I think 50 years of bw bashing men publicly (movies, talk shows, etc) & in general (sisterhood culture that’s anti male) has pushed a lot of bm away. That’s one reason.
No, it's a slavery mindset since the beginning. Black men basically makes a slave child with black women who they refuse to take responsibility for or see them as potential money making for them. They turnaround and procreate with a white or other race women to raise children who are well provided for with wealth and access to resources that they normally would get with their own race. It's a slave mindset and it's on full display every time we watch anything on TV and see a black man with a black woman struggling to be a "man" or the happiness and freedom with a non black female as a great "father". I personally think that black women need more brown men than black men in their lives.
Exactly 💯 now the brotherhood have a platform and these black women can't take it. the cats out the bag sisters.we have other options outside of America
True words! Now, women don't want a guy so hard up that he mooches off the woman, and I think that's what Helena is getting at in her roundabout way. But, with the socio-economic realities of today, she sounds like she won't even give any Black man the time of day unless he giving himself a heart attack trying to make money. Where does love fall into this discussion? All I hear from her is money, money, money! And, that's what's wrong with so-called Black culture anyway. All the focus on material wealth has causes so many people to commit crime just to get that mean green.
I don't hate Black women. A lot if Black women have bad attitudes. It doesn't matter if they are ratchet or professional. I've been in bad experiences, some exacerbated by me. You are phenomenal.
@@Jesslit101 there are women in every race with bad attitudes. Unfortunately there are a larger percentage of Black women with the attitudes, hence the I lowest marriage percentage. Black women are the only women openly proclaiming they are strong and INDEPENDENT, which disqualifies them for marriage.
Painting 22 million women with one big wide brush of nasty attitudes w/o regard to class, education, profession, spiritual beliefs, family and upbringing. Seems like a hater to me. If it walks, talks & posts like a hater its a hater.
@@JaniceLThinker first, i said " A lot of Black women," That doesn't mean ALL. If my comment triggered you, you might be in the " a lot of Black wimen" category. Yet I find it ironic that you are silent when Black women paint Black men with the broad paint brush of ' Black MEN AIN'T SH!T" Oprah Winfrey built her wealth on that mantra abd birthed the " Strong Independent Black Woman " movement Waiting to Exhale and I Can Do Bad By Myself were box office super hits because of this..
@Jesslit101 your just mad cause you've been ran through and the men you rejected when you were younger for thugs who used you are now rejecting you. It's ok if your a single mother don't raise your daughters to be like you and find a good man that can actually build a family instead of following the perpetual cycle of trauma and poverty.
I noticed as a Black Man you can be a complete stranger and yet Upon meeting a Black Female she will Act like she knows everything about you and Judge you Guilty before she gets to know you. Based on how someone in her past treated her.So why bother with being misunderstood.
Hi Helena, as a black man I can only say that BM in mass do not hate BW. But I can say for the men that they’re tired of trying to find a needle in a haystack all the time. It seems basically impossible at this point to find a BW over 23 with no kids, a good attitude and in shape. Thats really the main thing we want. Also, the ghetto ratchetness and the obsession with the men who destroy our community. I could go on but this would go for a whole page lol. Great video by the way.
Helena, Again, wonderful topic! In my experiences, many black women in my age range (over 50) have already had that “love of their life” and really don’t value black men as true soul mates! Sad to say, but my best relationship when I was single was with a married woman that was 12 years my junior 🙈She was a wonderful communicator, supportive and very intelligent…..of course this comment will cause eyes to roll 😮…..as for the “passport” mentality…..gentlemen, good luck with that! I love ❤️ black women, just always picked the wrong one to marry 😢….Thank you for your thought provoking videos🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yeah it’s pretty hard finding a BM that isn’t unemployed and has so many excuses as to why he can’t thrive (wyt man keeping him down, BW won’t submit) hard to find a BM marriage minded or doesn’t have a baby mama. So I married a wyt man.
@NovaAndVenus That's a lie about bm being mostly unemployed, and a lie about most of us having baby mommas. In the video she even admitted that bw are dating the same man. A minority of black men get the majority of bw pregnant
While it may seem like some Black Men hate Black Women, we don't. However for the Men who are really good men of character and morals and principles and striving hard to be financially secure; we can at times become frustrated with our sisters and their behavior and mind set and actions. And I'm not surprised that more brothers are beginning to have a passport mentality. I went through that phase years ago. However, I NEVER wanted to marry a non-black woman, I just considered marrying a Black woman from another country. Fast forward several years later, I met a Black woman with whom I had seen before but had never approached in my city, however this time around, I introduced myself and set up a date for coffee and dessert. We had a nice conversation, sparks flew, and then over the course of a year, we got the chance to get to know each other better over dinner and other activities. After 1 yr. we got married, had a daughter, bought a home and the rest is history...
You and I must be the same person because I did and I stand exactly by what you're saying. Exactly and I went through this 12 years ago Ethiopia brother... Even though we got divorced that was way better than what I have to put up here in America and I'll do it again... Kenya... I don't care. A lot of these want to hear in America have s*x addiction and they wait on thugs because they assumed it only they can satisfy them in bed
@@PassportReasons Ethiopia you too! I've been there quite a few times. Some of the most beautiful black women I've ever seen are there. The only thing is, they are the best in Ethiopia. Because if they come here to the States, may God help you.
For me it’s been exposure and experience. I was born in a predominantly white area, moved to a predominantly black area right before adolescence and a lot of what I saw there was what you’d consider stereotypical behavior and tendencies for us. Then on top of this, with me already having different interests and background, I was kinda shut out for a while from black women and men as well when it came to making friends. Now as an adult in the same area I’ve just found it a lot easier to connect with women of other races. I like to workout, go for hikes, try new things, and try new/different things and a lot of this stuff has been called “corny” or “too much” out here. So I agree with other points in the comments, there’s no hate for black women coming from me, I’d just say I haven’t been exposed to any yet that value what I do or share my beliefs and because of this the majority of my relationships throughout my lifetime have been outside of my race.
@@jayflamin313 absolutely not.. nothing like us!! U must be delusional if u think other of races operate like black folks. Black women produce children out of wedlock at a 73% rate. Shall I keep going?
Attitude, masculinity, bad disposition & not wanting to take care of themselves physically are some of the reasons. I’m sure I’m leaving a few out. I don’t think most of us hate our women, it’s just we want to be respected, I’ve been around the world and have never seen a group of women take pride in disrespecting & trying to emasculate their counterparts like American Black women have or try to. I personally think the reason you have a certain group of Black men who are even considering going abroad to find a woman tells you all you need to know….
I wish I could disagree but I can’t. I experience it from bw, too. Collectively bm and bw, we have to do better. We need each other. Thank you for sharing and watching!
Exactly they are the most difficult women on the face of the earth.my son fiancee is Italian and he doesn't have any issues with her they have a child together I told him he got a good woman
Correct 👍🏾… Black women raise their daughters to believe that they don’t need a black man for nothing.. So, Black men found women who do need them… And the women they found are of better quality…
This is how I felt as a blackman when I saw all the hate for blackmen online coming from blkwmn,I said damn I didnt know it was that bad.Now when I go out,i dont speak,look nor help blkwmn with nothing if not my mother,daughter,wife,niece or little cousins i stay far away from your adverage everyday blackwoman!Sad that it had/has to be that way due to how they have divided us in our own community.This fight has blkmn/wmn looking for love outside our communities as if they are our saviors which is sickening!
Black men are just as responsible for the demise of what is left of the black community as black women are. It is the finger pointing to me when it comes to black men.
@stocks-hz1hu These be real accounts of real blackwomen who have white husbands and mixed kids or very hateful and shady commentary about blkmn and so the programming is real and will affect the blkwmn who will take on to the hateful ideologies of hate of there own men.Like Muhammad Ali said about white ppl,if all snake aren't poisonous but most are,how will I know own which 1s mean me harm?Best to not deal with any of them,no holding doors,no hellos or anything.I treat them as if not there.
As a Black Woman, I see too many of our sisters out here serving themselves up like a cheap piece of candy or acting like they deserve to be treated like Queens when they are far from being one. A woman sets a standard for how she presents herself in this world. I’m blown away at how ratchet some women come off like they weren’t taught a damn thing about becoming a woman. Confident women attract like energy. Confident women set standards and real men recognize that. Love on yourself, keep growing, keep your heart open and real love will find you. ✨
You are lying just to curry favor with bm. Make up your mind! You have hate for bw no matter what! "Serving themselves up like a cheap piece of candy." "You blast a bw for having no sense of worth. While at the same time attacking her for having a standard. for example, "Acting like they deserve to be treated like Queens when they are far from being one." Who are you to judge what any bw is worth? Everybody will not find love. Life isn't fair. How anyone male or female chooses to present themselves is up to them. People come in a variety of personality flavors.
There are over seven million black women you haven't met them all and you just hated on all of them. The problem seems like yourself evaluating yourself.
BW were on a war path back in the 1980s, 1990s and some parts in the 2000s when it came to bashing/throwing BM under the bus and nobody objected to it, nor did they do anything about, but when BW start doing the same thing, and with receipts and experience now it's a problem. BW wanted these issues and still do, I (as a BM) cannot trust them, not even you. There's nothing that can be fixed and BW have made their decisions.
