😢. Thats so sad. Thats not ok. And not how things should be. Nobody shouod go though shit alone. Nobody. Im really sorry that life has been like that for you nick. 😢
TRUTH, I don't know how many times I ask people if they are okay and they tell me they aren't, but after the conversation not once have I been asked " How are you" everyone expects Men to just be ok.
@@MissSweeTSmarT1983it's not just Nick, it's every man you've ever met. Society doesn't have time for our problems... Besides with all the problems in the world, what would make me think mine are important enough to even ask for help?
@calebwithac1436 waiting to expose kids to the death, and the concept of death can never be done early enough. Keeping kids ignorant and "innocent " of it will only harm in the long term.
@@LuckyJ247do it man. I have plenty of so called friends who don’t answer and that shit kills. I’ve struggled through my own things but when you want somebody to be there for you and they aren’t, it makes it so much harder. I’m always the first to pick up when a friend calls, but they don’t reciprocate. It hurts man but I just tell myself that they’re busy. Don’t be the person that is only there when it’s convenient, in the end you might find yourself mourning the loss of a friend that you took for granted. You never know who is silently dying, that’s why it’s important to be that reliable brother that they may not have ever had.
When my mom and step dad killed themselves I would text and call them. No response just ringing. I have nightly dreams of calling my mom and waiting for her to come back for me. She never does.
The last one got me so much. My dad attempted twice. Once when I was 13 and again at 15. He finally got his life together and he was finally happy. When I was 21 he got pneumonia and died. Finally won against all his ptsd demons from war just to lose him... I still cry like that last video. He's been gone 10yrs
You can tell your dad love you very much...im sure it was you and your family that helped him thru his demons and helped him pass on unburdened....you will meet again and I pray for your strength
Robin Williams must’ve been a depressed person, in that case, he isn’t qualified to talk about happiness. I swear, I did not know who that guy was until I checked his name. He literally committed suicide, and he is certainly not the person to take advice from on the beauty of life.
@@xanderlopez6536 that is the part where most are misunderstood...we spend all our energy trying to make others smile while we're crying inside..we must first learn to make OURSELVES happy and the joy of life will follow🎉🎉
It sucks to bury a friend. I saw one of my friends on my own birthday party just a few hours earlier. Then in the morning my phone rings and I get told he's no longer with us. No one could believe it
When people ask me if I'm okay, and I'm not feeling okay. I started saying, "I will be" I think it's a good way to convey that I'm not feeling great, but it's not pressure on anyone else to feel they need to be the ones to fix it. If they want to try, cool, if not, no big deal.. I will be okay, even if it just takes some time.
This needs more likes. It's important to be there for each other, but it's more important for us to be there for ourselves and even the smallest steps like just changing how we speak on ourselves or situations can move mountains. If anyone else is out there going through it right now, I know it's cliché but I promise with all my heart, it will get better and it will make sense one day. I can tell you from experience, accident, addiction, the flu, or a mental battle, it doesn't matter what it is, recovery is recovery. Give yourself time and space to breathe and remember you truly are not alone. ❤
Same here. It's been 16 years now for me, sucking it up. And it's getting really hard... Thoughts are there more than ever but I could never actually do it. I could never EVER bring that kind of pain upon the people around me.
Everyone talking about the last one, but not appreciating the first one where a kid is trying to not cry and stay strong while breaking the news to an adult
To every single one of you here reading this comment, you’re a true king amongst men and the respect for you just being here is next level! I certainly hope you all find what it is to help you through these trying times. Much love to you all and never forget your value!
Sure but why set up a camera and record that then upload it to social media other than for attention. If it’s genuine it’s done in private not uploaded for likes on CZcams
MY PRAYERS TO ALL OF THESE GRIEVING FRIENDS AND FAMILY🙏-ESPECIALLY TO THE FIRST YOUNG MAN WHO IS REALLY STRUGGLING TO GET HIS WORDS OUT-MY HEART IS BREAKING FOR HIM .
I went through the samething back in 2018.(keep in mind I was still in high school) My good friend of mine, not going to say his real name but we will call him chase, Saw him in school one day, the next day I didn't see him, which was weird cause he was never late to class and was always a good in class, he used to have a nickname for me. A couple days later we got a message in class saying he killed himself, found out the details later that he went to his grandparents cabin up north, shot himself with his grandpa's 12 gauge. Was in a dark moment in time for a couple years after that, started smoking, vaping, drinking and knew had to change my ways cause my best friend wouldn't want to watch me suffer.
Right? Like I've lost people in my life. I don't ever wanna have my kids deal with it. But I know it's inevitable. But at least I'll be there for them. Knowing the pain they're feeling.
Lost my BFF last year on Thanksgiving he sh*t himself and was away from me by states and i couldn't have been there to help.b4 or after 😢 but I'm a girl and I cried it out I get it for men its harder.
@@hunnybeezm1338i lost one of my friends to cancer on the 10th i didnt cry when i told my family about it then my sister started to make fun of his death i was so pissed
😢We have to get these guys to talk and be loved on every level. Let them know they are never alone, that someone is really THERE FOR THEM. DONT EVER THINK YOU ARE ALONE...YOU ARE LOVED AND GUARDED BY US ALL WHO KNOW YOU.
My condolences. My mom has the final voicemail from my grandfather (her dad) and we listen to it together sometimes. It’s really sweet to have those memories, as they can help us get through the pain of losing someone. If you don’t mind, I’ll pray for your grandpa and the rest of your family ❤
@@Skokzmmam He said "Jay SHOT himself." But you know that, huh? Why would you think this was the video short to try and joke about? Do you need some mental health help??
Incorrect @@kellyhall2844 If you actually had a logical mindset you would see his mouth does not line up with his words. This is a video, completely designed and edited to get likes and comments because it plays on your emotions. Don't be stupid. Thanks.
His brother committed suicide he was being bullied for being gay at his high school. His parents supported his decision his little brother is the one in the first clip. 😢
I want to hug that young boy standing outside tugging on his sleeves sooo bad. He just looks lost. And the man talking about calling his friend and the phone just rings and rings. Hell, who am i kidding. I just want to hug them all. It won't change what happened but a hug helps a lot of things.
In my 50's and still say "I'm ok" if asked. Spent my whole life feeling like no one cares if a man is hurting. My job is to help everyone else. So, I just pray and God lets me know he cares.
There's always that special person if it ment you could save them you'd walk away from everything, you'd give it all up just to save them and knowing you lose them and that there was nothing you could do is level of pain no one should endure
When I turned 20 I wanted to invite my Aunt to my birthday party but I realized she had died not too long ago and it hurt. I ended up spending my birthday with an empty seat in the pizza place she promised to bring me back to when I turned 20. Loss hurts. It takes and takes and it feels like it never gives back.
Man, this hit me.... I lost a young man in my Army unit who needed guidance and I was too arrogant and completely blind to his subtle cries for help and the next day, he killed himself. Still hurts me till this day that I didn't care enough.
I pray that u all can find someone who loves u and u can confide in them without fear of judgement Think about it this way if u are all hiding behind “I’m fine” then really u opening up will just give others the confidence to open up and u guys can communicate with one another better
“Men live lives of quiet desperation”. I have always choked down my own tears to make sure my kids and wife KNEW and TRUSTED that dad was a rock and would stop at nothing to keep them safe. When leadership breaks down, chaos ensues. If i break down, how secure are they gonna feel when the chips are down. I’m not saying don’t vent your emotions at all, I’m saying we have to handle our business first.
What good will it do when you've bottled up so many things and that bottle explodes? I think its healthy to show kids that dad feels things too. Especially if that dad has sons. Men don't need to suffer in silence to be strong. Ita ok to feel things and to let people see that you feel things ♡ but do what is and feels right for you. Just make sure you're also taking care of yourself when you need to ♡. 😊
@@mamamayhem7125 yes true and I understand your point. You may or may not know this but there are very few people who men will truly trust to tell there feelings. I thankfully have very good friends that I can trust.
