3 Ways To Overcome Trust Issues â€ïž
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 27. 06. 2024
- Get "Love After Heartbreak" here đ bit.ly/LoveAfterHeartbreakYTS... - 3 Ways To Overcome Trust Issues is a relationship advice video from a relationship expert that will help you to learn how to trust again after betrayal. It is common to have some level of trust issues in relationships since many people have been through a lot. You may have been betrayed, let down, and now you have every reason to have trust issues. However, we cannot continue like that, this relationship advice video will give you 3 ways to overcome trust issues.
If you feel like you have struggles trusting people then this relationship advice video will help you overcome your trust issues, avoid self sabotage, and get on a better path. When we are dealing with trust issues, it causes us pain and frustration, which makes it harder for us to trust again once we lose trust. A lack of trust makes one feel insecure leading to self-sabotage. To overcome trust issues in a relationship we need to trust God, heal, and start to be open and transparent.
Listed below are the 3 ways to overcome trust issues that I discuss in this video;
1. You need to heal from your past first 1:39
Having trust issues is a manifestation of a lack of healing in your life. Internalizing and holding onto hurt without resolving your experience, will create a high level of hate for anyone in your life or people similar to those that betrayed you in your past. Take time to heal and flush out all that negative energy in your life in order to let go of your past. When you have healed from past traumas and disappointments, you are going to set yourself free once and for all. Healing is a great way to overcome your trust issues.
2. Be open and transparent about your struggle 4:06
When we donât trust people we carry a high level of skepticism, which stresses us out projecting negativity and it creates negative energy that brings negativity into different situations in a relationship. When you are open and transparent you are creating a better environment where everyone understands where we are at, how we are feeling, and what to do to make things better. Being open and transparent is a good way to overcome trust issues because it helps you in being less on edge about trust issues.
3. Learning to trust God not people 5:58
When we put full trust into human beings we are asking to be disappointed and let down because people can let you down and God cannot let you down. When you put your focus to trust God you empower yourself in situations. We should learn to lean on God because if God doesnât want you to deal with someone whether they are trustworthy or not you do not belong there. When you trust God when it comes to trust issues He is going to help you set yourself free and make things easier for you going forward in your relationships.
As a certified life coach, relationship coach, and dating coach for men and women, I want to make dating and relationships easier for you. I pray that you find this video helpful and that it will help you to avoid self sabotage, and overcome trust issues.
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Jesus Christ is the truth reach out
As I see age learned that man in always llie tony of women face b ut I tell them on I see l by o nly trust God .
Yes I have because I have given my heart and I was cheated on
The last one should be first â€đ
Yes I have trust issues because of what I endured
Yes, Iâm always asking myself âis this my gut feeling or my trust issues??? â
Most of the time itâs my trust issues lol
Going through the same thing! Found a man that loves me and is understanding of my trust issues, works with me, and it can be really challenging to determine if I'm feeling my intuition or my trust issues sometimes even when he's done nothing wrong. I'm working to overcome my fears not only so that I can keep the love I deserve but also to give myself that inner peace. Letting go of the past is hard you have to forgive the person that hurt you and forgive yourself for choosing that person. If you don't, you can't enjoy the love you find after it.
Corey Steen yes you are completely right, forgiveness is a big part of it. I am so happy you found a good man!!! Iâm pretty sure I did too! Itâs still pretty early, 3 months in but he has treated me with so much respect and care always. I have many fears as well, my past abusive relationship made me afraid to even walk in a Walmart. But with time and therapy and a lot of crying Iâve over come a lot. Itâs comforting to know we arenât alone in this. I hope we both channel our inner peace and shine â€ïžđ„°đ„°đ„°
Makes sense that's deep
Yes đŻ
@@sagebreeze your comment really resonated with me. And youâre right. Iâve been hurt so much that whenever I date someone new and the moment I start to catch any feeling I start to lose trust in them. I thought I had dealt with all my past heartbreaks but maybe I truly havenât as much as I thought I did đ
Whatâs helped me through having trust issues, is having a positive outlook on things. If my partner hasnât given me a reason to doubt them I simply donât.
Well said. đđŻđŻ
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Preach! Everyone isnât out to destroy us. I had to learn this lesson myself
That's unrealistic for many, if it was that easy there would not be so many people with this issue.
Yes that's true
1) heal from your pastâŠ
2) be more open &transparent about your struggle.
3) trust God, not people.
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We need to trust people
â@@playmylistmusic521 even the ones that molest us?
Yes, I have trust issues. I did the exercise of writing down 1) Who hurt me? 2)What did they do? I am waiting for my book so, I can continue the process
I have trust issues big time. I'm so frustrated though, because I know they're false, I know it's time to change but my anxiety is so strong. The pain or fear is louder than the thoughts telling me otherwise.
Any improvement or advice?