It’s not just attitude…it’s seems like every black woman I meet is so infatuated with living a luxury lifestyle and want to use us as a tool to rise their perception… it’s beneath them to live a regular stable lifestyle. Most men don’t care about all of that. Black women have so many standards that a guy like me. Won’t even try to me them. Not because I’m incapable… the fact a lot of these women even feel like their that damn special is a major turn off. They be watching too many Tyler perry shows. Here’s a personal pet peeve of mine… all those big long ass weaves and wigs. NO! A lot of black women look like caricatures nowadays. I still date black woman… that lady was lucky to make it to Cheesecake Factory… she wouldn’t have made it past dennys with me…we don’t feel love from y’all anymore… dating y’all is like entering a work contract. Still love you though.
This is one of many reasons most black women don't respect many black men: You just went and put every black woman into one category. You do it better than these racists in America.
We don’t hate African American women, we hate their attitudes. You don’t need to have a college degree to have class. Ms. Paschal , you are a beautiful woman with or without makeup. As to African American women, I love them dark, but I don’t discriminate against my sisters. I love your podcasts, so keep doing you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Trust me bro. European-american women are pretty bad too. My best friend is a black guy married to a european-american woman, and she's totally stripped him of his manhood. He doesn't even have a say over if someone can come live in his house. Her attitude doesn't seem so bad on the outside but when you realize she has totally dominated him a strip of his manhood you realize she's worse. And I know quite a few people who are married to european-american women and this is a common theme with them.
@@blacklyfe5543 well I guess then there's no such thing as an African-American either. Either you're black or you're African but people call black Americans African-Americans all the time. A european-american is the inverse of an African-American. You have black Americans and white americans. And if you have African-Americans you also have European americans. You understand now? A european-american is an American of European ancestry.
I prefer foreign black women. Why? They communicate in a softer tone, take better care of their bodies, more feminine, and not once have any foreign black woman commented on my height (5’6). However, I still like Black American women.
A small minority of bm & bw who don't like each other are the ones speaking the loudest which gives the impression that MOST of us don't like each other. We do love each other. Go to the right places.
Your assessment could not be more wrong. Most black men DO NOT like or love black women. The numbers show. Over 70% of black women are single. This is their fault. The bad attitudes have caught up with them. The percentage of black men “dating out” has greatly increased.
@@Jesslit101 You've been watching too much social media which is meant to destroy blk love. Come over into common sense land where we do love each other. You'll enjoy it.
I go fishing at a very popular and active area in Southern California. There are all types of women and ages..when I see most women there. 1 out of 10 will be BW. And if every nationality of women walks past me..who do you think are the ones that walk by me, see me and ignore me?? Meanwhile, other races more than likely will say good morning with a smile. Most stop and talk as well.BW know the narrative is an attitude. Most fed into it because of the lack of accountability. That’s why BM don’t want to deal with that.
black womem were taught by slavemasters to NOT respect black men; it's in the dna but the odd thing is black families were once MUCH more stable so ...🤷♂
I always loved black women but I did got bitter toward black women and purposely stopped pursuing them for a while. The reason I got bitter toward black women was because they always rejected me because I did not fit into the mold of what they thought a black man should be. Now that I'm 41 years old, I tend to get a lot of attention from black women, but I'm married to an Asian woman that I'm very happy with. So one reason some black men may be angry toward black women is because of black women denying that man's blackness. And also I just want to point out I am no longer angry with black women at all.
@omegamalerevelations7543 yeah, I kind of gathered that. Which really kind of sucks because it means they still don't like me for me. They just see someone they can get some sort of benefit from.
@@aaronkolatch5211 Bro, they wanted that thug, gangsta, bad boy when they are young and fertile. These women now after struggling want you, men like you with their life together. It's out of necessity. Never take them serious but cherish your wife. Even if you took them on they will cheat because at the end of the day they still love those kind of men, that's their imprint. Don't let it get to your head because it's a trap with fake femininity. Words of advice, but you know better, to leave them alone but I don't even have to say it, you are smart.
It's a breath of fresh air to read the comments of some bm who say they don't hate bw; they just don't like bw disrespectful behavior and distain some of these bw have for them. It's a serious issue among our people. I thank God every day that he made me to be a kind, humble, loving, respectful and supportive bw to bm.
I’ve had my share of bad experiences with black women, but I never once believed all black women are like that. In fact, what I came away with is that all races have their fair share of bad women, same as all races having their fair share of bad men. I too date mainly black women, and I only have sisters as siblings, so I’ve seen the whole range of black women. So I’m always appreciative when I see the truth, and I know that true love is just harder to find But yeah, it’s true, I’ve interacted with many black men that are just hostile to black women but are quick to flash a smile and offer themselves as doormats for women of other races to wipe their feet on. It’s shameful stuff, and I always end up not being open to dating other races because it just feels like a trend to not be appreciative of what you most familiar with. I’d rather struggle with black women, trying to find the right one than believing I’m smarter if I deem black women to be unattractive. The only thing that gets in the way of my loyalty is when women of other races find me attractive, I don’t wanna be unfair to anybody 😅 But it’s true, our community really needs to get their act together, urgently!
Say whatever you want, but Kevin Samuels really exposed Black women- their HATRED (like you say that Black men have for Black women) was on full display. I was genuinely shocked at what I was seeing They openly scoffed at plumbers and other tradesmen and we know they make lots of money. Another woman said that being a housewife was like being a SLAVE, but wanted a traditional man. Another woman said that being asked to smile was offensive- like damn we can’t even get a Black woman to smile at us? Then you had the career women with all the degrees saying how they wouldn’t settle for this or that. Just open hostility smh How are we supposed to link up when Black women walk around with some much hostility? So I ask you, ma’am- who hates who?
Thank you for sharing. It's not Black women as a whole but the hatred towards each other and the attitude is an issue that I also deal with, too. I don't understand it. Some BM and some BW genuinely despise each other based on limited experiences; I try my best not to let it affect how I feel about us as a culture.
I think a lot of black women like certain types of black men because of what has become popular in much of our culture. People's minds are conditioned differently these days both men and women.
This is coming from a Black gay man, I've been a supervisor to some rude Black women and I'm like whoa!! Everyday they came in with an attitude and were difficult to instruct. I know not all are like that, but that was a challenging time in my life.
We do not hate black women just "attitudes" most men will attest to that...i came from a black women...black womwn stop listening to your friends and reality shows..your relationship will grow...😮..you so correct on this video much respect.
I think you touched on the two biggest issues of contention. The weight and the attitude are both in general abject when it comes to black women. Black women are my women however and my preference! There are still many who are sweet and kind, whenever I'm visiting a country, I'm on the lookout for my women to see how they're doing, what's their story and experience and to maybe take them out.❤
I don't hate black women. Yet, I've been participating in the Blk Manosphere for years. However, when I'm offline, you would never know it. You may never know how the men around you truly feel. I wouldn't encourage any of them to share with you, either. Luv your content. ❤
Agreed been watching the Blk Manosphere content about four years. I dont' hate black women either. I have good working/ friendships with them, but I stopped dating years ago.
The black manosphere hates black women. As a matter of fact, these groups are being monitored. That is why they do not have anything to do with black women just like the white man version of MGTOW. You are confusing your own cause.
My wife and I met really young in life, she passed six years ago, so I'm literally new to dating. From my perspective it's frustration, not anger or bitter....... first I'll say alot of it has to do with where you meet them. It's frustrating that most BW are overweight and not wanting to consistently do something about it (diets don't work long term), multiple kids by multiple men, the entitlement, the hypocrisy, unaccountability, and lastly the attitude. As a whole, if the respect, cooperation, weight and not having so many pre-marriage kids and I know that's alot, was eliminated or greatly reduced. Relations between so called black men and women in my opinion, would be better. All of that starts with having more two parent households and shaming babymamahood, throwing a baby shower for her saying congratulations.......congratulations for what? Choosing to statically give her child the worst chance at success in life.
You black men with this weight talk. Just stay away from black women you don't prefer that are overweight. Though most of you will praise and cherish overweight Beckies, Isabellas and Miss Daisy. You blamed every black woman with a baby daddy but didn't say anything about the baby daddy actually being a father to his kids he deserted. The narcissim is not making it look good for most black men.
You said it, weight is a huge problem and attitude is another huge problem. We've never collectively hated black women however there are some who do. Those men don't speak for us and the root of most of the vitriol that we experience and except at times, is due to the exclusion of fathers in the home.
