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As an INFJ I have the ability to make people very comfortable or very uncomfortable.
Yes. People think INFJs are all sugar untill they meet our other side. In whatever we are, we are extreme.
Finally , after searching worthless sayings of kindness about INFJ , I can finally relate here !!
Same here
aye the thing I value most about being an INFJ
And I INFJ feel uncomfortable with people around me but pretend to be OK.🤣
I feel like infjs have a hidden sense of humor that surprises people, because I get a lot of "i DiDn'T kNoW yOu WeRe FuNnY"
So true I’m actually really goofy/ serious. A balance I guess lol
It really depends on who I’m hanging out with. I have such a bland demeanor most of the time, and suddenly I’ll say something and people will laugh their asses off.
I get the same thing lmaoooo
Me too... I am quiet and either get talked over or everyone stops and listens. Most people don’t hear me talk much less joke so when I try to joke either they take it seriously or they laugh their ass off cause it was unexpected... I’m a fire sign but can mold to my environment cause I’m a people pleaser... so I get along well with water signs and pretty much anyone who isn’t rude... my sun is a Leo, asc and moon is sag, Venus and Mercury is Virgo, and Mars is Libra along with Saturn in Aries. So that’s a pretty decent mix...
Omg same same
Finding an INFJ is so hard, even they doubt their own existence 😆
my mom, my brother and I are Infj's🤡 but my mom is likely an ambivert and I'm extremely introverted, my brother is quite reserverd but not really an introvert
What's weird is I've known 5 INFJs throughout my life so they don't even seem rare at all to me..
@@elle9603 I’m an INFJ aswell!
@@elle9603 Great, you've realized that you are the same type as your mom instead of typing her SFJ! That's extremely rare. Do you have sisters?
@@elle9603 in fact many INFJ are mistyped.
INFJ’s also tend to be all or nothing people with relationships. We either see you as a potential life partner from date 1 or we’re not interested. We don’t really do “casual” or “gray” areas because we are always looking for the truth and the deeper meaning in everything.
Ni has the ability to foresee if someone and their patterns will align with ours with longevity, so when we meet them we automatically 'know' if they will be in our lives. It's a sweet sadness that occurs when we recognize this, and it is what causes us to disappear rather than hurt them (especially when we are younger and more averse to conflict).
@@loref4200 Or we can see all the marvelous potential but it remains unrealised by the person in question. That is even worse imo.
@@timefortee Spot on! This just happened to me. He was an INTJ and terrible at understanding/verbalizing emotions. I saw so much potential in him but I think my emotional maturity and “INFJ-ness” really caught him off guard and scared him. But who knows maybe he’ll come back one day. When he’s grown up more.
@@gemmarium4337 Chances that he won't are, unfortunately, much higher (as life has taught me). But at least you tried!! ♡
yes
how to spot an INFJ in two minutes - look for a person that adapts to their environment and acts differently every time 😮
You can't be calling me out like this lmao
I used to do this when I was younger but it's like being a fulltime unpaid actor and I've spoken to a part-time paid actor who had an identity crisis from getting too involved in their role. Retail work is the worst form of it because you get paid so little to act nice all day while people are rude to you.
@@louisejoel Yes! Great point. I did this all the time in highschool, and I literally lost my sense of self. Dominant Ni + Really really strong Fe led me to literally take on others' values and emotions without my actualization of what was happening (i'm naive by my real personality, Ni can create many loop holes that are so tempting which I'm sure you can relate to...). It's simply not worth pleasing every single human being or accidentally being friends with them and NOT setting boundaries. Seriously a bad idea! This quarantine was a blessing for infjs to heal I really feel! "you get paid so little to act nice all day while people are rude to you"... this. And then you forget how RUDE rudeness is, and have a higher possibility of being a doormat.
I'm INTP, but do the same thing
@@louisejoel Yeah, I've done a lot of retail jobs and have spent years just being always exhausted because of it.
As an INFJ , sometimes I'm scared of myself , cause I can see myself being very deceptive and manipulative unconsciously.... Being multi-faceted is quite something
same
Yesssssssss
this is so true , but people don't even see it. i've tried telling my partner that i feel like im manipulative and he's always like "no you aren't" but... i am tho!!!
INFP here but I do recognize myself in this too... a little . .. I guess it's a thing of Introverted/thinker/feeler
As an INFJ, I can relate 😣 when my old friend tried to manipulate me little did he know I'm turning the tables unconsciously and I even manipulated my own grandmother which is kinda scary. And I feel like we're super complicated.
“They are thinking person’s feeler” so accurate...
I also heard... INFJs are like Star Trek's Spock when he's showing his human side.
Since the two friends I talk to the most are feelers (ENFJ, INFJ) I’m usually the feeling person’s thinker.
what?
I felt that
I don’t understand what this means
He explained the INFJ well.
“They live a large part of their life in their imaginations which is a deep inner world filled with all manner of creative, illuminating and sometimes dangerous insights.”
read it when he said it
This is why I reality shift 😎😎😎
And they flinch when someone disturbs that imagination
So me, I can relate a lot
If infj want to murder someone, possibly no one knows that have happened and assume the victim has just disappeared
"Emotional sponges whether they want it or not"
I felt personally atacked with this one 😅
That hurt
That hit me .
This is i hate the most😩
But it's true
@@ame8710 okay pls explain emotional sponge
"I can't solve my problems, but I know how to help you" - INFJ
How spot an INFJ in a second look for the person who spot you but doesn't want to be spotted. INFJ has a habit of looking at everyone in their environment but right when someone looks at them they'll turn away 😂😂😂
Actually me, every new class/room I enter I always check the people first to find how I should act in the current room and if someone looks at me I would immediately look away faster and recheck.
nooooo 🤣
Nooo! We have been figured out! My worst nightmare! 😂
Basically look for the one is observing everything and everyone else but when actually observed themselves while observing: hides.
