The Gravedigger’s Wife l 20/20 l PART 1
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- čas přidán 26. 02. 2021
- Lori Vallow gets married in Hawaii as authorities search for missing kids: Part 1
Recently widowed, Vallow had been married four times before her marriage to Chad Daybell, whose spouse had also recently died.
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Being married that many times is not normal. Her family trying to say she's normal, she's not.
You're so right about that!
My friend's cousin married a woman who was married 4 other times previous to him.. the problem is, nobody ever told him! She told him she had been married before but did not tell him how many times and he assumed just once. She did not have any children and she was in her 40s - he found out after their wedding that she had been married 4 other times and let's just say, she was far from normal, even though her family tried to act as though she was.
He ended up having 2 children with her before he realized how insane she was (actually it was their neighbors who went and told him that she leaves their children alone when he goes to work!!) thankfully he left her and has full custody of the kids and she is off somewhere being crazy..
put it this way.. the last time I heard anything about her was one day, I happened to be home from work and was watching daytime television and couldn't believe my eyes.. some Court show was on TV and she was the Plaintiff taking some homeless people to court!!
@@merncat3384 thank God
When crazy is the norm, yes she’s normal.
@@greenspark101 ikr
i dont think the marriage is the issue. many people get married several times without murdering their children, for many many reasons. the issue is that she's an actual psychopath.
Lori’s mother forgot to add the words “insane” and “killer” in her description of her daughter
I kept waiting for her to throw that in at the end lol.
@@mandaleemilly6367 same
And son
not to mention sun screen.
Lori's mother seems to be off herself.
This family is delusional, can't see the monster that was in front of them.
That is because a normal person could not even conceive the horrible things she did.
Thats probably because theyre made from the same dna...monsters
Thats because you can't believe that someone who you THINK you know could do something so horrible. Chopping up and burning your kid's probably never crossed their mind's 😨
You don’t actually know someone, you know what they put out there. I can genuinely believe that her family thought she was normal by what she put out. Almost no one who knew her in the past can say anything negative about her and that’s telling. Who knows, she may have been faking all along or she fell down the rabbit hole into an ideology that lead her to do inconceivable things. Think of it like those people who believe in conspiracies
@@CaptainCaterpillars That is true..... but hindsight is always 20/20. I'm sure if truth be told that people in her life always felt that something was wrong by some of her actions. Just her history with men for example. Its like cancer patients. They get diagnosed and are in shock but will say later that they did know something wasn't right for awhile but didn't really pay attention to it and would have never thought it could be cancer. And as we know cancer kills.
The most important thing about Lori is she killed her kids or had them killed or allowed them to be killed
true
I can't believe they still have no answers 😔
@@tasbar7743 They may have some revelations but keeping it under wraps until the trial begins. Especially after finding the bodies.
That would be THREE things.
It's actually most likely that her brother killed them, but at her behest.
Lori is a perfect example of that phrase " we truly never get to know someone completely....".
👍
Your right
Her family are completely detached from reality, probably because they don’t WANT to confront what really happened.
SHE killed her kids, and had her brother dispose of them.
😅🤣 no... for real though!
Lol my last name is Romero... aka rosemary translated.
See where Laurie got her narcissistic tendencies. Mom.
*Lori
You nailed it my dear!!
Baby Jane
Sure, how's your mom doing??
@@pamelamorris3148 my mom always lived by a moral code and never made excuses for our bad behavior. We had to live with circumstances. To kill your own children; to be so self absorbed and egocentric to the place of killing your own children so you could honeymoon in Hawaii? Crazed, sick and definitely needs to stay locked up. We deserve answers because Kylie and her brother deserve justice.
Lori’s mother is in denial. She wants to act like she has this perfect all American family but she never knows anything.
Mom looks like a melting candle
Plundering and pillaging everything around you seems very American to me...
Her mother remains in denial. Did y,all know she was never invited to any of Lori’s weddingS! Also mom kept saying she didn’t approve of her men choices? The audacity
Reminds you of Chris Watts' mother, Cindy.
@@VintageRose75 I don’t think Chris Watts’ parents did anything wrong. I find it disgusting that people think it’s ok to treat them badly. They suffered and lost too.