@@willyoung859 lots of improvement! I left a stressful environment and a stressful relationship. Not to say I don't have any trust issues now, but my problems a year ago were very much perpetuated by the situations I was in. My stress tolerance is higher since things have changed so my mind doesn't feel cornered and therefore doesn't need to go to that place of being where it's second guessing people's motives and thinking the worst etc. I feel more relaxed to be curious about people rather than be defensive and maybe irrationally offensive with my language/attitude.
Hard to give advice, I feel like our trust issues come about for different reasons, causes etc. But for me, I'm very sensitive to my environment. And I was living with 3 terrible dogs, 2 cats and 3 other people and no one (the three people) were helping me with all this stress. I think me not trusting people was very much a product of the situation and the people I was with. Just getting out of that helped a lot. Maybe you have trust issues but maybe it's the people you're with that is making it worse. Something to consider?
Yea I think thatâs what Iâm going through
exactly!! exactly how i feel
I struggle trusting my lady, because of past relationships. I don't want to be paying her bills only for her to leave me for someone who has more money than I do. Recently I've decided that I'm gonna go all the way, and trust her completely, because I don't like doing things half way. I pray that this will all work out for our good.
I hope she is pulling her weight and paying her own bills! And I hope she stays loyal to you! It's scary I know!
@Donald Wayne Carroll Interesting hearing this from a man. Were you hurt in this relationship or past relationships? I've heard men say this before, but it's typically an excuse not to commit.
tara jones . The social programming is so evident in your reply.
@@DrWood1000 I don't understand what you mean. Please elaborate to help me get an understanding of your response. Thanks Donald
tara jones You stated that when men say they are hurt it is an excuse. How do you know it is an excuse in his case? Women cheat and hurt men just like men hurt women. Should we challenge women when they say they are hurt? Can we say it is Karma when a women gets hurt? Maybe she cheated and now it's her turn? In the black community this is common for women to minimize the feelings of men except for their sons. I think Donald deserves compassion and understanding not slight ridicule.
Yes i would say I have trust issues. Because even after I let a person know the things I've experienced. They still turn around and do the same exact thing..
Same here and that's why one reason I don't put my heart out like that
Same here!
Deadass..women are fuckn horrible w doing this one.
I dont trust women..they leave for anything n u loved her...ez fix..stop loving n bein attached..jus like n not too much in case u needa leave her ass.
ANDRA CHAMBERS RIGHT
Yes. I have trust issues in relationships. Iâve been cheated on sooo many times and now itâs a huge fear of mine. Iâve pushed away people Iâve loved because of it đ
You are not alone I also get betray many times and people around get get or betrayed each other I hate that I am faithful person I came across the vedio and searching cause I wanna cope up from my trust issues I move on from my ex and things but I build trust issue and insecurity that's what I am trying to cope up
Yes, a lot of my trust issues root back to my childhood with having a emotionally manipulative parent(s) then leaving them to realize the world was just as bad as them if not worse and not having anybody to confide in. Iâm 25 now, and doing to work to heal so I can create better and healthier relationships. Thank you for the videos đ
Yup idk how to call it but having mommy and daddy issues combined is soooo draining. How the ones that suppose to love you from day one break your heart and continue to break it. Yet we gotta trust a random person. Itâs so hard
Weâre literally twins wow down to the age, Iâm 26 now though
@@AsToldByKeisha me too sis đ„°
Wow this hits home for me! đ
how do you heal
Anytime I threw caution to the wind, I was reminded of why I always had my guard up in the first place.
Yes đ€đ€đ€
Sis I felt that đ
Being cautious and having a guard up are two different things. Why would you throw your caution threw the wind? Set boundaries and each state of the dating/ relationship. And then the more you get to know them the more you allow them into your life.
That's me
Yep, I've been b*tch slapped in the face a few times also đ€Šđœââïž
I don't have trust issues. I learned a long time ago to trust GOD, not people.
Sorry to say, you have Trust issues.
@@Michelle-ke7me The Bible says trust GOD. Putting trust in people is what causes unnecessary pain which you eventually have to heal from. Have a blessed day.
@@lisajones-franklin3574 Yes, always trust God. As far as trusting people..... Trust yourself that You can make the right decision or not,(life is a learning lesson) however you will recover. I'm Not saying open yourself and trust everybody without thinking. What I know to be true, trust is more about You then the other person. Doesn't mean you won't encounter trustworthy people, it means You have the power to recover. As humans we are here to be with others,(not alone) Some people didn't get the memo and try to hurt us or break our trust. When you have a personal relationship with God, trust in him that he will help you with all this. You too have a blessed day.
The Bible says Trust GOD. I could not find a scripture anywhere that says Trust people. That does not mean that you have to be alone or that you can't have a healthy relationship with people. The Bible does not say don't have a healthy relationship with people. It says trust GOD. At the end of the day you get to define what you consider a trust issue for yourself and you cannot decide whether a person has a trust issue because they choose to trust GOD, not people.
