Total confusion/babble to Lucidity/composure to wisdom in 8 minutes đł
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 20. 06. 2023
- Dad was extremely confused. The confusion was building on itself and he was becoming extremely frustrated. I tried to help him clear his mind for a second (closing his eyes) and this time he was able to recover his composure and reach a moment of lucidity. It was a heartwarming transformation over 8 minutes.
Sometimes we all need to sit back, close our eyes and restart. You done well Dan.
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He may enjoy looking at a journal or magazine for his podiatry profession. Just a suggestion
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đ§Danđâšđso sweet
Ed is a very wise and thoughtful manâ„ïž
Your dad is always telling you how proud he is of you. People donât even get that from lucid parents. Your so loved.
Absolutely! You know I didnât realize that my family life was so different and great. I assumed everyone had what I had until I realized that we all have different family experiences. Some arenât so lucky.
You two are so lovely with one another. It must take endless patience when someone has memory loss and hearing issues but how you support your lovely dad is wonderful to see. Grandpa is such a sweetheart â€
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I like when his dad said okay so if I lean back and close my eyes then what
It so cool to see the Progression Dan has with his father during this process, Dan thank for Sharing man It pretty darn cool to see
Amen
Thanks for that practical psychology Dan. Iâm learning from you.
No it's not its very sad I watched the same thing with my mom!! God bless him
âââ@@slimkim2506 I too watched it with my Mom & you're right it is sad. But for all of those who come after us & will experience these same situations with their loved ones, these videos are informative. There are increases in cognitive diagnoses such as Dementia, Alzheimer's, Lewy Body Dementia, Frontal Temporal Lobe Dementia & others. For those of us who choose to keep our loved ones at home, whether by choice or because of the cost of Nursing Homes usually requiring a full time aide or nurse, a Memory Care Facility or Full Time Skilled Care, people need to know what they're getting into by making the choice Dan & his family have made.
I'm sorry about your Mother; mine passed from Alzheimer's in 2017
The way you told Dad to open his eyes and he smiles "I'm here!" and the laugh. Hes just a gem this man.
Also the way he was immediately uncomfortable with a cell phone camera.on him and asking if his son is uploading stuff to the Internet or "satellites"...
Dan, your "eye-shutting" strategy was brilliant! From the perspective of a Registered Nurse, I can see how It gave Dad a chance to mentally disconnect for just a moment, and then refocus. You are a wise man, just like your dad. Sending much love to you and your family.â€â€
Yes! This was great!
Bless you Dan. One thing your dad doesn't forget is how proud he is of his family.
Never forgets.
He really loves his family.
Love that so much! â€
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This is not confusion. It is pure love. It is a reflection of divine love and its a privilege for us humans to see it in action â€
Thank God this dear man still feels a connection with his family. Thank God for his family taking care of him and making his life bearable. What a fine family.â€
It is confusion, but he comes out of it here pretty well.
Thanks Dan, you gave me food for thought. The world needs more people like you.
Thank you so much
Love your family Dan you & ur wife and ur brother are going 2 be blessed abundantly â€
I am new to watching your videos. The love from your father for his family is just heartwarming, and I love how his sons watch over him. God bless your family
Godbless you Dan, The conversation was beautiful.
Thank you
I loved the part in the conversation discussing how science will always be the constant between varying cultures. Under the illness your father.s intelligence shines through
That was amazing to me.
Yes. As a nurse manager who worked in a Dementia unit for years, I always check the area of a person's record that informs of the PERSON they were before the Dementia. A person's presentation can differ based on the totality of their life.
That was a problem with my dad...when a man that old wakes up, bedhead & unshaven, the hospital treated him like he was some old man from skid row. My dad didn't even have dementia, he was just aging & pumped full of drugs that were confusing him. He was a major person in management at AT&T, with a full life, & very smart. So we took him home & took care of him for 6 years with zero help before his body quit. And he died happy.