@@menosbbgirl Chris Watts mother treated Shanann pretty poorly. She also created the insane son that ended up killing his wife, 2 daughters and unborn baby. Watt's mother comes across as trying to be the victim when she is cold and callous like Lori Vallow's mom. Just my opinion.
I almost feel like she’s just here to get in tv, the rest didn’t matter 😕
@@menosbbgirl you might want to watch the special on Netflix or at least do more research because you make no sense at all. Chris parents were horrible to his wife and even with all the evidence and his full confession they still made excuses. If anything they’re worst
“I’m basically a ticking timebomb” well, she warned y’all
Exactly
Amanda Leigh Wasn't that interesting that she said that?!? Makes it sound as if she felt crazy then?! Couldn't handle much stress or she was too easily stressed.
Good grief her mother talks about such trivial accomplishment. No wonder she turned out like that with Janice as her mother
Right ! So Lori was a cheerleader and a hairdresser? BFD!
The common denominator is one thing, Laurie. Yet, mother blames the men in the relationships.
I thought no one would point that out. They didn’t like any of her husbands but she’s the one that was married FIVE times
I couldn’t agree more 👌
Oh huh oh well Exactly!! Mother disapproving of all of them!! Narcissistic trait - always put the blame on someone else.
I was hoping they would have talked about Lori’s sister who MYSTERIOUSLY died in 1998 as well! I think Lori has been murdering people A LOT LONGER than any of us even realize!!!!! It makes me sick to hear people say how “nice” a person she was!
It drives me crazy how people think that your typical "good looking" people cant be murderers. Seems like the complete opposite to me.
@@mollyjackson4514 agree, she seems like a serial killer. If not caught, goodness knows how many more would have lost there lives.
@@myunknownland9272 her crazy ass ran a literal cult. That's the scariest part I think. I'll tell you who would of been her next victim, Chad Daybell.
@@mollyjackson4514 do you know if she's in prison and for how long?
@@myunknownland9272 she is currently behind bars, I don't think she's been sentenced yet
"Why not just tell people where the are. Why keep a secret" Because they're dead, duh!
One thing that disturbed me is that the family is still defending Lori.
They've probably done similar things in their past. 🤷🏾♂️
Blood is thicker than water, remember? You don't just stop loving someone because they killed. If my child killed, I wouldn't condone it but, yea, he's still my baby and I'd defend him. My love wouldn't die. That's called being a mother.
and Momma likes her sippy cup filled with chocolate milk! LD cult Mom doesn't look to have fallen far from the tree ...
They don't now.
Not anymore, since they heard all the evidence against her. I heard she was alone in court with only her attorneys during sentencing.
The pagent pictures crack me up... especially since we now know the truth...the whole family is crazy... Lori at the helm...
The mom’s brain is fried
@@imalwaysright ikr
The mom defending her is just…mind blowing.do her grandkids mean nothing to her?
Denial
Truth!!
Probably narcisstic too..
It was sick but she later went on to say she was wrong about everything:
we can see were Lori gets it from her mom !
Lori’s mom describing her daughter is cringe…”Oh, she’s so special! She is kind, caring and pretty…she was also a cheerleader in the 80’s”. She might as well have said, “I don’t know any REAL information about her or who she really is, but I approve of the mask she wore since it made me look better than Botox”
This type a personality can be on DNA of the family, some "mom" just take kids of the reality when they convince than they are better than others, do everything you want because you are "sooooo pretty, the best of the best, invincible..." Is all about "pretty" even when you are so old or wrinkled, using the men to do nothing in life, never had a job, just have princess life.
BINGO!
Lmao 👏🏾
It sounds rehearsed lmao
Cheerleader and child killer what a dichotomy
Marrying in Paradise while her two kids lay in a cold shallow grave. Evil is a weak word to describe these two monsters. Never mind Lori’s brother. Hell is too kind of a place for these behemoths of blasphemy.
And Lori's 2 husbands
Lol. She’s beautiful?? Lemme guess, the mother tells people that she’s mistaken for 40. What gets me is that you’re considered beautiful just bc u have blonde/blue eyes.
U know those people who go on AGT & are shocked when they’re told they can’t sing bc everyone in their lives has always said they could... that’s her family.