@@lisajones-franklin3574 Wow!! I see that your not understanding what I stated.
It's not an attack on you or anyone else that reads it. We are on the same page as far as God is concerned. To me, God is in everything I do. If you reread my statement, I didn't say much about trusting people. Trust is about trusting yourself.
Of course only you can really say how much you trust or not. My comment was just that, a comment.
You have God in your life, in my opinion; you are doing Great.
Yes, i struggle with trust issues everyday and it hurts so much. Just him being out of my sight... ( might i add .. he smokes alot) i dont trust it. I am so damaged .. my thoughts hurt me.
Hey girl! Gosh that sucks!!! Get with the Lord though so you can learn to trust Him and not people. People will always let us down one way or another BUT we canât focus on the âwhat-ifsâ we gotta focus on God to guide us and help us in our relationships ya know. My bf is a fulltime photographer and i trust him all day long and day and week...until some young-single woman books a shoot with him!! It sucks the things that go thru my head. My thoughts hurt me as well & i dont even really think heâll cheat on me but its the fact i just dont want him around women so closely but thats his career & heâs amazing at what he does. But i start fights about âwhat-ifsâ when he goes out his way to try and make me feel comfortable. It sucks but as of TODAY it changes!! I fully trust GOD!! I give God my worries and fears cause if i worry about it iâll fail. So stay focused on yourself & loving your man okay? If something happens behind your back, know that God will direct you away from him and/or deal with that with him.
@@ItsBrittany. Iâm glad Iâm not alone . This is so me ... thanks for sharing
Girl, same. Worst part of it is that he always finds a reason to lie to me about everything đ
@@tanakamauyakufa3189 but the thing is do u really know if they lies or just ur thoughts đ uggghh the world will never know
I so identify with this. It builds up in my head and I feel so much hurt and everything that person is ever done wrong to me plays on repeat đ but I keep thinking if I get to fix this and learn how to forgive I would improve myself and my quality of life so much more. I hope you feel better love â€ïž you deserve to. Remember you got infinite amounts of love that donât loose value bc others canât recognize that and you donât loose that love and value for giving it to someone you considered valuable at the time bc in that moment you made your choice with the knowledge and emotions you had and you thought correct. You were worth millions before and you are worth millions after and you will continue to be worth millions no matter what no matter who happens.
Summary of the video :-
1. You need to heal from your past first
2. Start to open and transparent about your struggle
3. Learn to trust God more than human beings
It is always better to watch the entire video đ
I donât have trust issues, Iâm just learning HOW to trust. As a child I was overprotected so I never dealt with anyone hurting me. As an adult I never knew how hurtful ppl can be. I trusted ppl when I first met them. Now I know never give BLIND TRUST. Trust has to be earned, a person has to be trustworthy first. So I can trust, I just have to know I can trust you. Then if they break my trust I just see your not trustworthy and keep it moving. Donât trust anyone 100% either! Yes, easier said than done, but it can be done. The major KEY , Trust God not people!!!! Let God guide your heart and you can see what is right for you.
Yes!! This
So, hereâs my thing, I donât think I have trust issues, I think I struggle with forgiveness after someone breaks my trust. I genuinely give everyone the benefit of the doubt without skepticism, but once Iâm deceived I have a habit of getting rid of the person. Iâm working on it.
Chantay M exactly the same way for me.
Joshua Williams so do you feel like youâre working on it? Or itâs not necessarily a problem?
Me exactly!
What's wrong with getting rid of the person though? Forgiveness doesn't mean keeping them around or in your life. It means forgiving yourself for choosing the wrong person to trust.
I have the exact same habit. I know this is a year later but this comment resonated with me.
I feel like I have no trust for anyone anymore. Iâve been lied to, betrayed, dealt with negative people, and learning about narcissistic ppl and then being close to me.
Came to this video in 2021 after an unfaithful girlfriend and it helped so much, back to the video again during a great relationship. These issues never really leave
I'm happy this has been helpful to you đ
Yes, I struggle everyday with trust issues
Then it's time to work on that every day! Pray that God shows you how to trust people.
Toni Fleming trust issues are real! Once we are aware of our issues, then the healing can begin
Yes I do
May you find peace and healing
Yes i have trust issues with my guy .But i would like to ask , if it's important to to tell your partner why doesn't he ask if you trust him or not?
Trust yourself that you can trust if someone does hurt you that you can recover. Trust in that and with God, you are good.
Disappointment is likely the biggest cause of the trust issues I have experienced. Learning to heal and not camp at the place of hurt. Been a journey, but when I look back, I see how far I've come, how much better I feel, how happier and more understanding of others I have become. I am living my best life yet, and better yet is on the way. God is faithful to heal. Thank you for your videos.