Sources: Me, an INFJ
aish... so damn true hehe I agree as an Infj
I wonder if people realize I pay attention to them as much as I do
They probably don’t. I believe that like INFPs, INFJs also fade into the background...
same me too
That would be creepy haha
Same
def not. people r much less perceptive then u think
*INFJ* : the one that seems like they've already lived 100 lifes
These are important secrets you're spilling here, friend :)
OMG your explanation is really touch. So deep , proof that this is the INFJs style 1,000%
shish remember that we are not allowed to speak about this...
If you believe in reincarnation, yeah we probably have
This is exactly it...
As an INFJs. I'm getting suffocated of being worried how others thinks of me. Disappointing someone or being misunderstood drives me crazy an I overthink about it even though it's not a big deal.
Me too
Yes! Ugh, I'm constantly wondering if I'm sharing too much or too little about myself too (and therefore worried about the impression I'm giving, etc).
What helps is if you understand most people tend to like others more and less at different times as to when your presence tailors their needs. Remember it's not as important as how people treat you in your face but behind your back
SAME and I hate not being able to give a f about other's impression of me. I often think I embarrassed myself even tho no one notices
Me, too!!!!!
I like that he says that the INFJ is as much a thinking type as a feeling one, I feel like this is an aspect that often gets overlooked as we are just known for being emotional, which implies that we are somewhat illogical and irrational - when really much of an INFJ's behaviour is determined by a desire to seek and use logic as a means of understanding the world deeper in conjunction with the emotional side to form a more holistic view
Yes, thank you!
You nailed it!
Thank you! When I first took my test I questioned if I should be an INTJ but it's really that I use both equally. I am highly logical but I also feel all my emotions intensely
👏👏👏
✊🙂👍🙂 , May God bless us or take care of us , whoever you are
"they are many things to many people" is a blessing and a curse. We strive to keep the peace to the best of our ability, so we analyze and figure out the individuals around us and adjust to find social harmony. That said, it can come off as extremely fake or manipulative if we're around people who misinterpret our actions.
I totally agree
in a lot of ways it is just that - fake and manipulative. What people misinterpret is that it's not necessarily negative, we really just want everyone to get along and have our own important space in the group
interesting
then we leave the social setting with an identoty crisis XD
Well said
Trying to spot an infj in 2 minutes is like trying to go straight into a professional level occupation or bake a cake in 2 minutes - you likely never will.
Exactly 😂
Yes I felt after this video, if I’m supposed to be able to spot this in another person, I think I probably won’t know who the other INFJ’s are out there. It’s gonna take me longer than 2 minutes by far
This is true. We often play the part others need us to.....and that allows them to project themselves onto us
@@bananabreadloaf Exactly. Online... maybe you could to it in 5 seconds... real life, and you're talking months
I think you understood wrong the title, it's not to spot an infj in 2 minutes, it is to learn to spot in 2 minutes hahahaha
The “chameleon” quality is really interesting for me to reflect on, because I definitely feel like I’ve always been able to get along with almost any group, but I never feel like I’m being fake to mesh with different people. I’m always being my genuine self, but I tend to respond to whatever emotional frequency others are putting out and naturally reciprocate with whatever aspects of myself best match. It’s important for others to understand that INFJs aren’t necessarily being inauthentic or manipulative when we do this, and that it’s usually not even something we’re choosing to do consciously. We’re like water - we can take different shapes depending on where you put us, but that doesn’t change what we’re made of.
incredible, your words are really true, because they describe exactly how I feel most of the time in my days. TYSM for the comment!! :)
Yes, chameleon seems like the wrong word. We are never fake.
So it doesen't change the h2o you are made of
We are intuitive and multifaceted. We meet people on their level because most others only operate from 1 or 2 facets of their nature. We’ve explored and utilize them all.
Chameleon has a negative connotation but they aren’t fake either … they’re adaptable.
I am extremely adaptable and enjoy sitting on different sides of a room gathering perspective and comparing …. Ok I could go super deep here and 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for putting this in words
No one ever sees the sarcastic, macabe, dark INFJ humor coming though. We only roll that out for the nearest & dearest....ie. the closest XNTP
Haha, yes. Spot on.
Hahaha true, I had one INFJ friend
True. My best friend is an INTP and this happens all the time
true. my dark and inappropriate humor usually only understood by my intp bestfriend.
True! But for me it's my nearest and dearest, equally dark counterpart, the INTJ.
As an ENFP i want to say that you guys are hugely underappreciated. The darkest and sharpest wit around, hands down.
Thank you 🙏
thank you for your appreciation♡. As an infj i genuinely love ENFPs
Yow, ENFP and INFJ are said to be compatible. Hi to you.
^_^
Thank you so much :O but i mean, you're one of the only types that are able to understand us and spot us (kind of), so congrats i guess xD
Thank you for that 🙂
I have never felt more understood by a stranger.
Same here
Social chameleons yes. Unfortunately, this can lead others to believe INFJs are disingenuous or manipulative. But really we are all the things we present, just not all of it at once- its edited versions. For me, its about expressing in a way I sense other/s will best relate to. It comes from wanting to promote communication & harmony.
Exactly.
I agree. But all people can be disingenuous and manipulative. It’s survival. How is this person useful to me....why?
@@cynthiamarston2208 OMG Yassss. My partner is always horrified when I say 'Nah don't want to be friends with *Joey* I don't have the energy. And anyway how will *Joey* add 'value' to my life, they wont. There out."
So true. I am constantly struggling between multiple facets of myself, and for a long time I was trying to figure out which one is the "correct one" - only recently did I finally come to terms with the fact that all of them are equally true and equally me. I just express different sides of myself depending on who I'm with, and what I'm trying to achieve with that person.
@@marianne1865 This is something I struggle with a lot, because any time a new friendship opportunity comes up, I always ask myself if this person is actually someone that will add value to my life - most of the time, the answer is no, so for a while I felt like something was wrong with me because I genuinely have no interest in being friends with most people. Most people find me antisocial because of that but really I am just very careful about who I let enter my life.