We are not fine! We don’t open up because we don't want to burden people and because we are men, and should be “strong”. I lost two friends to suicide, before the age of 40. I miss them both so much and think about them every single day. Support the men you love and teach them it is okay to have feelings and be human!
The clip of the guy just staring at the cake while everyone around him is singing, without sound, is the most relatable clip I’ve ever seen. That’s what it’s like going through shit on your own. Not being able to say anything… it’s hard.
I can imagine that it is quite lonely… I might of misinterpreted your comment but it seems like you might be going through something. I said a prayer for you. ❤
Why was the little boy even at another boys house alone having to tell another boy alone that this other little boy killer himself :( like what ? That’s a nice neighborhood, where’s his parents ?? I’m so confused
Its so freaking hard You are loved You matter You are enough Sending lots of love to all of you struggling You're not alone The last one tore me to pieces...
Men always rely on themselves and don't get helped enough. When we ask for help we are called weak, and are set apart from others. For women it's almost the opposite. When a dude says he's fine, he is probably not. We have a hard life too you know
Even when we don't cry we get shit, my wife wondered why I didn't cry for my grandmother when she passed, she seen it as me not caring when I absolutely did care, I guess in a way I was relieved she didn't have any more pain, she had pancreatic cancer and chose to come home to die with family, we took care of her in her last days it was tough, still haven't cried but I miss her to death, when my parents moved I chose to stay with my grandparents till I was 13-14 years old, I remember my mother always saying my room is empty and she wish I'd come home, I couldn't help it my grandparents were awesome lol but very strict.
@@earf-quakesome guys know how to hide that pain real well man convincing somebody that they're just fine when they're not becomes second nature after a while
Dear Lord, please heal the pain of these precious ones who have lost loved ones.😢😢that little boy in the first video and the pain in the voice of the last one...I just want to put my arms around all of them.❤❤❤❤
I’m glad I have people that will listen to my problems… I’m at a lost for words for these people, my heart goes out to these people, if I knew them I would listen to their problems and be the light in their darkness
I remember going to my mutual friend that my buddy introduced me to and telling her that he took his own life. I kept strong so that she had a shoulder to lean on, but at night, I cried myself to sleep. The pain you feel after someone succeeds in self-harm stays forever but can be handled with proper treatment. I lost too many to count. But I will always remember their stories.
I was at work finally off a heavy work day, chilling with the homies smoking cigs n just lementing on the day, I got a call my brother was killed, to this day I break down ...what we hide isn't to be shiesty it's to try to be strong for who we lost..the world's got us thinking to hard ...and this gen of females for us thinking it's not ok to mourn our fallen friends family heroes,
@@ofallnamesmaybe he was trying to record a video for his channel and just couldn't hold it any longer and let it all out then posted it as a cry for help.
Wasn't my dad but my brother when I was six years old, he hung himself, coming across a loved one at a young age like that is something you never come back from
Man these comments hit something deep in me, the only thing keeping me alive at times is the thought of what my mom would do if she found out I had done something.
My heart goes out to yall for sharing this with the world 🌎 yall are true friends anubody out there listening to yiur friend be there for them cause any if his could be gone in the next sec😢😢😢😢😢 ❤❤❤❤
Sometimes people just want a listing ear without judgement. Smile taking out lunch, Walk, movie or sit down and say nothing. ❤ and hugs to the people and family that need it
@@Double_Jae yeah, its like his body couldnt physically handle the grief he was facing. I hope hes okay now and i hope the family that lost their son is doing okay too
My husband joined the 27 club back in 2016.. He was depressed & I tried with everything inside me to help him bjt its hard when his family doesn't believe in therapy. Kyle, I love u & the kids will always miss you ❤
I feel each and every one of their pains. I've lost a lot myself, and at some points it felt like there was no hope, that there would be no end. And in all honesty I still feel that way. Just remember though, when the time comes, ask yourself, do you wanna be remembered as that person who quietly let themselves go into the night, or will you live for those who can't and share their voice spreading the power of hope,care and kindness?
In May of 2020, I lost my lifelong best friend to suicide. We’d been friends, and more like brothers, since we were 4… almost 35 years. It still breaks my heart that I wasn’t there for him when he needed someone the most. He battled depression, anxiety, and addiction for years. He was by far the most genuine, caring, and kindhearted person I’ve ever had the honor of knowing. He was simply too good for this world. I miss u Nate!
I also have a friend that’s going through depression right now but sorry for your loss I am always there for my buddy Luke. I even helped him get therapy and he finally got out of therapy and he is fine. If you’re homey you know friend and they tell you that I’ve been thinking about suicide and stuff and if they’re always there for you, you always be there for them, I’m sorry for your loss. God bless.🙏❤✝️
You're not alone brother. I have lost 2 brothers to purpose overdoses. They were battling depression and had been suicidal for years. We lost them 2 years apart from each other. We all have literally fallen apart this last year. I miss you both so much. RIP CHRISTOPHER AND JONATHON
First and last ones especially, had me tearing up. We need to be there for each other brothers. Were all bricks in the castle walls of our society. If one falls we all fall.
There are a lot of disgusting people and human garbage out there. If i just say UTTP that is a good example, but ofcourse there are the abusers that the person above me mentioned.
“When a guy says I’m fine he’s literally fine.” That hit hard. They’re only fine if you’ve asked “wanna talk about it?” and “are you sure?” and they still say they’re fine. And even then that could mean they just don’t want to tell you.
Yeah, some people sadly never ask for help. :( Or tell anyone about what they’re going through. That shits isolating as fuck. And when those girls said that it definitely sat way wrong with me.
@@bee1411 That's how society teaches men to act. "Boys aren't supposed to cry." We're taught that when girls say they're fine, they don't mean it...but when boys say it they do. Things have to change.
Sad when someone feels no hope in life and wants to leave this earth before their time. It’s so important to tell people you love them everyday because you never know when it may be the last time. Sorry to anyone that has lost someone to suicide. Just know God loves you and you’re never alone. God bless ❤❤❤
To ALL men out there we NEED to open up more, it is not a sign of weakness, asking for help takes courage and strength, to listen to someone shows compassion, and to help in any way is rewarding. Stay strong brothers.
Dude literally said my words. I'm always good even when it's bad. I'm good. I've been saying that for years. And everybody in my job would tell you. I've been saying it every since they met me.
it’s so important and feels so good to vent out the bad stuff that you’re feeling. it’s not weakness, being honest takes courage. you’ll find that most other people are going through the same thing and you support each other. that’s how the world goes round
I'm sorry if it sounds like it was misleading. It's just words that I've always said not struggling with mental health. I know it's a real issue. So I back what the guy saying is what I was meaning. I've been in those positions before, so that's my new attitude. It's my positive way of thinking.
@@thesoul2sqeeze Jay shot himself. All lil homie could do was fidget. It’s mad cus doesn’t even seem to have registered with him yet. He knows the woman heard him, but all he can say is Jay shot himself
The sad part is that sometimes even when us guys say we aren’t fine, we get told to just “man up” or “deal with it”. My heart goes out to the guys who are dealing with issues and say they are fine, your not alone brother.
NEVER JUST DEAL WITH IT - find support and don’t let those idiots deter you from feeling your emotions before they explode at a later date. Men deserve to feel safe too
I tell my husband all the time that "it's okay not to be okay," and if he needs/wants to talk, I am always there for him, even if he thinks it will break my heart. He was raised being told that men don't cry or that they have to be big macho men all the time. I could never dream of telling my man or any man that they aren't allowed emotions- we are all just people trying to get by❤ healing is hard, and it doesn't happen overnight or alone!
@crispyy143 then when he talks to you you use that against him and look at him differently because he is weak in your eyes and you cheat and leave him. I hope he finds someone else besides you to talk to.