I suspected my wife of husband on me but! never had any proof. This went on for months, I didn't know what to do. i was so paranoid and decided to find a solution, i saw a recommendation about a PI/Hacker and decided to contact him. I explained the situation about my wife to him and he said he was going to help me.I gave him all the informations he required and afterwards i received all my wife's phones Text messages and calls, I was hurt when i saw a picture of my wife and her lover. I feel so bad about infidelity. but i am glad Mr james was able to help me get all this information, if you need help you can contact him through Instagram *TROYSAM001* infidelity hurts
I use to have trust issues, until I healed....I would highly recommend his book, "Love after heartbreak ". I had trust issues that stem from my father leaving me and my mother when I was 9 and then having to move in with alcoholic grandparents that caused so much pain and trauma, but once I healed....I don't have any hard feelings against my father and grandfather, but don't condone what they did. I try to see the good in everyone that I meet.
God is the only one we know for certain who won't let us down
Don't trust People trust God
Ask him for his guidance
People are in your life for a reason season or lifetime you just have to desern which one it is
Amen! Truth!
amen
Amen
Amen â€
Yes I have trust issues, because I have been hurt in the past where guys tell me they will be there for me and end up cheating on me. So now I guard my heart, and when a man tells me anything I don't believe them and my defenses goes up.
Yes I have trust issues. My girlfriend was chatting with some dude late at night for some days now and she lied about it. Just so you will know that I don't trust her anymore.
Being on defense and not believing someone is not guarding your heart. If you always have the walls up how are you going to allow love in?
How will you grow WITHOUT taking RISKS? how? To trust people trust God. He will show you signs
Man I don't blame you I understand
Same i have some serious trust issues
Yes, I've had experiences that scarred me in ways that made it hard to trust again, and I've read your book as well as many others on this topic. Over time I have learned that everyone is different, and it's important to be able to see new relationships through new eyes. As you mentioned it is important to heal before trying to date again. I personally like to take at least a year off from dating whenever I do have a relationship that ends badly enough that I need more time to heal and process everything before I can move forward in a positive direction again. A new person should not have to pay for the mistakes of someone from your past. That saying that "hurt people hurt people" isn't acceptable anymore, because "healed people heal people".
Wish u Good luck âšđđ»ââïžin ur life
This was very powerful as I have had trust issues since I was a child do to multiple issues. My dad was an alcoholic and I was miss treated sexually by family members as well as being bullied at school. I have since grown and matured and learned to love myself however failing at multiple relationships including friends lovers and family. I feel this will be a struggle for the rest of my life because of all the damage I have endured. Now that I am over half century old⊠I am truly learning how to be in successful relationships. I do thank you for your time and your laughter during your videos.
Yes I have trust issues. I have been betrayed a lot
@top sam No one should ever do this shit.
Generally, no issues trusting. I trust first until you give me a reason not to. It doesn't always work out but it works for me.
This was really good bro, especially when you mentioned trusting God and that He uses every situation for growth and His glory. That hit me like a truck as i was scrolling through the comments. đđœ
I love the part that God uses every situation for growth, that was very very powerful đ
I do, I second question/guess everyoneâs moves and motives. At this point, im in a good relationship and I want it to work, in order for this, I need to sort out my own trust issues before it continues to jeopardise my relationships, platonic or not â€ïž
Trust issues will always come up when you have expectations on someone. Itâs saying âI expect you to protect me and make me happy â when thatâs not their responsibility. I definitely have trust issues but Iâve learned to realize them and what triggers me. Still making mistakes but learning along the way. Iâve realized no one can make me happy except me so Iâve stopped expecting anyone to live up to that obligation. They are officially off the hook. I now look to heal and service my own heart through God. Canât go wrong when you give your all to yourself. Self Love â€ïž
You are very strong, brave and have courage. It's difficult for people who find joy in pleasing other people to switch their mindset to do what you do. I hope one day I can walk in your footsteps.
This is very true but its easier said then done when these issued have been rooted in you since you were born. And at the end of the day who wants to live life like that with no reassurance or support from anyone else other than yourself. Some people are self sufficient but most of us need the love and support from others minus the lies and the betrayal thats all we ask a little honesty and loyalty.
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I have trust issues, but I think the issue started from my father not being there! Then years of family, and friends letting me down. So, now I donât trust people. Years ago it was worst than it is today. Yet and still I believe in change.
Same lack of trust stems from abandonment issues. Itâs a lot more complicated than just a betrayal. Itâs a way to get past it with God ,prayer, and time.
Yes. My whole life my household never had a safe place for love & comfort so I always looked that into my friends but through the courses of growing up Iâve witnessed back stabbing, two facing & lies which has now made me feel like i need to look out for everyone now. Iâm currently in a 2 year relationship with my girl & time to time I jump & have episodes about not trusting her. Sheâs the best thing that ever happened to me, everything seems to good to be true. I never had any feeling of genuine love from someone like her but Iâm hurting her. Iâm putting doubt on how she feels for me & I donât know where to start on fixing it.
