Hi Tia, I want to say I know exactly what you’re talking about. In March 2017 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My sister went with me for the first two chemo treatments then she had a brain aneurysm at work and she was in a coma for 6 mos and passed away while I was doing radiation. I have been blessed BUT I do have survivors guilt. Why couldn’t my sister be blessed as I am. A lot of people don’t understand. I am so grateful for life. BUT. you know what I mean Tia. Love you Tia. Aloha!
I felt sorry for Maze...he was obviously really hurt since he is so close to Tia...these kids have been so brave thru this journey also...I've been here since day one and love Tia ...but I feel like Maze should know he's enough...😪
I absolutely know how you feel. I am a AML survivor. I since have lost a friend and my grandma to AML. I have spoke at way too many funerals. That guilt is there. That does not change the fact that I am incredibly grateful for my life.
I have always heard about survivors guilt. It is very real and I am gld you can talk about it so others know they are not alone feeling it. Your cause is such a reason for you to be here as well as all the other things you know of. I feel very bad when people object or disagree with what you say and feel as your feeling are very valid and you should never have to validate them to us.
Hi Tia, This is a great live/vlog. I am glad that I caught it live. I am happy for you that you are in remission & living your life. You are amazing HIM.YOU.ME.WE.WE.GOT THIS ALOHA MEANS HELLO GOODBYE & I LOVE❤YOU Love❤You Sis🙂❤ Marcie
Instead of feeling guilt, feel blessed and thankful. There is nothing to feel guilty for. God chose to spare your life. You have 5 children who need you. Gratitude, not guilt.
Tia this is off topic. Thought this might be a good way to get a message to you. I’m curious the teeth stuff you went through the last two years. Pain? Anxiety? What dentist did for you? I get the worst anxiety about teeth problems I always have. I need to go in
Wow! Why would you say those things in front of your child? You survived, because of him and your four other Children.....because THEY NEED YOU. I'm not quite understanding why that / they aren't enough. Why you are on some kind of quest to figure out why else you survived? Why you feel as though you have this heavy burden on your shoulders to figure out what God's plan is for you. Maybe it is just being a Mom to your kids....wouldn't that be enough? That would be the greatest gift on Earth someone could be given, that has gone through what you went through....the opportunity to raise their children and watch them grow into adults. THAT is the BLESSING. Maze seemed extremely upset at the end of the video. Hopefully you were able to talk about what was bothering him.
Please don’t guilt her for these feelings. Survivors guilt is quite normal. Have you survived cancer? If not, you wouldn’t understand. Don’t judge what you can’t understand.
@@Heyyaaa-id8ge .....I was not trying to "guilt" her for having those feelings. It just caught me off guard, the way she was talking in front of Maze....saying that "My Husband, could raise the kids just fine WITHOUT me" , or "Someone could do it better." Really??? Who says those things in front of a young child? A very sensitive one, at that? I understand about "survivor's guilt,"......I really do, but I also understand that maybe the people that fought hard for those people to live ( their Family....children especially)....don't constantly need to be hearing about that person wondering "what is my purpose?" "Why did i survive?" "What is God's plan for me?" "Why am I still here?" Don't you think they (the kids) are thinking...."aren't we enough, for why you survived?" "Didn't you fight to live FOR US?" "Don't we fulfill your life?" I don't know.....Kids are extremely vulnerable, and sometimes what we say can effect them in ways we don't expect.
Sensitive children are also quite intelligent children. Hopefully she can talk to him about the reality that “mom has these feelings, and they have nothing to do with you, they come from the trauma of cancer” and perhaps he’ll be more understanding of her experience than you are 🤷🏼♀️ you are shaming her, and it’s something that you’ve never been through obviously
@@Heyyaaa-id8ge.....Not shaming her, just not understanding why she would say those things while one of her children were sitting right next to her. You saw the way his demeanor changed after she said them. I felt sorry for him. My heart broke for him. Sorry if you didn't see how upset he was and why someone would feel the way I feel about it.
Hi Tia, I want to say I know exactly what you’re talking about. In March 2017 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My sister went with me for the first two chemo treatments then she had a brain aneurysm at work and she was in a coma for 6 mos and passed away while I was doing radiation. I have been blessed BUT I do have survivors guilt. Why couldn’t my sister be blessed as I am. A lot of people don’t understand. I am so grateful for life. BUT. you know what I mean Tia. Love you Tia. Aloha!