Men dialysis don’t have a safe space to do so. Not amongst their friends, family or significant others. Men and women are really wired different. Society does perpetuate this idea of them showing emotions. They get judged for it or it thrown back in their faces. Even when they do show emotion it’s sad. When you really think about it.
@@waterwolf982 Yes let’s do that. Maybe we could start with looking them in the eye when we ask “How are you" … Ask as if we really want to know. I wish a therapist would give a lecture about this. I know a few things to look for but not enough.
@@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 Well, I can forward you to **Doctor K. He talked about this stuff recently, how men are often neglected emotionally and physically. One big thing about emotional connections is touch. You may hug a friend when you to have a day’s out, or kiss your mom on the cheek when you say goodnight. It’s widely considered weird for men to do this, so one way to help is to start by patting them on the shoulder if you need something or hugging him when something bad happens. You can even introduce high-fives since those aren’t all that common. Over time, hopefully, common physical interactions would be normalized. Im nowhere near a social expert, this is just what I have learned in recent years. ** Doctor K runs a Twitch and CZcams channel called HealthyGamerGG. He is a popular psychiatrist who commonly weaves in eastern teachings with western knowledge
The guy with the ice cream got me. I just turned 43 on may 25th. My son graduated highschool that same day. I never said anything about it being my birthday..my family knew. His friends parents told me happy birthday and i just responded "today is for my son." At the end of the lunch they wanted to sing me happy birthday. My daughter isnt big on forcing that on people so she tried to stop them. I was reluctant to agree, but i did anyway. They brought out a brownie and ice cream. As they sang to me i faught back tears. i cant remember the last time anyone really acknowledged my birthday with anything more than a card or text. My grandma used to call me every year but she passed away in 2019.
So true! I say that all the time. My girlfriend is the only person in the world that knows I’m not fine when I say I’m fine. She gets it out of me. Feels so good when I let those feelings out sometimes
@@user-ik7ck4bt2ghe said it 2 times, in the second one you could clearly hear the "O" in "shot" and by the way the kid was reacting and also by the way the person owning the ring doorbell said.
@@user-ik7ck4bt2g I mean, by the way he reacted, he did seem to understand enough english, plus it's not a good reason, for exemple I am french, and I clearly understand what it said
I’m a retired Marine. I’ve lost more than a couple to mental health battles. Take care of yourself. Take care of those around you. It’s not weak to ask for help. Those of us still here will always feel it. Grief is like the tide. Some days you’re wading in the ripples and other days you’re getting smashed down by swells.
@@151pyroblazeI reset my phone so I lost all of the messages. Stupidest thing I ever did but maybe it’s for the better cause I’m always carrying in my chest anyways
I just wanna give the first kid a huge hug. It’s not easy losing someone like that, especially at his age. This world is wicked but you CAN find peace in the heart of war. You just have to keep walking. And you will trip, you will fall. But you ain’t hurt and you damn sure ain’t done. The mission/show must go on.
This video popped up to me as a reminder we are not alone and together we can create a healing space for all that need that extra support and kindness, please take care out there, I'm in therapy today because one person told me I need to not keep shit to myself any more, one of the best things to happen to me, I'm still here because I'm learning to forgive myself and learn to actually love myself, it's a progress but I'm getting there, and all of you out there can too🙏💯may peace be upon you
You are so right. My mother used to say out of five of us kids I was the least she had to worry about because I let things roll off like rain off a duck’s ass. Little did she know how bottled up I was by holding in the painful feelings of her not trying to reach out to me because of how sensitive I actually was. Just because a child is quiet doesn’t mean they’re ok. They need someone to talk to. They’re lonely. ❤
When asked that daunting question I always pause and run through my inner dialog and always reply I'm fine because I don't want to burden them with my pain and stress. I'm fighting for my sanity and I hope every man or boy out there finds it and have an opportunity to enjoy it
When i was a freshman in highschool a very good friend of mine started acting depressed and I felt like I had to distance myself from him, because it was bumming me out. He hung himself in his front yard. His father came home from work and saw his oldest child hanging from a belt in an orange tree. And when they asked me at the funeral if I had noticed any sign that he wasn't okay, I was overwhelmed with shame and guilt. I hung my head down, and I couldn't even look them in the eye. I promised I would never turn my back on anyone who considered me a friend ever again. But, that pain will never go away. Knowing that I couldn't even stand listening to him. His memory makes a better person, and I'll never be able to repay him for that. Love the ones you love brothers and sisters. We are all we have in this universe
The phone call one hit hard, cause I did that with my brother who passed one time, and it jacked me up. I still haven’t gotten over him not being here with us no more.
This shits real. Nearly lost a friend and myself due to this. If a man says he is fine. 90% of the time he is not. He just doesn’t feel like opening up because he doesn’t trust and he thinks he can get through it himself. This was my mentality and I almost lost myself with this mistake.
I literally just got into an argument with my oldest friend cuz he refused to believe that I truly care about his mental health. He’s been abandoned so many times, his mental health has been dismissed so many times…he’s just at the point where he feels like no one is genuinely trying to help him. We argued for over an hour and I gave him some space. About three hours later I texted him and he apologized for the way he spoke to me. He said he’s just having a real hard time conveying his feelings. I told him it’s ok and that he can come to me. He’s feeling a little bit better. It’s not even the first time someone has gotten mad at how stubborn I am. I’m just glad I got through to him again…a few weeks prior I almost lost him..I’m so glad he’s safe
Us men are taught to man up the world doesn’t care about your problems and through experience it more often then not gets confirmed. But I agree when a man says he’s fine, but on the inside he’s hanging on by a thread. Some days you’re so close to your limit that even something as so little can be what does him in. The world caters to women’s feelings and needs and no one really understands or realizes that men are crumbling on the inside but on the outside he remains stoic and strong. A man will never admit it and damn sure won’t ask for it but sometimes he really could use and hug and reassurance that someone cares. And if that comes from a woman idk why but it means that much more. And if a woman can stand by her man when he’s like this, when he comes out the other side you’ll be rewarded by being treated like a queen bc most women leave when a man is at his lowest but they all flock to him when he’s on the rise or at the top
This is hard ! I bamed my self for your passing for a long time but you came to visit me in my dreams and told me everything is okay and nothing was my fault . I believed it after a while and I now listen to every word everyone has to tell me
My friend committed suicide on Mother’s Day this year and honestly this video brought tears to my eyes because not only will his friends remember for the rest of their lives but his mom has to go through that pain knowing that her son committed on a day that she was supposed to feel loved
Well that's what they want honestly. No body films themselves doing this s**t then post it. And the first one is fake. Obviously. Don't let them farm ur emotions so they can get clicks. Ppl hate capitalism but don't mind this (not u) but yea. Sry for ur situation.
you guys literally always tell us that women are so annoying because they aren’t straightforward like you. That women will say they are fine when they are not and that women are complicated. and sensitive and emotional and u BASH WOMEN for it. And now y’all are saying this? Y’all were the ones that told us that you were straightforward and meant what u said so when u say ur fine, u mean it. YOUVE BEEN TELLING US THAT FOR YEARS
The kid at the door literally made me cry. Heartbreaking to know how he is feeling pain like that probably the first time. It's such an empty feeling yet overwhelming at the same time.
i exactly know how he feels because i've experienced the same thing 2 months ago. Even tho i'm 18 years old, it was so unimaginable and crazy feelings.
When it would just ring and you would t notice it’s because their depressed and not answering. You just think they’re busy. Then they’re gone and it all makes sense.
The pain is real and I understand I pray for healing and comfort to all those going through these times and strength to keep fighting and live keeping all our loved ones memories alive amen god bless!!
That kid in the beginning is a titan buddy held it together so he could inform an adult… Much love little man Edit: I’ll see if I can find the full form video I’ll post link in comments if I find it
That last one hit so hard, hearing the pain in his voice got me.
MrChiCity. He still has it posted on his channel from so long ago.
Yeah, it got me too. ;-;
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Except he filmed it. Which I always think is bizarre behavior.