@@123lacantocrs The reason we Africans [Black] people dislike other Blacks is due to Stockholm Syndrome. We feel inadequate and inferior up against other groups. To feel better about themselves, they usually marry non-Black
I am white and brunette. I met a nice black guy, he was an accountant and seemed very professional. We dated and I moved in. When we were dating, he said I was everything he ever wanted. I didn't care that he was black, but I really liked that he was the best dancer I ever dated, so that was a plus. After I moved in, he slowly started letting me know that he didn't like me being white. He said I dressed white, I ate white food, I listened to white music, I danced white, I even "talked" white, etc. I never even thought about those things before. I didn't know that I "acted white". I didn't know what "white" had a culture. I was just being me. I also enjoyed reading history and biographies, so I knew a lot of stuff. He said that he could not stand that I acted like I was smarter than everyone else, and whenever I knew something he didn't he said I was putting him down. When we went places, he always talked about how people "reacted" to us as a mixed couple. I never even thought about that before. We watched movies and he talked about how the characters acted white or black. I never noticed that before. This went on for a while (a couple of years), and I tried to make him happy, but everything white about me disgusted him. He finally dumped me for a blond. I could not understand: if he hated whites culture so much, then why did he date me in the first place? And if he was sick of my whiteness, then why did he replace me with an even "whiter" (blond) girlfriend? Since that happened, I notice that when I do see a black man with a white woman, she is usually blond. Even if she is ugly, she is blond. Why is that? (After him, my next boyfriend happened to be white. It was nice to talk about things like what's your favorite flavor of ice cream, and do you want to hike on the beach or in the hills today? I said to him, "I like to read, so I know a bunch of stuff. Does that bother you?". He said, "Of course not. Who doesn't want a smart girlfriend?" )
Im black. After dating several black men I notices an undeniable bruital trend. They play dirty with women's hearts. GAMERS; (mental & emotional abusive) & PROMISCUOUS. Not a single white man has treated me that way. Now happily married for 35 yrs to a handsome SWISS. Gentle, kind, humble... Blessed indeed. Sisters do not limit yourselves. Receive the good peaceful life you deserve.
we love our sisters,we just need more respect she doesnt have to call me mister,just appreciation, lets enjoy life go on vacation,be loyal honestly i love to spoil,theres 20 women to 1 man,but its only one lady i want to land,share my world spark my spirit,if shes what i need nothing can come near it❤
I have always loved black women. I think black women are the most beautiful. I love this conversation though because some black men prefer women from other races. I love my black women always have always will. No doubt about it.
Besides people that are actually on here commenting, I wonder if not liking black women is actually the case with most men that you see, or hear dating outside of their race. it might have nothing to do with them directly. My last relationship, I just happen to be walking down the street, and this black woman was smiling at me when she was at of stop sign and drove off. I knew that my time in that relationship was short which it was, but I said the next woman I date will be a black woman, and a lot younger. When that time came, I used Bumble, I was 52.(now 53). Most BW women that approached me were old school mindset. oldies music, overweight, masculine and around my age. If they were fit, that was apart of their profile, pictures at the gym, running, or in workout clothes. It was almost like they assumed thats what men wanted. In person, finding someone younger just wasn't common with BW. Most women that were younger were non BW. I ended up with someone 11 younger than me, that was latin which is common as far as age difference between men and women. I am pretty active and I definitely want someone youthful and feminine. She was always smiling at me during our dates, and she still looks at me as if we had just met and its almost been a year. Sometimes I personally think it’s the way other nationalities present themselves as women that attracts all men. Attraction is going to be the first thing between a man looking at a woman. Her feminine nature, warming presence is what eventually won me over.
Most BM want BW initially, but as you grow in life your options expand and it becomes unjustifiable not to try the other flavors. For me it was at 27 when I finally freed my mind
WE don't WANT Modern day Black women if she can't reciprocate the same thing she asks then you shouldn't ask for what you can't afford to do for yourself 💯
You stated 2 things that I can relate to: 1. Black men stereotype Black women. All Black women are not the same. So, they are upset with the type of women they are attracted to. 2. I never liked thugs, or street guys, either. So the type of men some Black women complained about, I couldn't relate to. I also never ONLY dated Black men. So I wasn't always complaining about men. There's variety out there. Even in Black people. So if you're not having any luck, take a step back and be more observant of what you're doing. Lastly, Just because someone hates you does not mean you did something wrong. It just could be THEM.
Social & Mainstream media dislike depicting Black Love and good bm & bw relationships. So the notion is that bp need to go to other groups to find someone. What I have found is that many of them are worse than bp. Bm & bw must use common sense and communicate with each other effectively so each will know the other's intentions. It's really not that difficult. I love ONLY bw and alway will. I have no need for Calee, Becky and etc.
I can tell you from what I experienced dating black women. As a black man. First,of all very few black women have Feminine qualities that a man would appreciate in a good woman, and the ones that know feminine qualities only act that way to get what they want not because that's who she is. As far as I can see a Modern woman is useless to a man which is what feminist wants so let it be. If these women knew anything about femininity in relationship to a man they could have all that they want. But these Modern Day Women have it all backwards a masculine man will gladly give you all that you if can reciprocate the thing to him. Masculine Energy goes hand in hand with feminine
I really love black women they have never like me or gave me time of day it's only about money and what you can do for them to the point it's a waste of time. And money dealing with them
I am a BM and never get caught up in what a BW did to me. Break up with me and in 1 month calling me back. I talk on the phone and act like nothing is wrong. These men suppose to be strong and are not. Bad attitude? Overweight? Loud mouth? That stuff is simple to me and not enough to hate a whole race of women..
Yes, I just date out now. They complain too much about weight, hair but those other races of women are fat too/bigger than the black women they date. Every last black man said the same thing I knew but they will go out to date a cow though! They make excuses with bw but not applying to other races of women. It's a double standard they give us. So, I left them alone, lost weight and loving myself more!
As a BM, I've had the most trauma dealing with BW. From my mother, to my ex wife, even my current situation. I'm so tired of feeling like BW only care about themselves and they don't even do a good job of that.
So, Helena Paschal I've got a question just out of curiosity which I've got an irrefutably eager type of yearning to ask of you which is this: I've heard you say that you'd have to wait until the 1st and 15th of the month to do adventurous activities and things with your former boyfriend did he foot the bill most the time or what?
I don’t think we hate black women. From what I’ve been seeing and approaching and been approached, a lot of our sisters lack professionalism and morals to the point I can’t even trust my sisters. I see it from being in outdoor settings, y’all can’t help but to twerk ya booty and wear colorful hair in an environment where it’s just a good nice peaceful vibe. Even at airports. Seen a sister who started singing loud on the plane and it took for a stewardess to tell her to stop singing or else she will have to get off the plane. It gotten bad y’all. I love my sisters, I wish I can be with one but a lot can’t stay off social media, lack accountability and awareness. I’ll hope our sisters will find their way and come back to us proper. It’s hard to find a good black woman to love 💕 without fear of being cheated on and things like that
Ive only met one black woman from the US whilst i was travelling and she was indeed a loud , aggressive ballbuster. I know it cant be all black women but the way the media portrays bw is awful.
Helena, this is what's going on in the blk community. And social and mainstream media are fueling the divide between bm & bw. Each side is constantly bombarded with negative information about the other and so a result, disdain starts to fill our heart against the other. We need more positivism amongst us starting early, such as grade school, high school and college. We can defeat the outside forces pushing our gender war if we are willing to come together and work things out. I love bw and always will.
Helena, I love your videos and you present an intriguing question. Here's the real deal: we don't hate BW. There are various factors at play. Social media is a MAJOR FACTOR. Women talk and have exposed a lot of secrets of being unfaithful. What they say makes them unlikable. Reality TV shows give Black women unrealistic expectations. You yourself mentioned that 80% of women want 15% of men. If Black men are rejected constantly, then it may make it harder to love Black women. You mentioned many Black women being overweight. The crazy thing is the overweight women want men in shape or at least better shape than them. Sometimes picking these women are problematic and being solo would be a better option. I'm not a passport bro. I only put a ring on the finger of a Black woman and a Black woman gave birth to my child. We do not hate Black women. However, we damn sure are cautious these days!!
I am from a black woman, I respect black women. Every bllack women is a mum to me but but but sisters need to humble. It is s why lot of black men are not talking to them
As a black man myself I don’t hate black women I love black women I hate their attitude you speak to them they won’t speak back they rolling their eyes you try to be a gentleman and hold doors and stuff like that they won’t even say thank you…
No! Most bw want bm as husbands. Most bw don’t want nonblk men and you know it. Bw want her kids to look Blk, she wants her culture to be Blk, music and food, Blk. BW are the most loyal to bm because that’s how she’s conditioned in BC. Now, bm prefer anything Wht to light skin with straight hair no matter size, how many kids, etc. if nonblk women were into bm as a whole, I’ll say 99% of bm would have a nonblk woman. However, nonblk women are conditioned to get a Provider and Protector - $$$, and most WW want her WM. Don’t sit here and lie. BM want the opposite of his looks- Lightest to Wht / Straight hair looking in his partner and offering. 🙄
If a black man dislikes black females because of his mother she doesn't love him. She bet him miss treat him so he was never loved by his mother so how can he love a black woman. Black mothers is the first love. 😢
Ok so I here these experiences mainly in poverty sector of black america. The question is if black americans or only 13% of the population what % out of the 13 lives in poverty stricken communities where they have these dating experiences?
As a black culture, we haven’t been taught really how to prepare or choose a proper mate. I feel like blacks roll the dice whereas other races prepare and position there kids early on. No one is to blame. We just have to do a better job prepping or boys and girls early on now that we are better educated on dating.