â@@dsalnorcal1434Truly amazing !! If the whole world could be in peace like the space station ... Take the gravity away and the hate goes too ? đ
â@@lic.8544Bless you for doing that. I tried my best. dad Alzheimer's but at same time Mum frailer with vascular dementia, TIAs COPD, heart failure ..... ! I was a snivelling 6 stone husk of a person and eventually had to put dad in care, I hated myself for it, but as lovely as he was usually, in his confusion he became too much, dangerous and difficult !
Love the way you use common sense to guide how to get your dad out of the confusion. As a nurse I worked with many dementia patients and it is heartbreaking when the confusion and frustration take over. You have such a calming effect on your father and that is a blessing to you both â€
Thank you so much
Absolutely!!! â€. (Retired Alzheimerâs nurse).
Ed loves to talk with Dan who certainly has a calming effect on me too! His approach is intelligent and compassionate and very refreshing. God bless him! â€
@@dsalnorcal1434... youâre a Great Son!!!!!!!!!!!!
The shutting of his eyes, really put out of his confusion. Love how he held out to the end with his chat with Dan. Love you all
Dan, you help me with certain ways to talk and reason with my Mom, who is also 91, with short term memory dementia. I love the way he and yourself relate to each other. â€
Best of luck with your mom.
@@dsalnorcal1434 thank you. I love her so much
My mum had vascular dementia, She always smiled even when in pain, love and miss her every day, đđŒđ
I really loved him telling you how well you have done. Those are wonderful words to hear from a parent.
You handled that perfectly Dan â€ïž
Thank you
Dan, it's obvious that you've educated yourself on your father's condition. You're good at redirection and validation.
Dan, youâre doing a fine job with your Dad. I know what itâs like. It can be stressful, but is also intensely rewarding. You have a beautiful family.
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Two years of practice
Ed's a snappy dresser, has very nice leggs and a great personality. If he didn't have this great interaction with his family everyday i don't think he would make it very long. Dan you are figuring this out like a pro
Since I have been watching Granpa, Dan and Danielle it has helped me with my relationship with my 87 year old mother. I have more patience and understanding and I see the funny side of life. Thanks and keep going â€
You have to see the funny side else you will lose it !!
I cared for both my parents as long as humanly possible, Alzheimer's 1 Vascular Dementia the other at the same time. Very difficult and different illnesses. Dad was back years ago without us and mum couldn't remember five minutes ago ... Complete madness, almost broke me. I hope you get help and support !
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This comment makes my day.
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I lost my grandparents both to Alzheimer's, Gma this April, and my Gpa 11 years ago. We all took care of them both, and just this evening, I was sitting on the porch with my aunt when we figured out that we both watch the Salinger's channel. We concurred that we really could have benefitted from having Dan's videos then; he is amazing with Ed. And you can't help but love Gpa, even the ones I watch through tears, I'm still smiling. He reminds me of my Gpa, always worrying about something, bless their big, giant hearts. I'm so thankful for them sharing their journey with us all.đ„°
Dan, you have such a holistic approach when dealing with Dr. Ed and his needs. Your journey is helping so many people.
Youâre a great son to such a wonderful fatherâ€
Dan your father is a great man I wish you all the very best
Dan, I love how you comfort him when he's confused. Just saying, "you're OK" to him probably helps his anxiety. It helps me when someone says that to me.
MS DANIELLE, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THAT DAD ALWAYS HAS TO MAKE SURE YOUR OK. đ
Dan, bless your soul. You are so wonderful with Grandpa Ed. He couldn't be in better hands.đâ€đ
Thanks so much
Chiming in from Jamaica. I just love how patient you are with your father. In my culture this is the norm for your ailing parents to live with you. We just think they would be happier and healthier being around their family. My father had dementia for the last part of his life, but he was lucid for the most part I really wish I could have back even 1 of those days with him. His passing was very hard on the family but watching your video is tremendously healing for me. I really can't explain it but somehow I can see my Dad in your Dad even though you are so far away and of an entirely different culture. I really appreciate this.
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This is really good. My mom had similar memory loss but was fun to be around. We took her everywhere. Her grandkids enjoyed being around her and treated her with much care and appreciation. She passed at 98.
