She should focus on getting her daughter some counseling or psychological help.
Why is she so desperate for a man!
She probably try to mess with the new boyfriend. This is sick
As a survivor of molestation (we overcome by the words of our testimony), I would encourage mom to get her daughter some counseling by herself first. The seeds he has planted in that baby's mind has made her look at mom as the bad guy...not a safe place to talk. As she begins to trust her therapist, she will begin to open up more. There may come a time where mom can then be brought in to sessions. But first, a safe place with a therapist has to be established. There seems to definitely be a bit more going on here that may be more generational and I won't comment on that. What I will say is mom should be seeking some individual counseling as well. EDIT...I had to come back to this. I made the above comment before finishing the video. I just finished the video. I will reframe from judging but I pray for this family and it is my prayer that mom seeks help for herself and for the daughter.
Brought back MEMORIES….crying 😢Sending healing to all victims of sexual ABUSE. MAY WE ALL OVERCOME & HEAL
She’s so detached from reality . We gotta break cycles we got to make love a action word
I would NEVVVVER have had another around my daughter after that ordeal until after 18. And to have to work all these jobs with a man in the house and it sounds like he was home all day
Knowing he had an STD and thinking the daughter may have and STD, but not forcing doctors to give her treatment is crazy!!!!
This interview really upset me😢..thank you for allowing us to see this point of view, but she went back and forth so many times that it was hard to listen to her story. ...I wish you would have asked her harder questions that would have made her see where she should have been accountable..like how is a 7 to 15 year old focused on taking your man? Why are you working 12 hour days and doing hair on the side, and you have a whole man in your home..do you truly take responsibility for what happened to your daughter ...Why didn't you listen to your daughter when she told you he was touching her?
i love how she immediately thought about her child first and her safety. years ago my own mother accused me of sleeping with her 33 yr old bf while i was 15 and still a virgin … still haven’t recovered from that 😔
i’m so sorry 😢😢😢
I know the feeling 😢
@@Geordan419 she literally married him secretly and took his side but i’m healing now and im growing im just glad this girl has a mother who cares
I'm so sorry you went through that, and remember healing is not linear
So sorry. Did your mom ever apologize to you? Is the relationship mended?
She should be in jail. She is responsible for everything. She knew . The mother is responsible for all this . She knew . She said she doesn’t feel responsible. The mother isn’t the victim .
Protect your babies at all cost! 🥺 YOU ARE THERE ADVOCATE !!!
She’s a vile mother. She’s almost blaming her daughter.
Wtf do you mean “that would effect your love life”? Your more concerned about a man then your own child being molested by the same men you bring around that poor baby. I wanted to be on her side but she lost me. Worry about what’s most important, which is fixing your relationship with your child vs with these men. It’s kinda like she wanna say it’s the daughters fault in a way. She’s so nonchalant when talking about the situation it brings chills to my spine. No tear no emotions nothing.
Me too! I was applauding her at first! Then she said 26 when he started and 28 when he got caught but the girl was 7yrs old and 11 when he got caught 🤔
I agree. Unfortunately her nonchalant attitude could also be a trauma response. She hasn’t even dealt with her own rape and subsequent abuse to feel anything. You go numb to survive. After my abuse I’d be damn I’d be damned if the cycle continued. Soon as my babies could talk they learned good touch bad touch and when they were old enough i told them my story. They understand now as teens why i was so crazy protective when they were young now. And we’re alllll in therapy. That family needs intense trauma therapy. But she has to want it too…
Just WOW. THAT MOTHER is LYING. She knew. She said her daughter tried to tell her. Wow. Plus now a non verbal boy was there the whole time & seen it! Wow. Her bf would make the boys watch the abuse😯 WTF.
Yes she said “when she would tell me I wouldn’t think nothing of it” the fuck?