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Man, the first kid and the last dude. Powerful, painful.
My soul felt that
My cousin did March 1 of this year. It’s heartbreaking and this year has been awful. 🙏
Suffering is endible, but that doesn't mean we must suffer alone.
The amount of shock and adrenaline someone would be in during that situation is insane. It’s probably why he sounded calm in the clip.
I feel it deep
When a grown man sees another one cry. It hurts. It hurts bad.
When a guy says he's fine.. It means "I'm not but don't want to waste your time" and just moves on. That's how hard it is being a man. ❤
😢. Thats so sad. Thats not ok. And not how things should be. Nobody shouod go though shit alone. Nobody. Im really sorry that life has been like that for you nick. 😢
Yup that is true
TRUTH, I don't know how many times I ask people if they are okay and they tell me they aren't, but after the conversation not once have I been asked " How are you" everyone expects Men to just be ok.
@@MissSweeTSmarT1983it's not just Nick, it's every man you've ever met. Society doesn't have time for our problems... Besides with all the problems in the world, what would make me think mine are important enough to even ask for help?
What a gay comment. Hush, little boy.
The first video hits hard. A child trying to understand and explain what happened in just a few words. Heart wrenching.
We have taken kids innocence by exposing them to way to much at to early of an age. It is very sad.
@@PerpetuallyoffendedExposing them to what?
@@Insane3OBdeath
My good friend when i was in my early teens shot himself, because he got a bad report card and was afraid of his dads repercussions.
@calebwithac1436 waiting to expose kids to the death, and the concept of death can never be done early enough. Keeping kids ignorant and "innocent " of it will only harm in the long term.
"And it would just ring." Hit me so hard.
I'm going to start picking up my phone
@@LuckyJ247do it man. I have plenty of so called friends who don’t answer and that shit kills. I’ve struggled through my own things but when you want somebody to be there for you and they aren’t, it makes it so much harder. I’m always the first to pick up when a friend calls, but they don’t reciprocate. It hurts man but I just tell myself that they’re busy. Don’t be the person that is only there when it’s convenient, in the end you might find yourself mourning the loss of a friend that you took for granted. You never know who is silently dying, that’s why it’s important to be that reliable brother that they may not have ever had.
From the heart, pick up the phone. You never know when it could save a life.
When my mom and step dad killed themselves I would text and call them. No response just ringing. I have nightly dreams of calling my mom and waiting for her to come back for me. She never does.
@@Whendidweloseit.wait they both ended themselves at the same time? Sorry for your loss man. Hope you still have your father.
Well, this broke my heart into a million pieces first thing in the morning:( I pray for everyone that’s going through it🙏❤️
The last one got me so much. My dad attempted twice. Once when I was 13 and again at 15. He finally got his life together and he was finally happy. When I was 21 he got pneumonia and died. Finally won against all his ptsd demons from war just to lose him... I still cry like that last video. He's been gone 10yrs
Keep hanging on to hope God will put something or someone close. Reach out.
Hold your head up he never wanted to cause you any pain he just wanted his to not be as bad.
You can tell your dad love you very much...im sure it was you and your family that helped him thru his demons and helped him pass on unburdened....you will meet again and I pray for your strength
"people don't fake depression they fake being happy....be kind"
-robin williams
It's very easy to fake happy. It was very hard for me to seek help. I've been doing better and actually want to live now. I am sorry for your losses.
@@CB-ms5ld
thanks...it has been a long and hard journey😢😢i just take it one day at a time and trust in God's plan😔😇
I do this all the time I only do this to make other people happy
Robin Williams must’ve been a depressed person, in that case, he isn’t qualified to talk about happiness.
I swear, I did not know who that guy was until I checked his name. He literally committed suicide, and he is certainly not the person to take advice from on the beauty of life.
@@xanderlopez6536
that is the part where most are misunderstood...we spend all our energy trying to make others smile while we're crying inside..we must first learn to make OURSELVES happy and the joy of life will follow🎉🎉
That first young MAN. My heart goes out to you brother, stay strong.
It sucks to bury a friend. I saw one of my friends on my own birthday party just a few hours earlier. Then in the morning my phone rings and I get told he's no longer with us. No one could believe it
Heard it without sound and thought he was saying "Jay shit himself!"😂
@@errorrath6555😒captions on the screen right?
@@errorrath6555tbh you didn’t have to say that tho 😑
Dang, what about the rest? No luv in that heart to go around to the rest of the young men suffering in the vid? 😶😊
When people ask me if I'm okay, and I'm not feeling okay. I started saying, "I will be"
I think it's a good way to convey that I'm not feeling great, but it's not pressure on anyone else to feel they need to be the ones to fix it. If they want to try, cool, if not, no big deal.. I will be okay, even if it just takes some time.
This right here. "I will be." That's powerful.
I usually say ‘I’m hanging in there’.
Wild. I understood this too and adopted it pretty early. Game changer.
👌🏼 done the same for years. No sense in passing something on to others they don’t need
This needs more likes. It's important to be there for each other, but it's more important for us to be there for ourselves and even the smallest steps like just changing how we speak on ourselves or situations can move mountains. If anyone else is out there going through it right now, I know it's cliché but I promise with all my heart, it will get better and it will make sense one day. I can tell you from experience, accident, addiction, the flu, or a mental battle, it doesn't matter what it is, recovery is recovery. Give yourself time and space to breathe and remember you truly are not alone. ❤
That last clip is why I’m still here. I can’t do that to my friends and family so I just suck it up.
You don’t end pain. You only transfer it. Stay strong.
Bro same. If it wasn't for my wife, parents and sister I would've ended it already but I can't bear to do that to them so I suffer in silence
@@dominiking69please don’t suffer in silence! I know it’s not easy but support is out there, you aren’t alone keep going!!
@@rk12395 thanks bro I appreciate that
Same here. It's been 16 years now for me, sucking it up. And it's getting really hard... Thoughts are there more than ever but I could never actually do it. I could never EVER bring that kind of pain upon the people around me.
the last one hit hard 😢
Real 😢
@@joshtyler1300🧑🏻💻
@@joshtyler1300that’s just like saying ugly to your best friend, it’s a sign of love
@@joshtyler1300shut up Josh
The last one was probably due to gang violence js
Everyone talking about the last one, but not appreciating the first one where a kid is trying to not cry and stay strong while breaking the news to an adult
Regardless of the likes one of them have it doesn’t matter who’s more heartbroken they all fucked from suicide…
As boys an men you allmost have too😂
@@12philipwestonyou sound slow that’s not a normal circumstance of having to tell a neighbor your big brother shot himself
@@12philipwestonyou are the problem
The speed he brushed that tear away with shows how hard he was trying to not break right there.
Oh my gosh this literally broke my heart... we all need to really REALLY watch over our loved ones, today and every day!! 💯💯🙏🙏🙏
To every single one of you here reading this comment, you’re a true king amongst men and the respect for you just being here is next level! I certainly hope you all find what it is to help you through these trying times. Much love to you all and never forget your value!
Thank you! Needed that!
“There wouldn’t be no voice mail or nothing it would just ring” 😢 I feel that
Foreal man
Sure but why set up a camera and record that then upload it to social media other than for attention. If it’s genuine it’s done in private not uploaded for likes on CZcams
@@ordinaryopinion4081facts
@@ordinaryopinion4081its usually a massive cry for help, just desperate for anybody to care.
@@ratillecebrasquedubitantiu4451 that’s actually a good point I didn’t think about
the first one hits so hard! that kid trying to keep it together . I hope things are getting better for him.
MY PRAYERS TO ALL OF THESE GRIEVING FRIENDS AND FAMILY🙏-ESPECIALLY TO THE FIRST YOUNG MAN WHO IS REALLY STRUGGLING TO GET HIS WORDS OUT-MY HEART IS BREAKING FOR HIM .