Sometimes I give up on the thought that someone will finally get me and I’m not saying that I’m oh so unique and different no but I don’t understand why is it so hard for people to get me like what’s so hard to read well then when I knew I was an INFJ it kinda made sense I’m like a walking contradiction, some people see me as arrogant , selfish and indifferent and some people see me as sweet and kind there’s no in between . Anyways I’m watching INFJ videos and reading INFJ comments just so I can know that I’m not alone in this .
@@danialhakimi9740 I don’t think we’re unique we’re just constantly misunderstood
Oh dear, you said the walking contradiction thing, I am screaming, that's what I always think about myself. It's nice to see that somone feel the same😃
You described it so well!!!
@@yem1122 same thing though, we are constantly misunderstood because we ARE unique. We don't follow the majority, we follow our intuition.
Yeah, you are not alone.
I think INFJs also don’t like to just spit out compliments very easily, but when we do, it’s always genuine and well thought.
I really think that our personality, INFJ, is a blessing but it becomes a curse around people...
Its hard to be an INFJ especially when you are living with extraverts! They just don't get you and they can never understand or get you!
There might be people who might understand us but very rare to find those you will actually "get you" you know...
Yes - they never do get us, sigh.
extraverts
IKRRR!!
I agree. People just don't get me.
@Oliver Erz 💯
I am an INFJ and I feel so misunderstood sometimes, like I connect with people but they won't never really catch me and understand me. I am like a walking contradiction. There's people that thinks I am a very nice and interesting person, and other people think sometimes that I am a bit dark person with a dark humor and selfish personality.
And then, after all of that, I watch videos about INFJ's and introverted people and I can relate a lot with the video and the people in the comments. I just can think where are those people, under rocks or something? I want to meet somone that can truly understand me.
Omg same
Same 🤣 when people thinks we're so nice, but can be vicious as well in other ways.
@@IcePianist my sister in law saw me get extremely angry one day. That good old infj rage. She couldn't believe it. She said I was a totally different person.
I said yeah when somebody is on my good side it's all rainbows and gum drops, but once someone decides they want to cross me or hurt me that's when they met this ice cold, dark, manipulative, master mind whose whole goal is to annihilate them mentally, and emotionally. It's better to be on our good side vs the bad. We tend to have ocd and when we have a target we do or don't like we lock in, and the moment we're locked into anything but our own world, that can spell trouble for the person trying us.
@@jaifyre702 so true!!! 😂
Yeah why is it so hard for us to find people like us? I don't think I have ever met another INFJ and would love to have an INFJ friend! The only reasons I've hated myself sometimes or felt unworthy was probably down to hating that I couldn't fit in or be understood, comparing my difficulties in belonging to others who seemed to have no problems but I didn't see them as being nicer or better people than me? I've got very little confidence and not arrogant, but I actually like a lot about myself and my attributes. It appears that as personality types go, we are my favourite and I'd like to be friends with someone like me!
We have a really dark, dry sense of humour. Some find it hilarious, others depressing. What always amazes me is the amount of people who are surprised by it. People seem to think we are "naive and innocent."
They think that because we are quite it we don't know them and we stay to ourselves. But when we know somebody we can have them laughing harder than the best comedian out. It's mysterious to others but fun for us cause we know it exists but they don't lol.
I don't even relate to you guys much...☻ what's wrong with me
@@uchihaitachi01117 how so?
@@jaifyre702 I'm not even that quiet, but apparently people still assume I'm some naive sheep. Bizarre.
@@lauraf.e2788 in a lot of ways- I totally relate to the descriptions on the websites and this video but not with the comments bcz many of these contradict the vid and descriptions
"No, you can't just condense our complexity into 2 minutes."
"Haha, INFJ go brrrrr."
Are ya a memer ???
Just askin
@@thatonekaeyamain6725 I can be a memer?...
I don't think I need any qualifications or need to clarify that I'm a memer.
@@HaotoAnimeOnPiano well hello fellow memer
I wanted to say the same thing 🤣
I think it doesn't take a while to explain, it takes a while to process the words and understand. Like other types are like 🤯 they don't understand really (no offense)
So, as an infj, it’s really interesting that our cognitive functions can be interrupted on medication. I was diagnosed with seizures a year ago. I was put on Keppra, I stopped absorbing other people’s emotions. I also stopped caring about other people, and in general had zero empathy. Something I had my entire life. It was so foreign to me, not caring for others. Also, my parents, husband and friends noticed the change. I’m also, naturally not an angry person nor am I confrontational. I started to become confrontational, which is not me. I talked to my neurologist, he started to get me off the Keppra. About a week after I was off, I the anger left. I started becoming my normal self again for the first time in a year. It proves that it truly is cognitive function and not personality. Because, the Keppra acted as a disrupter on my brain. I’m on a new medication. I do have seizures again now, so we will have to figure out better dosage. However, finally being myself again after a year is the best gift in the world. I always thought I didn’t want to be an infj. But, for the year I wasn’t one. When, my brain stated working again, I’m grateful for who I am. Even, if it means I have to deal with seizures now an then. But, I’m sure we can figure that out, getting the right meds takes some time. It’s just odd that, meds can play such a roll in our cognitive functions.
Yeah man,i have been trying something extremely similar by taking caffeine whenever im outside,so that it acts as a form of medication for my mind...Glad to see i am not the only one who thinks this way!
It's not really odd at all... it's science.
Wow, this is fascinating to hear. I'm glad you're yourself again and wishing you good health and that you find the perfect medication soon. Good luck! --INFJ
Add CBD oil to your supplements. It decreases seizures.
I think long-term depression also has similar affects to what you have described.