It's not "all black men", just like it's not "all black women". As you said in your video, it's just the particular type of people or crowd that you deal with.
This is one of the only vids that was not overtly misogynistic when I searched “Why black men don’t date black women” after having a conversation with my friend. My theory relies on the famous “doll test” in 1940s, where black children preferred dolls depicting white people over black people because of how society shaped their mindset. Although not as prevalent or severe as back then, I believe we are still seeing that effect. Seeing some pretty nuanced takes in the comments, so great video and hope this helps!
I think the "hate" is more about American black women. When I lived in Europe I met black women who, for the most part, had much better attitudes and were more approachable than the average American black woman.
I love black women, and im handsome and charming, but im getting my self together and any race can have bad attitudes,when I marry I want her to be black, when they take care of themselves they age the slowest ,just look how beautiful they are,I love yall!!
They think low of you. And hate when you try to better yourself. Who would want to be with a woman like that? YOU WILL NOT GO FAR WITH A WOMAN LIKE THAT AND MILLIONS OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIVING PROOF.
Black women complain about the black men( Pookie and Ray Ray) who don't see themselves having anything serious but,they don't like a certain type of black man and yet will call them a sell out when you see that same lame and weird black guy with women of another race. Why can't you wish them well if they aren't your type ?
As a Black man Black women are way too fussy for me. I just never have good experience with them and I know this guy who have the same experience. I find the White girls if they go for you they treat you much better than our own women. Some years ago, I marry this young Black woman and while i was at work she walks out on me and never even left a note. I almost went crazy I regretted not marry the White girl I dated some years ago but that is life.
It's not black women, it's black American women. I could tell a difference when I was in Senegal, Kenya, and South Africa. The same goes for other races of American women also....white, Hispanic, Asian, etc. Modern American culture has messed up a lot of women (and men).
I don’t get it… She ask why Black men don’t like black women, then she states all the reasons… She knows why. Their know it all attitude and demeanor……
I love my black sisters, but I was in a situation where I caught grief because a black woman apparently was waiting for me to make a move that I was clueless about. A white woman I met, who I knew was feeling me, called me up and asked to make me cookies. Food being the key to my heart I took her offer and we ended up dating for about a year. We mutually separated, but I caught a lot of grief from my sisters about that. I react to kindness, not skin color.
Have BM come out and said they hate BW? BW have been tearing down BM for decades. Even went so far as to call for the abortions of male babies. I think we are asking the wrong questions here.
It’s based on my personal experiences, I can’t and don’t speak on behalf of all BW but my experiences have been terrible and highly offensive. I also have very supportive and respectful BM in my life. No one is the same.
@@HelenaPaschal hello and thank you for your perspective. my question was in response to your original question about the collective perceived disdain black men may or may not have towards black women. If I read correctly, the subject of this video was prompted from your own personal lived experience? If so, I’m curious to know if you feel black women as a collective are respectful to black men as a collective. In my own personal experience, the answer is no, and there are no shortage of examples to support my opinion. I’m interested to know what you think. Do you think that black women as a collective are respectful to black men in general? Why or why not? I understand that you’re probably very busy, but I do appreciate you having the courage to at least have the conversation. There is a lot of ugliness from each side.
What it really is that you have this Willie Lynch mentality going on bw vs bm where it says about these things to divide and conquer the Black community as a whole which are : fear, mistrust and envy then you have classism, colorism etc which drives the wedge between bm and bw another words what Willie Lynch said back then is still affecting us now
These Black Couples Goals needs to stop now. We need the Interracial Relationships together. As an African American, I'm only dating a Beautiful White Women.
We don’t hate you we just have certain standards that a lot of are not changing. The attitude has to go, being over weight have to go, expecting us to be a stepdad major negative. I had a black chick at work ask me why I don’t date black women as much. And i flat out told her I not raising anyone else child, if you weight more then me nope and I about 195. And if you have alot debt or a job not making over 55k that’s a negative.
Then just stay away from overweight black women. It is a strange thing that some black men mention black women being overweight but will get with an overweight Becky in a heartbeat. It is a strange thing with some of these black men. They are some strange beings.
First Helena, I compliment your beauty. Starting @ 2:24 in your vlog, you asked "what is it that has "black" women so hated?" The answer to that question is in the dictionary under the definition of "black" = 'Void of wisdom' 'Outrageously Wicked!' 'dirty dealing' 'sullen' = resentfully quiet, 'Marked by disaster or calamity' & more! Our countless shades of multigentic darkest, to the lightest brown & beyond brown visually fail to match any shade of "black", because the word is a byword description of what "we" did in Isreal as the true 12 families / tribes of the negro prophet Jacob who's name is now Isreal [KJV Genesis chptr 35 vs 10] [Also read Book of Deuteronomy entire 28th chapter] which will also elaborately explain ALL answer of the hatred among "us" & all hatred to "us".
Peace of mind is priceless 😊😊
I like black women, they just don't like me.
I think 50 years of bw bashing men publicly (movies, talk shows, etc) & in general (sisterhood culture that’s anti male) has pushed a lot of bm away.
That’s one reason.
No, it's a slavery mindset since the beginning. Black men basically makes a slave child with black women who they refuse to take responsibility for or see them as potential money making for them. They turnaround and procreate with a white or other race women to raise children who are well provided for with wealth and access to resources that they normally would get with their own race. It's a slave mindset and it's on full display every time we watch anything on TV and see a black man with a black woman struggling to be a "man" or the happiness and freedom with a non black female as a great "father". I personally think that black women need more brown men than black men in their lives.
Exactly 💯 now the brotherhood have a platform and these black women can't take it. the cats out the bag sisters.we have other options outside of America
Yep. At this point, I'm not willing to date Black Women for a variety of reason.
True words! Now, women don't want a guy so hard up that he mooches off the woman, and I think that's what Helena is getting at in her roundabout way. But, with the socio-economic realities of today, she sounds like she won't even give any Black man the time of day unless he giving himself a heart attack trying to make money. Where does love fall into this discussion? All I hear from her is money, money, money! And, that's what's wrong with so-called Black culture anyway. All the focus on material wealth has causes so many people to commit crime just to get that mean green.
Thank you that's my issue 50 years of disrespect from the black women has pushed the back man away
I don't hate Black women.
A lot if Black women have bad attitudes. It doesn't matter if they are ratchet or professional.
I've been in bad experiences, some exacerbated by me.
You are phenomenal.
So Karen or latinas don’t bye that’s the most lame excuse ever
@@Jesslit101 there are women in every race with bad attitudes. Unfortunately there are a larger percentage of Black women with the attitudes, hence the I lowest marriage percentage. Black women are the only women openly proclaiming they are strong and INDEPENDENT, which disqualifies them for marriage.
Painting 22 million women with one big wide brush of nasty attitudes w/o regard to class, education, profession, spiritual beliefs, family and upbringing. Seems like a hater to me. If it walks, talks & posts like a hater its a hater.
@@JaniceLThinker first, i said " A lot of Black women," That doesn't mean ALL. If my comment triggered you, you might be in the " a lot of Black wimen" category.
Yet I find it ironic that you are silent when Black women paint Black men with the broad paint brush of ' Black MEN AIN'T SH!T" Oprah Winfrey built her wealth on that mantra abd birthed the " Strong Independent Black Woman " movement Waiting to Exhale and I Can Do Bad By Myself were box office super hits because of this..
@Jesslit101 your just mad cause you've been ran through and the men you rejected when you were younger for thugs who used you are now rejecting you. It's ok if your a single mother don't raise your daughters to be like you and find a good man that can actually build a family instead of following the perpetual cycle of trauma and poverty.
I noticed as a Black Man you can be a complete stranger and yet Upon meeting a Black Female she will Act like she knows everything about you and Judge you Guilty before she gets to know you. Based on how someone in her past treated her.So why bother with being misunderstood.
Just keep going round in circles before looking at yourself
It’s a cultural flaw. Dating culture ruined Black people.
@@Keepreal83 he's actually right this is a common perception especially with money, wyte men who ragged gets treated better than black men.
@@JunelliJune You know I just pray for all of us.
I love black women but I don't think they'll ever date me because of my physical features and I've dated white women
Hi Helena, as a black man I can only say that BM in mass do not hate BW. But I can say for the men that they’re tired of trying to find a needle in a haystack all the time. It seems basically impossible at this point to find a BW over 23 with no kids, a good attitude and in shape. Thats really the main thing we want. Also, the ghetto ratchetness and the obsession with the men who destroy our community. I could go on but this would go for a whole page lol. Great video by the way.
Helena,
Again, wonderful topic! In my experiences, many black women in my age range (over 50) have already had that “love of their life” and really don’t value black men as true soul mates! Sad to say, but my best relationship when I was single was with a married woman that was 12 years my junior 🙈She was a wonderful communicator, supportive and very intelligent…..of course this comment will cause eyes to roll 😮…..as for the “passport” mentality…..gentlemen, good luck with that! I love ❤️ black women, just always picked the wrong one to marry 😢….Thank you for your thought provoking videos🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Nigga who lied to you? We do.