I went through the samething back in 2018.(keep in mind I was still in high school) My good friend of mine, not going to say his real name but we will call him chase, Saw him in school one day, the next day I didn't see him, which was weird cause he was never late to class and was always a good in class, he used to have a nickname for me. A couple days later we got a message in class saying he killed himself, found out the details later that he went to his grandparents cabin up north, shot himself with his grandpa's 12 gauge. Was in a dark moment in time for a couple years after that, started smoking, vaping, drinking and knew had to change my ways cause my best friend wouldn't want to watch me suffer.
Right? Like I've lost people in my life. I don't ever wanna have my kids deal with it. But I know it's inevitable. But at least I'll be there for them. Knowing the pain they're feeling.
Lost my BFF last year on Thanksgiving he sh*t himself and was away from me by states and i couldn't have been there to help.b4 or after 😢 but I'm a girl and I cried it out I get it for men its harder.
@@hunnybeezm1338i lost one of my friends to cancer on the 10th i didnt cry when i told my family about it then my sister started to make fun of his death i was so pissed
I remember when he died. That was the saddest shit in history🎉!!!! You are very much missed!!!! Thank you for reviving this man!!!!
😢We have to get these guys to talk and be loved on every level. Let them know they are never alone, that someone is really THERE FOR THEM. DONT EVER THINK YOU ARE ALONE...YOU ARE LOVED AND GUARDED BY US ALL WHO KNOW YOU.
When my grandpa passed. I listened to the last voicemail he left me, over and over and over again. Literally 2 days prior.
My condolences. My mom has the final voicemail from my grandfather (her dad) and we listen to it together sometimes. It’s really sweet to have those memories, as they can help us get through the pain of losing someone. If you don’t mind, I’ll pray for your grandpa and the rest of your family ❤
Same with my grandma I didn’t pick up her call and she said i love you then she died on Christmas
@@willm678 I thank you for ur condolences and prayers, I appreciate the humanity in you.
my condolences man
I understand you brother I always miss my grandma
The little boy broke my heart! Poor baby! Not saying the others weren’t tear jerker’s. He was just so young.
Did he just say jay shat him self?
@@Skokzmmam
He said "Jay SHOT himself."
But you know that, huh? Why would you think this was the video short to try and joke about? Do you need some mental health help??
Incorrect @@kellyhall2844 If you actually had a logical mindset you would see his mouth does not line up with his words. This is a video, completely designed and edited to get likes and comments because it plays on your emotions.
Don't be stupid. Thanks.
His brother committed suicide he was being bullied for being gay at his high school. His parents supported his decision his little brother is the one in the first clip. 😢
@@lupieginger39where’d you hear this info? who was he?
I want to hug that young boy standing outside tugging on his sleeves sooo bad. He just looks lost. And the man talking about calling his friend and the phone just rings and rings.
Hell, who am i kidding. I just want to hug them all. It won't change what happened but a hug helps a lot of things.
In my 50's and still say "I'm ok" if asked. Spent my whole life feeling like no one cares if a man is hurting. My job is to help everyone else. So, I just pray and God lets me know he cares.
The hardest thing to endure as a human being is to lose someone you truly love.
There's always that special person if it ment you could save them you'd walk away from everything, you'd give it all up just to save them and knowing you lose them and that there was nothing you could do is level of pain no one should endure
Our family has been through many deaths...loss from cancer in a 32 yr old was horrible. Suicide was even worse.
The calling someone excited forgetting they no longer physically exist is such a real thing and it’s the most painful thing
When I turned 20 I wanted to invite my Aunt to my birthday party but I realized she had died not too long ago and it hurt. I ended up spending my birthday with an empty seat in the pizza place she promised to bring me back to when I turned 20. Loss hurts. It takes and takes and it feels like it never gives back.
Nothing like making someone else's death about you.
@@tylerw9529wtf are you on?
@@tylerw9529?????
That’s what it was like with my dad.
Man, this hit me.... I lost a young man in my Army unit who needed guidance and I was too arrogant and completely blind to his subtle cries for help and the next day, he killed himself. Still hurts me till this day that I didn't care enough.
You always cared you didn't know the signs❤💪🏾. Thank you for sharing this and remembering to check on your happy friends
My youngest sibling experienced this with a kid in his highschool…he’s still healing too, man
“I say I’m good even if I’m not” couldn’t have felt that more homie 😔😔😔
Edit: 14k… sorry to see so many brothers hurting 😢
Were dudes an were not supposed to show emotion but ts getting tiring😔
Every man alive does this
@@Ray2highreal men cry get that no emotion mental pride thing out of your mind. Real killers cry. Its how you heal.
I pray that u all can find someone who loves u and u can confide in them without fear of judgement
Think about it this way if u are all hiding behind “I’m fine” then really u opening up will just give others the confidence to open up and u guys can communicate with one another better
Same
Seeing that first little boy literally brought tears to my eyes. He was trying so hard to hold it together. Heartbreaking
😢😢
And she make him say it twice!!!
@@user-cm1ku7pt4c that’s not something ANYONE expects to hear. She was probably hoping she heard wrong.
@@user-cm1ku7pt4c Right!? I thought that was cruel too! She heard him correctly the first time!
@@redwoods713no she didn’t it’s not her fault if she didn’t hear right so how do we know if she did hear omg do we got superpowers no
“Men live lives of quiet desperation”. I have always choked down my own tears to make sure my kids and wife KNEW and TRUSTED that dad was a rock and would stop at nothing to keep them safe. When leadership breaks down, chaos ensues. If i break down, how secure are they gonna feel when the chips are down. I’m not saying don’t vent your emotions at all, I’m saying we have to handle our business first.
Way to stand tall in this tough world. Salute❤
I know what you mean I'm not a father or even a adult yet but my families protection is first
What good will it do when you've bottled up so many things and that bottle explodes?
I think its healthy to show kids that dad feels things too. Especially if that dad has sons. Men don't need to suffer in silence to be strong.
Ita ok to feel things and to let people see that you feel things ♡ but do what is and feels right for you. Just make sure you're also taking care of yourself when you need to ♡. 😊
@@mamamayhem7125 yes true and I understand your point. You may or may not know this but there are very few people who men will truly trust to tell there feelings. I thankfully have very good friends that I can trust.
We are not fine! We don’t open up because we don't want to burden people and because we are men, and should be “strong”. I lost two friends to suicide, before the age of 40. I miss them both so much and think about them every single day. Support the men you love and teach them it is okay to have feelings and be human!
The clip of the guy just staring at the cake while everyone around him is singing, without sound, is the most relatable clip I’ve ever seen. That’s what it’s like going through shit on your own. Not being able to say anything… it’s hard.
Didn’t look like he was “on his own”
You can still be the most loneliest person in a room full of people or sum like that idk ^^^
I can imagine that it is quite lonely… I might of misinterpreted your comment but it seems like you might be going through something. I said a prayer for you. ❤
@@rcortez3899That’s what it always looks like from the outside perspective until it’s already too late and somebody ends up dead.
@@rcortez3899you can be surrounded by friends and family, but still be alone inside your head.
The long term effect on that first kid is going to hit so hard for his whole life
Depending on how close he was he could be thinking was it my fault. Especially at that age
Why was the little boy even at another boys house alone having to tell another boy alone that this other little boy killer himself :( like what ? That’s a nice neighborhood, where’s his parents ?? I’m so confused
i thought he was saying he shat himself
It was his brother and his mum and police were there already but he was asking to contact his father through the neighbor.
YEAH SAME@@neolithicsimian
Its so freaking hard
You are loved
You matter
You are enough
Sending lots of love to all of you struggling
You're not alone
The last one tore me to pieces...
Hugs to all of you men coming from a man who knows how we feel
You never see guys cry. When you see them cry it is sooooo hard.
“You don’t cry because you’re weak, you cry because you’ve been strong for too long.”
Guys don't cry because we see what the world does with vulnerable men.