Start my talking to her about it! Open honest Communication goes a long way. Help her understand you so she can help you trust.
I am the living proof of this topic, I can't find my way to trust anyone again
We can heal from trust issues when we take time to break from dating. Everyone isnât like the people from our past. People are different. Give people a clean slate to trust first until they show otherwise
6:43 - 7:00 This is such a great video. Stephan, your passion for seeing lives changed really shines through in this clip. You are a great example of what you teach. Thank you for your transparency.
Thank You! First for giving the inclination to forgive ourselvesâŠfor loosing trust and not knowing who to trust-next, appreciate your words to trust God. đđœđ
Man it feels like everyone ive ever loved has done me wrong, and now that I got this girl that might actually be doing me right I cant trust her for nothing damn, ive always shared my experiences and still got done wrong, leading me to think no woman is loyal and maybe its just me or smth, thanks for the video guys wish me the best of luck i really dont know what to do anymore
this one is it for me.
I feel the same about ex partners, family and friends all of them did me down right dirty.
Yes I have trust issues trusting people because everyone I know and met have betrayed my kindness to them. However am not angry anymore. But I am skeptical with making new friends and dating any new man.đ ââïžđđđđ
As a woman, it's easy to fall into the trap of being 'too nice'. A lot of times we have to first identify what we might be doing wrong before expecting others to treat us a certain way.
Not being angry is key! Carrying around anger is a heavy load
Same
Wow !!!! Literally typed in âhow to deal with trust issuesâ in the search engine. Your 3rd point is literally steps 1-3 for me personally. Asking GODDDDD first if he wants me dealing with someone in the first place. Thatâs it right there !!!!
Thank you so much! I needed this. I have serious trust issues that run deep. From childhood, my parents disloyalties and past relationships where Iâve been betrayed.
No. Everyone gets a clean slate. Its up to them on how we proceed. My trust is in God..
A Chambers I agree with this statement
Exactly
I love this quote â€ïž
I most definitely do not have trust issues and that is my biggest issue. I donât have a healthy balance of knowing when to trust and knowing when to guard my heart. Itâs something that Iâm currently working on.
Trust PRINCIPLES. They will never leave you hanging
I trust too much!
Hey stephan, every woman in my past has betrayed me. I'm on my 3rd wife. Wife 1 and 2 both cheated. I can't even go to my mom because she brings up anything I share with her when we get in an argument. I'm having difficulty trusting my now wife. NOT because ANYTHING she's done. I don't want my trust issues to ruin my relationship with her. She deserves a fair shake. It seems like a pit that I keep trying to climb out of.
My gf told me she ends it if i aint trust her... now im here
Did u guys stay together?
You good bro?
I'm struggling to trust my partner because I grew up with a cheating dad and my partner made mistakes before.
After my ex always cheating and hurting me I haven't been able to fully trust my new manđ„ș and I really want to cause he treats me so well i just cant get used to it
I thank God for you Stephan, I randomly came over to your page. I love the way you break it down and come from a gentle understanding point of view. Thank you, Lord, we need more men like you! Your videos have helped me a lot with understanding and identifying things in my relationships that I have swept under the rug and tried to ignore. Not only did I date emotional manipulators but also had emotional trauma in my childhood. I know I need healing, from putting my heart on the table for the wrong men and being stepped on. I am in the process of healing, and I know there is work to be done. Im willing to go through it for not only myself but for my future spouse and calling as well.
Genuinely realizing I still have trust issues and not thinking the worst when something happens in fear of being cheated on...
I think #3 is the key, I have said the same thing on my channel. Itâs easy to trust God in some areas and harder in others. This is one area where it gets hard because our judgement is clouded by our love for another human and our faith/trust in God. Things often seem heaven sent and then it is taken away from us. It feels like God has let us down by setting us up for failure. Itâs all just really a growth and maturity thing in our faith. đ€Šđœââïž
Trust yourself and your value Step 1
Stop accepting the BS and call it out. Step 2
Give yourself permission to Love on yourself so others will be drawn to that and respect that self love. Step 3
Or be gone!
I have been betrayed twice. I still struggle with it even though I do everything that I could. I have forgiven them but my instincts tell me to apply what I learned. Right now I can only conclude that the only way to heal is to not experience it in the first place.
I came across this video today, YES! I have trust issues, I even have a hard time trusting my own abilities. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with a narcissist mother, dated and chose narcissistic type people in my life cause thatâs what I knew. Those people put doubt and lies in my head, so I have a hard time thinking that I can trust my own instincts and intuition and there are good people out there.
HELLO STEPHAN,AND YES INDEED I HAVE EXTREME TRUST ISSUES. IVE SEEN AND EXPERIENCED SO MUCH THAT ANXIETY ARE WEARING HEELS!!!! IM TO THE POINT TRULY WHEREAS I JUST DONT HAVE FAITH IN LOVE ANYMORE!! I REALLY WANT TO,BUT I JUST DONT!!!