Yeah it’s pretty hard finding a BM that isn’t unemployed and has so many excuses as to why he can’t thrive (wyt man keeping him down, BW won’t submit) hard to find a BM marriage minded or doesn’t have a baby mama. So I married a wyt man.
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@NovaAndVenus That's a lie about bm being mostly unemployed, and a lie about most of us having baby mommas. In the video she even admitted that bw are dating the same man. A minority of black men get the majority of bw pregnant
While it may seem like some Black Men hate Black Women, we don't. However for the Men who are really good men of character and morals and principles and striving hard to be financially secure; we can at times become frustrated with our sisters and their behavior and mind set and actions. And I'm not surprised that more brothers are beginning to have a passport mentality. I went through that phase years ago. However, I NEVER wanted to marry a non-black woman, I just considered marrying a Black woman from another country. Fast forward several years later, I met a Black woman with whom I had seen before but had never approached in my city, however this time around, I introduced myself and set up a date for coffee and dessert. We had a nice conversation, sparks flew, and then over the course of a year, we got the chance to get to know each other better over dinner and other activities. After 1 yr. we got married, had a daughter, bought a home and the rest is history...
🩸🖤🌵✊🏿🤞🏿💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You and I must be the same person because I did and I stand exactly by what you're saying. Exactly and I went through this 12 years ago
Ethiopia brother... Even though we got divorced that was way better than what I have to put up here in America and I'll do it again... Kenya... I don't care.
A lot of these want to hear in America have s*x addiction and they wait on thugs because they assumed it only they can satisfy them in bed
@@PassportReasons Ethiopia you too! I've been there quite a few times. Some of the most beautiful black women I've ever seen are there. The only thing is, they are the best in Ethiopia. Because if they come here to the States, may God help you.
Exceptional not a common thing congrats and keep striving together.
Congrats to you! But how long ago was that?, because today's women dont go on coffee dates. They say "Its giving broke".
For me it’s been exposure and experience. I was born in a predominantly white area, moved to a predominantly black area right before adolescence and a lot of what I saw there was what you’d consider stereotypical behavior and tendencies for us. Then on top of this, with me already having different interests and background, I was kinda shut out for a while from black women and men as well when it came to making friends. Now as an adult in the same area I’ve just found it a lot easier to connect with women of other races. I like to workout, go for hikes, try new things, and try new/different things and a lot of this stuff has been called “corny” or “too much” out here.
So I agree with other points in the comments, there’s no hate for black women coming from me, I’d just say I haven’t been exposed to any yet that value what I do or share my beliefs and because of this the majority of my relationships throughout my lifetime have been outside of my race.
I was too never dated out nor have my siblings or uncles
Most Black women lost their softness and femininity 40 years ago. We’re the only race where good guys finish last.
What good guys all you want to be from the low classes is a human toys for every other race who do not respect you as a people
Good girls finish last too
It’s like Malcolm X said . . .
All races
Exactly op
The good black women need to make themselves more visible
What good would that do because they get trashed and bad mouthed like all black women by most black men.
They don't want too because they are scared of violent men
It's now too late for the "good" black women to show themselves.
I'm rooting for the Most High to turn around this division of black men and women...And he will!
No he won't. Black ppl are cursed.
@@chillbrah1010all humans are cursed 😭😭 you don't think other races have problems???
@@chillbrah1010and I understand our community is messed up in America but human nature is everywhere.
@@jayflamin313 absolutely not.. nothing like us!! U must be delusional if u think other of races operate like black folks. Black women produce children out of wedlock at a 73% rate. Shall I keep going?
The two-thirds won't turn for the better
Attitude, unaccountable, social media is the Bible...the Quran, dysfunction is function.
Attitude, masculinity, bad disposition & not wanting to take care of themselves physically are some of the reasons. I’m sure I’m leaving a few out. I don’t think most of us hate our women, it’s just we want to be respected, I’ve been around the world and have never seen a group of women take pride in disrespecting & trying to emasculate their counterparts like American Black women have or try to. I personally think the reason you have a certain group of Black men who are even considering going abroad to find a woman tells you all you need to know….
I wish I could disagree but I can’t. I experience it from bw, too. Collectively bm and bw, we have to do better. We need each other. Thank you for sharing and watching!
And BW are EXTREMELY narcissistic! 🚫👱🏿♀️🚫. 👩🏿🦰=🚩
Speaking facts
@@HelenaPaschal❤
Exactly they are the most difficult women on the face of the earth.my son fiancee is Italian and he doesn't have any issues with her they have a child together I told him he got a good woman
Starts with the Mom
What about the dads that are leaving these women alone to be raised by moms only stop it
@@dailyselfimprovementredpil4671 give the dad the son and keep the daughter or accept full responsibility
@@junedeas84 Young bm do need a father.
Correct 👍🏾… Black women raise their daughters to believe that they don’t need a black man for nothing..
So, Black men found women who do need them… And the women they found are of better quality…
This is how I felt as a blackman when I saw all the hate for blackmen online coming from blkwmn,I said damn I didnt know it was that bad.Now when I go out,i dont speak,look nor help blkwmn with nothing if not my mother,daughter,wife,niece or little cousins i stay far away from your adverage everyday blackwoman!Sad that it had/has to be that way due to how they have divided us in our own community.This fight has blkmn/wmn looking for love outside our communities as if they are our saviors which is sickening!
Black men are just as responsible for the demise of what is left of the black community as black women are. It is the finger pointing to me when it comes to black men.
because what you see or read on social media?🙄 How do you know some of those people aren't trolls pretending to be black to divide blacks?
@stocks-hz1hu These be real accounts of real blackwomen who have white husbands and mixed kids or very hateful and shady commentary about blkmn and so the programming is real and will affect the blkwmn who will take on to the hateful ideologies of hate of there own men.Like Muhammad Ali said about white ppl,if all snake aren't poisonous but most are,how will I know own which 1s mean me harm?Best to not deal with any of them,no holding doors,no hellos or anything.I treat them as if not there.
I so respect and appreciate your perspective!
You living your truth and you wear it well! Continued Blessings and Prosperity to you Sister!
As a Black Woman, I see too many of our sisters out here serving themselves up like a cheap piece of candy or acting like they deserve to be treated like Queens when they are far from being one. A woman sets a standard for how she presents herself in this world. I’m blown away at how ratchet some women come off like they weren’t taught a damn thing about becoming a woman. Confident women attract like energy. Confident women set standards and real men recognize that. Love on yourself, keep growing, keep your heart open and real love will find you. ✨
Thank you, I agree and I appreciate hearing this coming from you!
You are lying just to curry favor with bm. Make up your mind! You have hate for bw no matter what! "Serving themselves up like a cheap piece of candy." "You blast a bw for having no sense of worth. While at the same time attacking her for having a standard. for example, "Acting like they deserve to be treated like Queens when they are far from being one." Who are you to judge what any bw is worth? Everybody will not find love. Life isn't fair. How anyone male or female chooses to present themselves is up to them. People come in a variety of personality flavors.
Our sisters are so aggressive and have bad attitudes,!
Just remember that’s not all of us smh
Nasty attitudes.
There are over seven million black women you haven't met them all and you just hated on all of them. The problem seems like yourself evaluating yourself.
@@DarralLockett Well you need to change your nasty attitude too.
99% are rotten apples in a busket of 100 apples @brimontXP
Great video
BW were on a war path back in the 1980s, 1990s and some parts in the 2000s when it came to bashing/throwing BM under the bus and nobody objected to it, nor did they do anything about, but when BW start doing the same thing, and with receipts and experience now it's a problem. BW wanted these issues and still do, I (as a BM) cannot trust them, not even you. There's nothing that can be fixed and BW have made their decisions.
😂 How quickly people seem to forget this fact!
Hopefully those women will march, protest for black men when one of their men do something evil to black men. Because they usually don't.
Love your content. Great Knowledge. Thanks!
Glad you enjoy it!
It’s not just attitude…it’s seems like every black woman I meet is so infatuated with living a luxury lifestyle and want to use us as a tool to rise their perception… it’s beneath them to live a regular stable lifestyle. Most men don’t care about all of that. Black women have so many standards that a guy like me. Won’t even try to me them. Not because I’m incapable… the fact a lot of these women even feel like their that damn special is a major turn off. They be watching too many Tyler perry shows. Here’s a personal pet peeve of mine… all those big long ass weaves and wigs. NO! A lot of black women look like caricatures nowadays. I still date black woman… that lady was lucky to make it to Cheesecake Factory… she wouldn’t have made it past dennys with me…we don’t feel love from y’all anymore… dating y’all is like entering a work contract. Still love you though.
It's because you're incapable of providing a luxury lifestyle. That's why u like a regular stable life.
😂every. I'm insulted because you acting like you know me..... I'm sorry that you don't know me
Just remember that’s not all of us! smh
This is one of many reasons most black women don't respect many black men: You just went and put every black woman into one category. You do it better than these racists in America.
@worldofmango1409 it's definitely the majority and it's only gonna increase with the media and pop culture promoting this way of thinking.