Men always rely on themselves and don't get helped enough. When we ask for help we are called weak, and are set apart from others. For women it's almost the opposite. When a dude says he's fine, he is probably not. We have a hard life too you know
It’s truely not fair for guys. I don’t see what’s wrong with someone crying. It’s normal so why do people act like it’s a crime?
Same
Even when we don't cry we get shit, my wife wondered why I didn't cry for my grandmother when she passed, she seen it as me not caring when I absolutely did care, I guess in a way I was relieved she didn't have any more pain, she had pancreatic cancer and chose to come home to die with family, we took care of her in her last days it was tough, still haven't cried but I miss her to death, when my parents moved I chose to stay with my grandparents till I was 13-14 years old, I remember my mother always saying my room is empty and she wish I'd come home, I couldn't help it my grandparents were awesome lol but very strict.
if u ask a man how they’re doing and they say “im fine” give that man a hug
They are all so sad but the boy just broke my heart!!!!
Anyone doesn’t matter boy or girl.
depends on how they say it
@@earf-quakesome guys know how to hide that pain real well man convincing somebody that they're just fine when they're not becomes second nature after a while
@@scottvigne614 yeah, thats relatable. sometimes men do mean theyre actually fine but i feel like you can always tell when they really arent
The boy at the start and the true friend at the end made me cry so much.
Dear Lord, please heal the pain of these precious ones who have lost loved ones.😢😢that little boy in the first video and the pain in the voice of the last one...I just want to put my arms around all of them.❤❤❤❤
Hearing the pain in their voices makes my heart hurt and I wanna hug em.
Mom mode engaged!
Yeah, but hugging them can't bring back what they've lost. 😔
@@Bluey-si7us inshallah heaven is real and we all make it..
Wife modes don't come with hugs so away from mom... crickets
@@Bluey-si7usnothing and nobody can, however it CAN remind them they aren't alone
The last person absolutely sent me into tears. The fact that he always pick up immediately makes his death even worse.
The biggest lie told in the world, "I'm fine".
@@lashaythestrangeYeah.
The clip is from chicity. All his videos were happy/funny and this one killed me too.
Jesus loves you all ❤️ his the only why to heaven❤
Jesus loves you all ❤️ his the only why to heaven❤
The last 1 had me in tears 😢 Lord I pray for ANYONE who is going through tuff times
Miss you Johnny.. wish I was there for you brother... Love you man.. you're missed..
the last guy had such powerful words there. rest in peace to his loved one 😔❤
A man can't hold in tears no more when he's been through too much :/
Man I’m literally crying and to those girls who said that if a guy says he is fine fuck yous its not true yous know nothing
@@Checkmate_Editssame bro
I teared up myself
I don't wanna sound rude or mean but I thought he said Jake shit himself...
"that mothafucka would just ring on me" The whimper after that, said everything 😭.
Felt that in my bones...put me in tears 😢
I’m glad I have people that will listen to my problems… I’m at a lost for words for these people, my heart goes out to these people, if I knew them I would listen to their problems and be the light in their darkness
I remember going to my mutual friend that my buddy introduced me to and telling her that he took his own life. I kept strong so that she had a shoulder to lean on, but at night, I cried myself to sleep. The pain you feel after someone succeeds in self-harm stays forever but can be handled with proper treatment. I lost too many to count. But I will always remember their stories.
The last one is so sad, when he said "it would just ring on me" you could hear the pain he was going through... Rip
That video is legendary.
It’s so real. He’s in so much pain but trying to mask it with humor. I hope MrChiCity is doing well now.
I was at work finally off a heavy work day, chilling with the homies smoking cigs n just lementing on the day, I got a call my brother was killed, to this day I break down ...what we hide isn't to be shiesty it's to try to be strong for who we lost..the world's got us thinking to hard ...and this gen of females for us thinking it's not ok to mourn our fallen friends family heroes,
@@samdajellybeenie14thank god he had the clearness of head to record this for views
@@ofallnamesmaybe he was trying to record a video for his channel and just couldn't hold it any longer and let it all out then posted it as a cry for help.
@ofallnames you are the problem :3
When I was 9, I woke up to find my dad who had committed suicide during the night. The first video brings tears to my eyes. I feel that pain.
I woke up when I was 12 and found my dad dead from a overdose
Wasn't my dad but my brother when I was six years old, he hung himself, coming across a loved one at a young age like that is something you never come back from
I hope you guys are genuinely doing ok, all these stories are tragic. I wish nothing but the best for you and your families ❤
i also hope you guys are doing okay as well. going through loss is a crazy pain i’ve only experienced as of lately and i’m really sorry
Man these comments hit something deep in me, the only thing keeping me alive at times is the thought of what my mom would do if she found out I had done something.
My heart goes out to yall for sharing this with the world 🌎 yall are true friends anubody out there listening to yiur friend be there for them cause any if his could be gone in the next sec😢😢😢😢😢 ❤❤❤❤
Sometimes people just want a listing ear without judgement. Smile taking out lunch, Walk, movie or sit down and say nothing. ❤ and hugs to the people and family that need it
I am 😭😭😭. Dear Lord, please give these people and everyone that is having a bad moment some extra love to help them through. Amen🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏼
Amen 🙏
As much as I agree with you, god won't do shit
@@durza5979 honestly, most of the time...yeah.
Amen 🙏🏾
That first kid has a strong will. Stay strong soldier.
Yeah, that one was tough. Poor guy.
The pain he feels.. no one his age should feel.. it's the people who are still here that hurt the most.. please be there for each other.. 💪💓
Real😢
Yeah… I hope he’s doing well… I can’t imagine how much that must affect his development and sense of normal
i dont get how he was that strong. if that happend to me at his age i would probaly die of crying
We’re soOo sorry for everything, Cody…… we missed you SUPER much!!!!
All these hit so hard. Could only watch once. 😢
That first one broke my heart, that kid was absolutely heartbroken
And yet even at such a young age he couldn’t cry, or at least not in public. My heart goes out to him
@@Double_Jae yeah, its like his body couldnt physically handle the grief he was facing. I hope hes okay now and i hope the family that lost their son is doing okay too
@@pandagal9805 yea definitely, what a hard situation for such a little kid.
@@pandagal9805shock
What are you talking about, he was crying@@Double_Jae
My husband joined the 27 club back in 2016..
He was depressed & I tried with everything inside me to help him bjt its hard when his family doesn't believe in therapy.
Kyle, I love u & the kids will always miss you ❤
My heart goes out to you and your family. May your husband truly rest in peace 🙏
rip kyle 😢😔❤️
Really sorry to hear that.
Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.
I feel each and every one of their pains. I've lost a lot myself, and at some points it felt like there was no hope, that there would be no end. And in all honesty I still feel that way. Just remember though, when the time comes, ask yourself, do you wanna be remembered as that person who quietly let themselves go into the night, or will you live for those who can't and share their voice spreading the power of hope,care and kindness?
As men we have to be strong for ourselves, because no one else will.
Stay strong brothers! God speed. ❤
In May of 2020, I lost my lifelong best friend to suicide. We’d been friends, and more like brothers, since we were 4… almost 35 years. It still breaks my heart that I wasn’t there for him when he needed someone the most. He battled depression, anxiety, and addiction for years. He was by far the most genuine, caring, and kindhearted person I’ve ever had the honor of knowing. He was simply too good for this world. I miss u Nate!
I feel you brotha, I lost my best friend the same way. Stay strong, and I pray for you. 🙏❤️
I also have a friend that’s going through depression right now but sorry for your loss I am always there for my buddy Luke. I even helped him get therapy and he finally got out of therapy and he is fine. If you’re homey you know friend and they tell you that I’ve been thinking about suicide and stuff and if they’re always there for you, you always be there for them, I’m sorry for your loss. God bless.🙏❤✝️
I lost my BFF of 31 years too. Sept 18th. Sad that someone else out there feels this too but your not alone. Holy shit your not alone.