From my own personal experience, I had people guessing my MBTI type wrong and mistaking me for an INTJ, even though I have always considered myself a very emotional person. It may be due to the fact that INFJs often have a methodical approach to day-to-day situations and can easily draw the line between their emotions and reality, as well as seeing through bs easily. It gives other people the impression that they are quite the opposite of emotional. But when you really get to know them, you quickly find out that underneath the surface, they are a bunch of goofballs who struggle to think rationally in stressful enviroments.
This is so accurate ahhh
The last part hit me so damn well....it s true
🤣🤣🤣🤣
All FAAAAAACCCTSSS
I’m an INFJ who used to be an INTJ. Your personality can shift over time. There’s quite a lot of similarity between INFJs and INTJs and they’re considered a formidable pairing.
Socially smooth?? Lol inside I feel awkward as hell but people think I'm like this 😂
All of my friends know that I am one of the most awkward people they will ever encounter. Definitely not socially smooth.
I feel awkward and unsure inside, but boy can I put on the extroverted chatty one as I gather info re safety. It’s exhausting.
Same I'm not actually socially smooth lol
As an INFJ I have been mistreated badly by people. Said things that I took to heart. Words are not taken lightly. Never fit in with the crowd because I was on a different wave than everyone else. I remember back in High school I would sit all alone by myself somewhere there are no people. It was lonely and I was always in my head lost in my imagination, it was an escape for me from this harsh world. As I’ve grown I’ve learned to adapt and embrace who I am. I get burned out from being around people.
I feel like I'm either the Thinking Person's feeler or the Feeling Person's Thinker. I'm whatever the situation calls for I guess XD
INFJ here! That is why I don't usually waste my time with the situation or trying to work on something when I know already what will be the ending, it frustrates me- so I just walk away.
So true. I recently saw a comment saying something about the time it takes for ‘science to catch up with logic’. That pretty much sums things up !
I remember when there would be those times at school when someone is feeling depressed and I would want to come over to them but whenever I did it never helped it just made it super awkward or worse
As an INFJ I can move objects with my hand.
This made me laugh! ~ Nathan
Typical INFJ joke, I’m going to use that one it’s both funny and disarming.
😂👍
Growing up, I often wondered what my friends saw me in coz my own family didn't know what to do with me. (I was generally labeled as the weird, moody, miss know it all...who lived in a fantasy world). I used to think I had an identity crisis because of the way I was able to adapt in groups at school. But my biggest internal conflict though was that I felt no one really got me and yet I seem to get everyone around me (and hated the fact that somehow, I kinda understood where they were coming from). Then I met my husband and the way we clicked or understood each other was just creepy.... we were convinced that we have a deep spiritual connection orchestrated by fate... until we find out that we're both INFJ's and that made sooooo much sense. LOL
Same mindset
People often see inner strength and dignity as arrogance because they don't see too good.
"People Solvers" - is a good description!
I hadn't thought of it before, but it describes very well how I feel about guiding people a lot of the time.
(yes I'm a counsellor. Specifically a career counsellor x)
I almost went into counseling, even began to major in it, but switched to education major. Glad I did; this video is correct about me being too empathic...I doubt that I would have been any good to anyone I counseled, but would have taken on their moods and anxieties myself! lol. I hope that you are able to deal with that as you help others! :)
We are white and black but never gray. I can be hella serious and then make a joke that made whole restaurant cry-laugh. So yeah..
That’s so true. I’m generally serious, especially in public, but when my ex-gf got to know me better she said she never expected me to be like that, I made her cry-laugh all the time.
@@vladm5920 True, I feel like we just can't have a normal mood 😅
Hi fellow INFJ’s! :)
Hi, back at ya :-)
Greetings :)
Hiii :p
Basically they're engimas. That's the vibes I get about INFJ's
Can i know your type?
@@fl3640 INTP
Well... true ...
Infj here
Eh, more like a walking contradiction. At least, that's how I feel every day. But, that does tend to be enigmatic, hahah.
0:28
Can we say hypocrites? 😅
I'm an INFJ btw, but it feels like that.
This mindset makes me forget my own self and my goals and get distracted by people,
forging our own identity and knowing how to separate it from others emotions and thoughts is not an easy thing to do.
It gets easier over age, but we need to have different social experiences or we will not be able to deal with people right and end up being doormats...
Any tips from mature INFJs would be much appreciated!
@Ammar Hararah - I don't know how mature I am, but I am pretty darn old! The biggest lesson for me as an INFJ has been to act with intention in all aspects in my life, and to put my own intentions first. I work at no longer mirroring people, because I once mirrored the person who meant the most to me, out of fear of losing him, and lost him for that very reason. He could tell I was not being myself and did not trust me. I omitted all my emotional expression from the relationship to make him comfortable (he is INTJ) and lost myself in the process. Other people rarely think about you, so don't care what they think. Be yourself and yes, you will lose people, but you only lose those who are wasting your time and you have way less time than you think you do when you're young, especially if you are female. I've also found that very extraverted types are a waste of time for me, even when I like them. They're just not compatible with me, and constantly having to explain why I don't like the phone, or can't handle two social events in one day, or only want to have deep conversations is exhausting. Also, verify, verify, verify...trust your incredibly accurate intuition, but ask probing, precise questions to verify your intuition. Do not assume anything! Other people are often not as ethical as we are, and if you don't ask, they won't tell.
@@meagiesmuse2334 Exactly! These were hard lessons for me as well. I'm just now 'waking up' to my own voice, and recognizing the extent that I've been mirroring not only for harmony, but for preservation. This is an important lesson for any INFJ.
@@loref4200 - I think it's really wonderful that you have this insight at your age (assuming that photo is you). I wish I had known all of this back when it counted so much and I was making huge, life-changing decisions. I also have to remind myself that the behavior I'm mirroring might also be a lie for public consumption, since most of us lie in our public image, so I could be faking it to fit in with someone who is also faking it. What a monumental waste of time and energy! I also want to add from my perspective as an old broad, that estrogen isn't called the "nice hormone" for nothing. It makes us females gloss over and put up with things that will seem appalling to us when we look back in time. This is one of mother natures' tricks, designed to get us to mate and make babies. As a feeling type, I learned to make pro and con lists and consider those too, along with my feelings. I'm still learning to differentiate between my heart (not trustworthy) and my gut (more trustworthy than my mind).