The brothers could have said something as well
@@ceceprincess4758Autistic son
This type of things doesn't only happen by individual boyfriends it happens with fathers, uncles, cousins, brothers and even close friends ,we as women have to always have an open door relationship with our children not only girls because boys can be victims as well, we need to always be vigilant when it comes to our children, meaning if their acting distant, depressed ,angry afraid we need to let them know they are loved , safe , & not to be afraid to say something because you will always keep them safe....
this
Thank you because some of these comments are disgusting and they’re blaming the mom is if she’s the predator when really it’s him but that’s what predators do tear down the family, dynamic and separate 🤦🏾♀️ it’s very sad
I trust no one
@@Ohhcookiesain't nobody blaming women not to be so stupid
@@Ohhcookiesblack women need to take accountability responsibility stop letting these crazy looking criminals bums around your kids
There is no way I could be with another man after my daughter has been victimized and violated by a monster that I was responsible for bringing into her life. But just based off of the woman's demeanor, I don't think that she has any type of fight in her to help heal her daughter. It's a long road but I really pray for their healing because it is definitely necessary.
Forever trauma and guard up
@@breakbeatmediaMy mom was so open about the traumas she experienced and has been this way for as long as I can remember. She definitely helped her daughters to build a strong guard at the tender ages because we were comfortable (even when we were uncomfortable) with talking to my mom. Then I got to a certain age, I (myself) got tired of hearing about it. I asked her if she ever thought about telling it to people whom she didn't give birth to because she (and my dad) made sure we were protected (within their confines). I had to ask her was she going to continue wearing a victim badge or was she going to do something about it and vanquish the taboo of CSA. I'm still waiting on the answer.
The fact she knew the bf had an std & still stayed is wild.
If she was fuckin him then she got it too therefore she would have been adamant bout having him locked up & getting tested as Well, she's crazy asf
I'm disgusted by this mother...like wow
I don’t know how to feel about her…
I don't like her, she cares more about having a man than her kids, with her low self esteem having self.
Me too smh
After dealing with such a man probably shouldn’t be a priority in your life until your kids are grown.
I am a 48 year old man. If I don’t like something, I say something. People tell me, “you always have something to say.” If people don’t like me being vocal when it come to rejecting things I don’t like, I can only imagine how people treat children. This story breaks my heart.
I am the same way and many times I say something even if I get a strange feeling about a person/situation too. My family calls me "funny acting" and I'm just fine with that.
truly heartbreaking, thank you for watching
Chris should’ve asked her WHAT DID YOU DO AFTER THE FIRST TIME YOUR DAUGHTER TOLD YOU SHE WAS BEING TOUCHED?
Her not taking Blame tells me everything I need to know. Reminds me of all the physical abuse I dealt with in my childhood.
Ain’t no way a dr told her they can’t treat her for stds cause she’s young .. that’s bs
exactly.. That made me mad. Fake
Praying for the baby girl and her mental health. Her life is forever changed 😢 I’m sick af
This definitely should come with trigger warnings the title is wild in itself but 46 seconds in honestly was not prepared for the level of details 🙏🏿
Me too and havin 11 yr old daughter whew my blood got hot! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😓😓 I feel for this woman!
The Mother is Responding like a Narcissist No Real tears, No Empathy It's like she's Stating a Police Report 😢😢I Pray that the daughter gets the Help and Healing she Needs 😢😢Protect Your Children At All Cost Y'all 🙏🏿
You cannot judge her for not crying wtf be wrong with yal? There is so much criticism but you have absolutely no idea what this woman is feeling or felt and is still going through unless YOU GO THROUGH IT 💯
Problem #1 it doesn’t appear this man even had a job. He had tooooo much time to be around her kids.