You're not alone brother. I have lost 2 brothers to purpose overdoses. They were battling depression and had been suicidal for years. We lost them 2 years apart from each other. We all have literally fallen apart this last year. I miss you both so much. RIP CHRISTOPHER AND JONATHON
Rest in Peace, Nate. For everyone who’s lost a friend, brother, son, father - I’m here for you.
The first one hit me hard, the pain in his voice
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First and last ones especially, had me tearing up.
We need to be there for each other brothers.
Were all bricks in the castle walls of our society. If one falls we all fall.
Oh my gosh this is absolutely heartbreaking. God bless this precious soul ❤
Every last life is precious, every last person deserves love. Everyone needs a friend.
wise words
Not true some sick people that take joy in other people's pain or hurt kids they need to go
I thought the same, but I learned that there are several people that are not okay to stay here. Their life isn't precious, at all. Abusers.
There are a lot of disgusting people and human garbage out there. If i just say UTTP that is a good example, but ofcourse there are the abusers that the person above me mentioned.
True, but no one cares about your feelings if you're a man.
“When a guy says I’m fine he’s literally fine.” That hit hard. They’re only fine if you’ve asked “wanna talk about it?” and “are you sure?” and they still say they’re fine. And even then that could mean they just don’t want to tell you.
Yeah, some people sadly never ask for help. :( Or tell anyone about what they’re going through. That shits isolating as fuck. And when those girls said that it definitely sat way wrong with me.
@@bee1411me too, because they are the same type of girls to view him talking about whats wrong as an, "ick"
@@bee1411yes. Because they all say, your a man. And you probably know the rest.
@@bee1411
That's how society teaches men to act. "Boys aren't supposed to cry."
We're taught that when girls say they're fine, they don't mean it...but when boys say it they do.
Things have to change.
Weird thing is, I’ve only heard guys say that
I feel for all of them, but the young boy seeing it and holding back his feelings to explain in a few word's. So sad. RIP
Sad when someone feels no hope in life and wants to leave this earth before their time. It’s so important to tell people you love them everyday because you never know when it may be the last time. Sorry to anyone that has lost someone to suicide. Just know God loves you and you’re never alone. God bless ❤❤❤
To ALL men out there we NEED to open up more, it is not a sign of weakness, asking for help takes courage and strength, to listen to someone shows compassion, and to help in any way is rewarding. Stay strong brothers.
Dude literally said my words. I'm always good even when it's bad. I'm good.
I've been saying that for years. And everybody in my job would tell you. I've been saying it every since they met me.
it’s so important and feels so good to vent out the bad stuff that you’re feeling. it’s not weakness, being honest takes courage. you’ll find that most other people are going through the same thing and you support each other. that’s how the world goes round
Honestly yea that be so true, I definitely say that basically everyday, most dudes just try to keep our emotion to ourselves I feel like.
I hope you get through it man. People care abt you, even if you don’t see it.❤
Here for you ❤️
I'm sorry if it sounds like it was misleading. It's just words that I've always said not struggling with mental health. I know it's a real issue. So I back what the guy saying is what I was meaning. I've been in those positions before, so that's my new attitude. It's my positive way of thinking.
First one hits so hard because of how real it is. Kids now a-days are going through so much and it sucks, stay strong everybody
What happened
@@thesoul2sqeeze Jay shot himself. All lil homie could do was fidget. It’s mad cus doesn’t even seem to have registered with him yet. He knows the woman heard him, but all he can say is Jay shot himself
Thanks
Kids now a days have life much easier then before
It’s honestly a coping problem, not a “this generation has more problems than others” problem.
My dad and my brother both took their lives. Its the hardest thing a human can go through. And there's no way to get over it.
Everyone is so used to receiving your help but not giving you help i know this well so well
The sad part is that sometimes even when us guys say we aren’t fine, we get told to just “man up” or “deal with it”.
My heart goes out to the guys who are dealing with issues and say they are fine, your not alone brother.
NEVER JUST DEAL WITH IT - find support and don’t let those idiots deter you from feeling your emotions before they explode at a later date. Men deserve to feel safe too
@@shelbywilliamssounds nice but empty words unfortunately no one gives a flying F about us
@@nocomment6232no one gives a fuck about anyone
I tell my husband all the time that "it's okay not to be okay," and if he needs/wants to talk, I am always there for him, even if he thinks it will break my heart. He was raised being told that men don't cry or that they have to be big macho men all the time. I could never dream of telling my man or any man that they aren't allowed emotions- we are all just people trying to get by❤ healing is hard, and it doesn't happen overnight or alone!
@crispyy143 then when he talks to you you use that against him and look at him differently because he is weak in your eyes and you cheat and leave him. I hope he finds someone else besides you to talk to.
My heart breaks for each one of these fine young men that won't show his feelings.God bless each and everyone of you.
Men dialysis don’t have a safe space to do so. Not amongst their friends, family or significant others. Men and women are really wired different. Society does perpetuate this idea of them showing emotions. They get judged for it or it thrown back in their faces. Even when they do show emotion it’s sad. When you really think about it.
@@NadiaSimone-ll3zt Well, let’s work towards a better future, no man left out
@@waterwolf982
Yes let’s do that. Maybe we could start with looking them in the eye when we ask “How are you" … Ask as if we really want to know.
I wish a therapist would give a lecture about this. I know a few things to look for but not enough.
@@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 Well, I can forward you to **Doctor K. He talked about this stuff recently, how men are often neglected emotionally and physically.
One big thing about emotional connections is touch. You may hug a friend when you to have a day’s out, or kiss your mom on the cheek when you say goodnight. It’s widely considered weird for men to do this, so one way to help is to start by patting them on the shoulder if you need something or hugging him when something bad happens. You can even introduce high-fives since those aren’t all that common. Over time, hopefully, common physical interactions would be normalized.
Im nowhere near a social expert, this is just what I have learned in recent years.
** Doctor K runs a Twitch and CZcams channel called HealthyGamerGG. He is a popular psychiatrist who commonly weaves in eastern teachings with western knowledge
God bless yall
The guy with the ice cream got me. I just turned 43 on may 25th. My son graduated highschool that same day. I never said anything about it being my birthday..my family knew. His friends parents told me happy birthday and i just responded "today is for my son." At the end of the lunch they wanted to sing me happy birthday. My daughter isnt big on forcing that on people so she tried to stop them. I was reluctant to agree, but i did anyway. They brought out a brownie and ice cream. As they sang to me i faught back tears. i cant remember the last time anyone really acknowledged my birthday with anything more than a card or text. My grandma used to call me every year but she passed away in 2019.
So true! I say that all the time. My girlfriend is the only person in the world that knows I’m not fine when I say I’m fine. She gets it out of me. Feels so good when I let those feelings out sometimes
Jesus loves you so much
She's a keeper bro
That first little lad ...I just wanted to hold him n let our tears fall!!! My heart to all xxx
Does it really 😂
@@SapphireDiamond.00bro how is someone's death funny
@@user-ik7ck4bt2ghe said it 2 times, in the second one you could clearly hear the "O" in "shot" and by the way the kid was reacting and also by the way the person owning the ring doorbell said.
@@user-ik7ck4bt2g I mean, by the way he reacted, he did seem to understand enough english, plus it's not a good reason, for exemple I am french, and I clearly understand what it said
@@user-ik7ck4bt2gWell the subtitles said s**t like it was a curse word. That didn't help anyone.
When bro said he says he’s fine bc he’s used to going through stuff alone…I feel you homie, fr
Right...that hit home for me💔
Same fly high dude
@@EmilianoBalderas-vg4zt 🫡
You encounter people not caring or being outright annoyed at you expressing your feelings enough times and you stop bothering
Same here...
I’m a retired Marine. I’ve lost more than a couple to mental health battles.
Take care of yourself. Take care of those around you. It’s not weak to ask for help.
Those of us still here will always feel it. Grief is like the tide. Some days you’re wading in the ripples and other days you’re getting smashed down by swells.