Look up Dabrowski's theory of positive disintegration and its 5 levels.
I'm not an INFJ, but I've been very close with a couple of you guys, through good and bad. What worked for my INFJs is kinda obvious and not type-specific, but merits repeating in this day and age: adopt a basic moral code and pray for guidance. In particular, meditate on the precept of not lying or deceiving. If you act, speak and behave in accord with truth in every situation and with every person, you will be polarizing, since you are (like many are) full of contradictions. It will cause friction, some will at times perceive you as too weird, too empty, too situationally/emotionally inconsistent, too insensitive/calculating etc. But it will be the truth. You will learn to take the heat and face who you really are. Others who care will also learn to take the heat and will have a chance to face reality and grow. Not to mention it will make your life more interesting. Love, be humble, speak the truth and make your dance through life beautiful. This alone will solve 90% of your potential worries and problems in life.
Damn Nathan not even a Drag Queen can read me this hard.
😂great comment
Hey, we don't know what he likes to do when he's not making videos... ;p
@@JokerCrowe 😆
@@JokerCrowe Hilarious.
😆😂🤣😭
FACT: many ISFJ, ISFP and INFP are mistyped as INFJ.
Usually, strong Fi users usually mistype themselves with any other type because they have a strong identity towards things, so they feel very strongly to be a certain way/type. Non-Fi users usually don't mistype themselves and are more likely to accept themselves for what they are.
I know so many INFP who mistype as INFJ it's funny
@@spring7643 The LoveWho discord is full of them.
@@loref4200 I bet, there was one on the comments here. I think Frank James (INFP mistyped as INFJ) misleads a lot of INFPs to think they are INFJs.
@@spring7643 It's unfortunate, and many people don't go further than the test, which is statistically inaccurate, and especially when you are under the age of 25.
When I was a teenager, my not-so-close friend asked me on holidays, ‘Why are you so nice? Can’t you be more clear and confrontational? If you wanna get angry, get angry. You pretend everything’s all right, but it confuses the hell out of people. I don’t get you and I won’t if you keep solving our fights instead of participating in them. Be yourself.’
I felt hurt and misunderstood by her words, but now I can see why she was angry 🙃
As an infj we keep our feelings reserved right , then why you write I feel misunderstood then you write now I can understand why is she so angry .what does that mean , I didn't understand . I somehow got intrest in this comment . ?
@@sanmatipol3201 well, I felt misunderstood because I was actually being myself: I’m naturally reserved, quiet and I want harmony, not arguments. But now I understand that she was angry because she just couldn’t figure out what I was thinking or doing. She had no idea about me and that pissed her off 😂
@@ausrine4689 oh 🤔😲gotcha ,
< introvert things> , haha 😁😂
Yeah, but I bet they would regret being born, if we ever slipped and came for their asses.
She basically wanted to get to know you better and wanted genuine authencity from you and also wanted to see your flaws too.
I believe.
INFJ - Became the family scapegoat.
How to spot an INFJ: they are making excuses for ENTPs dark jokes 😂
I have a soft spot for ENTP humor. The dark and morbid tone, sarcasm, with a twinge of self-deprecation. My favorite.
@@loref4200 yes!
as infj, i probably did that way too many times..
what can i say, i resonate with their dark jokes too much
@@aniokay as an INFj I have really dark humor
@@editorjeannie2318 ok
I love the INFJs in my life. But I get very sad for them when they do not set adequate boundaries with people. Unfortunately, you can't help everyone.
Those are Fe doms.
Wdym?
Yeah actually, I am an infj too but after so many things...I realised putting your problems and needs first is quite necessary. (And I still have that, if I do awesome then I can help others😂this helping hand is still there)
I am learning to set boundaries now, it's hard tho
@@caffemocca8855 it cud be any Fe user. How wud u even know that
Others always find it surprising that I can find information out about them if I am determined enough. Even if they think they are hidden. I think Ni/Fe/Ti/Se combo makes for a great 'detective' as we can zero in on the less than obvious minute details that most people miss. We pick up on microexpressions, what you wear (& why), the tiny stain on your collar, to the tone of your voice; all without ever being noticed by the one we are observing. INFJs study people. We are good at it, and we know people well. Look for someone observing others, and you will likely find an INFJ.
I tend to observe people that’s why I probably sat at the last row back in school.
I just discovered INJF, now i know why everyone calls and asks me for advice on everything.
Well i guess you surely are INJF and not INFJ
@@rashigandhi5121 That guy discovered a new personality type
@@edeypodey2224 Judging, both of you xD
“They are chameleons, capable of adapting their approach to suit a person or group of people”...
yes. But that’s actually a good and a bad thing. Good, because you can kinda “choose” your people (even though we all know we would prefer to be one-one), and bad, because sometimes you can question your own personality. We adapt ourselves every time we meet someone to get close to them but, depending on the situation, we can actually question ourselves and realize we may not be what we say we are, and we don’t really know how we are when we are out there cause we are always changing our personality to suit other’s.
Ok, that was deep.
you just took the words right out of my mouth thank you
That was a perfect description of how I am. Thank you!
My biggest problem as an INFJ is when I desesperately wanna tell something deep I have been hiding from everyone to someone I'm close with praying that they will understand me or say something that makes sense or is helpful, but they just give a short answer or apologize for not knowing what to say. Nobody will never understand me, even my INFJ friend doesn't know how to answer me when I get overwhelmed and tell things to him. That's why INFJs never tell others how they really feel, it always turns out like that:")
So much truth to this. I don't think it is easy to spot us, being chameleons and all. However, I sure wish more people knew we, and other rare types, existed and are different for a reason, so we don't have to feel so out of place everywhere we go. 😐🤔
My father called me a walking contradiction when I was 14 years old and came home from vacation with an adorable fluffy stuffed frog and a mini switchblade.