Yes, I do been cheated on in a past relationship and people took advantage of my kindness
Yes I have trust issues from being cheated on and lied to in relationships, and from being betrayed by people in my past.
I have Trust issues stemming back from a past relationship with a Narcissist for 7 years, but even after I healed & got over that relationship I met several men that was liars & cheaters which brought back my Trust issues. Itâs like I donât want to have Trust issues, but every time I give someone the benefit of doubt they play me & this is why I still have Trust issues.
Thank you Stephen.
I'm crying and learning. God is my focus yet my friend (the future ruler of our home) will be blessed thanks to vessels like you and your content. He's been nothing but true yet I didn't even give him a chance to mess up and called our friendship off. God has allowed our separation from one another and most likely him (he's divorced since 2018 and I have been traumatized seemingly all my life) to mourn, grieve and embrace forgiveness.
God bless you sir
Yes I do. That's a personal issue I struggle to get past because of my insecurities.
Yes, I have trust issues. I've been let down and hurt by family, friends and partners. I've been through horrible things at different employers. Now, I am petrified that my current partner is seeing other people when we aren't together and I need affirmation all the time. I have my initial therapy appointment this Tuesday. I HAVE TO heal. I can't live like this anymore.
I'll pray for you. I resonate with you. And I believe I need therapy soon.
I am afraid to trusting people Iâve already lost trust in . I take it personal and then I get stuck. I believe I do my best in not steal peoples properties and not act shady. Thank you, you marked realized that no one is perfect including me.
Glad I could help đ
I hade to take a deep breath on this topic đđą. My ex of 12 years not only cheated on me and married the woman but also pored dirty on my name by telling her I was verbally abusing him I have never in my life abused him.
I do no longer have trust issues I let it all on god đđŒ thank you so much for this video
Thankyou for this.
I am finding God and talking to God more.
I have been bullied all my life and something happened the other day with someone new in my life beinging jealous of my bubbly personality and yet again I was taken down.
I have been praying alot since talking to God about this.
Thankyou
That last tip was the one I needed. Iâve already been working on the first one and did the second one before this video but woooooowwww. The final thing I needed to hear was to trust God đđŸ
This man is awesome. I really enjoy how he says consult with GOD first before making any decisions and he says that in all his videos.I have brought three books, which were amazing!! Thank you for the message.
YES I DO. Every female I ever been with us broken my heart or used me and betrayed me.
Yes I do. A lot of people have taken my kindness for weakness. I do a lot for people and am very loyal to people but I never get the same. It seems good deeds never matterđ€·đœââïž
I have trust issues about being left. My hubby left me suddenly without warning and due to financial stuff dcbs was also called and I almost lost my children and he wasn't there. Fast forward a year later I was living alone working and taking care of the kids with a giantttttt hole in my heart. He came back but now it doesn't feel the same anymore. I just want my family back.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith đ
I do have trust issues. I have been hurt and betrayed by friends, family, and men I "thought" loved me. I also recognize that I can't make others pay for what someone else has done. So, I have taken the necessary steps towards healing.
Thank you so much for sharing your message. Yes I have trust issues. It was a problem that occurred over and over again in my past 3 serious relationships. I had a wall up. I was on edge. And I looked for signed of cheating. The funny thing was, all of these guys were faithful. We'd get into fights. They would say they love and don't want to be with anyone else. They also said it was not fair for me to accuse them of cheating when it was not true and it was not fair. They were absolutely right. I had to really dig deep as to find the root cause of my mistrust. I believe it is rooted from my childhood. I grew up in a community where men lived a polygamous life style while women did not. As a child, I saw many different women came in and out of my home. What scared me the most was the day I saw my mother on one side of my father's arm and his side piece on the other side of his arm at the local county fair (in public!!!!). I guess I don't want to become like my parents. So I build up a wall. I'm on edge. And I look for signs of cheating. I do this because I believe it would somehow prevent infidelity. I don't want to live this way anymore. It's not fair to me or to the innocent men I've accused of cheating. I want to be able to be vulnerable one day. To not have a wall. To not be on edge. And to live a blissful life without worrying that my man will cheat on me. I don't know how to do this yet. I don't know where to look for help.
How are you doing
Trust and fear are my biggest obstacles. Iâve consistently dealt with abuse and abandonment for the past 20 years and now that Iâm in the first healthy relationship of my life, Iâm desperate to overcome these negative features in my life so as not to damage the beautiful union Iâve found now with my new partner.
I am in the same boat. Its hard but i think its to never give up. Cause learning how to trust in a healthy way isnt easy. Wish i knew better in the past.
I have trust issues because I'm so honest about my feelings and when I'm honest people take advantage.
Thank you, Stephan for the sound advice.