I'm a black man who only dates black women that I am attracted to one of my main objectives is I prefer that they are fit and have goals
We don’t hate African American women, we hate their attitudes. You don’t need to have a college degree to have class. Ms. Paschal , you are a beautiful woman with or without makeup.
As to African American women, I love them dark, but I don’t discriminate against my sisters.
I love your podcasts, so keep doing you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I totally agree.
Trust me bro. European-american women are pretty bad too. My best friend is a black guy married to a european-american woman, and she's totally stripped him of his manhood. He doesn't even have a say over if someone can come live in his house. Her attitude doesn't seem so bad on the outside but when you realize she has totally dominated him a strip of his manhood you realize she's worse. And I know quite a few people who are married to european-american women and this is a common theme with them.
@@aaronkolatch5211what is a European American woman?
@@aaronkolatch5211there's no such thing as European American either you're white or European.
@@blacklyfe5543 well I guess then there's no such thing as an African-American either. Either you're black or you're African but people call black Americans African-Americans all the time. A european-american is the inverse of an African-American. You have black Americans and white americans. And if you have African-Americans you also have European americans. You understand now? A european-american is an American of European ancestry.
Great point, the circles that you travel around is very important to who you are with.
Thanks!
I prefer foreign black women. Why? They communicate in a softer tone, take better care of their bodies, more feminine, and not once have any foreign black woman commented on my height (5’6). However, I still like Black American women.
A small minority of bm & bw who don't like each other are the ones speaking the loudest which gives the impression that MOST of us don't like each other. We do love each other. Go to the right places.
Your assessment could not be more wrong. Most black men DO NOT like or love black women. The numbers show. Over 70% of black women are single. This is their fault. The bad attitudes have caught up with them. The percentage of black men “dating out” has greatly increased.
Lies the ones that do date bw don’t like us either
@@Jesslit101 You've been watching too much social media which is meant to destroy blk love. Come over into common sense land where we do love each other. You'll enjoy it.
@@Jesslit101 You're the one lying. Always pre-judging all bm. I'm with a bw right now as are many of the brothers I know.
@@alwaysblack2436 naw you are definitely the one lying 🤥
I go fishing at a very popular and active area in Southern California. There are all types of women and ages..when I see most women there. 1 out of 10 will be BW. And if every nationality of women walks past me..who do you think are the ones that walk by me, see me and ignore me?? Meanwhile, other races more than likely will say good morning with a smile. Most stop and talk as well.BW know the narrative is an attitude. Most fed into it because of the lack of accountability. That’s why BM don’t want to deal with that.
Where at in southern California?
black womem were taught by slavemasters to NOT respect black men; it's in the dna
but the odd thing is black families were once MUCH more stable so ...🤷♂
Salute born and raised from Compton, I’ve always love my black women but In Cali I’m loved by all races of women, and bw don’t compete.
@@veche7959 a lot of them are arrogant bro not down to earth
Many black men got attitude too. So spare us the needleas finger pointing.
I always loved black women but I did got bitter toward black women and purposely stopped pursuing them for a while. The reason I got bitter toward black women was because they always rejected me because I did not fit into the mold of what they thought a black man should be. Now that I'm 41 years old, I tend to get a lot of attention from black women, but I'm married to an Asian woman that I'm very happy with. So one reason some black men may be angry toward black women is because of black women denying that man's blackness. And also I just want to point out I am no longer angry with black women at all.
Filipina?
@@kls701 she's Chinese
They give you attention now because of your success.
@omegamalerevelations7543 yeah, I kind of gathered that. Which really kind of sucks because it means they still don't like me for me. They just see someone they can get some sort of benefit from.
@@aaronkolatch5211 Bro, they wanted that thug, gangsta, bad boy when they are young and fertile. These women now after struggling want you, men like you with their life together. It's out of necessity. Never take them serious but cherish your wife. Even if you took them on they will cheat because at the end of the day they still love those kind of men, that's their imprint. Don't let it get to your head because it's a trap with fake femininity. Words of advice, but you know better, to leave them alone but I don't even have to say it, you are smart.
It's a breath of fresh air to read the comments of some bm who say they don't hate bw; they just don't like bw disrespectful behavior and distain some of these bw have for them. It's a serious issue among our people. I thank God every day that he made me to be a kind, humble, loving, respectful and supportive bw to bm.
It is not just black women being haughty. It is black men too.
I’ve had my share of bad experiences with black women, but I never once believed all black women are like that. In fact, what I came away with is that all races have their fair share of bad women, same as all races having their fair share of bad men. I too date mainly black women, and I only have sisters as siblings, so I’ve seen the whole range of black women. So I’m always appreciative when I see the truth, and I know that true love is just harder to find
But yeah, it’s true, I’ve interacted with many black men that are just hostile to black women but are quick to flash a smile and offer themselves as doormats for women of other races to wipe their feet on. It’s shameful stuff, and I always end up not being open to dating other races because it just feels like a trend to not be appreciative of what you most familiar with. I’d rather struggle with black women, trying to find the right one than believing I’m smarter if I deem black women to be unattractive. The only thing that gets in the way of my loyalty is when women of other races find me attractive, I don’t wanna be unfair to anybody 😅
But it’s true, our community really needs to get their act together, urgently!
Say whatever you want, but Kevin Samuels really exposed Black women- their HATRED (like you say that Black men have for Black women) was on full display. I was genuinely shocked at what I was seeing
They openly scoffed at plumbers and other tradesmen and we know they make lots of money. Another woman said that being a housewife was like being a SLAVE, but wanted a traditional man. Another woman said that being asked to smile was offensive- like damn we can’t even get a Black woman to smile at us? Then you had the career women with all the degrees saying how they wouldn’t settle for this or that. Just open hostility smh
How are we supposed to link up when Black women walk around with some much hostility? So I ask you, ma’am- who hates who?
Thank you for sharing. It's not Black women as a whole but the hatred towards each other and the attitude is an issue that I also deal with, too. I don't understand it. Some BM and some BW genuinely despise each other based on limited experiences; I try my best not to let it affect how I feel about us as a culture.
As a black woman i hold it down,I stick with my brothers,
Theres plenty of them for you. Over 20 million brothas in america
I think a lot of black women like certain types of black men because of what has become popular in much of our culture. People's minds are conditioned differently these days both men and women.
U got a new subscriber
As a black man I only date black woman nothing against other races but my preference is a black woman..
Love you for that
Good luck with that 👀….
Same here. black only.
As an immigrant who has been living in America for 3 years, I am also confused about that pattern. I didn't know that was a thing in America.
Having black sisters and daughters I love black women. Ratchetness has become the new normal with women
I can't disagree, I have ratchet moments myself.
I wanna know too. I’ve had Mexican men not wanna date me either once they found out I am black. They initially assume that I’m Latina but I’m not.
Mexican men don't like mixing their bloodline,ect. They tend to want pure Mexican children. They prefer a woman that speaks his language
im Latin and i'll Date you in a Heart Beat ..
This is coming from a Black gay man, I've been a supervisor to some rude Black women and I'm like whoa!! Everyday they came in with an attitude and were difficult to instruct. I know not all are like that, but that was a challenging time in my life.
This video was Dope! You need to go in to more depth on this topic.
SALUTE 🫡 .... GREAT TALKING POINTS MA'AM 💯
We do not hate black women just "attitudes" most men will attest to that...i came from a black women...black womwn stop listening to your friends and reality shows..your relationship will grow...😮..you so correct on this video much respect.
They are not going to listen cut your losses with them they are to arrogant mean and entitled let pookie and Ray Rays pump them with babies
I think you touched on the two biggest issues of contention. The weight and the attitude are both in general abject when it comes to black women. Black women are my women however and my preference! There are still many who are sweet and kind, whenever I'm visiting a country, I'm on the lookout for my women to see how they're doing, what's their story and experience and to maybe take them out.❤
@@blackinthemiddlerecords we wont and never will.
I don't hate black women. Yet, I've been participating in the Blk Manosphere for years. However, when I'm offline, you would never know it. You may never know how the men around you truly feel. I wouldn't encourage any of them to share with you, either. Luv your content. ❤
As a result, any BM I see i automatically assume his is black manosphere.
Agreed been watching the Blk Manosphere content about four years. I dont' hate black women either. I have good working/ friendships with them, but I stopped dating years ago.
The black manosphere hates black women. As a matter of fact, these groups are being monitored. That is why they do not have anything to do with black women just like the white man version of MGTOW. You are confusing your own cause.
My wife and I met really young in life, she passed six years ago, so I'm literally new to dating. From my perspective it's frustration, not anger or bitter....... first I'll say alot of it has to do with where you meet them. It's frustrating that most BW are overweight and not wanting to consistently do something about it (diets don't work long term), multiple kids by multiple men, the entitlement, the hypocrisy, unaccountability, and lastly the attitude.
As a whole, if the respect, cooperation, weight and not having so many pre-marriage kids and I know that's alot, was eliminated or greatly reduced. Relations between so called black men and women in my opinion, would be better.
All of that starts with having more two parent households and shaming babymamahood, throwing a baby shower for her saying congratulations.......congratulations for what? Choosing to statically give her child the worst chance at success in life.