I am a collection of so many opposites...
I am light, I am dark
I am soft, I am hard
I am safe, I am dangerous
I am quiet, I am loud
I am serious, I'm a clown
I am industrious, I am lazy
I am organized, I am messy
I am warm, I am cold
I am emotional, I am logical
I am everything, I am nothing
.... It's an almost impossibly complex way to be. No wonder everyone else seems so simple to figure out.
i call myself mostly a paradox
I bet that title attracted every single ENTP - coming from an ENTP
I’m just an infj trying to figure out if any of the people I already know are also infj’s haha
I'll consider this a compliment.
Tala mansour ba man doos mishi?
Hello fellow ENTP..
Why? 😂
As an infj, when I’m zoned out and just thinking(?), I could start out thinking about kitchen utensils, and I’d somehow end up thinking about world destruction.
One place I don't mind it being loud and sensory spectacular is at rock concerts, that atmosphere mimics a magician archetypes use of the sacred place, that transcends the spirit.... gigs too on a smaller scale. Plus I like getting lost in a song's lyrics... you won't see me with a cell phone out at a concert like 90% of the crowd (I've seen the singers tell people to quit it and come back to the live performances) , focusing on a tiny screen recording...I am open to the whole experience and won't waste the moment by recording.
But loud restaurants or overly bright rooms or a foul smells, I just find it harder to tune it out...I'm compelled to get out of that space asap.
Agreed.
Infj retired drummer,
loved!! performing, lights, stage theatrics, all music and anonymous crowd watching.
Now I need almost 100% solitude, and much much quiet.
Walking paradox . . We like what we like but on our terms.
Yeah, sensory issues, I'm confusing to people, not my choice : )
Probably wouldn't change it if I could.
Well, I like rock concerts too, with headphones on at night in my living room. Can't appreciate music with so many people around at live concerts - shudder at the thought, because you can't foresee everything
Love rock concerts as well \m/
The only INFJ I know is so romantic. He seems like he has rose-colored eyeglasses everytime. His ideas of philosophy is very subjective, although his ideas are fine for someone who doesn't read anything about philosophy but sometimes it's too much and very unrealistic. He doesn't take any practical advices from anyone and would pursue his gut feels. He's also very talkative for an introvert. He likes being alone but wouldn't stop talking once you engaged with him. He's everyone's friend even when there's conflicting parties, he knows where to get in line in every social conflict.
Oddly, he sounds like an infj man I once dated, but my infj was actually a professor of philosophy who taught logic at the college level. Because of that, I very wrongly assumed he was logical person. He absolutely was not, and when I got over the massive shock I realized he was rather naive and probably more subjective than I am as an intj.
@@HannahIm I imagine your relationship to be argumentative. I am guessing that your hard facts won't change his mind about his personal philosophy?
As an infj, I actually bought rose colored glasses because I have heard that saying so much, I figured I should own some rose colored glasses : D
I often have a bunch of 'truths' in my head about topics i've never researched. If you ask me about something i'll probably come up with a decent educated guess on the spot, even if i've never thought about it. Just don't ask me to repeat whatever it was
@@notjohn2672 Relateable, especially when I was younger. I've gotten to a point where I verify those thoughts against research or add a semantic disclaimer about personal 'opinion', even if my thought aligns with the facts. The issue is stating something as 'fact' without verifying, and is seen as 'lying' or 'cherry picking' by some. Saying, "I don't know", and adding a hypothetical statement is a way to share ideas without 'pretending' to actually know.
I find it fascinating that INFJ is such a coveted type. It feels likes I’m constantly being attacked by my brain.
Why would you want to be an INFJ. Yaayy, I'm living life as lonely, tormented, socially awkward and misunderstood. So cool
The thing that people think we're psychics is kinda true. I once said to a guy "If you spit on the floor now I'm not gonna find you attractive any more" and he asked me if I was a witch because I knew that he was going to do it but I was just reading his body language 😂 actually I was surprised that stuff like that isn't obvious for everybody
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As an INFJ, I really agree with him, almost all of it. I get so tired easily once I'm in a more crowded situations with my brain analyzing and speaking at the same time. I like it much better if I have time to think of things before I say them and think about it in peace than speaking impromptu.
Jeez.... take me out to dinner first before you strip me bare of all my socially adaptive attire.... well done.
That is the most accurate description of the INFJ personality type that I have heard in any CZcams video. Well done! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I really love these "How To Spot an XXXX in 2 minutes" videos! You do such an amazing job on them, it's clear, concise and interesting. You have great content.
Dang, what a breath of fresh air. A description of INFJ that is straight to the point with no fuss 👍
I was too busy trying to use context clues to understand this person's personality and feelings to listen to the video
My experience with INFJs Is that they are guarded emotionally though they pose as selfless, wise counselors. They manipulate others and are not nearly as warm and caring as they appear. Sure they help others a lot but they keep their distance in terms of true intimacy, a fact which they often come to lament when their lives feel shallow. They crave understanding which they give to others in spades. They need a lot of love but someone has to be dedicated and confident to break through their defenses.
(I admit I haven’t experienced the most emotionally mature INFJs; I expect healthier ones could be a treasure.)
(ISTP)
We’re maybe not as warm & caring and keep our distance because we get so much grief from everyone when we do try to help. People generally don’t understand how our intuition works so they disregard and underestimate the validity of what we have to say.
This comment is a treasure.
Finally, some honesty and reflection. Everything else felt like a mask or denial.
@@chillingongreens, thanks for making your comment. 👍😊 (ISTP)
That's very well observed. I'd say that we usually do have good motivations, but good motivations can get twisted up darkly, (Ni can do that sometimes) and that can lead to being manipulative, controlling, to having that sort of false appearance you noticed. At dark extremes INFJs become cult leaders and religious/ideological fanatics. Personally, I think part of what leads to that is overextending our abilities to engage with people, getting over-involved; we are introverts after all, trying to help people in mass quantities can be draining to us, and that can derail to weird savior-victim complexes.