To overcome trust issues I would also add: take your time, take a break from dating, remove the lock on your phone, remove your own dodgy actions if there were any (together with the urge to Control others), live your single life with an open heart and genuine intentions not to hurt anyone yourself included (note that controlling or forcing someone to love you while they choose different is also toxic). When you start living your transparent life trusting yourself so much then I promise only then you are capable to trust anyone again. First and foremost you must be clean and honest and blunt true in your own life. Whoever approaches you being this kind of healed, they will eliminate themselves or stick to you or might even change for you!
Yea Defenitly, My brother ran away when i was only 3. There is always a feeling of safeguarding my heart towards people i wanna be closest too cause pain thats still there. There is a fear of losing something precious. Or not building anything at all cause its risky
1 year late, but my issues root from the fact I always see myself as not good enough and constantly thinking theyâre find somone better and ruin things for myself and the biggest thing is I can never fully get It into my head that I am good enough
Such good timing â€ïžđthank you!
I most definitely have trust issues and need to overcome them. Canât wait to hear this!
i have recently realized that I think I have developed trusting issues... i have been trying to make new friends and i find myself constantly being skeptical of them, assuming the worst, and thinking they are going to leave me. I think this is because of multiple people in the past that i trusted that hurt me. this makes me think that what i really don't trust anymore is my own judgement of other people ( specifically positive judgments) i really want to face this head on and create new meaningful relationships.
Heâs making so much sense!
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us. đđŒ
Iâve learned to deal with trust issues by working on my boundaries. Also, I worked on my relationship with God and he thought me that he is the one to trust because he knows whatâs best for me. Another tip I learned from you was to talk to God and ask him questions that could help me make better decisions. I look for Godâs signs in all my relationships.
I have had trust issues, because of a bad marriage I Devocied my Ex Dies .I meet someone who I meet thought that he was the one because we had been talking for 3 years he said that he loved me and I have his heart, but I told him It's one thing to Love someone but to be in Love. After that I didn't hear from him I realized he wasn't committed and that he was involved with someone else. I have to learn to heal and forgive I love myself I am enough
Hay Stephen I was raise up around loving people that make you feel love in the universe very important in they life and lift you up in life long they side as friend and if both of you want to take it from there to next level with trust as two people understanding love happiness fun most important of all insight you have for each other as one being.Renee Goadey
Yes I definitely have trust issues after Appling myself to marriage and through it and after the divorce I've struggled with trusting even allowing myself to get close to someone in a relationship for the last 18 years. I'm ready to trust , I'm ready to be free of this negativity ...
Yes I do because people all around me who's supposed to love me work overtime trying to destroy me.
Yes my bro... I do have trust issues and I want freedom from them. This makes total sense and I get what you are saying 100% I have a fight or flight problem (mainly flight) in relationships and it's because I have had many women who have cheated on me. My current Girlfriend who I genuinely believe is from the Lord gets upset when I question about certain facebook posts that trigger me (even if I do it nicely just to express my concern or feelings) I'm really working on this and I just want to surrender it to God
I do, itâs always a gut feeling and usually theyâre right. I find out they were cheating so I think thatâs what it has always stayed into my mind. Plus this new century, people make cheating as a trend. Therefore I see a lot of infidelity and every female just exposing themselves and that sometimes make me feel insecure.
Yes, I have trust issues. I am in a healing process right now from my past. I thank God for my healing.
Yes, I have trust issues. Iâve tried multiple relationships and I keep bumping into guys who have commitment issues or arenât over their past. The healing process is extremely difficult because I notice I am becoming more negative and I donât like that now about me. Because of my trust issues, I have turned friends away.
Yes I have had trust issues. When you put a man before God, they hurt you. We are human, we tend to fall sometimes.
I have trust issues. Because of my last relationship. And most definitely because of my childhood. My mom has never been with a good man; except for one of recent who passed. My father abandoned me and cheated on my mother; in fact missed my birth while with another woman. My grandfather is a cheater. Most of the men in my family cheat. Most of the women in my family are broken from their past and have been cheated on.
So the idea of finding someone who wouldnât do that to me is bleak. I feel like Iâm not worthy of a good man. But Iâm waiting on God to decide that. Iâm trying to better; Iâm not perfect and understand trust issues is not great for relationships. I wonât be in one until this side of me is done away with or fixed in a healthy way. I donât want to hurt someone good because of my own pain.
Faith..this is so me..I'm going through that now..I've pushed someone away
HellođđŸ
I just wrote this message earlier. Please read it and know you are not alone. Also, you are very strong to stay out of a relationship until you are healed. If I can go back in time, I would and work through my problems before entering into a relationship with my current boyfriend. I feel like I'm sabotaging our relationship. But I found a good man who has been working through my problems with me as best as he can.