This is why I don’t bring men around my children I have boys but I still don’t play. It’s sad to say but as women we don’t have to be single but you don’t have to move men in with you. Unfortunately women are quick to do it. This man was an unemployed loser and she moved him right in. I’m happy she stood on business when she figured it out. This is heartbreaking man… smh It happened to mom and now it happened to her daughter. It’s a lot of trauma here. I hope they both go to therapy. I hate her daughter had to go through this just couldn’t imagine. I can’t believe she still being men around like Ms Lady please get therapy because after that situation I wouldn’t trust no man
She said that he was her boyfriend of 3 years. The little girl was 7 years old when it started and it continued until she was 11 years old, but she also said that he used to change her diapers🥴
I truly hope the little girl has a successful, happy life 😢
All I could do is cry watching this 😭😭😭😭😭 the innocence you loose as a child when this happens to you is forever🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for her mental state
It’s giving Precious the movie. I could only imagine how she feels towards him and the daughter smh.
Exactly what I thought of!
Whew, this is definitely a trigger warning. This hits so close to home. Id love to tell my story. My daughters father was a sick individual that destroyed many lives. How do request to be on the show?
Transparency is the way to healing. I will you the strength and fortitude to expose the darkness . Calling demons (traumas) out and by name helps us define them for what they are . Putting them where they belong assists us in doing the shadow work required to overcome them. Sending love and light 🌻💛
Imma pray for the baby 😢. Y’all need to watch yall kids better and don’t trust men or women around ANY OF YOUR KIDS . Boys get assaulted too and there are cases of WOMEN being predators too! So just stay alert even family can take innocence from a child it doesn’t matter if you were raised up with them nothing matters always stay alert
True.
My Son's Female Friend was molested by her Mother's best Friend
( A Woman).
Her Mother's Best Friend use to Babysit while she was at work.
I only know bits and pieces of her Story, because I didn't want my Son to question her, but just let her talk on her own to him.
I do know it all came out, but I don't know what happened after that.
Edit: The Female Best Friend performed oral sex on her and fondled her.
So you really can't trust too many people in this World.
I’m sorry but if my daughter was sexually abused by my boyfriend for 3 years I would never bring another man around her. She needs to get her daughter therapy, she also needs to get her doctors that are willing to treat her. Mom needs to be lonely and hold this L because from what I hear she ignored all the red flags.
I’m glad my mother protected us and taught me young what was right and wrong.
I feel so much compassion for this mom. Her own traumatic childhood has shaped her life. I wonder if she has had anyone in her life tell her that she and her daughter deserve to be healthy and happy. The past does not have to define them. I hope they can both find healing and peace.
There are way too many red flags & inconsistencies with her story for me to believe that she did not have any slight idea that something was going on between that man and her daughter. #1 The age she said he was, which was 26, from the time of the arrest is off. If the abuse started at 7 until she was 11, How was it that he was 28 during the time of the arrest? She also mentioned about him changing her diaper, etc. #2 There is no way that they collected DNA from the child & did not treat her for any time of possible STD's & STI'S or gave her a rape kit or further examination. #3 There was a reason why the grandmother was constantly questioning her daughter about possible abuse. This tells me other people suspected it, the mother more than likely knew about it & did NOTHING to stop it. #4 This man definitely had way to much access to her children, if she was working 12 hour shifts and doing hair. Sounds like she wanted a man so bad to the point where she allowed him to babysit & have full access to her kids while she worked & provided for them. Which tells me he was having his way with her daughter whenever he wanted. I was baffled when she said " He sent me off to get food". She allowed that man to do what he wanted, when he wanted & how he wanted. #5 How did she not know something was going on when he was getting up out of her bed, coming back to wash his face & private area off , the daughter not wanting the brother to share a room with her & him washing her child's bedsheets? She also mentioned how the daughter would be laid up with the boyfriend, as if the daughter is even of age to even "Lay up" with anyone. #6 There is definitely a reason why she was not allowed in court, no longer has custody and cannot access the documents. This further proves that SHE knew & failed to protect her daughter. Honestly I feel like she should have been charged with child neglect. SO many red flags. From her mentioning she felt like the daughter was in competition with her, speaks Volumes to her thought process! Seems like she only wanted to turn him in, not because of the abuse, but because the daughter felt like her was her boyfriend more so than hers. SMH I hope and pray this child gets the therapy she needs to heal from these traumatic years of recurring abuse. I am sure the daughter's recollection of events are much different than what the mother is saying.