As a person who struggles with mental health! My heart and prayers go all to all who also suffer right now and feel alone
The guy talking about calling and only getting the ring 😢 that one got me! I feel you bro 😭
Nothing like seeing your friends social media after they die and knowing there will be no answer. Sad shit
Pleaaasse stop using this emoji 😭. I know it means ur crying and shi but bro at this moment of time it don’t mean that no more 💀
Yea I know how he feels I rang. My ex/bestie has a ton of messages from me that I’m never gonna get a reply to
@@daltonvillani8341yea my best friend gone since 2019 and I still visit his Instagram from time to time… crazy how time flies
@@151pyroblazeI reset my phone so I lost all of the messages. Stupidest thing I ever did but maybe it’s for the better cause I’m always carrying in my chest anyways
I just wanna give the first kid a huge hug. It’s not easy losing someone like that, especially at his age. This world is wicked but you CAN find peace in the heart of war. You just have to keep walking. And you will trip, you will fall. But you ain’t hurt and you damn sure ain’t done. The mission/show must go on.
The world is wicked but you can find peace in the heart of war. That’s beautiful ❤️
i genuinely thought he said jay shat himself
@@ollie32354same but when I heard what he really said it wasn't funny anymore
and seeing how young he was. truly sad
Protect lgbtq youth
This video popped up to me as a reminder we are not alone and together we can create a healing space for all that need that extra support and kindness, please take care out there, I'm in therapy today because one person told me I need to not keep shit to myself any more, one of the best things to happen to me, I'm still here because I'm learning to forgive myself and learn to actually love myself, it's a progress but I'm getting there, and all of you out there can too🙏💯may peace be upon you
“The problem with being strong is that nobody bothers to ask if you’re hurt”. I hope you find peace and love. ♥️
Fr
Thank you.
Soooooo true!!! U hit it!
You are so right. My mother used to say out of five of us kids I was the least she had to worry about because I let things roll off like rain off a duck’s ass. Little did she know how bottled up I was by holding in the painful feelings of her not trying to reach out to me because of how sensitive I actually was. Just because a child is quiet doesn’t mean they’re ok. They need someone to talk to. They’re lonely. ❤
@@user-dz8vv1ov5qmy problem is I don’t feel comfortable showing my emotions around anyone
That first one was rough. I hope lil dude has a good support system around him to help him process this
When asked that daunting question I always pause and run through my inner dialog and always reply I'm fine because I don't want to burden them with my pain and stress. I'm fighting for my sanity and I hope every man or boy out there finds it and have an opportunity to enjoy it
When i was a freshman in highschool a very good friend of mine started acting depressed and I felt like I had to distance myself from him, because it was bumming me out. He hung himself in his front yard. His father came home from work and saw his oldest child hanging from a belt in an orange tree. And when they asked me at the funeral if I had noticed any sign that he wasn't okay, I was overwhelmed with shame and guilt. I hung my head down, and I couldn't even look them in the eye. I promised I would never turn my back on anyone who considered me a friend ever again. But, that pain will never go away. Knowing that I couldn't even stand listening to him. His memory makes a better person, and I'll never be able to repay him for that. Love the ones you love brothers and sisters. We are all we have in this universe
The phone call one hit hard, cause I did that with my brother who passed one time, and it jacked me up. I still haven’t gotten over him not being here with us no more.
You'll never be over it, you will learn to live with it. ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
This shits real. Nearly lost a friend and myself due to this. If a man says he is fine. 90% of the time he is not. He just doesn’t feel like opening up because he doesn’t trust and he thinks he can get through it himself. This was my mentality and I almost lost myself with this mistake.
Your not the only one my friend. When I lost my nan a year ago I almost jumped...
That, and we know no one cares deep down. And we know that no one is coming to safe us. We don't get that option.
I literally just got into an argument with my oldest friend cuz he refused to believe that I truly care about his mental health. He’s been abandoned so many times, his mental health has been dismissed so many times…he’s just at the point where he feels like no one is genuinely trying to help him. We argued for over an hour and I gave him some space. About three hours later I texted him and he apologized for the way he spoke to me. He said he’s just having a real hard time conveying his feelings. I told him it’s ok and that he can come to me. He’s feeling a little bit better. It’s not even the first time someone has gotten mad at how stubborn I am. I’m just glad I got through to him again…a few weeks prior I almost lost him..I’m so glad he’s safe
Us men are taught to man up the world doesn’t care about your problems and through experience it more often then not gets confirmed. But I agree when a man says he’s fine, but on the inside he’s hanging on by a thread. Some days you’re so close to your limit that even something as so little can be what does him in. The world caters to women’s feelings and needs and no one really understands or realizes that men are crumbling on the inside but on the outside he remains stoic and strong. A man will never admit it and damn sure won’t ask for it but sometimes he really could use and hug and reassurance that someone cares. And if that comes from a woman idk why but it means that much more. And if a woman can stand by her man when he’s like this, when he comes out the other side you’ll be rewarded by being treated like a queen bc most women leave when a man is at his lowest but they all flock to him when he’s on the rise or at the top
And he does that because society doesn't give a shit.
We're never alright and that's alright 😮❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is hard ! I bamed my self for your passing for a long time but you came to visit me in my dreams and told me everything is okay and nothing was my fault . I believed it after a while and I now listen to every word everyone has to tell me
My friend committed suicide on Mother’s Day this year and honestly this video brought tears to my eyes because not only will his friends remember for the rest of their lives but his mom has to go through that pain knowing that her son committed on a day that she was supposed to feel loved
😢❤
"It's better to burn out than to fade away."
-Kurt Cobain, 1994
@-pod Wow, when you hear this, the first thing that comes to mind is “he’s in hell”?☠️ some you you religious people are sick.
Well that's what they want honestly. No body films themselves doing this s**t then post it. And the first one is fake. Obviously. Don't let them farm ur emotions so they can get clicks. Ppl hate capitalism but don't mind this (not u) but yea. Sry for ur situation.
@@TheCollapse410weird of you to assume that but aight
We suffer in silence. Take care of yourselves, gentlemen.
True
😔
you guys literally always tell us that women are so annoying because they aren’t straightforward like you. That women will say they are fine when they are not and that women are complicated. and sensitive and emotional and u BASH WOMEN for it. And now y’all are saying this? Y’all were the ones that told us that you were straightforward and meant what u said so when u say ur fine, u mean it. YOUVE BEEN TELLING US THAT FOR YEARS
even tho im Not a 'man' im still suffering of social anxiaty, Depression and overthinking also i wanted to die Not too Long ago.
that right! people say are you ok you say i'm fine when your not
I want to give all of them a hug! 😢
The kid at the door literally made me cry. Heartbreaking to know how he is feeling pain like that probably the first time. It's such an empty feeling yet overwhelming at the same time.
Me too.
i exactly know how he feels because i've experienced the same thing 2 months ago. Even tho i'm 18 years old, it was so unimaginable and crazy feelings.
@@morecalcium333 aw 😢
I'm so sorry
I thought he was saying "jay shit himself" and was like why the sad music lol
@@Tofuu1311 bro...icant no more
"It just ring on me" is so deep and I rlly hope that guy is doing better.
nice pfp ya got there!
fr
Killua frfr@@paccDH
When it would just ring and you would t notice it’s because their depressed and not answering. You just think they’re busy. Then they’re gone and it all makes sense.
so true and so sad, you never appreciate someone until theyre gone😔@@emoewatchedthis
Shit hurts, y’all boys keep going 👊🏻
The pain is real and I understand I pray for healing and comfort to all those going through these times and strength to keep fighting and live keeping all our loved ones memories alive amen god bless!!
That kid in the beginning is a titan buddy held it together so he could inform an adult…
Much love little man
Edit: I’ll see if I can find the full form video
I’ll post link in comments if I find it
Would u happen to know if there’s a full video for it?
@@EndlessAmount yeah I would want to see that for context
@@haleyqfuldo you happen to know the video🤔
@@haleyqful fucking sick.
@@NOToeisick