You black men with this weight talk. Just stay away from black women you don't prefer that are overweight. Though most of you will praise and cherish overweight Beckies, Isabellas and Miss Daisy. You blamed every black woman with a baby daddy but didn't say anything about the baby daddy actually being a father to his kids he deserted. The narcissim is not making it look good for most black men.
Thank you I will finish the presentation.
You said it, weight is a huge problem and attitude is another huge problem. We've never collectively hated black women however there are some who do. Those men don't speak for us and the root of most of the vitriol that we experience and except at times, is due to the exclusion of fathers in the home.
I've never understood why or how someone can dislike their own people.
@@123lacantocrs The reason we Africans [Black] people dislike other Blacks is due to Stockholm Syndrome. We feel inadequate and inferior up against other groups. To feel better about themselves, they usually marry non-Black
Just like black women lie on black man
Stay we never there when you run us away maķe it make sense
@@123lacantocrsSelf hatred of themselves.
As I've gotten older I realize I'm not as attracted to black women as I use to be. Sad but true.
I understand I feel the same way about black men.
I am so glad that you speak the truth
I am white and brunette. I met a nice black guy, he was an accountant and seemed very professional. We dated and I moved in. When we were dating, he said I was everything he ever wanted. I didn't care that he was black, but I really liked that he was the best dancer I ever dated, so that was a plus. After I moved in, he slowly started letting me know that he didn't like me being white. He said I dressed white, I ate white food, I listened to white music, I danced white, I even "talked" white, etc. I never even thought about those things before. I didn't know that I "acted white". I didn't know what "white" had a culture. I was just being me. I also enjoyed reading history and biographies, so I knew a lot of stuff. He said that he could not stand that I acted like I was smarter than everyone else, and whenever I knew something he didn't he said I was putting him down. When we went places, he always talked about how people "reacted" to us as a mixed couple. I never even thought about that before. We watched movies and he talked about how the characters acted white or black. I never noticed that before. This went on for a while (a couple of years), and I tried to make him happy, but everything white about me disgusted him. He finally dumped me for a blond. I could not understand: if he hated whites culture so much, then why did he date me in the first place? And if he was sick of my whiteness, then why did he replace me with an even "whiter" (blond) girlfriend? Since that happened, I notice that when I do see a black man with a white woman, she is usually blond. Even if she is ugly, she is blond. Why is that? (After him, my next boyfriend happened to be white. It was nice to talk about things like what's your favorite flavor of ice cream, and do you want to hike on the beach or in the hills today? I said to him, "I like to read, so I know a bunch of stuff. Does that bother you?". He said, "Of course not. Who doesn't want a smart girlfriend?" )
Lol
Ah, the insecurities of "some" black men.
Right…
Im black. After dating several black men I notices an undeniable bruital trend. They play dirty with women's hearts. GAMERS; (mental & emotional abusive) & PROMISCUOUS. Not a single white man has treated me that way. Now happily married for 35 yrs to a handsome SWISS. Gentle, kind, humble... Blessed indeed. Sisters do not limit yourselves. Receive the good peaceful life you deserve.
I think I’m a chocolate version of you . There wasn’t anything wrong with you it was him .
we love our sisters,we just need more respect she doesnt have to call me mister,just appreciation, lets enjoy life go on vacation,be loyal honestly i love to spoil,theres 20 women to 1 man,but its only one lady i want to land,share my world spark my spirit,if shes what i need nothing can come near it❤
I have always loved black women. I think black women are the most beautiful. I love this conversation though because some black men prefer women from other races. I love my black women always have always will. No doubt about it.
Love you for that. There are us black women who love our black men who love us too. 🎉❤
You Said it
Besides people that are actually on here commenting, I wonder if not liking black women is actually the case with most men that you see, or hear dating outside of their race. it might have nothing to do with them directly. My last relationship, I just happen to be walking down the street, and this black woman was smiling at me when she was at of stop sign and drove off. I knew that my time in that relationship was short which it was, but I said the next woman I date will be a black woman, and a lot younger. When that time came, I used Bumble, I was 52.(now 53). Most BW women that approached me were old school mindset. oldies music, overweight, masculine and around my age. If they were fit, that was apart of their profile, pictures at the gym, running, or in workout clothes. It was almost like they assumed thats what men wanted. In person, finding someone younger just wasn't common with BW. Most women that were younger were non BW. I ended up with someone 11 younger than me, that was latin which is common as far as age difference between men and women. I am pretty active and I definitely want someone youthful and feminine. She was always smiling at me during our dates, and she still looks at me as if we had just met and its almost been a year. Sometimes I personally think it’s the way other nationalities present themselves as women that attracts all men. Attraction is going to be the first thing between a man looking at a woman. Her feminine nature, warming presence is what eventually won me over.
Most BM want BW initially, but as you grow in life your options expand and it becomes unjustifiable not to try the other flavors. For me it was at 27 when I finally freed my mind
You just like other nations of women without saying it. They will just fetish you.
WE don't WANT Modern day Black women if she can't reciprocate the same thing she asks then you shouldn't ask for what you can't afford to do for yourself 💯
Who's "we'? i date bw only
@stocks-hz1hu Did you not READ please STOP get some help
So true
You stated 2 things that I can relate to: 1. Black men stereotype Black women. All Black women are not the same. So, they are upset with the type of women they are attracted to. 2. I never liked thugs, or street guys, either. So the type of men some Black women complained about, I couldn't relate to. I also never ONLY dated Black men. So I wasn't always complaining about men. There's variety out there. Even in Black people. So if you're not having any luck, take a step back and be more observant of what you're doing. Lastly, Just because someone hates you does not mean you did something wrong. It just could be THEM.
Social & Mainstream media dislike depicting Black Love and good bm & bw relationships. So the notion is that bp need to go to other groups to find someone. What I have found is that many of them are worse than bp. Bm & bw must use common sense and communicate with each other effectively so each will know the other's intentions. It's really not that difficult. I love ONLY bw and alway will. I have no need for Calee, Becky and etc.
At this point it doesn't matter y'all attitudes really have been so bad it's beyond repair and y'all love pookie and Ray Rays so have fun with them.
@@keepmoving2023-ku7nb Are Karens' attitudes "so bad it's beyond repair"? Or are they angelic women who had bad days and can be rehabilitated???
@@DrUmarJohnson1 all of them are bad including the white ones too
@@keepmoving2023-ku7nband your lack of accomplishments as males are a turn-off.
I can tell you from what I experienced dating black women.
As a black man. First,of all very few black women have Feminine qualities that a man would appreciate in a good woman, and the ones
that know feminine qualities only act that way to get what they want not because that's who she is. As far as I can see a Modern woman is useless to a man which is what feminist wants so let it be. If these women knew anything about femininity in relationship to a man they could have all that they want. But these Modern Day Women have it all backwards a masculine man will gladly give you all that you if can reciprocate the thing to him. Masculine Energy goes hand in hand with feminine
I really love black women they have never like me or gave me time of day it's only about money and what you can do for them to the point it's a waste of time. And money dealing with them
I started dated other races and its been refreshing no trauma bonding, i dont get automatically stereotype. I think more black women should
I am a BM and never get caught up in what a BW did to me. Break up with me and in 1 month calling me back. I talk on the phone and act like nothing is wrong. These men suppose to be strong and are not. Bad attitude? Overweight? Loud mouth? That stuff is simple to me and not enough to hate a whole race of women..
Yes, I just date out now. They complain too much about weight, hair but those other races of women are fat too/bigger than the black women they date. Every last black man said the same thing I knew but they will go out to date a cow though! They make excuses with bw but not applying to other races of women. It's a double standard they give us. So, I left them alone, lost weight and loving myself more!
As a BM, I've had the most trauma dealing with BW. From my mother, to my ex wife, even my current situation. I'm so tired of feeling like BW only care about themselves and they don't even do a good job of that.
So, Helena Paschal I've got a question just out of curiosity which I've got an irrefutably eager type of yearning to ask of you which is this: I've heard you say that you'd have to wait until the 1st and 15th of the month to do adventurous activities and things with your former boyfriend did he foot the bill most the time or what?
Peace of Mind
I grew up in Centreville IL on lake dr and Pershing
I don’t think we hate black women. From what I’ve been seeing and approaching and been approached, a lot of our sisters lack professionalism and morals to the point I can’t even trust my sisters. I see it from being in outdoor settings, y’all can’t help but to twerk ya booty and wear colorful hair in an environment where it’s just a good nice peaceful vibe. Even at airports. Seen a sister who started singing loud on the plane and it took for a stewardess to tell her to stop singing or else she will have to get off the plane. It gotten bad y’all. I love my sisters, I wish I can be with one but a lot can’t stay off social media, lack accountability and awareness. I’ll hope our sisters will find their way and come back to us proper. It’s hard to find a good black woman to love 💕 without fear of being cheated on and things like that
Ive only met one black woman from the US whilst i was travelling and she was indeed a loud , aggressive ballbuster. I know it cant be all black women but the way the media portrays bw is awful.
Helena, this is what's going on in the blk community. And social and mainstream media are fueling the divide between bm & bw. Each side is constantly bombarded with negative information about the other and so a result, disdain starts to fill our heart against the other. We need more positivism amongst us starting early, such as grade school, high school and college. We can defeat the outside forces pushing our gender war if we are willing to come together and work things out. I love bw and always will.