She is beautiful...pretty hot
@@johnnyflannigan136 ur delusional
Blue eyes and blonde is pretty though.
I thought Lori was attractive. If she'd been a more authentic person, she would have even been beautiful. However, her conceited personality let her down. I know many people think she was just bad ( i.e. and not mad), but I do think she was delusional. I can see it in her eyes. Her brother too was unstable. A terrible shame for the blameless kids and also for the other adults whose deaths she appears to be partly responsible for.
Omg you are absolutely correct on everything that you said! I don’t think she has a beautiful face either btw.
Tylee was more of a mother to JJ then his monster of a mother. I will never forget these two beautiful children. We have faith that Tylee is still watching over her little brother💕
YES.THAT"MOTHER" KNEW TYLEE would FIGHT HER TO PROTECT JJ, so she had STUPID & GULLIBLE HELP.
Tylee doesnt need to "watch over" Jj. LOL Spirit is timeless, all love, all pure, all happier. Regardless of age, race, gender or religion! Note time stamp 1:50 as Dumbell and Lori are walking in to their church that started the human error of narcissism, lust, greed, control and delusion!
Yea she protected them right into their graves.....
Yes, nothing says protect than burned and dismembered and suffocated and duct taped
@@francescawilliams8177 exactly
Even the mother's make-up is just wrong! Everything is wrong!
😁😅
@Beth McPoland so true.
Those wrinkles are for every lie she tells.
@@theblackwitch88 😭😭😂
@@theblackwitch88 or outstretched mouth - 'kegel' won't tighten what's showing Momma
All the wonderful things are being said about Lori yet she continues to get married w/o her family attending the weddings.
We are not hearing why the marriages broke up. The poor kids. 😢
Very very Thanks mam ia India man
@@jada116 - that’s for your kind words, from a Polish -American ☺️
They say she was a "good" member of her Church, but all those civil marriages (not in the Temple) are not conducive with members in good standing. Her family seems to be trying to save face instead of facing the reality of Lori's true personality and mental issues.
Her mom is in denial, she kept saying she didn’t like the men , that’s probably why she wasn’t invited to the weddings. Her daughter is crazy and evil. The wheel of fortune piece was a general statement for contestants to say, they’re not going to say “ I am married to a crappy man and I hope I win so I could get away from him” .
I disagree. I think the mom is explaining how things seemed as they happened. If she was delusional she probably wouldn't have talked about Lori at all. She talked favourably about one of the husbands. She's a mom - of course she has love for her daughter. But she is also a grandmother who lost grand children.
Lori mother is delusional..
She may have participated in the murderers of Lori husband's!!
She hated them,as if she was sleeping with them too!!
@@minnae.1747 If you disagree why you didn't make your own post??
Clearly we strongly believe that this mother is beyond DELUSIONAL!!!!….
@@TheDetroitblack I didn't make my own post because I saw this one and replied to it. I am not as invested in this story as I was, say in the Watts case. So, I don't know all the details. My initial reaction to the mother was that she didn't seem guilty of anything. I could be wrong. Mother daughter relationship tends to be strong. If she was delusional I wouldn't necessarily blame her. But I will look into it.
I wonder what the mom and her sister are saying now since the poor children’s remains were discovered on Lori’s latest husband’s property!
Crazy how there is something wrong with every single guy she marries... and she's the normal one? 🤦♀️
She’s no Casey Anthony, but id bet they play tennis together at the bad mom country club.
this comment underrated fr
Lol that is darkly funny
Father God 😲
Bahahahaha for sure!
Cannot watch anything more on these awful animals or Chris Watts!
I agree...these tv specials make murderers look like they were such great people. These are the most terrible murders of children.
I totally agree makes me sick🤮
They're not animals. They're monsters.
Please don’t insult animals.
Half way through your comment I thought Chris Watts...... then you mention him as well.
Have you ever watched the case of Cecil Dotson Jr? Thata was one scary case...... he broke into the house and called the family to threaten them after he killed...... I won't spoil it.
She thinks she is trying to help people when she marries them? Seriously?
P00 p01 90ⁿ
Both of Lori's children were found murdered. Lori and her current husband know what happened to Lori's children and who murdered them.
