From Staying Home to Looking for a Job | Contemplating how to have the most time w/ kids and provide
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- čas přidán 8. 05. 2024
- Going deep in this one and hitting home with myself, and maybe you too. When it comes to working, parenting, and facing the importance and need for money to live, trying to find a way to make it all work together can feel overwhelming.
As with all videos in this series I would love feedback and connection, but more than anything I would love to hear from you if you have a story to share about a hardship you've overcome. Connect with me!
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Hi there, being a single mom while also being expected to take care of finances is rough. It's so nice your parents have allowed you all to stay with them. IDK this dynamic, but if this is working for everyone, maybe do it for a couple years - until the kids have reached age 3 at least. I'm not sure if the ex is paying child support or what... If you want to do the daycare thing to gain more working experience for your resume, and bring in a little money while getting to spend time with your kids - that's a fair option, but i wouldn't suggest doing it for the kids, if that makes sense. The kids don't need daycare, parents do. Otherwise, maybe you can try to be a stay at home mom raising your kids, but also helping your parents as needed (grocery shopping, paying bills, get the car inspected, help with lawn care, etc.) so you feel like your contributing and they don't feel like you're taking advantage? Again, IDK the dynamic. Your friend looking out for you is super sweet - sounds like a nice job to have, so i understand the struggle in trying to decide.
All of this said, i don't even have my own life figured out yet. Best of luck to you! 🤗
Hi! Yes, that does make perfect sense. When I've watched the video back I can see how badly I am contemplating the "right" thing instead of considering that there isn't always a right or wrong. In my first video I share quite a bit about my feelings toward daycare. I understand its purpose but I was a stay at home mom for more reasons than just the cost of it. I believe in the benefit for the kids, wholeheartedly. I am still in I guess what could be considered the early stages of divorce so there is no steady money coming in just yet. The dynamic is fine, there will be adjustments but there is grace extended on both ends so I know we could make it work for an extended period of time if we needed to- which would probably be the best thing for the boys. This is one of those times where having a lot of societal noise makes it feel "embarrassing" instead of being happy and thankful for how it's all working out, you know what I mean? I do appreciate you taking the time to share and help me to articulate more what matters to me and what is most beneficial to my kids. Well maybe you don't need to! Something tells me you're probably doing better than you think!
Thank you for the luck!
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Hey friend, i noticed you mentioned hiring a lawyer for divorce. I wanted to encourage you to look at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, and 1 peter 3. I definitely strongly recommend you stay with him if it is possible and if he doesn't allow you back to remain single and not divorce him while working to restore your marriage. I know this subject isn't taught about much but the Bible covers everything we need to know for marriage and living a God honoring life.
Hey, thank you for the encouragement. I did look at the scriptures and I will say, because I am not quite ready to make a video regarding all that is going on yet, 1 Corinthians 7:15-16 would be my case and therefore biblically, God want's peace for those who believe in him. That scripture alone says if the unbeliever is the one who walks away then there is no bondage for the one who believes, so why would I try to stay bonded? I don't know that I understand how one not allowing the other back and then the other working on the restoration of a marriage is possible because it takes two people in each and every relationship. Just like God won't restore a person if they are not pursuing him, in relationship with him, and trying to know and understand all he desires for his people. I believe that your heart is in a good place and I do appreciate you taking the time to share scripture with me. I suppose all I can say is that I trust that God is with me in all of this and my faith is in Him and he can and will do whatever it is that needs to be done. At this time all I am focused on is my mental health and being a wonderful mother for my boys. ❤️