Protect your kids. This is why real dads need to be involved. Never know who may try to groom your child .
Sometimes real dads molest too🥺
Can't put to much Trust in Dads
@@user-pd5mv1bv7k or grandma or uncle no one so hold your child tight and watch closely
I grew up with a young lady who father was her abuser.
@@user-pd5mv1bv7kHELLLOOO!!! It’s like folks think blood wouldn’t do it and that’s really the complete opposite
Pretty sure the daughter never thought it was A competition. The mom the only one who thought it was a competition that’s sick bro
Definitely. When she said that it made my skin crawl. I believe she had suspicions or knew he was messing w her daughter and began to see her daughter as competition.
Not true, I'm sure her daughter is EXACTLY how she's describing now, a competition and TOO GROWN AND SEDUCTIVE TO MEN NOW. IT HAOOENS ALL THE TIME!!
She said the man was having the daughter think it was a competition.
@@zanyaespeaksSeductive? She’s f*cking 11 years old! She was 7 years old when it started! She’s a child, you weirdo.
Just an FYI this doesn’t stop at men… my abuser was a woman (her husbands mother in law) my mother moved in the house to help out with us girls since she worked at night. And she would do the same things…. It’s not gender specific they’re just sick humans in this world. Be worry of ANYBODY around your children. I don’t play about mine after what happened to me and i shared my story with them when they were old enough. It’s just me and them in this house and i have cameras in every nook and cranny. The cycle stops with me!!
I agree I went through the same thing it happened with a female cousin 🤦🏾♀️
You're right. Women can be predators too. However, men are more notorious for pedophilia. In the end, nobody can be trusted fr.
I’m seriously heartbroken hearing something this demonic and evil, to be trusted with someone’s child as a father figure and take their innocence the very essence of their being is the worst kind of predator. To lay in the bed with the mother every night, while taking advantage of a 7 year old baby until the age of 11. I think the mom is misleading, it’s no way in hell this went on for so long right under your nose, when you’re supposed to be checking your child’s phone 24/7. The trauma this child is going to have to face throughout her life will change the trajectory of everything. Most children that have been abused never recover from that trauma and turn to a destructive lifestyle to numb the pain. The mother seems like she lacks the mental capacity to really understand what her child went through, she’s talking about this like she’s having a conversation about the weather 🙄🤦🏾♀️. You invited this evil into your doorstep, any mother that’s dating that have young children! Should always consider the fact that the man could be a sexual predator. I have listened to stories about pedophiles saying how they seek out desperate weak woman with children because they’re easy targets that will do anything to keep a man and how eventually they will begin the abuse toward the child, and manipulate the mother into believing anything that they say in regards to trusting them before their own child. It’s a sick and devilish game these bastards play when they prey upon they weak and Defenseless. She seems jealous that he wanted her child over her! She’s definitely apart of the blame. I’m not saying single mothers shouldn’t date, but to bring a strange man into your home with your young babies that can’t defend themselves if need be is ridiculous. You can date without letting somebody lay up in your Fn house around your children and subjecting them too a lifetime of torment by the hands of a disgusting sexual deviant pedophile!! This shit got me pissed. Hearing something so ludicrous and depraved literally left knots in my stomach!I’m hurt! 💔no child boy or girl should be subjected to something so libertine, iniquitous, nefarious, and debauched. Nah! If she won’t protect that baby we will! And his head belongs on a Fn stick! 😡