That's right but why aren't they charged with their murder?! I'm not a lawyer but that seems so strange to me!!!
They're blaming it on dead brother.
@@cindychristian1700 because they want to have all the evidence before convicting someone. Think about if it ends up like oj case. Prosecutors make sure they can prove 100 percent before convicting.
@@cindychristian1700 and atleast they have other minor charges that will hold them in jail while they gather evidence. If no evidence can be found which i doubt, they will then charge them but offer a plea deal which will give the couple lighter sentence for murder. I gaurentee you that lori lawyers want her to blame all on Chad.
@@thapoppyman I understand that but finding the two dead bodies of her children on her husband's property is beyond increminating but like you said I'm sure they're continually gathering more evidence! I hope they find what they need to convict both of them for life!!
She's trying to help people by marrying them?! That's some twisted logic right there.. And considering the outcome of the marriages and the fact that they all didn't make it out alive? Yeah... She helped them alright.. Into an early grave!!
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I was looking for this comment! I just said the EXACT thing as a reply to someone else's post lol! Yea she was "helping" alright...😒... What a bunch of Looney tunes.
the Niece, Melanie, knows Lori is guilty. She’s just trying to save face and keep her kids
Zulema alex's widow knows something too Imo that's why she has immunity. Can't wait for trial.. Justice for all
Totally agree they know things but no say no go to jail .
Melanie the niece moved and left her kids and fled to Rexburg I believe because it’s what Lori and Chad call the special holy land
Janice you and your damn kids are crazy af...
Melanie’s husband was shot at and nearly killed by Alex Cox and Melanie stood to collect on his (Brandon’s ) life insurance. See a pattern here , anybody?
She is certainly a “confident “woman, so much so, that she is getting away with killing her kids. Just disgusting.
She’s not getting away with it.
I live in Rexburg. This hit our community hard. You can't help but pass the small jail nearly every day knowing that disgusting Lori is sitting in there. My heart goes out to her kids. They never deserved being killed.
“i know lori”
*doesnt get invited to her wedding*
Funny cause in wheel of fortune and Pageant everything she said came across as contrived and inauthentic to me. Even without the information we we have now, I would have thought that. Also, notice that mom’s only memories of Lori seemed to be as a child. She does not seem to have maintained any real relationship with her into adulthood.
Exactly. She did not attend the many weddings of her daughter yet she thinks she knows her daughter
Women from this family remind me the gorgons from greek mythology. Medea (symbol of Lori) killed her children too. She believed that she would make them immortal by it.
Lori would have made even Joan Crawford call child protective services.
I get your meaning of life, however Joan Crawford didn't and wasn't arrested for the murder of her Children!! PHYSICAL ABUSE AND THE KILLINGS OF TWO CHILDREN JUST DOESN'T QUIT ADD UP FOR ME!!,🤔🤬😡😠😖👺👺🥵😵
@@TheDetroitblack Jesus Christ, go take a xanex or something!
@@TheDetroitblack I don't think you understood my point.
20 year old hair on a 90 year old face. Lori is such a beautiful person . says the mom.
And those lips, yikes!
And the makeup piled on! Yikes!
@@lmarteen2778 ya wtf lets highlight that 'worn out' mouth damn
***Notice how the mother talks about Lori being a mom in the past tense: “the way she dedicatED herself to her children”. You don’t say that about someone who is still a dedicated mom. The defending of this “woman” is horrific.
That ladys make up..jeez..
Right?! Her lipstick really gave me anxiety 😂
@@linamya8692 and her brown cheek lines..🙈
For some reason, older women don't understand the concept about makeup that "less is more" on aged skin.
Her family raves about how wonderful she is and what a great mom she is, but she’s actually the worst kind of mother possible - She killed her children. Ok, now I’ll admit - maybe she was a decent mom in the years before all this happened, but she definitely changed.
Probably faked being a decent mom 😔
Ooh, that "ticking time bomb" statement says alot...
Lori’s family is insane 😡
How is the granny not worried about her grandkids?!
The family believes everything Lori and Alex tell them,
never questions or doubts anything they say or do. That's blind loyalty.