We really do have a lot of emotional reserve, it is difficult to break past our defenses, and actually feeling confident in true intimacy is really difficult for us, though those are things that we crave. I think that healthy, emotionally mature INFJs are good at setting limits for themselves while also nurturing and opening up to connections; they understand their own emotional reservations and the limits of what they can actually do. And then we can give pretty wise advice, have a knack for understanding people keeping many contexts in mind, and have a talent for empowering people. (Idk that anyone is full selfless though xD). At any rate, INFJs really aren't as inherently angelic as we're often depicted, we're as human as any other type. It comes down to the individual.
theres actually a reason for this i never understood before, our ability to appear manipulative. it took some time to realize thats how others saw me, and it happened with people i got really close to. i feel like i struggle with a few different sides of myself and ive hammered myself so much because the last thing i want to do in the entire world is to hurt people or have people feel like im playing them. all kinds of people open up to me, a lot of them strangers will tell me their whole life story the day they meet me. ive had multiple people this year say they would never forget the impact i made on their life; and that i was the kind of person you met once in a lifetime. at this time, i become some void for them subconsciously. i become what they need to feel better, who they need in life at that moment, all with purest intentions and i am being myself, its just a very give kind of relationship where they dont really know the kind of person i am. when the relationship goes on and i feel safe finally expressing myself, they feel manipulated, frustrated and betrayed; even thought that was the absolute LAST thing i wanted. All i want to do is help people, i have done it to my own expense many times in the past. in a way ive learned subconsciously in order to actually help people this is what i have to do, to have good friendships and to not scare people with how in tune to things i am. im working on that to this day, its j harder to make good relationships being infj and its scary tbh, especially cuz all i want is deep connections with people. im guarded because when people finally see how perceptive i am, it intimidates them and drives them away. and at this point its hard to believe that i can find people that love as hard as i do, feel as hard as i do, and that think like me, so it takes a while to see if a connection is worth the potential pain if it doesnt work out
As an INFJ, I really agree with this! I thought that I may not be, but after a lot of research on cognitive functions, I realised that my very high Ni and Fe (as well as Ti, although my Se isn’t as strong) that it was definitely my type.
I thought that I may have been mistyped because, I am very logical in my way of thinking. But, you can see my friend (who is an INTJ) is very different to me in the way he processes things. He’s very intelligent and focused, but will not take people’s emotions into account (this is not a generalisation btw, just what I’ve seen from him).
I also thought that I may be an INFP, because I hold my views and beliefs very dearly to myself. But, my other friend (who is an INFP) holds them a lot stronger than I do. Which I thought was really cool, as you could always tell what her views were! As opposed to mine, which are strong but subtle (if that makes sense).
I also agree with the fact that I adapt depending on who’s around me. My views and opinions stay the same, but the way I show them can alter based on who’s nearby. I’m aware that not everyone would appreciate some things, so I tend to block them out to please them instead (I’m a people pleaser; hate feeling disliked).
Really cool video, man! I really enjoyed it. Saw a lot of similarities in myself here!
Wow! Same here!
@@AufDeutsch hah! It’s nice to see someone relates 😊
I can relate.
@@88Skheart I’m glad! 😊
They are many things to many people - very accurate statement that I realized in college and since I had to give the graduation speech - that was the main theme of it how we all have to be so many different things to so many different people and everyone loved my speech. Now I realize that was me I was talking about so very much. I’ve scaled way back 30 years later - realized that I gave away way too much energy to way too many people that didn’t deserve it
This is a difficult lesson, but I'm glad that you learned it eventually. Here's to building our walls with a gate, may only those with good intentions ever enter. 🍻
@@loref4200 i love your metaphor.
This felt like a very long compliment, thank you!❤ I think INFJ’s are very self aware of flaws, so hearing all the positives was very nice 😊
I'm an INFJ and I'm not a psychic but I am literally an empath.
I go by feelings and my friend and I were picking up a piano, renting a trailer and I felt something was wrong and told him to abort the mission, I'll pay the $30 rental fee for the trailer and that I feel something is wrong and I don't know why or what but intuition is telling me that this isn't right so let's just turn around.
Within literally no less than 2 minutes the wheel of the trailer just falls off.
I've had many instances of this intuition.
INJF hate the bar scene.
I hate the bar scene because I go by emotions and in bars there's too much chaotic emotions, uncontrolled, and untrue feelings, also a violent atmosphere that is too much to emotionally process and the main cause of being an introvert from crowds is the act of processing emotions. It has nothing to do with being rude or unfriendly it has to do with processing and also to reset my state of peace and who I am. That's the 'introvert' part for me, otherwise I totally test to be an extrovert 100٪ I'm an omnivert because I test to be both an extrovert and introvert.
I do like the karaoke scene in bars, if that's the focus and if there are not many people.
Thinking person's, feeler. Sensory overload. Yes.
Having an INTJ father and an INFJ mother, I have a very unique blend of the two personality types. I can be insanely blunt but also socially smooth. There are times I simply cannot understand people’s emotions and other times I can fully empathise with them. I apply both logically analysing and emotional analysis to my problems and dealing with other people. I am however slightly more thinking than feeling, but I just feel a bit weird as I have qualities of both sides. I just want to remind everyone that these personality types are not set in stone and can be quite malleable, people can also change personality types throughout their lives,
Sincerely, and IN-T/F-J
As an ENFP, I cannot but be in love with INFJs, and maybe INTJs too. And I love jt when they love me back.
the "analyzing and interpreting raw statistics and impersonal data also takes a great deal of effort for them prone to speaking and thinking abstractly and symbolically" speaks to me........
people sometimes thinks im slow or even stupid when in my head im interpreting the thing that i received in another way which most of the times are not what its meant :")
I swear my friends keep telling me about their relationships.. meanwhile I always give them advice and then they thank me...