Thank God for you and your family sharing these videos help lots of people.
89 not 98. I wish it was.đ
That reset was crazy
What a great idea for him to sit back and close his eyes for a moment. I might have to try that with my dad. (Or maybe even myself!) I love your videos! They are encouraging to me as a sole caregiver. My hubby does help, for which Iâm thankful. I happy that you have someone to share the responsibilities with! What a blessing Danielle and Mark are!!
Let me know how it goes.
Sound like your doing a great job @sassygranny with the help of hubby I pray the Lord give you a double portion of strength great health n healing when feeling broken â€
I feel ya....I care for my Mamaw 82, who has had 3 massive strokes in 2 years. She has 5 children all still alive and very capable of helping. Yet she hasn't seen none of them in over a month. Her oldest has her bank account and he is using her money to buy tractors and farm equipment while I'm struggling to feed us.
What a Amazing man. 91 and still thinking of still doing more work wise. When we have people from teens- retirement age who runs from the word work let alone do work! Bless him we love you Grandpa and family đ
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When my grandma had dementia she always asked me to help her apply to jobs and update her resume đ
I'm 75. Cannot imagine living that long and been that cool.â€
That was brilliant having him close his eyes. His brain keeps seeking knowledge of the world, daily life, and the thing that matters most, his love for his family. That's his grounding point. I love the fact you always remind him he did well and helped people. It brings peace. Beautiful.â€
God Bless the Doctor, he's trying to formulate some thoughts in his mind and its difficult, but he does have things he wants to convey. What a gentleman.
I just can't get enough of this. I selfishly wish dad lasts many many more years because I don't want these videos to end. Thank you so much for sharing him with the world. We're going through the same thing with my 84 year old mom and you've helped me learn how to deal with it better. đ€đ„°đđ
I don't know if I would have the patience of Dan or Danielle answering the same questions every day all day long. Sometimes Grandpa Ed gets very agitated and gets wound up. He usually freaks out about his car and car keys and bank account and money. I love Grandpa. God bless the Salinger family!
Well hope letâs hope your loved ones will have patience when itâs you needing help. Bc we are going to get there is we live king enough
You gave his mind a chance to reset...love it! Great job Dan! â€đ
What Dan says and does IS HARDER than anyone cld imagine â€ïžđ LOTS OF PATIENCE â€ïž
We could imagine but the experience Dan and Danielle go through is not easy. Thank God they go and take small vacations and Mark helps out too, so Dan won't be the only brother helping his father. Dan and Danielle is super people to do what they do.
A wonderful idea to get his mind to pause from that confused state. You helped him re-focus to a better a state-of-mind.
You're such a good son, Dan. It can't be easy dealing with dad's decline. He is still so loving.
As a retired Alzheimerâs nurse , I think you are doing a marvelous job ! I shared your website with many of my nurse friends that are still working, especially the ones, in leading rolls, that hopefully will share your site , also ! As I think back on my training for dementia and Alzheimerâs, I remember many of the very things that you share ! Your patience and humbleness are amazing ! That is the main problem many family caretakers have . It is definitely a very demanding challenge and bless your heart and soul for all that you do ! Wishing you all the best in this world! Hope
YOUR DAD IS VERY SPECIAL AND I ADMIRE HIS WONDERFUL HUMILITY. A VERY GOOD HEARTED MAN..
Youâre STILL helping people every day. We love you đ€
You interact SO WELL with your Dad! You both are very lucky to have each other! đ„°
Iâm really glad I stumbled upon your content Dan. You are truly an excellent son and a stellar example of how to deal with Alzheimerâs with patience, kindness, and love. Glad to be here.
Iâve cared for many people in dementia units that would not be as patient and willing to follow directions to find clarity like you demonstrated. I have no doubt that your dad is in the best environment for him.