I felt sorry for Maze...he was obviously really hurt since he is so close to Tia...these kids have been so brave thru this journey also...I've been here since day one and love Tia ...but I feel like Maze should know he's enough...😪
I absolutely know how you feel. I am a AML survivor. I since have lost a friend and my grandma to AML. I have spoke at way too many funerals. That guilt is there. That does not change the fact that I am incredibly grateful for my life.
Tia so glad to see you. Beautiful as ever inside and out. So happy that your doing well. You, are here because God wants you to be. 💕🙏
I have always heard about survivors guilt. It is very real and I am gld you can talk about it so others know they are not alone feeling it. Your cause is such a reason for you to be here as well as all the other things you know of. I feel very bad when people object or disagree with what you say and feel as your feeling are very valid and you should never have to validate them to us.
Hi tia thank you for coming on love you good bless you and the family
Hi Tia, This is a great live/vlog. I am glad that I caught it live.
I am happy for you that you are in remission & living your life.
You are amazing
HIM.YOU.ME.WE.WE.GOT THIS
ALOHA MEANS HELLO GOODBYE & I LOVE❤YOU
Love❤You Sis🙂❤
Marcie
Love you
Tia you are amazing and so is your family. I love your hair Tia. Iowa here
Love you so much Tia! ❤❤❤
Love you Tia! You are so inspiring and full of Love for so many. God bless you & your beautiful family. 😍
Instead of feeling guilt, feel blessed and thankful. There is nothing to feel guilty for. God chose to spare your life. You have 5 children who need you. Gratitude, not guilt.
Tia this is off topic. Thought this might be a good way to get a message to you. I’m curious the teeth stuff you went through the last two years. Pain? Anxiety? What dentist did for you? I get the worst anxiety about teeth problems I always have. I need to go in
Do you have those feeling mostly when you hear of someone passing from cancer ?
Wow! Why would you say those things in front of your child? You survived, because of him and your four other Children.....because THEY NEED YOU. I'm not quite understanding why that / they aren't enough. Why you are on some kind of quest to figure out why else you survived? Why you feel as though you have this heavy burden on your shoulders to figure out what God's plan is for you. Maybe it is just being a Mom to your kids....wouldn't that be enough? That would be the greatest gift on Earth someone could be given, that has gone through what you went through....the opportunity to raise their children and watch them grow into adults. THAT is the BLESSING.
Maze seemed extremely upset at the end of the video. Hopefully you were able to talk about what was bothering him.
Please don’t guilt her for these feelings. Survivors guilt is quite normal. Have you survived cancer? If not, you wouldn’t understand. Don’t judge what you can’t understand.
@@Heyyaaa-id8ge .....I was not trying to "guilt" her for having those feelings. It just caught me off guard, the way she was talking in front of Maze....saying that "My Husband, could raise the kids just fine WITHOUT me" , or "Someone could do it better." Really??? Who says those things in front of a young child? A very sensitive one, at that?
I understand about "survivor's guilt,"......I really do, but I also understand that maybe the people that fought hard for those people to live ( their Family....children especially)....don't constantly need to be hearing about that person wondering "what is my purpose?" "Why did i survive?" "What is God's plan for me?" "Why am I still here?" Don't you think they (the kids) are thinking...."aren't we enough, for why you survived?" "Didn't you fight to live FOR US?" "Don't we fulfill your life?"
I don't know.....Kids are extremely vulnerable, and sometimes what we say can effect them in ways we don't expect.
Sensitive children are also quite intelligent children. Hopefully she can talk to him about the reality that “mom has these feelings, and they have nothing to do with you, they come from the trauma of cancer” and perhaps he’ll be more understanding of her experience than you are 🤷🏼♀️ you are shaming her, and it’s something that you’ve never been through obviously
@@Heyyaaa-id8ge.....Not shaming her, just not understanding why she would say those things while one of her children were sitting right next to her. You saw the way his demeanor changed after she said them. I felt sorry for him. My heart broke for him.
Sorry if you didn't see how upset he was and why someone would feel the way I feel about it.
@@Heyyaaa-id8ge I agree, and we are each entitled to our feelings no matter what they are. We also are not here to judge Tia and Andy's parenting
how are you doing Tia I like your hair
Janicia