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i wouldnt say hate thats a strong word but i would say its the attitude for me
Hope you know black men have attitudes too that turn off black women.
Im married to a black man and he has loved me since the 8th grade.
This is so beautiful hear! Thank you for sharing because deep down inside, I am a hopeless romantic and I truly believe in Black love.
@@HelenaPaschal i Believe in all Love..
Helena, I love your videos and you present an intriguing question. Here's the real deal: we don't hate BW. There are various factors at play. Social media is a MAJOR FACTOR. Women talk and have exposed a lot of secrets of being unfaithful. What they say makes them unlikable. Reality TV shows give Black women unrealistic expectations. You yourself mentioned that 80% of women want 15% of men. If Black men are rejected constantly, then it may make it harder to love Black women. You mentioned many Black women being overweight. The crazy thing is the overweight women want men in shape or at least better shape than them. Sometimes picking these women are problematic and being solo would be a better option. I'm not a passport bro. I only put a ring on the finger of a Black woman and a Black woman gave birth to my child.
We do not hate Black women. However, we damn sure are cautious these days!!
I am from a black woman, I respect black women. Every bllack women is a mum to me but but but sisters need to humble. It is s why lot of black men are not talking to them
As a black man myself I don’t hate black women I love black women I hate their attitude you speak to them they won’t speak back they rolling their eyes you try to be a gentleman and hold doors and stuff like that they won’t even say thank you…
A random black woman cursed me out for no reason one time you would expect that type of hate to come from a yt woman
Most black women are Oreo cookies though, black on the outside and white on the inside lol 😂 and that’s not to say all white people are racist either.
If other races of men wants black women a lot y’all wouldn’t even consider black men for a partner. It’s sad but it’s the 💯 truth
No! Most bw want bm as husbands. Most bw don’t want nonblk men and you know it. Bw want her kids to look Blk, she wants her culture to be Blk, music and food, Blk. BW are the most loyal to bm because that’s how she’s conditioned in BC. Now, bm prefer anything Wht to light skin with straight hair no matter size, how many kids, etc. if nonblk women were into bm as a whole, I’ll say 99% of bm would have a nonblk woman. However, nonblk women are conditioned to get a Provider and Protector - $$$, and most WW want her WM. Don’t sit here and lie. BM want the opposite of his looks- Lightest to Wht / Straight hair looking in his partner and offering. 🙄
I dont date black women either.
But it's because they tell me no.
I be trying.
I don’t date black women but I don’t hate black women. My girlfriend is Greek and I love her. We are engaged. I’m a black man with no kids.
Smh
@@worldofmango1409 don’t break ya neck shaking that big head
@@AAM2011 and don’t get taken out passport bro. Be safe lol
@@worldofmango1409 ain’t worrying about all that shit 😂 I got me a Greek queen
Most of them are too aggressive, too much drama and that’s the problem.
Saying most is a stretch but I get your point.
If a black man dislikes black females because of his mother she doesn't love him. She bet him miss treat him so he was never loved by his mother so how can he love a black woman. Black mothers is the first love. 😢
I understand. Do you believe this is true for black women who are abused and neglected by their fathers?
Ok so I here these experiences mainly in poverty sector of black america. The question is if black americans or only 13% of the population what % out of the 13 lives in poverty stricken communities where they have these dating experiences?
As a black culture, we haven’t been taught really how to prepare or choose a proper mate. I feel like blacks roll the dice whereas other races prepare and position there kids early on. No one is to blame. We just have to do a better job prepping or boys and girls early on now that we are better educated on dating.
It's not "all black men", just like it's not "all black women". As you said in your video, it's just the particular type of people or crowd that you deal with.
I am willing to speak with you about this, if you’re interested.
This is one of the only vids that was not overtly misogynistic when I searched “Why black men don’t date black women” after having a conversation with my friend. My theory relies on the famous “doll test” in 1940s, where black children preferred dolls depicting white people over black people because of how society shaped their mindset. Although not as prevalent or severe as back then, I believe we are still seeing that effect. Seeing some pretty nuanced takes in the comments, so great video and hope this helps!
I think the "hate" is more about American black women. When I lived in Europe I met black women who, for the most part, had much better attitudes and were more approachable than the average American black woman.
I love black women, and im handsome and charming, but im getting my self together and any race can have bad attitudes,when I marry I want her to be black, when they take care of themselves they age the slowest ,just look how beautiful they are,I love yall!!
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They think low of you. And hate when you try to better yourself. Who would want to be with a woman like that? YOU WILL NOT GO FAR WITH A WOMAN LIKE THAT AND MILLIONS OF RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIVING PROOF.
Black women complain about the black men( Pookie and Ray Ray) who don't see themselves having anything serious but,they don't like a certain type of black man and yet will call them a sell out when you see that same lame and weird black guy with women of another race. Why can't you wish them well if they aren't your type ?
As a Black man Black women are way too fussy for me. I just never have good experience with them and I know this guy who have the same experience. I find the White girls if they go for you they treat you much better than our own women. Some years ago, I marry this young Black woman and while i was at work she walks out on me and never even left a note. I almost went crazy
I regretted not marry the White girl I dated some years ago but that is life.
It's not black women, it's black American women. I could tell a difference when I was in Senegal, Kenya, and South Africa. The same goes for other races of American women also....white, Hispanic, Asian, etc. Modern American culture has messed up a lot of women (and men).
I don’t get it… She ask why Black men don’t like black women, then she states all the reasons… She knows why. Their know it all attitude and demeanor……
I love my black sisters, but I was in a situation where I caught grief because a black woman apparently was waiting for me to make a move that I was clueless about. A white woman I met, who I knew was feeling me, called me up and asked to make me cookies. Food being the key to my heart I took her offer and we ended up dating for about a year. We mutually separated, but I caught a lot of grief from my sisters about that. I react to kindness, not skin color.
Oh how classy. One sista did something to you and you blame the whole race of black women. Don't blame bw for leaving most of you alone.
Over 20 millon black men in america, not all think the same. Most do go by skin color though. Pretty much all races do.
Have BM come out and said they hate BW? BW have been tearing down BM for decades. Even went so far as to call for the abortions of male babies. I think we are asking the wrong questions here.
It’s based on my personal experiences, I can’t and don’t speak on behalf of all BW but my experiences have been terrible and highly offensive. I also have very supportive and respectful BM in my life. No one is the same.
@@HelenaPaschal hello and thank you for your perspective. my question was in response to your original question about the collective perceived disdain black men may or may not have towards black women.
If I read correctly, the subject of this video was prompted from your own personal lived experience? If so, I’m curious to know if you feel black women as a collective are respectful to black men as a collective. In my own personal experience, the answer is no, and there are no shortage of examples to support my opinion. I’m interested to know what you think. Do you think that black women as a collective are respectful to black men in general? Why or why not?
I understand that you’re probably very busy, but I do appreciate you having the courage to at least have the conversation. There is a lot of ugliness from each side.
What it really is that you have this Willie Lynch mentality going on bw vs bm where it says about these things to divide and conquer the Black community as a whole which are : fear, mistrust and envy then you have classism, colorism etc which drives the wedge between bm and bw another words what Willie Lynch said back then is still affecting us now
Because they don't respect us!
These Black Couples Goals needs to stop now. We need the Interracial Relationships together. As an African American, I'm only dating a Beautiful White Women.
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No thanks. There are still great black women out there because I have met them. They're the quiet ones who are not online.
@@alwaysblack2436 No, I said Black Couple Goals needs to stop Right now. All of Black Guys loves White Ladies as an Future Interracial Relationship.
@@alwaysblack2436or Latina's
I agree
We don’t hate you we just have certain standards that a lot of are not changing. The attitude has to go, being over weight have to go, expecting us to be a stepdad major negative. I had a black chick at work ask me why I don’t date black women as much. And i flat out told her I not raising anyone else child, if you weight more then me nope and I about 195. And if you have alot debt or a job not making over 55k that’s a negative.
Then just stay away from overweight black women. It is a strange thing that some black men mention black women being overweight but will get with an overweight Becky in a heartbeat. It is a strange thing with some of these black men. They are some strange beings.
First Helena, I compliment your beauty. Starting @ 2:24 in your vlog, you asked "what is it that has "black" women so hated?" The answer to that question is in the dictionary under the definition of "black" = 'Void of wisdom' 'Outrageously Wicked!' 'dirty dealing' 'sullen' = resentfully quiet, 'Marked by disaster or calamity' & more! Our countless shades of multigentic darkest, to the lightest brown & beyond brown visually fail to match any shade of "black", because the word is a byword description of what "we" did in Isreal as the true 12 families / tribes of the negro prophet Jacob who's name is now Isreal [KJV Genesis chptr 35 vs 10] [Also read Book of Deuteronomy entire 28th chapter] which will also elaborately explain ALL answer of the hatred among "us" & all hatred to "us".
Many of those professionals you know are on social media with avatars.
Many of the behaviors that Black men abhor have been socialized into many women by other women and backed by policy.