It’s Really People Like Yall That I Despise. You Don’t Know ANYTHING Other Than What This Woman Is Saying. Making Shit Up In Your Head, And Spewing It Like facts Is DELUSIONAL. Nothing That WomN Said Insinuated That She Was Jealous. NOT ONE WORD. She Repeatedly Said He Could’ve Gotten A Grown Woman Or Leave But Why Traumatize Her Kid. The Lady Expressed Sadness About Not Having A Relationship With Her Child due To Him YET You Flip It To Her Being Jealous. Yall Btches Have Opinions On Situations Yall never Experienced. You Such A Clown Snapchat Dont Save messages. Which Is Why He Communicated With Her There So Her Checking EVERYDAY She Still Wouldn’t Have Discovered It WITHOUT THAT One Unopened Message Which Is Why Thats The ONLY Message She Could Provide Because They DO NOT SAVE. The Woman Said She Worked 12hrs And Came Home And Did Hair To Supplement Her Income Yet You Questioning Whether She Saw Signs Or Not And If Not You Wanna Know Why AS IF SHE DIDNT MAKE IT CLEAR HOW It Went Passed Her. In Hindsight She Knew Some Of The Changes Was Because Of The Sexual Assault But In That Moment She’s A Preteen Wanting Space From Her Little Brother Thats Fucking Normal. I Can’t Stand Btches Like You, You And Your Judgment Is Exactly Why People Stay Silent. But One Thing For Sure Baby God Know How To Humble Btches By Putting You In Those Very Shoes Since Btches Stg It Could “Never Be Them” Everybody Know What They Would Do In Situations They never Been In, Until It Happens. You Are A Clown For SURE.
predators work hard to make sure everyone around can trust them, thats how they are able to get away with their sick crimes
@@breakbeatmediaWolves in sheep’s clothing 🥺the worst kind of predator. My god, I pray for anyone that’s had to endure such depravity. My heart really go out to any Man, woman and child! This sh** gotta stop! 🥺💔
Some females do that sick ish too I agree with everything you said.
As someone who has worked with child abuse victims for years, I agree with EVERYTHING you stated. She knew more than she is saying.
It’s so much to unpack with this,but my overall I feel the mother is more upset at the daughter and she probably knew to some extent
It's super weird they keep saying the daughter was in a relationship with him. Like wtf?
This why ion want no boyfriend around my children. It's takes years to know someone and ion have time or don't want to leave my kids out here without me. he would be DOA chopped up. I pray they get mental health help this is sad
💯💯💯
I'm sending many prayers to This lady and her children 🙏🙏🙏 I can relate to this story in so many ways. You have to keep your eyes on not just the man you deal but family, friends as well.
all the prayers
I didn't have a mother or father. I was passed around with few family members from 10-18yrs. I thank God he made me strong willed individual who looked at other people's bad experiences and learned from that.
Ur beautiful smiles shows your strength! You could have been a statistic! Go Queen+
Snapchat needs to change their rules about messages getting deleted I’ve watched another story about a young girl being molested by her uncle and they would communicate on Snapchat and the messages would be deleted. This a scapegoat for a predator
Calling your daughter a liar and blaming her for what happened is showing your true colors. Of course she doesn’t trust you, like you or respect you.
i know the daughter had STD symptoms smells burning itching etc no way you didn't know ...she as a mother careless
Wait I’m confused….she said it happened from the time she was 7 till he got caught when she was 11 but then says he was 26 when he started & 28 when he got caught…
Same story different girl......😢
I'm so sorry this happened to your family...my little sister dad is a pedophile..he abused me and my big sis as baby's..we told..never believed...
Keep up the good work and shine light on the darkness
Sad sorry to hear your story. My mother’s boyfriend also in the 90’s molested my sister, No one ever believed smh. To this day they have no relationship. His gone living his nasty life.
From survivor to survivor… you are so resilient and even telling your story online is getting it out. No more secrets. Sending you love and light. And i pray you have gone or open to therapy to deal with your trauma. It took me 35 years to eventually go and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.