Hearing these people make excuses for her is disgusting. She either murdered or had her children murdered but they act like shes so sweet. 🤢🤮
Taking care of your kids by them being 6 feet under in your husbands backyard? Her family didn’t even know she got married. Literally don’t care if she physically murdered them or knew it was happening, she’s guilty.
This is beyond disgusting. All these murders and they are smiling ear to ear. Did they actually think they were going to get away with this?
Here after watching the documentary on Netflix. It turns out the mom and the sister were wrong about Lori, and they admitted it in the documentary.
Well clearly even the one who raised her is unhinges. So close yet they were not invited to the wedding and they didn’t speak to Tylee Ryan and JJ Vallow for ages and claimed they were safe before they were found dead.
Couple of relatives mysteriously died in her family, besides her kids who were murdered. She's a husband Depot. I feel so sad for those kids to die in her monster hands.
It is beyond belief that they were enjoying their wedding, relaxed, smiling whilst her children were left to rot.
She was a natural actress and people were mesmerized by her.
Meh, more like blonde with a nice smile and a decent ass will take ppl places ...
She was very charismatic seeing her on the old tv show footage, it is clear..
5:25 Whenever anyone’s asked me what I or my family like to do, I don’t think I’ve ever felt the need to mention my backyard acreage.
Exactly! It shows she's always been about putting on a fake persona. She felt the need to let the world know that she's got money.
I feel the same way, a wonderful husband Ryan two beautiful children and we play games on our three acres .That was a weird thing to say . What happened Lori? RIP Tylee and JJ
What is really bizarre about this whole thing is how she has like minded people around her consistently carrying out the same evil acts she was doing, her brother and then this random man she just meets. That really shocks me, how did she control these people? How did she find this man?
Why wasn't the mother given the much needed professional help w her hair and makeup before going before the camera??
Thank you! Yes, please- bllllleeeeennnd that lip liner, for the love of all that is good! So distracting!
Boy! She nailed the ticking time bomb 💣 part!! She left out the bat sh*t crazy part though!
4 failed marriages, BSC kinda a given ...
It’s weird how people who are accused of something take out their phones to video those videotaping them!
1:43: “I’LL SHOW THEM!”
So creepy how she says she's a "ticking timebomb" Damn!!!
Having heard her mom, I think I am a step closer to understanding whence Lori sprung.
Her next victim would of been Chad Daybell himself. I can promise y'all that.
@@Ink_Panther both of em would of been dead within a year. I'd bet my life on it.
You can be SOOOO closed with someone BUT still don’t know them! REMEMBER THAT
I love the testimonial from these family members. I would like to know what they have to say now.
Finally, I was waiting for this mini documentary to come out!
When I watched the news abt this I prayed that they find JJ and Tylee alive, so it really broke my heart when they were found in the guy's backyard. Rest in peace little angels 💕💕
Look at the damage one sociopath can do.
Lori must be insane after all. I’m 68 and would be repulsed by Chad! On a superficial level.
I'm here because of murder mystery and makeup "love ya Baily "
Me too! #suspish
Shout out to Nate from E Idaho news for tracking them down in Hawaii and keeping on their arse. He is a brilliant journalist and deserves awards.
Dont forget Justine, he has done a lot on this case
Yep great effort, no sand pebble goes unturned ...
These pictures and videos of her don’t even look like the same person .
I think she's a chameleon! She changes her personality to fit the man she's with at the time! I think they fall in love with the person they think she is then later the real Lori comes out and then the relationship ends!! I think she's had mental health issues for years and all her husbands discovered that after the marriage!! Just because she's charismatic, charming and beautiful doesn't mean she would make a good spouse! Psychopathic and sociopathic behavior can be hidden, at least for a time, by someone like her! I'm glad she's finally locked up!!
So will they post the whole story or are we going to be left hanging after the 5th video?
Anything you want to know about this couple is all over CZcams and has been for the past year! She is still n jail awaiting trial in March as well as chad daybell. She is called the DOOMSDAY CULTMOM on CZcams. This 20/20 special is not even getting you 10% of the info on the disgustingness of the case.
I cover the case on my channel. ❤️
Full episode is on Hulu
If you go to A murderous heart, on CZcams, Annie is Joseph Ryans sister and Tylees Aunt, she has done an amazing amount of research, no speculation just facts.