Dan, I love the tiny meditation you did with Grandpa asking him to squeeze his eye, sit back....â€
We sometimes feel there's always room for improvement, Ed feels like there is still more he can do. Actually, he is still giving. â€
Way to go Dan! đ Centering your dad the way you did was brilliant! đđšđŠ
Having him close his eyes was an excellent move though it wasn't planned. I was amazed at how effective it was. Keep up the excellent work and care of Dr. Ed/Grandpaâ€â€â€
I just love him. What a good, kind person. Always thinking of others.
He is an amazing, kind, intelligent man â€
Bless him. Give him a hug from me! †đ€
In the beginning.. Dad wasn't confused.. he was talking about the people on the phone.. he was talking about all his supporters all over the world.. that's what he meant when he said "our people"...
Good point that there can be a distinction between confusion and difficulty getting the right words out.
@@dsalnorcal1434 You are so beautiful with your Dad, Dan. I just love him so much. There is something so inherently good about him. Thanks for sharing him with us đ
Wow! How impressive. This is pretty amazing how you used the closing of the eyes to reorient your precious Dad. Marvelous. Sending all the best to you, Danielle, Grandpa, Mark and your entire family.
You do a great job taking care of dad. It's not easy dealing with dementia. I used to work in a care center.
Grandpa you are so sweetâ€
I'm so amazed by your dad!!
What a great moment with him Dan đ
Your dad, what a sweetheart..just love the love between you two!
Grandpa is a gem. Such a blessing. â€
Dan, You're so kind & gentle with your Dad. I just love Grandpa. âźđ
Great job Dan on you having your Dad shut his eyes to get his bearings. Your Dad speaks very highly of you and still has concept of your career. I love watching you interacting with your Dad. God bless you all. đ Much love â€ïž
It's always inspiring to see Grandpa in a good mood, enjoying life with his family, and reflecting on his lifetime of work.
Dan you are the best son any parent would ask for! Stay blessed!
Gosh Dan that was an excellent idea. I would love to sit and talk with your dad. He is very intelligent even with his memory loss. â€
Dan I envy your patience...you are a good sonâ€
Dan's patience is out of this worldđ€đ»
Your Dad is precious. Your patience, care and love is so apparent.
I love what you are doing Dan and Danielle, and Mark. Hugs
Dan you did extremely well In helping ed relax and reorganise his thoughts, itâs a technique I use with my dad quite often, but itâs all on the timing of when to use it and bravo you got a GOLD đ STAR today. Well done DAN !!! love from England đŹđ§ uk xx
You are such a good son Dan & your dad is the sweetest â€â€â€
Good for you Dan, Time to enjoy youâre life after years and years of hard work â€ïžđ€â€ïžđ€
"I'm glad you asked. I'm going crazy!" Love him! â€
Luv this, no yelling, total love. Beautiful familyđ
I bumped across your family's page and I don't normally comment. But I simply had to. Your patience and care for him is both breathtaking & soothing for me. đI'm grateful that you're sharing your experiences/conversations with your dad because it triggers many warm memories of my mom!
My mom went to heavena last December and the last few days of her earthly existence was the hardest for my sister and I! These videos remind me of our conversations over the last few years and although I didn't think to record her I really should've she was so intelligent, funny, scolding and loving in the same 3 minute conversation.đ
Continued blessing and strength to your family.
I love how you have these conversations with Ed. It was great how you stopped the early confusion and gave him a reset for his thoughts. You're so good with your Dad and perceptive in what is happening with him.â€
Dan, you're becoming an expert and your videos will be of great help to others. Your Dad remembered you're an attorney and it's endearing how he's often heard asking where Danielle is.
O gosh I can't miss a day of him. Such a sweet and humble soul. I'm happy that he has you all to help him navigate his daily life.â€â€â€
Love that conversation stuff.
Dan & Danielle yall are great for showing ppl how your suppose to treat ppl with dementia THIS WAY. I've took care of alot of ppl this way.. It's the best. Ya learn so much from our older generation. Even with dementia. It always takes patience. Sending yall everything good always đ đ đȘ âïž đ đ đ«đșđžđđ€
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Love the way he is so chatty in this video. Bless. His. Heart.