Ps. I dont even have a bf but I feel like I really know what to say to them 😅
It also happens to feel like I know what advice to give even though I haven't experienced it myself. And when other people share their experiences it feels like I've experienced them too even when I literally haven't.
That happens to a lot of people
emotional sponges whether they want to be or not "damnit!" haha! ~infj
As an infj, the best I’m at is to make people feel awkward because i dont know how to response.
We're the ones that can't walk past a crying stranger without asking if we can help.
I did once and thought about that moment for a long time.
100%. The most accurate description of an INFJ I've come across. Thanks! 🙏🏼
Love your videos. I learn more about different people and myself from you everyday. Great video.
I just want to say that I really appreciate the fact that you acknowledge us as a thinking personality type. the dominant thinkers tend to dislike that idea about INFJs
Kudos for not emphasizing the awkwardness of social situations for INFJs. Other presenters tend to emphasize the awkwardness they feel as though this awkwardness were visible to others when that is not always the case; in fact, it may appear exact opposite. It’s just that we master the challenge well because we are always preparing for it just by living a daily life lol.
I feel like I'm being exposed, my skin having goosebumps as if it's being peeled by a strangers and it's the most haunting feeling ever.
That's a fancy way to say " hey! That's relatable"
I find infj's really fascinating they are a good amount of mix of many characteristics. I wish I could be friends with them- infp here :)
INFP are amazing too!! 😊🌌
-An INFJ
Finally! Thank you so much. 100% Accurate in my experience of being an INFJ. I study science as a hobby lol. Scientific Empath is probably a Great description and I do not like things that don’t make logical sense but being an Empath I try to see another’s view point. I feel deeply for and about others but I’d just as easily get into studying and reading. I get along great with thinkers. I do seem to bump heads with strong FI types although they seem very caring. I had a very close FI friend and she seemed to think I was compromising myself by being agreeable. I just don’t take things too personal to be real upset by them. I’m not that passionate about my ideals but about people and science. Thanks for getting me
I absolutely hate it that the only places I encounter other INFJs are the comments sections for MBTI videos.
Are there any INFJs here who favour their 'Ti' function?
Fe is hella overwhelming & it makes me want to withdraw socially for disproportionately long periods (tosses the Fe doms a pizza & rolls away🎉)
Totally !
Actually when I learned about functions, I was like "Well, I have lead Ni and inferior Se, clearly... But I would have put Ti as second function, Fe third, and this type does not exist..."
I thought this because I feel naturally very good at deep logical/analytical tasks, I am comfortable with it, while I really feel "not good enough" at social interactions and relationships : being an emotional sponge is too much for me, and I am often "too much" with people. I put a lot of effort in getting better at this, behaving in a way people would enjoy. I even put effort in "seeming natural", "doing less" which I find very ironic.
But well, MBTI is about our preferences, not what we are good at... Feel free to disagree, I would appreciate it !
Yes. I go through cycles of utilizing my Fe, being the guide/mirroring/merging/vibing, then I disappear in solitude, typically immersing in research and analyzing/observing as a way to 'cope'. I've recently recognized a pattern of others guilt-tripping me to get their way, and when you realize that those in your life would rather get their way and quiet your voice than encourage you to be yourself, it is disheartening. I've recently withdrawn quite a bit. I favor Ti as I've grown older and recognized these patterns. Ti is concerned with the truth, and while Ni-Ti loop can happen, I tend to exit it using Se as opposed to Fe, at least more recently.
There are NiTi and TiSe subtypes.
ISFJ here, I think Ti should be one of my strongest functions because it's the one I identify the most and I'm always overanalysing everything, but I don't think my Ne is strong enough for me to be an INTP and I've got no Se.
@@laislyra5512 Don't confuse Si recall and seeking of past patterns through Ne interpretation, with Ti 'dominance'. It depends on what you are 'overanalyzing'. This is key.
That's the quickest and the best description I've ever heard.. I relate to every single thing. Especially that quick bit about seeing several people in one person. I never heard that 1 before and that 1 is so true
This ENTP thinks your description of INFJs is just spot on, especially about them looking “regal” and “from a different time.” If that ain’t the perfect description of my INFJ best friend I don’t know what is
Huzzah! That was The Best summation of an INFJ I've ever heard at any time length. Bravo!
Holy shit, they're lowkey terrifying to be around.
Nah even if we hate you, you'll never know cause we'll never do anything about it. Harming you would mean harming ourselves.
@@joelbedulla4 Yeah, unless you really piss us off Ralph, and we don't see a future with you in it.
But even then we (most likely) won't hurt you, Empathy is a double edged sword like mentioned in the video.
We might just cut you out of our life and pretend you never came into it to begin with.
Wish I was capable of the doorslam. I'm more like a revolving door to people who cause me damage. It'll slam, go quiet and creak open again.
The empathic feedback pretty much means we won't hurt people, because it will infinitely loop us in pain. We often feel the need to make others happier and fix their problems becayse if they feel happy we get to feel happy through the empathic link.
Why? What constitutes as terrifying?
Best description I've yet heard. Thank you.
It is beautiful to be seen in such depth and intricacy and with such a perspective of love & appreciation like you do. It really touched my heart. Thank you 🌷
"u can't, we're top tier good at acting specially (ISTP)"
-INFJ
i feel like when i try to analyse and digest what im thinking and feeling i’m probably lying to myself
INFJs do overthink a lot.
I did the Myers Briggs test some months back. Had no idea what the test was on about really but I did it anyway. I cried when INFJ came up. Everything fell into place , I understood me. But it’s not any easy personality because you are not by any stretch of the imagination, mainstream. People are used to the usual personality but not INFJ’s. I can walk in a room and generally pick up the personality types, those happy or unhappy, I have to hide it from them otherwise it spoils me socialising which is trying at the best of times.
So accurate & impressively well put together video & word selection