Thank you so much for sharing your message. Yes I have trust issues. It was a problem that occurred over and over again in my past 3 serious relationships. I had a wall up. I was on edge. And I looked for signed of cheating. The funny thing was, all of these guys were faithful. We'd get into fights. They would say they love and don't want to be with anyone else. They also said it was not fair for me to accuse them of cheating when it was not true and it was not fair. They were absolutely right. I had to really dig deep as to find the root cause of my mistrust. I believe it is rooted from my childhood. I grew up in a community where men lived a polygamous life style while women did not. As a child, I saw many different women came in and out of my home. What scared me the most was the day I saw my mother on one side of my father's arm and his side piece on the other side of his arm at the local county fair (in public!!!!). I guess I don't want to become like my parents. So I build up a wall. I'm on edge. And I look for signs of cheating. I do this because I believe it would somehow prevent infidelity. I don't want to live this way anymore. It's not fair to me or to the innocent men I've accused of cheating. I want to be able to be vulnerable one day. To not have a wall. To not be on edge. And to live a blissful life without worrying that my man will cheat on me. I don't know how to do this yet. I don't know where to look for help.
Betty Lee I think the one to know. Is that you ARENT your parents. And that you have the control to cast aside anyone who actually does mistreat you. Another thing is that; relationships are an essential risk. You risk getting your heart broken. You risk getting cheated on. You risk getting humiliated. Itâs all about the boundaries you set for yourself and following through with them. I would start there. Look into boundaries and whatâs important to you. Itâs okay. This is your journey after all.
edit: also, you can be with someone and fix your problems. If heâs given you no reason to act the way you are acting. Then stop. If you have bad thoughts and get insecure; go excersises and meditate as soon as those thoughts come. This is about you and you alone.He canât hold your hand through this like a child. I know this sounds harsh but such honesty is essential. Stop pitying yourself and fix it. Itâs hard. It takes everyday effort to change your mindset but itâs important so that you donât commit self sabotage
Damn this comment is really everything đŁ it hit home for me đ im devastated by the betrayal and the lies. I have abandonment issues that definitely started at a young age when my father cheated on my mother and left us for another women. Since then I always felt the need to please everyone, to go above and beyond for them even when they wouldnât walk a block for me. My happiness never mattered to me as long as they stood đŁ
I'm sick of coaches pushing their products. I'm here for your help.
Currently having trust issues. The current relationship ... found out of betrayal then find out it was another betrayal that was in admist of pur relationship (though it is over). Currently working on healing with therapist to heal and reframe thinking and have a different association with certain triggering events. Trying to give second chances as we are all fallible and fall short in the eyes of God.
I have trust issues, and I really feel like Iâm pushing my girlfriend away because of it. My dad left me when I was a baby, my mom died and when my mom died my family didnât wanna take me and my brother in so we got put into foster care until I was 18. Iâve been in 2 relationships since my girlfriend I have now, and those 2 ended on bad terms, the first girl cheated and the other one got tired of me. I love my girlfriend that I have now, but now I always think sheâs cheating on me or she will leave me. She always tells me itâs not true but I still continue to think it is in my mind. I really need help, I donât wanna loose her because I truly love her, I donât know why I struggle with trust issues and I just want them to go away so I can be happy and not loose the girl I am with. I truly need help and I truly want to change.
I do. I'm more hyper aware. I'm learning to re affirm my boundaries & raising my standards. I don't have time accepting anything less than a man who has issues. The way I'm set up you move funny or sound funny I'm out! Doesn't mean ... I'm not healing. I'm in therapy & seeing a pyschologist by personal choice. I prefer to work on me before entertaining anything serious. If something serious happens down the road great. If not , I'm good!
You're on the right track. đđŻđŻđŻ
Yes. I have and have for a long time. From an enmeshed relationship with a parent as a child to failed marriage of 22 years. Cheated on. What I have learned is that I havenât been honest with myself or set standards or boundaries. A huge people pleaser. I continue to try to improve my relationship with myself. Itâs a Journey
Yes. Iâm in my late 50s. Iâve been alone most of my life, and I ruined a great relationship with a man when I was younger. For the first time, I feel like Iâm truly getting my problem. And itâs hitting me hard.
I had a terrible relationship with my both my parents. Thanks for the video
I feel you.
Theyâre gonna think twice about hurting me? More like, theyâll think twice about being completely honest...
Human beings are imperfect. I would be a fool to put my 100% trust in another imperfect human. People are going to disappoint you sooner or later. I only 100% trust me and god because neither one will betray me
Before, I never had trust issues.. but 3 months ago I've learned my boyfriend had affairs with 2 other women all at the same time and those relationships were over 7 months so I felt so stupid those months that I never had the hint that he was playing with other women while we were on LDR
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith đ â€ïž
I absolutely have trust issues. I recently found out that my husband is a narcissist, and I am in the process of going through a divorce with him. My birth mother left me with my grandparents when I was 6 years old. The people that raised me were narcissists and not available emotionally for me. I am healing through a lot of stuff and at this moment it is trust that I am working on.