Hey Dan, my name is Dan too. I love watching you interact with your dad! He reminds me a lot of my wife's late grandpa who had dementia too. I spent a lot of time with him before he died. Her dad wound up with the same condition but at a much younger age, and passed at 65. Your dad is a hoot! Keep up the good work.
Really noticed how the conversation started and ended, really felt for him at the start and for you Dan, lots of love from London, England xx
the confusion and aggitation is so hard... we ALL need a reboot once in awhile... you did great!
This is so beautiful so amazing I love love this interaction between son and father. It makes me feel so happy to see this.
Thank you
Your patience is so admirable Dan. My 86 year old mother is starting beginning stages, which is why Iâve followed you for quite awhile now. Iâm trying to learn patience. The other day she asked me which Seattle Mariners newscaster left the pregame show and why (sheâs a huge Mariners fan, never misses a game) I said I donât know mother. She continued on, and this happens more often now. I actually got her the Alexis Echo so she could ask the weather forecast (another constant topic to overcome daily). Huge mistake! I realized I just need to get more patience especially after spending 3 hours trying to explain how Alexis works. Itâs difficult at times, but as the only daughter itâs now my responsibility to take care of her. God bless you guys and thank you for a lot of insight to this debilitating disorder.
You are absolutely amazing with him Dan, and Ed is such a sweetheart đđœđđœ
Your great with your dad
Dan, you are one hell of a son and I mean that in the best way. You are very understanding with him and that feels this heart with so much joy. I wish everyone had a child like you. They are few and far between God. Love you and your family and your daddy.đ
Bravo Dan , you always help Your father to relax and get out of that feeling of frustration and confution . You're a great son â€â€â€
You are a pro at this, Dan
God bless you Dan.Just love everything you r doing to ur father.U r a great example for many people.
Grandpa reminds me so much of my dad. Dementia. Confusion. Love you grandpa. You are a good man and raised your children well.
Such a wonderful, patient son you are Dan! Speaking from real experience, I know itâs not easy. You show extreme love and patience. Bravođđđđč
I love his humility, he doesnât think highly of himself which is such a lost virtue in our society. Ed itâs reason why Iâm drawn to these videos.
He is very humble. He was never a bragger.
@@dsalnorcal1434is this your channel? Without the 1434? Iâm on a mission to avoid all the scammers stealing your content.
"People Like To Get Helped"
Thank you Dr Ed!đ„°
These days, a few doctors and nurses, need to remember that. I know they're shortstaffed, but patients are in pain, and still need their kindness and HELP!
And Dan could easily be a therapist! đclosing my eyes
Great job Dan , I enjoyed the conversation . Grandpa is so adorable. Keep up the great work Dan â€â€
Dan, excellent method of having your Dad close his eyes. It really did bring him back on track. God bless you all.
Youâre an amazing son. You did the right thing and he did so well. You can have a conversation with him at the end. It was amazing thank you Dan. God bless you and your family.
Ohhhh, l just love Grandpa!
This conversation Dan, was awesome to listen to!!!
My only hope as selfish as it may seem....when the time comes, that one of my kids will take care of me like you and Danielle take care of Grandpa.... Mark too!!!
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Thank You, Salingers!
That was so cool how you got him to composure. You are a very patient man. â€
I love your Dad! Really enjoy watching you be the best son ever! I'm 78, and pray my kids are this kind with me! Your video's are a blessing!
After your dad closed his eyes and relaxed his focus was spot on. It qppears you've found a technique that may help others. I wish when my grandmother was still alive I would have thought of such a simple thing as closing your eyes and relaxing to have made life easier. Hope this continues to work well with your dad keep up the good work and know you may have touched on something no one else has thought to do. God bless and may this continue to help your father and those of us who follow you.
I'm so happy that Grandpa Ed is still so kind and concerned about his family! You guys are very lucky to have such a loving father â€!Great job Dan and Danielle and family đ!
Such a kind and caring soul.
Thank you for being so nice to everybody 's Dad. God bless you Dad