Being married 5 times before you're 50 is a red flag. 🚩
2:25 Wrinkly mom and daughter. It really is true that if you want to see how a woman will age look at her mother. 😬
😲😀
Now I can see where Lori gets the fakeness from? Her own mother is in denial. That woman thinks her daughter is sweet and smart? Good Lord.. This family is crazy and needs to be locked up for letting her daughter be who she is
wondered when they were gonna air this story
First thing Lori’s mom mentioned:
Shallow, things like fake beauty.
THEN, mentioned her kids.
Lori’s non-stop court smirk
=
evil narcissist.
The family is in such denial it’s terrible to see....sometimes people aren’t who you think they are, if she truly cared about her children they wouldn’t be dead ....
Thank you for keeping this matter alive!!! Hopefully, justice will come when they go to trial. Hopefully, it will be televised so people see how deceiving Chad and Lori were AS WELL AS some of those who were also involved!!!!!
That couple is evil!!!! Lori’s mother is a serious nutcase along with Lori’s sister.
Thank you for uploading this from UK 🇬🇧
“What do you like to do for fun?”
Such a loaded question.
Man I hope my mother wouldn't stand up for me if I did what Lori did. Wow guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
“So I’m basically a ticking time bomb “ yea trust me we know 😒
The kind of mother she is? She would never harm her kids? Delusional.
She knew those kids were dead!! She said 1000times she knew exactly where they were and they were ok!!!
“Lori is a great mother!”
*Lori murders kids bc she’s selfish and got tired of dealing with everything
Her first two husbands must be counting their lucky stars they were not on her hit list.
Watched it yesterday. Can’t believe there are no murder charges yet. Hope the children get justice.
I’ve been waiting for a 20/20 on this story.
Watching her insane Family deny that she would ever hurt her children when the kids had been missing for MONTHS blew my mind! most surreal thing I've ever seen I think.
Lori's Mom: *"...she's generous to a fault."*
Me: *Yeah, generous with poison...literally and figuratively!*
Side Note: Someone needs to put glasses on Lori's mom so she can see what her face looks like. Calm down on the make-up...you are wayyyy too old and the lip liner is just ick!
You’ve got to love when the bad guy throws their phone up to try and intimidate.
4 husbands!!!! But never her fault if the marriage breaks down. Lori is a calculating sociopath, and the other women in her family are in complete denial. If she were my daughter, I would be deeply ashamed and full of remorse and regret.
Pay attention people. Psychos come in different forms. They're not all scary looking and easily to spot which is the scariest thing of all. They could be living right next door, going to your church or even working right beside you. They live and move among us completely undetected. Absolutely terrifying.
Zulema uses the same line as Chad to describe Alex's death, Pawlowski says Zulema called her, but yet noone tells his mother for a week. If that isnt a recurring theme I dont know what is. Pawlowski stated last year they werent close, until recently when suddenly he became her vault? She doesnt mention the kids being gone despite living next door & adopting the same bizarre beliefs. She is key in this & those kids deserve full justice.
I was following this story last year.... so sad 😞
Who does the mom think she's kidding with that ridic wig on??
7:57 my impressions of alex was .. isn't it supposed to be were ?
My impressions of alex were
You don't have to marry every man you date!!
I always wonder if one of Loris many major manipulations was convincing Colby that Joseph Ryan sexually abused him? I tend to believe any victim but we're talking about a literal sociopathic list whose end game at least with Joseph Ryan was custody of Tylee! My heart breaks for all Loris victims! Colby has to live out his life with the knowledge that his mother killed his beloved siblings. I pray he finds peace with his beautiful wife and children.
Yes, I agree, I also think Joe Ryan didn't do it (and I usually tend to believe the victim as well). But I also think - like you said - that Colby thinks he did. It's the result of brainwashing and gaslightning.
From all that we've learned about Lori it's exactly her MO! She's always been a manipulative person and had no problems to use and even destroy all of her kids (including Colby, just in a different way) to reach her goals.
She’s on wheel of fortune and he says “alright... sounds like you have a nice life” as if he knows she is inflating her story of happiness
She was flexing not living on a city lot - Wow 3 whole acres, sounds like space for a comfy lil home and a private cemetery to boot!